Therapist Reacts To: Motion Sickness by Phoebe Bridgers!

[@madmarrr]

The crazy thing about this whole situation is that Ryan hyped up this song and album to get her noticed more. She even said he guilted her into going on tour with him after their relationship ended. She only said okay because he threatened to harm himself if she didn’t do the tour. ALSO - Ryan used to make fun of Phoebe for being a Taylor Swift fan and then did the 1989 covers while they were dating. Total narcissist move.

[@-chenlanying5818]

Why was it a narcisstist move ?

[@boop2269]

​@@-chenlanying5818he's emotionally abusive

[@kb-dc5hf]

I knew about everything else but I never knew about him making fun of her for being a Taylor swift fan,where can I read that?

[@AbigailGrayse]

This is one of my all time favorite songs from Phoebe Bridgers.

[@mendwithmere]

it's amazing!

[@AustinAshburn]

I saw someone comment this already, but the "Preacher's Daughter" album by Ethel Cain is AMAZING! I would recommend listening to either "Hard Times" or "Sun Bleached Flies." "Hard Times" is a hard listen with the context of what it's about, but I would highly recommend. "Sun Bleached Flies" is my personal favorite

[@richellewatson1201]

YESS, Sun Bleached Flies ruined me

[@yllowjcket]

Wow! Thank you so much for checking out Phoebe's music! She's one of the most emotionally expressive artists I've ever had the pleasure of discovering 🤎 if you find yourself seeking more of her music, you'll be pleasantly surprised :) Moon Song, Chelsea, Georgia and You Missed My Heart are some of my all-time favorites.

[@mendwithmere]

Thank you!! I’m def gonna do more, she’s incredible!

[@mckarebear14]

Hi! Just letting you know that You Missed My Heart is actually a Mark Kozelek song (:

[@hallee4366]

I love Phoebe so much! Another song I love by her is Sidelines. Thank you for the video!

[@mendwithmere]

Ooo I'll add to the list

[@phenomenalone4637]

@@mendwithmere oh please please please do sidelines cuz it’s my anthem out of Taylor’s songs

[@sloaneshi]

So grateful to see you experiencing Phoebe Bridgers. Stranger in the Alps and Punisher are two of my favorite albums in recent memory. My favorite songs are probably Funeral, Scott Street, Chinese Satellites, and I Know The End. Both albums are an incredible experience all the way through though. Love your reactions 💕

[@patballarat]

Also if you're interested in doing another Phoebe song I highly recommend "Moon Song" from her newest album Punisher. Soul-crushing but soooooooooooo beautiful

[@mendwithmere]

on the list! :)

[@wowsports8800]

I relate to this song so deeply, from the lyrics to the melody and pace. She's saying such hard words and talking about grief and revenge even in a monotone voice because as she said "I can hardly feel anything at all" with a dancy melody in the back. This song sounds exactly how my apathy towards abuse feels like, I've never felt so seen by a song before. Another mind blowing point for me is that she talks about emotional motion sickness while driving a scooter, which doesn't make sense at first because they're usually slow, untill I understood that they're typically used for *kids* . Honestly, one of my favorite songs ever with the most relatable and heart wrenching first line.

[@RobShelley84]

This song just kicks off with an emotional bomb. It just blows you away.

[@WashingtonRain]

Phoebe has some amazing emotional music, would love to see more if you feel like it!

[@mendwithmere]

oh I definitely do!

[@thatgirleak]

Please do more Phoebe Bridgers! I love her music, and I'm exactly like your reactions when listening to her music for the first time - confused because of all the emotions and stories being told, and in the end just captivated, walking away thinking about her words and movement in the music for YEARS ! So. It would really help to hear more analysis, and learn more from your knowledge. ☺️

[@enzo2691]

Love to see you reacting to Phoebe! She's such a great songwriter. I would also love to see you reacting to some of Adele's deep cuts from her last album 30, the storytelling on it is so strong. I Drink Wine, To Be Loved and Love Is A Game are probably my favorites tracks from it. You should check them out.

[@patballarat]

Yesssss To Be Loved please!!!!!!! So fucking good

[@mendwithmere]

I love Adele so much. I'll add to the list!

[@lesliekristyn7597]

Love how you call out the publishing companies that rejected you and I spit my coffee out when you added your husband 😂 Great video!!

[@mendwithmere]

Haha thank you!!❤

[@joelgutierrez8961]

Yesssss we love Phoebe Bridgers

[@mendwithmere]

good!!!

[@rafaelsampaio674]

I love that u explain stuff real good, even some that are supposed to be obvious. Cuz that makes people like me (who has english as a 2nd language) be able to trully connect and understarnd the song and what u’re saying. Tysm for this, Mere 💙💙💙

[@jellyrcw12]

I adore this song so much. I played it all the time during a friendship break up

[@mendwithmere]

friendship breakups are super hard. I can totally see where it was a support to you.

[@eddiebegins]

absolutely love your channel and when you once you finally get the chance to publish your books i'll definitely purchase them. it's an incredible thing what you're doing and i can't wait to see you achieve your goals and dreams! also, you should definitely react to more phoebe bridgers music. she writes amazing lyrics and when you find out some of the meanings behind them, they become even more meaningful and i think you would enjoy more of her art

[@mendwithmere]

Thank you so much! I'm so grateful for the support. I will definitely be doing more of Phoebe, my nephew, who edits the videos, loves her music so much too, which makes it even more fun for me.

[@eddiebegins]

@@mendwithmere i love that! and i'm glad you're having fun making content like this

[@madsinthealps]

found your account through taylor reactions, but seeing a phoebe reaction on your page made me wayyyy too excited omg

[@fghdrdthtgfghjhdf2540]

I just wanted to tell you - THANK YOU for all of these videos. I have been going through a really difficult time recently - been used by another man, same old same old… I was a victim of manipulation and gaslighting in an abusive relationship a couple of years ago and unfortunately it’s been really difficult to move on to better things. It was really therapeutic to listen to you analyze these songs that I’ve been listening to for a long time now. It really helped me get some perspective. And heal, at least a bit. It also made me think that maybe I just didn’t meet therapists who would suit me before. Because you start to make me believe that therapists can actually be empathetic and not just judgemental. Thank you so much. Really, I had some really dark days recently and listening to you really helped me dig myself out of there a bit.

[@fghdrdthtgfghjhdf2540]

lol. I guess I really am just cringe.

[@hysteric4u]

"my husband" hahahaha i love u so much! can't wait to read ur book!!! i hear phoebe once, few years ago, so now i'm gonna watch the rest of the video and dive in the lyrics with u. sending love xx

[@samkcatladyaks]

Omg I just found your channel after Midnights and watched a few vids and had to subscribe so fast and on Halloween I made my spouse watch your Paper dolls videos me while we painted our pumpkins and now you’re covering Phoebe!!!? My other favorite artist? Gosh you’re amazing!

[@mendwithmere]

Omg this just made my day!! THANK YOU! I have more content coming. Thank you so much for subscribing and supporting me!

[@ryo7a]

i loved what you talked about in regards to the whole age-gap relationship thing, that's something i feel very strongly about and people brush it off a lot. i get so worried at seeing young people wanting to and having relationships with much older people, i find it disturbing and honestly...disgusting, especially now that i'm a psych student, i feel like it's my duty to advocate about how problematic those relationships are.

[@itsonlysound]

I always read the line 'never gonna let you have it' to mean she's never going to give him the satisfaction of having a proper go at him to his face but instead she's going to just drown out his existence.

[@m_li_ma]

Oh, I'm new here but I loved this, I love Phoebe's work so much. You NEED to listen to her album Punisher, all the songs there are perfect to analyse, but I recommend Moon Song, Savior Complex and Halloween as the main ones. There's also I know the end, of course. This whole album is just mesmerizing. I'd love to see you analysing Nothing New too. Sending love 💕

[@cosmicphoto05]

It's gotta be so surreal for artists to process their experiences and navigate their emotional landscape through their music and have 90% of their fans just bopping along like, "Wow, this is so groovy and fun!" Like you rip your heart out of your chest and everyone just bounces it around like beach ball.

[@joelgutierrez8961]

I've been loving the taylor reactions and all the great analysis, I would recommend songs from Ethel Cain's album "Preachers Daughter" they are quite heavy but I would love your inside in those topics

[@yvetterodriguez2550]

Yes! She's another artist that is so unique in her own way!

[@mendwithmere]

oooo I've never heard of that song. I'll add it to the list!

[@joelgutierrez8961]

@@mendwithmere Thanks I recommend the specific song Hard times (tw is heavy!!) Much love

[@m4svn184]

I love your videos sm!! especially the taylor videos, they help me understand the full meaning of the songs, and I've watched all your videos, thank you so much for helping me and everyone else to understand the music and give us such in-depth analysises of the music!!

[@rujhanzaynab4887]

yayy im so happy you reacted to this as well

[@mendwithmere]

🤍🤍🤍

[@taylorchameleon]

omg react to saviour complex by phoebe 🥺 it's a stunning song!

[@mendwithmere]

I've heard a snippet of it and I was not okay. I'll definitely be doing it!

[@victwria07s]

PLEASE react to "funeral" by phoebe bridgers. this song describes perfectly well what is like to have depression (at least to me).

[@Acorn_Nomad_24]

First time commenting! I really like your reaction videos. Mental health is something that I value a lot, and Phoebe's music has helped me through some tough times. If you like her music, I think you'll enjoy "Soccer Mommy" too! Songs such as "circle the drain," "bloodstream," "Your Dog," "Last Girl," and "Still Clean" are some of my favorites from her. Looking forward to seeing your reaction to these tracks! :)

[@ruths.7697]

this is how ill be convinced to listen more phoebe bridgers :)

[@mendwithmere]

haha :)

[@lincolneads]

“never going to let him have it” could also be a double entendre. some people say “let ‘em have it” as in “tell them off” so phoebe is saying both i’ll never let you have credit for my accomplishments while also saying i’ll never be able to say it to your face how bad you’ve hurt me bc of the abusive nature of the relationship. might be a stretch, but that’s just what i was thinking

[@pedrusculete]

Great react and analysis!!! you should react to moon song or Funeral from phoebe too! prob my favorites songs from her, so much to talk about it

[@mendwithmere]

it's added! :)

[@liamross340]

please listen to more phoebe she’s incredible!!!

[@lorneknapp6712]

Thoroughly enjoyed your video, thank you for posting! I'm a recent fan of Phoebe's; I am pleasantly surprised with how deep her music is and how some of her songs seem to touch exactly what I'm feeling in life... and I'm much older than the artist! If you're looking for some great Phoebe stuff, I'd like to throw the song "Steamroller" into the mix of recommendations. It's an older tune of hers, but so raw. Best wishes for your book!

[@mendwithmere]

Thank you!!!!! I’ll add to the list 🤍

[@riley-l3x]

if you haven’t already, i would literally give so much to see you react to moon song by pheobe. it’s my all time favorite and is so so incredibly beautiful.

[@HS-so1yo]

This song my favorite song of all time. It’s hauntingly sad.

[@mendwithmere]

It is!!! 🤍

[@willow950]

love this!! also you are so gorgeous :)

[@mendwithmere]

thank you for the support!

[@juliette4076]

I LOVE Phoebe. You should definitely react to her songs Kyoto or Garden Song

[@timothyho2947]

I love Phoebe Bridgers! I Know The End is also a great song to dissect, pretty much life summed up in 5 minutes (and a deeply profound auditory experience) :). Have a go at it!

[@vivi.dly25]

i love this!! i would totally recommend doing some boygenius, phoebe is in that band, and bite the hand is such a good song, or i would totally recommend letter to an old poet, both are very profound but letter to an old poet it much more sad and feely

[@cooperthienes7383]

Please react to Waiting Room by Phoebe. It further dives into the attachment issues she made while being in this relationship. I love your reactions so much and your analysis inspires me ❤

[@bluewescott4631]

i'm loving your videos, the phoebe is a great addition! it'd be great to see your reaction/interpretation of the second verse of lana del rey's song wildflower wildfire, it's definitely something relevant to your perspective as a therapist. her song ultraviolence would also be a good one to react to; it's from the perspective of someone in an abusive relationship where they're still so in love with their abuser, to the point where they don't want to get out of the relationship (idk if i phrased that right)

[@brandonshelton3046]

More Phoebe! All of it. But especially the Punisher album. Moon Song is a tremendous rec.

[@erdanidi]

Her trauma hits HARD. The gas-lighting and the implication that SHE'S the one who need therapy hits so hard...

[@funkayy4979]

What about more Phoebe Bridgers reactions? Her Punisher album is phenomenal.

[@siwanclark6058]

Love this reaction so much and thank you for laying out the power dynamics of age gap relationships which some people are (wilfully…) ignorant of. If you’re branching out beyond Taylor I’m going to put in another request for Muna, who Taylor is touring with! My picks would be: More uplifting/hopeful: Kind of Girl Loudspeaker I Know a Place Number One Fan Bleak but amazing: Crying On the Bathroom Floor Taken

[@HappyNBoy]

I know that you've GOT to do the admin stuff and get that out of the way, but I was on PINS AND NEEDLES waiting for you to get to this song, because, yeah... 3 lines in and it's already a fucking ROLLERCOASTER! I love Phoebe so much... my favorite songwriter working today, hands down. Taylor Swift is outstanding and verbose and intricate in her writing, but phoebe is so brutal and up front and seeringly insightful. It's like the difference between Art Nouveau and Art Deco, or Virginia Woolf and Sylvia Plath. They're both brilliant, but Phoebe man... just wow!

[@HappyNBoy]

Also, come on... "I faked it every time" "Why do you sing with an English Accent?" "You were in a band when I was born" there's like 3 really great jabs in there... in under 4 minutes she really cemented Ryan Adams' legacy. Fucking brilliant!

[@aisha8830]

Hey Mere please consider analyzing ‘Fathers Son’ by Celeste. Thank you truly for these videos. Having a perspective towards these songs helps us form a connection to them and makes the experience of listening to them raw and vulnerable. You’re helping us nourish our innate sense of love and empathy. ❤

[@saturnchild5957]

I just found your channel yesterday and have already binged all videos you have haha. It would be delightful to have some reactions to Lizzie McAlpine, Melanie Martinez and even Olivia Rodrigo c:

[@madelinemartin9363]

at 16:38 she says "you were in a band when I was born" then immediately jumps to saying she had "emotional motion sickness" which to me show that she had that realization that he so much older than her and shes just disgusted by the idea of a grown adult taking advantage of her

[@mendwithmere]

Makes me sick

[@megane7377]

I always thought the “never gonna let you have it” line referred to her being too scared of him to yell at him or criticize him for what he did to her. Like the phrase “I’m gonna let you have it”

[@joydejuarez5280]

Can you react to Kyoto by Phoebe Bridgers? It’s a great song about her relationship with her father who’s an addict and her different feelings. As a child of an addict, it’s so relatable.

[@marinac3549]

U should react to Kyoto by Phoebe!! It’s really good I promise

[@mendwithmere]

Just filmed this with my nephew!!

[@juliakahrs3722]

please analyze moon song!! it's so complex and beautiful

[@lorneknapp6712]

Second this recommendation!!

[@ladidaji]

one of my favorite phoebe song! hope you can check out alewife by clairo too 🤍

[@talia3053]

I think she means in the past she made fun of him for singing in an english accent jokingly and thats one of her positive memories from the relationship and then she jumps back to drowning him out like this emotional rollercoaster between oh yeah he's great we had so many great times oh but we aren't together anymore he's still in my head i can't get him out what was that what is happening like "emotional motion sickness" spinning all around

[@melanielyon8026]

Another plug for Kyoto by Phoebe. About her alcoholic father

[@williamsullivan4640]

I do recall he was in a relationship with mandy Moore as well and emotionally gaslit her and took advantage of her when trying to help her with her music career to the point where she considered quitting music all together

[@phenomenalone4637]

I think in the course when she said “I could scream to drown you out” that means drown him out of her mind. But when she said”You know I'm never gonna let you have it But I will try to drown you out” I think she meant that she’s not gonna let him live in her mind anymore and she’ll try to drown him by telling us in the song what he did. That’s my interpretation. I could be wrong.

[@loduke3905]

If I may, can I suggest a few reaction/interpretations vid’s? Mainly, Katelyn Tarver’s “You don’t know” it’s a beautiful song that speaks about Anxiety, depression and how it feels. I think it would make a great video given your knowledge and background. Also, Phoebe’s song “Waiting Room” (although it’s her VERY early work and she was like 15 or 16 when she wrote it) but nonetheless, it’s beautiful. Her songs are true masterpieces, she’s an incredibly talented woman. If you enjoyed her song, I’d suggest checking out Boygenuis, as it’s a group Phoebe created with two other very talented song writers\musician’s named Julien Baker (she’s literally a genuis) and Lucy Dacus. They did a tiny desk concert and its was superb. Because I can’t help it and I’d love to know your insight…. Averette Brothers- Laundry Room Lorde- Supercut Bon Iver- Skinny Love Current Joys- American Honey Loved the videos you’ve done so far, looking forward to many more 👍🏻

[@paulaodena]

you should listen to “moon song” by her!!

[@kaseygale2747]

please react to gracie abrams! she is so good. i’d love for you to react to her song camden, or her song “block me out”

[@mendwithmere]

on the list!

[@MaryRose86]

Moon Song please! It’s such a beautiful song

[@sethskyes3643]

Can you please do Funeral By Phoebe Bridgers???😊

[@mimibelta259]

You should react to 29 by Demi lovato it about their relationship with Wilmer valderama when he was 29 and they were 17

[@mendwithmere]

oh shit! yes, I will

[@mimibelta259]

@@mendwithmere just so you know ahead of time it is pop punk/soft rock just in case you’re not that in to rock music

[@ellaloy]

Please do moon song by phoebe bridgers!!

[@mendwithmere]

will do :)

[@etallenga9826]

I neeeeeed Chinese Satellite by Pheobe reaction

[@Brianna-yx6xl]

I lOVE YOUR VIDEOS!! Can u please react to Camden by Gracie Abrams?

[@mendwithmere]

yes! other people are requesting that song

[@mckennawoosley2811]

You should do moon song!!! I also think you would enjoy some boygenius songs

[@Rafael-ox3pi]

You are so gorgeous!

[@aduantas8609]

Based on the topic of your book, Graceland Too by Phoebe Bridgers might speak to you

[@eduardojefferson8736]

please do smoke signals

[@mendwithmere]

oooo I love that title so yes!

[@SuperDaniiXD]

omg you reacting to phoebe bridgers made my day ! if you want to check out another great artist Lorde is your girl! 💟

[@mendwithmere]

Yes, she’s coming very soon!

[@babydelrey333]

I would love to see you react to something by lana del rey!!

[@luuuu1817]

Can you react to nothing new?? Its a song by taylor swift and pheobe bridgers, amazing.

[@maxsilbert]

If you want real emotional damage, listen to Moon Song!

[@roseelliott2728]

I don’t think the word was out yet on what a douche Ryan Adams is when he got permission from Taylor to record 1989. I loved his take on those songs and now can’t listen to them. Loved this analysis and hearing your breakdown of the lyrics and the psychology of the power dynamics. Wish someone like you had been around in the 70’s 😂 Best of luck on the book. Really like your cover art art. Wondering if you’ve approached Hay House as a publishing option.

[@mendwithmere]

Thank you so much for the support!! I haven’t checked out Hay House but I will now! Thank you for that and watching, it means so much 🤍

[@leapoffaith3474]

Please react on faye cruel world or scream and dream please🍀

[@mjrequillos]

Pls react to Bigger Than The Whole Sky - Taylor Swift

[@mendwithmere]

It’ll be out this weekend :)❤

[@jahongirtahirov2566]

Hi! Obsessed with your reactions!❤️‍🩹 please, can you do a reaction video for Selena’s song called “My mind and me”. I hope you will like it✨

[@floppy_hands1770]

You're the epitome of white girl 😅 i luv you

[@gregorypryal5774]

I love phoebe bridgers. Your view is slanted though. Self obsessed and applying your own inadequacies to the situation. You aren’t a victim, remember that.

[@fiona_adams_]

this reminds me of my narcissist father

[@theprousteffect9717]

He sounds like a narcissist.

[@ismalaz24]

Ryan Adams also dated Mandy Moore and that relationship left her completely broken, she even quit music for years. According to her interviews, this was cause he was an addict and she focused all her energy and time on him getting better (amongst other things) Check: Sunday Profile: Mandy Moore - CBS Morning // Mandy Moore Details Ex Ryan Adams’ ‘Destructive’ Behavior In New Report | TODAY 🤓🤓🥰🥰 I hope you get to publish your book. I want to RRREAD it so bad!!!

[@karleyharper370]

I know this video is older, but... The first part of your conversation really hit me. It explained everything I went to in my early twenties. Thanks for validating my thoughts and feelings.

[@mendwithmere]

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