Therapist Reacts to Raven Ross Tells All on The Viall Files w/ Nick Viall | Steph Anya

[@sanjanasuresh5565]

Please review season 4.

[@StephAnya]

It’s coming!

[@sanjanasuresh5565]

Waiting! ♥️

[@tiarahall5794]

Same here I’m waiting to watch your reviews because GIRL it’s going to throw you for a loop hole . You thought last season stressed you out . I had to rewatch some episodes from this season to ask myself if I’m going crazy 😂

[@sundusmohamed9265]

Patiently waiting for you Mrs.Anya bc this season was INSANE

[@catkibble6013]

@@StephAnya soooo excited for your review!! the whole time I was been watching S4, I was like: I can't WAIT to hear what Steph has to say about all of this 😹

[@coralyoung1304]

I love that Raven is still choosing to be open and vulnerable in love even with everything she has been through. She really was the star of the show ❤

[@sandra999]

She is so strong, after what he did in front of the whole world and she sat there with her head high ❤️👑👏

[@Trinity_505]

I think the reason she bounces back so well is because she has a strong sense of self and knows that someone else’s crazy has nothing to do with who she is. In fact I think SK took a lot of pleasure out of “conquering” a strong woman with all these walls. But it was never for her. He only enjoyed “winning on hard mode”.

[@RaroHi]

You sound like a gamer.

[@Trinity_505]

@@RaroHi huh?

[@RaroHi]

You just sound like a gamer saying winning on hard mode.@@Trinity_505

[@so_madele]

My sister is a therapist and she called it from the beginning. After the first few episodes, we debriefed and she said that she doesn't feel SK and that it seemed like the guy who does everything to gain your trust and then will use it to have control over you and "break" you. After that I saw him on a different light and kudos to sister she was right.

[@Dr_Agon3]

I’m no therapist but been in an abusive relationship. I sensed it too. I was thinking how he was using words too perfectly to get certain reactions from Raven. To build her trust. Typical manipulative Scorpio 😅

[@Discrete1998]

Can your sister vouch my dates please? 😂😂

[@trishapm8874]

​@Dr_Agon3 bingo!! Scorpios are so effing manipulative!!

[@andianderson3017]

I’m a therapist in training and I’d never witnessed that before! It was definitely a learning experience. I thought he seemed great and like he was it. It’s really humbling to witness and to realize I’ve just been blessed to never go through that romantically. It’s actually making a really confusing friendship make more sense, honestly. Ugh. So hard to watch a person do that to someone else.

[@Miss-jr7te]

As someone addressing her trauma, I’m still trying to figure it out. 😅 He seemed like a mellow guy honestly. But there was ONE small instance in After the Alter where it was announced they were still together. They both got up to hug each other and in a small instance you see him FLINCH as she tries to kiss him. Wow. Scary dating world out there.

[@jessicamalo6922]

Thank you so much for validating the closet as a coping skill. At 30, I think I may be autistic and I have CPTSD and my last therapist told me that was unhealthy and “childish” and running away even if it helped and this killed me because I just need things to be LESS stimulating when I’m emotionally overwhelmed. Thank you.

[@CheshireCesare]

That was awful of them. I understand the worry and heartbreak of going to a trusted professional you feel you could confide in, but then they dismiss your concerns like that. It puts you off wanting to even seek therapy, but there are a lot of options out there, and many good, empathetic counselors. Sending hugs and best wishes! ❤

[@PrescillaM-hq8gp]

Hi there, I myself have had a therapist who has done/said outstanding, hurtful things to me as well so I know how you feel and I’m sorry you experienced that. I’ve actually grown more since leaving. I hope you’re able to be open to a new therapist that is a great fit for you❤️ these videos on KZbin may not replace 1 on 1 therapy but they help a lot❤️

[@Angeloflight7]

​@eggroll72 you'd be surprised what goes on in our field. It's actually sick and very disturbing

[@Angeloflight7]

​@@PrescillaM-hq8gpgeez I'm so sorry

[@hubabaloop]

You go in that closet hunny!!!!!!! I’m a self-hugger myself hehe❤ sorry to hear about that previous therapist

[@Miss-jr7te]

Wow. I didn’t think about SK’s failure to open up and be vulnerable. Completely different than what we saw from Cameron (season 1). Great insight!

[@evieee50]

I just finished reading a book about intimate partner violence. I like that you discuss the signs of emotional/psychological abuse because it reminds me that abuse comes in many forms. I’m happy Raven has come out of that situation wiser. She deserves the best. You do too! Thank you for sharing all your knowledge!

[@brooke8680]

What was the book?

[@buggsbunny5506]

Hi there! Would you mind sharing what book that was? TIA!

[@_TheGoddessinTraining_]

I love how you let yourself get vulnerable so we could learn from you when you discussed your blindspot re: missing SK's signs. Thank you

[@osheaeimear83]

What's shocking to me about these things, is how the hell they have time for this shit? I can barely do my laundry.

[@5musictomyears5]

I love what Raven and you said about staying positive and vulnerable and proud to let love in. I just got broken up with and it hurts when you've let people into your life so many times and it doesn't work out, but remembering how amazing it is to allow yourself to love and care and feel and learn the lessons despite it all makes it worth it.

[@babaokon]

I hope my content brings inspiration and joy to your day! My name is okon and I’m a naturally gifted spiritualist, who’s blessed with natural powers to help people with their problems and for more than 20 years, I’ve helped so many people with their relationship problems, spiritual problem and many other problems. As a father and a grand father, I want you to feel free to tell me your problems an all your heart desires, and I assure you that you will get what you seek * Court Case Spell * Love Spell * Money Spell * Weight Loss / Gain Spell * Ex Back Spell * Lucky Spell * Lottery Spell * Do AS I Say Spell * Protection Spell * Pregnancy Spell * Job Promotion Spell * Readings * Cleansing And much more.

[@amaraw9893]

It BLOWS me that he invited himself into her alone space in the closet. That's wild...scary even. I've had to break away from the sound and the people in public sometimes. I just go to the bathroom stall and stand there. But whether I'm at home or in public, someone entering that space feels like someone breaking into my house. Like I actually can't wrap my head around why he did that if it wasn't to manipulate her...

[@nasholston5112]

I just feel so terrible for her. She had her guard up from the beginning and it was so beautiful to see her slowly bring those walls down and now this happens to her. It's gonna be so hard for her to trust when an actual decent man wants to love her genuinely.

[@Violetshae]

The lesson about constant monitoring was super profound. Thank you.

[@alasciajones5467]

You’re so kind in your analysis ❤

[@sharonbpeter]

SK is Nigerian and honestly, SK showed signs from the beginning, a lot of Nigeria’s saw it on twitter.

[@joannalove7374]

What signs?

[@soulgrateful_kels]

As an MFT student I’m so inspired by what you’re doing here. I always get great takeaways from your videos and just want to say I appreciate you ❤

[@StephAnya]

Aw I’m so glad to hear that ♥️ Thank you!

[@Moriah.Jae__]

Had something similar happen to me recently. My ex’s ex reached out to me while I was still with him and thanks to her my life is significantly better now that I dropped that abusive AH. And now she and I are recovering and are actually really good friends now.❤

[@StephAnya]

Love that for you!

[@Moriah.Jae__]

@@StephAnya thank you Steph! I love you and your content thank you for everything you do❤️

[@FutureFendiFsnista]

This is great! I pray that you both heal and find good, loving, and healthy partners 💛

[@Moriah.Jae__]

@@FutureFendiFsnista thank you MJ☺️ I really appreciate that❤️

[@norahsmith5065]

I’m only halfway through the video so I may be premature and I speak for myself when I say I think maybe we did Raven a huge disservice when we looked at her walls as only strength. Likely they were built because she has been hurt and we underestimated how vulnerable she was. Yes, SK snuck under our radar, but did any of us really like him? Or were we rooting for “them” because we were rooting for Raven ?

[@cuteshaybay]

Rooting for Raven for sure

[@loba49]

Hate to admit I fell for his façade. I was happy for them both. I truly thought he was a sweet genuine guy. 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@4everlovemusic101]

Great observation! I definitely wasn't rooting for "them." I was rooting for her. I never understood what she saw in him tbh.

[@MzJamaicanBeauty12]

Definitely rooting for her bc I was immediately rubbed the wrong way when in the first episode, he said, dating apps always include race so at least now in the pods they can look past that. For me that gave off some alarm bells that he was really looking for a white woman which isn’t a problem in and of itself, but it seemed like his goal, and that’s weird. Because of her he was given the benefit of the doubt.

[@jendayiKa]

I liked him. I only liked Raven much much later on.

[@ShipFantastic]

I had a guy do the exact same thing to me. He worked at getting me to open up and accept him and love him for about a year and a half. After " getting through to my soft marshmallow heart " his words, he was gone within a matter of weeks. It was soul crushing.

[@maribelsantana157]

This is beautiful ❤I am so proud of Raven and happy for her. Also Steph Anya, thank you for your analysis-you have validated so much for me and reminded me that I can trust myself.

[@Chilair1]

Ok, I think hearing what you say at 20:03 is reallllllllly important for people to keep in mind the beginning stages. It feels so good to be cared for in our vulnerability, but is that person doing the same or are they withholding? I’m so glad you put your finger on it. It’s a big deal.

[@lolgrigio]

Yas! I watched this in full and was hoping you would see it too!

[@johneesiasholtz4886]

Me too!!!!

[@acd1168]

I tried but then I said ok he cheated and moved on with my day. She is way out of his league.

[@babaokon]

I hope my content brings inspiration and joy to your day! My name is okon and I’m a naturally gifted spiritualist, who’s blessed with natural powers to help people with their problems and for more than 20 years, I’ve helped so many people with their relationship problems, spiritual problem and many other problems. As a father and a grand father, I want you to feel free to tell me your problems an all your heart desires, and I assure you that you will get what you seek * Court Case Spell * Love Spell * Money Spell * Weight Loss / Gain Spell * Ex Back Spell * Lucky Spell * Lottery Spell * Do AS I Say Spell * Protection Spell * Pregnancy Spell * Job Promotion Spell * Readings * Cleansing And much more.

[@luanapires4464]

Hi Steph, I’m a psychology student from Brazil (graduating this semester 🎉) and I love your all videos, you’re so sensitive about your comments! I defined relate to that feeling of “how could I have missed this? Why didn’t I see the signs?” - especially in a relationship setting, or with actual therapy clients By the wayI would loove for you to react to Brazil’s one. It’s sooo popular here and it would really help people learn more about relationships 😊

[@CabinFever52]

I loved the Brazil and Japan versions. Without all the cattiness and drama of American version. There seemed to be a much higher respect towards each other.

[@LunaRomero12]

Steph I'm waiting for you to come out with the new season of love is blind. We need your commentary!!!!

[@_TheGoddessinTraining_]

thanking you so much for explaining the coping skill of lowering stimuli to emotionally downregulate. Very helpful!

[@StephAnya]

I’m so glad!

[@arwen_2.0]

No one realised that that man was a red flag himself? He was always saying the right things at all times, he was always saying things like I support you, I understand you, I appreciate you because of who you are... that was only after 1 week or 2. That was a huge red flag for me: No one is perfect and has the perfect answers for everything!

[@naturalbarnet2470]

Well my husband said things like that and he turned out perfect for me :) It's not the words, it's the actions behind it.

[@gaiagyal]

@@naturalbarnet2470 On shows like this, the words are all that matter. Your husband could show up with his actions because it was the real world, on this show they basically meet in paradise and then slowly move into the realities of every day life. Someone who’s unwilling to share their flaws, vulnerabilities, and honest opinion in paradise with everything catered to them will not be open while dealing with day to day life.

[@naturalbarnet2470]

@Gaia Gyal I hear you. However the same can apply to everyday people who are unwilling to show their true selves in the early days of dating. I was referring to the original post re: red flags, which is an entirely different topic.

[@sharalhall5911]

For me, there was a huge & fast change with SK in the pods. It was as if a producer told him what he could say to win her. What he said & what he did differ

[@andedom]

Yes, it’s important to have a partner who is honest, who pushes back when we ask to much of them and who expresses their own needs. We saw none of this from SK, we saw almost no conflict from either of them within their relationship. It made their relationship feel more like a hallmark movie than real life.

[@sayedero]

It seems only Nigerians knew it would end in tears - didn't trust him at all!!! Pray she finds someone deserving, she's amazing!!

[@justjay488]

What signs did you notice? As a Nigerian woman, what gave it away that he was untrustworthy? I’m curious, because it went over my head and that scares me. 🥲

[@Tanyalapatrone]

No Africans😂. Recognized the d*mon vibes😅😅😅

[@llawal674]

@@justjay488 as a Nigerian I didn’t trust him because he was so agreeable very ‘yes ma’ vibes and Nigerian men don’t just bend to women will , maybe if they are try to get into your pants but not to their potential wife they set the standard and expect the woman to submit

[@Liz-or5it]

That's interesting because I was following the show on Reddit and it was the Nigerians who were defending him and his family when Raven's friends and people on reddit including me questioned him. It was clear he was not being forthcoming about himself. Now I didn't know he was some kind of player with a ton of women but I knew that he was not being honest about himself and what he wanted. He tried to seem like a guy who doesn't subscribe to the culture he grew up around.

[@krystalavery5328]

I dated a man from Ghana and he did something very similar so when she said he would go ghost to get the lies together I felt that on such a deep level. I watched this man get married via Facebook live and he ignored me and belittled my feelings like indidnt understand what I saw

[@autumnarcher]

That sounds horrible, I hope you are doing well now 💖

[@kelviannaepperson3677]

Some time after I heard SK response to this and he was blaming Raven for his cheating. He is down low disgusting person.

[@Angeloflight7]

😮whaaat. Mxm

[@kelviannaepperson3677]

@@Angeloflight7 yes he did

[@helenvalencia]

So glad you saw it! I was going through the motions with Raven when I saw the interview (remembering some of my own past relationships ). I am happy she remains optimistic and is dating

[@babaokon]

I hope my content brings inspiration and joy to your day! My name is okon and I’m a naturally gifted spiritualist, who’s blessed with natural powers to help people with their problems and for more than 20 years, I’ve helped so many people with their relationship problems, spiritual problem and many other problems. As a father and a grand father, I want you to feel free to tell me your problems an all your heart desires, and I assure you that you will get what you seek * Court Case Spell * Love Spell * Money Spell * Weight Loss / Gain Spell * Ex Back Spell * Lucky Spell * Lottery Spell * Do AS I Say Spell * Protection Spell * Pregnancy Spell * Job Promotion Spell * Readings * Cleansing And much more.

[@LunaWaffle]

I appreciate your videos. Ty for mentioning the coping mechanism for anger, I've been looking for ways to cope with that.

[@yosoyroman875]

What a great woman. I hope she finds happiness ♥️

[@Laurenjoinsyoutube]

I got cheated on in a major way in my early 20s and it is soul crushing cuz you start second guessing yourself & doubting yourself which is the worst part

[@tomokoz300]

I started seeing his deceit when they were talking about her family on the couch and his mother's concerns. He knew he wasn't fully happy with it and he keeps pursing his lips and he is unable to say his true feelings. And I have to apologize to Raven. At first, I thought she was a stuck-up B. I found out during the show that she is such a loyal and wonderful person. I don't know about other people but the Love is Blind show and these discussions here help me with my own relationships and understanding my feelings.

[@zolamagwood2415]

Oh my god, I never thought about vulnerability as risking harm. I think I knew it logically, but still saw it as just sharing and being open, but you're SO RIGHT!!! You just gave me the most major lightbulb moment!

[@bethanythatsme]

Random off topic comment: your hair & makeup look so beautiful.

[@jadakiss228]

This is such a vulnerable interview

[@StephAnya]

It really is

[@ariannmeredith1743]

Can't wait for your review on season 4

[@nasiadanielle]

Not me learning I was psychologically abused in my last two relationships from watching this video. 😩😭

[@susanshore9647]

It's a hard pill to swallow. You're not alone.

[@erinnmjones]

First of all, I’m a new subscriber and I love your perspectives. I think we need to think about something very key that SK said in the pods. He said that he was a child of a polygamist family. He never really talked about how he processed being a product of that lifestyle. He lied and said that he wanted a different narrative for himself, but generation curses are a thing. Those things have to be dealt with before getting into a relationship and the person has to be very adamant about not perpetuating the same narrative in their lives

[@greeeneyes91]

loved your take on blackmailing 😂

[@StephAnya]

😂 like get it together if you’re going to do it

[@CabinFever52]

@@StephAnya LOL

[@dani-un3bl]

I absolutely love your videos. I am in school for psychology. ❤

[@StephAnya]

Aw thank you!

[@DoseofDi]

I can’t wait for your analysis of season 4. I didn’t want to get sucked In because clearly this show is toxic but THIS season was just too much. I know that you’ll address everything with grace which is much needed.

[@kaylan5274]

Hiii Steph.. would you ever do an analysis on Loveisblind Brazil ?

[@luanapires4464]

I would looove for het to do it! 💕

[@BrittneyCrochets]

I’ve been waiting for this video!! 😅

[@babaokon]

I hope my content brings inspiration and joy to your day! My name is okon and I’m a naturally gifted spiritualist, who’s blessed with natural powers to help people with their problems and for more than 20 years, I’ve helped so many people with their relationship problems, spiritual problem and many other problems. As a father and a grand father, I want you to feel free to tell me your problems an all your heart desires, and I assure you that you will get what you seek * Court Case Spell * Love Spell * Money Spell * Weight Loss / Gain Spell * Ex Back Spell * Lucky Spell * Lottery Spell * Do AS I Say Spell * Protection Spell * Pregnancy Spell * Job Promotion Spell * Readings * Cleansing And much more.

[@pri_said]

Thank you so much for covering this!

[@TammyJerkChicken]

9:20 OMG this is something doesn't seem like a coping mechanism! I used to do this as a kid and did do this when I'm upset now but I told someone and they said it's childish 😮 thank you for explaining the reasoning for the usefulness

[@oreade8728]

The thing about SK for me was that he had so many words...so many descriptions. He always said their relationship was different. We're not like other people and I kept wondering what he meant by that. He also never really went into details or gave reasons why he said things. He'd just say them.

[@Mixedmacnuts]

Girl, someone who's kind, attentive, your best friend, in love, etc WILL NOT go on dating app dates with other people! "It's just a date" turns into "well she left and didn't spend the night" to "We plan our future together. "

[@PeaceChiillax]

I remember having no particular opinion on SK when watching LIB season 3. It just felt like I just didn't know anything about him.

[@edgekushed2551]

You are so smart and beautiful, i wish you love and happiness always. I love these videos and I love your opinion on all of these couples

[@StephAnya]

Aw thank you sooo much

[@myrtozach81]

beautiful interview, beautiful analysis ❤

[@yreana]

Pleaseeeeee so excited for your review of new season of love is blind! 💕

[@e-9227]

Please do ultimatum france, it was so fascinating and felt quite real

[@e-9227]

There’s a crazy amount of jealousy displayed by one of the couple who pops off, and they gang up on a girl and makes her the scapegoat for the men’s shitty behaviors

[@adaabeja2061]

I was sketched out by SK and his family. They seemed pretty toxic. I was so surprised that Raven said yes honestly

[@Tuoyo3005]

They were VERY overbearing. It's like Raven's culture and values didn't matter and just ham-fisted theirs onto her. For "traditional" people, they really overlooked the part of Nigerian culture where wedding ceremonies are performed in accordance with the woman's culture KMT

[@WendalynBrooks]

Absolutely love your videos & your insight! Would love videos about love avoidance, love deprivation &&&&& Love is Blind already came out with Season 4, may you pleaseee do some videos. This season is giving fiance swap hahahaha

[@andianderson3017]

I think, as a therapist in training, I missed it because of the cultural divide. I usually catch when someone else isn’t sharing mutually but I give all kinds of space for cultural differences and that others cultures aren’t as open as Americans. I don’t even know I’m doing it. My expectations in this area should be more universal. It’s really humbling.

[@jendayiKa]

You are not wrong. Culture does lend itself to how people processed emotions.

[@j3551kuh]

Yes, you should give space for cultural differences. Culture dictates what behavior is normative for an individual; however, for you to understand what is normative, you have to deeply understand the nuance of that culture. Just saying there’s a difference without knowing exactly what the difference is will lead to conjecture

[@christinedsilva6276]

You're helping so man people - thank you :)

[@NiceGone82]

Thank you so much for your Channel. I love your way of thinking and you are very beautyful.

[@StephAnya]

Thank you so much ♥️

[@thisismyinferno]

Love your content so much! Very refreshing! Wish I had your knowledge.

[@simonemusic40]

Thanks for this video, this has defo made me open my eyes to some past experiences, but I thought I had seen it but now. Wow. Thanks x

[@sarahgumball8597]

Yay! I’m so excited to watch your reaction to this 💓

[@amalhassan4601]

I really enjoyed the video and learn a lot. Thank you very much❤❤. If it’s okay to make a video about the difference between emotional abuse and narcissistic abuse

[@rudomakoni1474]

Love your videos Steph!❤

[@StephAnya]

Thank you!!

[@mightyorcagames2898]

I didn't speak to a soul about my abuse and everyone was shocked pikachu face when I left my husband.

[@Toematetoe95]

Why did Nick make raven rewatch those clips of herself 😭

[@miriam9419]

I think that Raven had always been judged by her looks. So she attracted shallow people. That is why we were all routing for SK because we wanted that story but didn't actually like him. She deserves the best. It looks like she is a huge step closer to finding it now than she was before.

[@stylekilla14]

Please do Marshall & Jackie! Such an interesting dynamic.

[@CanaAlyce]

I think one of the biggest clues in the show. Was in malibu cause they went Malibu this year for the vacation I think? when Raven was doing Pilates with SK he falls asleep in the middle of the Pilates or I think it was a meditation? I should double check that. But Raven was showing as sk somethings she was passionate about. And, like you said, it was him showing little development as a person and showing very little interest in the same thing that she enjoyed. We saw so much of her develop but we didn’t see him develop much that’s a small thing I would point out when I look back to them on the show.

[@FM-zg5hz]

I think they were saying that they get very little sleep and a half to be on set filming for many many many hours. Zanab said it. While it would be annoying that he fell asleep during the sound bath, I also can see why it would be very relaxing and an environment where it’s easy to fall asleep.

[@meli7315]

I Love the fact that fact said the SK “if we get married we should split my rent because marriage should better my situation”, it’s so good because if a men is serious about you with marriage he should invest in you and take some financial responsibility from your shoulders. I really feel bad for her because many women wouldn’t Date neither marry someone on long distance or sacrificing ob moving and at least she tried, he is so dishonest instead of saying hey I can’t be with you that’s it he hold her warm and mingled with others like he would have an open relationship, that’s really weird when you realise someone is playing you like moving to a place, holding you warm and entertaining other women. I really appreciate her how she presents herself and talk about it with such a strong and elegant way of behaviour.

[@ShortDarknLovely]

I had just changed my mind about this relationship then, all of a sudden, I was proven right. In the beginning, their energy was off to me so I didn't think they'd make it. So basically when she started opening up, that's when the energy became more fluid. I hope she grows with from this and comes out even better that before.

[@tinabalducci]

If you are looking for more shows to analyze, married at first sight (especially Australia) is a minegold for couples therapists

[@babaokon]

I hope my content brings inspiration and joy to your day! My name is okon and I’m a naturally gifted spiritualist, who’s blessed with natural powers to help people with their problems and for more than 20 years, I’ve helped so many people with their relationship problems, spiritual problem and many other problems. As a father and a grand father, I want you to feel free to tell me your problems an all your heart desires, and I assure you that you will get what you seek * Court Case Spell * Love Spell * Money Spell * Weight Loss / Gain Spell * Ex Back Spell * Lucky Spell * Lottery Spell * Do AS I Say Spell * Protection Spell * Pregnancy Spell * Job Promotion Spell * Readings * Cleansing And much more.

[@EvaKNF]

Mariage at first sight is definitely the one!!

[@lenaharman1343]

your hair is SO beautiful!!! so jealous

[@TheMoises1213]

“The AUDACITY” yaaassss girl!!! Tell ‘em!!!!

[@namiracrosby7714]

Can you review her lovers and friends interview as well ?

[@Freddy3Jersem]

this is so relatable

[@Mobis_the_kirby]

I'm dealing with this now, I've told my bf numerous times I need space when I'm upset. He follows me and does that exact same thing. He says things like at least I come to fix things with you. I'm wondering if this is enough to split ways.

[@VashtiPerry]

I’m just gonna say that I never understood Raven an SK. I think at one point I let my guard down said OK maybe they are the couple but in the beginning and through most of it I was just like they are so blank mostly SK is not giving what needs to be gave but I’m sad this happened. I am I wish her well in the future.

[@scarlettcruz7054]

Her anxiety when she’s sharing that both their phones were going off, she was picking at her arm 🥺 ugh I hate that for her

[@d4i1ynn]

an emotionally unavailable person can only connect with another emotionally unavailable person. raven was closed off with big guards up during love is blind, knowing it was a fast tracked experience. sk never revealed himself, presenting as open and accepting, never expressing his true feelings 1st. he more so just went with whatever raven said 🚩 which raven and her friends SAID together at the lunch during the show. i never like their relationship, especially with my biases towards nigerian men.

[@poliscigirlie]

For some reason I didn’t like Raven at first but I’ve grown to love her and her heart 😢❤

[@teshalis]

I didn't get SK and Raven at first and I couldn't put my finger on why so he also flew under the radar for me. I noticed when Raven mentioned that she chose SK over Bartise didn't have much in common except fitness. I could not figure out what she and SK had in common either. Their connection was about their similar "work ethic" and how attentive and patient he was with Raven. IMO none of that is enough to build a lasting romantic bond but for Raven that seemed to be very important so I left that thought in the wind. In retrospect, we know now that SK was willing to wait in order to fein a close relationship with her. He was heavily relying on Raven becoming familiar enough with him to open up whilst offering nothing to really earn that kind of relationship. We admired his patience which is ultimately what sold the viewers on this connection. Patience is a virtue, how could SK be a bad guy 👀? His ability to weaponize his patience is why he fooled so many. Every time Raven was struggling to become intimate or comfortable with SK the audience would subconsciously say, "shes must be insecure", or "oh but he's so patient, shes in good hands". But there was nothing else about him that really made sense for Raven, he did nothing to really solidify the connection but wait things out.

[@goebelll]

Please review all of the madness that happened with the most recent season of Vanderpump Rules. There’s so much to unpack!

[@Emmah1243]

Dr K. Honda who is also a LMFT says 'gaslighting' is a clinical term. I was never sure of SK, it felt like he was never expressing doubts, he just always agreed with Raven. I remember being SHOCKED when he said no on the alter. Clearly he was holding back from her

[@nickgtv_]

Plz make Marshall and Jackie your first video . I need someone to make this make sense 😩

[@StephAnya]

Will do!

[@ReginaBerg90]

I've known people like this so I saw it from a mile away. I have been that closed person and experienced people like SK.

[@antoniao7439]

I knew he was gonna cheat as soon as he opened his mouth and I heard that Nigerian accent. It's what Nigerian men do 😆.

[@joannalove7374]

So sad

[@Anonymous-su4tc]

This is a little off-topic, but I would love to see your reaction to the fight scene from the movie This is 40. In their argument, they mention their therapist, and it made me think of you lol

[@StephAnya]

I’ll check it out!! Thank you!

[@Rosalynn78]

Steph I need an episode on the new LIB! I need help processing what I just watched 😂

[@xokaylanicolee]

Do you know Love is Blind szn 4 is coming out next week?

[@TheJasmenLiEashon]

😮

[@darleneperez8384]

Ok but can we know what products you use on your hair

[@amy-mu1zr]

Your hair is so beautiful ❤

[@moyazflair6369]

Can you please do a video reacting to Derrick Jaxn's ex-wife Da'Naia Jackson's interview on the dear future wifey podcast? Would love to hear your take. Thank you.

[@alyssamendoza3719]

Waiting on your review of love is blind season 4!!!!😭😭😭😭

[@MsEK05]

Yah... my partner of 15yrs blamed me for making rash and "too quick" decisions on kicking him out of the apartment (lucky for me he never bothered to put his name on the lease), after emotionally cheating on me for a YEAR . First the only thing I knew was that he wanted a divorce, and we even went to our first couple's therapy where he never said a word about another woman! I learned about his "friendship" with a coworker, we're talking about messages, dates etc. and that he really was messed in the head when he made a comment to me that "he did not know where this friendship was going" while being married to me. But yes, I was the one making rash decisions and being a bad person for wanting him as far away from me as possible. It was a really wild ride and I never saw it coming, but it's all good now.

[@tatijai6913]

Wow what a good video!! ❤

[@StephAnya]

Thank you 🥹

[@ItsJanJo]

Girl. Please tell me the details on that eyeshadow ❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@heyhey11793]

@10:45 but then at the same time they are the only thing that can make it better in that moment, even if it’s not real

[@samanthav563]

I think they’re giving yourself some space can be a good coping skill, but with the caveat that you need to come back out within an hour or so and not just leave people hanging all day walking on eggshells and being scared that you’re upset with them. It is a Balance for sure and we all need to try a little harder and give each other a little more grace.

[@tonibass6488]

Hi hi. I love watching your analysis of the love is blind series. Would you be open to do the new season? There’s a lot of messiness in there and I’d love to hear your thoughts about it