Therapists, what was your "I know I'm not supposed to judge you but holy crap" moment?

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@Azulakayes 11 ай бұрын

Story 9: Therapists have so much power and a bad one can break someone into a million pieces. OP still needs help but I don't even know how therapy can reach him.

@matts1166 11 ай бұрын

I (male) was sexually assaulted in college. As a committed non-drinker I agreed to be a designated driver for my friends. At the party some frat bros forced me down, held my nose and forced me to guzzle a beer bong of liquor. I'm an alcohol lightweight, and passed out in minutes. Those guys and their girlfriends pulled down my pants, inserted things into me, did "things" to my penis, filmed it, and put it all online. Campus cops laughed and refused to even take statement. Campus mental health (female) treated me pretty much the same way, and told me men can't be sexually assaulted. This was 20 years ago.

@ckc9913studios 11 ай бұрын

@@matts1166 Damn bro. That sucks. Sorry that happened

@nevaehhamilton3493 10 ай бұрын

The sad truth is thanks to his experience, he will NEVER trust a therapist for anything again. He will never get the help he needs. It's completely hopeless.

@emissary8071 10 ай бұрын

As someone who wants to be a therapist, hearing these stories shows me how important being kind and non-judgmental are

@gardenofsn5955 10 ай бұрын

That first one... My therapist keeps telling me how strong and resilient I am, but I feel so, so worthless and broken. I'm trying to be kinder to myself but it's really, really hard.

@unionunicorn6776 8 ай бұрын

I am in the same boat. Unfortunately we can often be our harshest critic, especially if we grew up with harsh parents or are around harsh critical people. Be kind to yourself. I hope you’re doing well. ❤

@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 8 ай бұрын

Here, let me help you. You are your own worst enemy. I’ve learned to treat my negative thoughts as a separate person that I’ve told to f**k off

@ArchangelAdaine 7 ай бұрын

I can also jump in here a bit. The question that I got asked is "what voice is telling you you're worthless because it's not yours". What I realized is that the voice that was telling me I was worthless and bad at everything was my mom, because she was my biggest critic, growing up. Once I realized that I realized that that voice is what didn't allow me the merit of my accomplishments. So, I started documenting it in an accomplishment book and now any time I am negative to myself, I look at how many pages I've filled. Hope this helps someone.

@unionunicorn6776 7 ай бұрын

@@ArchangelAdaine it already helped me. thank you

@gardenofsn5955 7 ай бұрын

@@ArchangelAdaine That's absolutely amazing, thank you for your comment! I'll have to take note and start being more mindful of "who" is telling me these things, and an accomplishment journal may help with my depression too!

@thisoneashton. 11 ай бұрын

Story 9 is so sad. I just wanna be there for him so bad. He deserves to be heard out omg

@matts1166 11 ай бұрын

@silver6071 11 ай бұрын

@@matts1166I‘m so sorry this happened to you

@LiveForever13 11 ай бұрын

I cried hearing that. I went through similar between 12-16, and even though im AFAB, I can empathise with this man. His fear, anxiety, depression, I feel it so viscerally. I hope that maybe he can find peace

@BoxOKittens 11 ай бұрын

8:42 that one made me feel sick. As a fellow csa survivor, pedos make my skin crawl. I could never imagine actually getting accused of being one due to my past. This is why predators who hide behind their alleged childhood traumas make me so angry. We don't become monsters because of what happened to us. We choose to become them or not. That therapist sounds vile.

@Sapphiregriffin 11 ай бұрын

I think the reason is because most abusers were themselves abused.

@matts1166 11 ай бұрын

@mane53017 10 ай бұрын

@@matts1166mate I'm so sorry

@GiordanDiodato 9 ай бұрын

true. it's difficult to tell where they get their tendencies. you can have someone with a perfectly normal childhood end up as an axe murderer and you can have someone who was abused in childhood turn into a great person.

@blitzn00dle50 8 ай бұрын

a whole lot of lobotomites out there took the whole compassion thing and twisted, mutated and bastardized it to some kind of lovecraftian nightmare apparition of what it's supposed to be. there's the factoid "most abusers were abused" floating around, including in these replies, and I don't know how true it is, but somewhere along the line it became "most people who were abused become abusers" and that just poisons the punch bowl

@ferrissaturn550 8 ай бұрын

My therapist shamed me for calling my dad an “asshole” saying “that’s your father, you can’t say that about your father, etc.” My dad has told me that if my sister and I didn’t stop fighting it would be our fault for him and my mom getting a divorce, that I would be poor and needed to be nice to my sister as I would some day mooch off her for money, used corporal punishment on me, etc. I admit my dad is a good dad overall and just says and does mean things when he’s angry, but I don’t think it’s an excuse. I’m Autistic and was an angry kid myself. I love him, but he has hurt me and broken me down a little. This therapist also refused to listen to anything I said and only listened to my mother and took her side on everything such as my “socially inappropriate” homecoming dress (it was a Her Universe Darth Vader themed dress that had a cape. Look it up) that he dubbed a “costume” just because my mom hated it.

@Cassiopea525 11 ай бұрын

One psychiatric nurse had the most horrified look on her face when I just gave very short, non-descriptive explanations of some of what I experienced that lead to me needing meds. She doesn’t ask about my past at all anymore and mostly focuses on how my meds are working for me to manage my mood. My therapist, on the other hand, handled far more detailed, slightly graphic tellings of the stories. He’s been great. Teaching me how to help settle my mind so I have fewer nightmares of what I lived through. Encouraging me to be the person I was before trauma took my interests and hobbies away from me. Talking me through how to manage stress without backsliding into anxiety and panic. I was even able to help him with another patient because my contacts with reptile keepers helped him fins someone with a docile, chill snake to help with some exposure therapy for a phobia! It’s quite fascinating how differently the two reacted to knowledge of my past.

@Buldogg345 11 ай бұрын

That guy in story 16 is either delusional or has had luck with people in the field. I had a few sessions with a therapist once and he was supposedly the best in my state (My parents have connections). Yeah, no. All the guy did was project and dismiss my thoughts. Everything I tried to say was answered with "Yeah, I had it worse. Let me tell you about the time when..." and so on. I was like, "Dude, your problems are your problems and mine are mine. You're supposed to help me. WTH?." There are bad people in every field. That you have a degree doesn't necessarily mean that you're suited for the job.

@bichitenshi6696 11 ай бұрын

I’ve had similar experiences. I once went to a family counselor with my parents and my brother, and on the second session, after talking with me for only 10 minutes IN TOTAL (This is including the first session!), he told me “You don’t understand your emotions.” That’s it. That’s all he said to me. No explanation, no solution, no ways of becoming more _aware_ of my emotions (which I was already quite aware of, since I had already been dealing with my depression and anxiety for two years and had made a lot of progress.), he just completely disregarded everything I said to him after knowing me for only two sessions that went for one hour. Honestly, I think the therapist was sexist. He only took my brother and my dad seriously while me and my mom were just left on the side, and he told me I didn’t understand my emotions just to be able to go back to dealing with my dad’s issues. This is why you should never go to family counseling until you’ve worked on your own individual problems in PRIVATE therapy. Family counselors can’t solve anything if they’re dealing with deeply rooted personal problems with four people at once. I resent my dad for forcing me to go to family counseling despite me telling him I wasn’t ready.

@NathanChambers 10 ай бұрын

All therapist are bullshit. They use hippy bullshit and observation to "help you". Anyone who wants real help, needs a psychologist. I even used to have a FB friend who was a therapist. Admits in a post that none of them give 2 shits and will do "1 step forward 2 steps back", to make you feel like you're getting help but also keep you "stuck" as a patient. Guy ended up being arrested 'cause he was giving free care to vets, not to help them, but to convince them to unalive themselves. So yeah, fuck therapists!

@enbeast8350 8 ай бұрын

I had a therapist defend my mother's abuse when I was going to therapy over childhood trauma and then insist that one day I might have kids because "you never know". She was also late to the first (and only) session I never went back to her. But FFS some therapists are shit at their job and only want the money

@Buldogg345 8 ай бұрын

@@enbeast8350 I think that's because they try to get to the source of the problem instead of tackling the problem first. That's usually the wrong approach. You are supposed to put out a fire before looking for what caused it, right?

@imlatefortea 7 ай бұрын

Man you made me remember the last time I went to the neurologist, after calling my psychiatrist because of overall dizziness/confusion and me slurring my speech, we thought I might have OD on accident (had pretty bad panic attacks the whole week and I might have taken too much medication) so I was worried about any potential damage that it might have caused. The old fart made me wait TWO WHOLE HOURS (I waited because I insist, I was pretty worried because I never had had those symptoms) JUST TO TELL ME I WAS FAT AND DISMISS ME. HE DIDNT EVEN MADE ME LIKE FOLLOW HIS FINGER OR SOMETHING so I don’t know if it caused any damage or if I actually ODd :)

@melissaharris3890 11 ай бұрын

story 3. We all feel the same way about pedos, but in that case i think i would praise the guy for reaching out. it would be hard to seek help when few people want to help you

@Darthescar98 11 ай бұрын

14:02 I don't think the other people were avoiding the question; I think that's actually how they think of their patients. I'm sure they know they technically can judge, but actively direct their thoughts towards understanding, avoiding judgement altogether. It helps a ton. It might not sound doable, but the furthest you can possibly go in terms of evidence is your own thinking, otherwise you have to take the word of one of the other posters or me being that it's definitely something that people are capable of

@chrisc.5911 11 ай бұрын

I agree. "Judging," in the context of this topic, doesn't refer to how you feel about someone's state and actions. It refers to how you act in response to those feelings. In a broader context, to judge someone is to simply have an opinion of them, but here it more relates to how your treatment of that person changes (or ideally, as a therapist, does not change) as a result of those feelings.

@Mr_The_Potato_King 10 ай бұрын

I have a story from the other side. I went to Behavioral Health (army therapy) once because I have depression among other things. As soon as I sat down "do you actively have thoughts of killing yourself and/or others?" 'no' "Ok so you're not depressed" 'thats not' "Do you have manic episodes" 'whats manic' "Happy mood swings" 'no' "Ok so you aren't bipolar" 'can I have a neuro eval appointment made' "No it'll be useless. All your problems are from drinking too many red bulls because the caffeine is affecting you" 'i don't drink caffeine, not even coffee' "Don't lie to me. *Proceeds to spend half an hour telling me how it's ok to have no talent/skill*"

@jayred-q1e 10 ай бұрын

you have talent/skill

@Average_Car_Lover 11 ай бұрын

the story on 7:33 is crazy. people really do think that only men can abuse, and not get abused

@LaughingLlamaLodge 11 ай бұрын

I teared up a bit listening to his story. Poor guy.

@katiejeffers8360 7 ай бұрын

story 9 broke my heart! she sounds like one of those therapists that learned nothing from their schooling and project personal issues and judgements on patients. sickening, honestly. i hope he gets the help and healing he needs ❤

@redjoker365 10 ай бұрын

Story 9: Studies done on perpetrators of CSA have demonstrated that there is NOT a link between being a victim and then later on going to be a predator

@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 8 ай бұрын

While some people might grow up to hurt others it’s not a clear link. It’s more so many cases that needs to be taken into consideration. However, you should never assume a victim will be an offender. An uncommon occurrence shouldn’t be taken as a definitive prognosis

@cmdrezeri 11 ай бұрын

I’m a 13 time survivor. I know I’m severely mentally ill and have tried my damnedest to reconcile this, but I’m concerned it will happen again and what’s worse, I’m not sure which scares me more: to fail again or to actually succeed. That is what’s keeping me from another attempt. Not the things I’m told should stop me like family, friends, school, any sort of grounding source as such. My kids, my wife, our QPP, our pets, my source of income being our sole source for that matter. I stay because the damned if I do mentality weighs heaviest on my soul. More so than anything else and I cannot stress that enough. It took a ridiculously long time to discover why, but in rationalizing and reconstructing the development of my DID, my PTSD, SZPD/STPD, being autistic and having ADHD, and eventually joining the military and you bet your highest dollar being queer to boot didn’t help. As it turns out, me mum used to throw the WORST tantrums when I didn’t complete chores, especially the dishes. There would be yelling, screaming, I would dissociate and she would proceed to throw ALL the dishes on the floor, which is why we ended up having to buy new sets fairly regularly. The worst part? I repressed this so hard I don’t remember it. All I have for evidence is my dad telling me these stories, the constantly replaced dishes and a sort of “feeling” that confirms it for me. She threw fits like that a lot so it hardly surprises me. Furthermore, I remember coming home, doing and finishing my homework within about ten minutes max, sitting down in front of the TV or just… anywhere really, while she would escape to the office/computer room and play solitaire until dinner, we would eat, then she’d go back to it. There were a multitude of occasions she would leave and tell me she was meeting my dad for lunch (he worked nights and had a break right around the time she would leave) but as it turns out, she was going to the casino, going through thousands of dollars damn near every weekend. Then she would proceed to blame my dad for all that lost money playing it off as though he had a severe addiction, when in reality it was primarily her. This was actually a common pattern for her, not dissimilar to comments like “you know how your father gets.” Meanwhile, it turns out this didn’t whatsoever pair up with who he actually is. I could go on but this tangent was only to highlight a sliver of my experiences which led me to where I am and all my attempts, mixed with being regularly bullied, not just by students but some teachers who should never have been in front of a classroom. The takeaway about the attempts overall is how I express the problem: “I don’t want to die, I just want to kms.” Or, also, “I just need a vacation from life.” Cheers to all and if you have any feelings along these lines, it would be best to speak with someone, blather blather permanent decision/ no! I won’t bother anyone with the typical rhetoric. Just don’t be rash and remember to DOSE yourself. Find your source of Dopamine, Oxytocin, Serotonin, and Endorphins. In the moment that might be seemingly impossible, but recognizing your small accomplishments, or generally finding someway to reward your daily achievements can go a long way. Oxytocin can be source from “love” and belongingness. Serotonin can be simple enough just by breathing properly but can be facilitated by eating or even looking at the sky (the associated mechanisms in this process have to do with melatonin inhibition and I don’t have the wherewithal to explain it right now). And endorphins can come from anything “active”. Frankly, these all can be received by self pleasure, just FYI. … Anyway, here’s Wonderwall

@NikolaiWowe 11 ай бұрын

Fellow DID, PTSD, autism and ADHD haver. Thank you for sharing your experiences and your advice at the end. Some days really are harder than others, especially when the past continues to try and eat at the present. We can go forward ❤

@cat_spit 10 ай бұрын

There's this idea that we're supposed to live "for" something: a purpose, a person, a religious belief. I don't think that's a good mindset. When we fail at wanting to live, that mindset creates guilt: "What kind of person would want to die and abandon their loved ones? What good things will never be brought into the world if I don't do them? What potential am I wasting?" Fuck that. I live because even if today sucks, tomorrow might not. The day after tomorrow might not. I want to experience the good parts of my life. There's been plenty that hasn't been great, but so what? If I quit now I don't get any more good times. But some days it really would be easier to just not be alive, and it's okay to feel that way. You can feel it without acting on it. I can promise you with certainty that your future will contain both good and bad things. It's statistically almost impossible to have just good or just bad. I don't know if that's comforting for you, but it helps me, so I figured I'd share it.

@cmdrezeri 10 ай бұрын

@@cat_spit Honestly? I’m just glad you have something that works for you. Whatever it happens to be, hold on to that. That’s likely the most important part of being human.

@gayroach2916 10 ай бұрын

This is why therapy has never worked out for me. Too understanding. I need someone to be like, “what in the hell is the matter with you? Get your shit together!”

@crystalkauffman3322 6 ай бұрын

I've been to several therapists in my time & the 2nd one was confrontational. At that time in my life, it was what I needed. Your needs change as you do.i

@HonkTheMusic 10 ай бұрын

I saw one therapist who asked me what's wrong and then cut me off to say he wasn't listening because everyone's life has shit in it. He had this smug attitude that reminded me of Donald Trump's ego, not a good therapist. Also said I wasn't depressed when i said I never felt happy and didn't enjoy anything at all anymore. Though one day I realized making people feel heard and cared about is actually super easy so I started to do it to make up for what little support I had at the time, to be the person I wanted for myself for so long. People remember those kind of things for a long time, it can help someone out of their shell if you can listen without judgement and do your best to empathize with their experience and understand why they feel that way.

@-randomuser-4897 9 ай бұрын

Patient side here. It was years ago, two therapists before my current one. I had been forgetting to mention that i thought i had depression during the past few sessions, and decided to do it that day even though i had other issues in mind, like my family and health issues. Except thinking about those topics made me very sensitive that day, so while i was telling her about the possible depression, i was in tears. I didn't consider mentionning what i was thinking about because i had become terrible at communication, one of the reasons i was seeing her; meaning i didn't consider nor realise what happened until a while after. So instead of asking about what made me think i'm depressed or why i'm crying, she just sat there silently, obviously attempting to hide her frustration behind an overly friendly smile. That therapist never contacted me again, and i realised she assumed the crying and thought of depression were linked and that i was just self diagnosing very poorly. It was very obvious i had issues communicating because at the time, i could barely make eye contact, would stutter or mix up words, and correct myself a lot because i had very little confidence; but she still assumed and left me very confused, then even more hopeless about therapy and my social skills. Had to stop therapy for years because i lost faith in therapists and myself even more, and had to get "good enough" social skills on my own to actually see one again... When identifying and helping you with those issues is ...their whole job. She did more harm than good. Thankfully i'm with a better (more professional) therapist now, yes they do exist, and are genuinely helpful. Just find a good therapist and one you connect and work with well. Wish you luck and strength.

@Penny-16 9 ай бұрын

I was violently sexually assaulted by my then bf of six months. One night when I awoke to being tied up. He proceeded to rape me and cut me with a knife for over 24 hours. I was 17. I never told my mum or went to the police. A friend cleaned and patched me up. She wanted me to go to the hospital and call the police, I refused. I just asked for the money to get the bus back to my hometown where mum was. I had major ptsd, not that I had any idea what that was. It was the 90s and the term wasn’t really around. Few years later I was finally ready for help so I went to a sexual assault counsellor. In the first session he said that breathing techniques would help and told me close my eyes. So here I am in a room with a complete stranger, a 40 something man, to get help for a horrific trauma and he wanted me to close my eyes. I had no trust for him. I felt so vulnerable. I left and never went back to him. Years later I eventually found a good psychologist and got the help I so desperately needed. He should have been a better judge on what I was capable of doing, instead he just freaked me out.

@gloomymelancholypumpkinspice 9 ай бұрын

I hope you're doing okay now......... I can't even imagine what you went through 😢.....

@Penny-16 9 ай бұрын

Thank you. It’s been 30 years and I’m ok now, most of the time. It’s still in my brain and it pops in but it feels disconnected. I have a caring husband and a wonderful daughter that makes my life happy, so whatever happened in the past was worth it because I got to be where I am today. I wouldn’t exchange them for the world.

@gloomymelancholypumpkinspice 9 ай бұрын

@@Penny-16 I'm so happy and relieved to hear that, everyone deserves their hapiness in life❣️❣️❣️

@playboi.daugherti 11 ай бұрын

i want to know the other narrator’s name so badly, he leaves such an impact in these videos and i didnt realize it until he was gone from one

@blobtheblob7975 11 ай бұрын

yeah i wondered where he went, his comments after the stories were nice.

@Ritaaw1 11 ай бұрын

Idk if this is related, but once my therapist gave me post cards with pictures on them and told me to pic one, then to describe the events on the picture. I said that there is a girl in the picture with a passive agressive face, and my therapist laughed. But that was my truth, that’s how I viewed people and situations at the time.

@theautisticfloridian291 11 ай бұрын

Bring back the other narrator please, unless he is sick. If he is sick, tell him to get better soon

@Tickson 11 ай бұрын

I think it's a ai generated voice

@theautisticfloridian291 11 ай бұрын

@@Tickson idk but either way, the current voice sucks

@Chickpea_Pancake 11 ай бұрын

Yesss please

@yemu8045 11 ай бұрын

@@TicksonIt's not. Though I can see why you'd think that. AI voices are just getting more and more realistic sounding

@andyperkins85 11 ай бұрын

Yes! So much better

@JennCampbell 10 ай бұрын

Therapists and other providers CAN discuss cases. They just leave out identity details.

@llamawalrushybrid 4 ай бұрын

Yeah that entire PSA felt really out of touch and harmful..

@noah07601 7 ай бұрын

The “therapist” from story 9 should have her license revoked! You don’t get to cast judgement on people and dismiss their feelings just because you don’t believe them… it’s better to validate a hundred people who don’t need it, than to dismiss one person who is barely holding on…

@starrysapphirewolf 8 ай бұрын

When I was around 17, I will admit that I was interested in fictional underage p*rn, though it was strictly fictional. After having built a rapport with my therapist for the better part of two years, I thought this would be a good time to bring it up so that I could get better and cope with it. She was wonderful in everything else, but the moment I mentioned that and although I stressed it was PURELY fictional, she did not hesitate to say that I would become a child m*lester. Needless to say, I left and did not make a follow up appointment. I'm no longer interested in that kind of thing in my mid 20s. Never went back to therapy, never needed to.

@enbeast8350 8 ай бұрын

My sister tried therapy ONCE. Her therapist told her basically "Wow, you have a lot of issues, I can't help you with them. When do you wanna schedule the next appointment?" She never went back to therapy. She "doesn't need" therapy, so she's been doing okay without it, but I know it'll definitely be hard for her to seek out help if she truly needs it because of that experience

@TheColorHopeIsBlue 6 ай бұрын

She didn’t “judge” me but I gave my first therapist a good laugh when she asked me if I’m indecisive and I said, verbatim, “Yes . . . Wait, no . . . Uh, maybe? I don’t know.” Lol. I LOVE my current therapist but I will always remember my first. She was the best fit for me at the time and was always so kind and sweet.

@blobtheblob7975 11 ай бұрын

story 9 is just horrible, I feel so awful for that guy but hate how it's probably for the better that he's not planning to see a therapist anytime soon. I'm also in the UK and have similarly bad mental health and by god it's so difficult to see anybody, it's not as bad as he had it anymore it just feels like waiting 3 years for a sugar pill with a placebo effect. He'd need to have somebody close to him find a specialist therapist for him and by the sounds of it, he doesn't trust anybody enough for that.

@TheFrozenMoogle 11 ай бұрын

Still better than what he'd have gotten in the US. He'd actually have been informed he isn't allowed to be near children, and that he's not allowed to see his girlfriends children.

@blobtheblob7975 11 ай бұрын

@@TheFrozenMoogle oh yeah of course but it's not what he needs, I'm saying too much effort for not enough in return.

@mane53017 10 ай бұрын

@@TheFrozenMooglewhat the fuck?

@multilang8624 5 ай бұрын

‘Pulled out some surprise kleptomania late into the game’ is KILLING me

@CJandEllie 2 ай бұрын

I tried therapy. Twice. Both men. I walked away after being told I'm hateful, resentful, and unattractive. Yeah, no more therapy for me!

@Xavier24781 11 ай бұрын

No: you are not your (formal or self) diagnosis. However diagnosis’ have so much power. Whether that’s good or bad is up to the beholder, just like anything it’s a tool. It allows the person to understand themselves; their current and past/future behaviors (make better or at least informed future ones), understand their conscious and subconscious, help them seek out communities and treatments, help them navigate the world and their place in it, help them see them selves in new and/or better lights, help them to understand past traumas and seek healing. Get medicated so they can actually function There is so much power in self diagnosing- including self autonomy as a whole. Do not let anyone take it away from you. It is your biggest power in life. It literally makes every facet make sense We don’t know what exists in over 70% of earth’s oceans, and we still don’t know why humans dream- all we have is theories for the latter. Don’t let anyone tell you exactly why you are the way you are darlings.

@nekorina9011 7 ай бұрын

thank you. Too many people think that self diagnosis only happens because it's "trendy", but in reality, a lot of people put a lot of thought and research into it. A lot of people also do it because therapy is a massive pain (and impossible for some people) to access due to lack of health care, financial issues, lack of transportation or lack of therapy options in their area, etc. This isn't even to mention the massive issue that is medical discrimination (for example, women and girls are SEVERELY misdiagnosed and overlooked for conditions like ADHD and autism, to the point the average age of diagnosis is in their 20s while for boys it's when they're around 7.)

@Lasuperzambi 3 ай бұрын

Story 1: My therapist always used to end our sessions with: don't you see what you have accomplished? You are awesome for doing that! And every time it took me by surprise how I never think of that. Never.

@caspercascade4623 10 ай бұрын

For story three: that's exactly why I switched from psychology and counselling to plain psychology in undergrad tbh. I physically could not deal with that scenario. I'm much happier in health psychology now honestly

@Blalack77 11 ай бұрын

Yeah, if you're a normal, decent person, it's going to be hard not to judge a pedophile.. And the last one talking about anger management and the things those men did to women - what they say there makes sense. Pedophiles are instant negative judgment but most everyone else - even violent, abusive people - could be judged based on their willingness to work on their anger/violence, their willingness to change, remorse, positivity/positive change, etc. Like their actions/crimes can be bad and the person could still work to change, improve and even become a decent/good person someday - like with work on separating themselves from their past actions or whatever.

@AmanGillNow 5 ай бұрын

Hey, mental health counsellor here, I currently work with only men in a drug rehab and I can tell you with confidence that in a group of 30 men roughly 70% have been sexually abused as children. Peer support really works… it’s having someone who has lived experience working with you. No power dynamics because you are peer to peer. Yes, that means having a peer support worker with lived experience in sexual assault. Meaning they too have experienced the same trauma, survived, and now are thriving through life.

@thiagoomine5054 6 ай бұрын

As a therapist myself, i can guarantee that the "what if a patient comes to your office and say's that he's a **** im the edge of consuming the act" is really something that get's people to give up on the psychology degree, but we have to to keep in mind that altough what the patient said, he have not done nothing and is struggling and suffering because of this thoughts. I do not judge any of my classmates who quit because of this thought since it's a hard thing to deal with in personal levels, actually, i have respect because they aknowledged their limits and weakness, is really hard to really think amd set this things when you are already mid course in uni.

@KingAtomsk 10 ай бұрын

"Brick, where did you get a hand grenade?"

@nationalinstituteofcheese3012 8 ай бұрын

This video inspires to me put up posters in my office saying things like, “Men can be abused too” just to make sure people don’t think I’m this stupid and backwards to think men can’t suffer as well

@jeongyeonsupremacy1274 4 ай бұрын

I had a therapist tell me just try not to think about it after I was taken from my home where my stepfather sexually abused me for months daily. Like thanks fam that helped a lot but anyone can tell me that. I was also showing clear signs of PTSD yet she didnt diagnose with anything. Therapist of the year.

@BlulesBlue 8 ай бұрын

i feel so bad for the UK dude, he was already broken due to all the sexual abuse and then have a "professional" that should help him destroy his mind even more is fucking terrible, i hope so much that he gets the help he needs, and i sweat to god i hope this woman loses everything, i was taught to not wish bad things even for the person i hate the most but its so hard to do when you see someone like her

@Chaos_God_of_Fate 11 ай бұрын

Impossible to help anyone without judgement, you've got to judge they need help, judge why they need help, judge what the problem is in the first place, etc. It's just stigmata- nothing wrong with judgement or bias, it can go both ways- we judge that we're alive and that the Sky is Blue too. Being up front- I've had a ton of shrinks, even gotten close and been friends with a few of them. Being honest is impossible. Most shrinks get into the profession to fix someone else instead of themselves, usually just two broken People- one seeking help, one projecting.

@YUL695 10 ай бұрын

7:10 I've been curious about whether therapists pick up on this. My teen seems to memorize symptoms of a disorder and rattle them off to a therapist so they can get a diagnosis, but the actual symptoms aren't showing up in real life.

@aeden6331 9 ай бұрын

Honestly, the pedo thing, I'd rather them go to a therapist first before committing a crime. At least they show interest in change and help. I wouldn't judge them if they chose help first

@jessicaable5095 7 ай бұрын

That was my thought. It's the recognition of those thoughts and feelings being wrong and harmful, and the desire to fix it that would certainly affect my opinion

@crystalkauffman3322 6 ай бұрын

They don't think anything is wrong with them, therefore won't ask for help.

@aeden6331 6 ай бұрын

@@crystalkauffman3322 not entirely true, my mom is a psychiatrist and she has had plenty of people wanting to find help for their pedophilia before it got bad

@aeden6331 6 ай бұрын

@@crystalkauffman3322 yes and no, my psychiatrist mother has dealt with many of these people wanting to find help before committing crimes. It's about recognition, which there are many people with a bunch of disorders including pedos who recognize their problem and get help to control it :)

@llamawalrushybrid 4 ай бұрын

I think I';ve read multiple studies that once they've already acted on their urges it's usually too late

@Plvsh_fox 11 ай бұрын

BRO ARE YOU GOOD!? is the other narrator sick??? Or did he get fired!? PLEASE tell me he's just sick🙏

@clerica5787 9 ай бұрын

Story 9 is really similar to my story, except I did try again... and again.... and again. Because of their mistreatment of me, there's 3 therapists who are no longer practicing. I no longer seek therapy because quite frankly, I just truly believe abusive people become therapists to find more victims.

@llamawalrushybrid 4 ай бұрын

Exactly my same thoughts. I've tried 12 of them. Being a nurse or police officer isn't the best option for the truly irredeemable anymore.

@chaitea4724 10 ай бұрын

Story 9 broke my heart. I hope the worst for that "therapist"

@akteno2796 11 ай бұрын

I know there is a person that has to been in such a shitshow that his therapist committed self unalive... He followed shortly after. Idk what the shitshow was, just got told to me by Closed Psychiatry Staff that lost a Colleague (wasn't in, just had IT businesses there and asked who that account belongs to that hadn't been used for a year) Idk if it was made up but i believed them, they where dead serious about it.

@constantlychanging5623 10 ай бұрын

I feel so bad for anyone looking to get therapy. I have been getting Mental Health Services since April 10, 2003 and have barely been able to keep anyone around for more than a year. I was born in 1999 by the way...

@blackqweenmars 9 ай бұрын

Remember, nothing is wrong with judging people. Judging is just having an opinion or coming to a conclusion. You’re allowed to have your opinions about people and to speculate and put two and two together. Some people have gotten in this frame of mind that they are not allowed to have an opinion or that they are not allowed to come to their own conclusions. not all judgment is negative, in fact, most judgment is positive or neutral. Judgment is an important skill to have as a human, as it is the ability to make decisions and basically think for yourself .The problem with judging arises when you express that judgment outwardly. You can judge a person internally. The only problem with judging arises when that judgment is expressed outwardly in a negative, non-constructive manner. Especially when you’re judging a person about something that you have never went through yourself or that you don’t really know anything about because then, your judgment becomes unreasonable. Never feel upset at yourself for having an opinion , making decisions or coming to conclusions, but make sure you’re coming to informed conclusions, and that you’re not outwardly judging people negatively in an unconstructive manner and you try to put yourself in the other person shoes first. Other than that, you’re allowed your opinion, your thoughts, your feelings and your emotions, however you just must be mindful about how you put those things into the world for others to see and hear.

@pothiermarie9623 11 ай бұрын

Good stuff to watch tomorrow morning let's gooo 🙏🏻

@damegataco 11 ай бұрын

It's funny you give the kudos at 14:20 when earlier on there was someone who said essentially the same exact thing the person said at 2:30 in their 2nd edit. They essentially said that there are inherit judgements that people will have, but what's important is not to allow those personal judgements to affect the professional judgement on what their decisions are in regard to how they work with and address the patients struggles and needs. Edit: How do you know it's a therapist GUY? Maybe next time use a neutral gender rather than assuming ; )

@Kaleidosaur 10 ай бұрын

Good on that one post for calling out that the thread was stupid. Confidentiality is SO important.

@ch40sart26 11 ай бұрын

The new va sounds like he could make a killer sonic the hedgehog impression.

@ABadPassword 11 ай бұрын

That's a new one, I've never tried a sonic impression 😂

@glasstatue 11 ай бұрын

i like this narrator. he's expressive :> i love him on ReallySparked

@uhhhpfft Ай бұрын

I’ve never had much luck with your basic every-other week talk therapy. After receiving a collection diagnoses during my ADHD assessment, it reaaaally began to sink in how bad my mental state was and honestly still can be. I’ve been known as those ‘too self-aware’ clients bc I’ve struggled heavily with my anxiety and PTSD, etc. all on my own for as long as I can remember and I’m a psych student. I’m terribly sorry, but only really telling me to do breathing exercises when my panic attacks would get so bad I’d hit my head against the nearest surface because I was so incredibly desperate to self-regulate. Don’t get me wrong, I’m the #1 advocate for therapy and I think it’s not utilized by people enough but I’m tired of trying to connect w therapists just to find out they’re not actually equipped to help me, but aren’t gonna tell me that.

@uhhhpfft Ай бұрын

I mentioned I’m a psych student and realized I didn’t elaborate on why that was included; I don’t know everything about mental health or coping skills (obv) but I’ve done some pretty extensive independent research and tested out many many different coping methods, CBT/DBT workbooks, even holistic stuff. I go in to therapy letting them know this, and honestly I feel like they think I’m lying or I’m not doing the homework. it just doesn’t work well enough. Breathing exercises and sensory toy bins are just a bandaid, and I was already utilizing both for years before therapy smh. Luckily, my anxiety and all that has mostly gone away after a ton of introspection and just growing up I guess (no self harming behaviors during attacks!!) But now Im dealing with ADHD deficits that I just didn’t have to deal with as a kid, and it’s fully taken over everything. I don’t even know where to begin with that realm of treatment other than stimulants (I’m on em). I was supposed to accomplish so much in college, I’m supposed to be writing a publication as an undergrad and applying to grad school for psych research. The professor I’m working with doesn’t seem to understand how difficult it is for me to do normal things, and it took me a couple years to even admit to myself it’s a legitimate disability. I stopped trying to work w her for a while cause I couldn’t take the pressure and the looks of pity or annoyance when I inevitably miss deadlines or emails (or fully fail her class because of mental health reasons! :D) I know I’m so capable and I have it in me but I feel so crippled >:( I’m just too worried if I try therapy/counseling again it’ll just be more pressure to improve with no actual improvement ://

@csx_defectdetector 9 ай бұрын

Don't judge the people, judge the actions.

@seamusodowd1556 Ай бұрын

Therapist for over 20 years, we all judge, but we don't condemn. To judge is human, but I am responsible for ensuring I stop it effecting the therapeutic relationship . I talk about such issues in supervision, which is where all therapists see another more experienced therapist, to talk about how our work impacts us

@georgiewatson8688 10 ай бұрын

It's called UPR = unconditional positive regard

@oliviatree 7 ай бұрын

These people are so insufferable. No wonder therapy has been worthless to me after my great, old school, therapist retired. I can't imagine any of these therapists being of much good to anyone.

@NiaJustNia 11 ай бұрын

My mum got a job at the local CAMHS centre after I had therapy, so she could try and access my records and those of my siblings, and my half sister she's not related to.

@KingHayabusa384 8 ай бұрын

I would have reported that therapist and sued her.

@akteno2796 11 ай бұрын

The covid after frisky party thing got me lol

@AnAngryPomeranianUnderYourBed 9 ай бұрын

Patient side, but I'm legit traumatized by this whole fucking experience: I present as femme & I was with a therapist that was seemingly into me. Like constantly proclaiming to the front desk staff IN THE LOBBY where OTHER PATIENTS ARE WAITIING, TOO, things with the vibe of: "See? Now this is how you dress!" Which made me wildly uncomfy. I was in my early 20s. I believe he was in his 50's or 60's. I discussed my r*pes, all 3, for the first time to this therapist, but not in detail. I was testing the waters of my own ability to talk about them coz they have been something that has fucked me up still to this day. It was part of my goals for therapy to work through that. At the time of me telling him, he came over to me when I asked if it was okay to bring up something p serious. He was sitting on the couch next to me sideways looking at me with his arm on the back of the couch, arm practically around me but not touching me coz he was laying it on the couch, while I did my usual comfortable thing of snuggling up in whatever comfy corner I could find, that being the furthest corner of this couch. I was basically backed in. I hate people in my personal space unless I know them. Even my dog & I respect each others personal spaces. But this huge man who towered over me (a 5'2" ~110lb femme presenting person) who had lived MULTIPLE decades longer than me SOMEHOW couldn't understand what even my DOG understands. 🙃 After hearing the absolute basics (as I got uncomfortable with him sitting so close & kinda shut down) he said: "Well you should take all of that as a compliment! 3 different men wanted you SO badly that they did whatever it took to have you.3 different men thought you were so beautiful that they did everything they could to make you theirs. Most women only DREAM of that! You're lucky! You need to take that as a compliment!" I was genuinely scared to change therapists. At one point he convinced me to go to a group therapy session only for it to be ALL older, white men & for it to turn into a white supremacist kind of talking group about 5-10 ish minutes in, with chanting and all, & me being sat by him showing me to the assigned seat himself furthest from the door & unable to escape. I have never felt so scared with the amount of people I was trapped in that room with. I am very obviously lgbtq+ in multiple ways & most men in that meeting, including the therapist who was leading the meeting, were looking at me in ways I will never forget. It's been almost a decade since then & the image in my mind, the sound of them chanting & the feeling of that fear-based adrenaline rush with my heart beating in my ears is all clear as fucking day. As if it had just happened today. And I have intense memory issues (that I see a neurologist for) so that is REALLY saying something. Needless to say, I was terrified to leave. But I managed to find a day he wasn't there & came in & worked with the front desk ladies to leave without telling him myself & changed all the contact info I had given him. The next therapist I went to was a good 35-40 minute drive away from him. Yet when I brought up the name of the therapist I left, the therapist I was seeing there VISIBLY winced & said, "Ah... yeah, we get a *lot* of patients from him..." I constantly wonder if he still works at that practice. Or if he still works as a therapist at all. Or if he was ever disciplined for things he did to other clients. Coz the stories he told me about other patients (anonymously, as not to break hippa) trying to humble brag were... horrifying. I hope he isn't a therapist anymore. I have never brought up the 3 r*pes I went through to any professional ever again.

@llamawalrushybrid 4 ай бұрын

If that was recent please please PLEASE report him. At least in the USA sexual misconduct is the only thing a therapist can truly be punished for. You desperately need to bring this up to someone in charge, such as your state's licensing board. This guy is frankly dangerous there's no ifs ands or buts about it I cannot encourage it enough.. But also consider your own safety too if you must.

@odinfromcentr2 5 ай бұрын

"...Where did you even _get_ a grenade?" "No, no, a hand grenade. A cocktail!"🍸

@BoxOKittens 11 ай бұрын

Why are people getting offended on behalf of the parent who was all "is this gonna take longer, I have a show to catch" like why are people lowkey defending that??

@Chaos_God_of_Fate 11 ай бұрын

10 Minute Guy- some parts of my life are worse, some are better. Very similar shrink/doctor experiences. I learned to not hate myself- I just hate everyone else and stay away, People kinda suck. Feel bad for the guy.

@chrismsmalley2626 9 ай бұрын

Story 12 ? The person claims conservator of several family members and what happened to them? Several died, daughter checked out and Mother fell amd broke her hip and laid on the floor for a week " eating and drinking" from the dog's bowls??? Here I call BS. she laid on the kitchen floor for 5 days, OK. She ate from the dog food bowl, ok?? How did she refill it over those 5 days? Did the dog still eat too? Then..... she drank from the water bowl?? Did the dog drink too? How did the bowl get refilled with water those 5 or six days? From the sink? How did she stand to fill it? Did she have bottled water? Then why not say she drank bottled water and not drank from the dog bowl....I call total BS.

@Octoberdoomster1 20 күн бұрын

First one, I have issues taking credit, all of the time. I managed DID, working and staying alive. Fun figuring out what has actually happened.

@lermajerms 11 ай бұрын

damn im supposed to be doing weekend homework rn but this is a good video

@wiaf8937 Ай бұрын

story 9: hooo ma gawd. poor guy.

@refertopfp9627 11 ай бұрын

All of the people here complaining about the "new voice", and I didn't even notice anything was different. Is it really that big a deal for your stolen content uploaders to have your favorite narrator?

@atomicskies_ 15 күн бұрын

3:56 How to weed out the ignorant people

@neock 11 ай бұрын

welbutrin?! dude in story 15 got lucky with the doc saying he wasnt depressed webutation may stop depression, but it fucks you up worse than cocaine and monster at the same time. it removes ALL emotion. and god forbid your on any other med that effects the mind.... story 16... whoever that op is, needs to open his eyes. out of 40 therapists, only 4 were trustworthy and didnt try to eather force the stuff out of you even if it harmed you worse, divulged your personal info to spouces that lead to it getting out thrue gossip, or just was so checked out they were a drone with zero care

@TheGuindo 11 ай бұрын

i think you just had bad luck with wellbutrin. it's been great for me, no side effects at all, and it certainly didn't kill all my other emotions. not every drug works for every person. lexapro gave me suicidal ideation so i stopped taking it after only 3 days, but for other people it's been lifesaving. there's a reason there's so many different drugs for depression and it's because everyone has a different reaction to different ones.

@noodle100100 10 ай бұрын

Wellbutrin made me borderline psychotic. I was way more of a cruel person and extremely prone to anger on wellbutrin than I ever have been in my life. I understand drugs work differently for everyone and if it works for some people, great, but it was a really bad experience for me. Only drug that has ever worked to treat my issues was Zoloft.

@imlatefortea 7 ай бұрын

ID BE ABSOLUTELY SURPRISED IF THE FIRST ONE INST MY THERAPIST KFJSJBSJDB

@ffxauron9278 11 ай бұрын

Story 9 - what the hell wow

@Chaos_God_of_Fate 11 ай бұрын

Number 16 sounds very naive for a shrink- just what I'd stay away from, that cushy World She lives in is an echo chamber.

@babyshark4717 11 ай бұрын

How do you post so much like your schedule is impressive

@UnderSparked 11 ай бұрын

Power of teamwork haha

@pothiermarie9623 11 ай бұрын

Ikr 😭😭

@Buldogg345 11 ай бұрын

@@UnderSparked Nakama Power!!

@tanyagarcia3721 10 ай бұрын

The one with the sex abuse from childhood? Maybe try again. Yeah, you were pegged wrong only the therapist that misdiagnosed you is gone from the job so you got justice in a roundabout way when she got fired for what she did to someone else. You are stronger than you think even though you aren't able to comprehend that right now if that makes sense. I don't think you want to do something wrong with kids. You want to break the cycle and don't know how. I just wanted to encourage you to try and see how that goes. It isn't your fault she didn't want to do her job correctly and did something that she shouldn't have and endangered more lives than just you. I hope that makes sense on that

@clottedscream 6 ай бұрын

hey, this is the voice of the guy from the blue channel!

@EmmaBozarth 10 ай бұрын

Ugh story 9 is so messed up bro like what the heck that therapist is actually so messed up

@pastelturtle9699 11 ай бұрын

First one: y’all depression and imposter syndrome can be a bitch to us especially when we’re aware so please cut us slack if we have a hard time cutting ourselves slack.

@Aster_Risk 10 ай бұрын

Mental illness really does make your brain lie to you.

@skylinefever 11 ай бұрын

I was sent to therapy more than once. All I ever saw was an NPC regurgitating motivation BS and toxic positivity gaslighting.

@somethingclever8916 10 ай бұрын

It sounds like some of these therapists are awful therapists.

@GiordanDiodato 9 ай бұрын

sure you can judge them, but you have to remain professional.

@y00t00b3r 7 ай бұрын

Can't deal with this voice, I'm used to the other one. This one is "acting" too hard.

@maggy-d9j Ай бұрын

story 9 pisses me off because the dude heard "therapist" and immediately started venting his completely irrelevant story in the comments and jt took up like 25% of the video

@aireparker1743 7 ай бұрын

I'm stuck in a loop of the very beginning of 9 because the way 8 is being read vs. the way I'm reading it wt my eyes is....throwing me for a reason I can't quite put my finger on..idk...... But now I'm afraid to proceed because I came to the comments to see if anybody said anything about 8 but everybody's talking about how bad 9 is

@I_urge_to_count 8 ай бұрын

I actually always think about the pedophilia thing. Like, people don’t really choose that do they? And if they want to handle it better, how do they handle that? P.S. I said I always think about it because I have POCD which really just means I’m afraid that I might be a pedo.

@Algorithmicgeneratedwordsalad 10 ай бұрын

I mean I had a tantrum at my mom one time because we didn't have any groceries in the house and my brothers got to go to Disneyland my mom had to sit me down and explained that my dad wasn't giving her any money to take care of me but she had to ride two buses to sell her plasma and even if I wanted to go with my dad he didn't necessarily want to take me which was true

@RealOscarMay 11 ай бұрын

The only good reddit reader out there :) ❤❤

@melanietornroth2829 9 ай бұрын

u sound a lot different than in the luckiest moments vid

@Trombonegoddess86 Ай бұрын

Maybe it’s because I’m not a person who is easily bored, but I find the background very distracting. I’m trying to read, not focus on whatever is happening back there.

@restingsleep 11 ай бұрын

def agree with story 8, its been a rising trend especially in online spaces like tiktok and its scary how mental illnesses can become someones identity without then person necessarily seeking help they need, self diagnosis too is on the rise which is concerning