Therapy Session: Couples Counseling- Gottman Method- Kim Lampson, PhD

When your partner is venting, offering advice or siding with the enemy shuts your partner down. Learn when it is better to stuff a washcloth in your mouth than to say something. Try this technique with your partner and you will be amazed at how much it helps your relationship.
• Mid-Weeks Discussion: ...
Here is a link to a mid-week discussion that featured Dr. Lampson and Rev. Terrance Proctor from the Church by the Side of the Road. The topic of the discussion was, "Love During Lockdown: Pushed Together and Pulled Apart During COVID-19.
Couples counseling done effectively is a great teaching tool that demonstrates good therapy using telemental health. The therapist is a Certified Gottman Therapist who helps the couple listen to and support each other. The video also teaches therapists how to introduce this technique and coach a couple through the process of learning how to communicate understanding, show empathy, validate, and ask if the other person wants advice. Most importantly, the partner learns what it means to not side with the enemy and the meaning of Washcloth Moments!

[@cassiesalinas509]

Such a sweet couple! So grateful they have been willing to do this for us therapists to grow. 💜

[@mariancounsellor]

When someone is talking about a problem and their partner is listening, I think it’s a natural response to want to try to problem solve. It’s definitely important to communicate honestly and openly as a couple and I like the way this approach was demonstrated

[@jamiesmith9943]

I don't know if it's natural, but I think it's usually a way for the listener to try to escape or avoid the challenging emotions of the speaker. It's easier to think than it is to feel for most people

[@LeonaZiyan]

I wish you would create more videos, Kim. Really amazing knowledge you have.

[@kimlampson704]

Thank you so much! I hope to do more soon!

[@arbitrarylib]

This is also helpful for friends.

[@ellenusatin6197]

Great demo, are these exercises available through Gottman relationship builder?

[@user-pq6mq8of4y]

I'm curious as a training therapist if in real life you take this amount of time to talk to the client and explain the intervention. It's seven minutes total and I personally wouldn't want to take up that much time of my clients' 50-minute session to explain the exercise. Is it because this is a training video or is this how Gottman therapy is performed?

[@jamieedwards9352]

Nope. I wouldn’t explain for that long then expect the client to remember everything. However, since it’s virtual, I would share my screen to give a visual of what’s supposed to happen as a reference. If in person, they would get something written to refer to.

[@s1n4m1n]

What if one partner rejects the advice offered?

[@OhYeaDiana]

This is really wonderful content. But the music is set so loudly that it hurts my ears unfortunately that I had to stop! I wish the music was not there as I had to stop watching and it stands in the way of your very helpful content!!❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤

[@geetikagoyal290]

Therapist volume is low clients volume is lowest , music volume so high It's so difficult to even hear what's going on

[@s1n4m1n]

The couple seems very cute so it pains me to say this marriage probably won't last. You will notice that the husband's advice to the wife was "I'll take care of the dog" and the wife's advice to the husband is "do a better job of communicating". He is demonstrating classic codependent behavior. Even if the wife is perfectly OK mentally, his behavior will slowly train his wife to give him things to do and criticize him often.