How to Create Emotional Safety for a Child with Anxiety- Dealing with Anxiety in Children Part 2/4

[@davidrudolph1102]

Even though this video is intended to help children, the advice is spot on for anyone--including our own selves. Each of us has a kind of inner child that sometimes needs affirmation and comfort when things are uncertain in our adult lives. Sometimes we have to be our own comforters and cheerleaders for that inner child that we all have within us. The words we speak over ourselves (as well as children and other adults) are incredibly important. The words can bless or curse, heal or hurt. Thank you for this wonderful video. God bless!

[@shellibabick]

My counselor taught me this! Great comment! Thank you!

[@leforain]

Exactly. Well said!

[@jeanettecarnell8933]

Wish they had this when I was younger......

[@Refiningforge]

Beautifully said.

[@CJ-hh3gx]

I just had the same thought. This is going on my "Social Awareness" playlist.

[@wenjing68]

I just love what you said about validation: “A lot of emotions just need to be seen, and then they resolve themselves because they’ve delivered their message.” 🙌🏻 This was a 💡 moment for me in understanding why validation is so helpful and important.

[@alyssapowell1799]

Ugh, that shaming section hit home. This wasn't a parent, but my math teacher made a joke and started teasing me about being very very anxious in his class. He said it was no big deal and assumed I was upset about a boy or something trivial. My mom was in hospice care and died shortly after that. I still can hear what that teacher said in my head and it really hurt that it was no big deal my mom was dying.

[@maiaheiss2991]

💝

[@nicmusic1985]

Omg that made me feel so sad 😞 I’m sorry!!

[@Vic_T_234]

relatable here too! when i was in school it felt like no one understood me at all. the only time ive ever had a teacher did see something was when my dad pinched me so hard i started crying. i had to lie tho bc I didnt want his reaction after she left.

[@CJ-hh3gx]

I am so sorry you went through that. Death of a loved one can be very hard. He was wrong to do that to you.

[@DJ-yj1vg]

That's bloody awful

[@agathahofmann6977]

I am an ICU/ER nurse and comforting is a big part of my job and I am good at it. I have always used my instincts for the differents ways it presents because I have PTSD (and now too the skills for insight and to cope) and can connect easier than most. I am always calm nowadays which helps as well. I mostly use bodylanguage in connection and even touch and calm, open energy and sometimes scared and unruly patient even lock eyes with me immediately after I step in the situation like we have an instant connection. It can be REALLY be that simple sometimes. I love it, because it is something that I value as a person with PTSD and I like goving that comfort to others in need. ❤ ❤ from the Netherlands

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

AWESOME! I love it! You are doing so much good!

[@nicolebarnes3617]

❤❤❤ the world needs more nurses like you ❤❤❤

[@lafrapele]

What is PTSD?

[@DonnaScarpa]

@@lafrapelePTSD stands for Post Traumatic Stress Disorder

[@Padraigp]

Totally when you feel like you are drowning sometimes all you need is to see somone whos swimming calmly and not someone whos also panicking that youre panicking and trying to push you down to shut you up. Just seeing somone whos calm and cinfident and swimming along is 100 times more than any shouted instructions of what to do.

[@1LaOriental]

A not so common skill is the ability to hold space. More people need to understand and develop this ability. Thanks 🙏🏼

[@celinar5507]

Great. Now we need a video on explaining how an extremely anxious and chronically depressed parent deal with an anxious kid and not totally mess with their heads. I love your videos. It’s just so hard to navigate parenthood this way. Thanks for all you do. Edit: I reread the original comment and it sounded weird to me in my head. It’s my adhd perfectionism.

[@Connie10000]

To be honest, what you said was EXCELLENTLY worded❤. I, personally would remove your edit portion🎉

[@masen0593]

this series is helping me create a better home environment for my anxiety ridden little sister. thank you

[@pamelagoodhue4077]

This is wonderful. I just realized that although I wasn't shamed for anxiety as a child, I was often told that I was just too sensitive. No wonder I was a nervous young adult.

[@Ant_bugg]

Yeah. I personally really struggle with being told things like, “you’re overthinking this.” Or “what do you think you need to do?” Or “you’ll fix it.” Because all of those imply there is a problem with how I’m feeling

[@katieesonoimporta1561]

I can stop asking what could I do better or blaming myself for making exactly all the mistakes you have mentioned. Parenting is the hardest thing to do. Trying to do my best happen to be sooo wrong! Overprotective to dismissive. We still paying for that!!!

[@elspethfougere9683]

This is so beautiful emma, I can say having worked in Ece for 15 years that what your coaching here is best practice in kindergatens and home based care also, and, when I then moved into youthwork, and community work, I could instantly see how many folks didnt have this growing up. Its a life skill, that with coaching can become natural for ourselves as adults too! Its so beautiful to draw out that line, between whats often presented as a dichotomy of permissive or controlling parenting, and actually what your describing is this huge in between area full of empathy and feelings as well as healthy boundaries, as well as connection and not being abamdoned with big feelings too early. Kids Ive seen come through that balanced way come out so well rounded its incredibly beautiful, and I would wish that for every body

[@greenagervegancookingwithm6429]

My 11 1/2yr old is a very worry/fear - based kiddo since she 9… it requires so much patience, and I feel like I am constantly trying new strategies. I really do believe in the validating and I appreciated what you said about the validation + the word “and.” This video helped me feel seen as a parent for sure! I also really appreciated that you said not to shame ourselves if we mess up. I pride myself on being a very steady person for my child with her anxieties. But just last week I tried tough love regarding her fear of a required blood draw she had to do. It was late at night in bed and so I wasn’t my best self. So I appreciate that you told me just to not ruminate on it and move forward. And I am really happy to report that yesterday, she did the blood draw, with tears, and a little shakiness walking into the appointment. But I was a steady presence for her, and she thanked me many times afterwards!

[@Padraigp]

I think of it like swimming. If youre drowning somone shouting instructions at you about how to swim is nowhere near as good as just seeing somone whos calmly swimming along confidently and sometimes it feels like when you panick other people want to just push you down underneath to shut you up or else they guve you so many directions...and sometimes all you need is to see somone else is not drowning not panicking is swimming and holding their own head above the water and you can just be there as a support rather than panicking and throwing a ring around you or grabbing you or trying to force you on your back and to relax...just having that person whos calm and steady while we flail is helpful. And sometimes all you need to learn to swim is to be allowed to flap around till you get youur head up and you may not be swimming exactly but youre flailing in your own way that works for you. And also it helps you to just have that person whos not going to get pulled down because its even more anxiety if somone gets pulled down by us in any way. Because then you think holy crap im gonna drown this other person! Gaah rven more panick!

[@trusound170]

If you are taking video suggestions, please consider this. What about lingering physical reactions to a stressful occurrence? For example, In my marriage there are irreparable problems. I can't even talk about it, or if I am approached by my spouse I feel my heart rate and nerves just kick into very high gear. I get so shakey and fumbly, even into the next few days I will feel the knot in my stomach and a high heart rate as well as loss of appetite. You know some people eat when they are stressed, well I lose my appetite. It feels very hopeless and I feel so stupid that this is how my body over reacts. **EDIT** I have to add how much I appreciate all of the responses here. Thank you to everyone who took their time to give me a suggestion or encouragement or their own relative feelings. I hope you all have a wonderful weekend!

[@jeromenelson4093]

1. Not being in control of your body responses sucks! But it's not your fault if you can't control it 2. She covers videos related to this in a couple of playlists: kzbin.info/aero/PLiUrrIiqidTVOFopSNaKy6ieGbmuhkxQw kzbin.info/aero/PLiUrrIiqidTVNQB5GrD2uh-bmfUGGwh-z Would recommend going to a psychotherapist if you can :-). It helped me - it's still an ongoing process though. Hardest part is learning to be patient with myself when the anxiety/fear hits.

[@semsmeb9745]

maybe a breakup would be an option if the problems causing you this stress really are irreparable`?

[@trusound170]

@@semsmeb9745 That is firmly underway. However, the confrontations are my issue at hand. MY fear response is crazy high. I am working on it. It's a a tough road.

[@trusound170]

@@jeromenelson4093 Thank you

[@TM15HAKRN]

Getting A counsellor would be good If you can get spouse to agree to it A third person can calm one's nerves.. They offer support that Will help.. Also find out causes.. Nd gv remedies.. Sorting out things Better if you can Best of luck God bless you.. 😆

[@tmanning6829]

I gain so much from your video's Emma. I'm a trained psych, however I often need reminding of a particular area for a client ( or myself for that matter!).Also, your material is excellent to share with clients so we are on the same page with languaging an issue - particularly Bessel Van Der Kolk. Thank you for putting so much passion and quality into your work, it's a tremendous resource.

[@Vic_T_234]

This was exactly how my parents were! they didn't understand about my mental health tho,so i was treated badly for it as a child. it felt like no one understood me. I'm now going to therapy and undoing a lot of things that happened as a 27 year old.

[@julien4741]

I had so much unaddressed anxiety as a child. I know I jumped in and tried to rescue my own kids so often because I related too much.

[@theartzscientist8012]

Our home is very peaceful and our 14 year old still endures anxiety. I try to help him to get out of his head.

[@gesundheitfuerempathen]

Thank you, it is helpful what you tell us here. One thing I would like to have a discussion about, is the term FUNCTIONAL. In my opinion, it's tricky to use this term in relation to an unhealthy society as ours. Being functional many times is anything else but healthy, isn't it? I think, as adults, in order to really take care of our children and to really be present, this definitely needs to be addressed! Otherwise we will have to deal more and more with resilient but selfish children, and I'm talking about that selfishness, which shows up as a character disturbance, where everything is all about "me, myself and I". And we definitely have enough of those humans on earth, don't we?

[@jennyboda8421]

Sometimes I don’t mind that my phone is listening at all times. I’m having a problem where going to school is making my kids anxious and by just taking a break, my KZbin feed put this video second on my list. I can’t tell you how much this all helps! 😢

[@CityThatCannotBeCaptured]

Loving and supporting and nurturing ourselves is what is most important not connection to others. Telling people that they 'need a support network' is very unhelpful to those who are isolated. Also anyone on a genuine spiritual path WILL face isolation. It's necessary and when you learn to handle it and to connect properly with yourself and God, is the most grounding. sanity bringing, strengthening thing you will ever do.

[@Kenseyblue]

Thank you for this video! As a mom I struggle with this and knowing how to help my kids. I'm so glad I've seen this when they are younger.

[@daresaryan8229]

I agree, except when it comes to misophonia... I spent 30+ years giving my all to use tools and will power to overcome it and it only got so much worse. When I finally have myself permission to be happy, I got good earbuds and ear plugs and it's changed my life immensely ❤

[@jocelyn5196]

I agree. Mine actually got better when I gave myself permission to use ear plugs when needed. My doctor said it would make things worse but it helped lower my overall stress which allowed my sensitivity to slowly decrease. Perhaps it’s not a black and white one approach is right, one is wrong thing.

[@TazTishaPotate]

That’s because misophonia is literally a physical thing, having to do with the connections in the brain. If your brain is functioning abnormally, you literally cannot overcome it with will. I’m so glad people are researching misophonia now because now we know more than ever about it and will continue to learn about it, and that’s the most important first step in learning how to treat it properly.

[@jocelyn5196]

@@TazTishaPotate great to know! My doctor said it’s just caused by anxiety which didn’t seem quite right to me, or at least an incomplete explanation

[@TazTishaPotate]

@@jocelyn5196misophonia and anxiety are often linked but you’re right, it doesn’t seem right. For me, it’s been a huge relief to read the research happing. Even though there’s still lots of questions about how it actually works, the fact that misophonic responses are measurable and observable in the brain are pretty powerfully informative. It’s basically evidence that it’s real, and no one can deny that anymore. Even if misophonia is eventually found to be related to anxiety in some way, the research would suggest that it’s still different than anxiety, which would therefore mean that it needs to be treated differently as well. Very important stuff. I can’t link it because KZbin deleted the first reply with the link, but you can copy and paste this search into google. Read the one posted on Frontiers, because it’s the whole paper available for anyone to access: “Investigating Misophonia: A Review of the Empirical Literature, Clinical Implications, and a Research Agenda”

[@abbierose2278]

From a purely anecdotal perspective, I've had Misophonia for most of my life, and far and away the number one thing that helps is identifying and treating the underlying emotion. It used to be that most all I could feel was fear when I was triggered, but as I've become more emotionally aware, I've noticed big feelings, like inferiority and neglect hiding under the surface. And often when the emotion resolves, so do the triggers.

[@InfinityCalling]

It is called HOLDING SPACE for someone = safe space, one of togetherness, connection, compassion & empathy, without judgement.

[@paulwellness]

This is so helpful! Those on the outside may not know how dangerous anxiety can be, especially since it's so commonly diagnosed, but it can make it difficult to grow and make decisions properly. This isn't just helpful to parents, but even many children, teens, or even adults who are self-reflecting on their own anxiety

[@ixchelssong]

My father was the person I was most afraid of. He was not a nice guy. I was so happy when our mother took us and left him. I was 14 when that, which was so beyond my expectation, happened.

[@melusine826]

Welp it's a miracle I'm even moderately occasionally functional then..... my mums anxiety and health controlled my first 20 years so that didn't model or provide a safe space. Her anxiety always mattered more. Still does

[@Change4Good333]

Excellent advice and presentation!🌟 Thank you so much! I wish I knew these things when my child was little. Although I'm glad I can still use these principles with my adult child. God bless!💜

[@shelteredsparrow2736]

Well said We were missionaries and moved a lot. My kids changed schools a lot. I told them that they will be put down. It is a test. If you turn the put down into a joke there will be less tendency for them to put you down. I told my daughter to start a spy club with the other girls. That helped her make friends. That helped. All three kids became Marines. We have a name that drill sargents would really go after. I told my daughter that they are actually trying to grow you as a person to help you get over your fears. I told her that, when they went after her name think to herself “this is something I have had to deal with my entire life. I can deal with this. She told me that they did go after her name for a day but when she didn’t respond they stopped. I constantly have people ask what my secret as a parent was. It was the things you said in validating their fears but not coddling them

[@mangosandtea]

I’ve watched many psychology videos. You are special though. You are comforting, informative, intelligent & clear! subscribeddddd! 👏

[@litadex]

I wish I had you as my therapist. Thank you for your videos!

[@annaannieann4695]

I have just found this channel and it's giving me hope for the first time in my life. I was abused when I was 11 years old and I only recently decided I want to live the happy life I deserve. I struggle a lot with a sort of age regression where I talk and act like a toddler around my parents, like my brain is trying to bring me back to a time preceding the trauma. It would be cool to see a video on how to fix this. I've tried therapy but I feel disconnected from doctors in Italy, they always seem disinvested and they end up saying very banal things, so it wasn't working for me.

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

Sorry to hear about your difficulties...I hope you can find the support you need

[@MsGaella]

very good. I will use this to help my anxious inner child. Thanks so much!

[@melanie98d]

Love the greenhouse analogies 🌱

[@ToddSloanIAAN]

I'm 65 with anxiety. My query that led me here this morning was typing in letting go of bad experiences. A question came to me through self inquiry; I now realize as I'm waking up that something of a rehashed and undesirable feeling is driving me to become loaded up negatively on a goose chase to find out what's wrong next, however, it's wrong right now because I don't know what it is and I'm comfortable believing that it will reveal itself. Okay. That's the scenario I face everyday of my life that doesn't really have this breakdown to describe itself. The feeling of ugliness is just there that it was here in me and it's unfinished and it's going to go on and there's nothing I can do about it. I am hardly a very functional person dependably.

[@DJ-yj1vg]

The worst one I get is, just be grateful for the things you have.

[@carlt570]

Brilliant - So refreshing to hear such comprehensive understanding presented in such a straightforward fashion 🙂

[@eyziets]

Thank you I love and appreciate your advice.

[@er6730]

Is there a good way to teach the idea that pain is inevitable? (And really not such a big deal) Often i am taken aback by my 10yos reluctance to do anything that might hurt. Not even enough to damage her, just be uncomfortable.

[@toyahbetheglory2140]

She is small and has her own biology that may be super sensitive compared to yours. Maybe she is more than just uncomfortable: your level of comfort as an adult is not accurate as a measure of how damaging the events will feel to her. Try validating her experience of being, ask her WHAT she feels more than why (teaches to identify and understand emotions and not to justify or judge them) and encouraging her by sharing the situations that make you feel similar emotions.

[@tirinandkatten]

I hear you.. mine is 11 and has a pain threshold that is barely there, physically and emotionally. It takes all my strength sometimes to respond in a helpful way.

[@er6730]

@@toyahbetheglory2140 actually, I think I have a low pain threshold as well, but a high pain tolerance. (Like, certain sounds and lights and textures feel like they hurt, but I've come to realize that it's not damaging me and I just have to breathe and get through it. As a result, I can handle things like childbirth, that is commonly felt as painful, with a fairly stoic attitude because I'm used to things hurting without going into a panic) So, I don't feel like I can be helpful aside from saying "life is pain, get used to it" 🤔 I somehow don't think that will help. I got "toughened up" by people, including my parents, snickering at my reactions as a kid growing up in a culture where strength was one of the primary virtues. I don't want to snicker at her, though.

[@toyahbetheglory2140]

@@er6730 its definitely a tough situation. We as adults have developed callouses as a natural result of experiencing the rough parts and pains of being alive; the children have yet to develop their own tough skin, they will over time though. "Life is pain get over it" was the message I received as a child, and it was not helpful, it took awhile to understand that they meant it to be helpful, by sharing what worked for them. I had to learn, much later on, how to deal with and process pain in a way that works for me, because I tried their way and it doesn't work for me. It's sad to hear you came from a similar "tough it out" background where ridicule was used, it's uncomfortable how common it seems to be. It would explain why the natural reaction is to repeat what some of us were forced to absorb as children, the idea that "getting over feelings is better than processing them and accepting them: reject the feeling by being too strong for those weak emotions"... something like that anyway. The message our families gave us was to disconnect from ourselves and not take our own emotions seriously. My guess is that a healthy adult would try to point out to the child that the emotion is there, and has a value as information, but that the child can learn how to gain control over their emotions and not let their fear control what they can do. It would have been helpful to know back then that it's possible to take our own feelings into consideration and learn how to self soothe, and to feel safe and do uncomfortable things anyway. No one modeling that for us makes it difficult to model for others. What was modeled for many of us is that feelings should be treated as not correct, invalidated, and then disowned in ourselves and in others. The detailed instructions of how to "just get over it" have never been explained to me, just to do it, and then I was hit for not stuffing my feelings well enough, the feelings that I couldn't turn off or change, or hide. Due to that, I have a strong opinion about these things. Some of us are not able to "get over" things, we have to get through them another way, which is easier when someone is not exasperated that we're not able to do it *their way* and make it work. Square pegs and round holes and all. Help finding a variety of options to address the feeling instead of disowning it would be useful, so if that is not your strength maybe seek out people who can help figure out more ways to navigate emotions than just not having them. 🤷‍♀️ I'm no expert, just another person with baggage and a desire to improve, and your desire to do what's best for your daughter by helping her not be handicapped by emotional pain is an admirable thing. Hoping your journey is a fruitful one with this, it's no cake walk.

[@er6730]

@@toyahbetheglory2140 the idea of pointing out that the emotion is information, but doesn't have to be in control of what you decide to do is just what I needed, thank you! I am much more "happy go lucky" than my daughter, who takes things quite seriously. My motivation to muscle through pain is always that if I don't, I'll miss out on all the fun and excitement, and the choice between missing out and participating has always been an easy one for me. For her it's different, she likes calm and peaceful. Not that she's against fun, she's actually got a great sense of humour. But it's less of a draw, not enough to pull her out of the fear of pain. Thanks so much for your time and that phrase in particular. My "dreading it is the worst part, so might as well accept it, and then it's not so bad" was not connecting with her.

[@MrXXblackyXx]

I don't know if you are going to read this comment but thank you so much for your videos they really helped me alot when I was having a hard time and I have this one issue if you can pin point at it in one of your videos, I actually have a boss right now that is so frustrated at me for being calm when I'm under pressure saying that I don't really care for work and I don't care to complete my tasks eventhough everyone knows that I'm above average person I do everything and more and even I exceed everyone's expectations. Appreciate your help

[@elizabethsummermeado]

Such incredible advice. Thank you, you are simply amazing. 🙏💕🙏

[@mamamica1000]

Thank you so much for all of this.

[@patriciaarmstrongnavarro1165]

Thank You ! I so appreciate your videos!

[@rose8968]

This is a GEM!!!

[@friendofbts3398]

I cry so much at your videos I wish my mom was like this Do you work online ? Can you be my psychologist ?

[@amenhotep7704]

Thank you Mrs. Mcadam !!❤❤

[@JuJuLuvsYou]

Thank you so much! Super helpful

[@peggyscribner2604]

Excellent! I love your hair...i might copy you...not in a weird way rather in a "That's cool!" Way. Have a great mothers day!

[@betealvarez]

O wish my parents had watched this video 44 years ago. I think it’s too late, the damage is done 😢

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

you can always reparent yourself. They taught you a message, you can choose to buy into it and believe it or replace it.

[@Alphacentauri819]

A brain who has undergone such trauma, will sometimes lie to us...and say things like "it's too late". While you can't change the past, you can change your future. You can rewrite the subconscious programs that were conditioned in, by your parents. You get to choose how you will speak to, relate to, show up for, yourself, in the here and now. Otherwise, you are letting those who hurt you determine your whole life. Empowerment is taking the reigns and claiming self advocacy, having your own back, and giving yourself the attention, connection, attunement, that you imagine a small child or baby animal would need. With deep reverence and compassion. If you show up for yourself, day by day, you will see the healing, the transformation. It is possible 💫💛

[@abbierose2278]

​@@Alphacentauri819 I know this comment wasn't meant for me, but thank you ❤

[@Alphacentauri819]

@@abbierose2278 you're welcome! Whoever it can help, it's for :) I've been on a long path of healing, and I've learned it is possible. Sometimes it's a twisty road, but progress can happen. I wish you peace and blessings 💗

[@eileenchang2173]

Excellent advice however I would recommend removing the statement that kids are super resilient. All my life I have heard that statement from many in the industry, and unfortunately I have seen the outcome when a child did not have that protective shell to live through the anxiety and /or had a tragic experience e.g. assault . Thanks for considering this recommendation.

[@joeriveracomedy]

Associating with loser relatives was a ok in my childhood, cuz hey, they're related and that makes their transgressions null in void apparently.

[@manib4189]

Emma any chance you can do a video on panic/anxiety attacks on a plane please!

[@xiomanaxoxoxo3212]

Excellent video

[@sadie9386]

Question: what advice would you give to a parent with an anxious child in the following situation.There are two children. The boy is 2 years older than his sister. The boy hates his sister and uses every and any opportunity daily to put down, ridicule, hurt and humiliate his sister. No s^^ual abuse. Some se**alised language. Physical abuse- punches to the face, arm twisting,kicking. The girl is incredibly anxious around her brother.

[@jssmith1608]

The family needs counseling all around and behavioral interventions. Issues like getting to the cause of son's behavior, parents learning skills to not reinforce his behavior and deal with cause of behavior, and deal with parental dynamics that could be contributing to son's behavior. And possible psych eval for son and medication management.

[@ekenechristyike5461]

I think you should also check the cartoons he's watching, be sure your home is peaceful too. Most times kids repeat what they see in front of them. Check his daycare center also or whoever he spends most of his time with. TO BE SURE THAT ITS NOT A LEARNED BEHAVIOR. I FEEL SAD FOR THE SISTER. A needs a lot of validation and a strong emotional support from home.....daddy. I hope she's getting that already cos it's very key in facing the world as she grows. Pls🙏🙏❤️she has to KNOW AND FEEL that mum and dad cares about her. Talk to the brother more to find out why. IS HE JEALOUS OF SOMETHING 🤔🤔 The boy should not be allowed to continue the behavior...SO HE DOESN'T DAMAGE THE GIRL OR EVEN BREAK HER. HE TOO NEEDS TO LEARN TO TREAT HIS SISTER WITH RESPECT.... He's still a child, but now is the time to unlearn and learn. I hope this helps... Experience between my siblings ❤❤ they will be fine.

[@gesundheitfuerempathen]

May sound awkward, but check on and make sure the son doesn't watch p*rn! Nowadays children have access and many possibilities, they start watching violent p*rn at age of 8 to 9 years. The hints you were giving might show in this direction. The influence on young people is like the elephant in the room, which we deny, still it is there. If he has done it already again and again, someone needs to talk to him about this topic and he has to realize and work on how he has gotten brainwashed already.

[@jssmith1608]

@@gesundheitfuerempathen Sad but true. I am not suggesting this is true of this boy's parents, but If parents don't have any parental controls on child's phone to limit access (and most kids are savvy and know how to side step such controls), then 8-9 year-olds have complete access to all forms of sexual perversion. We have yet to know how this will impact the upcoming generations's psyche.

[@elsaleyva8387]

Thank u, I really needed to learn this.

[@Marina_7]

Unrelated, that shirt (and its colour) looks gorgeous on you! Beautiful

[@SusanaXpeace2u]

My parents got so angry with me if I showed emotion. It affects me most dealing with them. I can't seem to tolerate it any more. I'm 50 they're in their 70s. They're still the same, 2 against 1. "Submit to our narrative or endure silent treatment". There is no 3rd option to see each other as real people and talk, and care. They have really diminished me. I need to give up hoping.

[@victoriacortina7715]

Love this. Thank you.

[@MarinSofin]

I was just listening to it and I thought: "why not use these tools as a guide to parenting my inner child?" Thoughts on this ?

[@davidw1732]

Hi, I can't find part 3 and 4 of this series. Can you help me locate them? Thank you

[@SuperMar10GalaxyBro]

So nice 😊😊 love the analogies you use!! 🎉❤

[@Humanessence778]

Such good advice. Thank you.

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

Thanks :)

[@cassiestevens8382]

Thanks❤

[@andreaw5874]

Where can I find part 3/4? I love watching your videos! I can't seem to find the link, however, that you mention you share in your description for the "next video" in every video I've watched. Would love your guidance so I can continue watching these in sequence! Thank you!

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

I haven't published it yet, coming in the next few weeks

[@robyncooperramsey8323]

Excellent!

[@chakibleeb]

What if a kid is autistic and you know that the level of anxiety that they would experience giving a speech would be enormous. Is that rescuing them?

[@Dietconsulting]

I would suggest you get you child to do a zoom recording then next time speak in front of the teacher, then with trusted friends before the whole class. It's breaking down the process into manageable chunks.

[@BeeWhistler]

Well, I agree that Autism is different. She acts as if the only obstacle to an oral presentation is your own fear. But the things that you fear about an oral presentation may in fact be 100% real and "facing" your fear means forcing them to endure the very thing they dread. Even if somehow your peers aren't just waiting for you to screw up so they can make fun of you for it, as is true of many awkward kids, there's still the issue of feeling exposed. It's like saying, "You're afraid you'll be bitten by a poisonous snake? Well, best way to handle that is to introduce you to my friend Bitey the Mamba..." If you can't deal with eye contact, making you endure three escalating stages of forced eye contact isn't an accommodation.

[@inelouw]

My friend is dealing with a child who is very anxious because of constant bomb threats in her school. They've had about 1 or 2 a week over the past 5 months. So the physical safety, the basis, is already compromised. Are there any ways to work with that?

[@created4passion442]

Or w someone experiencing feelings of anxiety

[@tinkergnomad]

Wish it said "for kids," in the title, or thumbnail.

[@jertho8482]

Emma , you’re children are so lucky !!

[@shellibabick]

Her children are BLESSED!

[@maiaheiss2991]

Yes in my next life maybe I will be so lucky as to be one her children.

[@J_H72]

Good stuff

[@lowtech42]

May Jordan Neely rest in peace 😔🙏🏾

[@38k25m]

How do I cope with the fact that i literally have no friends??

[@user-zv8rz4ws1c]

M thinking always a lot cant let go the things which happened because of that my mind my body is so weak and my head always pains plz help me plzzz🙏🙏🙏

[@richardwilsonavena]

Can you do a video on insecurity?

[@henri-s4780]

❤

[@jeremytipton6076]

Has anyone ever mistook you for Scarlett Johansson?

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

😂 definitely not

[@rietzhu]

This is sad, children shouldn't have anxiety, I never had it when I was a kid.. only in my adult life.. we have got to be doing something wrong if everyone has it.. its becoming a "thing".. evil 3 headed hydra.

[@AJ-ce7xu]

It's all related to the crap food and the microbiome.

[@Alphacentauri819]

I didn't think I had anxiety in my childhood...as I was in almost constant fight/flight...but later, after therapy, much nervous system regulation, I could look back and realize that my adult anxiety was a greater manifestation of the unresolved childhood anxieties.

[@Alphacentauri819]

@@AJ-ce7xuthat is a piece for sure, but not all of it. Gut/brain axis is an important part of the puzzle...but if you abuse/neglect a child and give them whole organic foods, they will still develop nervous system dysfunction, in most cases.

[@Quetzalcoatl-Dragon_97]

​@@Alphacentauri819 As someone who grew up eating organic food and was psychologically abused, can confirm.

[@doodadofdeath5673]

I was scared she was gonna go all self confidence movement and child worship. stuff. I'm so glad. this wasn't that. my dumbass parents used to talk that stuff up all the time.

[@BeeWhistler]

Wait... waitey wait here... So we shouldn't shame our children for their fear by telling them there's no reason to be afraid. And we shouldn't be there for them when they are afraid. And the only right option is walking a razor's edge between the two or you'll damage your kids... but don't worry, kids are resilient. Are you kidding me? The generalizations are none too pleasant, either. You assume that everyone watching the video who has ever told their kid there's nothing to fear did so in a shaming manner. Sometimes they need to know there's no actual danger. And you tell us to be there for our kids without being there. Strikes me as a contradiction. And none of this even considers the possibility that there is something to fear and yet the kid is expected to face it anyway, and issue all too common in modern society. Or that the child suffers from a neurodivergence that requires accommodation, not cuddly reassurance. Or that the parent might have so much on their plate that they can't manage to have the perfect answer all the time. It's a little late for me, I've already raised three kids very badly indeed. But I'm not sure this would have been encouraging back when they were small. Seems like you can never do anything right.