How to Deal With Anxiety - The Step-by-Step Guide

[@kristenr2411]

"Anxiety isn't dangerous; it's just a signal asking us to clarify if we're safe or not." I love this statement. What a delightful and refreshing explanation.

[@zhrhmzhx]

OMG YESSS 😭 I alwaysss alwaysss associate anxiety with negativity, never really have a full thought process on this new pov. Ugh. Just loving this :)

[@PraveenSrJ01]

I definitely agree with you fully

[@peteypickles3262]

I LOVE that!

[@lessismore8533]

Still an awful feeling for me and I consider that danger sometimes

[@Chickaqee]

@@lessismore8533 not dangerous, just uncomfortable

[@JavaBlues47]

What struck me was to not run away from the feelings, but to lean into them. Brilliant and will be my new mantra. At the age of 76 it proves we are never too old to learn new life coping skills.

[@ahmetberat7357]

Anxiety happens when you think you have to figure out everything all at once . Breathe . You're strong . You got this . Take it day by day .

[@raphaelquintin3734]

I have researched and found out that shrooms are very helpful , it has really helps to reduce anxiety and depression . I would love to try magic mushrooms but I can't easily get some , Is there any realiable source I can purchase one

[@eliascharles9742]

@Camillius Hyginus Does he ship?

[@lucasanthony5648]

The Trips I've been having have really helped me a lot , I finally feel in control of my emotions and my future and things that used to be mundane to me now seem incredible and full of nuance on top of that I'm way less driven by my ego and I have alot more empathy as well.

[@kutevince7347]

@@lucasanthony5648 Tripping is not all that bad but one has to find a good mycologist to teach you the right things you need to know

[@gaeliqbal3952]

I am feeling the same way too, I put too much on my plate and it definitely affects my stress and anxiety levels. I am also glad to be part of this community.

[@deannabarbieri5343]

I just want to say that this video is a literal answered prayer. I have been having A LOT of panic attacks the past few weeks, and I know that God is telling me that it's time to face the anxiety I struggle with instead of try to run away from it and numb it out, like I have been doing my whole life. And there was a day where I had yet another panic attack and I had some quiet time with God, and I asked Him, how do I actually work through the feelings in a panic attack and truly process these emotions? Literally this video came up on my KZbin feed like an hour after that! I printed out the helpful checklist and on the bottom, I wrote Philippians 4:13 "I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength." So I thank God and I thank you for making this KZbin channel! I have utilized a lot of your videos before, but as I get more intentional in my walk with God and my mental health journey, I will definitely be utilizing more of your videos! God bless you! ❤✝😌

[@isaiahdockery77]

How are you doing now?

[@PraveenSrJ01]

Hope you are doing better now

[@Sirie7206]

How are you feeling now?

[@aesqueth2815]

U alright?

[@FlavoredRaptor1]

Similar story here, thank God.

[@crashoverride9811]

Over the past year, I have developed very bad health anxiety, specifically my heart. Everytime I get a weird feeling in my body, my anxiety goes to 10 and my mind immediately goes to heart attack or stroke. My chest gets tight and painful, my arms/hands get tingly/numb and my heart races. I can't even take meds anymore because I'm too scared it will cause side effects and make things worse. It's debilitating and I can't enjoy life anymore. Your videos have been helping me a lot so thank you for all that you do.

[@vivian3299]

I also have this. I’m literally going to the doctor tomorrow to get a referral to check my heart. 😭 this is so hard. But I’m trying

[@maryanndutton4956]

@@vivian3299It’s so difficult to face this fear head on. I just did it. Let us know how things go/went?

[@0keppes0]

What you’re describing is when your anxiety is creating chronic / acute hyperventilation. I suffered from this in the past, ended up at the hospital thinking that I was getting a heart attack. I changed: being open about my feelings Had hard conversations with my wife. Went deep to find the basis of my fears. Picked up sports again. Stopped caffeine intake, reduced alcohol drinking and over time just accepted or stopped a lot of things that made me anxious. Like procrastination. My work, wife and friends all respected my feelings and I learned that I can share them and trust others to not run away from them. To be less hard on myself and others. And really focused on the basics. Eat, sleep, be active invest in a social network. A therapist helped. But changing the basis is difficult because I have traumas and a sport injury. That is something I have to accept and has rooted in my nervous system. I haven’t been able to move to that everything will be alright mindset. I’m now here because we recently decided to move house and the uncertainty related to this is killing my sleep again.

[@Joao-ny7uq]

I suffer from the exact same. I started experiencing dizziness and it might be related to health problems (altough the cardiilogist said its probably nothing and just due to my weight loss journey), but nonetheless I still have exams and the waiting is just killing me... Health Anxiety is so so terrible 😞. I want to tell you that I was extremely afraid of taking medication for anxiety because of the small probability of the meds triggering dizziness, but I want to reassure you that medication exists to help people like us! Keep up the good fight

[@AwangKhairunnas]

I am in the same situation as you. Just now i felt my heartbeat beating fast and thought this was a heart attack or something. I went to a doctor and asked for a scan. Did a scan and everything was normal. Just my heartbeat is going fast. The doctor said it is anxiety and as soon as i heard that my heart is normal and is just my anxiety, i calm down a bit. He didn't give me any medication and just said to try and relax and control my anxiety. I'm trying and I'm calm now. Go for a check up and get clarity. Sometimes clarification can help with anxiety because you can figure out how to heal yourself. Not by overthinking the ifs and buts.

[@jamesmurphy3219]

When experiencing any kind of anxiety or fear, do the opposite of what your initial penchant is. Instead of turning away from it, turn toward it. Explore it and know that it is impermanent. It doesn't define you as a human being. It is merely a sensation and experience that you're having in this present moment.

[@jamesmurphy3219]

Hello Heather. I'm not a therapist but my advice would be to prioritize your goals and do your best to commit to them, one at a time. I've tried doing that for myself. Applying myself to whatever goals I have while accepting any anxiety that I experience and working through it.

[@fionad6338]

Wow i have screenshot of your text. Super helpful for me in a situation that was going to resolve quickly but i wzs still anxious

[@twztid13]

@@heathersterling_ better exploring this would be to me, to ask, "why am i feeling this? Why does being indecisive make me feel this way?" Then, u can get to the bottom of what causes this when u can't make a decision. U can also try to make a list of the choices, and put a few important details on each to help u finally decide, if that's all that needs to be done to get rid of this anxiety. Think of pro's & cons of each & which cons will be worse, or pros better. That's what i would do, if i were u, & following his advice.

[@sourav7214]

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[@chrishayes5755]

@@heathersterling_ start building momentum in extremely small ways. start with things that are beneficial that you generally enjoy. example: create a new habit of doing art, reading, writing, dancing.. every single day you're locked into it. pick whatever you actually enjoy in life. this creates momentum which is critical. every week stack on a new habit and slowly lock in a more rigid protocol adding more difficult and beneficial habits as you go. be sure to include lots of self-care and be kind to yourself (up until recently I was unaware self-care is a thing 😆)

[@elizabethwilliams6651]

Psilocybin saved my life. I was addicted to heroin for 15 years and after Psilocybin treatment I will be 3 years clean in September. I have zero cravings. This is something that truly needs to be more broadly used in addiction treatment.

[@Jennifer-bw7ku]

Psychedelics saved me from years of uncontrollable depression, anxiety and illicit pill addiction. imagine carrving heavy chains for over a decade and then all of a sudden that burden is gone. Believe it or not in a couple years they'll be all over for treatment of mental health related issues.

[@jeffsmith2447]

Shrooms was the best trip I had. It was an amazing experience.

[@patriaciasmith3499]

Dr.spores is the best, he's been my go to for anything psychedelics.

[@user-eb5wl5le7r]

Lsd gave me panic attacks all day for months and unlocked a higher level of anxiety in me. I also know people who have/tried to kill themselves on psychedelics. Im glad it helped you but please dont tell people its a silver bullet.

[@MajorLuLu1111]

​@user-eb5wl5le7r I had the same experience (on mushrooms)... Once was enough 😢

[@Venice1917]

Emma, you are really just the best. You´re structured, clear, constructive and above all, human. You have helped me on so many levels and I`m sure I`m speaking for countless others. Thank you so much

[@priyanarayanan5261]

yes!

[@ShuriBear]

I have GAD, diagnosed in 2020, and I cannot describe how much my therapist and your videos have helped me. Thank you so much for your effort, time and knowledge.

[@koorigashi87]

Funny, I could literally say the same about myself - also got a GAD diagnosis in 2020 and I'm still learning how to cope with my therapist and Emma's amazing videos on the side. Take care ❤️

[@PraveenSrJ01]

I have a social anxiety disorder and have trouble speaking to strangers

[@calisingh7978]

@@PraveenSrJ01 that is so very interesting considering your Indian and I would assume very socialized from a young age. Ask in the name of Jesus Christ to wake up when you are having night mares. Repeat until you wake up, over time bad dreams will get shorter and shorter until you don’t have the bad dreams anymore.

[@EliasKjellsson-wh3gf]

I have gad and adhd😖

[@HeIIoImKarI]

Right after watching this video I can already say it was a life changer for me. So much stuff nobody has ever told me and I've been struggling with anxiety for at least 10 years now. Thank you so much Emma.

[@emilyelizabeth295]

Honestly just listening to you helps so much with my anxiety. I get it so bad some days it makes my heart hurt. ❤️😭 but you make it better tbh. Thank you for that. And God bless you for being such a wonderful person. You helped me today get over my anxiety for today. I’m so thankful.

[@abdullahalhelal8445]

Right

[@nicolasap86]

This woman is a hero.

[@thatgurl101]

Absolutely!

[@ridaamanglorkar-y4g]

im eighteen, i cried while watching this. thank you so much for this ❤

[@laurau-w8]

I recommend downloading the free worksheet and taking notes on it while watching the video to grasp the concept better. Amazing video as always

[@stephenduncan8292]

Long term 'anxious type'- and 'familial' ['runs in my family']. Have read a lot of simple 'SH' guides over many years - like a lifetime (50/73 yrs !). I have to agree on your KEY being the acknowledgement of the REALITY of the nuisance of anxiety. Opening up to the 'the physical of it' (the experience) and 'the thinking of 'It' (standing back and noting the thoughts about 'It'). A restatement; an 'exam' in of the anxiety forms. Thank you Emma McAdam. I watch your insightful presentations on/off (time to time) and I think your 'de-mystification' and 'making real'' the experience of 'fear forms' is for me positively reinforcing. I really noticed and valued your 'Resurrection of Freud' and his aphorism "Anxieties buried alive, never die" ! Just one other wisdom statement is [perhaps ?] 'No-one ever DIED from anxiety or the anxiety experience'' (because The Anxious tend to a CAUTIOUS, SAFER [duller?] way of life ?) But anxiety as a body-feeling CAN BE B___Y TERRIFYING and make the Anxious often FEEL very uncomfortable, as in 'very pained'. For me, the 'fight goes on' (no option, the alternative is WORSE !) 😊

[@inyouall]

*A TIP* : Carve out time to treat yourself well and be kind to yourself. It's hard to focus on your own feelings if you're busy worrying about how other people are treating you. If something is bothering you, talk about it with your partner. That way, both of you can do what you need to do for yourselves and the relationship.

[@woutermanders]

Love this comment! Exactly how I eased my own anxiety. Be kind to yourself! ❤️

[@marciejones3538]

These are a few types of anxiety, what about health anxiety? When you’re afraid of dizziness, etc? Your videos are so helpful. Thank you so very much.

[@Eliana.Gia2]

Omg I’m the exact same. I suffer with extreme vertigo and health anxiety has absolutely ruined my life. Look up the medical medium on Instagram or on his website.

[@kenpederson4070]

Check out the book It's Not All in Your Head. Very helpful for health anxiety.

[@annie322]

I have a hard time just stepping into a hospital.

[@susano7587]

I’m right there with you all on the health anxiety!!!! It is AWFUL.

[@np4419]

Me too!!! Me tooo!! I thought I was the only one who felt like all of you do!

[@alessandrakcardozo8683]

Thanks for helping people, helping me. I was anxious all my life. 40 years ago, when I was an adolescent no one ever talked about these type if feelings. We didn't know how to name it and how to deal with it. As you teach there are many ways to leave with it or overcome. This can change the life of people and avoid them taking loads of medication with several side effects. thanks

[@LipstickLullabies]

When I'm feeling extremely anxiety because of intrusive thoughts and I need to calm my body and mind, I say to myself, "I'm aware that I am having an intrusive thought. I'm also aware that I am laying in bed. I'm also aware of the sound of the fan in the background. I'm aware of the feeling of the blanket against my skin. I'm aware of stomach moving up and down with each breath." And I just keep going until I feel calm and forget what I was even thinking about. For me what it does is it allows me to give the same amount of weight to all these other things happening as I do to the intrusive thought. I don't want to bring it into focus and fixate on it because it just sends me down a spiral. It's the only grounding exercise I've tried so far that works for me.

[@williamstoutenburgh2116]

Uh, wow. I suffer from anxiety. I do none of this. Mostly avoidance and distraction. I really need to listen to this over and over.

[@AngelinaX23]

Look up the other video she talked about. There are breathing and vagus nerve exercises that really help.

[@woutermanders]

You’re not alone! Avoidance is what most anxious people do, becoming aware of that is already a great first step William 💪🏼

[@lynnkahle2586]

Yeah me too 😊

[@cj5056]

Love ❤️ the example of stuffing anxiety rocks in your backpack. Then looking at the rock 🪨 and saying, I don’t need that (processing). Who wants unneeded items in your life’s backpack. As a hiker and backpacker, it’s the perfect example for me. Cut the unneeded weight. Thank you.

[@benmangubat8005]

Sometimes when I see my friends being able to achieve their goals on life, I feel insecure and the urge to do something as great as they did. It makes me feel anxious and motivated, but at the end of the day when I achieve that goal it doesn't feel fulfilling. You just go back to that feel of trouble and anxiety. Even now I am still looking ways on how to make my day more meaning full and make it fulfilling. This help me even the first 5 minute where very helpful. I hope to other people out their you'll do great just the way you are, it not easy fighting with depression and and anxiety so you deserve a pat in the back. I am rooting for you.

[@denisebaldwin4841]

Dealing with health anxiety is a real struggle . I have headaches . Back ,neck leg and arm tension which is very uncomfortable and painful . Fatigue is one of the most concerning . I fall for these symptoms all the time even though I have had CBT therapy , changed my diet to increase protein and magnesium . I have days like today that something is terribly wrong . There is no time line for this recovery . I hope to get there one day.

[@livingmy2.0]

Your simple desire to heal will keep you strong and get you to your end goal of overcoming anxiety. Keep going 💛

[@charmbabe1]

Emma you are the best!! Im a CBT psycotherapist and Im learning and reinforcing the knowledge thanks to this chanel. Your explanations are on point, so understandable and easy to asimiliate! Amazing work!! Keep on going!

[@MissEmmieJane]

There is something very comforting and intriguing in what this lady says and how she delivers the information. Thank you x

[@tiller6750]

Emma, thank you for making this video. As one who has battled General Anxiety Disorder for years, I feel that this video was made just for me. The information that you give in this video is pure gold. Thank you again!

[@zen_mindset1]

please don't trust the comment above it's a scammer

[@beatsgalura]

Anxiety creeps in whenever I'm driving at work on the Airport....horrible so much movement and noise...thank you listen to all of your videos to calm me down....

[@delilahxxo]

could you do a video about how anxiety affects a person physically due to overthinking or just anxiety in general? and how to stop the physical symptoms if that’s possible but symptoms like nausea, vomiting, headaches, dizziness, stomachaches, drowsiness, shortness of breath, fast heart beat, muscle aches, sharp heart pain, and always getting sick with common colds? i’ve read people with anxiety can possibly have weak immune systems since the body doesn’t function as well when it’s in the fight or flight response all the time or just for a long time if not that’s fine. anyways thank you for making your videos i really appreciate them they help me learn a bit more about myself and what i need to work on:)

[@sarahs_seedsoninstagram1930]

Check out my KZbin title ☝️☝️she got cool stuffs and deliver swiftly, just received mine yesterday

[@acoolducksloveryeahweexist]

Emma... I love you! You're the best therapist I've ever seen, thank you for being you and for sharing with us, it's priceless❤️

[@PraveenSrJ01]

Thanks! This has been extremely helpful and gives me strength to deal with my social anxiety 😟. I hope it will work although I will need to take the steps to go for a complete cure which will take a lot of hard work and self determination.

[@andrealakista3682]

I have been going to the psychologist for this problem, she never gave me a solution or exercises that could help me, that made me feel frustrated and trapped. You can't imagine how this video made me feel, it's nice to have hope and to know that there really are many things I can do to improve.

[@tasmarkou5681]

Come to me all who are weary and I will give you rest -jesus Christ - Have you ever asked him to take it away ..

[@Janekeithreid]

I listened to you cynically of course after three years of post vaccine hell - and after a few minutes of self doubt began and continued to broach a huge self care task that had haunted me for a year. I have achieved and feel fantastic! Thank you you clever witch - sincere salutations!

[@beazleteats4031]

Hi Emma. I just wanted to thank you for all the videos you produce. You are my go to person when I'm having anxiety or panic. It means so much to me that you have spent so much time & effort producing such helpful content. So thank you, thank you, thank you!!! The fact that you too have suffered from anxiety carries so much gravitas that I know you are speaking from a lived experience which means so much more to me. So, as I sit in my little home on the edge of a magical nature reserve in Sydney Australia I want you to know how much you have helped (and continue to do so) me...even my therapist now watches them too.

[@prakashgautam4029]

Thank you Emma , i was terrible anxious person for 12 years, through your videos now i can examine my feeling and thought.I was going through your videos to enhance my english listening.

[@doofussays4313]

I like how Emma addresses her therapy to everyone. No biases.

[@vickyiliaens1000]

This is so wise and logic , it fits ... I have social anxiety , general anxiety , trauma ... but the hope is not lost since I met you ... thanks !!!

[@maoleen]

Emma, this video and all your others (well, I'll speak for all the ones I've seen) have been instrumental in my continued practice and growing self-confidence in recovery from a really distressing period of existential anxiety, deep depression, and adjustment to new stage of life (out of academia, into the real world). It's been months in the making and even today I've felt some fears of uncontrollable/unbearable anxiety come back, but I am really practicing mindfulness and living my values and processing emotions with your course! And I am seeing the changes in my life despite stressors and worries still being present. Thank you so much for making these resources, they are literally helping me change my life. You rock! Hope you're enjoying time with your newest little one.

[@bellafarfalla7268]

I'm currently doing battle with anxiety and depression as well as chronic pain from a series of unfortunate accidents. When one flares up, the rest seem to follow the leader and it makes me miserable. Thank you for making this video. I appreciate your hard work, and your help!

[@cheyennekhounnha189]

Thank you for this video! I struggle with anxiety and all everyone has ever told me was to just go to a therapist… Not that there’s anything wrong going with a therapist but at this current moment I don’t have the funds or the healthcare to cover the cost… So many videos out there will just give you bland advice such as try sleeping more, eating better, exercising more -those things are great but when I feel terrible or panicky it doesn’t help in the moment

[@elainebarnard6823]

I’m a lot like Jane. This channel is extremely helpful. Before I had a therapist, I used this channel for my anxiety. Getting a therapist is very difficult.

[@zen_mindset1]

Scammers

[@woutermanders]

I agree! I struggled with anxiety as well, and finding a therapist was hard!

[@anitamcdonald6632]

I love the way your books are sorted according to colour… that is very calming for me. 😊

[@itsmejheycee2313]

I was having an anxiety earlier then I decided to watch videos about anxiety and I came up with your videos! Thank god!! Now I do feel relieved with all your explanation, all my negative thoughts has disappeared!! For the first time I have took notes in a notebook with all your step by step guides!! You really helped me!! 🥹🥹😭 im gonna watched all your videos!!!

[@eurekajon6548]

I thank God you exist! 😇 You are actually helping me change my life Emma.

[@benroberts1844]

This is one of the most useful and clearly explained videos I've listened to. Thanks so much.

[@MrBigjimbrown]

Thank-you for this, I have GAD and finding more skills in learning to go forward with it, is great.

[@allieshepherd1144]

This is on my list of best videos, the kind I listen to again and take notes, thank you so much for sharing your knowledge I’m forever grateful.

[@AlotlikeArham123]

I'm a clinical intern. Exploring a few theoretical approaches. I seem to align with ACT therapy. And I really appreciate all of your videos. You're providing me with direction for my sessions

[@sweetlovejesus213]

YOU are AMAZING!!!! I’m learning SO MUCH it makes me so excited and anxious because i wish i can repeat so much of what you teach. YOU BLOW MY MIND/HEART. You’re a godsend 🙏🏻♥️🙏🏻. Thank you

[@TherapyinaNutshell]

I'm so glad!

[@AccentArrow]

I recently stumbled across your channel, and I think you do a great job! You present the information in a clear and calm manner, while emanating warmth and empathy and encouraging people to approach themselves with a non-judgemental attitude and sense of curiosity. I really appreciate your approachable and genuine way of communication. Really good work you are doing!

[@AngelinaX23]

She's terrific. I love her practical suggestions.

[@oswaldojosecamposdleon7817]

What useful for me was to watch this presentation, what I learn of It, is that you have to confront your anxiety with willingness, taking action even with little steps, without fear, anxiety is our subconscious brain trying to tell us justo that, moving on is the best way to end that feeling.

[@sarahkendrickart]

This was very helpful I have a new job that brings me anxiety and sometimes discomfort. Trying to accept what I can’t change is a super power that I’m trying to work on. ❤

[@ginalewis7805]

You have quite literally saved my life. Well, atleast so far.... Thank You Emma...

[@JdogponyXD]

Thank you so much for making this video! Ive just been doing step 1 and it helps but ive still been having problems, but the other steps were super helpful, especially exploring/writing my anxious thoughts down! I already feel a lot better, so thank you!

[@gman52712]

You wonderful woman. I haven't felt this relaxes and at ease in many years. Thank you. I can't tell you how much peace of mind matters to me. I'm so scared of Everything.

[@charlesstover1520]

Emma, you explain ACT better than anyone I’ve listened to, and I’ve listened to HOURS of videos on defusion, willingness, etc. Thank you!

[@rickkrucher1372]

Emma, this is really well done and one of the best videos I have seen. Breaking it down into 5 steps is great.

[@rheannonfultz6449]

I am going to make a doctor's appointment soon to finish my vaccinations for college, and I am terrified of having my blood pressure taken. I am a very healthy individual, but every time I get my blood pressure taken it shoots out of control because I feel pressured to make it appear normal. This turns into a vicious cycle of me trying to lower my heart rate and being anxious after failing to do so. I hope to have better control of my nerves soon. :)

[@Irisea]

My therapist always asks me :"But what is the worst that could happen?"

[@user-eb5wl5le7r]

I have the same problem.

[@ats-3693]

This is called "white coat hypertension" it's very common, some people get anxious about their blood pressure when they get it checked and the anxiety pushes the blood pressure reading up. Most doctors understand this and if you talk to the doctor about it before the test they have ways of dealing with it, my doctor just leaves the cuff on my arm and talks to me about other unrelated things even making some silly jokes, and he just takes the reading several times without telling me while we are talking about something else.

[@ayushibarnwal6904]

You are so not alone, I am a very healthy person myself but I get afraid as soon as someone is measuring my pulse rate or bp and then i get anxious that my bp is high or pulse rate, It helps to just acknowledge how you feel and let yourself be. Also meditation, prayers, exercise has been a game changer for me. Sending you love🥹

[@jjcoll4088]

You are a life saver! ❤️ Thank you so much for the content you create! You are helping so many.

[@PraveenSrJ01]

I’m learning a lot from watching your videos and am binge watching them while I walk on my breaks and lunches or walk in the house 🏠. I really appreciate the time you took to make this video. It is immensely helpful for someone who suffers from social anxiety and mild general anxiety.

[@ryanrich]

The way you talk is so calming, it immediately calms my anxiety already, lol. Love your videos, has saved my life. Thank you.

[@Karim-fo8zl]

sometimes having someone explain to us how we feel is very helpful. Thank you so much for the beautiful video

[@demigo581]

Díky!

[@Sophiciousness]

Emma I'm writing this into our content for my company's Neurodivergent Employee Resource Group. Thank you so much for doing what you do!! ALL your videos are very helpful.

[@michaelherz9394]

Thanks! You're awesome

[@bobross3880]

Thank you for these videos. My life recently has been amazing and I've been feeling great. I grew up isolated and probably was somewhere on the deep end of aspd. I recently caught feelings for a girl in my class and blew it, and it's been a very human, humbling experience. I'm happy that I've grown enough to actually feel things deeper and more complex than "nothing goes my way" or "she was a b**** anyways". She made me extremely anxious and I was just overall not a pleasure to be around. So I am learning how to healthily handle all of these new emotions I learned I have. I probably shouldn't be writing this out, because I'm working on keeping a journal and fixing my emotions internally and with myself, so that I can be completely honest and accept the emotions as they come (I have to break the rigid black and white mindset I have about "being honest", because I just share way too much to others). I've learned when people say "it's okay", they don't mean the situation is okay, or that they're telling you to be okay. They always just meant, it's okay to be hurt and vulnerable. I always took that as a command to find a solution and "fix" what's wrong. Like oh what you're feeling is fine, get over it, it's not a big deal. I never understood that till now. So I write to myself in my journal and explain my emotions to myself and understand and accept them. It's okay to feel stupid. It's okay to be hurt. It's okay to be embarrassed. After enough writing in a day, I will have the urge to obsess over my emotions, but then I imagine myself getting up and grabbing my journal, and I realize "I already know how I feel. It hurts. There's nothing else to write/do. It's okay." Your videos have been helping me a lot. I haven't watched too many, but the ones I have watched have really helped me sort of understand what causes me to think how I do, and why I haven't accepted it. I am now learning to accept and even embrace the emotions I spent my whole life trying to avoid. It honestly feels good to be able to cry. The first girl I thought I loved cheated on me and I outwardly didn't care at all. I just shutdown and avoided how it made me feel because...well I'm not sure what fear I had of my emotions. Maybe I thought I'd kms, or get ridiculed, or any countless number of insecure fears I have/had because I essentially grew up alone with no one to learn from emotionally. Anyways, this is a very long message, and I do hope you read it, but I understand if you don't/won't. P.S. Do you know any resources for increasing emotional intelligence? I can't read people, nor can I read myself ("diagnosed" with alexthymia at 14).

[@bobross3880]

Also, because you did mention in it this video, learning that my thoughts and emotions aren't "me" has been a real game-changer. As I said I am most likely on the aspd spectrum, and I frequently have very bad thoughts, and I'd get so tangled up in those, that somewhere along the line as a child, I became my thoughts/emotions. I became a violent/angry/hateful person. Instead of knowing "oh that's a thought, weird. Good thing it's not who I am, and is just passing thought.", I really just adopted and sat in those emotions until they became my entire personality and my entire reason for living. The other day I was really sad and I was thinking "I could just walk in front of this bus and no more hurting". It was a very weird moment because when I had those thoughts before, I'd really have to fight and convince myself not to do it. I'd seriously weigh the pros and cons until I realized rationally that dying was suboptimal. However, now I just think the thought, let it go. It's just a thought.

[@Cup_of_tea424]

I am SOOOOO thankful for this channel ❤

[@kileykeener757]

Thank you! Life long struggle, first time I’ve used these tools and they helped me tremendously! Here’s to living life again

[@veronicap3694]

I was experiencing anxiety when I decided to watch this video and I tried the recommendations and it worked! Thank you so much for sharing your knowledge. Please keep doing it ❤

[@aligator9552]

Hello. I realise this is a bit off topic. The video I watched from April 2020 where you were crying really helped me open up and a 40 minute sob fest took place!! I allowed myself in a private safe space open up and have a good cry for the first time in ages!

[@ciciflower9615]

Thank you for this absolute gift. I've come to realize I have quite bad anxiety and I wasn't sure what to do with it. I want to go to therapy, but am not sure if I can afford it so being able to get some help for free is a huge help. Thank you again.

[@dbunnysport]

Oh call me Jane. There’s so much and you’re so good. I just found you … so I have a lot of work to do. I’ve been working on this all my life with small slow successes that don’t seem enough. Thank you for these videos. 💞

[@javiersaldarriaga7981]

Thank you Emma, I am grateful to God for putting in your heart to help others and to you for your willingness to do do. God bless you, the work you are doing is good and meaningful.

[@justinapattonofficial]

This video really clicked for me! I am Jane and this literally makes so much sense as to why I've been feeling anxious, thank you so much for sharing this. It's so impactful!!!

[@viucaroline]

hi i just wanna say that your videos helps me a lot to be brave & start managing my anxiety! thank you so much❤

[@who0lee]

Thanks!

[@rebeccabeecoaching]

Love this! Turning towards the discomfort is the hardest thing to do and the most important to help us stop overthinking and just BE with whatever we've been mentally running from.

[@nicholasn.2883]

17:45 The writing things down thing is so helpful. I'm anxious because I'm worried about 1 or 2 things, then literally 20 other things at the SAME exact time. It's too much and I just get the important things done and that's it

[@cynicallyyours61]

Anxiety before a presentation, is nervousness, Anxiety in social situations is shyness. I suffer real debilitating anxiety where it causes palpations, difficulty breathing, a real sense of dread, feeling like you are dying, dizzyness, nausea, etc. I wish everyone wouldn't label normal nerve racking or socially awkward situations as anxiety. There is a huge difference between these situations and real Panic, Anxiety and Anxiety Disorders. We all have moments when we have to deal with nervousness, or social awkwardness but real, life altering Anxiety is a totally different disorder.

[@sarahns8952]

How did you deal with it ? I’ve been dealing with the same thing since October 22 and it’s dreadful because I even quit my job due to this and I have this intense fear whenever I go out or see people. I wasn’t like this before, I was very social and I never experienced any anxiety until October last year where I had my first severe panic attack, things started going downhill after my panic attack and now I feel stuck in this bubble, I feel very weak, and sick and tired. I just want to get over this fear and get back to my life 😢

[@LovethroughAbby]

my anxiety has been getting progressively worse because i've been choosing to avoid it :/ i think now is the time for me to finally get some help.

[@csick11]

​@@sarahns8952I was exactly the same way as you. How are you doing now?

[@sarahns8952]

@@csick11 Hi, thank you for asking, I’m doing alright now, making a progress to get back step by step, I did make the decision to get medical help which I was avoiding for so long back then because I was in denial of my mental health.. I’m on antidepressants and doing cognitive therapy, it helped a lot. I’m back to work and trying to find things that helps me to get through it and keep me busy as well.

[@csick11]

@sarahns8952 very proud of you. I started to experience panic attack for first time since summer 2023. I eventually seek help. Doing lab work, went to ER, called emt then finally seeking help. I take herbal pills called stress factors. It helps me relax. I haven't taken any since January but last night I had to take it again. I thought I was doing better but I guess it's a big improvement since I'm not taking meds daily. I'm looking to get back to work now. Doing interviews. That might have been cause of anxiety past week buildup. What kind of work do you do?

[@deanbornman77]

Funny how anxiety, depression , PTSD is effecting people in different ways. I'm 37 years old, business owner for 14 years and now I'm sitting with this at my age. I get extremely fast heart rate accompanied with chest pain. No sweating, No out of breath like a heart attack. Been to hospitals numerous times and always the same test done to clear heart and its always my panic/anxiety attacks. I find it vary difficult to stay calm, What usually helps is medication or just talking to someone. I don't have people to phone 3 am in the mornings

[@DraconiInfernalus]

depression and/or anxciety can be symptoms of an actual ptsd or c-ptsd. i think thats why is different to people. but often therapists focus only to "fix" one of those 2 when you need different strategies and therapies with ptsd and people wonder why it doesn't work good for them. a look at the bigger picture is often needed to find out if it's a ptsd or not. but thats just my point of knowledge 😀

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[@ccsierra6568]

Tysm for this video🧡 I suffer from premenstrual dysphoric disorder & i was diagnosed with anxieties when i was 13-14. I never knew it could catch up to me. 2 months ago, i had a strange change in my body that made me overly freak out, so i went to the ER because i was desperate. Turns out I just had high sugar (junk food) but my anxiety made these symptoms feel worse for me. I got help & was prescribed Hydroxyzine Pamoate, which worked good but gave me a terrible headache. I stopped taking them 2 weeks ago, feeling happy since it was easy to tackle anxiety lately until ovulation. I overthinked a lot today and i just want to sleep. I took my medicine again but I’m not sure if its working. Im currently doing an aromatherapy right now, as well as watching this video while nodding my head. Its quite useful! Now i can just sleep like this!

[@tasmarkou5681]

Come to me all who are weary and I will give you rest -jesus Christ - Have you ever asked him to take it away ..

[@nothin.1099]

Very insightful video, that was a good point of view at the end: Experiencing anxiety means caring about life and because of that I hope that it will never go away completely. Having anxiety is a good thing and I had never thought of that :)

[@priyanarayanan5261]

thank you so much for your outstanding work, making it available free ❤

[@zuozhen4758]

Greater is he who is in you than he who is in the world!

[@Happygilmore83]

Thank you for this video, going through a tough time and this really helped.

[@allanrocha4647]

Love you Emma, so amazing how this information can change people's life. I am a living proof of that and I am so grateful that one day I found your channel.

[@emrebayar9623]

You are the best Queen psycholog. No one teach free these information thank you so much. Bless you 🎉

[@navneet2935]

I can never thank you enough for the work that you do here. The quality of resources that you prepare for each video, the thought that you put into everything, it all shows, Collectively, your channel has such impactful resources on mental health and self-improvement; it's helped me turn my life around. Thank you :')

[@ashleyhoover5463]

I seriously love your channel. I find out a lot about myself just by watching your videos. You’re so helpful 🥺🙏 makes it a bit easier to handle my anxiety

[@seaess2507]

thank you so much I have an exam tomorrow and I've been thinking how bad it would it be if I won't be able to write answers or what if I don't know the answer and that makes me nauseous and really stressed, this video really helped me understand what I am feeling and that it's fine I just don't want to mess up and what I can do is just prepare well and then write the paper. Thank you!

[@ahmedavdic4128]

- 07:42🔍 **Notice and Label Emotions:** Start by observing and labeling your emotions. Ask yourself what you feel and where you feel it in your body. - 11:15🚀 **Practice Distraction:** Use distraction techniques to separate yourself from overwhelming thoughts and emotions, creating space between you and your feelings. - 13:48💬 **Identify Specific Emotions:** Be specific in naming your emotions; it helps in understanding and managing them effectively. - 17:02🔄 **Distinguish Thoughts from Emotions:** Differentiate between thoughts and emotions, recognizing that having feelings is normal and doesn't necessarily mean they are bad. - 19:26🌈 **Non-judgmental Observation:** Instead of labeling emotions as good or bad, practice non-judgmental observation, acknowledging that feeling discomfort doesn't make the emotions inherently negative.- 00:00📚 This video provides an overview of emotional processing techniques. - 01:18🛠 Learn specific skills in depth by exploring separate videos. - 03:37📝 Download a helpful bullet-point list for reference and self-guided steps. - 06:12🤔 The first step in emotional processing is acknowledgment. - 08:45🤯 The second step, especially for anxiety, is readiness. - 11:20🌬 Being ready to face emotions is crucial for effective emotional processing. - 14:05🚧 Avoiding discomfort perpetuates anxiety, hindering growth. - 17:30🧘‍♂ Practice readiness by slowing down, focusing on body sensations, and sitting with discomfort. - 21:15🎵 Use calming activities like slow breathing or listening to music for preparation. - 23:40📝 Try brain-dumping exercises, writing thoughts on paper, to aid emotional readiness. - 26:55🌧 General anxiety often accumulates from unaddressed smaller worries over time. - 29:10🛑 Pause, close your eyes, and ask yourself where you feel emotions in your body. - 31:45🚶‍♂ An example with Jane emphasizes the importance of facing anxiety. - 34:20🏋‍♂ Fred deals with anxiety by slowing down, acknowledging tension, and engaging in mindful activities. - 37:55🤝 Bob challenges social anxiety by changing internal rules and facing discomfort head-on.- 00:00🧠 **Introduction**: Understanding and managing anxiety is crucial for a healthier mindset. - 01:18🛡 **Facing Anxiety**: Embracing anxiety rather than avoiding it can lead to better coping over time. - 03:37💼 **Changing Relationship with Anxiety**: Shifting one's perspective on anxiety helps reduce its impact gradually. - 06:15🤔 **Exploration**: Explore and make concrete the aspects causing anxiety to better address them. - 08:45🚨 **Anxiety as Smoke Alarm**: Anxiety is like a smoke alarm, signaling potential danger, but not always an imminent threat. - 11:20🚒 **Responding to Anxiety**: Instead of immediately reacting, evaluate if there's a real danger before taking action. - 13:42🌐 **Social Anxiety Exploration**: Explore social anxiety by questioning its underlying thoughts and challenging negative assumptions. - 16:10📝 **Unwritten Rules Exploration**: Examine internal unwritten rules contributing to anxiety and challenge them. - 18:30🔍 **General Anxiety Exploration**: Identify and document daily stressors, allowing for targeted solutions and boundaries. - 21:05🔄 **Taking Action**: Once feelings are explored, choose specific actions to address or alleviate anxiety. - 23:18💪 **Empowerment through Exploration**: The process empowers individuals to take control of their mental well-being.- **00:00**🔍 **Control and Value Activities:** Distinguish between what is within your control and what isn't to effectively address concerns. - 03:37🔄 **Fred's Control:** Fred can't control anxiety but can control readiness; seeking feedback, training, and choosing to be prepared. - 06:12🎯 **Values Activity:** Identifying what's important helps prioritize energy and focus. 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[@blondie7740]

I have had very high levels of anxiety due to CPTSD. One of the things I learned is when I have repeated or intrusive thoughts, I write them down in a journal. I have gone from just writing the thoughts down, to trying to find the triggers behind the thoughts. The more I do this, the better I am at recognizing my triggers, and I am better able to reduce my anxiety. It's hard and painful work, but I am becoming more comfortable at reducing my anxiety and depression every day. While I was not able to learn this skill in time to save my marriage, I am hopeful it will lead to a brighter, healthier future.

[@tasmarkou5681]

Come to me all who are weary and I will give you rest -jesus Christ - Have you ever asked him to take it away ..

[@asmab1r3m6]

thank you for this video it was helpful! I really loved the fact that you talked about concrete anxiety disorders with the examples I wish to see more content about social anxiety and most of the limiting beliefs and how to replace them or question them and about how to end up with catastrophying scenarios about it

[@IttyBittyWolf]

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[@shakti.rathore]

Your quite an empathetic kind and sincere therapist. I love it when you give your own example and make it all look like its not « sickness » and just a condition we need to resolve. ❤

[@sirgoosehonk2716]

because it is something we need to just resolve! i loved the way she put it honestly!

[@emmaadams5905]

I just realized how similar our named are lol. But I really needed this content right now so thank you! Been working in therapy on my anxiety and how it's getting in my way but videos like this help me continue the conversation with myself

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This video is worth several therapy sessions! Thank you so much