These people call only when they want something. They have nothing to offer...dont feed into their drama its draining !!!!
@bmuskiet19794 жыл бұрын
Does this mean I’m the narcissist. I had no money. She had her life put together i don’t see anything other than love i really had to put on the table. I don’t have any support or friends to talk too. I never want to point fingers and play the blame game but it’s always my fault it seems i really need help my mind feels broken.
@bronzed_in_chocolate4 жыл бұрын
Omg if this isnt the truth. I hate individuals like that and they know how to make you feel special and get what they want and never intend to treat you right or pay you back when you assist them.
@charlesadams44874 жыл бұрын
@@bmuskiet1979 I'm 51. I can see majority where you are coming from because I'm weeks in the middle of her selfish silent treatment. To this day I've looked back so much how I spent time with her. She chose so long refusing to speak to me that I've noticed so much how she's different. She's the narcissist not you. Is she considerate as the ladies you learned from in your family? Has she talked with you discuss the smallest disagreements like an adult, or does she hide from you like she's in pre-k? Another way I've been played a fool is money. After meeting her in September I spent over $200 on her. She's spent less than $30 on me. If she can't be REASONABLE and give YOU the same RESPECT you don't need her.
@elhadjdiallo6334 жыл бұрын
You have spoken very well ....No drama no trauma . I wish you well and take care ... .
@elhadjdiallo6334 жыл бұрын
@@charlesadams4487 with all due respect Mrs if you spend money on her you don't have to espect anything back in return bibically speaking .....i don't mean to be vulgar , rude or anything like that ......narcs are dangerous and toxic if anyone try to intumidate you just let them Go Go !!!! Don't compromise your sanity , pride , integrity , and dignity with anyone in this universe...bless be with you ..i want you to know that you're enough , whole , complete, and priceless ......i wish you well on your journey ..... Love you as a sister or Aunt..... ..
@heliaalves90624 жыл бұрын
8:42 "Just because you've left their presence, it doesnt mean you have left the trauma. The trauma is in you" So true!
@lesleygarvs46403 жыл бұрын
But that heals too!
@margaretcurrie40933 жыл бұрын
Don't think u will ever forget. But u can be more wiser the next time xx
@saranagh7097 Жыл бұрын
Amen.
@HotSeat17 Жыл бұрын
"The wound is where the light enters you." -Rumi Stay strong. Stay joyful. I'm praying for you. 🙏🙏
@ptyrrell54 Жыл бұрын
For decades, I desperately TRIED to find someone to explain why I felt so alone and unloved and miserable in my marriage. The mental health professionals were of no help because back in the 70s and 80s, they apparently didn’t understand this insidious , emotionally destructive disorder. So for 35+ years, my spirit and my health were gradually deflated. By the way, my (now ex-)husband was a worship leader all of those years. Every Sunday , I would watch my “plastic” husband fake his way through every church service with his well-rehearsed “sharing”. All fake. And I couldn’t figure out why. He played the part so well. He had a circle of adoring minions. Here’s a topic I’d like to see covered: How do I (or SHOULD I) handle two of my adult children who have crushed my heart by completely cutting ties with me but they stay in touch with their dad?
@Pixiepebbles742 жыл бұрын
I know this video is over 4 years old, but it is by far the best narcissistic abuse explanations I’ve ever watched. Thank you.
@Danny-kx2rf Жыл бұрын
Came to say exactly this !
@GuitarMatt8 ай бұрын
Glad to be LIKE #100 here because I agree with your bold statement, having watched hundreds of these videos. 100% grade on your comment. (With a name like yours, I'm gonna blast me some early The Pixies from the late '80s/later early '90s stuff from them too)
@kimberlyhendricks63885 жыл бұрын
That part about "don't recognize who you are anymore" yep I felt that. I felt like I was going crazy wanting someone to treat me right and wanting validation from someone who never consistently gave it... no matter what I did, bought, said, sacrificed, compromised...it was never good enough. I'm now at no contact. I WANT ME BACK.
@TheRoyalWe5 жыл бұрын
Your on the right path. It does take time 🤗💯👑
@user-ns3bd9do2f4 жыл бұрын
same here
@shaniecegullison4 жыл бұрын
Exactly same with me girl!!!
@kimberlyhendricks63884 жыл бұрын
@@channelonemedia1 haha that's why I like dogs better than people LOL
@aprilchow-chee52814 жыл бұрын
Going through the same thing as of yesterday
@LimitlessThinker5 жыл бұрын
Best demonstration of toxicity ever. There can never be closure with people who aren't capable of compassion.
@kisigma10113 жыл бұрын
@Carol Mcloughlin for real 💯
@wayneevans55473 жыл бұрын
Toxisaty is the mixing of posertive energy and negertive energy ...posertive humans walk away !!!! With no contact that why I walk a new path free ..... thank you too the royal we :)
@ChannelZero10312 жыл бұрын
YES. I love his example. I can't believe I was and still more or less am? Still stuck in the muck and mire. So many years with toxic friendships has corrupted my spirit. My spirit is aching, literally. I feel a sense of ambiguity that is hard to explain, like a cognitive dissonance. Perhaps i am detoxing?
@aprildawnmeans2663 Жыл бұрын
😇😇👏👏👏
@mysteryandmeaning297 Жыл бұрын
So i finally stood up to my narcissist friend. I told her i dont respect how you do people and blame them for what you do. She sent text back saying its over and that im strange, dont make sense and playing games ( putting blame on me) and left me alone now and dumped me and im glad. Lol. I already rarely talked to her anymore but hasn't gone full no contact. I made her leave. I do feel good i stood up for myself even though it gave her a bit supply at the end. But i know she will be back to attack so i blocked my phone this time so it doesnt go back and forth.
@cassiearrowood14715 жыл бұрын
they sometimes come back to see if they can hurt you again
@donkykong18235 жыл бұрын
They will never learn.
@angeladodge5365 жыл бұрын
@@donkykong1823 and mess with their heads and stay strong because they will in my case know they lost the best thing to ever happen to them.My narcissist still tries to contact me on messenger on my phone where they are blocked everywhere else because now I can mess with their head and never answer and secretly enjoy doing it because they never ever recognise what they are.......ever how messed up is that whereas I am immune now to every toxic person by knowing how they start their tricks and nipping it in the bud.....namaste because yoga became my passion to heal me and make me whole again xx
@marciloni124 жыл бұрын
ALWAYS
@janetstonerook45524 жыл бұрын
Reminds me of the song "That's What You Get For Loving Me!"
@wendydrummond73954 жыл бұрын
It's called Hoovering don't let them back in at all, it's part of their cruel twisted plan. They love to do it at Christmas and other celebration events. Close your curtains tun down the tv and radio and mobile etc turn off lights don't answer the door pretend your not home, that way you can work out their pattern of them showing up and outsmart them it works but you have to be consistent and persistent because they are God bless you
@Gemisnotmyname Жыл бұрын
im an example that u can get through this and come out of it stronger the other side! Through God, I healed, and he brought so many healthy people into my life and today Im blessed. The biggest healing happens through God,
@foodandhomeprep84256 жыл бұрын
Deleted Facebook in 2011. Never looked back. Went no contact with a Narcissist in 2006. No regrets. God has sustained me.
@moonfreedom85235 жыл бұрын
I've never had a Facebook account. You're absolutely right, that's a strong move. I hope it's better now. Yes God, yay God- bless you gentle soul 💚
@anthonyiuculano60025 жыл бұрын
How do things feel now?
@alejandraparada36735 жыл бұрын
Just deleted my FB and went no contact today ! Taking another road
@reesedaniel58355 жыл бұрын
@@alejandraparada3673 Who needs FAKEbook? (NarcBook).
@zhongwa5 жыл бұрын
Yes, God is our starting point for all relationships.
@pudda-pudda3 жыл бұрын
56 years old and I'm just learning about this BS, cried so much, getting on with my life! thanks for this video
@christinacirillo542 жыл бұрын
We are the same age. I have never encountered this in my life. I dated my ex when we were teenagers, he walked back into my life 40 years later.....total narcissist!!!! Thanks be to God, He showed me the truth! ❤️
@DoubleRainbows-fp6ih2 жыл бұрын
Luisa- I was around the exact same age...I was so gaslit etc etc as a child. It just is never ending; especially when younger sister becomes one too. I'm with you in this. Trying to deal with an extremely toxic situation that I'm keeping out of now mother is in hospital. Its Nothing like when Dad was dying and I cared for him. Its all games & more mind games. I'm done now; Especially as covert sus now about to return yet again. Its trully like shark fest & I sense the blood in the water in now money & the Will But I now know its not me being thrown in the water.
@BecauseYoureBlessed2 жыл бұрын
You go gurl !
@katyflame36682 жыл бұрын
Yes. I’m 58. I’m still trying to get over what has happened to me. Different narcissists in different phases-of life .
@wideawakerealist21412 жыл бұрын
@@katyflame3668 same, but I am 68. My ex husband particularly nasty narcissist, got divorced 30 years,ago, still harassing me with letters and calls ( blocked now) but recently thought In found new love, 2nd spring etc …another narcissist ( 50) who didn’t mind the age gap he assured me, but after the love bombing, the devaluation phase started, I saw the red flags, then sudden discard over a very minor thing…I reminded him to attend to a certain matter …so from “ I love you “ in the morning, to “ I am done with you “ in the afternoon. I immediately went no contact . I am done too, no more romance for me.
@bobbigger47105 жыл бұрын
When the very appearance of someone’s name in your inbox makes you cringe, it’s time to go no contact. When every phone conversation with someone includes your being criticized, judged, or belittled, it’s time to go no contact. When the person judges and belittles a friend of yours they have never even met, it’s time to go no contact. Life is too precious and wonderful to put up with toxic people. When you’re being bullied and emotionally abused and a “friend” informs you that YOU are the cause of it, it’s time to go no contact. No contact works!
@TheRoyalWe5 жыл бұрын
Excellent advice
@BeRightBack1313 жыл бұрын
Boy, did you ever hit the nail on the head! I spent way too many years of my life listening to my ex husband and my family members constantly criticizing and ridiculing my friends, kids, even my pets, lol... now, I have blocked them permanently. I have never been happier in my life. For real! 😊
@lianecornils87333 жыл бұрын
I want contact. I want closure. I want my voice heard. This no contact stuff translates to indifference. And God did not give me the spirit of indifference. He asked me to showcase big problems. No contact doesn't work for us.
@lianecornils87333 жыл бұрын
I dont have an in box. People thought I could be swept under the rug. Thats toxic.
@HotSeat17 Жыл бұрын
Narc sister is trying to be religious. This is what she just texted me: "Ephesians 4-29 I forgive you for everything I feel you have done to me. I may not forget but I will forgive." I'm not going to hell because of this. Is that just a typical narcissistic statement? LOL!!!🤣🤣🤣
@LORELLism7 ай бұрын
Going no contact with my adult child also means losing my relationship with my very young grandchildren! So much grief! Heartbreaking at 63 years.
@kims29635 ай бұрын
You are not alone in this. Me too. I even raised one of my grandchildren for six years while adult narc daughter was out getting her fun and narc feed. She could care less about my g.d. and she, rarely that I heard from her (three times in six years), would tell me she didn't want my g.d. She came around, used my n-mom and they stole my g.d. from me. Kept her from me. Wouldn't tell schools or anyone the truth. G.d. had behavior problems, no doubt. I had depression and could barely function. So, got stuck at my n-mom house. Another six years later I'm still stuck at my n-mom house. It has taken this long to learn about all this narc junk and then start to incorporate what to do and how to handle all this. All this while still getting more narc abuse crap they do. It's been so hard and taken so long but I will prevail. I have the victory in Jesus and then I will be the one my g.d. will come to when she is ready. This is not the end. It is freedom time. Blessings on your journey.
@TheSherriefoster15 күн бұрын
@@LORELLism I’m sorry sending you love
@riyamitraministries5 жыл бұрын
"You annoint my head with oil, My cup runneth over, surely your goodness and mercy shall follow me all the days of my life, And I'll dwell in the house of the LORD forever." - Psalm 23 :5-6 🙏🏻
@TheRoyalWe5 жыл бұрын
🙌👑💯
@junowood59514 жыл бұрын
What does this bible quote have to do with a psychological disorder?
@eyeslikestars28924 жыл бұрын
Juno Wood Why do u care about this comment out off all the others are u a demon? Lol
@junowood59514 жыл бұрын
@@eyeslikestars2892 wow that was a useless comment, congrats. I think it is worrisome for our society how much people are turning back to religion nowadays. We straight afar from religion over science for a reason... because religion doesn't cure diseases... science and medicine do. That is why whenever people give religion or God as a reason why they got healed it is next to unbearable for an educated human being because... if we had tried to pray away the spanish flu, none of us would be here today :)
@eyeslikestars28924 жыл бұрын
Juno Wood it’s your soul you obviously don’t have the vision to see. God bless
@joel21note5 жыл бұрын
"Don't became the beast while fighting a beast" - Destroy the Illusion forever, stay awake and free!
@tomiekalindsey95945 жыл бұрын
I stayed so long that I became a narc also.If you don't feed the beast It'll die.Please leave.
@simmy.saini_official4 жыл бұрын
Joel C. I agree
@_N0_0ne4 жыл бұрын
♥️
@radaka3 жыл бұрын
I'm afraid I've started to become a beast while fighting one 😔
@shanepotter60673 жыл бұрын
Never fight fire with fire. Be water 💦
@Faithandseekerofchrist5 жыл бұрын
Even being friends with an ex is toxic!
@TheRoyalWe5 жыл бұрын
ESPECIALLY being friends with an ex is toxic. There is a reason it didn't work out.
@bronzed_in_chocolate4 жыл бұрын
Exactly being friends is not an option
@cymbelinebritain67994 жыл бұрын
@@TheRoyalWe My narcissist (18 years my junior) got his much younger girlfriend pregnant, told me excitedly as if I was supposed to be happy for him and then seamlessly transitioned from lover to my "bestie". He actually thought I could just become his best friend. He refused to acknowledge or apologize for all the pain he caused (in true narcissist fashion) and acted annoyed that I was speaking of my upset and wanted answers. He just wanted me to forget all that and be his best friend. It's crazy making at its finest. This stuff is still very raw for me. I'm only a few days out of it but I've blocked him on social media and have gone no contact. Thanks for your insightful videos. I enjoyed the gunky water analogy. Very apt.
@xbEAUTYb004 жыл бұрын
The Royal We how can I go no contact with an ongoing court case with a restraining order against the narc in the works 🧐😞
@cymbelinebritain67994 жыл бұрын
@@xbEAUTYb00 If there is a restraining order or will be, he won't be able to contact you or at least come within a certain distance. You have to maintain and uphold the stipulations in the order as well. (been there, done that with my ex husband) Before then if it's necessary to talk with him or if there are kids involved, I'd say the best thing to do would be gray rocking. I know The Royal We has spoken against this, but the narc is always looking for a reaction. It feeds their need for supply so you can be civil, but be a stone. Give no emotion. Be apathetic and give short, curt responses when necessary. Even if you're seething inside, don't hand over that power to them. Perhaps act as you would any stranger you meet on the street, civil but no connection or emotional responses attached.
@Gemisnotmyname Жыл бұрын
This was hiiighly intelligently explained! The longer u stay the more like them u become. There is soo many beautiful pure people out there, and ive been blessed to meet a couple of them, dont waste ur time on a rotten apple.
@TheSherriefoster10 ай бұрын
So true.. I relate to this too much.. it's been lonely but I'm relieved. I lost my jobs homes and had to block everyone.. it was worth it 3yrs 🙏 thank God for saving me.
@CharlesBukowski-m1oАй бұрын
Progress out of this ordeal is "Oftentimes a two steps forward one step back" process. Since they we're arrogantly starting to semi-devalue me--I just caller blocked and went no contact with some people I knew for decades. Good for you for making the brave much-needed sacrifice instead of keeping your head in the sand like I used to for a little too long! Cheers!!
@tarotempress19255 жыл бұрын
No contact is the best thing I've ever done with any narcissists in my life
@monikaazariah92373 жыл бұрын
I completely agree...I got back my health going no contact
@radattk31452 жыл бұрын
yup
@cor-z8m2 жыл бұрын
Amazed at how many “family’ members involved in hurting!
@HeatherDMorris4 жыл бұрын
I remember looking in the mirror when married to the narc and I didnt know who I was . I saw ugly. I cried. I wanted face surgery, liposuction, i thought ppl saw me as stupid. When we broke up i asked God to show me what I really am and one morning i woke up and looked in mirror and saw beautiful inside and out ; )
@daniellestaley94322 жыл бұрын
Similar thing happened did to me as well. About two months out of the relationship (which I walked away from), I looked in the mirror and did not recognize those person staring back at me. Scariest thing I ever experienced. Month four I finally went 💯 no contact… it will be a year this week and while I sometimes get sad, I thank God everyday I made the choice to move on with my life.
@samramajeed53156 ай бұрын
So happy for you ❤
@Portondown5 жыл бұрын
A narcissist is like a computer virus - once they get into your life it is a nightmare. You only know what happened after the event and then it is too late.
@TheRoyalWe5 жыл бұрын
👑💯
@christineellison85463 жыл бұрын
Jesus is the original Yuk buster! He will help you if you ask him to 😊🙏🏻❤️
@soonermodels11733 жыл бұрын
Same here.....
@armontimuzic67852 жыл бұрын
Absolutely!!!
@albertoortiz90402 жыл бұрын
✅ Agreed ✅
@Lizliz223 Жыл бұрын
@@soonermodels1173 agreed!!
@jessicayocum9036 Жыл бұрын
Facts
@carolinadubonr6 жыл бұрын
Narcissist people live a sad life. They don’t know what’s love, they don’t know how to receive, how to give- they always acting on self defense when people is not trying to hurt them but love them.. I forgive and move on and I feel in peace ✌️
@TheRoyalWe6 жыл бұрын
+Carolina Dubon thank you so much for watching Carolina and you are 100% right. Narcissists do not know how to love. They live from a place of Darkness, and any love that you give to them is like throwing it down a black hole it goes nowhere and gives back nothing
@donnahealey78886 жыл бұрын
Mine shows up at my door and im afraid too call the cop,do they snap to the point where they would kill you?
@pushinglimits32856 жыл бұрын
So true
@hellfire7186 жыл бұрын
@@donnahealey7888 Hope you're ok. Has yours ever been violent with you in the past? Mine would threaten to destroy my life and would show up at my door and stalk my building for hours but he never got violent with me. I never actually feared for my physical safety. He only ever acted out two of his threats, but most of the time he was very much a coward. If yours has never gotten physical with you before, I dont think he'd just snap and take it up now, but you can never be too sure with these volatile individuals. If you fear for your safety, go to the cops. Document everything. Please be safe and dont take any threat lightly.
@carlogambino19796 жыл бұрын
I moved on...but i'll certainly not forgive and forget....that's a fools motto.
@lisabrummett6075 Жыл бұрын
I'm manifesting a safe way for God to remove me from this toxic situation and once I'm safe and away I will NEVER have contact again. I'm already grieving the loss of my family. I know without a doubt they NEVER loved me and they NEVER will. I'm the Scapegoat to them and I forever will be. Thank you God for carrying me through this difficult time and helping me heal and love myself 🙏💔
@TheSherriefoster15 күн бұрын
@@lisabrummett6075 sending all my love. 😍 I find comfort knowing we are not alone but on this journey together. Thank you 🙏 God for aligning me with my tribe
@myflourishingfam3 жыл бұрын
I cried! This was the BEST video I’ve seen on narcissistic relationships. Hands down. It got right to the core of the issue and what needs to change. It was only by Gods Grace I got out and it was because it started effecting my children. God told me He’s been trying to give me freedom for a long time and it was my own trauma and stubbornness that kept me in the relationship, trying to play God hoping my patience and kindness would change things. Sometimes even distancing as much as possible doesn’t help. Sometimes total no contact is the answer. It’s been 6 months and the amount I’ve healed in that time is mind blowing. God bless this man and everyone that’s dealing with hard relationships!!
@TheRoyalWe3 жыл бұрын
👑🧡
@joeyjguerrero6 жыл бұрын
Great talk! Reminds me of what my brother says: “Don’t become the thing you hate.” ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
@TheRoyalWe6 жыл бұрын
+Joey Guerrero your brother has wisdom. Thank you for watching
@curli-lettey43195 жыл бұрын
Excellent quote of the millennium!
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@brendancoughlan34874 жыл бұрын
So true
@chriswalls58314 жыл бұрын
I had too cut off my family, old friends very controlling and jealous.
@amyzielinski62393 жыл бұрын
This is the most difficult decision I have ever had to make. To go no contact with my mom, brother, and the whole side of my moms family. They have a generational curse of narcissism. I can no longer be their scapegoat and allow my mom to infantilize me. Keeping me down for her own codependency.
@orangecat1672 Жыл бұрын
Agree 110%. Going NC w my mother too . Family is so overrated - they don’t get a free pass just because we share the same DNA. Stay strong and God bless . 😊❤
@jennam84266 жыл бұрын
That's the reason I changed my number. I was tired of waiting for a phone call that never came. I dreaded and hoped for it at the same time, and he knew it. He revelled on it. His silent treatments controlled me. But no more. I also deleted and shut down all of my social media, and I won't go back until I'm 100% better. I am getting my life back, and I'm feeling better. No Contact really works! Thanks so much for these videos.
@evonekky36725 жыл бұрын
Jo Jones I've been in the same dilemma with a narc parent. I've been wrestling with whether or not to change my number. just like you said, if I see this person call I wouldn't answer, but I also long to see the call because I want this person to shown that they care, and to apologize. this game been going for 1.5 years now... is it time to just change my number
@OMGWUNSIU5 жыл бұрын
Don't ever go back to social media it's a cesspool of shit. Stay strong
@royadair14025 жыл бұрын
I had a female friend who gave me the Silent Treatments and played the Blame Game. Yes we must get healed first before we can help others and enjoy life again.
@tonibreen55605 жыл бұрын
@@royadair1402 the ironic thing is when a toxic person gives the silent treatment, they are doing us a favor... it helps us realize the abuse.
@royadair14025 жыл бұрын
@@tonibreen5560 Thank you very much Tony Breen for taking your time out and replying to my message.
@Misscherry9695 жыл бұрын
This just made me cry because you’re right!!! I deserve to cleanse !!!
@Misscherry9695 жыл бұрын
11eleven Cherry111 team CHERRY😘
@conspiracynikkikimmi57655 жыл бұрын
Same😫
@Misscherry9695 жыл бұрын
Conspiracy Nikkikimmi you’re amazing don’t let anyone make you feel like you’re not
@conspiracynikkikimmi57655 жыл бұрын
@@Misscherry969 Wow you put a smile on my face. You just put new water in me! thank you for your kind words. Were you in a toxic relationship? Next month would of been 20 years!
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@jenniferweese36066 жыл бұрын
I did this !!! 28 years! Went NO CONTACT completely!!!! So Happy!!!!! Came back to myself!!!!
@traceyb73855 жыл бұрын
Jennifer Weese Well done. I was at 27 yrs. last 4 have been horrid and I became bitter and grumpy. Total no contact for 4 months and I feel so happy, relaxed, calm and a sense of peace. My teenage kids have been brilliant too.
@Ganaremoslosbuenos5 жыл бұрын
Ok, so you recomend no contact at all for life? The narcissist is my father.
@Ganaremoslosbuenos5 жыл бұрын
Ok. The narcissisist its my father. So no contact for EVER its the solution?
@Ganaremoslosbuenos5 жыл бұрын
@Hannah P I think I should go ZERO CONTACT AT ALL. Before he broke me. I fell so guilty that I have always get back to my hometown, a small town in the mexican border. I moved to Mexico City, Guadalajara, San Francisco, CA, and I always keep coming and getting depress because of him. Of the guilt of being away. He make me feel like I was abandoned him like a little child.
@suzanwebb80188 ай бұрын
NO CONTACT OF ANY KIND FOREVER!!!!! THEY CANNOT, WILL NOT, EVER CHANGE. Believe me. It ALWAYS goes right back to the worst it's ever been. They cannot chane or be changed. Until you accept this fact, you will remain their prisoner. You can decide to keep suffering while fighting this reality, and you will sacrifice any hope for your future. You deserve and are worth so much more than that!
@Enlightenedsoul2222 жыл бұрын
What an Extraordinary demonstration of what happens during a narcissistic relationship with family members.. I really needed to hear this, food for the soul!!! Amen 🙏🏽
@TheRoyalWe2 жыл бұрын
Yes thank you
@kiv_daniels Жыл бұрын
@@TheRoyalWe Thank you so much you’re keeping me sane, because sometimes I forget and think I’m the problem or the bad guy. I was a strong before I don’t know what happened @Enlightened soul, exactly I realized I started becoming someone I didn’t want to be towards the people that genuinely loved me because most of my family didn’t treat me well even after a long time of trying everything I could to make them like and respect me. Until I felt like I wanted to die because I felt they all walked all over me, and I felt empty and gross. I then felt I’d rather be alone than dead because I felt dead when I was around them. I was such a loving vibrant kid when I lived with my parents until I started living with my extended family. There’re times I think to my self am I the narcissist? because the narcissist are surrounded by loving cheerful people. Am I the problem, but if I hadn’t left, I still would have left sooner because they’d have never respected me.
@I_am_Alkebulan6 жыл бұрын
This has to be one of the best videos online about narcissist. I had to watch it twice and add to my list. The demo made me see that I was also becoming a bitter person in a dark place.
@TheRoyalWe6 жыл бұрын
+King Kyng thank you.
@j4yteex6 жыл бұрын
The Royal We - can you call me please??
@paulabutler35065 жыл бұрын
Same that was the best demo how I feel now empty no emotions and some friends I've had have left me cos of him
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@jevonturner6405 жыл бұрын
I agree very very good, hard to put into practice, my head is fucked right now with this shit
@allforthegloryofjesuschris62504 жыл бұрын
This made me cry. I just got out of the narcissistic relationship. I am hurting and so broken.
@cathymcdonaldfemale8204 жыл бұрын
Butterfly spirit, you are not a lone. I am also hurting and broken inside .we must continue watching these videos because they are awesome and wonderfully healing. You will get stronger day by day.
@allforthegloryofjesuschris62504 жыл бұрын
@@cathymcdonaldfemale820 mine told me after I broke up with him that he withheld affection to punish me. I was shocked. I allowed that. I went a whole year with not much physical contact. I was depressed.
@cathymcdonaldfemale8204 жыл бұрын
I was involved with a narc of 13 years ,I just started learning about the narc meaning maybe 5 months ago. He is everything it describes. Discarded me for my good friend of 20 years and who lived right next door to me. Yes I wanted very much to hurt myself. I've been watching the videos and there are a lot of them. I'm stronger.a d remember the narc gets bored easily.they move from person to person. Their manipulation is so so real. Everything is a lie. The truth is not in them .if you could see me , then see the new supply , oh would not believe your eyes.
@theraven18504 жыл бұрын
Knowledge is power, never go back, Time will heal. Learn as much as you can about Narcissism.
@cathymcdonaldfemale8204 жыл бұрын
13 years with the narc .was discarded a year ago and still hurting too . I am still in therapy. Has been for 7 years now. This is what happens when we give our all iN A RELATIONSHIP .
@jackiemcarter11514 жыл бұрын
I thank God for opening my eyes now! May I never return to this dark place in my lifetime!
@TheRoyalWe4 жыл бұрын
👑💯🙌
@debbie18737 ай бұрын
Cried throughout this stunning, symbolic visual analogy. Incredibly Powerful for me. Simply the truth. Validating, Integrating, healing, accurate and alchemical in nature on every level. So glad I found your channel. I ended the relationship 9 months ago, have gone through the hell fires, and still struggling. This has helped deeply shift something within me. Thank you 🌱
@jessxo85915 жыл бұрын
I had to go no contact with my own family. I never realized just how toxic they were until I moved back in to try and help them. It just lead to my own mental health and well being worsening. In a week I'm getting my own place again and NEVER looking back. Yeah it sucks but my parents have died in my mind a long time ago. It's so nice to know that there is a light at the end of this dark shitty tunnel. I've already blocked their numbers and have been off of social media permanently. It's so refreshing to finally be able to break free from the emotional abuse
@TheRoyalWe5 жыл бұрын
Your not alone. Many people have needed to seperate and stay seperated from toxic parents.
@OddJaxx9003 жыл бұрын
I'm in the same boat. Family is the absolute worst!!
@MarkSven8883 жыл бұрын
Samesies
@BeRightBack1313 жыл бұрын
Oh, Jess, you are not alone! I kept trying and trying with my family, but it never worked. No matter what I did, nothing was ever good enough. I no longer talk to them, and it has been such a blessing. I never realized just how much "gunk" they had been giving me until we stopped talking to each other. It's AMAZING how much better my life has become. I wish you the very, very best of luck. Sometimes family can hurt you worse than anyone. Keep your chin up. You'll find yourself getting happier as time goes on. Bless you.
@margaretcurrie40933 жыл бұрын
Im the same never ever go back.. 👍💯
@cathylarkins99493 жыл бұрын
I had to do “no contact” with my oldest sister…I love her but she has mistreated me and gaslighted me all my life until one day I told her plainly….I love you, you are my sister but you hurt me so much we cannot be “friends”… I am much happier disassociating myself after 50 years of her gaslighting and abuse….she totally acts the victim…however I’m the blind sister who lives alone on the edge of poverty but is happy…she is very wealthy and miserable…
@raquelchavez92522 жыл бұрын
I’m 63 and same situation. I’ve had no contact for 3 yrs. Eventually she’s gonna find someone else to bully.
@Godlywoman88 Жыл бұрын
I relate. The only ones I miss are my niece and nephew, whom I was blocked from. It's sad how much this mess tears families apart.
@HotSeat17 Жыл бұрын
Absolutely the very same here! I understand! I was just attacked, luckily not physically this time, by my older narc sister. (She's now throwing Scriptures at me by text.Even Satan used Scripture to get Jesus to sin and worship him.) Last week she gave me 30 days to move out. I am a 70 year old Great-Grandmother, no car, poor health, bad back and painful knee. She timed that just right. She cut me off from family and friends. She can be violent, and I threatened to call the police on her if she didn't get away from me. She stood there after she cornered me, with the hideous evil "narc smirk", and tried to shame me, humiliate me, going after my religion, children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren, my past, etc. When I kept telling her to get away from me, she flew into a rage when I covered my ears! I got my door closed and locked, while that buffalo beat on it. I told she'll have to pay for her door if she breaks it. She went away to the kitchen. Lol If you all think she's not that bad, my little brother killed himself because of her. She is evil!!! I am not suicidal, but have been in the past. I may have a room, after I put in a prayer request at a church I love in the next town. It will be ok. Pray for me. 🙏🙏🙏✝️✝️✝️ Narc sister is trying to be religious. This is what she just texted me: "Ephesians 4-29 I forgive you for everything I feel you have done to me. I may not forget but I will forgive." I'm not going to hell because of this. Is that just a typical narcissistic statement? LOL!!!🤣🤣🤣 Stop calling yourself Christian if you can't control your anger, and your mean comments meant to provoke or hurt another person. GET HELP FOR YOUR NARCISSISM. ✝️🙏 "If someone is not listening to you, stop talking to them." - Jordan Peterson Good Grey Rock advice. 🙏🤭 My favorite imprecatory Psalm is 139: Psalms 139:21-24 [21]Do I not hate them, O Lord, who hate You? And do I not loathe those who rise up against You? [22]I hate them with perfect hatred; I count them my enemies. [23]Search me, O God, and know my heart; Try me, and know my anxieties; [24]And see if there is any wicked way in me, And lead me in the way everlasting. Galatians 5:12-15,18-26 [12]I could wish that those who trouble you would even cut themselves off! [13]For you, brethren, have been called to liberty; only do not use liberty as an opportunity for the flesh, but through love serve one another. [14]For all the law is fulfilled in one word, even in this: “You shall love your neighbor as yourself.” [15]But if you bite and devour one another, beware lest you be consumed by one another! [18]But if you are led by the Spirit, you are not under the law. [19]Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, [20]idolatry, sorcery, HATRED, CONTENTIONS, JEALOUSIES, OUTBURSTS OF WRATH, SELFISH AMBITIONS,DISSENSIONS, heresies, [21]ENVY, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. [22]But the fruit of the Spirit is LOVE, JOY, PEACE, LONGSUFFERING, KINDNESS, GOODNESS, , FAITHFULNESS, GENTLENESS, SELF CONTROL, Against such there is no law. [24]And those who are Christ’s have crucified the flesh with its passions and desires. [25]If we live in the Spirit, let us also walk in the Spirit. ✝️😞[26]LET US NOT BECOME CONCEITED, PROVOKING ONE ANOTHER, ENVYING ONE ANOTHER.🙏✝️ Proverbs 11:22-23,28 [22]As a ring of gold in a swine’s snout, So is a lovely woman who lacks discretion. [23]The desire of the righteous is only good, But the expectation of the wicked is wrath. [28]He who trusts in his riches will fall, But the righteous will flourish like foliage.
@TheBroLounge23 күн бұрын
Have had to do this with a very toxic brother. Hurts but there’s no other way and I need to heal.
@AnnaShefia6 жыл бұрын
Left a 6 year relationship 2 years ago and can’t even explain how happy I am. I can say that no contact was the only way. The only way. You cannot be friends, cannot hope, nothing. Great video!
@TheRoyalWe6 жыл бұрын
AnnaShefia yes! thank you for sharing that.
@iniubongnkanga93905 жыл бұрын
I feel no one deserves to be in a relationship with a narcissist they are terrible people that feel entitled thank God for my friend who referred me to an hacker and i was able to hack my narcissist partner's phone and see all the proofs i needed for a divorce and even terrible things they had planned contact John to help he is a genius, you can text/call +1 (415) 323-6758 or reach him on WhatsApp +1 (724) 330-3252 and also write to Via Gmail (geniustracker701)
@radaka4 жыл бұрын
I just left my abuser this week and blocked their number. I have left them before and they've always came after me. Please pray that I am able to get away from this person safely. Thank you
@sunshineb17782 жыл бұрын
praying you stand strong, these demons are so thirsty!
@balanceskateboarding8807 Жыл бұрын
Hope you are well? how you are doing? 🙏💜
@Joyce_21 Жыл бұрын
How are you🥺
@MC-3424 жыл бұрын
I went no contact with all my family as soon as my parents passed away, out of respect. Planned it and did it . I'd had enough. My only regret is that I should have done it at 18 instead of my 50 s. Your " whys " were on target. Thank you.
@EthanHurtWorldwide2 жыл бұрын
No contact for four years now. Has saved my life. It’s changed my life. The peace and happiness and tranquility has replaced the past drama and cannot be expressed here in a few words. What I will say is that I did get additional help talking regularly in sessions with a psychiatrist regarding some lingering PTSD issues from the past toxic stuff, that I’ve found additionally helpful.
@quotivation475 жыл бұрын
I LOVE THIS..."Going no contact is not about them. IT'S ABOUT YOU (US)." Great Great GREAT points
@ricksilk4854 жыл бұрын
Now I realise how and why I was being manipulated by a sick person , the penny has dropped , my eyes have been openned . I have been a fool . Better to be ripped off than be the ripper offer it's a game to them ....... I don't want revenge , just peace Thankyou for your guidance and wisdom
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@Hylefavud7 жыл бұрын
"You can't fight yuck with yuck. That's just a pig fest" NAILED IT!
@TheRoyalWe7 жыл бұрын
Hylefavud thank you.
@rmcd8237 жыл бұрын
Omg! It took me years to outsmart my family of controlling people, but I did. I DID!!! I moved to another country! I am FREE!!! I was the biggest challenge ever because after it I had to heal and eliminate the pain. This video is excellent!!!
@rmcd8237 жыл бұрын
I did block all of them in my Facebook. I don’t post anymore and I don’t go there anymore.
@rmcd8237 жыл бұрын
The best help I am finding comes from Spiritual alignment. Counselors are limited to understand. My last counselor always was coming back to the subject of me “fixing” things with my family. I am focusing my life purpose through all techniques and knowledge that is in the market. Meditation. Walking daily my dog. And doing everything that pleases my being. I will get immune again as I was once. But I don’t think it’s necessary to contact them never anymore. I am free of them.
@TheRoyalWe7 жыл бұрын
Excellent! Its not necessary to contact them.
@anitag25756 жыл бұрын
Excellent, thank you!
@ASMRcandy6 жыл бұрын
How do I deal with it when I am a young around age 30 and just getting my life togetehr without them and with raising a child on my own without the family support? I still harbor that pain from 8 years ago and when i am around them I am the only one feel like please go away, I always end up fighting against them. I feel good when I am away from them and only text them. But they keep worrying about me and what is bothering me. do i let them know or what to do? I cannot reach out to my cousins because there all doing stuff and not a positive environment.
@polyglotta14 жыл бұрын
I found a Christian counsellor the most helpful - she was a great role model with her strength, love, purity and wisdom. I also knew she and others in the organisation were praying for me, and I never felt I was overloading her. With God's guidance she helped me to take an important step out of a narc relationship and the kind of trapped helplessness that just makes you feel like the living dead.
@suzannedawson6330 Жыл бұрын
There’s a lot of great people on KZbin, talking about narcissism. But you, by far, are the one who speaks to my experience spot on. Thank you SO MUCH ❤
@LisaFrancesJudd5 жыл бұрын
Narc parents (both of them). Walked away permanently and never been more at peace.
@empressdorr1595 жыл бұрын
Family here too. It’s been 6 years and I keep getting stronger every day. Real love don’t hurt you . I send peace and strength your way
@PartyXPooper5 жыл бұрын
Amen Sister. I also have 2 narc parents. Our Father Our Creator and His Son love us Always!! Stay Strong Child of God You are Loved. My mom actually told me she should of put me up for adoption. Wow!! I have 1 daughter and I Love Her With All I Have!!
@candacelangm5 жыл бұрын
I drive narcissists crazy. My mom and dad don't really speak to me anymore because they think I'm screwed up. Out of nowhere though, just yesterday my mom just called me to brag about publishing her second book. Meanwhile, I'm living in my car and she could care less... My ex fiance just kicked me out over an argument over fried chicken. All his family members literally pushed me out the house while I was begging for him to come to my aid, but he just left me in the house with his family who screamed in my face, pulled my fingers back, performed am exorcism, grabbed my car keys and pointed them at my skull, etc In short, I'm blocking every narcissists number on my phone, including my mother's. I'm never going to contact these people again. Now I have legal issues, no money and I'm back at square one. I was used, humiliated.. But somehow the pleasure of no drama in my life right now is making this transition time for me so much easier. Life is meant to be enjoyed. I am terrified of narcissist. I am terrified about the thought of even being one, maybe that is why I attract them so much.
@jordanr18895 жыл бұрын
@@candacelangm lol what
@jessxo85915 жыл бұрын
I'm about to start my no contact journey with my parents as well. I cannot wait to see what the future holds!
@healurself69687 жыл бұрын
I think this is the best video on KZbin.
@TheRoyalWe7 жыл бұрын
heal urself thank you so much!
@JaneenDaniellCain6 жыл бұрын
It's message is absolutely healing and empowering!!
@somyan85406 жыл бұрын
☺
@EdgarasLubys2 жыл бұрын
.. it is not easy, it is so dificult, because this is entire family system with NM and enablers, golden child around..
@fharhunachoudhury24344 жыл бұрын
I can’t even be around a narcissist for too long, I just feel completely repelled by them ever since I started focusing completely on myself & my healing journey. Thank you for this video, it was very enlightening 🙏
@nikkilove61285 жыл бұрын
Deleted social media and went no contact....best thing I ever did, don't miss social media at all! Brilliant illustration of self love thank you so much, your a genius!
@Ilovehalima Жыл бұрын
Thanks for this video ! Now I finally understand why no contact is all about me , this really helped me to understand it !
@david1980895 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY...I have no desire to “teach her a lesson”. Aside from it being an exercise in futility, I don’t care anymore, which feels GREAT!
@rjames9084 жыл бұрын
Allow yourself to break free from all the things that are not good for you, serve you no purpose, make you sad, are fake, don't resonate with you, drain you off of your energy.. Allow yourself to be you, to have your freedom, your independence, your happiness, to be appreciated, to enjoy life, to do the things you love, to meet others, to get your rest, to feel good and to move on. Live, it's ok to be happy, it's the best thing actually. Small steps and seeing it in the little and simple things.. less complex and with less drama works best.
@LuxyFairy7 жыл бұрын
This demo is so powerful. I find it hard to explain what narc abuse really is. I'm gonna use this explanation next time. thank you!
@phoenixrising13056 жыл бұрын
EXACTLY! That is exactly what it is and how it plays out. Well said!! Thank God for channels like this to educate us all out here who’ve been through this kind of hell!
@ppiron66 жыл бұрын
Indeed.
@joefriday86077 жыл бұрын
Kevin! I need to share this with you! 2 days ago, I was in the deepest of despair. I had no hopes, I felt lost and helpless, like I was about to loose my mind. I am a Christian, so my only hope at that time was a miracle and I spent the afternoon in the woods, crying, falling on my knees, praying, begging for divine help. Then yesterday I went to a local church I had never visited before. I got there when they were greeting each-other, and a big guy from San Diego, California called Tom came to talk to me and inquire who I was and where I was from. I could hardly reply: my mind simply wasn't working well anymore. I sat down, overwhelmed with grief and self-pity, even during the singing and adoration. Then came the time for the preaching. To my surprise, they called that man from California to give the talk of the day. And then, I went from surprise to surprise... His talk was all about God's unconditional love for us. What I needed to hear. Probably what I needed to hear and understand the most. And in the middle of his preaching, he started to perform your water "trick". It was a bit different, but in essence, it was the same. Not only the water representing our soul came out crystal clear, but he showed that God's own source is overflowing in us and most important of us, unconditional. Thus we are not alone, we are not orphans, He is with us constantly and we should ask him to help us understand that. Every word echoed in my heart. After it ended, I went straight to Tom and told him how he had given the answer to my prayers. He smiled and prayed for me and with me. I left that Church yesterday noon, transformed. I had understood something so important, now I want to let myself filled with love and bear the fruits...
@TheRoyalWe7 жыл бұрын
Eric G. L. PINZELLI awsome story!
@5winder7 жыл бұрын
That's beautiful.
@isabelizzy91307 жыл бұрын
Amen
@kkibela6 жыл бұрын
Eric G. L. PINZELLI wow thats amazing...i came by the same mesage in a different way...x
@laraoneal72846 жыл бұрын
Eric G. L. PINZELLI So happy 😁 for you. I dumped my entire family and thank God I did. They are sick abusive evil ppl. Any friends I had like that got rid of them also. I have God in my life 24/7 365. I have maybe one friend and that is fine. I have a peace that surpasses all understanding and that is my priority. God bless you.
@christieneal33922 жыл бұрын
“I promise you, it will lead to your destruction “ That’s a take away. Thank you!
@marthabenefield6343 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. I understand now. It has become clear why I suffered so much.Removing my self physically was not enough. Removing my self emotionally has taken place. I am going back to the lovely person I once was.
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@ninahorvath12234 жыл бұрын
I really need prayers I'm going through some hard times right now and this video is really amazing God Bless You
@jazbogideon70503 жыл бұрын
I’ll pray for you 🙏
@margaretcurrie40933 жыл бұрын
So sorry too hear this xx will be thinking of u and jesus will alway hear u.. Even if u don't think so.. Xxx
@deniseschweiss39492 жыл бұрын
Prayers
@christinalove20455 жыл бұрын
I need to talk to someone but it's so hard because i feel like everyone i trust betrays me somehow 😔
@GameCreatorOfGod5 жыл бұрын
Talk to me, I am a stranger you never meet, so, there is no reason not to trust me. I'm not asking for anything or want anything. And i know just about everything there is to know in most all relationships. Are you having problems with a current relationship?
@MM-wy1wy4 жыл бұрын
Me too
@rogermendez18044 жыл бұрын
Im here and i need an ear too
@Inkironnrum3 жыл бұрын
@@alexandriamarie5666 I’m here to talk with. To hear you out, and do so in an unconditional caring way. My sister put me through the most darkest of days of my life. A lifetime worth of put downs. I feel your pain, Alexandria. My email is, inkironnrum@gmail.com
@shanepotter60673 жыл бұрын
The problem is you, fix yourself.
@prescottlady2905 жыл бұрын
If you think you can't live without someone, realize that most other people in the world are doing so; therefore "SO CAN I !!!"
@nvestal112 жыл бұрын
5 months no contact and I’m getting back to me and I’m happy
@tonibreen55605 жыл бұрын
When you live with negative behavior sooner or later it rules you too.
@jenniferclayton25807 жыл бұрын
Wow.made me cry. I lost myself
@TheAshMcG7 жыл бұрын
Jennifer Clayton Stay strong....you can heal. I have been surrounded with "narcs" and a vicious abuser for 30+ years...I am now on a healing journey. I wish the same for you.
@taniasparks15326 жыл бұрын
Here I am at 3:29 am listening to your powerful video and a my eyes became watery. You eloquently delivered the message that God wanted me to hear. Thank you for helping me dude! I am currently shutting down all SM. God is about to cleanse me as I focuses solely on him. There is hope!
@TheRoyalWe6 жыл бұрын
Tania! Thank you for watching. SM like facebook/instagram can be a stumbling block. They truly are narcissistic pools... and additionally its easy for abusive people to sneak up on you and follow you through these places. I highly recommend shutting them down. Especially if you KNOW YOU ARE BEING CLEANSED... Let God do it! You will come out of this stronger then ever.
@taniasparks15326 жыл бұрын
The Royal We I shut them down last night! I took your advice. It’s time to regain my self-worth! I will be unapologetic when it comes to my recovery! You rock!
@AppleofGodseye65435 жыл бұрын
God sometimes allowes this for many reasons im going trough it now lol only its not a boyfriend its my roomate x boyfriend its a test putting trough the fire burning off what God cant use and keeping what he can use as we go throug this its causes us to see ourselves also.. will we still trust God Jesus went though worse Joyce meyers says trust God do Good in the end we win she said
@maryxm13 жыл бұрын
Absolutely love the way you showed this ....I married a malignant narc, stayed 27 horrific years. ..eventually gave up but lost my now adult children. I wish people realised how toxic these individuals are...I just hope my children see the truth. God bless all who have had this evil in their lives💖🌸🌼
@Bread_n_Butter.5 жыл бұрын
Went no contact after breaking up with girlfriend who likely has borderline personality disorder (actually she broke up with me). It's only been two weeks so far (compared to usually letting her manipulate and guilt trip me back within a day or two). But I realized no contact was the only way to finally get my head out of the cloud of constant anxiety and start mental recovery. Let's see where I'm at a month, two months, 6 months from now... 💪🏾
@eyubjj5 жыл бұрын
your situation sounds like mine. we’ll get through this together!
@xhenissss5 жыл бұрын
@@eyubjj 👍🏻
@allankoech49065 жыл бұрын
A similar thing I have had to endure just recently. BPD is the major factor
@Cecilia.275 жыл бұрын
3 days no contact for me. It's hard.
@bottlewaddle66775 жыл бұрын
I'm at the exact situation NOW that you were at when you posted this- how are you doing now?
@nyleah4117 жыл бұрын
My people are God, Jesus and the Holy Spirit♡♡♡
@stevemcmillin35696 жыл бұрын
Yay!!
@freebird616 жыл бұрын
I feel the same way.
@mrs.s21685 жыл бұрын
Yes!!
@phoenixrises12365 жыл бұрын
Bloody Brilliant. Nearly 2 years since I chose me & walked away from my narcissistic husband. Over 1 year absolutely no contact. This is my story & I am free and have refound me! Was it easy....NO. did I want to cave...yes many times. Was it worth it....YES
@RenegadeMastersVideo15 күн бұрын
Saw this years ago and it even more profitable years later. Thank you Pastor.
@jhackett30665 жыл бұрын
I was about to change this video...the more i watched the more it spoke to me..when you said i don't kno who i see in the mirror i broke down...thank you for this video
@PiscesinVa5 жыл бұрын
Omg. I just broke down at that part as well.
@sabrinabowden-hughes17305 жыл бұрын
I feel your pain I know just how you feel praying for you that God would comfort you and give you strength
@ToxicPpl1014 жыл бұрын
I hope all is well with you, now.
@Kyle-dv6er Жыл бұрын
Dude this is the absolute best illustration of no contact I've ever seen. Praise Jesus!
@TheRoyalWe Жыл бұрын
Thank you Kyle
@Kyle-dv6er Жыл бұрын
@@TheRoyalWe wow Kevin I didnt think I'd hear from you. I wish I could afford a one on one with you. The narcissist I was staying with was covert and I left Friday and came to a homeless shelter. I have my own room here that God blessed me with. I feel like I carry some narcissistic traits after being around this chick. Out of nowhere I started acting cold and toxic. Totally demonic. I have a friend that was doing deliverance work on her but once he told her she has a jezebel she got offended and stopped getting deliverance. She said she believes in Jesus but something wasn't adding up.
@jameswashnis79905 жыл бұрын
great analogy with the liquids so very true
@PC-jd3dw5 жыл бұрын
Yes! They literally make you sick.
@fredericmoresmau43035 жыл бұрын
you dorealize it doesn'T change or "heal" anything, it just sickens the "narc" and makes him/her sick and wastes their time..........
@jackiemcarter11514 жыл бұрын
Each day I stay no contact I choose healing over staying stuck in what wasn't working for my highest good. It never was!
@TheRoyalWe4 жыл бұрын
👑💯🙌
@jromeo82477 жыл бұрын
kevin, you are a beautiful person, handsome and heartfelt. your truth is awakened and your truest essence, the lightness in you is apparent. just keep going no contact with all that is toxic. you will be pleased where you end up. the most unimaginable depth of sincere happiness you ever could be in. because.....you are there. finally.
@TheRoyalWe7 жыл бұрын
Thank you!!!
@dawnelizabeth18287 жыл бұрын
The Royal We Hi Kevin, Awesome information! Because of your videos and others, I'm more educated on their end. I need lots of Help!!! on my end. I'd like to get in touch with you to get this process started. Please work with me, I'm just starting to recover. I look forward to your contact. Take care. Your loyal listener, Dawn Elizabeth
@lyndiex42156 жыл бұрын
The Royal We smh...I know its an old video..but i will be subscribing👍sigh..This vid spoke loud to me. Been there and done it...like 3yrs no contact now! I HAD to go no contact...i knew i had lost myself. I said ..I am NOT this person...someone who stays in a Toxic Fucked up situation..Just because ive known him for over 7yrs..(HA..least i thought i did)..SO DA FUCK WHAT?????? Bastard made a callous comment one night...after hurting my feelings Prior to that! I was DONE. Can i plz email u with a question??? Im like 75% healed..thank God..but it still hurts...Esp since Now I have a younger relative goin thru the EXACT SAME THING NOW...already gave my speech on why her boyfriend-pimp is trash and she Wont listen to me. She has to experience this i guess. She was like...well..sorry i dont give up on people." smh HE KNOWS THIS..ITS WHY SHE IS BROKE N WILL GET RAKED OVER THE FUCKIN COALS😒. My question to u...deals wit the fact that the Narc loser i cut off Now shops at my grocery store..WTF😡😡sorry so long
@kevinn59765 жыл бұрын
I went NC 12 years ago. It was a sacrifice I had to make. I had to grieve the loss even though they were still alive. It got easier as the years passed. Now I could never go back to that toxic environment. I have healed much of the wounds of childhood and the gulf between us is massive. The freedom is amazing.
@lassallyscorpiotruthseeker17707 жыл бұрын
Been dealing with this for years ... This resonates immediately thankyou... At last free no contact 3 months
@TheRoyalWe7 жыл бұрын
Sally Hammon great Sally! thank you.
@theecosmetaverse2 жыл бұрын
Starting No Contact with my ex today. Wish me luck. Everyone, stay safe ❤
@GK-jq7nc7 жыл бұрын
Omg.. When you said :... you don't know if you wanna live..... I socked, because I reached that point in the last few days.. 😧.. Thank you for waking me up
@sweetheart.nikkilee4307 жыл бұрын
Thank you so much. Ive decided to remove the narcissistic parent from my life who has brought nothing but toxic, negative attacks towards me since birth. I am ready to release. Not to punish, but for my own wellbeing. I am rising higher.
@TheRoyalWe7 жыл бұрын
Nikki Vardanega thank you for sharing that. I'm with you.
@ashlees69186 жыл бұрын
I've gotten rid of my Mother who has done nothing but start fights and be nasty to me. Its been 4 months and I feel so free. She cant drag my name in her bullshit fights anymore. She doesn't have any more ammo.
@lainiebelcastro9724 Жыл бұрын
Kevin…thank you for this visual. One of the best examples of what happens to one’s soul when you don’t go no contact! It took years for me…and I finally became that clear glass of water again… I am now an author, published several times with a credible publisher and have re-discovered my gift of writing that continues to heal me and also helps to heal others. The main cure….always go no contact!!!! Thanks again… you are a treasured healer! 💗
@mayericcardi2 жыл бұрын
I have learned so much with you!...Thanks!
@oscarwilliamson61632 жыл бұрын
Maye Riccardi,You are beautiful,Hope you are not with a narcissist.....
@linverenice95645 жыл бұрын
I literally was just praying and cried for 15 mins straight calmed down and then this is the first video that popped up on KZbin. I needed this♥️ thank you 🙏🏼
@TheRoyalWe5 жыл бұрын
Thank you 😊 🙏
@terrikelly27623 жыл бұрын
God is so good to give us what we need.
@StandingOVegas6 жыл бұрын
That made me cry, watching the clean, clear liquid pour into the dark liquid and transform it back to clear and clean. And then when the gunk went into the clear but didn't darken it, that was beautiful, too. Great visual message. Thank you for this video -- what an extraordinarily painful experience it is, trying to extricate myself from the narcissist I have *loved (see below...) for a very long time. *Loved: been traumatically bonded to.
@OneWhoJesusLoves4 жыл бұрын
1 of the best videos I've seen on "no Contact" and getting healthy
@fatimaawesome34084 жыл бұрын
You're amazing... You're the best... You literally saved my life
@butchimelendez42496 жыл бұрын
it went right into my heart. today is the first day of my no contact decision with this toxic person im in a relationship with. and this is so inspiring.. thank you so much, Kevin ..
@TheRoyalWe6 жыл бұрын
+Butchi Melendez thank you so much for watching and I'm glad that this has inspired you. No contact is a decision that you make for yourself, to protect yourself, and to stand up for yourself. During this process you'll learn your value, and what you deserve in your life and what you don't deserve in your life.
@taylorpresley86025 жыл бұрын
This not only applies to a toxic relationship but in my case it's my job. So tired of evil people.
@bdfan4ever5 жыл бұрын
Taylor Presley my job was a toxic relationship. I quit that 1 year ago and haven’t looked back.
@simp22345 жыл бұрын
@@bdfan4ever same too many bad job
@chrisnuenthel89375 жыл бұрын
Probably most jobs out there are toxic. The number one job for psychopaths is literally CEO, and they decide policies.... If a psychopath decides the policy for work, it's going to lack empathy. And most possess are status, money, approval from their superiors driven. Which makes sense to guarantee employment and money, but most take it to toxic levels. I've quit many jobs because they were toxic. Now I fear I will never find a job that isn't toxic. But to be uneffected by it is best. I literally get most upset when bossess purposely push ur buttons and it's obvious.
@bdfan4ever5 жыл бұрын
Chris Nuenthel yes!!!! These CEO’s only cater to THEMSELVES. They create baffling policies that make no common sense whatsoever and are designed to cut further hours from employees while padding their own wallets. I experienced this first had at my restaurant manager job. I was doing 85-95 hours a week and felt emotionally and physically drained. They refused my boss the executive chef we needed during peak season and resulted in chaos and more resignations and all this was JUST to save the money that it would have cost so they could give it back to their investors. It’s all bullshit. There really is no empathy and/or humanity at the corporate level. I quit to do Uber and Lyft and be a part time bartender and have been the happiest I’ve been in YEARS.
@chrisnuenthel89375 жыл бұрын
bdfan4ever my neighbors landlord upped her rent from 680 to 850 as soon as her lease is up. New owners. And she's an old lady that can barely afford rent as is. That's how much a lot of rich ppl don't give a care. Theres a lot of psychopaths out there.
@wayfarinstranger24446 жыл бұрын
Jesus is the answer!!! Cling to Him, and these "dark" people can not rub off on you or destroy you. You will be strong in Him, and if He is for us, WHO can be against us????? You will not get this "muck" in you or let this continue on. Jesus is the true living water, and He can make us clean and clear and pure and white as snow!!!! :)
@wolfpsx62105 жыл бұрын
Religion is for cowards who can't face the reality. Sorry for being blunt but I really do think this way. You can be happy without hiding behind a fairy tale every day.
@leiannagirl225 жыл бұрын
So right, Karin. Afterall, what are we really without the Savior? HE is our source & strength and protection; to overcome even the tactics of a demon possessed narcissist!
@Debra124255 жыл бұрын
@@wolfpsx6210 Sorry you feel that way. Surely.. you aren't speaking for me. Come back and say that after you have experienced the true saving grace, love, peace and healing power of Jesus Christ. I know where I was.I know where I am today. I never have hid behind a fairy tale. Jesus is the REAL DEAL.
@majoremgloriam50345 жыл бұрын
Amen
@starlingswallow5 жыл бұрын
Karin Dunham I agree~ I'm a Christian and felt trapped in that abusive marriage. I sought God in my severe pain and desperation and He showed me a way out and gave me the strength to GET OUT and go NO CONTACT. He has blessed me so much and has helped heal me from all the pain, the lies I believed about myself, the sexual abuse, the severe emotional and physical abuse....all of it. God helped clean my guck out. There is no bitterness or even regret of 13 years in that marriage~ I've learned sooooooo much, healed and grown. God has put many people in my life, including a godly man who's gone through the same stuff and who have held me as I've cried and cried and cried....and healed. ❤️💕 God protected the CORE me through it all....now I feel equipped to be there for others. I am finally, fully me ❤️
@charliebrown5552 жыл бұрын
Superb explanation of the effect of toxic people on you. Thank you for creating and sharing this. ❤
@niabass65646 жыл бұрын
Everything he's saying is what's happeming with me right now, and right now I'm going no contact I started yesterday and today is still going and it will continue to go.
@vaniraman20554 жыл бұрын
This was healing and gave me exactly what i needed to hear
@TheRoyalWe4 жыл бұрын
🙌👑💯❤️
@mamabearc42635 жыл бұрын
The visual message in this video really stuck with me. It enabled me to show and explain to my loved ones what I was going through, why I needed to deal with it by cutting all ties. I will NEVER forget this illustration, and it often comes back to me when I have weak moments. Brilliant!
@Livingourbestlife929 Жыл бұрын
I was just feeling weak and thinking about breaking no contact. I found this video in your library… thank you for your wisdom Kevin! It’s back to one day at a time. I have come a long way and I’m getting so much better, just having a weak moment 😢
@MustardSeedish5 жыл бұрын
I started sobbing near the end of this. I'm having this with my siblings and it's been excruciating. Thank you.
@cathymcdonaldfemale8204 жыл бұрын
Me too, I cried watching this video
@Brightestlightt4 жыл бұрын
Had to cut off my sister 😩 i choose me 💪
@MJ-qb5ph3 жыл бұрын
Agree. It is without a doubt the most excruciating thing you can be put through - it is madness until you reach the other side and see it as a deeply karmic experience - you are breaking a very unhealthy chain - you are breathing fresh air and they are trapped inside a toxic smoking room - you will notice the terrible smell - but it to shall pass. Bless
@MustardSeedish3 жыл бұрын
@marysimon I just read this. I'm so sorry for your loss and pain.
@karentanner40023 жыл бұрын
@@Brightestlightt me too ...she is a hectoring bully and I finally cut ties x
@healthawarenessprosperity44285 жыл бұрын
Wonderful! I broke with my father and later with my sister also! It took me years to deal with these people, until I read the Bhagavad Gita and my eyes opened! The Gita was a great help and guide for me. It gave me the courage to fully break the relationship and to choose for myself. Opening my eyes was just one part, the proces of healing is a different part. I had to grave deep into myself to clean up the mess and build myself up again, without help from anyone. Only the Gita and later on also the Vedanta and the Sri Vidya were very helpfull. Thanks for the upload! I encourage people to do introspective research and find the peace and silence within. Bless you, Ray (NL)
@willalofton98195 жыл бұрын
This is so true. I had to go no contact with my mom and sister and brother relationship was toxic 😔. I just cut all ties and one of the worst part of it is that they mk it seen that it’s me that’s toxic to the only sister I keep in contact with. But God has really helped me. It’s hard when holidays cum around but I love having peace in my life. And putting me first
@fifisquirrel4638 Жыл бұрын
Brilliant demonstration....thanks for your good work!👍