Alain de Botton on Love

The School of Life founder (and voice behind this channel) Alain de Botton lays out his ideas on love in the modern world - at a conference by Google held in London in May 2016 called Zeitgeist [many thanks to them for the film].
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[@clairevicidomini3199]

"We are dangerous and most of us are on the edge of insanity, the only people that look normal to us are the people that we just met". This man is literally giving away free truth. I want to hug this man so bad T^T

[@dianeribbentrop3805]

funny

[@markarmage3776]

That by definition crumbles on itself, if everybody is sort of insane, then insane is the new normal. The point is that how well you control that insanity. This guy is a massive fraud.

[@gdwe608]

@@markarmage3776 ?? Jealous

[@je6874]

@@markarmage3776 Without asking him directly, I can’t speak on his behalf but I would say ‘insanity’ or ‘madness’ in this context is subjective so it is defined individually. It’s not an absolute rule whereby human = insane. That would definitely fall on itself and would be as nonsensical as you’ve made it out. Feel free to correct me if I interpreted it wrong.

[@LaLabutterfly]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 perfect

[@hjdvshjbdshbjhd]

Every time I watch a video from this channel, I feel smarter. It's such a good escape from the typical, delicious internet filth we get caught up in so easily.

[@zaiddiaz3811]

Internet basically just promotes Loves = sex ...and thats all

[@wolfez795]

+zaid daiz especialy on pornhub. lots of love promoted

[@zaiddiaz3811]

+wolf e z tf bruh? Lolz

[@hjdvshjbdshbjhd]

Karel Proot The silly usernames we create in our youth, HAHA

[@user-qb3jg8ep9t]

hell yea bitch dis go hard as hell FLOCKA

[@nosenseofconseqence]

Alain de Botton makes me, simultaneously, want to get back together with my last girlfriend so I can repair and restart our relationship with everything he's taught me, and start over with someone else much more stable and suited to me and capable of receiving and reciprocating loving understanding. But one thing is for sure - Alain makes me feel much, much better about moving forward.

[@CosmosKramer]

Amen, brother. I had what sounds like the exact same thought process! I'll just add, this video made me feel a good deal more at peace with my last "failed" relationship; and for that, I am especially grateful. Great video, *truly* insightful!

[@CosmosKramer]

@@sully1892 Happy to answer, bur sorry, not sure I understand the question. Is it, how did the video make me feel more at peace with my last failed relationship?

[@THETRIVIALTHINGS]

Going back to your ex isn't moving forward though. "Back" is back. Based on your comment however, your username checks out and fits perfectly. Good job in choosing it.

[@peternall6566]

@@CosmosKramer you comment desurved a vote of confidence. I think you nailed it. Hope is good right NOW

[@PH-pq3vq]

I'm not commenting our your situation but I do applaud and love you reaching out and being open to being with a new person x

[@meettheartist5506]

_"When you manage to move from seeing your partner as an idiot to seeing your partner as a lovable idiot, you've learnt a vital lesson about love which we all need to take on board."_ ❤️🌻

[@Nvnso]

2020. Who still comes here and feels this is super relevant? This man is a gem.

[@vineetkaur7701]

2021 ,still relevant

[@keshanchetty4259]

Yep...July 21 and I'm back for the 4th time

[@gusgrizzel8397]

Doesn't seem like people are looking for romance at all.

[@estiw.6270]

2022, and still relevant

[@matthewcapstick6242]

@@vineetkaur7701 make that 2022

[@marcorodvas]

best 19 minutes i've spent on youtube so far.

[@Jide-mx3wm]

Me too.

[@Richard_is_cool]

Well then there are all those other videos by this channel, so I wouldn't rush to such judgement :).

[@JohnDoe-wx2oo]

Word.

[@relhage100]

Man this dude liberated part of my soul

[@JohnDoe-wx2oo]

Imagine if all highschool and university teachers/professors were like this.

[@harveyyusoftan6860]

@@JohnDoe-wx2oo ong everyone needs it

[@soulure]

The idea of being generous in one's "interpretation of the behaviors of the other person" (treating a partner as a child) is also known in relationship psychology as "positive illusions" and has been found to be a primary indicator of long-term relationship duration. Absolutely love this channel and this video is one of my favorites to date. Thank you for your work Alain.

[@frappalina]

it might be an indication of long term relationship but it is an awful concept. people should behave right, they are not excused for bad behavior, ESPECIALLY ADULTS, i won't pretend that my partner is a little child, and i would hate if he'd do that to me. my partner is keeping me on track and helping get my shit together, ESPECIALLY when he corrects my wrong behavior, and it is my responsibility to correct him too. we are in a long term relationship and we are so not cutting each other slack, we are kicking each others ass! and that is how it should be!

[@jacobs8598]

That sounds like a battlefield.

[@MiguelRuiz-kp3dd]

"people should behave right" good luck with that. Can you do it? Do you have such an absolute control of your own mind and emotions that you dont let anything get to you? Have you never taken your frustration out on anyone? Can you perfectly pinpoint the exact reason on why you feel the way you do? because if you can, congrats, you must be part of a .0000000001% of humanity.

[@cinniemoran4456]

soulure l

[@sbkmarkel]

I didn't finish watching the video yet, but why is that treating the partner as a child? Why is that not just being kind and patient with your partner?

[@Shaboiyoungslippy]

"Romanticism is the single greatest enemy we face against love"

[@nola8504]

Please explain?

[@Shaboiyoungslippy]

@@nola8504 romanticism sets us up for failure in love in that it sets us up to have unrealistic expectations from our partner e.g. he/she will complete me, know everything I need.

[@valentinemartha5739]

Unfortunately redefining love will lead to more multiple interpretations.

[@zetetick395]

@@nola8504 Here you go, Jodie kzbin.info/www/bejne/qYGypnyveq-hmKc

[@vanessaperez1457]

What’s book his Alain the bottom in romantic?

[@Lorkin32]

"I love you, but I need to tell you about the cereal" - Alain de Botton, on the topic of love.

[@lane99]

Pithy.

[@russellolmedo]

Alain de Seinfield

[@elaksandra]

11:50

[@MessoverOG]

😂 that’s hilarious and unfortunately that would be me! I can’t stand when I hear someone chew.

[@Banana-lk7tf]

@@russellolmedo 😂

[@SPOOFY_D]

I feel like some of Alain's comedic tone here should make it into more videos. I really liked it.

[@Baqsam]

Half the time, it doesn't even seem like he's trying to be funny. It's like he doesn't expect the laughs. He just states facts in such a clear and honest way that shows how absurd they are.

[@timeslowingdown]

@@Baqsam I think that's a common method among some of the world's greatest comedians. Just state the facts so clearly that it's just funny how ridiculous it really is.

[@daynat2349]

I love his voice and language style xxxxx

[@exoscalmfan191]

‘being yourself around another person is a curse we should spare anyone who we care about ’ 😂😂👍

[@silicalnz3008]

He summed up all of his videos on romanticism in under 20mins, absolutely insane ;)

[@mickypure]

He's a genius!

[@blobdragon2678]

Next Einstein for LOVE!

[@A2forty]

or he is an idiot

[@buhagsigwasan2259]

"They're a little bit too healthy, they didn't satisfy friends requirement for suffering."

[@Sofia-be7ee]

That definitely was the best quote for me as well.

[@pinkmazohyst]

I was nodding my head so vigorously for almost the whole nineteen minutes that I thought my head was going to fall off

[@purplelillyx9895]

Manon 😂😂😂😂

[@KaLiNa5454]

*nods head vigorously*

[@willferrous8677]

I love how after all this time following the channel, watching these long form content I can pick up points that were established in previous videos, sometimes multiple times, even dated back to the very beginning. You should definitely do more of these. They are fun as hell.

[@oberstul1941]

This should be taught in schools! Or at least played.

[@caseyharrington4947]

The romantic movement should be taught in high school history

[@CrawboyRocks]

It is, as well as the classical movement, which can be seen as it's opposite in many ways (and that Alain obviously adheres to); in french schools in french literature (Alain mentioned Madame Bovary, which is a mandatory read in most years)

[@yukisshadow]

I did not learn anything of worth until I started doing homeschooling. In Australia, our distance education department is still connected to the government but, I am able to view my curriculum in more detail. I was also able to do Philosophy and Reason, I subject I would not have been able to do in a mainstream school. I was also able to email and call my teachers and they would actually do their best to help me.

[@jurriaand]

And here I am, writing an essay based on this video. Thanks.

[@lisachen5134]

hhh our teacher played this in class

[@OrgilB]

So this is what the narrator looks like!!

[@caseyharrington4947]

*writer *narrator *philosopher Sorry just had to correct that and explain more, have a nice day

[@aldelgado9343]

i was surprise myself

[@vishalsinghkatoch53]

Orgil B I thought he looks like Adam Levine or someone like Bradley Cooper.

[@KyanneSummer]

what did you say he is cuter❤️

[@beisiknikneimas]

yeah i didn't knew either!

[@TNB1603]

Thank you Alain for everything. your existence in this life will never be forgotten. you are one of the very few philosophers I truely believe in. your message have reached me all the way to Saudi Arabia ! can you imagine! I love you and I love your work..i just feel more at ease and calm about life the more i watch The School of Life videos :) and often times i find myself going to the Book Of Life just to read even more :) you rock ! the coolest philosopher ever ♡

[@naeemsheira5091]

Absolutely brilliant. I am very happy that i understood a lot of this from past experiences. I learned that my "instinct" was going to lead me to be unhappy and be miserable in my marriage. When i met my wife, i didn't "click" with her or feel intensely towards her. I looked at her as a person, outside of the conext of my feelings and saw an amazing human being, 3 years later, i am happier than i have ever been in my life and i love her more and more everyday, and it feels like healthy love, the kind of love that builds you up and makes you a better person, not the kind of love that is self destructive like the "love" we have towards someone we instinctly feel comfortable with in the beginning.

[@olgamelo5227]

This is what love is about!

[@phoenixgrove]

Alain De Botton is gorgeous and smart. I am embarrassed to comment here but I have a major crush on him.

[@golddustwoman5050]

Sunny Midnite yes, as soon as I heard him speak and saw his passion and spirit... it got to me too...

[@mistersmith1883]

Sounds like such a cliche

[@karenka77]

@@joyce7550 good daddy issues I guess. Brilliant, playful, handsome, fluent, focused, beautiful voice, what could possibly be wrong with that?!

[@NoSpringChick138]

I must admit, he is a mental turn-on! Let's write an ode to Alain de Botton!

[@Gulzhan168]

Sonia Khatri me too

[@sofiacabrera915]

this is really what it means to love: to be generous in the interpretation of the behavior of another person

[@nadadhibi]

finally the gorgeous voice uncovered

[@GJJGHNBSJDN]

He speaks so fast yet his message his very clear and elaborate. I like his way of explaining things that intermittently involves humour

[@esabkhan7901]

This man's every word, he speaks, should be written in double comma's.

[@RITIKAVERMA05]

I have never written a comment on any video. But this one is truly amazing. This man is speaking heavenly words. Some of us never really understand what love is, we remain sad, broken hearted, bothered, but don't really question the idea of false love we have sewed in our heads. We should really learn how to love openly and beyond the predefined boundaries.

[@SimpLeeBeth]

Comments are an easy way to show gratitude to creators for the time, effort, cost, etc. that they invested and for-which you benefitted. Comments don't need to be profound. Just a "thanks" or whatever. Please consider doing it a lot more! *It could be argued that sharing a vid is an even easier way, which could, possibly, benefit the creator even more! I say, don't just be a taker! We have heard it before, but not enough people take the initiative to like/comment/share. Do it!!! 🥰

[@slkhjf]

Alain, I'm sure you would drive me absolutely mad in real life, but in these metered doses, you are completely BRILLIANT. I can't tell you how many ways you have helped me get out of entrenched areas of thought. I've been listening to School of Life videos every day since a friend sent me the one on appreciation of short term love. Can't believe I learned of you a month after you were here at Powell's World of Books. Hope you loved Portland enough to come back. =)

[@supernaturalswampaids8083]

My girlfriend wants to take me to powells! Would've went if I knew Alain was gonna be there! Please come back to Portland!

[@laraobasli9871]

Love is about hard work and when you get older you realize this, compassion and kindness are key

[@sarahsan3257]

I find this very effective in general: "let's stop treating our partners as adults and start treating them like little children" I believe people respond to kindness better than they do to demanding or criticism

[@JungledG]

I learned this 6 years ago watching this video for the first time - still try to do this every day

[@Ari-us8gt]

Anyone else wish they could "come to him later" when he address the crowd.

[@edunlap6594]

👋

[@demolitionman8276]

😏👍

[@elizapere644]

+Demolition Man Marcos

[@aaryag5427]

Me!

[@cgortz89]

"Because this is really what it means to love, which is to be generous in the interpretation of the behaviour of another person." I love this phrase. So true. Some was a bit messy in this speech, but this quote really reached me.

[@danielpineda508]

Where has this man been all of my life?? Wow! He is just right about everything. We have so many expectations of perfection on love that it ruins relationships.

[@tjs723]

Dear Alain De Botton - one of today's best thinkers and actually I think he is a genius. So underrated. Love him.

[@adelinas.7335]

Goodness gracious. Never heard anyone speak the truth and say it in such an elegant way. I feel like he just opened closet to a whole bunch of hidden things I have contemplated but never wanted to say. This is both refreshing and frightening to listen to because I know listening to his speech is changing my perspective in a profound way.

[@thequietone9785]

It's taken me a lifetime to recognize these things....so much brilliance in less than 20 minutes

[@NodeEntry]

Some people say we only use 10% of our brains. I think we only use 10% of our hearts.

[@tegridy9569]

Those people should go to school.

[@peace.love.n.blessings]

Deep

[@antondegroot6061]

I think we dont even know what we are using. (or maybe its just me who doesn't know) I am a nerd, studied computer science, atheist, and spend way too much time thinking about everything, life, society, science, politics. Maybe a little sparkle of autism in me. I have always seen myself as a rationalist and prided myself in my the capacity of my brains to think rationally. My friends tell me to follow my heart instead of my head. In my actions though, i feel its the opposite. I don't think much before i do and even less so before i say things. I just act on impulse most of the time. Exactly those friends who say i should use my heart instead of my head are the ones who seem very capable of rational action and thought out speach. When they talk about their believes and world views though, they seem very irrational.

[@gdwe608]

Heart is only an organ that pumps blood

[@JungledG]

My god! This is such an amazing talk. Wow...

[@Bloodfeeder]

This is such an important video for so many millenials / gen y. I agree with so much of what's discussed. It's also refreshing to hear an insight of as to what parts of these ideologies are healthy /unhealthy and why

[@minashypnosis]

As with most things in life, balance is key. Basing love off romantic feelings only will not be enough, and using a completely rational approach is also not enough. You need both. The intuition/feeling and your ration. I have been in both types of relationships: guided by ration and guided by feeling. Something was missing in both, and I believe mainly it was a balance between these two approaches to a relationship.

[@ricardomurillo5205]

faintmelody Intuition is a tool but has little to do with love. Intuition and rationality are indeed needed but not for love. What if I said I think and intuitively believe I love you. Is it credible? Never met you but your comment shows grace and your picture beauty that makes me love you. You would think I am crazy. But I can say I rationally and intuitively believe this video is good and intelligent, perhaps my favorite and sound credible.

[@minashypnosis]

Ricardo Murillo Intuition is a bit more complex than that... I think an intuitive feeling about whether something feels right can be a good indicator of how fulfilling a relationship can be.. Sometimes you have a lot of doubts but you go for it anyways because it seems "rational"? Those relationships can be a bit dry I think. Of course things can't be exciting all the time and we can build love and deeper emotions with time, even if we didn't feel a spark in the beginning... But I think a strong spark is meaningful, and it doesn't have to mean that you dive headfirst and completely irrationally into something... I think a balance between ration and intuition is possible, we just need to practice it.

[@ricardomurillo5205]

Intuition is indeed very complex and not well known or used. It uses experience but also a certain kind of energy. However love is blind and very likely your intuition and rationality are not at their top during love decisions. That is where luck plays a very strong part as well as your friends and family that have a more distant approach.

[@elisackwild1630]

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[@fernandesadrienne28]

I like the way he speaks. From that itself you can tell he's a genuine speaker and knows what he's talking about.

[@tehzeebpatel]

I absolutely love listening to Alain. Such refreshing takes and he presents them in an even more refreshing way. Had a smile on my face the entire time, I even applauded at the end!

[@HealthVendetta]

I never want his videos to end so I pause and go away and come back to them to feel like it’s longer

[@vladimirgoodness2212]

12:00 Greeks vision of love 18:40 readiness for love: you are crazy, your partner is crazy You don't understand yourself, They don't understand themeselves

[@bequic9990]

Watching this confirms that I'm not romantic since I already agree with and practice what he's saying about the future of love. 🙌

[@nicestguy]

I don't think any other video has contributed so much to understanding and improving relationships than this one. I know the quality of my relationships (romantic and platonic) have changed post the wisdom of Alain and I'm sure it's the similar for many others. Emotional education is so underrated these days. Kudos to sharing such quality content! 👏

[@kw7796]

5 mins in & thinking this guy is BRILLIANT (& funny, too)

[@samiarrr]

So much to learn and understand. Thank you for everything you do Alain De Botton! "We are all a little bit crazy." " How are you mad? Should be a standard question at a dinner date." " Only a lover, deep in a relationship, invests in mutual enlightenment. Not your mother, not your friend." "Be incredibly generous about our system of interpretation of behaviour, we don't look like children as adults, but we are."

[@scntillatedseed]

Incredibly poignant yet lighthearted. LOVE this!!

[@wendyhutchinson457]

Alain de Botton is a marvelous combination of both intelligence and humor. 😊

[@JesusGonzalez-ep6bl]

"... because this is really what it means to love, which is to be generous in the interpretation of the behaviour of another person". Brilliant.

[@vanessaaventura]

WOW WOW WOW, what a brilliant speech, loved everything he said, and gave me epiphany.

[@manjardenubes]

He is making a huge contribution to humanity.

[@khaifrench3323]

Sir the words you say rip out of my own mind. love your simplicity on explaining complex things.

[@Joeydee212]

I fought it the whole time out of ego and pride. But I knew inside that my love was unconditional. In all respects.. I cant imagine Doing this to anyone But you d.. You made me feel unconditional love with your honesty and vulnerability in the beginning. You are special, my mind. Body and soul wanted to do this. For you because it was true to me.. Now I will expand this to all other areas of my life hopefully. And it was all because. This special girl that I knew whowould swing from the moon, she came and went to soon..

[@sjupi7941]

His talks are relieving. Romanticism puts too much pressure on us.

[@WatchtheWaters12]

This is brilliant, just brilliant. What a witty, intelligent and funny man.

[@Donginator2]

We need more people like Alain de Botton in our society - people that are upfront about the challenges that we will confront whilst we journey through life. I sincerely hope the School of Life continues to grow and that more and more people can find solace and comfort in knowing that there are others out there that understand the ups and downs of existence. Bravo Alain!

[@hassanraza-xq6ni]

I have never experienced such a great deal of similarly between my thoughts and someone else's on the concept of love. This man is a real genius ❤

[@nicolebonilla8916]

I think disney also has fault, they set this principles on little girls.

[@try3315]

Yep. And Hollywood movies too.

[@arturmizuno]

Well, all society does, since as he says it comes from the XVIII century's, implicit or explicit ways, we might too, unconsciously

[@allisonsnoop3921]

Nicole Bonilla he actually talks about this in one of his talks I believe!

[@nickosc88]

Yes. Definitely

[@Star-vg7ix]

This is stupid reasoning. Do u believe in living according to Disney's interpretation of a girl???

[@Px828]

Pessimism is the most generous and kindly emotion that you can direct towards your partner.

[@halloweeninthesea]

Romanticism has ruined love! I love this video and your insights on love and beyond. I only regret I didn't hear all of this sooner!

[@JamesFilbird]

Brilliant exposé on what love is, how to find it, how to know when you've found it, and how to maintain it. I learned so much from your teachings Alan. Cheers!

[@Vasileski88]

OMG that broken arm/broken soul example was so good. :D

[@maryamayyub3678]

Why didn't I see this before? Really glad someone is going down this road and teaching us about things really important in life that are left for us to experience with, throwing the ball in the court of instinct. Thoughtful debunking of romanticism and popularised views of modern love. These are some of the topics that need to be thought about and debated, now more than ever.

[@TheDudeYouLookAt]

The comment on criticism tragically does not only effect couples but teacher and student relationships. Students will threaten a teachers job because their criticism is too harsh, then parents will also support the childs or young adults point of view instead of the educators perspective on the topic which is the correct one. I have seen threats in American schools and I have sadly seen a teacher lose their job In Bolivia. The reactions seen in social media outlets on how some people consider themselves bullied because they are being criticized of their incorrect thoughts is exactly how students react to teachers criticism. "You are too harsh on my beliefs so you are unfit to educate me". I would like to add that I greatly appreciate and enjoy this channel and its contents, although I am not well versed with poets and philosophers; these videos give a thorough and easily digested amount of information. More than enough to grasp ones interest to seek for more. Keep up the good work Alain and hopefully you will be able to keep presenting and be able to upload those as well. For those who can not make it. A huge Thank You from a student in Virginia and some alumni.

[@maryames4391]

Wish I learned this in middle and high school and college for that matter. Totally makes sense.. I have been with my husband for 46 years, This definitely puts relationships in a better more truthful light. Great presentation.

[@agentstarkk]

My new ice breaker for any conversation, "So... How are you mad?" Thanks Alain!

[@aruvielevenstar3944]

This lecture makes me feel so relaxed inside. Don’t have to search like madness to my twinsoul, it is as good as it gets and it is the same with everyone else.

[@shashanklaur507]

Want more Videos like this.

[@Umbear]

I feel so engaged when I hear Alain de botton speak.

[@idaliakulik]

This is resonates so much with how I feel on a daily basis in my relationship. It's just a shame that my husband doesn't understand or use a lot of this and it's so unbelievably tiring to be the "emotional adult" in all of this and constantly forgive what I know he does not understand. That being said, Alain always reminds me of a somewhat balder version of Prince William.

[@johnmcandrew852]

Sure as hell wish someone had told me this when I was in high school - and insisted on my watching it once a year until I could recite it from memory.

[@paolagrando5079]

"We are deeply dangerous and on the edge of insanity" I feel much better now. Thanks.

[@louisademetrio4408]

This Video is "Unbelievable"! Alain catches the essence of Love & Romanticism Brilliantly. He puts the Words in thoughts that everybody thinks but never had the guts to say it out Loudly. I Love It.

[@PaperMario64]

He’s serving up gems 💎. Familiarity rarely equals happiness.

[@nacarreira777]

"Familiarity breeds contempt"

[@croKingRIncho93]

This is literally the best video I've ever stumbled upon!

[@laraking804]

This deserves so many more views. Absolutely brilliant!

[@anonymouswife007]

Alain thank you so much for your wonderful lecture! Indeed, you are a genius.

[@stellguy90210]

My face lit up 10 seconds into the video connecting his voice with the other school of life videos. I finally have a face to the voice

[@whitehotmoonlight]

He's packed in so much information. How very articulate!! One of those rare speakers that I can listen to on a Normal 1x speed setting.. as opposed to 1.25x or 1.5x for most others speakers who drag on to fill their 18-20 minute slot. #mindblown

[@imvdat3698]

I so very much want to watch this right now, but I'm seeing Alain speak in Sydney in 2 months on this very topic, so I don't want to ruin it by hearing it early!

[@007Anukul]

I being able to watch this for free is awesome. Thank you School of Life.

[@peterz53]

"didn't fit my pattern of madness..."

[@xw6475]

It's brilliant right?

[@supremeintrovert7404]

@@xw6475 yes.

[@PH-pq3vq]

Okay I add to that. I love Alain for he is and for all the truth brings to each of us. He makes us laugh and let go of pain. For that I will always be grateful 🙏💓

[@rodrigopm13]

School of Life, please get your videos subtitled in all languages!

[@jamartonzeitgeister]

English, at least! Then it's easy for us to translate it into other languages

[@TheBetta]

+Birdy Edwards I totally agree, in fact I would definitely volunteer to translate those English captions or transcripts into my native language (Spanish). This channel is full of interesting messages that I believe should be spread to the widest audience possible.

[@AminAsoode]

+1 this Idea. I wanted to translate it to Persian but without a synced english subtitle its really hard to do

[@peshwin3362]

These videos about love couldn't have come at better time in my life.

[@SelimxBradley]

Would really like to see you on a podcast with Joe Rogan someday.

[@michellepackman1484]

I have yet to hear a philosophy closer to my own. There's no greater integrity than residing at the heart of truth.

[@liquidpebbles7475]

Well this is interesting. Currently reading one of his books (The consolations of philosophy), AND NOW I WONT STOP HEARING HIS VOICE

[@liquidpebbles7475]

***** Will do :)!

[@KingaGorski]

Alain is a witty and insightful speaker-definitely appreciated the moments of levity throughout :)

[@MateusAubin]

It's a shame he is rushing so much into it... I guess the conference was very strict with timing but if only he could talk in a more calm manner it would be easier to let the ideas settle in the viewer Great content, as always

[@swoosh3684]

There are hours of in depth videos :)

[@purplelillyx9895]

What a great public speaker and a truly fascinating rendition of modern ‘love’ ... thank you 🙏!!

[@jesperburns]

"How are you mad", well my younger brother keeps a list, so I can just redirect her to him.

[@honingbijtje83]

Lol! :)

[@terezatrieshi]

We need more people like you in this world.

[@kevarosenberg]

Suddenly recognising you have a mutual chemistry with someone and wanting to step out together somewhere peaceful in Nature is ageless. A great many couples already have this all down pat and are happily getting along with their lives. I agree with a lot of his points but I think it depends on the kind of person you are also. Some people thrive in relationships and others don't fit or life gets in the way. Many of my friends are partnered up and happy living their lives without any mind for this type of thinking. Maybe they had more stable parents

[@kevarosenberg]

@@alexandrugheorghe5610 Don't be so cynical, someone might make a career out of appealing to that sensibility

[@drshohinidas4051]

@@kevarosenberg no but she is right. You don't go and see what is happening between two people are you

[@dossube]

Some people live in their married friends' bubble to the point where they think their friends are having a better's relationship or romance than their own (looking at Social media). Then start comparing and blaming their partner for their unhappy marriage. We gotta stop conforming to others fb materials and start transforming our own relationships. That's is the point.

[@ggidd4322]

Intellectual and emotional genius. How inspiring. Thank you.

[@syedazahid8953]

This man is one of those people who don't have capacity or talent of understanding and experiencing love... There are people like that, he is one of them

[@MrEffinBest]

Alain de Botton is my personal hero. And he is precisely correct about what makes my marriage work. We're both endlessly pining for our parents approval and affection and at the same time confiding in one another that it will never come. A perfect mirror of unfulfilled desires to project upon one another forever 😌

[@cleyenne]

To love is to be generous in your interpretation of the behaviour of another person.

[@AllTheArtsy]

More than what he's actuall talking about, I enjoy this for giving us what his voice and cadence is truly like in more casual speech and conversation, and how much more he pauses and enunciates when in voice over. :D