these people should not be parents

[@Simplychelsea999]

My mom was SO angry when I needed glasses at 10 and accused me of wearing them too much and making my eyes worse for attention. She was mad at her ten year old for needing help to see.

[@shannond1511]

Are you a millennial with boomer Parents? This sounds very familiar. Didn’t mean for the beginning of this to sound like a legal commercial

[@Hana_H]

Jesus christ what the hell???

[@jelly_4_brainz]

​@@shannond1511that's why I work for you Albuquerque

[@rowan8133]

eyyyyy my mom didn't believe me when i asked for glasses too 💀 she said i was just "wanting those fake glasses" because yeah, I'm SUCH a trend-follower /s

[@LeoBladini]

that literally happened to my mom, her mom (my grandma) refused to give her the glasses she needed, worsening her vision by forcing herself to see when she couldn't..

[@GenericDanielle]

"Take your kid to the doctor or go to jail" is my favourite controversial take that shouldn't be controversial.

[@oclone120]

It’s one of those ‘haha but no, like actually’ kind of takes that I love so much

[@stroemk9818]

I would like to mention that in some cases, it may be impossible for the parent to take the kid to the doctors due to financial issues (at least in the USA) Just adding that to the conversation, im for kids to not go to a doctors for checkups and vaccines and medical issues

[@breezyiscool8025]

​@@stroemk9818 I feel like that's kinda excluded from the sentiment because this mindset is looking at people who are making a choice. Obviously (most of the time) the people who can't afford it would choose to take their kid to the doctor if they could.

[@blueburns8880]

No cause some parents think praying is enough to cure cancer then assume it's gods will when that kid dies. LIKE NO ITS NEGLECT THAT UNALIVED THE KID

[@blueburns8880]

​@@stroemk9818 imo that's different from being able to get your kid help but not doing anything

[@bambino05]

I don't get why someone wouldn't let their kids wear whatever they want (assuming it's weather appropriate). Also, every single christening outfit is a dress. Boys get christened in a dress. Big, typically frilly dresses. But your 4 year old wearing basically an oversized t-shirt is repulsive? Alright, crazy.

[@sarasynfox]

I feel like someone should show them pictures of families in the 17th century. Some pictures it looks like basically the whole family is dressed the same, with the only difference being the man of the house is the only one in any kind of breeches! Or the 14th century where it almost looks like everyone was wearing what we'd now consider a dress!

[@SarastistheSerpent]

✨𝒸𝑜𝑔𝓃𝒾𝓉𝒾𝓋𝑒 𝒹𝒾𝓈𝓈𝑜𝓃𝒶𝓃𝒸𝑒✨

[@shannond1511]

I was just having this convo with someone the other day. It’s actually pretty recently that material with pant leg holes for children even became a thing. Dresses are what ppl used to dress any child and especially infant in, because it didn’t make sense to ppl to put pant legs on a child since they’re not efficient at using the toilet yet. It’s kinda crazy that it has turned into some ppl’s children can only wear things with pant leg holes.

[@theofficialgoofygoober]

They're all in their own world, and the saddest part is they don't plan on listening to any of us, no matter what. It's really disheartening to see and hear.💔

[@Xtroid]

I'm allowed to wear what I want but not allowed to present as my correct gender, lmao

[@alyssamichaela]

A lot of abusive and controlling parents turn to homeschooling to further isolate and indoctrinate their own kids. Its horrible and i pray every child out there trapped at home can find a safe way out :(

[@pinkzaism]

my mom is abusive and controlling and i remember telling her all the time that i wanted to be homeschooled (because i was undiagnosed autistic and a bunch of struggles came with that) and i'm so glad that she didn't actually do it

[@gracelovely3838]

The whole "they're so loud about it" and "they get a whole month" makes me upset the most because straight people get EVERYTHING. As soon as there's *gasp* more than one gay person, we're shoving it down their throats. But what if I started loudly complaining about there being more than one straight person? They would freak out and call me hateful and spiteful and who knows what else. The double standards are insane.

[@professorfoxtrot]

They shouldn't be so adamant on trying to groom children. We need to throw the rainbow flag in the trash and raise the American flag

[@LilChuunosuke]

Straight people will literally put sex jokes on infant clothing and not bat an eyelash, but if a child's toy or shirt has a rainbow on it, they LOSE THEIR MINDS. Literally saw a video of a kid playing with a rainbow road mariokart toy & the entire comment section was talking about gay sex and grooming children?? Its INSANE how much straight people think about gay sex

[@jasperjazzie]

they like to say "gay people get a whole month but veterans only get a day!" but like. veterans get TWO months, may and november. if those people really cared so much about veterans they'd probably know that, but you just know the people using that as an argument don't care, they just want to be able to hate on gay people and veterans are basically being used as a cheap tactic, it's offensive to queer people and it's offensive to veterans too.

[@jelly_4_brainz]

​@@jasperjazzieand besides that, they have nothing to do with one another. If you're mad that there's a whole month for gays but not one for vets, that's not the gays faults, it's the government's fault bc they're the ones who doesn't give one single shit about the vets that come home injured or with PTSD and if you really cared about vets you'd be doing more for them, but no, you just using one group's struggles- that you're unwilling to do anything about, despite "caring" about them- to put down another group. That's the mental gymnastics that phobes have to do in their head.

[@saltydinonuggies1841]

@@jasperjazzieyup if they cared at all about veterans they’d be bringing awareness to the way the military treats people. And to the fact that vets have no support once sent home. They never cared about vets. They just care about their hate

[@JenniSeven7]

The mom is mad about the sage because she knows, at least vaguely, that it's part of a non-Christian spiritual practice. I was allowed to burn incense, but if I had tried to burn sage as a teen, my parents would have been afraid that I had let demons into the house.

[@jelly_4_brainz]

Which is ignorant as hell bc sage cleans when it's burned lol

[@gracelightart7091]

Sage literally would take the demons out and cleanse the negative energy. I hate people

[@MoodyMickey]

Sage does the opposite of letting demons in the house lol. Also, it smells nice

[@JenniSeven7]

Yeah, I know that sage is supposed to be cleansing, and many of them know it too, but Christian fundamentalists believe that any spiritual power or magical force that isn't coming straight from their god can only be coming from demons/satan. God's power is the only positive "magic." So by using sage, you're invoking a spiritual power that isn't from their god and inviting it to work inside your home. This can only mean that you have invited a trickster demon, masquerading as a cleansing energy, to take residence.

[@thewerewolfofwaggawagga8818]

@@gracelightart7091 like pentagrams

[@Midori_ocha]

I completely agree with the "reason but not an excuse" - it's a reason why but doesn't excuse their behaviour

[@thatdisabledprincess]

My mom really needed to be made aware of this when I was little. Like my autism isn't an excuse but damn does it explain a lot.

[@jaeydnheeren]

THIS! i have BPD and very high chance of autism(my therapist said and i quote “i can’t officially diagnose you, but i know a specialist you can see because im pretty sure you have it”) and until very recently i was very unstable and unregulated in my emotions, actions and words. but not once have i used it as an excuse. does it EXPLAIN my behaviour since i was 2 years old? yes. SO MUCH YES! but never has it excused the pain i caused other people. and i understand even when i apologize, people do not need to accept it until they see a change. and even once i did change, they still dont need to let me back into their life. im already too intense for myself many times, i do not blame others for not wanting to associate with me because of what ive said and done to them. my bad actions are just that: bad things i have done. and i have to do the work to make sure they dont happen again and when i feel like something bad may happen, i excuse myself and separate from the person until i am in a rational state and can talk. i keep my meltdowns and episodes to myself as much as possible, its nobodies responsibility but mine to deal with it.

[@AragornElessar]

The person projecting their ideal future on their child, seems like the kind of parent who'll wonder why their child doesn't want to see them when said child is an adult.

[@sammjaisais7135]

My mother is kind of like that. I plan to go low contact with her as soon as I'm financially independent.

[@Nerobyrne]

💯

[@Whatever94-i4u]

That's because they don't see their kids as autonomous people but as accessories or extensions of themselves. I hate parents like those...

[@StardewDanny]

on the anti-medicine conversation i have to share an insane anecdote from my life recently. my dad recently got scratched by a nail or something on the job at work and he was advised to get a tetanus shot and he was complaining saying he doesn't need one because "nobody gets tetanus anymore these days" and its not an issue. YEAH DO YOU KNOW WHY NOBODY GETS TETANUS ???? fucking hell lmao

[@alexwyatt2911]

Some people have the weirdest understanding of medicine.

[@talkingraccoon525]

thank god for my parents. i was running through the woods with my little sister and didnt see a plank of wood with a rusted nail sticking out (it was covered by leaves.) took us a few days to go to the doctor but thats because my parents wanted to go ahead ahead and get me up-to-date on all my shots. was it miserable? absolutely. but better than these crazy anti vaxxers

[@ookamiblade6318]

If you want some horror fuel look up the symptoms of tetanus.....

[@panakinskywalker6391]

Coming from a country where homeschooling generally means having a personal teacher come to your house, imagine the shock i felt when i found out american parents are just out here "teaching" their children from home themselves!

[@panakinskywalker6391]

Homeschooling is also not common here, it's generally for people with disabilities that makes it impossible for them to go out, or for really rich kids.

[@areyad.09]

As a homeschooler, my entire life we've basically done public school curriculum written on computer. It's not like our parents taught us whatever they wanted

[@panakinskywalker6391]

@@areyad.09 well yes that makes sense, but there seem to be parents who just teach whatever

[@Jade-ut1yr]

@@panakinskywalker6391 That is called “unschooling” which is ridiculous. There is homeschooling where the parents are the teachers but they’re followed by the school district and they’re using the same curriculum. But when parents are just going Willy nilly with whatever they like it’s “unschooling”

[@scragar]

@Jade-ut1yr Unschooling as originally proposed was a great idea. School has a teacher stand at the front of the class and tell kids facts the kids don't care about. Unschooling has the parent find a way to make the kid want to know, then shows them how to find the answers on their own so the kid will learn independently and willingly. The idea being that kids learn better when they're interested in the subject, so encouraging the curiosity and learning skills makes for more effective teaching. It's not a bad concept. Where it goes wrong is all the people who heard the word, assumed it meant avoiding education, then decided that sounded like a good idea. It's not what unschooling was ever supposed to be.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

“All sane parents are alike but each insane parent is insane in their own way.” - Not Leo Tolstoy.

[@Anonymous-bi5pv]

holy shit that shower mom needs to be put on a registry

[@alexwyatt2911]

I legitimately felt sick to my stomach from that conversation. I know people like that exist in the world but it’s hard to believe. I think my brain simply wants to reject that people are _that_ awful.

[@dragonfliesnh4204]

I agree. That's literally SA in many places and since this happened when they were a child, it makes it that much worse. Please know I'm not saying that adults have it easier if they are SAed... I'm just drawing a blank on how I really want to word this and I hope you understand what I meant.

[@Alex-nv5wk]

"Even if they were a crutch, I don't think a crutch is a bad thing" THANK YOU! As a crutch user (chronic pain), that part irked me the most and I love that you acknowledged it

[@mothshroum]

Hi! I wanted to pitch in as someone who was homeschooled from pre-k all the way through to when I dropped put of highschool (I'm American). I comepletely agree that my mother should have had a background in teaching. And yes she did teach white Christian centric curriculums (which I have been unlearning), but when it came around to why we were allowed to be homeschooled, we would have to do standardized tests at the end of the year like most public schoolers had to (we had CATs, where as public schoolers had SATs). So we would send that off to the state and the state would send approval back to my mother to be like "yeah, they're exceeding. So you're allowed to homeschool still." And I grew up in a very homophobic and transphobic household, only for me to come out as trans and queer a year after I moved out because I finally felt safe to be myself. (I also had the internalized homophobia and transphobia that also had to be unlearned, because I grew up hearing that all the time.) And my friends who knew me after I moved, and have only known me as I am. Were like "That just proves that you didn't have any peer pressure to be queer. You just /are/."

[@mothshroum]

I did not mean to go on that long, and I would like to apologize

[@dogearflopper7011]

Don't apologize for telling your story. You deserve to speak.

[@ChloeJaneArt]

I am growing up in a homeschooling house. but we aren't religious, and I have very supportive parents, and I am actually a grade above what I am ment to be in America. and I find that homeschooling is actually easier for me to learn from! it just really depends on the family and the kid. Also sorry you had homophobic and transphobic parents 😕

[@Pinkywinkykinky]

yeah parents aren't against me being bi or anything either mom just wasn't fit to homeschool me and dad was busy, got pulled out of school as a kid since some teacher wanted to put me in a class for kids that needed more help or some 'retard' class my dad would say ☠@@ChloeJaneArt but they wanted to put me on some medication/drug cause I was diagnosed with auditory disorders with hearing and probably one with math I struggle with too but looking back it was probably the adhd too just asked too many questions for the teacher

[@sarasynfox]

While I feel like experiences will differ, I definitely feel like some parents should not be allowed to teach. I kind of get on board with the idea that if you're properly educating your kids and they're learning everything they need to be successful adults, you shouldn't have a problem with being required to prove it. As much as I'm not a fan in having someone come in to do an assessment every year to record their progress, it's only because it would be an annoying inconvenience, and not because I don't think it's a valid, possibly necessary measure. I mean, most people would rather not do a lot of things, like laundry and grocery shopping, but that doesn't mean we don't do them. But where homeschooling can be used as a tool for parents to indoctrinate their kids into hateful beliefs and to neglect a proper education for their kids, I feel like something like that is inevitably necessary.

[@wolfwatch9731]

i would not be suprised if that spouse watched that anti-glasses presentation, im pretty sure the anti glasses lady literally described them as a "crutch for the body" (which doesn't even make sense.. if youre using a crutch its because you physically cannot walk without one, what's the point here)

[@itsmxtwist]

It’s just an ablism thing, they are the kind of people who think that young people with chronic pain shouldn’t use mobility aids or people with mental illnesses shouldn’t be on medication.

[@shelbymarie1281]

Even needing an actual crutch isn't a bad thing. It's problematic Bc ppl who have those beliefs are pushing the narrative that if your body doesn't work perfectly like it "should" then there's something wrong w you. Which obviously isn't true, lots of ppl need glasses, or wheelchairs, or crutches, or walkers etc

[@Dreams_Of_Lavender]

I love glasses, lol Like, I need them. I've always needed them for as long as I can remember, but I didn't end up having them until after I came out and was about 22 years old. They can be cute! They're a functional fashion accessory that enhances my features, I feel like I look better with them on.

[@sleepdeprivedmortal]

Why do some people even consider having kids if theyre gonna treat them like this

[@putaromason5234]

Tbh u answered the question. It's so they can treat them however they can. They know children wouldn't be taken seriously so for that reason it gives them the power to do whatever to you

[@Whatever94-i4u]

Because they want that sweet, sweet unconditional love, an accessory, a self-insert, or a subject to abuse...

[@HunterLvyiXIII]

All kids deserve good parents, not all parents deserve kids. Just treat your kids as sentient, autonomous human beings. It's not that hard 😒 The bar is on the ground and these parents be tunneling under it

[@Ashton8844]

they rlly think because they gave birth to them then they have complete control over them

[@hayleighhartenstein8526]

The bar was set so low it was a tripping hazard in hell and the parents decided to limbo dance with the devil

[@sarasynfox]

@@hayleighhartenstein8526 Your comment made my day. I'm using this now!

[@hayleighhartenstein8526]

@@sarasynfox I remembered it from a tumblr reaction video I saw forever ago and it fits the situation

[@fredskull1618]

Kids are definitely not autonomous until they can do things for themselves. They’re still developing until then.

[@rainbowmushrooms]

I love this channel, but it always makes me sad about how horrible people can be:(

[@TheLisclark]

They really seem to out awful themselves with every new QueerKiwi compilation. I salute @TheQueerKiwi 🫡 plumbing the depressing depths of Social Media for our benefit. ❤❤❤

[@SarastistheSerpent]

Same

[@professorfoxtrot]

This channel is a flaming dumpster

[@ChaosTheoriesLuxe]

The internet has made me thankful for my mother everyday

[@chlyri]

​@@professorfoxtrot nah. just the comment sections, thanks to people like you.

[@alicebthegachaweirdo8378]

I’m never going to become a parent, but I could be a better parent than the people in the video.

[@tiale1994]

Me too

[@music_and_other_random_thi1330]

Same

[@marlyd]

People who chose not to have kids have often thought about what it takes to be a good for a lot longer than a lot of parents so that alone already shows we'd probably make pretty okay parents compared to many people who actually have kids

[@diamondgirl698]

Same also part of not wanting to be a parent is not wanting to pass on my health issues to my child or bring them into such a fucked up world It's almost as if I am considering a child's well being and potential life before becoming a parent ?...

[@diamondgirl698]

​@@marlydyou actually put it perfectly

[@bazzfromthebackground3696]

PSA: *Having a child does not make you a parent.* Have a nice day.

[@Whatever94-i4u]

Well, by definition it does (especially if they were also the ones who raised the kids, I could make an argument for "parents" who left their kids though), but definitely not good parents...

[@barbecuedsimsbaby]

"He may have been your father, boy, but he wasn't your daddy..."

[@smolexfundie6458]

The whole gross mom around 15:00 … yeah, that was my mom too. Still baffles me to think about today. I can’t imagine demanding to see my daughter’s body like that. Sure, if she voiced concern about something and wanted me to check something on her body, I would help her, or recommend her doctor take a look, but to just rip off the daughter’s towel to look at her body?? 🤢 so disgusting. That mother is a pervert and nasty. Think if that was her dad doing that? Straight to jail. No parent should do that.

[@connorburke6926]

I appreciate the mention of immune compromised people in relation to the lady who doesn't vaccinate! I'm legit dealing with an infection on top of my immune system causing my joints being inflamed and swollen that I can't walk. The last thing I think people who don't vaccinate realize, is normally I can bust ass and work hard, all it takes is one bad interaction with someone who isn't as cautious and I end up getting extremely sick.

[@BloggerErin]

I live in a home with my Mom and brother and both are immune compromised. I may be as well (lots of testing still), and it still shocks me how so many people (who are usually at least partially vaccinated themselves) are anti vax for their kids. If they don’t care about their kids, that’s bad enough on it’s own, but then it extends to not caring about literally any other person in the world except themselves or at least their own beliefs.

[@noorsager5835]

they should make it required maybe not to have a teaching degree but like making a teaching license specifically for homeschoolers to make it legal for you to teach your own children and you should have to renew that license every single year and the tests and requirements should be based on what teachers in school are supposed to follow

[@amaeliss7827]

"glasses are a crutch to your body" yes. Absolutely. Does also not believe in crutches?

[@taylorharvey3980]

entirely correct if a parent denies their child any kind of medical care they should be investigated thoroughly and forced to take high school and college biology classes

[@krazyworld6433]

Yup. I dont think religion is an excuse

[@barbecuedsimsbaby]

Yeah! Like, why tf didn't my parents take me to the doctor when I went insane?? They literally just left me in my room bruh

[@Roman-bw2fo]

me: i wasn't abused as a child! also me during the shower mom story: *why does this sound just like my mom*

[@Warhawk9012]

I wonder how many parents who won't allow their sons to do anything *remotely* "feminine" wouldn't bat an eye if their daughters were interested in "masculine" things?

[@SarastistheSerpent]

A lot unfortunately. There are even entire “mom’s groups” on Facebook that deal with parents “struggling” with effeminate sons. I’ve never seen or heard of anything equivalent with parents of tomboys.

[@kimber5435]

That would be another example of how the patriarchy hurts everyone. It's totally unfair that it's acceptable and sometimes even "cool" for girls to have masculine interests but cringe, embarrassing, pathetic ect for a boy to want feminine hobbies or clothes. Everyone should be allowed to express themselves in the way they feel, regardless of gender

[@matxalenc8410]

​@@kimber5435I don't know where this is coming from? Tomboys and masculine girls are frowned upon by their parents. Both girls and boys are affected when they go against gender norms.

[@chlyri]

​@@matxalenc8410 boys do generally get it worse, though.

[@onlyfoes]

​@@chlyri I would kinda agree. At least the level of acceptance is often different when it comes to toys for example. A girl playing with cars etc. was not near viewed as shameful vs a boy preferring barbie dolls (and it's still not normalized even in the West) Even the "woke parents" who defended their daughters tomboyish behavior (and rightfully so ofc) wouldn't do the same with a boy "acting like a girl" back in the 90s.

[@thatdisabledprincess]

As someone who has parents that would fit perfectly into the insane parents subreddit, it's nice watching these types of videos and knowing I'm not alone.

[@barbecuedsimsbaby]

It's a nice reminder that the honeymoon phases are only temporary, it reminds me to keep my guard up. Hope you get out too, I hope I do one day.

[@wictoria1940]

It makes me really sad seeing parents not taking their kids to the doctor and not giving them medicine, as I know very well that if I have had a parent like this, I wouldn't be here today, but at a cemetery instead. Since my early childhood, I had suffered with frequently reoccurring tonsillitis and my fever would often go very high (luckily I'm all right now). And as we know, before the invention of medicine for these types of diseases, it was deadly and very few had survived. Fortunately for me, my mother is the most caring person that I know of and is definitely not a science or medicine denier :)

[@wrantingwriter2921]

My mom is an anti vaxxer and doesn't trust doctors. I had a sore throat/infected tonsils for a month before she finally took me to the doctor because the pain was making it impossible to sleep. I was able to get antibiotics and was okay, but I think back on that a lot. Begging my mom to take me to doctors, and her ignoring my health.

[@frogonwall]

There's even more than two days and two months for the military -- there's a whole list of months and days in the double digits for active military members, former military members, and their families. Like you said, it really just shows how much they actually care Every pride month I post the list to my social media as a reminder

[@waltwhitmansgreatgrandaughter]

Let's not forget the magnitude of businesses that offer military discounts which extend to their family members. Like, all year long, and it never expires. Usually 15%.

[@dylnpickl846]

That christian one hit home! Literally my dad and step mom when I told them I couldnt visit them if they couldnt respect my name change, "The pain and disrespect goes both ways". Honestly could they stop making it about them for two seconds? Apparently not.

[@sunset__foxytwt9103]

Literally what😦 the one with their mom who wanted to see their body was freaking disgusting

[@barbecuedsimsbaby]

Like even if she wasn't doing it for sexual gratification, that's still molestation. Most rape is to feel powerful, she was definitely doing what she was doing to feel powerful so I wouldn't be surprised if she had done that to her kid and her kid just doesn't remember.. :(

[@deloresjames4620]

I actually do think homeschooling can be good, for example children with complex mental or physical health needs. It can be very hard for children to get the personalised care they need at schools

[@upsidedownandbacktofront_]

Same here. I'm austistic my brother has adhd and my other brother had cerabal palsy. We were all homeschooled because the nearest school that would accept kids with special needs would have meant us leaving for school at 6 am every morning.

[@barbecuedsimsbaby]

I had to be home educated because of the violence I experienced bc im autistc, and while it was good to be safe from children, it meant I was kinda trapped with my parents who are not the best either.. :( I need so much therapy lmao

[@bee.2392]

Yes but also it says a lot that something that’s solely about taking care of and educating kids isn’t enough for these kids. Like school systems have to do better so this kind of abuse and isolation doesn’t have a chance to happen

[@hepapu]

For me the ticket strait to the jail is if parents give their children colloidal silver. I just don't understand how that is even legal to purchase.

[@ookamiblade6318]

That's not even the worst one, at least turning blue is what an overdose on colloidal silver looks like... There is a movement that uses ‘bleach therapy’ (Chlorine Dioxide which was meant as a Hail Mary treatment for malaria when you couldn’t reach actual medical assistance)for autism which chemically burns their insides causing them to poop out strings of their intestinal lining which the parents are convinced are worms that cause autism...not even kidding

[@ookamiblade6318]

@@seanarmstrong3788 ok so, each element has different forms that changes how they interact with the environment. Colloidal silver is the heavy metal and liquid form of silver. While some heavy metals are needed for body function in small doses (and I do mean small as in tiny doses) such as iron, zinc, copper and manganese, colloidal silver has more in common with the heavy metals like lead, mercury, and arsenic in that the body struggles to clear it and it has no direct biological use. If it’s not being used, and the body cannot clear it, the amount builds up to a level that is toxic. It’s harder to regulate the use of colloidal silver as the toxicity isn’t usually directly fatal, as I mentioned turning the skin blue, limiting kidney function and night vision are two others, they impact the quality of life, but not the duration. Some forms of silver are useful as anti-microbials in medicine, colloidal silver is not one of them, but hacks piggyback off the fact that it has silver in the name, and people’s ignorance of the difference to claim it works as it is cheaper to make than other forms of silver actually that have some proof behind the claims and are in limited actual medical use. I think the biggest irony here is some of the same people using colloidal silver are fear mongering about mercury in vaccines, which again is a difference in form and whether it’s active or inactive. Thimerosal has an inactive mercury component, it doesn’t interact directly with the environment so doesn’t cause the harm mercury would.

[@heyits_cat8966]

What's wrong with it? /Genq Only thing I've seen/used it in, are wound ointments that has I think that silver in it

[@gh0stpuppi333]

My mom let me have lice for two months without treatment because I was “just being dramatic/complaining for attention.” I had literal bugs falling out of my head and my mother still refused to see it. I was 11 years old, I was ripping out my hair and scratching my head until it bled. But no I was just doing it for attention!!!!! A different time, when I was EIGHT YEARS OLD, she let me have pneumonia for three weeks until I ended up in hospital!!!!! It did permanent damage to my lungs!! Parent of the fucking century.

[@barbecuedsimsbaby]

My bedroom wall had blood splattered all over it from an episode and she was only angry about how much it embarrassed her since we had a cleaner and she helped clean it. I was literally going insane mom.

[@ErutaniaRose]

While I def agree about having parents be qualified in some way for homeschool, I think having homeschooling available is a valuable tool for many disabled kids who would be hurt and traumatized by the common school system that refuses to accommodate them, or do no harm. At least until public schooling is cured of ableism. Edit: I am not saying ALL public school is bad or ALL homeschooling is good. But, that taking away the option for a tailored and accommodating homeschooling to escape the ableism inherent in the system, especially in a school where the teachers have little power or the specific individuals are very ableist, is cruel and it's a complex issue. Every disabled and/or neurodivergent person's needs are different. Some of us like school, some of us would rather die than go. So there need to be thought through processes to help each student get what they need. I am in no way advocating for culty home schooling or indoctrination.

[@Rdm2MarvelFan]

That's the main reason I was pulled out of public school. I'm autistic, have an anxiety disorder and have adhd and was pre-testing As/Bs at home and getting Cs/Ds at school due to stress and distractions, and the less said about my obsession with bugs the better, oh and I had the habbit of just... wandering off randomly because I saw something interesting. And yet, I "wasn't bad enough" for an aide. So mom pulled me out and it worked very well. She has always been my biggest advocate. And while we were a Christian family, that wasn't really the focus of what we were learning? We did use the Bible (specifically proverbs) for handwriting class, but otherwise, 🤷 Mom kept what we believed as Christians (which has since changed) and what we needed to know for school separate. We had actual textbooks, and mom searched and made sure and tried to find the ones that worked the best for each of us (half of us are neurodiverse, but so is mom) She was also very accepting of 3/4 of her kids being queer. Homeschooling also helped with dealing with scheduling doctors appointments, our therapies and if my stomach was misbehaving (common in autism and anxiety disorders), I could go rest and come back to my work later.

[@fredskull1618]

I wouldn’t say public schools are specifically ‘ableist’. I think they’re often underfunded and unfortunately victim to the “majority rules” mindset because of said funding issues. It’s a gross generalization, yes, but they’re not singling out disabled people.

[@enbykitty]

As a disabled person who was traumatized by my early school experience, I agree. Public school isn't for everyone I was pulled out near the end of 2nd grade due to how that school treated me.

[@fredskull1618]

@@enbykitty I’m really sorry to hear about that. I’m a public high school teacher and it’s despicable when a school can ostracize someone whose needs may be a little different than the mainstream.

[@wmdkitty]

No. Further stunting a disabled child by home "schooling" just puts that child at a further disadvantage. Public schooling literally saves disabled kids' lives.

[@EmillyOrr]

Yeah, that dig on Gay Pride irks me to no end. Two entire months are there, plus one or two days if I recall. Meanwhile, in the US, it starts with January 25th, the anniversary of the Battle of the Bulge; February 3rd, Four Chaplains Day, and February 9th for Guadalcanal; March has seven individual days plus the general month for veterans; Aprille 5th honors military families; May has four military-centered holidays; June is military PTSD month, plus six other days in June; July has Independence Day, and a day for veterans of the Korean War; August has three military-honoring days; September is another veterans' month, plus four distinct days; October 13th is the anniversary of the Navy; November is another entire month for veterans and military families, plus Veterans' Day on November 11th; and December has three whole days. There's a TON of ways to honor veterans during each year. So the in escapable conclusion is they don't actually CARE at all about veterans, they just like parroting Fox News and OANN talking points.

[@beecarlone9460]

as a homeschool kid (from 8th grade to now 10th), my mother has no teaching degree nor anything like it. she however manages to teach my sister and I both perfectly fine by going off of state education requirements, and she has someone to help her out of needed

[@reptilianstudios8994]

We do not talk about the harm done to the parents because grown children living lives different from what you envisioned is not harm.

[@Dessamator]

I feel for that second teen so much! I had to take my mother's food stamps and other benefits as soon as they arrived, and made sure the rent/bills/groceries were bought before she spent most of it on beer, weed, and cigarettes for her and her boyfriend. Her boyfriend threw me out of the house because of this. He said it was because I was Bi (I didn't know I was actually Pan then), but that was a load of shit because my mom knew since I was 14 that I was, and her brother was gay! So I had to move suddenly to a different state where I had some other friends, and then had to become emancipated at 16 so I could work and be an adult... Even though I had been taking care of myself since kindergarten really. I really hope that teen can get out soon, for their own sanity.

[@mrobertson8056]

I got glasses in third grade. It was the best thing in my life. I was able to see blades of grass. I could see the clock on the entertainment center. I was able to do so much more. I have asthma and its been awful. I cant imagine feeling the pain in my chest from it and telling my parents and them not getting me on proper medication that made be able to live life. My parents talk about how once they got me on medication i was like a different kid. I was actually able to play and jump around. I get so angry when i see parents being so fucking horrible to these children. Your child is sick, take them to a doctor. And if your child is queer, they arent sick.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

If you want to treat your children like a status symbol and a return on investment, buy luxury products instead.

[@TamanduaGirl]

What's with the anti-crutch thing any way? If they broke their leg they'd not use a crutch or wear a cast? They'd just walk on that broken bone, to make their bones stronger? I think not. These sort of people only have these "rules" till it happens to them. Then they will say how their situation is unique so they use the thing they were against.

[@klaravictoryklimecka]

I was homeschooled my entire life and my mother was not a teacher. I am from Czechia and I do not know how homeschooling works like abroad, yet for me this was probably the most amazing decision my mother did for me. I am highly gifted with ADD and Dysgraphia, so I am greatful for all the individual attention I got from my mother. Currently, I am accepted to university in the UK and in a month I will be holding a lecture on the most prestige university in Czechia, I am also an author of a book. Nothing of that I would ever achieve without being homeschooled.

[@jonnalarsson3614]

Currently six months pregnant and frankly a bit scared of being a bad mom, so these videos along with parenting courses is my saving grace 😂

[@NearsightedNarhwal]

Just use these videos as “how to not parent” videos and you should be good

[@JinlongTheGoldenDragon]

If you have the humility to recognize you have to learn things to better parent your child, trust me when I say that even if you make mistakes, your attitude alone makes you a great mom

[@KireiC]

When my mom was at a checkup with me as an infant, she expressed to the pediatrician that she was anxious she might not do enough for me - to make sure I had the right food, enough mental stimulation, etc. The pediatrician replied that her worries were a sign she was aware of how complex a child's needs are, and that she wanted to meet them. What *did* made the pediatrician concerned? Parents who thought babies were easy, and that they had everything figured out. Try to maintain that perspective and keep your child's needs at front of mind and you will be on a good path to not-terrible-parenthood! ❤

[@shierpa6566]

24:09 crutches literally help you walk and live life despite physical limitations, glasses and crutches are both good things lmao

[@luuvcatz]

I was a homeschool kid, and i understand what you're saying about parents shouldn't be able to homeschool their kids if they don't have a teaching degree, but i'm glad it's not that way. I had very very intense trauma in 5th grade (i was forced into conversion therapy at my catholic school and was told i couldn't go by my preferred name because it meant death, and was scared into not talking about my special interest which was horror books, because they were gonna call CPS on my parents.) and then the year after in 6th grade, i was friends with horrible people, including racists, homophobes, and transphobes, and then in 7th grade, i just couldn't function in school. I was refusing to do homework, sobbing whenever i had to, skipping class to cry in the bathroom, using my phone in class, and my grades were slipping. If i kept going like that i would be dead now. I wouldn't have been able to live on having to do that daily, so i asked to be homeschooled, and honestly i'm pretty sure that saved my life. There are ways to be homeschooled without the parent teaching you. There are a lot of text books or videos or tutors that can be the teachers. If i wasn't able to be home schooled i'd be dead now, and i feel like a lot of neurodivergent or traumatized kids really benefit from homeschool, and if parents who wanted to homeschool had to have teaching degrees that would take away so many safe spaces for those kids.

[@galactic_gaymer]

Fun fact! Veterans actually get 4 months on around 40 holidays, it’s just that the holidays aren’t as well known of and/or they aren’t celebrated by many people

[@anett6101]

Quora is a gem too. Some lady literally asked if she should take her daughter to a hospital because she was showing signs of her appendix burst and she thought the daughter was making it all up for attention. Lord help these kids. No wonder we have to share space with so many broken adults 🙁

[@AesopMain]

For the message at 19:00 sorry if im wrong but how I read it is the mum sent all the messages, and the op is working on having a good relationship with her mum so blocks her until she's ready to speak again, I don't actually think her mums partner took the phone. The thing about hijacking is just like 'oh i didn't hear you' when they did, imo

[@hawkeyescoffee6399]

That is how I read it too.

[@Feynix4]

I think the OP confirmed it was the mom who said it, not a partner

[@eventhorizon2264]

I went through abuse by my own mother physical and psychological and I cannot emphasize how much she treated me less than human, whatever I did it was never good enough and whatever I said she would accuse me of lying,and all my hard work put into drawings, manga and comics, she would just destroy them in front of me or literally making fun of how I look, and I didn't have much friends so whenever I made an effort to socialize she would always find a way to destroy any friendship or connection with other people,if I ever had something my friends gifted me for my birthday she would destroy it or if it's something I collected money for cosmetics/perfume/makeup/ she would laugh in my face, say that whatever I had,it's now hers and all of the times I would work my ass of washing dishes and her clothes so she would let me go see my friends, and as i Im finished she would say that it was a joke and that I'm not going anywhere,it was funny to her how I allowed myself to do beyond what she told me. To this day I'm NC with her and there is no way I'm ever letting her near or in my life ever again...

[@TabbyWithMittens]

God the amount of privacy I didn’t have when growing up. It made me almost tear up with joy when my girlfriend (first time meeting up in person) went into the bathroom to change. I know eventually we will be comfortable enough to change in front of each other or don’t care, but it felt so nice that she respected my privacy in that moment.

[@Aiva]

"Eyeglasses are just a crutch" okay so the next time you break your foot or sprain your ankle you're just gonna have to walk it off there, bud.

[@katphish30]

May is Military Appreciation Month. Full month, before Pride. Only the people who harp on Pride being a whole month don't know that because they don't actually care about the military.

[@kylie4954]

It's like you said, I don't understand why the let parents teach their children without any background in education or qualifications. I graduated TWO years ago and I don't remember anything. I only remember what I want and love. Veterans get A LOT of days. If these people care so much about veterans they should go out and help the THOUSANDS of homeless veterans on the streets right now.

[@catrakitten]

These parents need serious therapy.

[@LoudLeo3]

Is it just me or are you just blessing us with your videos daily now? Appreciate your efforts!!! ❤

[@SharkCat-yj8vl]

What really makes me laugh...When bigoted Christians say that men should never wear dresses or have long hair but doesn't their idea of what Jesus have long hair and a dress?

[@SarastistheSerpent]

Cognitive dissonance. Although in real life Jesus almost certainly did not have long hair. Long hair amongst Jews in Roman Palestine at the time was a sign that you had taken a Nazirite vow, and we know for a fact that Jesus definitely did not ever take one (Narirites abstain from alcohol, hair cutting and also coming into contact with ritual impurities, like sick or dead people, and we know that Jesus drank wine and routinely interacted with both the sick and the dead). Early Christian artwork always depicts Jesus with short hair. Long haired Jesus was a Byzantine invention in the 6th and 7th centuries AD, likely in an effort to make Jesus look more like Zeus/Jupiter or Poseidon/Neptune, similar to how medieval depictions of Satan made him goat-like in reference to the Greco-Roman god Pan. Jewish men in Jesus’ era did wear dress-like tunics though. Men wore knee length ones while women wore ankle length ones.

[@kriskross_]

Hey! I really resonated with what you said about glasses, I had the same issue. Went to the eye doctor and they gave me the wrong prescription because they didn’t realize I was far sighted (good distance vision, bad near vision). My headaches became way less frequent after I got the right glasses and overall improved my quality of life. Please don’t hesitate to go to the eye doctor, the longer you wait the more damage you do to your eyes. My eyes have actually gotten better since I started wearing glasses! Went from +2.75 to +2.25

[@memoryprblms]

My mother refused to get me mental health therapy because "you're fine everyone gets bullied" until the hospital threatened CPS because i attempted twice in one week. Once i was in therapy my therapist said i needed medicine and she once again had to be reality checked to allow me to get meds. She said she didn't want me to be dependent on meds my whole life. Guess what.. now she constantly asks "did you take your meds" if i have any sort of panic attack or anxiety.

[@SarastistheSerpent]

IMO, interrogating your child about the colour of their pubic hair is borderline sexual abuse. At the very least, it’s sexual harassment. If anyone else did that to you, it would be unambiguous harassment.

[@barbecuedsimsbaby]

I slapped the last person who asked me that!

[@Hana_H]

You raise an excellent point about home education. I’ve also forgotten a lot if not most of highschool curriculum

[@crazyratlady3115]

Imagine having a kid and then loving them less because they don't perfectly adhere to the ideals of your fandom. Why have we normalised actual adults making real life decisions based on fairytales - not only for themselves, but for other people? Very scary.

[@thehamofficialart]

the words "colloidal silver" gives me flashbacks jfc. I was never forced to take it, luckily I had just escaped before it became my abuser's health fad of the week

[@josielister7137]

7:19 None of those events are even a guarantee. You could have the "perfect" cis straight child and they still could never get married and never have children.

[@timthellama]

10:00 My guess at least in the US is probably because of desegregation and the civil rights amendment being passed. Private schools and homeschooling got a boost after the public school system had to be integrated.

[@wmdkitty]

And that's exactly why private schools and home "schooling" should be illegal, like on the level of child exploitation material federal felony illegal. Keeping your kids out of public schools is a form of abuse.

[@matxalenc8410]

​@@wmdkittyI disagree. There's been talk in the Black community about homeschooling because of racist antics from teachers and principals, hair discrimination, and white-washing and censoring of Black history. For some people who can, homeschooling might be their child's saving grace.

[@DaisyDream_pers]

I hate when people say that something is "just a crutch" cuz people NEED CRUTCHES. Like, yeah, crutches are not bad and don't reflect poorly on you as a person

[@Reed5016]

10:57 Not to mention it leaves them vulnerable to abuse (being unable to safely tell a trusted adult if their being abused at home, and schools often teach what abuse is), and can make it very hard for a kid to learn important social skills.

[@rowan8133]

for real! i've been homeschooled my entire life and I have no clue how to study, how to handle conflict, and I can't handle a lot of people at once. I can count on one hand how many friends i have 😭

[@diamondgirl698]

​@@rowan8133But I mean a hand of friends is good for anyone of any background it's when you have zero friends you should be worried

[@MamaDopest]

Thank you so much for the comments on homeschooling without a teaching degree!!! ❤❤ as someone with a teaching degree in a state that a lot of people choose to homeschool in, it drives me crazy for that reason!

[@sam.b.10]

Just wanted to say something a bit on the homeschooling, we are a homeschooling family here in Canada we are monitored by the school division as to what needs to be learned in each grade. We are what is called a secular homeschooling family (aka none faith based) and honestly one of the biggest struggles is finding curriculum that isn’t faith based cause sadly I found a lot of those to be very lacking but when done correctly homeschool kids can actually be very much advanced so please don’t group all homeschoolers with those groups, some of us are teaching the exact same thing they would be learning in public school just at home and do it this way for the health and well being of our kids. Plus sadly here in Canada if you go to school for teaching that doesn’t actually amount to what it might where you are, all it means is you might get a higher pay. Most of those hired with the school division are very terrible at their job and kids don’t learn anything, and sadly here you don’t get to choose your focus. In high school our amazing art teacher ended up being our English teacher, she was an immigrant from Greece so English isn’t her first language and she was terrified that we would all not be able to graduate due to the fact she wasn’t able to teach us what was required, we used to get bonus points for helping her convert words to English. Like everything in life there is pro’s and con’s but homeschooling when done right can be amazing, the difference in my kids between public and homeschool truly is night and day, they are excelling in ways they just couldn’t in public due to cut backs and issues. The school systems in North America are so fricken sad and I say this as someone who very much wanted to be a teacher when I grew up 😞 Just wanted to give you a bit of perspective from a homeschooling family ☺️

[@shannond1511]

This is why homeschooling in the US scares me. There isn’t a lot of oversight and for the most part, it’s just fundamental Christians not wanting their children to grow up knowing anything they don’t have control over and we end up with more fundie Christians that don’t have an education passing a middle school level.

[@sam.b.10]

I’ve heard how much worse it is in the states… in Canada you are enrolled with the local school district and you have to prove that your child is up to par with where they should be, even if behind(speaking from experience as our child had some undiagnosed conditions) we provided that we paid for an evaluation by a professional, what they recommended and provided a plan on how we were going to support their needs so they could reach the level they needed in time. We still have religious families here more often then not but that’s actually changing, lots of secular homeschoolers now a days! But they still need to be able to pass exams and such no matter what curriculum you choose. thankfully there is more and more great resources for secular families coming out that has been so awesome, some even designed by teachers (and public schools use in their classes rooms!) so I purchase those! It honestly blows my mind some the stories of what I’ve heard some fundie families “teach” and don’t teach. Literal child abuse… we have freedom but at the same time we still very much teach or we are held accountable for failing at our responsibility of not providing a full education.

[@fredskull1618]

You still haven’t really said why you were a homeschooling family to begin with. What was the impetus?

[@wmdkitty]

This kind of abuse should never be allowed. Put your kids in a real SCHOOL, before they grow to resent you!

[@SailorLarkspur]

imagine if a father tried any of the shit that shower mom did wtf im so sick how could she not realize how fucked up that was

[@callmediablo]

9:44 is so true, I'm 14 and been "homeschooled" my whole life up until this year when I started college for my art. my mother genuinely taught me and my siblings LITERALLY nothing (no lessons, nothing), when I tell people I've been homeschooled they say they can tell, I've literally grown up stupid

[@Obsessed_Freak]

I haven’t gone to the doctors in like a year (besides my therapists) because my parents keep forgetting to make appointments (ex eye doctor, dentist, lung doctor for a while till it turned out they only treat adults, etc)

[@cary9479]

I am in a borderline down (I hope it makes sence) so I just distract myself, so that I don't get into a thought circle and tink about everything I did wrong in my whole life (most of them really small things I did when I was like 12 and my borderline symptoms started or other small things later), because I don't want to just hate myself in the end.

[@qryptid]

Unfortunately in the US we have such a teacher shortage due to low pay and risk of violence that several states are trying to reduce the requirements for teachers, often suggesting solutions such as completely untrained military veterans. Just throw em in the classroom, no training on how to be a teacher or the subject they'll be teaching, it'll be fine. While I do think homeschooling should be more regulated, and in many states you have to report curriculum and test scores, for some it's the best option due to risk of gun violence and pushing conservative homophobic and transphobic views on children and teaching them inaccurate history of our country. I went to a very progressive school in a very progressive state (California) and I still hardly learned any of our history before the colonies were established or many of the horrible things this countries government has done and what little I did learn was sugar coated even when I was old enough to know. And the state I live in now feels entirely unsafe to send children to public school, it's open carry openly bigoted conservative suburbs and my child doesn't deserve to have their personal and cultural identity undermined by adults they're instructed to trust. Sadly the religious bigots who use homeschooling to indoctrinate their children have paved the way for people like me who try keep my children as far away from any of that as possible. And the way they did that is by stripping regulations on homeschooling any way they could, which depressingly leaves the door wide open for that kind of abuse. The simple answer would the US having a solid educational system not swayed by political lobbyists but unfortunately we don't have that, so we don't have a simple answer to such a complex problem.

[@LeftieLoosie]

As the mother of four kids including two teenagers…. I have never once in my life wanted to know about their body hair…. Like WHAT?! And this lady is acting like that is such a normal thing to wonder and ask!?!? 😮

[@webby3109]

I love scrolling the insane parents subreddit, but I also don’t cause sometimes it reminds me of things I didn’t even think about when I was younger and even now

[@yv_love]

I'll make sure to watch this video tomorrow, it's like one in the morning here.. imma head to sleep goodnight

[@BarronessM]

My province in Canada, Ontario, has an education minister that went to private Catholic school (where a group of boys SAed two different students with a broom while recording it) and his assistant was home-schooled in a very regressive religious community.

[@abrielle13]

I haven't spoken to my adoptive mom in a few years now and I also have anxiety about running into her because she still lives in the same house and I live about 2 miles from her 😐

[@mikeycerasno1fan]

i am so ill rn so this is the best time ever for a video to come out

[@owenaspinall2046]

The video is gay?

[@4lovebysara]

When I first got glasses it was mainly for headaches because I could still see pretty good. Or so I thought! Once I got the glasses, I realized how fuzzy things had actually gotten!! Im glad you're getting your eyes checked! Even if its just a mild rx it could help a lot! ❤

[@bradiedean7466]

Straining your eyes too much can also make your vision worse in the long run

[@VictoriouslyRandom]

Why in all holy green hell was it so important to that mother to know the color of their child's private body hair? To the point of pressing the issue to harassment? That's beyond weird.

[@tobyfinchghost]

i don't know about everywhere but where i am in America they started hiring subs and student teachers who don't have a college education and started talking about doing the same for regular teachers

[@Juno-bug]

My dad has done SO many things far far worse than this example, but he once sent me multiple paragraphs explaining how I was a liar, telling me he’d pass out papers to everyone in my school starting rumors about me and make everyone there hate me. Telling me the next time I came there he’d burn all of my stuff. And telling me he’d verbally abuse me when I went back. Even though he was calling me every horrible name you could think of (dumb@ss, things like that) and after all of that, he sent me an empty apologies, because he’s doing it again currently.. and I didn’t even read all of it.

[@robinfinch314]

Colloidal silver .... liiisten my doctor prescribes me nose drops with that stuff whenever I have it really really *really* bad with my sinuses. That stuff hurts like hell!

[@konety5008]

I agree about the homeschooling without a degree, my mom went to college and got a masters in early childhood education to homeschool us as KIDS. And then when we were older we went ot school. She just wanted us to be able to appreciate learning as young kids, so we'd like doing when we were older. Dont homeschool if you couldnt get hired to teach ✨

[@sleepystars10]

the ‘i dont believe in glasses’ gets me so bad because constantly straining your eyes also DAMAGES your eyes in the process. seriously. it’s why you’re not supposed to read in low light - you strain your eyes so much, you can risk doing permanent damage and/or furthering any previous genetic or otherwise condition. “they’re a crutch for your body” no they are literally fixing what would otherwise be a disability. i have a -6 prescription in both eyes, and a -5 is what earns disability without glasses. if anyone ever told me my glasses were “a crutch” i think id move to the other side of the world before interacting with them again.

[@_la__arts_]

my mum s one of those "all natural!! no drs" parents and oml it is FRUSTRATING. she comes up with the most disgusting solutions to everything and im so glad i don't live there anymore

[@onlinewhy]

10:20 Where I live, due to a teacher shortage, they just passed a law saying teachers no longer have to be certified to get hired, and I am TERRIFIED.

[@dorkswhocosplay8908]

25:31 Reminded me of a time in junior high. I had a fever of 105⁰ F. My dad took me to three different walk-in clinics that were all closed and then decided to take me home and just give me cold medicine. Over 100⁰ F fever can cause brain damage.

[@sarasynfox]

On the homeschooling thing, you can hire a tutor. But I'm actually for the idea of assessments for homeschooling. It becomes financially prohibitive to require teaching degrees unless it's free. However, I can honestly say that my kids learned way more from me before I had my GED than they were learning in schools. That's where I have an issue. School in the US is pretty much babysitting with a few educational perks. Buy I'm also in the very small camp of people who would be fine with my kids having to have formal assessments. But my high school kid is doing the same things I'm doing in college (because he's learning with me) where in a traditional school he didn't have a clue how to write a proper argument, how to do a citation, or how to write a proper sentence! But... for that record, religious homeschooling? Is issues...

[@imawakemymindisalive13]

personally, i doubt that someone who didn’t finish high school could teach a high schooler without more education. obviously you’re in college now and it worked when they were way younger before that, but if you hadn’t gotten more education he’d be missing a ton. i’m dual enrolled in college and high school (i’m 16) and my parents who went to grad school can’t help me with my homework anymore. my dad can help me with physics because he’s an engineer and my mom can help me with some math (before precalc anyways) but when i took AP chemistry, my dad had no clue what was going on even though he took it and other chemistry classes like ochem in college. they can’t help me with AP Bio or AP Spanish, or my college history and english classes. if i asked my mom what an expository essay was, she’d have no clue. my dad probably couldn’t even spell expository essay. i’m glad it’s working for you but i feel like there is a level of education you just can’t reach with homeschooling. you really can’t homeschool an AP class, at least not enough for a student to get a 5 on the test. a homeschooled student more than likely has a great disadvantage on the SAT and ACT. not to mention the social aspect. i have zero friends outside of school, and no clue how i’m supposed to meet people otherwise. public school isn’t great but it’s so much better than nothing. it’s bad for their health for sure, im living the consequences, but it’s a much more secure academic path to get a high paying intellectual job. which isn’t everyone’s future, everyone should have the opportunity to if they want that. if my parents weren’t so academically inclined, i wouldn’t have an internship or do well on the PSAT or volunteer or do so many arts or take so many AP classes or be dual enrolled. and if i wanted to start now, it would be too late and i wouldn’t get into any top schools. i’m sure homeschooling works for some but i feel like public school really tests their potential so they can succeed.

[@sarasynfox]

@imawakemymindisalive13 You seem to underestimate the ability to be self-taught. Math, there is the option for curriculum and tutors if my kids pass me by, but so far it hasn't been an issue. Additionally, I dropped out of high school for medical reasons, but before that it was too easy and I was bored. I never studied. I never did my homework. However, I aced all my tests. My family pushed me to write papers with college level citations and research by 6th grade. I stopped being challenged in school at that point, so I was bored out of my mind. Even college level courses are dull and not challenging, but I'm doing it because the piece of paper matters more than your sum total of knowledge. You can't simply judge what a person is capable of doing based on a limited, personal experience. My kids are involved in activities outside of schools, which is why they have friends. Many colleges seek out homeschooled kids because they have a reputation of being highly motivated and working to high standards. I work with a couple of people who were homeschooled and are now in college who can corroborate that this was their experience as well. For some people it is a better option than public schools, which don't have a good reputation, especially with kids who find the work on their grade level too east or pick up the content quickly. At the end of the day, some students do well in school, where others are a better fit for alternative options, like homeschooling or tutors. Some schools have great programs, while others are lazy and graduate kids who don't even know how to read their senior year. Some homeschool families are dedicated to ensuring their children have a solid, well rounded education, while others don't teach their kids, or leave huge gaps for religious reasons. The "standards" in both the public school system and the homeschool oversights in the US consistently fail students. Honestly, there needs to be a better assessment than the SAT or the ACT, because doing well on a test doesn't necessarily measure how successful a student will be. It only proves they can take a test. There needs to be more universal and more practical proof of a student's abilities. If I can educate myself with no college to the degree people are shocked when they find out I didn't even have my GED, never mind the masters most people assumed I have, that proves you can be knowledgeable enough without a fancy piece of paper. And when I can get my kid to complete more work in one hour than the trained teachers at his school could get out of him in three months, that proves that a teaching degree doesn't mean you can actually teach a child. That's why we homeschool, because my kids were getting passed on to the next grade without ever having proven they mastered the skills to get there. When I get calls from the school telling me to stop teaching my kids at home because they can prove the teacher wrong, that's a problem. I feel there's too much emphasis on things like AP classes. There isn't anything so special about them that the information cannot be learned through other means. The only area where this might be true is science, as having access to a lab is required for certain hands-on learning. This is why science centers and the like exist to teach homeschool (and really any interested) students. Tutors can be hired or classes online can be found for subjects a student doesn't know. My homeschooled kids seem to have more social lives than their peers in school do, and have healthier relationships than they did with their friends in school. I guess what I'm saying is this is not a situation that can be laid out in such a simple way. It's a complex issue, requiring a complex answer. A teaching degree doesn't mean you can actually teach well, at least not in the US. Not having a degree doesn't mean you don't have the ability to teach. However, in both cases, there needs to be more proof of successful learning by the student and that they're not just victims of education neglect, no matter where they're educated, home or in school. That's where I take issue, that kids can be taught all kinds of misinformation or not taught at all with the way things are, and that's a huge problem.

[@wmdkitty]

Oh, no, god forbid parents have to spend money to make sure they can keep their kids properly educated! The HORROR!

[@sarasynfox]

@wmdkitty All well and good but... super classist. If the schools are failing the kids and the family doesn't come from money, they need to find an income to get a degree (that doesn't actually ensure people know how to teach in the first place in the US...) so poor kids get failed by the system? That is such an elitist view. And what about families that don't have time to get an education degree because they trusted the school system, which failed their kids? It's all well and good to say parents need to spend money to ensure their kids are educated, but half of the resources can come from free sources, like the library. There's solid, free curriculum offered online, and inexpensive resources produced by teachers.

[@sarasynfox]

@wmdkitty Also, it's BAD when two years into my degree and all I've learned is the busy work doesn't end with high schools. I've learned more from my own personal research and finding actually good lectures on KZbin than I have from my classes. If you want parents to invest to educate their kids, maybe make sure they're not wasting their money... And this is from someone who was getting an education so I could teach, but with the violence against teachers allowed in schools and the rate of teachers quitting, there are bigger issues to address here if kids are going to get a proper education. Fix the schools and maybe parents would feel the need to pull their kids from school, because kids shouldn't be graduating high school if they can't read or write a clear argument, and teachers shouldn't be quitting because they have no course of action when students are assaulting then in the classroom. But no, I guess it's easier to talk about how only people with money should homeschool...

[@yaboidissociating]

Speaking of parents not wanting to get their child glasses, my dad didn't either (something about me just wanting them and not actually needing them). Thankfully my school issued a serious notice to him because turns out, if he had waited another year or two, I would have lost my vision completely in one eye. Like permanently blind. At 8 years old. Now as an adult, I am just now able to not be scared of going blind....just now. I can't imagine what that mother is thinking or how that child is.

[@hazysheepies]

My father didn’t believe I needed glasses. Even tried to convince me to take my driver’s test without them (so that I wouldn’t have the requirement of glasses on my license). Still to this day he asks me if I really need them. Thank goodness I had a mom who believed me when I said I couldn’t see certain distances away.

[@Mariethechaotic]

"If you like feeling bad, subscribe". Me: *subscribes immediately and then takes notes for therapy* 😂

[@Chloe-20090]

Recently discovered this channel and I think I might be addicted 😅

[@OtterValentine]

20:00 i’m pretty sure the “hijacking” was just a way of saying that the 180 in attitude seems like she was hijacked but it was actually still the mom :/

[@didograce3531]

The mom at 9:06 makes me so angry on the kids’ behalf, as someone who grew up with that upbringing myself.

[@Pablo360able]

I don't think the people who say "glasses are a crutch" as if it's a bad thing understand how crutches work