One Of Our Hardest Times | {THE AND} Sidra & Ben (Part 1)

[@taybae6391]

I’m here for a relationship where the biggest secret is a possibility of owning chickens at a community garden.

[@kyf3557]

It’s a cover up and leading into chickens in the back yard. Seen it too many times😂 I grew up with chickens☺️ lovely pets. Many relatives also had them.

[@lillymcintosh7114]

These two were the reason why i fell inlove with this channel

[@tts6030]

This is my truth.

[@tamaramustachi7867]

Same here!! 😊

[@cutiebeargirl4240]

Lilly Mcintosh same

[@makebacunningham6795]

Me too. I saw them and thought what's this about.

[@beatricedevarenne2621]

They are perfect for each other! That’s what we call a perfect match

[@leomonteiroart]

In their FIRST video, she says "I need to tell you something" and he immediately reacts with "WHAT DID YOU BUY?" and it was so amazing to see that reaction being exactly the same so many years later!

[@ronjacobe]

L. Monteiro oh, I have to find that first video!

[@daaayum_gena]

Keisha and Andrew AND Sidra and Ben updates??! Making my day, SkinDeep!!

[@elizabethd.7662]

Gena Brigham yes they are all my favorites too!

[@shay8942]

Yesss!!! Just discovered both updates today!

[@SibGirl01]

Blimey!!! 😁

[@Iwish387]

I’m here to learn new vocabularies from these two.

[@darenpeacock4885]

Me too

[@elliean2831]

🤣

[@kayc8938]

What does he do for a living? Curious because his communication skills are excellent. He said, “our relationship is solid AND requires maintenance”. There was the purposeful selection of the word AND versus BUT.

[@TheeKanyeMsi]

Married for 15yrs where? They look like they’re still in their early 20’s 😃

[@ktown8139]

I fell in love with them on their 1st video, where they talked about how they met. If I remember correctly, she had a fairly long-term boyfriend & went out-of-town one weekend to visit a friend, & she somehow met/walked into Ben. After 1 weekend, she went home, broke up with the boyfriend, & moved across the country to be with Ben! You could tell, however, that they were meant & that any woman would love to be with Ben. Plus, their communication set them apart from most other couples. I have loved them ever since & you will too, if you go back to watch all of their videos!

[@angelican.6710]

@@ktown8139 They met at Burning Man!!

[@justin78517]

@@angelican.6710 how do you know

[@gabashhh]

"I feel like our relationship is the, uh, the bedrock of my life." This blew me away. They express such beautiful honesty, vulnerability and absolute commitment... I am so shocked. This is what I want. Sidra and Ben, thank you so much for teaching me this.

[@Liveinthemiddle]

I don't think people realize the impact that having children has on relationships. It seems Sidra has adapted well to their new normal but Ben not so much. I'm glad they are discussing it. I hope they find some time to go away and reconnect. Ben misses them but there are four of them now. I love them so I hope they conquer all odds.

[@ericaladd2288]

Well put!!. ...great observation.

[@jadehoward2875]

It's so interesting to me that in early videos he was so ready for the second kid and she was terrified... Now, she is adjusted and he just misses his partner. They demonstrate so much grace and growth with every video. I can't wait to see more!

[@elises2074]

Yes everyone says just have another kid, but no one talks about the strain it puts on the relationship.

[@HappinessTheBrand]

*This man found an old banana and fell more in love with his wife. This too good. 🍿🍿🍿*

[@rakgadim.mohlala1324]

I was in tears at that point and I had to pause and ask God where does He still make men like that😭

[@ashwin.unlead]

those are the small things in life!

[@lishamarie2752]

@@rakgadim.mohlala1324 for real I think mine is on backorder and wont be delivered until many many lifetimes😔😆

[@lipsohlips97]

Well.. when you put it that way.. HAHA

[@jennifersalinas7305]

Lol love it

[@kristinawilliams2285]

The skin deep should send them on a paid vacation

[@JollyBlackGiant07]

Yesssss

[@milastark839]

They are constantly traveling and on the road actually 😃

[@lynnsalee8645]

@@milastark839 do you know them personally? What is their Instagram accounts?

[@leeapop14]

The way they truly listen to understand one another is so refreshing..

[@tonymunoz2858]

Our relationship is solid but requires maintenance ❤️

[@Kelle2898]

My absolute favorite couple on this series! Please keep bringing them back 💜

[@jennywinget1144]

They are mine too.

[@susieenglish302]

My parents have been married nearly 50 years their advice is 1 separate bank accounts 2 make sure you want the same things - kids, travel, own or rent - discuss this early 3 never put your kids in front of your partner - to undermind a parent is relationship suicide 4 make sure you know what to do with your in laws 5 if your best friend doesn't like them theres a reason

[@BLAqKGURLLUXE]

Susie English can you explain #5 more I need more clarity?

[@SaharaColeman]

JaiNai Sometimes the people in your life around you see things that you might not because you’re so close and in love with the person it can cloud your judgement. Most people have friends that will tell them that they’ve seen their bf talking to someone else and the friend will fire back at them and say “you just don’t wanna see me happy” or “you’re just jealous”.

[@pepperadish3695]

How does this not have more likes

[@chloekit4861]

Brilliant advice 100% I couldn’t add or take away anything from these

[@Sdority905]

My parents are married 52 years, and they were adamant about #3. They always agreed when it came to disciplining us and then they'd discuss amongst themselves privately if they thought there was a better approach.

[@Rubylove48]

This man is such a devoted, loving, caring, and beautiful husband and lover. Amazing communicator.

[@shalinipatel7985]

The understanding between these two and how they can articulate and convey their feelings is gold... I could show all of their videos as a study on how to communicate to people... I love you two so much and you inspire me everytime...❤️❤️❤️

[@TheCupcake40]

I can feel they have gone through some shit. They are sooooo strong and they hold each other up so amazingly. I’m so happy they are apart of this project and can share and inspire us. ❤️ thank you

[@vickigibson8964]

I love the way this couple communicates. The way the look at each other is enviable. There is so much connection between the two of them. Ben and Sidra, Thank you for sharing your relationship with us!!! These two are my Relationship goals! 😂🥰

[@juliafreitas8362]

"Our relationship is the bedrock of my life[...]. We talk about things very vulnerably, there's nothing that we hide" that is THE goal!

[@anabluu]

Watching these guys going from mind blowingly in love to desperate for a moment in months just solidified my decision to not have kids.

[@maryamo6990]

watch part 2 also. I think it gives a full view about the kids thing.

[@anabluu]

@@maryamo6990 I did but still. They might say it's rewarding but they say even more it's the hardest thing they ever did. To each their own, not everyone is meant to be a parent anyway. But if I ever manage to have a relationship like that I'd hate for it to have so many obstacles. Having Naiya as well almost broke them up, they said in a previous video.

[@maryamo6990]

@@anabluu yeah I know. Im happy they have each other. the person you are with is a big part of it all ofcourse =)

[@tonidene1641]

These two are just so honest and translucent. I love.

[@saylorwerthington7971]

OH MY GOD THEY’RE BACK SOMEONE HOLD ME I’M NOT EMOTIONALLY READY.

[@j_chua]

Oh my gosh, their communication skills are off the charts. Rewatching this video two years later and gaining renewed inspiration from them!

[@CoCosCloset95]

You can just tell how much they love each other. Their love radiates through their energy. I wish them all the best and hope they find time for each other. ❤️

[@amberly8028]

These two will make it. It’s going to be a couple of years of struggle but as the kids get older they will have more time.

[@UdoADHD]

You guys inspired me to find love a few years ago and it is a joy to see these updates! Now I send them to my fiancé :)

[@andreakindala3190]

Beautiful 😍

[@yasminal9438]

They are both sooo attractive!

[@yolbooi]

The way they articulate their feelings is amazing.

[@smexyNiallHoran]

They are so inspirational. The amount of energy and work that has been put into they're relationship and love is so inspiring. I feel really lucky to be able to have a this representation of what a healthy loving relationship can look like . So thank you ❤🙏🏾

[@Leena_Llama]

@10:35 that 'thanks for hearing me' 😢 true appreciation of each other

[@cocosha5589]

The way that they communicate is golden. The way he looks at her! 😍😍

[@wildflower9065]

I am so happy to see follow up episodes of the couples that got me into The Skin Deep videos in the first place. I LOVED Sidra and Ben. I think they might be my favorite couple. Please keep having them back as long as they are willing to do this. I love seeing their relationship grow and transform as they go through life!

[@LCROSIER97]

My favorites! Their first time on The And inspired me to make my own “question cards” for my boyfriend and I. We became known for them among our friends and family. Always bringing them everywhere with us to facilitate honest and vulnerable connection and conversation. Now we are married, just celebrated our 2nd anniversary! It’s so cool to see my life run parallel with these couples who have inspired me so much.

[@Sil_P]

These two are definitely the reason I initially subscribed to this channel!

[@michelleholcombe2330]

Never. Stop. Bringing. Them. Back. I can feel the love through the phone omg

[@chiedu90069]

The chicken convo gave me so much joy. Their kids are so lucky to have such open, communicative parents. Never stop spending time with each other! The best thing for kids to see are parents who love love each other, make time for each other and work together :)

[@kpase123]

Literally the couple that got me hooked on The Skin Deep

[@JadePastorino]

I want a relationship like this, pure, genuine and honest ! Thank you Ben & Sidra you give me hope.

[@themripley]

These two and Andrew and Kesha are my favourite couples. ❤

[@whitebear2935]

Megan Ripley was just about to comment the same thing

[@MuyebaA]

Megan Ripley me too .. They’ve got so much in common

[@MuyebaA]

Megan Ripley me too .. They’ve got so much in common

[@patmebg3794]

Me too

[@boomboom6577]

Love is: her not saying “I told you so” to him about the second baby. She said this could happen. She said it. But she didn’t tell him “I told you so dammit.”

[@mil8834]

What do you mean? What happen?

[@anne501s66]

I absolutely LOVE this couple. So honest, open and generous with each other. ❤❤❤

[@akke666]

YAAAAAS!!! They are baaaack!!! I just looove hearing them talk!

[@natashaf416]

Watching these two grow in love over the years and years, has been a true gem.

[@Meggs93_]

I clicked this video soooo fast! I love them 😭 and I don’t even know them lol 😂

[@sydneywalker35]

I’ve never clicked on a video so fast. All I had to see was Sidra & Ben 😍

[@Amusegirl1980]

I am so grateful to be in a relationship that has this depth, love and richness. 💜

[@barbor238]

They are so nice, i appreciate that they share their relationship in a way, it takes a lot of courage. Also it made me feel so lonely....

[@awoyski]

Instant click for one of my favourite pairings on Skin Deep. They always ground me in my relationship(s) and make me a more thoughtful patient person.

[@LorenzoMarch]

Y'all are like our Aunt and Uncle by this point

[@kiwigirljacks]

Five months sleeping in separate beds and bedrooms is naturally going to cause a disconnect. I hope they can invest the time with each other to rebuild that connection.

[@chikalagrande9808]

That's the kind of relationship I aspire to have. I just love how genuine and compassionate they are with each other ❤

[@Fitbody_bysarah]

They’re communication is spot on! He’s a great example of a how men should be communicating.

[@StraightZzzStudent]

Y'all are killin it bringing the og's back lol !!!! I love this!!

[@AnnaShishkin]

I can’t get enough of them. They’re incredible. Just the way they express themselves and also listen to the other didn’t change in the slightest throughout these years.

[@nikkilaundrie]

They give such honest answers. If the dialogue wasn't so open wed have a totally different reaction to this listening to this couple. Love it

[@soccerbopper124]

thank you for this!!! andrew and keisha AND ben and sidra is SUCH A TREAT

[@hafzafarah8682]

The most respectful and mature couple. I love them, and I’m inspired.

[@kikinyte6806]

I like the communication between the two...it is not rushed and thought out....you can see and feel the emotions....Ben's disconnection...I definitely understand....although children can become the new focus...they too should still connect ...no judgement....but especially married for that long....Maintenance is Key

[@pppotatoes]

When Ben said “what did you buy?!” what a throwback

[@nurielle9352]

It was just last week when I rlly hunted down videos of Sidra and Ben because I've forgotten about this channel but always remembered the videos they were in. I'm so happy theres an update on these two beautiful souls.

[@oeu3669]

I feel so much grief and so much relief at the same time watching this... where on earth do I find a love like this? I’ve been in so many relationships that don’t have any love... and I’m sorta tired... no I am tired.. of being scared, Feeling like I’m too much, or like I want too much connection (connection like there is in this video), feeling like there’s something wrong with me.. This is the kind of solid relationship and open communication and vulnerability I want in my life... I’ve no idea how to do it or if or where or when... it’s literally what I constantly think of in my ideal mind as the kind of relationship I would like.. i grew up with negative role models of love - this is basically the epitome of the opposite of that. and then I think I’m being too idealistic but it’s clearly not looking at this..I’m going through something right now that’s hard.. with someone who doesn’t seem to want to put in the level of effort I would like for whatever reason. It hurts a lot. I opened up finally after an abusive relationship 3 years ago.. i opened up to him and then he went a little strange.. it hurts to not have your heart listened to.. anyways I guess this is helping me somehow

[@TheSkinDeep]

Thank you so much for sharing a part of your story with us, we are sending you lots of love ❤️❤️

[@patmebg3794]

Thanks for your message. I'm glad to have read it. Good to know you're out there. Hope you are good now??

[@carmagurl317]

I hope this will happen for you. I know it won't be overnight but I think it will !

[@lillyfee9923]

Love the deep eye contact they have...thats true love

[@simini1837]

Even with a rock solid relationship and small kids its important to stay connected and be regularly intimite on a mental and physical level. Try to buy extra time to spend just with the two of you if you can afford it and/or reduce time spend on other less important things and people for the time being. You are not just parents but also romantic partners. Happy that this couple can talk about this!

[@lulomafa4623]

Wow! So glad they are back and still together! They seemed to be going through a hard time the last time! I love that they don’t give up on each other!!

[@MilkMostaches]

Bed and Sidra!!!! I’m so happy that we get another update of their love. 💓

[@HappinessTheBrand]

He misses her. Really misses her.

[@masithembemvunyiswa708]

My favourite couple of all time😍

[@masithembemvunyiswa708]

Watching them grow from their first videos makes me believe that, more than being a feeling, love is a decision that one continues to make day after day even when things aren't rosy or happy-go-lucky. Please keep bringing them back 💛

[@voyance4elle]

Inspirational!!! 🥰

[@maddydaugherty1845]

the way this couple communicates is beautiful. I love how they listen to each other and ask questions. It's really awesome.

[@rosaliegonzalez2550]

First time watching, enjoyed it. People could learn from these two! They can communicate and listen well. The way they look into each other's eyes, it's like he feels her words. Best of luck to them and their babies.

[@JustinLizardo]

Oh my god! I literally just bumped into Ben and Sidra series only this week. I was hoping there would be more of them soon! Wooo!

[@Cupcake_Bae]

I really want to see “the and” do a baby mama and baby daddy one that are no longer together and moved on, but have that dynamic.

[@TheSkinDeep]

Thanks for the suggestion, Kelley!

[@Cupcake_Bae]

@@TheSkinDeep thank you for the reply! I love your channel!

[@Amy_omer]

These two are my favorite they make me believe in Love 😢😢

[@joes2041]

This is what a good healthy relationship looks like! 😍❤️

[@lupita916]

They are just genuinely beautiful people ✨

[@Terra.Barnes]

The love that these two have is absolutely amazing. This is what real love & a real relationship is like 😍

[@shanesemathis3123]

I really like this couple and how honest they are with each other. They seem to not hold back when it comes to laying all the highs and lows on the table of a long term relationship with 2 children. I will say though that every time they come to TSD, they seem to have so much tension between them. My vision for my future marriage is one child (for now, until I know what it’s like to be a parent with my one child and husband) and to be able to reconnect with my husband regularly by allowing my child’s grandparents to connect with them on occasion for even just a weekend. I think it’s important to utilize your support system if you have one, so that you can nurture your relationship and check in with each other regularly. Maybe that’s something that they can try too?

[@kbear2314]

would love to see them back to discuss THIS past year sheeeeeshh. love them!

[@Mishdotcom]

This couple! So great to watch their conversations. Hope their family is doing well.

[@milastark839]

I don’t want to trigger some but I feel like one of the big reasons they are so well at communicating on such a deep level of listening and understanding is because they have taken psychedelics together. It just brings you to another level of connectedness and understanding of energy. ❤️ you can feel that here - since the first vide

[@Smooveandpretty]

I cant wait to keep chickens a secret from my husband

[@foggydawn7555]

You can just tell how much they love each other! This has been so good to watch and see!

[@pepperadish3695]

Married 15 years Both aging extremely well

[@Shayne_T]

she's 35 here, very young.

[@foreverlovegreen8843]

Where the hell y'all get these couples from, they're all AMAZING, HONEST and super RAW!! LOVE IT😍 keep it up👍

[@labalaba5471]

This gives me hope that love and true relationships still existe.... i hope i find such a true honest an deep relationship a person who works on relationships and don't just gives up when it gets hard....

[@Lama_alha1234]

Their dynamic is so amazing

[@rayc8948]

The honesty. I love the raw honesty. Not having a regular sexual relationship with your partner is hard work. If you don't have kids holding you together and you're not fucking/making love and connecting, it's a road to being unhappy

[@dianalynfrank6023]

Loves, raise those kids and try to get through it. I’m sure someone has told you the days are long but the years are short. With two teenagers I have to pay to spend time with, you’ll find each other again and laugh about how you miss your children. Peaks and valleys...❤️

[@TheMadamLee]

That was interesting; did anyone else pick up on Ben's fear and doubt 07:06-07:19 ? He seemed to subconsciously say, "Yea- I am kind of telling you different, but I don't want to hurt you, put pressure on our already strained relationship, and/or put you on the spot right now."

[@danielladark6245]

Thank you for having them back!

[@bongimabaso1534]

I've never clicked so fast!!! My fav couple in this channel👐👐

[@forevasmiling1989]

They are so beautiful! You can feel how much they love and understand eachother! And how much they miss eachother! 😭😭 This is so nice!! 😭😭😭❤❤❤❤

[@TELETUBERS]

Real life Jack and Rebecca from this is Us!!

[@Jojo-mc7ku]

I thought so too

[@1224erday]

Amanderr so true!!!!!!

[@blessedndhlovu1023]

Holy f$#%! Here I was thinking they couldn't be more perfect. I think them coming back is part of the maintenance that he alludes to cause I feel most people want to coast through their relationship nit understanding it just doesn't happen over night.....they've really put in the work and it so beautiful watching how much if a solid unit they are 😭😭❤❤❤

[@paulettemawadhogan]

Such a beautiful couple. I love and can feel their authenticity.

[@jessicab7143]

Am I the only one who can watch them and not realize how much time has passed until the end? 😍 #GOALS

[@elihle487]

Kiesha and Andrew, Sidra and Ben, Elliott and Mishal are the reasons I fell inlove with this channel.... I felt Elliott and Mishal's break up😭😭😪😪

[@rodo4360]

Man oh man I think we all don’t realize how important maintenance is to our relationships... Love is a whole verb that changes and fluctuates but it’s definitely like a flower if you don’t water it it won’t survive

[@nikkymathews1981]

My favorite skin deep couple. Their connection is amazing and the way they communicate is something I want in my relationship.

[@mindtheprivacy]

Thanks for hearing me. Such important little things they say that make them that solid.