How To Get A Man To Commit ft. Nice & Neat

How do you get a man to commit? Are you playing it cool, giving an ultimatum or attempting to coerce him? The fellas from @niceandneatthepodcast @omar.bolden @duke @just.jalon join me to share their love lessons, how their girls got them to settle down, and the secret to staying faithful in a relationship.
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. Social media etiquette
. Dating with intent
. What sets a woman a part from other women
. Common mistakes women make in the dating process
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[@TiffanyBTV]

I like that you went deeper with commitment and exclusive. There was alot of word play going on. No woman should be going through a “process “ or trial after 2,3,5 years. If you’re intentional dating for marriage it doesn’t take that long. I like when you mentioned acting like a girlfriend vs commitment. Women are living with these men, cooking, having sex, combining lifestyles, cleaning, investing finances business wise, they’re exceptional women, and 3,4 years later no marriage. To grown women marriage is commitment.. Otherwise you’re still dating or in their “process”… also known as placeholder. 3 to 6 months is not the issue, it’s the 2-3 years and you’re still not even engraved

[@carl3063]

I like these guys because they are not simps. But they are honest, healthy, and back what they say through example. Women want dudes like this and they exist. But women think these guys are the simp type and men think you can’t be a real one and healthy at the same time. Excellent example all around.

[@lwhite474]

Totally agree 😊

[@user-do1qf8rm7b]

no women on earth thinks these men are simps lol

[@Jess2b_fit]

Much respect to Duke for stepping up and admitting those vulnerabilities. And to Mari for respectfully standing on her question and helping them to open up! It’s not easy or common for Alpha males to admit any level of inadequacies - but doing so results in deeper levels of respect from your audience and those that are looking up to you 🙌

[@kingra1962]

Big fan of Nice & Neat that’s how I ended up here dope episode !!!! S/o the guys 🤝🏾💯

[@GrandeurLyfeDigital]

I finally figured out who she looks like lol. Tori Kelly

[@mariewilliams3406]

YESSS she does I had to do a double take

[@mariewilliams3406]

Or Adrienne Bailon- Houghton

[@Kiaajordan]

@@mariewilliams3406yes to both! Forsure

[@islandrose1224]

As a woman, appreciate these talks

[@beu2543]

This episode was WAYYYYYY too good for me to have stumbled upon it by complete accident! This deserves more exposure. I will be sharing with all my friends. Everyone was on they’re A game in this one. Superrrr dope 🔥🔥🔥

[@patientv]

I really love the part where y'all discussed the development of the relationship. Growing together, having an understanding that it two people working to overcome their egos for the betterment of the relationship and how Mari, reiterated to the ladies that you give "a little" & then he reciprocates. No reciprocity is not a good thing... And that where you start in relationship is not where you finish because it's a growth process that you both want.

[@gaillastof8851]

It's nice hearing these men and how they navigate. The women in their lives who have nurtured and helped them get to this stage are a blessing as well.❤

[@cocolove8635]

Compromise is such a big deal because not only are you aware of how you feel & move but considering how the person you care about feels & still making a conscious effort to gauge and understand.

[@briamonyae1396]

I appreciate watching this entire episode, such great advice ! Thank you , y’all are all helping us single folks out❤.

[@brookewinter9925]

This was a great episode! I loved both perspectives. Very heart warming.

[@StephanieIBoakye]

When I say I've learned so much from this episode geeshhhhhh! SUCH A BOMB EPISODE... LOVE, LOVE, LOVE, LOVE this conversation!!!!

[@jermeishablue]

I love duke and his realness

[@cocolove8635]

I think a lot of people are so fixated on themselves that they lack everything else. Even in moments of discomfort like Duke said you should know how you operate & aligning with things that work with you.

[@chelbels16]

I love all of them especially all of them lmao ❤

[@misshun1933]

Loved this very much. Finally people who are walking the walk, championing relationships & giving solid perspectives. To an era of promoting love & healthy, respectful relationships again 🥳

[@sweetcynsation]

Ima need them to do another singles night cause idk they were having one. This was a great show. Thank you for having them get deep. Really allowed me to reflect and find a lot more gaps in how I date and choose to show up. 💕

[@09MsCandace]

OMG MS SPICY THAAAANNNNNNKKK YOOOOOOUUUUU SOOOOOO MUCH for asking all the RIGHT questions us ladies really want to know!!!! You are the ABSOLUTE BOMB for that and NAILED IT BOO!!! Best interview on the opposite sex I've seen in years! Round of applause to you! 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 💜🙌🏾 😍 ❤️ ✨️ 👏🏾💜 🙌🏾 😍 ❤️ ✨️ 👏🏾💜 🙌🏾 😍 ❤️ ✨️ 👏🏾💜 🙌🏾 😍 ❤️ ✨️ 👏🏾💜 🙌🏾 😍 Thank you Nice and Neat for being so real and candid as well🙏🏾💕🙏🏾💕🙏🏾💕🙏🏾💕🙏🏾💕

[@sashaleigh75]

This is so good!

[@sharimary.cruzsycroix1648]

Bring the gfs on for the same conversation!

[@dken1149]

Great show

[@HealingwmommaC]

Amazing.

[@MizzAsiaMonique]

Jalonnnnnm mannn I love the wisdom and FTK lmao

[@MizzAsiaMonique]

My dudes bro yo Duke and Chanel responded to something I said and I waw like AHHHHHHHHH!!!!! Lmao I was such a lame Lmaoooo but these men are amazing inside and out.

[@carolynmcintyre2199]

One word, REFRESHING!

[@dreamlast1718]

Quality

[@YasmineHarema]

These guys are def cream of the crop and I loved how you guys talked about working through/ enduring the relationship and doing the work to bring the best out of each other

[@abbabee3957]

But how do women know an intentional man?

[@instrinsiclove]

Just HURT I couldn’t fly out! HURT.

[@tarynstewart8279]

I disagree with her on her definition of “exclusive”. That’s why it’s important to speak to one another about what these definitions mean to us as individuals instead of assuming that you agree.

[@seagirlaquarius]

I appreciate their perspective, but do think you should have voiced more how us women perceive intentional dating. It seems These men were “dating” these women with no real goal/intentions, but fail to realize from our perspective we do not want to waste our time. Seems like they were dating their now wives for a period of time with no definite intentions and the girls just waited on them to choose them🤷🏻‍♀️ and that is fine, but men need to be able to lead with a purpose not lead women on, I think you could have confronted them about their discrepancies better, respectfully. 😅

[@TiffanyBTV]

So true… and None of the men on here are married yet…long time girlfriends and long time fiancé

[@kcfmsh]

I agree, they also made it seem like all ‘good’ men come to you broken basically alluding to the concept of struggle love, which i completely disagreed with.

[@carl3063]

They’re saying it’s a two-way street. Women are not perfect and neither are the men. The communication you want to receive is what you need to give. Women are terrible at relationships but accept no accountability for their failures

[@seagirlaquarius]

@@carl3063 i appreciate your feedback, but if you re-read the first sentence I only wish she would have communicated more efficiently our frustration during the dating stage. There are many women and men that can’t communicate effectively, but the man is usually the one who decides when/if to make a relationship official. Both parties need to stop wasting each others time, if they are not pursuing the same end goal.

[@carl3063]

@@seagirlaquarius They explained it clearly though. Part of poor communication is that women don’t like to listen. They said that the women set their standard from the jump and through dating there was a back and forth where they built it together. If you think a real dude who is perfect is gonna just fold for your pretty smile and instantly propose, then you living in a fairytale world

[@MadAboutMorgan]

The one in the middle so far from the mic can’t hear

[@cardebaun12]

agreed! Good episode, but gotta mic check or equalize the sound afterward

[@jjbrown5287]

Why in the hell is that dude sitting on the couch between 2 men and with his legs folded???

[@user-bw6xp5zk9y]

I think he's into yoga and meditation, chilll lol

[@noploxq5593]

See men are their own worse enemy

[@lulwa-kr6rp]

He is just sitting chill

[@Lafaye08]

The fact that none of these men are married is troubling…

[@dream.ontoya]

Duke literally proposed 2 months ago lmao

[@Kenshaable]

Two of em are fiances

[@BlickyWhite]

Candace and Omar are married. Duke just proposed months ago lol.

[@LV2308gmail]

Men can be so dirty. I’m good enough to be your place holder or “ mean time “ girl until you get into a relationship, but I can’t even get even get a proper closure if HE feels I wasn’t that important or I was a fling.

[@abbabee3957]

But how do women know an intentional man?

[@Kenshaable]

Still looking for the answer

[@tarynstewart8279]

Great question! I think you will know intention when it shows up in your life. However, after getting a dating coach, I learned to measure intention by men showing up as consistent in character versus consistent in the quantity of our interactions. In other words, I learned to watch their behavior versus their words and to hold them accountable for what they said or promised. I also learned to observe how curious they were about me as a woman versus just spending time with me, only talking about themselves the whole time, or what they feel they can get something from me. And finally, asking myself if we are increasing in emotional intimacy and asking myself “do I know more about this person or do they know more about me than when we met?”

[@LV2308gmail]

Yes I think this needs to be explored, bx men who know what they want will approach a woman with intentions, vs showing up as a casual thing and it evolves into something more if the man feels threatened if presented with her absence.