Deaf/Hearing Relationship Tips: Communication ┃ ASL Stew

[@jillgodfrey8445]

the cat wanted to give her opinion 🐈🐈 shout out to peanut !

[@TheStews]

Peanut say HI! :)

[@hannahrosereviews5073]

TO HEARING PEOPLE If you're trying to learn ASL and you are not a very extortionate person, one of THE BEST things to do is take an acting class or two. It will help you TREMENDOUSLY in the expressions and comfort zone department.

[@TheStews]

That is a wonderful suggestion! 😀

[@mikej0n3s]

Thank you for making this video. I really needed this so I could learn how to use tips for dating a deaf guy.

[@TheStews]

[Jill] Glad to help and hope all goes well.

[@rachelmerrill9051]

I love when you guys discuss culture differences. I am a native English speaker but I have a degree in Latin, French, and Italian and work as a translator. My favorite part of all those studies has been culture. I started ASL lessons a few years ago and I feel like the culture conversation is always about adjusting to deaf culture. I love hearing Jenna's side of things as well and hearing about how deaf people also adjust to the hearing world. I recognize that our hearing privilege forces them to do that, but some of the smaller details are still interesting to me

[@TheStews]

[Jill] So glad you enjoyed the video and learned more about cultural differences.

[@haileyvolmar2802]

Being in a Deaf/Hearing relationship myself, as well as it being long distance communication is KEY and VERY important! I loved this video (along with your others) because you guys really help me with advice for my relationship and how to keep it working! Another tip I have goes along with miscommunications. What I learned was, you can't be to quick to "jump the gun" and just assume what you saw, or hear, was right because sometimes it isn't. I am learning that when I see my boyfriend sign something and either I didn't understand or it seemed kind of rude or different than normal, I ask him and get clarity, instead of in the past when I would just get upset or mad right away. Also always be open, if you don't like the way of communication or how they are signing things or if they are to blunt LET THEM KNOW!!! Thank you so much for your videos I am a HUGE fan!!! You guys help me with my relationship and also my future career as an interpreter!! Can't wait to keep watching

[@TheStews]

[Jenna] Yes, you have some great advice and thank you for watching our videos! :)

[@DANiELLExCHANEL]

I love this video! I am deaf in a relationship with a hearing dude, and we definitely compromised. He's been learning sign for 4 years now (has gotten REALLY good) and I've been doing a lot of kind of cued listening, writing, texting, etc, whatever to make it work. You guys are so right, it's all about compromise! Also, an app I love is Glide for video texting! It's great to get messages across and not worry about misreading them! :) Keep it up, love your videos and your Peanut! :)

[@TheStews]

[Jill] Thanks, Peanut loves being in our videos haha. Yes, we have Glide and use it sometimes if the internet signal is good. That's great that you and your partner are going strong. :)

[@The_Dookster]

I love your videos, tips, and experiences shared! It's helping me to learn in communicating with people, sign language, consideration on body language and expressions, and more! It's helping me think about communication through creative stories as well as direct communication. Thank you for your videos!

[@TheStews]

So glad to hear the videos are helping you. :)

[@emmaloviseremmen3115]

Yes i deaf are you 👁🦻🏻

[@alexdude92]

Jill and Jenna, how does Jenna communicate with Jill's family assuming they are all hearing? My husband and I are newly married and my parents don't know much about deaf culture. Does Jill's family use sign language? would be an interesting video to discuss family dynamics.

[@TheStews]

[Jill] I interpret for her. No one in my family knows sign language (well other than a letter or two).

[@TopNotchPick]

would you and/or Jenna do storytimes? I think that would be interesting. but I don't want you guys to focus on negatives things (deaf discrimination, depression, or hearing/deaf miscommunication). I mean you could if you want but I'd like to hear more about your life and other positive true stories. thanks for reading my comment!

[@alexjordan8838]

Agreed

[@TopNotchPick]

+recycleonwednesdays I just double checked and I am subscribed to that channel as well but I don't remember any storytimes. thanks for recommending it though just in case I wasn't.

[@TheStews]

We don't have any storytimes, even on our Life channel, but we have considered it. Keep on eye out on that channel. ;)

[@TheStews]

:)

[@wallflowerbutch]

I like your guys channel and videos so much! I just was wondering if Jenny could do a video of all of her tattoos? I've noticed she had a lot. Like what they are, what they mean to her or whatever. I'm an ink junky. :)

[@TheStews]

We will have a video about our tattoos out soon!

[@Elinoriastrasza]

Jenna! I love your Rey tattoo, I am mega jealous. All of your tattoos are awesome btw

[@TheStews]

[Jenna] Thank you! We actually will post a tattoo video soon! Keep an eye out for that. :)

[@Elinoriastrasza]

Looking forward to it :D

[@cassidy2046]

even in just a Deaf/Hearing friendship its important to know the person and how they communicate. like for me, when i text my friend who is Deaf sometimes it can be confusing because i dont really know how to take what shes saying. at the beginning of the friendship, texting was really difficult to communicate but as the years have gone by, ive picked up on what she means or just think "what would this look like or mean if she was signing instead of texting".

[@TheStews]

Yeah, you are right. Some of the tips can be applied to any type of relationship between Deaf people and hearing people(friendship, professional, etc.)

[@iluvfamoussingers]

Hi as you know I'm in your group page. Sorry if I'm not active I've been studying ASL now for college. Right now I take ASL 1, I've been trying to practice facial expression when I sign, it's really hard for me. Any tips?

[@TheStews]

[Jenna] I would say just keep practicing and watch some ASL videos by Deaf people and pay attention to their facial expressions. Think of it as expressing your tone when you sign. Remember the grammar rules and keep practicing.

[@iluvfamoussingers]

I will try my very best :) i remember carla said to raise eyebrows when asking a question and saying i should practice my units from the book with my friend Summer.

[@iluvfamoussingers]

thank you :)

[@Jess-th4lt]

Great video! I'm new to signing, excuse my ignorance but - why do some people mouth words when they sign and some people don't?

[@TheStews]

[Jenna] Pure ASL doesn't need mouthing words so some Deaf people communicate that way. Others are like me who grew up in hearing/mainstreamed world, so we used both English and ASL to communicate and mouth words as a habit.

[@TracyMetzger]

Not forget about hard of hearing. I experienced relationship with HOH and sometimes HOH person said to me that my English for written is low level and HOH has high level. I never like it. HOH person should learn or understand deaf culture enough but HOH is most use both hearing or deaf world. Not easy. For me myself DeafBlind and HOH in relationship wasn't easy. I can see HOH person wasn't patient for many reasons. Oh well.

[@TheStews]

[Jenna] I'm sorry you experience that. You are right it can be different with HOH too and communication requires patience from everyone involved.

[@alliespeaks3561]

I tend to use Glide with my Deaf friends. However I also use text often as well. (I try not to bug the guy I have a huge crush on often) but as I know it's not rude to ask about signs of you don't know them (I'm fairly good with fingerspelling if I relax) but over text I tend to get ignored if I ask about a sign. Does it end up getting annoying after a certain point of someone asking you a sign? Whether fingerspelling in person or over text, or even written I guess.

[@TheStews]

[Jenna] I think it varies, depending on individual's personality. Some people have more patience compared to others. Personally, I don't mind teach signs as long as that person make an effort to get to know me better and have conversations about things other than learning signs. I think it's important to develop relationship with someone while learning from that person.

[@lineitapia521]

my hearing hubby is hearing use asl with spelling finger and communication with me . I'm deaf . sometime when mark talk to his hearing when he finished talk then interpreting me what they say. but sometime he forget what they say. . I'm patience with him we are marriage in 23 years .

[@TheStews]

[Jenna] Yeah communication including other people can be difficult and requires a lot of patience. It's a work in progress. Congratulations on over 20 years of marriage. :)

[@wallflowerbutch]

Jenna**

[@emmaloviseremmen3115]

😊❤

[@Cheriegur1]

Hi I know this question isn't about your video but I'm in middle school and I have a set goal to be an sign interpreter but idk what colleges you know have that and I was just wondering if you have any colleges that you know that teach that and also plz list ones that are in college like its ok if you don't want to just asking? Thank you

[@TheStews]

Here is a place you can search for interpreting programs. :) www.discoverinterpreting.com/Find_an_ASL_English_Interpreting_program.php

[@mozzarellakrunccy5655]

How should a blind person communicate with a deaf person?

[@TheStews]

[Jenna] Rikki Poynter made a video about this. Check it out: kzbin.info/www/bejne/f3nPiJ6uq7Z4rZY

[@mozzarellakrunccy5655]

+ASL Stew Thank you, I will! :)

[@mchobbit2951]

Are Jenna's parents deaf or hearing?

[@TheStews]

[Jenna] Hearing. I'm the only Deaf person in my family.

[@tanyaquinton591]

Me and my boyfriend use FaceTime to talk to with each other

[@TheStews]

[Jenna] That's a good app to use.

[@emmaloviseremmen3115]

😂

[@tanyaquinton591]

FaceTime