The Feminism of Hyper Femininity - More Than a Style

[@thetake]

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[@trinaq]

I love that being hyper feminine isn't as degraded nowadays. Elle Woods taught me to be proud of myself and my girliness.

[@jeffersonhassan4558]

In women though,in men it's still being super degraded

[@finland4ever55]

Well it is because Radical feminists are still huge and have a huge influence over society and media, but yes the girly women are becoming more accepted, albeit as a minority thing

[@gregvs.theworld451]

@@jeffersonhassan4558 I don't want to come off as doing any kind of not all men apologia crap, but I'm trying to do my part to support and uplift women and their interests. Granted for a dude I'm a gender non conforming bisexual, but I get on well with straight dudes as well and try to do my part to call out casual and overt sexism when it arears.

[@mabel9701]

It was never degraded. Any girl who didn’t want to be a girly girl prioritising pink, fashion, makeup and nails was labelled as weirdo, uncool and not feminine.

[@onemouthymerc]

I adored her depiction of hyper femininity

[@josepharmstrong1788]

Masculinity and femininity aren’t and shouldn’t be treated as total opposites or enemies to assert dominance, but rather lifestyles that can and should complement each other.

[@zero1188]

They are opposites lol

[@sethzarandona2325]

They also shouldn’t be treated as traits that only men or women are allowed to have. Feminine men and masculine women should be treated as perfectly acceptable in as well as masculine men and feminine women. Individual people should be allowed to simply be themselves without being blasted and shamed to hell and back.

[@aniokay]

Yes, and the more one person can balance out those energies within, the healthier an individual.

[@josepharmstrong1788]

@@zero1188 What I mean is they aren't opposites like good and evil, more like sweet and salty, or hot and cold, if that makes sense.

[@themoribundapathetic4530]

yeah i switch btwn the two looks bc i bought the clothes

[@fortune_roses]

"Legally Blonde" was all about hyper-feminine feminism... wearing pink, heels, and pursuing a prestigious law degree

[@WhitneyDahlin]

Yeah! I really don't like how it seems Hollywood and especially game Devs, (even a lot of women themselves) think women have to not be girly and instead act manly in order to be considered strong. I'm really glad that's starting to change more and more every year! Also it's so superficial to think your hair length and the color of your outfit or your style has literally ANYTHING to do with your inner qualities or inner strength. 😂 It literally doesn't make sense when you think about it for even a second. If you paint a Bugatti Chiron pink it doesn't make it any less fast or powerful 😂I feel like a lot of people think physical strength is the only way to have mental strength.

[@mastersnet18]

I love that they emphasized how she used her brain to better herself and make a career, rather than her body.

[@BG12sofia]

I'll never be a hyper feminine type of person myself but it's a relief to see people embracing femininity, instead of accusing it of weakness or vapidness.

[@MissMoontree]

I switch a bit back and forth, but I have a super feminine face and body, so it looks feminine no matter how I dress. I love sports and was always top of the class with stem subjects, but that doesn't mean I like birckenstocks. So glad there is an increase on the spectrum of what clothes are viewed as acceptable.

[@PokhrajRoy.]

Can I just say that I’m happy to see the Barbie girlies being given what they’ve been asking for years? Also, Margot Robbie has been killing it in look after look. Good for her. It’s her ‘Legally Blonde’ Era.

[@joannaj.2787]

I'm just really happy that Barbie movie isn't about Margot's Barbie being "not like other Barbies", not liking pink, being a tomboy etc.

[@frankm.2850]

Personally I find it hilarious and awesome that the same actor is playing an unapologetically lesbian and violent Harley Quinn, and ultra femme Barbie. Femininity, like masculinity, is a spectrum, and seeing the same actor playing roles on both ends emphasizes that point deliciously.

[@danirahernandez383]

For me, the Barbie movie marks the epitome of hyperfemininity, and I'm very happy about that, because for many years pop culture saw the feminine as something less, but now being feminine is something to be proud of.

[@kyndramb7050]

I was a "tomboy" as a kid, grew up on a little farm, so was more into my animals and running around in the woods with the neighbor boys than barbies. But I also wore dresses with petticoats when I was 8. But I hated pink. Fashion was always a thing for me, but being weird. I wore men's suits and ties, polyester 70s womens disco pant suits, and sparkly minidresses in middle school, goth, punk, whatever. Never in a box, just not pink. Lol. Now? I look good in pink. Why did I hate it so much? Because I'm 37, and the 90s hated femme women.

[@AprilJXo]

Hi! April J here! Thank you so much for mentioning the Shabby Princess Aesthetic! To address some of the comments about consumerism: the hallmarks of Shabby Princess are DIYs (no need to buy new clothes), size inclusivity, and historical leaning fashion influences! This aesthetic is inspired by Edwardian and 1970s silhouettes with loads of lace and ribbon details. For most aesthetics, I noticed there was a need for perfect hair and makeup. I decided to be a Shabby Princess there's no need for any of that. This requires no special shoes, I encourage sneakers and boots! Comfort is prioritized. It's for all genders and can be easily modified in the workplace. Overall, I wanted to create (or reinspire) a style choice that is financially, physically, and happily accessible to as many people as possible. To be mentioned in this video is truly an honor! I hope for anyone who decides to find refuge in style, that you find what your heart desires

[@kedaver263]

This is amazing, I'm so here for it ❤❤

[@PrettyPrincess9609]

I use to be a tomboy when I was younger but when I got older I wanted to be more feminine. Also I was tired of being masculinized as a black woman so I started doing my makeup more, wearing more “ girly “ colors like pink, trying out different hair styles. and dressing up more.

[@missauroraroseblairsays]

Me too. I was a sk8er /emo girl as a teen. I still like rockers but I'm very much a barbie type girl

[@camadams9149]

It seems like a big portion of this revolves around identity simply being a pattern of consumption If anything this compliment the "Girl Boss" era by creating a complete female economic agent, the worker-consumer. The Girl Boss is the worker generating value and receiving a wage. The Hyper Feminine is the consumer consuming value and generating company revenue I don't know if the creation of the female economic agent (Girl Boss - Hyperfem) is liberating or simply converting cultural gender roles to economic gender roles. I am leaning towards the latter given neoliberalism has slowly redefined all institutions (companies, government, education, dating, and democracy) into markets. I see no reason why gender would not be next

[@pilarcouto4326]

I am happy someone has pointed this out

[@gregvs.theworld451]

I think, to a point, both things can be true at once. You're absolutely correct that capitalism will turn anything it can spin into a market for consumption and sell any concept, including social movements, as a brand, and that "support" from corporations often rings hollow and fair weather. Still, femininity has famously been cast as lesser, so being behind women who want to embrace a traditionally feminine presentation while still holding the power and self love they always deserved can still be a good thing. I think one thing we can do is try to hold onto and remind others of the core ideals of a good social movement. There will be people who will only jump on board when it's mainstream enough, as well as those looking for their opportunity to make a quick buck off of progressive social movements, and those elements can and in the past have absolutely distorted good intentioned social movement into a plastic brand. To combat that, we can choose to support and live by the actual good message behind it and encourage our friends, family, and followers to do the same (basically to turn up and actually be allies to a cause where it counts.), as well as calling out obvious corporate ploys to cash in on progressive social movements, especially if their company history hasn't been friendly to a progressive concept until it started becoming more popular.

[@kaitiesaxe5753]

I like to think of corporate campaigns as a reflection of our culture. For example, companies are going to make Pride merch because it sells, not because the CEO gives a shit about the LGBT community. Even if they do give a shit, it's ultimately a moot point because they are beholden to making profitable decisions under capitalism. However, it's a really good sign when the people who exclusively care about profit reflect back to us that an aesthetic which celebrates the LGBT community is a profitable market to capitalize on. I see this much the same way. I'm glad to see gen Z's authentic embrace of femininity reflected back to us by capitalists, despite the latter's utter lack of authenticity.

[@gregvs.theworld451]

@@kaitiesaxe5753 The flip side of that, however, is that since we do have to keep in mind that any corporate support is entirely fairweather, it's still on us to advocate for and vote in and and support and reinforce positive ideals of progress. Corporations will just as soon drop progressive causes as soon as the tides swing the other way unless we don't let that happen. That's one of the reasons why narratives like "Why do LGBTQ people and women need to advocate for right, Walmart sells pride merch and pink clothes" are flawed and fail to stand up to scrutiny.

[@possomt6211]

A big part of feminism is being allowed to have choice

[@OpheliaNL]

True, but nothing happens In a vacuum and women are still socialized into femininity. Not questioning enforced gendered socialization and just embracing it in the name of choice feminism is lazy. A lot of women aren't honest about why they participate in hyper femininity and how it interacts with self-image, self-worth and insecurities.

[@hanatirk4375]

💯💯💯💯 that's right 💯💯

[@mastersnet18]

I wish they all agreed with that.

[@ohfishsticks1204]

FAXXXX

[@sailorspills3025]

I don’t know.. choosing oppression is not feminism

[@KarishmaChanglani]

I just worry that eventually consumerism will overtake this very soon. I hope not but it happens so often. Also I hope this doesn't push down women who don't identify with the feminine aesthetic. More gender expression not less.

[@Caridad420]

It will happen inevitably unfortunately

[@tj-co9go]

It has always been about consumerism

[@kedaver263]

I was thinking the same!

[@peterparker9954]

Nowadays hyper femininity is forced on men as well

[@Melian07]

Typical femininity has always been about consumerism and vanity. Buy much more clothes, shoes than you really need, accessories, lots of cosmetic products and services.

[@kaijuno]

I’m a pretty high-femme person, but I think we’re accepting the ‘Barbie Girl-Power’ stuff extremely uncritically. The aesthetic is fun but it’s just repackaged consumerism. Dressing like a fairy is cool, (I do it all the time!) but I don’t think people’s individual choice to dress high femme is actually making conditions better for marginalised women in dire living conditions, or for the sweatshop workers producing the clothes. It’s not even subverting what is already expected from women in our society! *“What if women could work extremely hard and be ultra-competent while never looking less than beautiful and perfect?”* *It’s the exact ideal that is already imposed on us!* How is that subversive? We are punished for looking too masculine or unsexy or tired or flawed or imperfect. *Nobody is getting disadvantaged for being too competent and beautiful.* I feel like the actual goals of intersectional feminism are about improving quality of life, freedom of choice and living conditions for everyone. I don’t think being high-femme is bad or wrong, (I find it artistic & joyful!) but I worry that it’s being sold as something subversive and politically active when it’s not. There is definitely a level of subversion in women of colour, disabled, queer and fat women’s inclusion in hyperfeminine spaces! So credit where it’s due there. That’s progress! But consumerism isn’t feminism. Feeling sexy or beautiful when you buy things isn’t feminism. They can all be fun! But they don’t do anything to challenge/improve the systemic issues women face around the world, or dissolve the standards of femininity we are punished for deviating from. What you can do is things like advocating for your friends if they get discriminated against, sourcing your clothes more sustainably, unionising if you can, attending protests, doing mutual aid, community work, voting, learning more about intersectionality, supporting small businesses, etc. It’s not as easy as just having a fun outfit, but it actually does contribute to improving people’s living conditions beyond your own.

[@user-hl1ip7if9r]

This!

[@kedaver263]

Underrated comment

[@kaijuno]

“For the master’s tools will never dismantle the master’s house. They may allow us temporarily to beat him at his own game, but they will never enable us to bring about genuine change. And this fact is only threatening to those women who still define the master’s house as their only source of support.” - Audre Lorde

[@existentialistdreamer]

yes yes and yes!!

[@chinitadejardin]

100% agreed 👏👏👏

[@e_vakhrameyeva]

As a queer hyperfemme myself I’m certainly full of joy seeing the identity blossom. What is less joyous to me is that, as it happens with anything becoming a prominent aesthetics in our age, embracing femininity is now more and more associated with buying more and more goods, and such odes to consumption can be seen even in the tiktoks quoted in this video. It would probably not hurt to mention also that thrifting, sharing goods you already have with friends, making your own clothes and, well, not buying an additional eyeshadow palette just because it’s in a cute pink box do not make you any less hyperfemme, maybe even more so, taken into account the traditional women’s crafts and historically often having to run a home responsibly. All in all, hyperfemininity really can be both inspiring and helping to form a supporting community, but it seems important not to fall into the trap that girlboss agenda once fell into - the one of confusing female agency for engaging in late-capitalist ploys

[@lydianoack4552]

Actually, I associate the hyperfemme with crafting very much. A crochet hook sort of fits in with the style, but that may be because I enjoy the heck out of producing the occasional goth girlystuff item. Go black crochet lace 🖤

[@onemouthymerc]

@@lydianoack4552 I wish this part would get more attention, because I also only see the consumerist "buy makeup" "buy this cute dress" mentality online. I think that's the inherit problem with all of this is that there are so many people with so many different preferences and you can't be aware of all of them, only the ones that get the most likes.

[@onemouthymerc]

Yep. It's the consumerism I'm suspicious about. Hyper femininity is closely tied to spending money. I would be more behind the movement if it focused more on other stereotypical aspects of femininity. It comes across as if fashion and looks are the primary aspects of femininity, which sounds A LOT like the male gaze...

[@lydianoack4552]

@@onemouthymerc Interesting, isn't it. What needs to be seen here, I think, is that while, like any movement, it concentrates on visibility a lot, that is a way to divert the momentum into consumerism to sort of seep away. I still think it's a good thing as such, allowing femmes to define how they see their own expression. Even visibility holds more than outfits, it also encompasses simple stuff like being sweetly emotional in public. I'm sitting on a fence here myself, as a short woman who mostly presents pretty darn masc (I fight as a gladiator and look the part most of the time) but would sometimes be really delighted to be cute and bubbly and not risk losing face for that. The gladius AND the crochet lace, please. And growing roses, even if I mess it up every time, and gushing about how awfully cute my cattos are. If you ask me, that is what this is actually about, the clothes are just display, and this is so not exclusively for afabs. Peops have right to be cute.

[@elainaswanson4364]

It's really beautiful to be a part of a huge group of girls who felt the need to tone down or masculinize ourselves for validation finally trying to own our joy

[@UnboxingAlyss]

I grew up in the 90's so I was very much a part of that group of girls who rejected anything feminin. I was a tomboy and always wanted to hang out with the guys. I wanted nothing to do with girly stuff. In college, I met quite a few mean girls in my major and in one of my clubs. Because of that, combined with my hobbies being male-dominated, I actively stayed away from other women and embraced male friendships. It took me too long to realize that becoming "one of the guys" means you aren't really female to your guy friends. Today, I still have far more male friends than female one and my hobbies are still male-dominated, but I'm actively looking for more female friendships. It really takes friendships from all types of people to fully grow and develop as a person. It's also great to have that support network. My guy friends are great, but there are just some things that they won't get, but my girl friends will. I'm still not into traditionally "girly" pursuits, but I know longer see them as bad things. I'm glad they are being re-claimed by people all over the world, even if they aren't for me, specifically. 🙂

[@haleyalaym6231]

In a male-dominated family and very macho white country culture, I grew up being embarrassed about liking things that were girly. As an adult, I’ve learned to revel in revolutionary hyperfemininity. One aspect of this is my enjoyment of girly pop music- my personal rec is Kim Petras. As a trans woman I feel like she really gets what makes femininity so great!

[@lindamaryninha]

I love being girly; that being said, it resonates a bit of overly consumption and escapism and a necessity to fit a group, but who fashion time/period hasn't been like that at some point? but I'm here for it. Lol❤

[@medea4828]

Not a single word of feminist theory was read for this video and it shows. Maybe jut question for one second whether something is really an ~empowering choice~ when it's pretty much only women doing it. Women who will get mocked when they choose not to conform to things like wearing make up

[@katherinealvarez9216]

I love this and want more, but let's also appreciate the girls and others who wanna go another way. T-shirts, jeans and muddy doc martens? That's good too.

[@takishaedwards273]

Yes, but tomboys and other less feminine women have already had an era dedicated to them "90s -2000s." Hyper feminine women were very much looked down upon during that period and more masculine women were seen as better than feminine women. So let us hyper feminine women have our moment to shine. Bringing this comment up now under this video is unnecessary and takes the spotlight away from people who have been waiting to be recognized and not shamed

[@katherinealvarez9216]

​@@takishaedwards273 I guess what I really want is for media to stop making up rivalry and putting one style down to elevate the other. Let them both exist.

[@TA12002]

you’re so cool and different

[@takishaedwards273]

​@@katherinealvarez9216that's fine and we all want that, but saying we should appreciate women who are less feminine in a a video singing the praises of feminine women is taking away the much needed attention of the feminine women. More masculine, less feminine women have had their era. We deserve our era and our flowers too. So right now, the focus is rightfully on feminine women. We deserve our long-needed acknowledgement

[@katherinealvarez9216]

@@takishaedwards273 well said.

[@RoninRen]

Just something for The Take to think about for a future video essay, basically although they already covered the Madonna, Whore Complex, &did videos where they discussed The Tomboy &The Girly-girl trope; basically I feel that at some point they could at least go into full length about what is it with The Tomboy vs. The Girly-girl rivalry narratives; essentially it's like a subtext of wealth differences for women, 1 example, that only rich girls could afford to be Girly& the price of "Girly" items (makeup, clothes& hair products) backs that up, whereas the Tomboy is portraited as from a working class background, &then there's the narrative of when their backgrounds are reversed, basically how only rich/noble women where allowed the privilege to practice masculine "hobbies" whereas if women wanted to advance in life, they needed to incorporate their femininity for it, let alone which woman gets the "preferential treatment" is because of some jerk's whims, &finally for the complexity of it, that there really needs to be more narratives made about a girl whose miserable at being forced into hyperfemininity, befriending a girl whose as miserable at being forced into masculinity,

[@dunlopfamjam158]

I am so glad people are finally onboard for this! Took the criticism (like a champ mind you 😌💗) for the past 2 decades for my “Barbie-like” aesthetic, and knew it would only be a matter of a time for others to realize what this video essay presents. Thank you, @thetake

[@VidWatcher01]

I'm wearing pink when I go to see the Barbie movie

[@bettieks]

The fact not a single aliyahsinterlude fit or video in this video is crazyyy still a fantastic take

[@sanjanaaggarwal3744]

“give me back my girlhood, it was mine first.” - taylor swift

[@user-hl1ip7if9r]

But this trend doesn't uplift people who weren't already uplifted. It doesnt actually make space for those who want to present this way in the workplace, and if anything works to marginalize people that dont fully subscribe to this presentation like less or no makeup or traditionally masculine clothes. This is largely just maximizing what is expected for women (broadly defined) to purchase- more makeup, more shoes, more clothes and in specific colors and styles. Legally Blond might have been progressive in 2001, but even current Hyper Femininity trends dont rise to its message. These creators arent saying "you should be able to dress how you want and still be respected", but too often, "Here's my girlboss club and here's the (expensive and time-consuming) uniform." I want more media that takes emphasis away from women's looks. I highly recommend Kimberly Nicole Foster's Video on this subject.

[@kaijuno]

Exactly! I feel like this brand of feminism is quite shallow and insidious, because it’s creating a new ideal to judge women against, instead of dissolving the idea that there’s a standard of femininity which we should enforce conformity and punish deviation from.

[@Gingerphile00]

no ones telling you to follow this trend. and of course its only for people who are already uplifted. feminism has always been about granting more priviliges to the already priviliged sex. you just want other women to cater to your fragile ego because you feel inferior to them when you see them showing off their beauty

[@lisah8438]

Kimberly Nicole Foster is an intelligent woman who say a whole lot of nothing. She acts like her Opinions are facts but in reality they are just opinions. I did not like her video you are refering too. Plus she is out of touch. A lot of the things you are feeling are not fact but it is your internalized insecurity. That is why people have a problem with modern day feminism. With that being said, you are really showing your ego. Will you stop telling women how to dress and how to create are because you want to make yourself feel better.

[@lisah8438]

Plus for Black women being hyper-feminine is liberation for us. So stop it.

[@user-hl1ip7if9r]

@@lisah8438 I'm telling anyone how to dress, I am commenting on the societal expectations that women are often subjected to, and how internalized these expectations can become

[@fancifulfoxtale]

At times Pink has actually been seen as a boys colour, such as 19th Century England. As it was seen as the paler version of red which was seen as a manly colour, military uniforms of the time heavily featured red.

[@Tootisepop]

I love pink and I can’t believe I used to run away from it … it’s a cute color

[@missauroraroseblairsays]

I've always loved feminine clothing, took me a long time to like myself. While I like Y2K tomboy looks, I prefer a soft pink sweater and a cute flowery sun dress. I feel beautiful and soft in hyper feminine looks, people also treat me gently as well

[@derred723]

"cottage girl"? "Dopamine dressing?" Honestly these vids are a trip because as a dude i've literally never heard of 99% of these things. I remember you did something about "cool girl" or maybe "clean girl" (i might have the name wrong) but either way you were saying it was out and i was like i didn't know it existed. Probably clean girl cause i really had no clue that was a thing. Granted i'm a dude so I can't say it would come up in conversations.

[@kaitietheukulelelady5645]

I love femininity, however, I think that sometimes it can promote overconsumption which i find a little problematic. I'm all for women, and everyone, expressing themselves, but if you are constantly buying new items to feel your best than I think you should re-evaluate your priorities. Im mostly talking about the people who shop at shein once a month. Fashion should not come before the environment or workers rights

[@elenae497]

I am officially too old for this. This seems to be so much energy to make a shallow statement. It is ok, if you want men to find you attractive, it is ok, if you don’t. In my opinion the coolest things are healing your traumas, listening to you body, being active, kindness and understanding each other. These things are just taking away the energy and mental capacity from finding who you truly are, your unique self, that is no longer only a follower of trends.

[@reyfairburn5023]

Nothing about this trend is about "wanting men to find you attractive". It is about reclaiming a form of femininity that historically has been shamed and put down.

[@gregvs.theworld451]

As a dude I fully support and agree with this sentiment right here.

[@pixiebells]

But what if discovering a certain trend IS finding your unique self? For example, I've always loved historical fashion, American Girls dolls & books in the 90s, fluffy petticoats & Victorian ball gowns--and I'm so happy Cottagecore & Romantic Academic now exist! I'm not following it to be trendy; I'm following it because I’ve finally found my people. Do you think focusing on appearance is automatically shallow & thus not self-healing? Maybe it is for some people. Kindness? Look at these women lifting each other up, is that not kindness & a sense of community? Listening to their bodies? Exactly, they're dressing for themselves, not a man or the approval of society. It is 100% possible to do all those things you listed as cool and still have a kick-ass aesthetic.

[@elenae497]

@@pixiebells I like your answer, you listed some great points in a very nice way and wasn’t offended. It is just a feeling for me, that when it is about being feminine and being a feminist, there is mostly some kind of anger and contempt towards men, and some kind of over the top statements and harshness. It feels like it is still about men, but in a dismissive generalizing way. By the way it is very cool if someone is finding their style and inspiration in trends, what I feel is that we are much more complex than to narrow it down to what I saw in this video. I also had a feeling that these women in the video are wearing a mask, a costume, and I feel that there is a much deeper self in them, what they are hiding with this.

[@madcena01]

​@@elenae497that's because this video is focusing on one very specific subject and not the whole experience of being a human lmao

[@TheElisabethMaria]

this is exactly why I am so excited for the Barbie movie. It's like a cherry on top of my journey of dealing with internalised misogyny

[@tygressblade]

Barbie is Pink’s biggest cheerleader. I have always seen Barbie as the embodiment that women can be anyone who they want to be. I wish Ken could be embraced by men in that way.

[@ouinoelle]

This is what I missed from the 2010s a girl society, a microcosm in and of its self. Like the whole world was Mean girls ❤

[@Asoulcalledrose]

I'm so in love with this move as I, myself, embracing my feminine energy.

[@kellystewart4830]

I love videos like this, the kind that focus on positive things that are happening in our world and our culture, especially when it concerns women & feminism. I wish my teenage self in the 90s & early 2000s could watch this video and know that one day, women would be taking charge of our own narrative and the way we are perceived without having to take male opinion into consideration. I think it would have been so inspiring, and it's so great for teenage girls today! Great job with the video! 🙌😘

[@dddon513]

The common thread is "look at me". Without that, it'd go nowhere, like so many other need for attention fads.

[@strahayeagar5201]

Perfect description of modern activism. Sure, there are some individuals who are truly in it, but the vast majority aren't. Which is perhaps the biggest downside to awareness in the social media age...it is really easy for the vast majority to convince themselves that they are something they are not.

[@mccod035]

that being said I AM SO SO SO EXCITED FOR BARBIE!!!

[@gleicekellyrodrigues7028]

that was a mental hug

[@malvavisco10]

2:52 they used that in the opening montage for The Deuce season one

[@TomboyGirl-n8r]

May be many women hated pink or dressing in a feminine way because we were taught we have to be that to attract a partner like a gender sterotype and not for own pleasure and since feminism we had to be strong,independent and be work oriented and always had it in our minds that by dressing in pastel/ femininly that means we want men approval because we were raised like that but we forgot that taking care of ourselves means self love and it Shouldnot be about gaining male approval and that what also feminists trying to encourage 😊 Also toxic /narcissist men hate barbie movie and the feminine aesthetic its like they hate it so much when a woman love herself and take care of herself and only see it okay when women do it to only sexually attract them 😡

[@sophiaisabelle027]

We learn so much from this channel. We hope to see them succeed further.

[@MarshalMarrs]

Conservatives would be finding ways to criminalize hyperfeminine men!!

[@EmmaÖsterlind]

If we finally would start valuing female traits that would be awesome. I am however not so sure yet another trend encouraging us to pay attention to the way we look is the same thing. It's still a male privilege to just take a shower in the morning, get dressed and go out. How about we encourage ourselves and other women to identify not by the way we look but by personal traits? How about we stop seeing ourselves from the outside and start taking a first person perspective on life? Its ironic how (at least in Sweden where I live) the wage gap is diminishing whereas the amount women spend on make up, skin care, clothes etc is increasing and still leaves us with less disposable income than men.

[@Gingerphile00]

women like being feminine and pretty. no one is forcing you to particpate in this. asking women to not be a hivemind is asking them to go against their nature, and your clearly only trying to shame other women for this because you feel threatened by their superior beauty. what male privilidge? as a woman you can present as feminine or masculine as you want without getting shamed, men are boxed into rigid gender roles by society. typical misandrist female blaming men for other women making you feel insecure because their beauty threatens your fragile femininity. also more nonsense about the wage gap. men work harder, your just demanding more special privliges for being female.

[@kedaver263]

You guys at the take are rehashing the same topic again and again. And are not looking into the valid criticisms of this topic of hyperfem. 😅

[@phoenixfriend]

Everyone should be able to express themselves the way they want to. If they want to be hyper-fem or hyper-masc, there's nothing wrong with that. If they want to be a more masc girl or a more fem guy there's nothing wrong with that either. If they want to be a goth or punk or grunge or just casual and comfortable, likewise. The only thing that's wrong is when people are pressured into dressing according to someone else's ideals and values, or when people are being jerks to people whose choices are different to their own, or when people will criticize you no matter what choice you make.

[@amylou22snowhite]

I’m a super femme vintage dressing lady. I do get some pushback, but I don’t care. I love being as feminine as I can be. Doesn’t make me less intelligent or socially conscious.

[@aniokay]

Yep, we shouldn't contribute to devaluate items that are associated with femininity.

[@WhenIsItUs]

Many of us men will of course have an opinion on this which should, for the most part, be ignored. Different from Hyper Masulinity, Hyper Feminity doesn't appear to have the same, nearly direct, consequence of physical domination and harm. Being a man, as much as I would enjoy a perception of positive masculinity, I find it much more constructive and easy to relate to anyone of any title they adopt by focusing of being more Hyper Human, rather than boxing myself off from others. This is about any of these trends I see online. All these labels everyone gives themselves while it the same time talking about how much they despise labels. I get worried about my neices and nephews when I see what they are scrolling through, what their Father and Mother tells them about these so called "truths" of being their gender. Its gone beyond a hobby and a fragile sense of identity, like all the macho gang boys in my family who beat and cheat on their women. Their happiness depends upon what society views them as and they are hollowed of anything else. Where's the trend on just being a cool person that is at least a little less tethered to consumerism and social media? Being a bartender you see so much of this. Everyone staring at their phones until it's time for a picture. Then comes the cheers and excited poses, but only for as long as it takes for a video/photo. I just want to sit with the people I care about, dressing the way we like without competing for likes or inwardly indulging on the satiafaction of making others jealous, not profiting off of other's insecurities. Not using excuses like "just turn your brain off for a second" or "Its all just for fun, stop worrying". How many times do we have to see where that gets us?

[@MomoMensch]

I'm afab genderfluid and i just love that i came to accept my hyper-feminine joy (mainly because of the trend but also because i made friends with a woman who loves pink sparkles

[@ouinoelle]

I fell into the high Plastic teenage girl look (I’m 18 lol). I’ve always wanted to do it. Confident enough to be sexy. And I’ve done it. It’s hot pink and cut off shorts and little chic pieces but school appro. Crop tops!!! no makeup!!

[@ouinoelle]

It’s pink nowhere but more edgy and cutting. more like not pink because I’m a girl, but pink because duh!!!

[@rebecca_stone]

Whenever I watch a video essay like this, I feel so relieved that I've never used nor downloaded TikTok. Talk about overthinking things, OMG!

[@rara1800]

Why does liking the color pink or other conventionally feminine things make you anti feminist??? Putting other women down is anti feminist to me

[@heatherhaven1268]

Dopamine dressing? Did I hear that right?

[@mbanerjee5889]

I feel like femininity and masusalinaty have no definitions anymore; it literally means whether the current trend is.

[@Rubik_Bee]

Watching content like this makes my heart swoon....LOVE IT

[@Z.A.M.1359]

"Attention to detail" ❤

[@saralbruno]

Thank god this voice is back!!!

[@lordtraxroy]

glad its back in the the whole y2k girly style

[@TheHappychickadee]

Love this!!!

[@priscylove6463]

You can always wear what you want. no need to overexplain your dress choices. ugh. People are so narcisstic and behave as if everything is about them.

[@shanegrele]

have complicated feelings about this movement and the idea of “reclaiming femininity” as a woman who doesn’t prefer to dress this way and faces pushback for the way i actually want to present. i think it’s really cool but it’s just not for me. but it’s not like the 2000s “not like other girls” represented any viable alternative either because those girls were still feminine “without trying” instead of feminine with trying.

[@manuelanthony7256]

I can’t help but think of the sans-culottes with their clothing choices and status compared to some western girls wanting to look like Disney princesses. Kinda sad actually.

[@jeannesuzanne6425]

woww! 🎉🎉 loved this video! could you input your sources? :))

[@porcelainboy264]

That background music in the intro made me wanna dance

[@Apryltaurus]

☺️ I love being a woman and feminine

[@EDDIELANE]

Actual Song from Summer Magic: You must walk feminine, talk feminine, smile and be girl-feminine Emphasize your femininity, that’s what every girl should know, if she wants to get a beau.

[@VidWatcher01]

5:03 Rachel!!!

[@sierraj1589]

I always wish these videos were longer

[@susannehuber3996]

❤❤❤❤ that’s what we need.

[@georgeprchal3924]

Gangstaliscious came up with the pearls thing back in like '04.

[@olivejuice7673]

Hi Barbie 💝💗

[@priscylove6463]

resisting the male gaze? really. Why are people's worlds being centered on the male gaze. If you are dressed differently, I dont think its only males who will stare females will too.

[@Gingerphile00]

because women have a pathological obsesssion with snubbing men.

[@RoninRen]

I'd also like it if The Take to consider a quick video essay on movies &tv shows based on girls toys franchises because tragically if I had to guess, at the no win situation sexism created, when it comes to girls childhoods, at "best" parents wanted them to mature faster, as if that'll help protect them from being taking advantage of, like that's how you're supposed to prepare them(like if a 4 to 9 year old doesn't understand the value of the dollar, that they basically wanna do what they think is fun for them with money, it's the perfect indication that they're gonna grow-up lazy I.E. jobless)&I think I could actually vomit, if it turns out, toys based on girly cartoons/girly toys, was always a part of the pink tax, therefore for parents it's just a better affordable choice to buy girls $0.99 cent make-up, stationery supplies, or toys that are domestic themed (like anthropomorphic food with a kitchen playset) whereas real world scenarios, as soon as daughters where born, families basically told them she has to be ready/signed them up, for marriage& they'd better be ready to be a mom, regardless of her say, or if it's found/turns out she's infertile,

[@lesjourstristes00]

this is a beautiful analysis

[@randomnyss2011]

Pink was actually associated with Men.. If we go back a little further in times of knights and kings .

[@perroraton9515]

Is this related to the release of the Barbie movie?

[@donalvarez4006]

I was hoping for a more nuansenced perspective on the racial origins of Victorian femininity and how it divides/distracts against working class issues

[@fate8007]

shutup feminist

[@namzhilmia]

My power suit is pink. I love it!

[@GirlyGirl1994]

Proud girly girl here❤

[@bigcitysmalljoy]

This hasnt been claimed by queer people. Being 'a femme' (as opposed to being feminine) is a queer identity and has been decades. I liked the video, but it definitely misses the mark on what femme means to wlw

[@localtavernsluteplayer2182]

I just love that pretty things are trending again, now can we get guys to stop only wearing cargo pants and athleisure

[@ouinoelle]

These trend seems so LIT

[@paulaalbarnful]

I loved your video but I would like you to give credit to the tiktokers. I'd like to know who they are and be able to find them

[@dia606]

It should be ok to be girly or hyperfeminine but can we recognize it’s EXPENSIVE AF? This is not exactly affordable in a sustainable way and is a great way to keep women poor or dependent on their male partners for upkeep

[@Melian07]

I've been thinking of that too. One of the things I dislike about typical femininity is the consumerism and vanity; buying and using lots of clothes, shoes, accessories (much more than we really need) and cosmetics, while men aren't expected to waste their resources and time on such stuff. Because the tradition is that women are expected to function as a decoration and it's important that they follow certain beauty standards - I don't see how it's beneficial to women.

[@koffiecake]

The whole thing is consumerism. Companies lost money during the pandemic to women realizing wearing makeup and uncomfortable clothes wasn't worth it and now they're trying to push back for more of this.

[@YuliaKoshelyaeva]

It's not like this for a lot of counties. You have international audience, pls pay attention to the rest of the world. Not everything revolves around USA

[@thefriesofLockeLamora]

Yasssss Charly

[@lordtraxroy]

also since the whole pc culture has been attacking people so hard people are searching that they can feel confottable also magical girls is making a comeback

[@ouinoelle]

Mean girl aesthetic ✌🏽 for lyfe

[@sadie9728]

I'd never dress like this in a million years but I like it so....I collect fashion dolls :)

[@ksen333]

And what exactly does this have to do with feminism?

[@KarishmaChanglani]

It's challenging the hierarchy of men above women.

[@MsFrida2012]

Rejecting the 'faux importance' of the male gaze.

[@SashaSGraham]

​@@MsFrida2012No it's not

[@triloization]

Can I just be a person today and a feminist or do I have to put myself in a niche?

[@claracatlady9844]

It’s a sad time to be a straight girl. Man I wish I was attracted to girls they are so pretty. We could wear princess dresses and have tea parties

[@franciscamoena6666]

So you want friends?

[@claracatlady9844]

@@franciscamoena6666 I have friends jeez 😂 but having a girlfriend that would do romantic kitschy picnic dates with you while dressed up sounds great, like I don’t think there are a lot of guy that you could get to do that with you. I have a lot of themed picnics with my friends, actually one is coming up this Wednesday but that is obviously platonic and not romantic nor a date

[@darkblue9314]

Would just like to mention that growing up I didn't see the Taylor Swift - You belong with me video as a "Pick-me, I'm not like the other girl, I'm a special manic pixie dream cool girl." I always saw as "She's so much cooler than me, she wears short skirts" so she tries on different outfits that would fit her because she didn't feel worthy in her t-shirt and her sneakers, simply being on the bleachers.

[@NN-fz4pd]

So now aspiring to look like Barbie is suddenly feminist? and its somehow new to be expected to look like Barbie and be competent in your field? lol hot take.

[@snowylove2002]

You win the award for missing the point 😭

[@dylanstack8710]

Nothing wrong with femininity. Or masculinity.

[@gnamaryarisirem]

Hillary kinda ate with that pink suit tho

[@ouinoelle]

Girl omfg those 2000s rom coms JESUS omg it was so sexist damnnn like those older polished white actors like how to lose a guy DAMN

[@Ar1AnX1x]

I honestly don't consider any of the people you showed as 'really feminine' they just have this pink and pretentious and even aggressive 'femininity' the most feminine women I've seen are very introverted, look feminine without having this exaggerated focus on heavy make up and heavy reliance on fashion trends instead of having their own style, and very Artistic, Open-minded and Educated but overall its all very subjective, words have different meanings to different people, just like how 'cool' means different to everyone