I Became a BISH and it Changed My Life!

[@Theuniverseguru]

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[@saludyvidaintegrales7982]

It happens to me, my family loves me while I'm below them

[@SonyaOutThere]

In my entire 40 years of living, I learned that the more you please people, the more entitled they become (not grateful), and just expect more.

[@Aquagirl-in6wr]

Well said, wow this is my experience as well.

[@user-yk9sk7pg6v]

@sonya, very true, learned it too late myself

[@TV-oc4ml]

You should have just married him at 27

[@SonyaOutThere]

@@TV-oc4ml WTF are you talking about. I met my husband at 32 and married him at 33.

[@TV-oc4ml]

@@SonyaOutThere good girl

[@Mimses-b4e]

At the core of being a bish is being in the energy of "my needs are not shameful" . I get to have my needs, no shame. This allows healthy shame to take its place and it manifests as healthy boundaries and vulnerability.

[@Theprincessinyellow]

I’m gonna have to sit on that point for a minute! I am definitely a recovering people pleaser so to the way you put that is just *chefs kiss*

[@staceyanne243]

Thank you for this 💫

[@transformyourmindtransform7020]

I remember your video, I think it was titled "don't complain, don't explain" and it reminds me of this. I catch myself explaining why I'm saying "no" instead of just letting "no" be a complete sentence. Goddesses don't have to explain anything. Let them think what they may 👸🏿

[@fp7601]

When I stopped acting insecure and people pleasing people started calling me a narcissist LMAO

[@canesugar911]

Everyone is a psychologist these days. According to them anyone who is happy, confident and not self deprecating is a "narcissist".

[@mjgreenidge]

Yes, it’s called having self esteem and they don’t want women to have it because if your love yourself, they cant manipulate you for their gain.

[@Lisa_Fernandezhomeandlifestyle]

@@canesugar911 "everyone is a psychologist"... Right 🤣💃🏽

[@StephanieDaniels]

This happened to me too. 😂 I went from being a target of narcissists to being called a narcissist. What a mind trip.

[@nickycorrea]

@@StephanieDaniels hahaha I feel you, girl! Same here

[@rsamuels6969]

I’ve had people actually tell me that my happiness actually bothers them! So bizarre! I REFUSE to dim my light to make other people more comfortable! Since deciding that my life has gotten exponentially better! It’s good to know that this is Goddess energy!!

[@diplomat2623]

Woow.

[@lindaabuado3213]

Yes, you’ll be surprised your happiness does bother orople

[@HealingLight231]

“Allow people to decide for themselves” WOW

[@MayaJohn]

When you overextended yourself to help others you’re harming not only yourself, but them too. It’s actually condescending to assume a grown adult can’t figure out their problems. When you say no, you allow them to grow and learn independently, while maintaining your relationship with them!

[@SarahMJordan]

💅👑 yes!

[@RiahLynne]

I’m a proud BISH and everyone that knows me can vouch. Funny thing is, I just have solid boundaries but I’m still a kind human being. But it’s okay to be the villain in other peoples story sometimes 🤷🏾‍♀️😌

[@SarahMJordan]

Yes! Love this 💅

[@rinalovesbags8788]

This is such an important message for us as women. We are conditioned to be the "Good Girl" who live to serve others and make everyones lives easier. You do yourself such a disservice when you put yourself last.

[@lovefaith1856]

Even the Jesus said “let your yes be yes and your no be no.” So true

[@tyramcneal1204]

Yes love this message and it definitely hits home with me. I’ve always been the nice girl. Currently not answering phones, responding to messages saying “oh sorry I won’t be able to do that” , and practicing keeping my mouth shut when people purposely mention their problems around me. I just say “oh man I hope you figure it out that’s crazy” lol 😂 then I have to go because I’m getting another call.

[@reccyre]

12:02 when you lose those types of people, it's not even a loss! 🙏 I've seen the light. It's not about changing myself to fit in, it's about being myself and attracting my soul tribe.

[@ajhenzler1852]

Oh my, yes. I'm doing a Mina marathon and when I rewatched this , I was recalling all of the times I have apologized when I didn't do anything wrong...I feel like this has been so ingrained in us as women, to be the nice girl. I remember one time..I was in a boutique trying on clothes, and the music in the fitting room was loud. The SA accidentally opened my fitting room door when I was in the middle of changing. She didn't say anything...just stood there staring at me. I was apologizing to HER!! When I went to pay for my things, she still said nothing! These are the moments that I revisit and cringe...thank you Mina for bringing this to my awareness....stepping into more of that Goddess/bish energy thanks to your teachings 💕

[@IqraKhan-vc7lo]

Ever since I left my people pleasing self (which is taught to us eastern women to be a doormat), I get called a bish now by female family members. I could care less honestly. I'm no longer depressed, and happy

[@kristenmoonrise]

I felt this! I had a friend who was a total nice girl: she was mistreated at work and in her relationship. I had to stop being her friend because I didn't want those low vibes rubbing off on me! It would irk me when she refused to stand up for herself.

[@canesugar911]

You could have helped her though.

[@kristenmoonrise]

@@canesugar911 who said I didn't?

[@kristenmoonrise]

@@canesugar911 I guess talking with her, connecting her with a career consultant, a therapist, and giving her a book on self love affirmations that she all refused isn't called help. 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@canesugar911]

@@kristenmoonrise you, you didn't say it. You just said that she irked you so you decided to end the friendship.

[@canesugar911]

@@kristenmoonrise 🙄🙄. Read your first comment, where did you mention any of these

[@GoddessOfUniverse]

I heard a convo of my fiancé ✨ with a work partner, yeah my girl is a SAVAGE ✨ I don’t mess with her ♥️

[@sandylucas4279]

Mina, I remember some time ago you told stories of your hairdresser and nail tech and even I believe massage place how you were kind to them, but they saw you as a pushover. I love how you figured it out and resolved it! But of course, you always do! Love it and you! XO

[@danicaharley6273]

Do you remember how Mina resolved this soft nice pushover issues? Thank you, I have these same issues xx

[@CozyMutha]

@@danicaharley6273 I would think... "by becoming a BISH"

[@alisha55555]

Wow - hate that ppl are like that. Do you happen to remember which video this is/was?

[@amiraclefinds4867]

" I understand why you think that / that you feel this way AND/ yet this doesn't work for me" " allow natural consequences to happen" from what I remember, with the appointments, it was more of accommodating, showing understanding and apologizing. They would have her wait or reschedule her appointment or rush through it due to their poor time management the natural consequence is "I understand you're not ready." This experience doesn't work for me.And they lose a good customer. They couldn't handle new customers anyway find someone who has the container to do so. hence timestamp 6:30 and 9:17

[@lucidaandromeda]

This video is amazing, thank you. I used to be the same way, and people didn't show as much respect, and I did feel resentment. It is SO empowering to set personal boundaries and say no to what does not resonate. Yes, no more over apologizing! I've shared this with my mom and other women in my life, and we all stopped saying sorry when it wasn't necessary. Excellent point that people ARE capable of figuring things out for themselves! No need to sacrafice ourselves to save people. Loving your BISH vibe Mina! 👑💖🙏🌟

[@maxineyu7666]

Wow this came at divine timing! I was having a bad day today because I was cringing at myself for being too nice to people who don't treat me well and feeling resentful then guilty for standing up for myself but i shouldn't. Thank you for this video 💗💗

[@africangoddess2833]

I literally just made an IG story stating that my only responsibility is to live my BEST life and that I don't know how to live any other way. I'm with you sister 💖 thank you for giving yourself permission everyday and giving us all permission to do the same 💓

[@rsamuels6969]

Thiss!!

[@Thebettermanbysak]

I didn’t want to go out with someone and wasn’t sure how to say no. I’m going to be honest no sugar coat. Thank you for the confidence to to this! 😘😘😘😘

[@ColouredSoul19]

Every time I have something on my mind Mina you bring out a video discussing it. I want random men to know they can't come in my field just like that because I appear sweet. A guy had the audacity to compliment me with bashing other women because I was more clothed and then said men don't like stuck up women and I don't seem that way. I had to tell him he's mistaken, I am stuck up lol. So now I'm trying to exude such energy in my photos and communication so that they know I'm not the one but remaining in my natural kind energy. Trying to find the balance.

[@canesugar911]

I don't know why guys think that modest women are push overs and low maintenance. Lol.

[@ItsOkayToBeHappy]

Pro tip: if you tap the gear for settings you will see a handy little feature called "Loop". If you turn the loop on, this video will automatically play on repeat. I know I need to hear this at least 3 times. You're welcome. 💋

[@perleeartisanat2235]

In my community there is an expression saying: « No bring arguments. » So people never say no; they say yes or smile but dont respond. I think its so toxic because most relationship or friendship are not genuine Idc I just say no.

[@pennypenny376]

F*CK YEAH to this message!

[@snjezanakristo7693]

This video has just come for me at the right time, that's exactly what I needed to hear. My mother has been conditioning me through my entire life to be a dormat, a pushover and that my whole existence is wrong. But even though I've often heard "a bish (in original) doesn't mean anything wrong or negative", doesn't it sound offensive and derogatory? That should be something normal!

[@richbeauty212]

OMG, love your content! I am a Libra as well... right away I connected with your energy! I was doing the same things... MS.YES, YES! 2020 the Universe shifted gears for me. God completely removed the people who were taking advantage of me and who largely did not have my back. Because of this people pleasing behavior, my relationship was declining, my significant other hated this to the core. Now I can see that he was protecting me from the cold vultures trying to prey over my kindness. Now I understand him. I can now focus on my career and do what's best for me. The UNIVERSE IS GOOD TO ME❣🙏🏽

[@Ang36914]

It was also a health issue (my eyes twitching for 3 days straight) that was the final straw for me. I stopped pleasing others so much, caring so much about what others thought and keeping my truth back for fear of offending others. One doctor thinks it was nystagmus, which is usually caused by stress and fatigue.

[@timmiking-proverbs746]

Rediscovering my Bish energy...in my 50's. Lol! Better late than never! I'm absolutely DONE with the people pleasing! Some can't deal with it and that's perfectly fine with me!

[@greyahmarie0905]

You better talk about it Mina!💚

[@jazzyjenkins]

Omg I needed this. I .calling out to work tomorrow. Just because I need a day, and I have been stressing over it. Feeling as if I am going to let my co workers down. I have never called out never faked sick. I always do everything.

[@lindasmith9006]

Beautiful message Mina, God bless you for what you’re doing for women! Just by you being you and living your best life, you’ve inspired me so much and changed my whole existence from the inside out. My marriage also has transformed through inner work and becoming a Bish!! you’re so right ppl love you more when you’re authentic, nice girls finish last for a reason. In my nice girl mode, I so wanted to please ppl and manipulate ppl into liking me. Once I stopped caring and started showing up as the feminine savage that was already in me, those who align with my new energy love it, others are triggered by it and others deselected. Either way I’m living unapologetically and I’m so happy, my husband is obsessed with my Bish energy and I get to have it all!

[@MrsMosha]

Thank you!!! I will receive my spiritual PhD!!! I will work with you one on one. Speaking it into existence!!!💕

[@madelinesanchez3107]

I'm latina, thanks to you I'm more line with the things I want...and now I set up boundaries and i feel more feminine...thank you ..

[@zakiaikram4379]

Ooooh beautiful message.

[@Aquagirl-in6wr]

This is a great message that I needed to hear. I've been a people pleaser all my life and it only hit me recently and I realized I have to change.

[@GetElevatedWithMe]

Mina, I just want to thank you from the bottom of my heart! I’ve been a people pleaser my whole life and I’m so thankful I’ve found your channel. I found you through awwlexis! I’m married and your videos have inspired me to work on myself as well as my marriage! I’m so excited to purchase your book and I’ve already picked a couple courses I’d like to do ❤

[@luxelindz3881]

Thank you for this video Mina, you summarised who I was when I was married and now that I've ended it, I am truly coming into my own Bish-energy and leading with "If I loved myself, what would I do now".

[@Jianglong37]

Yes. I no longer feel guilty about the desires that I have.

[@gangstalica]

Talk about synchronicity! THIS is exactly the video I needed..🙌

[@Maimmarei]

Mina , you are a source of energy and blessings, you are amazing, I really learn so much from you , god bless you ♥️

[@Heather-AnnePaul]

This is brilliant Mina. You said you tried to dim your light, yet remember when you said that it was the women who triggered you the most in the past actually activated your own ascension and level up. Go ‘head and trigger everybody girl 👏

[@AlexisSiriani]

This video spoke to my soul. I used to be a people pleasing doormat and can relate your transformation!!!

[@brklyn2922]

Thank you Mina! I want the 'right people in my life'. Amen to that❤❤❤❤

[@lavieestbelle6068]

Resentment can also cause ulcers. I am working on no longer being the fixer.

[@truthorlies5282]

Yass I was a nice and sweet girl for years , I couldn’t believe the way ppl took advantage and hurt me, the day I became a BISH , I was pushed to the point of it but happy I realized this sooner than later ,hunnnyyy yasss I don’t regret it and I am respected off rip!!! ❤️ The other benefits of this astounding

[@TheAdisa]

I am so grateful that I found your channel! I just turned 25 and this knowledge is just confirmation of what I deserve 🎉Thank you🥰

[@awesomearab13]

Can you please elaborate on attracting triggered people into your life? That is literally my entire life experience and I have always blamed myself and looked inward to try and understand why I attract so many jealous people into my space when I am not a jealous person myself.

[@Heather-AnnePaul]

Love this. Yeeeeeeees girl. I’ve got to work on saying NO the first time , instead of a brutal Cut off 😂. This resonates so much .

[@socialite8218]

I love your style. You empowered me to stop people pleasing. Thanks! 💕

[@asmas19]

Well they are capable of not getting triggered when you set a boundary. If they can't, then they need inner work. Sending them love

[@SanctifiedLady]

Heal your body heal your life…and metaphysics book The game of life and how to play too! Love this channel we been through the same channels of self growth 🙌🏾

[@deepikajain6458]

One of the best advices. You are shining inside out 💕💕

[@tithi8782]

I love your dress today Mina 💗

[@aliceandappetizers]

I know that’s right Mina! Love that you came to this realization. Letting your “yes mean yes” and your “no mean no” is very important. Thank you for sharing!

[@amypelino5901]

I loved this. I used to have the same problem! And I too have stepped into my bish power too! It’s necessary.

[@cynbod]

I love that you are mentioning RA as I have fibromyalgia and think there is an element of guilt/people pleaser in that. I dont always say yes, I just feel invisible and will therefore try to please and follow everyone in order to exist and not be alone.

[@lovefaith1856]

Wow. I love that you look at the metaphysical aspects

[@alekxa90]

Mina I am so grateful to you. To those that see this video for the first time, understand that when Mina gives something she gives all of herself. You are kind and so full of knowledge. Thanks for all you've have given me. Your knowledge, your generosity, your care are appreciated. This message is spot on. Thanks

[@frankiem4062]

People call me the mean girl but idc. I’m literally living my dreams while they are still scraping the bottom for pennies 🤭🤭🤭🤭

[@ichefz]

One of Mina's best videos!

[@courtneypuryear4217]

Thank God for you Mina, I pray for help and here you come with a video! That was a good friend to call you out and help you level up. Please keep doing savage, bish goddess energy videos!

[@vturner]

“ Nice is only a place in France”

[@ichefz]

Exactly what I needed to hear. Major wake up call

[@jamescadzow9545]

This is the way God intended you to become all along 100% Authentic in all aspects of life. Being honest or talking in a blunt fashion has nothing to do with being a bitch. Every child comes into this world perfect in every way until it takes on the pain and egos of other humans as their own. Always speak your mind it's a sign of strength not weakness. People pleasing is a sign of pure codependent weakness because you have the inability to form your own opinion. people pleasers typically are the baits of narcissists because they want a Yes Man with no opinion that is unwilling to rock the boat because they subconsciously fear any sort of confrontation. confrontation is actually a good thing because it resolves issues versus sweeping them under the rug like a codependent people pleaser would do.. I'm proud of you for overcoming this good luck my friend I love your energy.

[@asinsodojrn]

Girl this is fire 🔥🔥🔥

[@wisdomfromprystinetheempress]

Grow your hair into this length naturally it absolutely suits you...it makes you look even more beautiful than you are anyway! I mean you decide but yeah... just thinking it out loud! Thanks for the video! I am enjoying being the BISH tbh...my health, my overall well-being is so much better! I agree with all of the words! 🙂👍🏻💯

[@rensii-e8b]

I agree she looks especially pretty here for whatever reason ❤

[@risingroses]

Mina please copyright the😁 word "bish". 😂😂😂Cracks me up and pulls me together and I love it.

[@KeshiaRice]

It’s a slang term that’s been used for 20 years, so I don’t think it can be copyrighted.

[@emilyjane6153]

I have this video saved and regularly revisit, because it's just that good!

[@savvymendoza_]

every video you look younger and sexier! you go girl, you are such an inspiration to me 💙💚

[@The-Oneness11]

Thank you. I am so inspired to become the real authentic me.

[@chi_townpeach3626]

I identified with this video so much u definitely gained a subscription

[@GLIMPSE1306]

1.000.000 likes for this video. Never dim your light for anyone - especially not to make anyone like you. shine bright. be a bish. people who are meant to like will anyway.

[@DarlaReborn]

You were preaching, girl! Love this! 🙌🏾

[@amiraclefinds4867]

Time stamp 7:50 and 8:24 is what I need to hear over and over again.

[@RachelsResults]

You used to be an exploding doormat!! 😂 Me too!! 💥

[@sectoudie1820]

Very powerful what you convey really. Now you know why you experienced all that . A lot lot lot of people needs your teachings. It's wripling out through the universe vibrationally when you express it because I feel coming from your soul.You just made me quantum jump to another level lol lol 😆 am not joking 🤣 . I needed just this one. All my Blessings your way beautiful soul of the light

[@realneatfreaks9626]

This was soooo good!! Thank you Mina!!

[@andrewdurhamenglish9977]

I really wish she edited her videos so they'd be a bit louder. Awesome content.

[@michelledirelle]

A "bish". Oh I go crazy😅😆😆😆 Very good. Very in balance. Thank you, Bish.

[@allrightallrightallright1919]

Wow, I totally relate to your history ❤

[@isabel4957]

I embodied this thanks to you and it changes my life everyday❤️

[@djpakknight]

when people decide to make their own definitions of words ______________

[@ruthhagen5230]

Glorious content, wisdom woman ✨

[@elyciachanel8840]

So grateful I found your channel. All of this video resonates with me. We have similar mindsets. New subscriber 💜

[@drewpape4557]

Hey. I really needed your video. You gave me a great perspective on how to be in life. I am working on myself and this really helped. I'm going to use your advice.

[@LutherAEvans]

Maybe the people who are triggered by you are just jealous.

[@reccyre]

They resent her for doing what they're not allowed to do or what they don't give themselves permission to do/be. For example in my community girls who are brought up being very restricted and controlled by their parents in every way were very resentful toward girls who were raised by chill parents who didn't police their every move. So they shamed those girls in an attempt to make themselves feel better.

[@LutherAEvans]

@@reccyre Yeah, I get it. I can relate to being overly controlled by a parent, but I never turned toxic towards others like that. There was one point when I did feel a bit envious of healthy people who are supported, but that went away pretty quickly. Mainly I just view them as an example of how I want to be more like, rather than going the toxic route of trying to make them feel bad or something like this.

[@ajohonly3721]

Very important lesson to learn thanks 🙏 Mina.

[@paolavaldes8392]

When you do things for other your message is “you can’t do it so I do it for you” which in fact make them feel dumb and they know deeply, and when u start saving people you become codependent at other people problems, do not respect your life if you spend your life rescuing people

[@eliano6685]

Love your energy❤️

[@Theuniverseguru]

Thank you!

[@mahaalotaibi8352]

Are you from Afghanistan 🇦🇫 I had a best friend her name was Mina! Someone recommended your channel and I knew I will love it!

[@Paulina-yv7go]

Love it! 👏

[@GoddessOfUniverse]

Watching this while he is massaging and kiss my feet ✨ I have my AirPods in 💕

[@blondsciousblondie8996]

This is an excellent video!

[@FM-yk1yr]

Love this!

[@juliam5628]

I love your energy Mina 💜

[@inspired11]

Hi Mina, thank you for sharing such amazing content. I have gone through a similar transformation from people pleaser to a bish..:) and now when I think about starting my own KZbin channel, I can't help but wonder if I'm going back to this "saviour/pleaser" mindset..what do you feel about the desire to serve and does it involve some pleasing or wanting approval..

[@sumaiyakhan9368]

I think this video was for me

[@Lulu-rc5ii]

My favourite bish on yt! ;)