See why you shouldn't assume a relationship

[@theWinlos]

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[@LightnessJohn-d9i]

Ooh my fellow Tanzanians who do not understand English language,I pray that the Winlos accept my request.

[@ukdollars12]

Wow I like to follow for ur acting ma and sir

[@princeoludareakintola5758]

Relationship is a CONTRACT, make sure you have an AGREEMENT before you start INVESTING your emotions!.....words of wisdom!

[@janet3313]

Ladies don’t ask questions sometimes,because they are afraid of the answer and often prefer to live in fantasy land, day dreaming all day. Was once like that, thank God for maturity.

[@answermusongela3733]

Yes it's never easy to believe the truth even when it is right in front of us

[@christineruthw.thiongo9805]

Sometimes we don't ask because we are told ladies should not be the ones initiating anything that seemingly looks like a proposal...

[@janet3313]

@@christineruthw.thiongo9805 hmm. You are right

[@ReelTalk_Festi]

You can say that again....

[@NabawanukaTeo-j9z]

I was also once like that

[@AyoolaBabalola-vu8gl]

Assumption is the mother of frustration and the sister of confusion

[@jeslordischus-wealthkwarte2833]

"Assumption is the lowest form of intelligence!" Thanks for always for always reiterating this to us, Dear Winlos🤗

[@ahiamadupraisegod5886]

Relationships are not planned on assumptions but on communication. Ask the right questions!

[@joyfullnoize2242]

Real relationships yes.

[@audreydavis3493]

Don't waste your emotions on assumptions 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@johndosa6816]

Same thing with guys, if there is no proper communication then there should be no assumption.

[@vanesamobbak6694]

Actually quite the opposite building castles in the air 😂 of relationships that don't exist

[@philipsolive9863]

So true, I always tell myself, Never assume that a man loves u until he says it and shows it. If the relationship is not defined I no day do. I love my mental and spiritual peace.....

[@omoofmightyjesu]

😂"You are mad" "I put it to you, You are wicked"...."Take handkerchief, clean your tears" ...Nice message....God bless Winlos.

[@maureenmary_mallya]

The way he gave her a handkerchief to dry her tears, khaaai 😂

[@benefits75]

“Clean your tears.”

[@leticiaagyemang103]

😂😂😂

[@excellenceesq9946]

That's the height of the emotional damage.

[@businessmogul4026]

😂😂

[@David34976]

​@@benefits75 they are dirty 😂😢

[@ForMySoulSistas]

That's what ppl say now: "let's just go with the flow", "let's see how it goes", "we're just talking", "let's be friends first" Bruh 😒I won't rush you but ain't wasting time, 3 years abeg

[@answermusongela3733]

Imagine playing games with people's hearts

[@larissanouya4548]

I thank God for your life, the winlos. Just of recent I had a similar situation. I asked the guy to define but he didn't open up, I was so attached to him that I felt so hurt when I couldn't get what expected. He won't talk but his behaviour make people think we are in a relationship. So I decided to stop that permanent communication, more of all, I asked God to help me forget about him, because my emotions were too involved. So I'm trying to put God first and I still believe, He will send the husband I'm made for on the right time.

[@janet3313]

And he will. 🤗

[@paulasalami1845]

Amen 🙌🙌🙌 I believe he will

[@Fidelishopetestimony]

Believe he will

[@aldam4293]

What I like is that in every scenario after she has given sound advice to her clients and they never listen Mrs. Winlos is never judgmental but always supportive, even after the stubbornness of her clients.

[@dadiakbenjamin6967]

Wonderful 🙏. This is why we should not assume anything yet. If the person hasn’t spoken it , then it doesn’t exist.

[@gigilove63]

Yessssss

[@answermusongela3733]

Well say Sir

[@lilliangabriel7560]

😢😢😢Actually am in such a relationship. Thank you winlos am going to define this relationship indeed before I end up like Amanda. May God bless you 🙏.

[@theWinlos]

🙏❤️❤️❤️

[@NagasalaRacheal]

Uhm am helped .....he pretends yet seconds days months years are passing

[@lydiashaanika3412]

Timely message, I would have gone this far , mine was a bit complicated but glory be to God, he used a man of God to direct me ... Truly I have learned a big lesson.

[@ikeagbeko9068]

This woman acts so well.... My God

[@ezinne_amaka]

"Oga, I want to see you privately." 😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@wodlthedaughteroftheking8062]

😂😂😂😂

[@chidinmaprecious7475]

Assumption is the lowest level of knowledge! May I not be MENTOR where I should be wife 😢 God bless you more Team!

[@gloryichado2532]

Don't waste ur emotions on assumptions........ Relationship is like contract, you must have agreement b4 u invest your emotions......Great talk there 👍👍

[@abikayministries8043]

I can perfectly relate to this skit I really cried my eyes out

[@joanaamoh6096]

Right in time for the Vals😍

[@onyinyeliveth4018]

"As my friend, I want you to help me mentor her"...are you playing sir?

[@oladunnijosephakin341]

Wow, I got something today Don't assume people has the same feeling you have for them, ask what their intentions are towards you. The lady thought the guy had the same feeling for her which is Wrong. Assumption is really bad and can cause harm. I pray that God will help us to avoid this

[@emeloguchibudoeric8557]

Absolutely 💯 correct, relationship are not planned on assumptions, but communication

[@Mirabel-jg7]

A perfect Valentine's day gift. God bless you Winlos ❤❤

[@Gospelart3906]

The guy is so romantic, he gave her handkerchief to clean her tears😂

[@adebisioluwasheun4145]

That's emotional damages

[@gigilove63]

Always listen to wise counsel

[@hikatekilehonwani4516]

He knew what he was doing 😆 🤣 😂 HE KNEW!!

[@sydneychukwukelu]

Innocent man

[@TheH42G]

Very important lesson to learn! Dont waste your emotions on assumptions!

[@preciouskalyopa9657]

We must learn to define relationships... especially in this era of "male bestie" and "female bestie"

[@angelwalden1567]

Hmm this bestie issue

[@G2daG]

I honestly don't too much believe in those because somebody will catch feelings

[@malaikacudjoemiledji1208]

Clean your tears😂😢... thank God for my spiritual father who taught me to do this though I didn't see the need for it, thank God I obeyed.... Thank you the Winlows for this ❤

[@matnat3844]

Me ounce I found my self in such friendship we both opened even the business together but Holy spirit gave me wisdom and confidence to ask that question and we ended in separation ..let me tell you this if a man has not yet tell you anything plz be careful

[@aarondasojourner]

Wow thanks family. For real it's heartbreaking to build a foundation on assumptions... A relationship without clear boundaries pierces the heart so much... From Ug

[@efeartz]

Thank you for this beautiful message. Please a video should be made on how to make this OPEN and HONEST conversation to avoid ASSUMPTIONS. Thanks.

[@Pretty.Dr.Vickee]

I can give an example, based on personal experience. I used to be really close🤞🏽 friends with a brother in Christ, who was also my classmate on campus. We often had midnight calls together, hung out a lot, were known to all our campus fellowship members as best of friends. Being a sanguine, he often made a lot of open fun about getting married to me and taking me to Botswana (where his parents resided) for our honeymoon. I was already fantasizing about this. The only thing was that I was older by 3 years. One day, I took him aside and asked him with all seriousness that, if I waited for him to be ready for marriage, would he really marry me? He paused and sincerely replied in the negative, with an equal sense of seriousness. That simple conversation defined our relationship for me. We remained as close and open as ever until after graduation, but never did we have to worry about where the relationship was headed, because we both knew it was definitely not marriage. In conclusion, I'd say once emotions are involved in a relationship, and the man has not clearly stated that he intends to marry the lady, the latter may have to take a bold step and ask for the relationship to be CLEARLY DEFINED (vice versa too, if it's the man that's getting emotional about the relationship). And if the other person fails to define the relationship, one should quietly end it, to avoid a broken heart in the future based on assumptions. Hope this helps.

[@lavertymusonda280]

And if the person doesn't ask but keep giving you green flags😂😂😂😂

[@efeartz]

@@lavertymusonda280 Exactly! Nobody would like to be in that kind of situation 😂

[@answermusongela3733]

Yes please 🙏🙏🙏🙏

[@deeturner6490]

Yes, communication is key!! Do not live off of assumptions!! Thank you @The Winlos ❤

[@maximillianfocus4107]

Both of us know that we are in love 😅 But this is very true, a lot have been brokenhearted because of this brotherhood and sisterhood thing and some have gone far even to he is my dady my what and slowly it drags them into feelings which carry no future and mark them as nonsense to those who wish to make pure move to them

[@ToliveisChrist8]

Thanks the Winlos for the Valentine special. Its good to define boundaries

[@ToliveisChrist8]

Before you invest emotions.........

[@wamboieverlynewanjiru240]

Situationship! 😁This reminds me of another video by the Winlos ; the girl kept collecting gifts from the guy but she didn't reciprocate and the scene that followed was hilarious 😂

[@paulegharevba2874]

Title please @thewinlos

[@wamboieverlynewanjiru240]

@@paulegharevba2874 "She always takes gifts from him until this happened." Can't get the link though.

[@wamboieverlynewanjiru240]

​@@paulegharevba2874 Try "She always takes gifts from him until this happened" can't get the link though

[@blessingmadondo6464]

I remember that too😅.Forgotten the title

[@G2daG]

I don't think this was a situationship. There was nothing complicated about it

[@mensahdeborah1055]

Woww this came at the right time. God bless the Winlos❤

[@joyperry8341]

“Whenever you define things you are not misguided. Relationship is like a contract. You must have a agreement before you invest your emotions.” 👏🏿👏🏿👏🏿

[@queenieokeke6036]

God bless you Winlos for another beautiful message. God bless you for answering the call of God. ❤❤❤

[@convinemukidanyi864]

That's painful. "Define the kind of ship first"

[@paulasalami1845]

Thanks for this video 😮😮😮. I believe I'm in a similar situation. The last two times I physically saw him,he acted indifferently and I was astounded. I was trying to figure out if he was the same person I chatted with almost every time..... but after seeing this video, I'm fully convinced that we are nothing more than good friends. It is high time I accept the reality of it all. I can't live my life doing fantasia😂😂😂 Thanks, the Winlos 👍

[@user-j8b6g]

The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: A good understanding have all they that do his commandments: His praise endureth for ever. Psalms 111 10

[@davidbenaye9750]

Agreement before investing emotions 😢

[@BroKamo]

"Clean your tears"😂

[@e_kay_dee]

The handkerchief, clean your tears😅😂

[@MrBlackBono]

0:26 😂😂😂 the kick in the air love feeling 😂😂😂

[@maatlag1326]

😂😂😂

[@sandraouattara5314]

Thank you for the life lesson, she is such a good actor!

[@b-beatsNaija]

Powerful story... Great lesson

[@josephbawa2691]

Define the type of 'ship' you find yourself in: Friendship or Relationship. Relationship is like a contract, you should have an agreement before you invest your emotions. Good lessons

[@MerichaRama]

There are many many Amanda outside oooh , abeg please GOD, help us 😅

[@ochukopaul6468]

When she said "oga, I want to see you privately" I knew it was overrrr😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@cyrilletetougueni9111]

We can laugh about it, but a lot of people today are in this kind of relationship where they are making illusions about supposing relationships That's why, as shared in the video, everything needs to be clarified very early on 😊 Thank you for this video 🙏

[@gloryichado2532]

........... Ask the right questions....... Thanks for this closing remarks. It goes a long way. May God bless you the Winlos and crew

[@aniefunasopuluchukwu7632]

Always be up front and direct, dont build on assumptions..Thank you Winlos

[@spiritmedia5422]

Please remember to like ooo Don't just watch, like the video also

[@BroKamo]

🔥🔥🔥The winlos ,what a gift

[@rosemaryifeyinwa7017]

Very profound advice. 📌💯💯🔥🔥🔥🔥 Thank you Winlos for always being a blessing!!! 👌💪👏👏👏

[@Oiza-bw6rh]

Communication solves a lot but assumption solves nothing. Thank you Mama and Papa for reminding us about this.

[@rizauwimana]

As a human, it makes sense to create boundaries to protect your well-being yet still love through the Holy Spirit to converse with your siblings in Christ. I thank God for His grace to understand something like this. Having open conversations to understand and act accordingly 🤗 As mentioned “Don’t waste your emotions on assumptions” 💕

[@DarrylVick]

Amanda should have taken her friend's advice. Joel didn't use her. She was all caught up in her emotions and couldn't be objective about her relationship with Joel. On the other hand, Joel probably shouldn't have sent Amanda emojis with hearts and kisses and saying that he loved her because ladies can easily take that the wrong way. They both should have had good communication with each other. That way no one would be hurt in the end. Never assume. Ask. Very good video!

[@1Corinthians2.2]

It would certainly make you think it was more than just loving you like a sister. It was a bad idea on his part. What else is a girl to assume?

[@DarrylVick]

@@1Corinthians2.2 That's why I said Joel shouldn't have sent those emojis and said what he said. He was wrong in that respect, but he didn't use Amanda. Again they both should have communicated their feelings and no assumptions.

[@natayarowe4428]

This is soooooo very true. Very wise advice for any age, any gender. Assumptions are🙏 dangerous.. Help us Lord

[@TheALIDA1986]

yes, somebody should say, "i love you and i want to marry you'', in 2007, while i was on attachment, i got involved with a guy, he was in IT department, we would kiss, and he would take me out to lunch, my first pizza was with him! hmk, learned later that he was married😂😂😂😂, and he was not shy about it, duh! well, you feel betrayed and unloved, communication is mandatory, lets not be casual people, lets address issues, i know the feeling when he is your guy and you imagine your life today, hahaha, an IT specialist kwano!

[@millymiriam73worshiper]

Thats Why i don't all bother ^Sister sweet talks 😌 i always meant business❤ Blessings Winlos❤ Men should avoid sweet talks to girls or ladies

[@2mammaR]

Oh my goodness, I remember being in a full-blown relationship with someone who was very kind, gentle, patient, and an overall amazing person. I really thought there was something there only later to find out that it was only me. So sad! But I’m glad that I moved on. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@OJONGEGBEMBUANOBA]

Thank you for this Skit. I wish these skits would be done reversing the roles from time to time. Please consider. Great grace.

[@danielowusu5721]

Am happy to be the first to watch this video. I will add to my cv😂

[@Ose37]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@shalom6673]

A great lesson indeed

[@estherdalo6001]

Beautiful message.

[@LeontineMbame]

Thank you so much the winlos for this impactful video, I have learned from it, may God almighty continue to bless you all 🙏

[@eseanna4015]

Amanda is dating herself. It was my real life experience

[@lusiashikongo6371]

😂Was it you or me? My own experience lasted for long, but glory to God, he himself brought me through. 😂😂

[@MsTBrown07]

Indeed! Communication is LEY! 🔑

[@MinetteNjoja]

I put it to you Joel you are very wicked 😂 Hahahaha 😂 thank you the Winlos. Define every relationship you are in to so you don't develop heart attack 😅

[@thefamousegonti]

I hear in my left ear, "Heartbreak" 😂😂😂😂

[@blessingessien9869]

The "clean your tears" got me laughing 😂😂😂

[@JoshuaRotimi]

Lol. What are friends for

[@olufunmi505]

Thanks for the reminder the Winlos

[@joymwenya2886]

I love you the winlos thank you for this lesson communication is an important key in a relationship God bless the winlos ❤️

[@joyadebisi9312]

This was so timely!!

[@immaculatewanja2416]

Ehem, I am informed, transformed and reformed my brain no moving in assumptions 😢. Three years is such a long time to waste like that 🙆. God help us as ladies to choose wisdom always

[@TerrenceMoyoG]

Oh my, oh my....this is very relatable and it happens all the time but it hits the assuming one like a tornado. The pain is like the pain of a blow from a coward.

[@john-howtohub]

Anything divine is defined 😊 Thank you

[@joymwenya2886]

I won't end up or make the same mistake like amanda after watching this 😂😂💙🙏🙌

[@atoneesther8321]

These things happen in real life. It had happened to me. Always make it clear from the beginning and ask the guy " what do you want from me?"

[@yemiiolagunju]

Thanks for this, the winlos

[@gracewambui5431]

This has happened to me... Kaaaii!!! I don't want to remember😂😂😂😂Miokukusheshe I feel you

[@Belindah2018]

Same happened to me 😂😂

[@gracewambui5431]

Let's all gather here and laugh at ourselves 😂😂😂😂... Building emotions on assumptions is the worst heartbreak you can ever give yourself. For Miokukusheshe is better that the guy brought the lady to introduce her... Mine was a slap on the face, I viewed WhatsApp status and there was the love of his life posted 😂😂😂😂😂😂... And God had warned me kaaaaiii!!!

[@lusiashikongo6371]

I am here to join the queue 😂😂😂 Same thing happened 😂😂

[@okiemuteabraham3892]

We many o😅 But I've vowed, Never Again!

[@mrfogrem6789]

Investigation before investment is important 📌. Thank you Winlos😇

[@Adventuresofherjournal]

The way you guys love us and spoil us with amazing content 😢😭. Please don’t stop 😢

[@okorochukwudi5173]

Is the "clean your tears" for me😂?

[@ReindolfOkaiSabi]

Oooh ok Oga! I want to see you privately 😂

[@SharonTembo-lo8gv]

This is very common in our churchs today. We are living in the 'bestie era'. Most women,fall prey to this type of undefined relationship, because we are taught, that we need to wait on the man to his mind speak first, even if we develop feelings for them, especially us Africans. We are taught to not ask for definitions,too early,as you might look desperate in the man's eyes. Thank you for, enlightening us on this topic, which has many good women caged,by manipulative men

[@ssalicollines9328]

" Clean your tears" 😂😂😂😂

[@angelamaramwidze1574]

Thank you very much the winlos for your videos..im really learning from them..keep up the good work you are doing..amen

[@victoradeoke7277]

Be clear and detailed on every friendship or relationship with the other sex. You might be hurting someone and you won’t even know😂 Don’t give wrong signals!!

[@chanelxrenee]

LOL she got me when her friend said THREE YEARS. LIKE WHAT.! 😂😂😂

[@harrietbanda4940]

This is true. I have learned something

[@VictoryOsasere-tn7qz]

Great message ☺️

[@pastorjoan1027]

Indeed pressumption is a very big enermy..it's good not to try it.

[@fataiteslim2613]

Clean your tears 😂 Thank you, Winlos ❤