They NEVER Want You to Have THIS After the Breakup! | Stephanie Lyn Coaching 2021

[@riseabove7233]

The narcissist doesn’t want to see you emotionally, mentally and physically healed. They have a deluded though patten and strongly believe they can trigger you for life. Once you have self awareness and learnt the art of not responding or reacting, the narcissist gets angry because they need your reaction. Your going to get better ❤️‍🩹 and stronger, good things will happen for you. Lazarus in the bible died and was buried in the tomb . Jesus showed up and he rose again. The narcissist has no power only evil demonic forces working behind them. Good will always conquer evil. Complete healing is your best revenge. I know the narcissist done a lot of bad things to hurt you intentionally but you can’t get even with evil. God helped me to overcome and I know he wants to support you. God feels you and loves you unconditionally. Remember you are precious and deserve better. God bless❤️

[@ellaleggett9628]

Thank you 🙏🏾 and God bless you too ❤️

[@jacksonwang5668]

I have been in a toxic relationship with my EX WIFE until i meet a seer who help me cast a love spell on my wife after the love spell my wife came back home started begging for forgiveness, you can also make your wife/husband change person today by trying it

[@jacksonwang5668]

I have been in a toxic relationship with my EX WIFE until i meet a seer who help me cast a love spell on my wife after the love spell my wife came back home started begging for forgiveness, you can also make your wife/husband change person today by trying it

[@cindyann4474]

🦋❤️🙏

[@NJT77]

Beautiful 😍

[@hissyfitz7890]

“It is the ULTIMATE COMPLIMENT to be discarded.” (By the narcissist.)

[@fberki]

Yes. They couldn't get what they wanted from you because you finally clocked on, so they then discard you.

[@sharonlatham7343]

Oh wow!! Thank for this revelation! I’ve just been discarded and this insight means so much to me❤

[@kiddytube3915]

Not only did she discard me, she paid me to discard me. Lol

[@milliehummer4713]

Discarded means freedom!

[@khalilhakimel6306]

Agreed

[@richyrich4672]

Living with a narcissist is a living hell. Breaking away from one is the best feeling you’ll ever get after living in that nightmare 😊

[@westleedrums]

Sort of like inmates escaping prison but instead, one who escapes a "mental" prison

[@amberleaf7]

🙌🏻✨✨💓

[@sherriBerri0910]

Amen!

[@celiamurray]

Maybe only after the divorce when there is no more control. Financial and otherwise. I am stuck in limbo 2 1/2 years already with NOTHING happening. No maintenance, no divorce, nothing.

[@kaymoonsamy6691]

Is there nothing we can do for financial support I am scared of my kids

[@gracesanity6314]

They detest healthy people who have firm selfhood, bounderious, who dont need others to be adults, who are disciplined in themselves. I am recovering and growing and maturing into all l admired in healthy people. My own approval, respect, staying with the intensity of my growth. I am so worth it. Amen

[@lisabrown9286]

The narcissist can NEVER let it be “over”. They always have to have the last word. Let them.

[@BCHODOSH01]

This video touched on an aspect of the narcissists illogical thinking and feeling process. They do not care about you, your well being or really you as a person. The only reason they have you in their life is to serve them. When you no longer do that they will attack you abusively with hurtful words and behavior. Once you get out of that hellish, toxic relationship you have the huge task of rebuilding yourself mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually. I have been rebuilding myself for the past 2 1/2 years after a four year relationship, and it hasn't been an easy journey, but slowly but surely i am regaining the person i was prior to this toxic relationship. Thanks Stephanie for talking about this topic, and all the great information you provide for us. Be well, and i look forward to next weeks video.

[@filsed]

I know how you feel Rob. Hang in there!

[@cynthiabush8481]

Thanks for the info

[@cathythomas8546]

I am in the same situation. I was in a 4-1/2 year relationship. Tried to get out more than a year. Finally out several months..Finally went No Contact.Im trying extremely hard to "understand" why . My Friends and Family have no idea how difficult its been and don't understand why I feel sooo broken. I want to wake up one morning and actually feel better.Im listening to videos.. Practicing self care..Throwing myself into family and work.Trying to understand and make sense of what happened. I dont think I will be able to trust again. Does it get better?? I hope so!

[@lilybellecepeda699]

Robert Chodosh Thank for sharing your experience. I dated a person that seemed to be the kindness Man I have ever met in my life. I was not ready for the horrible awakening I had. Two weeks after we met, he started throwing a tantrum so bad that I was in shock, just because I was five minutes late. I tried reasoning with him to no avail. So I decided to leave, but I didn't do it. His behaviors began to escalate to the point of throwing things around and hitting furniture with his fist. I broke up with him not knowing what I was dealing with. I began to watch these videos, and I learned that I was dealing with a narcissist boyfriend. I just cut off all contact with him. Thanks.

[@cathythomas8546]

@@BT-ok6fo Thank You So much Bunny!! Im so sorry you were in that type of situation so long. You have such a good attitude! You are an Inspiration for so many of us! Thank You for sharing..Good Luck and God Bless.

[@izawaniek2568]

The narcisistic people do not want others to be happy and enjoy life as if it was something that is being taken away from them. How sad … the best thing is to stay away from them.

[@peterbahi0227]

Block button has become my BFF 🤗🍻

[@thomasgrabowski2202]

what do you mean? I'm confused.

[@traceybiles2061]

They don't mind being happy with new supplies ..but wqnt you to wait for breadcrumbs and lies..Block walk away being alone is better than being in a Bermuda triangulation reltionship..With an emotionally unstable toddler..

[@valariepercy2849]

I am more than seven years out of a relationship with a narcissist who was very toxic and abusive. It does take time to heal but you will get there! Unless others understand narcissism, they will not understand what you've gone through and how it tears you down. Stephanie is right. They cannot stand for you to move on, be happy, or be a better version of you that does nothing to serve their purpose or their insatiable need for validation at your expense. They cannot stand for you to not need them and they cannot stand to see you prioritize yourself and your wellness because it means they are no longer the center of the universe.

[@2wheelsarefun73]

So honest question, if you are more than 7 years out why are you still watching videos about abuse?

[@2wheelsarefun73]

Do you miss the roller coaster in some way?

[@elizabethbowie9753]

You mean, "THEIR," universe !!! 💗

[@lsmith7155]

@@2wheelsarefun73 You don’t fully understand the power of a narcissist and what the fallout leaves behind.

[@candywilkins386]

Wake up people!!! If they disrespect you you are done!!! SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK!!!😜😜😜 Iwas married for 31 years to someone that was jealous of me! They hate ur guts and they cant stand it!!! When we know better we do better! Thank you Jesus for saving my life!!!

[@realliving7340]

Amen.

[@Eagle-lm7gp]

Amen

[@milliehummer4713]

Me too. Jesus saved me after 30 years of abuse!

[@christopherbrubaker2070]

Oh yes! Without Jesus I wouldn’t have survived a narcissistic abuser. Jesus lives.

[@izawaniek2568]

What kind of monsters are those narcisistic people. They do not want to see you healthy or happy… it sounds surreal but it really is the case. Gross. They are to be avoided by all means.

[@recoverywithlee2591]

For those of us with the good fortune to have moved on, we need to co tinue with the focus being on ourselves, such as grieving oursleves by accepting there are things we cannot change, and there are many good destinations ahead.

[@queendivine3044]

❤️ so beautiful said ❤️

[@E7L1L3s]

I never heard of "narcicist" until 50 yrs after first marrying! So when I remarried, I went from dying pan into the fire! Fortunately, his mother threatened to disinherit him if he didn't divorce me. That experience was life threatening in 2 vehicular accident setups. We were abandoned @ the train station going to a family wedding in another Province. We returned home to an emptied house! I then learned to know a deeper level of God's love/daily guidance relationship than I had ever known could exist on earth! Isaiah 54 became a basis to a Victorious Life with family, friends & God! Now 81, taken for 60 with a journey of God's miracles & blessings! Philippians 4! REJOICING!

[@pamelakelley5535]

Once I started ignoring him it was unbelievable how he raged at me and told me I needed to admit I was angry. It was priceless the mask totally fell off allowing me to see the true monster! I was able to discard him completely.

[@andrewbeffa7467]

Hello

[@peacefaith560]

yesss total rage, he took that mask off "satan's child" !!

[@DanielRD-91]

@@peacefaith560 My ex actually used that kind of wording in an argument before... "you're acting like I'm the devil's child..." Freaky! Because she totally turned out to be exactly that! They literally tell on themselves, you've just gotta listen and observe as much as you can!

[@komododragon4242]

17 years 7 kids with a covert narcissist. Exposed her 2 years ago and everything went down hill. Got served papers 2 weeks ago. On my path to getting healthy.

[@BAYKING_316]

I know you're on the up. Keep moving forward ❤

[@dollsfordays3894]

❤

[@Kelly55216]

You rock

[@TrustintheLord860]

When you day “exposed”… what happened?

[@komododragon4242]

@@TrustintheLord860 she went silent and started emptying the bank accounts. She also maxed out her credit cards. The smear campaign started and my kids were first on her list of converts.

[@tammydunnettleadership]

Yes - a healthy person will see the dysfunction with greater clarity and with that, they can manage how they interact to achieve the peace that they want!

[@andrewbeffa7467]

Hi Tammy

[@tammydunnettleadership]

@@andrewbeffa7467 Hi Andrew!

[@andrewbeffa7467]

@@tammydunnettleadership how are you doing where are you from

[@tammydunnettleadership]

@@andrewbeffa7467 I am enjoying a beautiful long weekend in Alberta Canada. how about you?

[@andrewbeffa7467]

@@tammydunnettleadership live in new Jersey USA would like to be a friend if you don't mind

[@KJT1567]

If the levels of commitment, intimacy, trust, amd respect is not vibin with your energy, its time to Diddy bop. No love lost. Just loving me more.

[@aa.1151]

Dear Kimberly... i don't think that this is a very good idea, maybe for u, but for those people? I mean, why should anybody make any effort if they know that, if something does not suit to you - you will walk. You have every right to do that, but in this case, so have they.

[@ambercraig2421]

This is exactly what I needed to hear. I broke up with an NPD in Jan and it was the most difficult breakup. I already carried the hardship of abandonment by my parents. I worked through that for years through therapy and education. So when I started getting devalued I saw the shift and it hurt like hell and I knew there was a change in her and wouldn’t speak about it. Her favorite thing to do was start a fight for supply, upset me and then stonewall me. This hurt even more and I wasn’t going to tolerate it because I didn’t deserve it. I deserved better. I have self love, self confidence and know my worth. I had never been disgarded by a narcissist. Thrown away like trash after you have treated her like a queen everyday. My soul broke and that abandonment was triggered. I’ve beens through a few breakups and this one by far was the hardest. It hurt to the depths of my soul that my world, my person, my best friend, my everything had literally switched and shut down completely. I watched her completely change into someone I didn’t want to know. I was destroyed that she had been a totally different person that I fell in love with and she’s perfect at lovebombing. She got me. Then she discarded me a year and a half later. My ego took a mad hit and I was completely lost at how and why she changed so drastically. I came across NPD searching for answers. EVERY SINGLE CHECK MARK. It all made sense and I saw her for who she was. She had become someone I didn’t want to know because she was disfunctional and become toxic. I realized I was a supply. Well I now understand all of it and I’m healing and moving on. She gets no more positive supply or any supply from me. It took me months of working on myself and getting off the hampster wheel. I’m happy, I’m healthy and have moved on and permantely disconnected. Thank you for this video and all of your videos. You’ve helped me heal and process everything and I couldn’t thank you enough. I’m finally free and I feel so amazing. THANK YOU STEPHANIE. Gratitude. Love and light.

[@firatbaran8634]

Oh man, I've read your comment and felt compassion for you. I went almost through the same thing. It's been a year and 5 months after the break-up (or should I call it "break-free"), and the thing I struggle still is the anger I feel when there are flashbacks coming. We talk a lot about male NPDs, but I think there are as many female NPDs as male ones and females I think are much more dangerous. Psychological violence! I've moved on too, thank god 🙏 Be strong and never let her come back !

[@lisavansant961]

I'm very happy to hear your story it's good news I like it...

[@not2longnow]

Felt this 🎯

[@alanpeterson4280]

Brother I feel your pain . I had the most amazing relationship for 14 years this woman was pure extasy and she treated me like a king I walked around in a daze so love struck . Then one day it changed she started talking about other men I was like if your going to be with me I don't want to here it well she branded me on spot as a jeslouse fool . I had never accused her and wanted her to go places she would go shopping or wherever she would call me tell where she was and when she would be home . The crazy thing about it she was so beautiful I should have been jeslouse but the way she loved me I was secure and confident . We would go to get grocies and men would be breaking there neck stareing at her she never noticed it till I pointed it out we would laugh about it . Well about 2 years ago my hips started going bad from hill running I was addicted to working out she all the sudden because I needed hip replacement surgery this was happing during covid I was in some ways afraid to have surgery she advised me not 2 and never done one thing to help me well I figured out she was seeing someone she would get angry and turn it on me my heart was broke and I was a wreck mentally but I could not give her up . I had went from a happy positive person to setting in bed all day crying I could not quit I just could not believe this perfect woman was now evil . Once I saw heaven in her eyes now it's the devil and as long as she knows I'm in pain she is happy now I'm trying to pull myself out of this aweful place and when she sees me doing better she want talk to me I've got to get help don't see any other way out this narriccest hell it sure has took the life out of me I will say this a normal person if they find someone else they show have the guts to tell you face to face especially after 16 years if they can't do that you don't need them period.

[@katinawhite4208]

When I tell you this video is on time. My Ex recently reach out to me apologizing what he did to me 10 years ago. I thought I was healed from that relationship until I open that door to talk to him again. I started to feel drained and triggered all over again. I thank God for his mercy because it could’ve went another way. God allow him to ghost me and I was hurt but I know it was something that was good for me. I will continue to work on myself and be healed so I won’t allow this to happen again.

[@prockfisherman8661]

Hello been absent for a little bit. Ive followed your videos from the time i figured out the woman i married was toxic to the point of evil. Its been quite the journey. Going on 4 years since i went no contact and filed for divorce. Your videos have been instrumental in me being able to get through what i consider to be the darkest days of my entire life. Ty for sharing your wisdom with us. Probably would not have the life i have now. Its not perfect but its so much better than it used to be.😁

[@nyokabikinya3246]

Good for you Phillip. Glad you are here. Love and light!

[@jacksonwang5668]

I have been in a toxic relationship with my EX WIFE until i meet a seer who help me cast a love spell on my wife after the love spell my wife came back home started begging for forgiveness, you can also make your wife/husband change person today by trying it

[@jacksonwang5668]

I have been in a toxic relationship with my EX WIFE until i meet a seer who help me cast a love spell on my wife after the love spell my wife came back home started begging for forgiveness, you can also make your wife/husband change person today by trying it

[@MrWayne760]

She really doing great job. If get the chance I would like to meet her. 🤗

[@heiscapable8559]

He is the best when it comes to recovery relationship

[@sabrinasumpter7513]

I love that you mention in your videos that being discarded is the biggest compliment and you explain reasons why. This point has been one of the top helpful tips that resonates with me and helps me get my brain in the right mindset.

[@swansong7754]

My ex of over 4 years definitely had narcissistic traits. At the beginning, I thought he was too good to be true. Then the toxic behavior started and I wondered what happened. I dealt with it for too long, and when I called him out too much on his behavior (hoping he's realize it and change), he broke up with me instead of wanting to work on and improve himself. He was in his 50's and said he never had a relationship longer than a few years before me. Now I know why!

[@kathiejl1]

Oh my gosh! Exactly the same here. 😮

[@Shanti1777]

Sadly I had the same experience. Almost, I kicked him out since I realized anger issues and disrespectful behavior. Bye bye!

[@dwaynemcinnes5914]

Same

[@secheclare]

You're my twin! Going through this right now. Have gone no contact 30+ days. I had to break off 2 engagements and he cheated on me and told me about it. Seven years total- 3 good and 4 shitty ones so I kicked him out. Doing much better and my pity parties are getting few and far between them. Things are looking up👍

[@izzydeadyet7336]

Same! Mine was 53 and I was 35 when we met, he was living with his mother, and said hed never had a relationship longer than 3 years, and a trail of angry exs! 4 kids with 4 women! But, in the beggining of course I believed his excuses and he seemed legit ... 4 years later I just threw him out, he enriched himself living off me and I'm in debt now.. hes telling everyone I'm a junkie and I caused all the debt! Told everyone he bought me and my kids a house, that doesn't exist, and now I'm leaving.. Spent 2 weeks after I threw him out harassing me and my mother and asking to take him back!! As if !!!

[@mariachijazmin3970]

I don't wish him harm. On the contrary I told him take care when I saw him at my doctor's appointment. It was him that kept talking me not me. He apologized to me for cussing at me and I just stayed calm and didn't jump into his arms like he expected. I told him take care and walked away.

[@caralynschwartz4442]

🙏🙏🙏

[@jimmymatt6228]

3:50--"I don't need your little bits of remnants or whatever your idea of a relationship is anymore." Getting breadcrumbed was getting sickening and I'm not a super needy person or anything. Eventually I just quietly left that without even give them the satisfaction of doing to tell off or even announcing I was going. I just went ghost on them and caller-blocked their phone number. (And no longer do I answer the door if they show up unannounced anymore)

[@fringbabyross4718]

I can tell that my ex narc (sons mother) can tell I’ve healed. I don’t react to her whatsoever. She looks like a deer in the headlights when I just remain calm when she does all that word salad, gaslighting, and projection.

[@MD-yp7im]

So on point! This gives a lot of clarity about my situation. My happiness is a threat to my narcissist and he quickly aims to shut it down. I’m not at the point where I feel completely non reactive but I love becoming more self aware and looking forward to the different stages in my healing process. Great insight as always Stephanie 🙏🏽💛

[@victoriak.2707]

Great video, i particularly liked 3:40 talking about the void. That’s how narcissist get rooted into your soul, they interview you and make notes of what your void fears are then pretending to be the solution. Instead of resolving that void you rely on them, that’s the danger and that’s how they affect you so bad later on.

[@DanielRD-91]

A key thing to learn as well, is that a narcissist uses what you tell them about yourself, against you in the discard stage. My partner previous to her had a miscarriage and my narcissist ex suddenly sprung on me, months after brutally discarding me, that she had sadly had a miscarriage as well... knowing that it would hurt me. I didn't realise what was happening at the time, but I see now that she literally used my past against me to hurt me and bring me back down, when she learned that I was doing fine without her. Sick sick people.

[@mariachijazmin3970]

I was discarded after 14 years. I was starting to cut it off because I couldn't take his abuse but I stills couldn't see the whole truth. I never saw it as a compliment. Thank you for saying this! That statement is empowering. Sadly I couldn't let him go and begged for 7 months. But thank God!!!! I finally said enough and a sweet good man from my past came in...and I have moved. Now he keeps contacting me. I don't react to his crazy self anymore.

[@latoyiairvin4352]

Sis, the gems you drop in these videos are priceless! I'm still on my healing journey and yes it's been tough but the peace I have is amazing. You're videos are so necessary and helpful to those victimized by these evil human beings. Thank you ❤️

[@jacksonwang5668]

I have been in a toxic relationship with my EX WIFE until i meet a seer who help me cast a love spell on my wife after the love spell my wife came back home started begging for forgiveness, you can also make your wife/husband change person today by trying it

[@irisgardener4141]

Oh boy am I finding this to be true this week! I'm moving on, working on myself, trying to become the fun loving big personality I used to be before I was abused to the point of self harm because he would shout at me for no reason so I turned on myself as well. It went on for a couple of years. Now that I'm working on my fitness again, wearing make up, looking for a job, moving away, he's gone berserk and is thrashing out saying and doing absolutely anything to get some kind of reaction. It's actually scary.

[@Trinichick]

Been in a 14yr relationship with a physically, financially, emotionally abusive narcissist and I have realized that now during the past 2yrs with no family support . I am in the process of making myself slowly independent to leave for good and cut him off. Because my mental health is important to me.

[@realliving7340]

You got this. It's all going to be worth it. I planned for a year with a domestic abuse counselor and have been gone for 8 months. It's not easy but sooooo much better!!! Much love to you & see you on the other side❤

[@brendarodriguez6693]

Toxic/narcissist only look for immediate gratification, marriage and have family become accessories to them, thank you for this video I’m in this process of getting my life back after 19 years of being married to a toxic man, I am fed up with and ready to move on, feeling positive 🙌🏼

[@charlotteclark6061]

... Wonderful! Asap exit is best! Good luck!

[@amymalina5073]

The one thing that was said here that I think can be a slippery slope is the issue of: I am not the problem, you are! I am right and you are wrong, I am okay and you are not. I have a problem with this kind of thinking because it can easily lead to feeling like you were victimized instead of fully trying to understand the things within yourself that drew you in and kept you in such an unhealthy situation for you to engage in. And chances are, this is not the only relationship in your life like this. Until you understand what brought you there I think it is easy to keep repeating the same misguided thinking, coming from ourselves.

[@peterknyk1942]

They certainly don't want you to have your fair share of marital property and money etc.! I've been trying to get a fair settlement with the narcissist and I continue to run up against brick walls! This is another symptom of "parsimonious narcissism". Thanks Stephanie for the video! 💞🙏🕊

[@riseabove7233]

The narcissist will never play fair, it’s all about control. The narcissist will paint a picture of abuse behind the scenes. I highly recommend if you Ex wife lawyer is a female get a male lawyer. Keep your distance and try not to respond or react to mind games or manipulation. Be careful of mutual friends, some are flying monkeys 🐒. Prayers do help, read Psalm 35 daily. I pray in Jesus name the delay be broken over your case. May you rightfully receive what belongs to you and more.

[@jacksonwang5668]

I have been in a toxic relationship with my EX WIFE until i meet a seer who help me cast a love spell on my wife after the love spell my wife came back home started begging for forgiveness, you can also make your wife/husband change person today by trying it

[@jacksonwang5668]

I have been in a toxic relationship with my EX WIFE until i meet a seer who help me cast a love spell on my wife after the love spell my wife came back home started begging for forgiveness, you can also make your wife/husband change person today by trying it

[@peterknyk1942]

@@jacksonwang5668 thank you! I am very pleased that this worked out for you but I have no interest in wanting or taking my narcissistic wife back ever ever ever again! She has done harmful things and will eventually need to acknowledge everything she's done...she will have Karma to tend....

[@peterknyk1942]

@@riseabove7233 thank you so very much! That Psalm so beautiful! Thank you for the wonderful and well received advice! The most difficult part of all of this is not being able to believe that God is there throughout all of this and God will make sure that everything is OK! Reading this psalm tonight gave me insight and hope.... bless you! Thank you for the prayer! 💞🙏💞

[@jessicasolano2727]

Makes sense. Im still in the healing process of being discarded this video is great!.

[@fatumajamaa6136]

This people act God, but they ain't any shit😂. Take your power back by healing, And leave that piece of shit where it belongs.

[@radicalexplorer3665]

Why Narcissistic relationship are so different? Why do we love to chase these relationships? It's so addicting... sexually mentally emotionally. I've never felt like this before.

[@jennifercoolidgeislife6760]

Like Stephanie says - because we’re lacking, usually from childhood. I wish you healing and happiness 💜

[@fishstickbio594]

No, we do not chase the narcs ……they targeted us purposely by the only fact they had tons of stuff to gain from us ……they have legal and illegal substance abuse addictions / porn/ sex addictions , alcohol addiction, ….food addiction ….this is the part they kept secret …..ultimately they want POWER and CONTROL over anything and anyone . They studied MIND CONTROL techniques and applied it since they were teenagers …..

[@annikaaleyah7916]

@@fishstickbio594 wow you explained by ex perfectly

[@thereallisa1]

Because of the love bomb and devalue. It creates a trauma bond as addictive as heroin.

[@yvettebrownstone1100]

Cognitive Dissonance

[@madihakhanyousufzai5563]

you're absolutely right; when I stopped reacting and caring about the abuse, he came and created problems

[@derty_souf]

I like how you say it's a compliment to be discarded.

[@nancyhinding4968]

I’m so glad I got myself away. It’s been a year and a half. He did try to come back when the new supply wasn’t working out this past February. Nah, I respect myself. He went back to his supply. Feel bad for her

[@KJT1567]

I freaking love your videos. I'm over beaming AND laughing at how spot on you are. Your formal registry about Narcs is astute and intuitive! I love that...."The Ultimate Compliment is Being Discarded." Lolololol....So true! I've been resting and recovering in terms of self love and self awareness. I prefer to he around people more intelligent than me. Lifelong learner, avid enthusiast, and practical risk taker. However, its taking time. I'm so happy I trusted my gut and heart. Thank you God I dodged the bullet. This guy no longer a part of my life. ❤❤❤

[@trudymccormack8441]

Wow...Thank you, Stephanie. *tears* Newly detached and still have a way to go, but feeling like I just turned a major corner of understanding. I appreciate you! 🙏🏽

[@jennieledesma2601]

Great video I like the part especially where you say they don't want you to be happy that's exactly right-it's just so sad that they're just so empty-thank you for your videos

[@jimmycash3171]

Sometimes when I'm watching your videos it fills like you know everything I've been in . I've learnt alot since I started following you in the past 2 years and I've become a better person not reacting to my ex which I have kid with. What I've noticed is , if you don't react it makes them mad

[@chilloften]

It’s crazy, absolutely. Sick-ness.

[@thomasgrabowski2202]

@@chilloften my ex drove me nuts lol. But for different reasons. :P

[@cs.8821]

Because these people are wired from past trauma from childhood. The parent or caretaker was most likely narcissist and abandoned the toddler when the toddler needed the love and support for the baby to feel a secure attachment with mom. This cause a lack ability of learning empathy

[@skyylea9859]

I had to heal a lot of trauma and looking back . I’m like I must of been going through a lot to take that . Thank God for healing and grace . You are such a godsend

[@jsensefi]

True❤️

[@yvonnes7412]

They like to see you succeed if they can take credit. Never tell them any of your successes. It will just make you mad because they will say how your success is because of them (like they taught you to be better or “supported” you, etc)… Like I pointed out how I learned how not to react to him when he was screaming, swearing, and insulting me… he took that as an ego boost “see? You learned something. That’s good!” (In a condescending tone like he had taught me a lesson 🤦‍♀️smh)

[@tabithamoore-4463]

What a great video. I never looked at it this way. Narcissists are the worst. I'm healing and loving myself. I'm free 🙌🏾🙏🏾❤️‍🩹

[@wannabeglam2417]

After 10 years of a lot of back and forth, I’m emotionally drained to the point that I’m so used to living like this. As if it’s norm. Working one day at a time to once in for all, leave and never look back

[@mariafihn6874]

When it's effecting my kids and they're older it's definitely more than time for freedom! I don't want children who hated their childhood!

[@lizzymartins6188]

A narcissist once called me up and told me to stop having suicidal thoughts. He showed some empathy but is definitely a narcissist.

[@levelup4fr33DaYOnE]

All your videos are inspirational. Married to my best friend for 14 years and didn’t realized that she is a NARCISSIST

[@Alexandraa.18]

Stephanie I really wanted to say thank you!!! I was in my 3y old relationship and I didn't know what was wrong, I always blamed me for every bad thing that hapened and I was so confused, until I find one of your videos about codependency in wich you said something about narcissist partners. This is how I find out that I am codependent and he is a narcissist. Wow. It was mindblowing. Video after video I started to believe that, and I finally got my final reason to leave him- he will never change. Thank you so much! I broke up with him 2 months ago. Now I watch your codependency videos to get over it and live my life! Thank you!!!!!

[@leahsandow9300]

I'm blinded by the many light bulbs that just went off!!! THANK YOU 😊

[@evakaszycki]

My ex husband is on the spectrum and has all of the traits. It took 12 years for me to have the awakening. He is a huge yoga influencer as well which has been hard to see so many people follow someone that isn’t alchemised. I think the gift is focusing on your own healing and having awareness of their actions. Thank you for this content. I needed this as we have 3 years and I’m preparing for a future relationship.

[@coolgamers9201]

I agree with your point in reference to friends of a Narcissist (they acquire pleasure in seeing others fail or suffer) , although in a relationship, its not usually the case. They ultimately are seeking happiness but aren‘t successful in doing so, therefore they tend to blame their partner for their suffering. Bringing them down with them (wishing they were as miserable as they are). Being the victim & drawing from past events which may have occurred years ago, which they felt were the reason for their depression or suffering.

[@lizmagee4016]

When my narc husband finallyrealised he could not control me and all the usual techniques were not working, he looked me straight in the face and said You're not enough for me any more, I felt strong.

[@siobhanjenneker]

Your videos are ✨chef’s kiss ✨ I’m watching them one by one and they all hit so close to home. Thank you

[@FH33669]

Finally I realised that I was in the toxic relationship and got out of it. Thank you for Stephanie, I've learnt so much from this channel. I think my ex is not realising what he was doing / toxic to me. Most of narcissistic people don't know they are narcissist /narcissistic? I'm still on my healing journey.still cry when I think about his lie, cheating.

[@7natalieantonio]

I’m so glad I got to hear this .. I needed to hear it

[@LisaSmith-yb2uz]

Exactly what i was just saying to myself! 🙌😊💗

[@jacksonwang5668]

I have been in a toxic relationship with my EX WIFE until i meet a seer who help me cast a love spell on my wife after the love spell my wife came back home started begging for forgiveness, you can also make your wife/husband change person today by trying it

[@heiscapable8559]

[phone]⏯️⏯️⏯️

[@heiscapable8559]

[phone]⏯️⏯️⏯️

[@heiscapable8559]

M e s s a g e h I m n o w V i a W h a t s A p p

[@danielskyles6184]

Good video Stephanie. When you have been mentally abused for so long you actually get used to be treated like crap. Ty for what you do. 🙂

[@jacksonwang5668]

I have been in a toxic relationship with my EX WIFE until i meet a seer who help me cast a love spell on my wife after the love spell my wife came back home started begging for forgiveness, you can also make your wife/husband change person today by trying it

[@danielskyles6184]

I am good without the seer

[@mustafas.8759]

I am a living proof of everything you just presented in this life saving video clip. Thank you and God bless you

[@taiyaajewel]

I love watching your videos, been watching for the past year after I discovered narcissism. Thank you for sharing your knowledge that has helped me grow and inspire me into a high valued women.

[@amymalina5073]

It’s amazing how you can speak so eloquently with such great insight and wisdom while it also appears to be speaking without a script at all. And fumbles in speech or you knows, or all the usual speech issues. Very impressive

[@craigmerkey8518]

Thank you for all the excellent information! What I learned from the hollow shell is they will forever project, act unsatisfied, dysregulated, yet continue to be unable to take responsibility for it! No thank you!

[@MarkThomas-n5y]

Thank you for making sense in your videos and it gives me better realisation of what I was doing in a bad relationship

[@michaelwalker2232]

Hi Stephanie, I'd like to say thank you from the bottom of my heart, your podcasts has truly helped me in the most difficult moments. Being beautiful and courageous is it's own inspiration to many that view in. I'll keep you dear to my heart and will continue to pray for your family. God bless

[@jacksonwang5668]

I have been in a toxic relationship with my EX WIFE until i meet a seer who help me cast a love spell on my wife after the love spell my wife came back home started begging for forgiveness, you can also make your wife/husband change person today by trying it

[@tammydunnettleadership]

I did not know she had a podcast ... will have to look for it

[@johnmarshal8504]

@@jacksonwang5668 ...I suspect that u are LYING!...How much is the so-called seer paying for this?...When will u turn to God & experience the real life thru His Son?...Shalom.

[@hollysusan3144]

About wishing the ex narc well and future happiness: my prayers in regard to them are that they stop hurting people. I'm no contact. Haven't given their futures more thought than that because they move on quickly anyway

[@christianpulisic7784]

Holly Susan,You are beautiful 🌹🌹🌷 dear

[@rojelquiocson4070]

@Holly, Yes they discard us like we are nothing to them and immediately move on already with someone else as their new source and supply to continue with their narcissistic behavior and life, such a vile people!

[@aa.1151]

True, same to me - it's better to stay neutral than to wish something fake.

[@fringbabyross4718]

I get that it’s a compliment to be discarded but three years ago when she was devaluing me, replaced me, then threw me away like garbage…it felt more like being put into a meat grinder lol. I get it now though.

[@kigzman1745]

Dude! Tell me bout it!

[@thomasgrabowski2202]

I feel that 100%.............

[@BellaGrace622]

WOW!! You are nailing it 💯💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@Jacks_here]

I haven’t seen the narcissist that I finally was able to get rid of for nearly three years now. It’s been a long journey that started about ten years ago. The narcissist is still skirting around my life as he became friends with some people I know but I have stopped seeing him now. There have been long silences in between but he checks in on me every once in a while and try and get in. All his actions are so transparent and I have finally stopped reacting and stopped giving him anything to work on. He recently got in touch with me as he wanted to check if he had seen me somewhere in passing which I confirmed it could’ve not been me. I don’t believe he saw my lookalike but wanted to get facts. Of course he then started gently asking me what is happening in my life etc. I lied to him and told him that everything is similar and nothing really happening. He lost interest quickly but I gave him a final thought to feel pleased about which is that I told him that we haven’t seen for nearly three years and he seemed surprised about it and wondered why. I know he liked the fact I was stating how long it’s been and he was reassured I am thinking of him and counting time. I gave him nothing essentially. I still haven’t found a way to stop communicating fully which is harder as he is still ‘friends’ with some of the people I know that he originally knows through me.

[@carolinejoseph4068]

Omg that's what im dealing with right now thank you so much for this opportunity on changing my life your awesome amazing person for letting people like us to understand our problems better

[@laraleecoe]

I love this perspective! This will be replayed whenever I'm doubting myself

[@fredbush2593]

Thank You This is why my Narcissist Ex Wife of 30 years ago that divorced contacted me “I want my husband back “She even became Plant based and Vegan 🌱 but asked her would she be interested in going to counseling she said No.This people are treacherous picking at sores they enjoy picking at Emotional scabs 1.Emotional Health 2.Spiritual Maturity 3.Discernment..,,Block and Delete Rinse and Repeat 🔁

[@Emma_Beme]

Yes that is so true it’s the best compliment when they discard you bc you become so smart to see right through them

[@iys6890]

They lie so much...any word that comes out of their mouth, I will not believe unfortunately....

[@kelskitchenpresents]

Hallelujah for finally getting “off the hamster wheel” !! 🥳🥳

[@danielledegeorge2129]

Thank you Stephanie!!! Lightbulbs just went off and I suddenly have more insight than I ever did before! I feel a tad bit better already

[@DanielRD-91]

I agree. These videos help untold amounts. I think we always end up learning more when we're out of the situation itself, but this extra wisdom and guidance is definitely needed to help us further on our journeys of healing and happiness and to learn even more, so that we have less of a chance of falling for another narcissist in the future! I hope you're doing better. Take care!

[@teresagomez2109]

Thank you for explaining this. It took me 11 years to finally end the relationship.🙏🌈

[@chelsea789]

I find that 3 months out of a 13 year relationship with a covert narcissist, I find myself needing attention from anyone who will give it. That’s not the real me but I think he trained me to crave it. 👀

[@barbarawaddell-steele3603]

Thank you for this video. It has been a reckoning for me to learn about narcissistism.

[@ladyl4931]

Very positive once again, thank you Stephanie. You have such a healthy upbuilding attitude to coaching, I listen to all your releases. We need more positive healthy mental guidance like yours, to guide us forward in a healthy way. Love your clothing line too, bought a few pieces already!!

[@jacksonwang5668]

I have been in a toxic relationship with my EX WIFE until i meet a seer who help me cast a love spell on my wife after the love spell my wife came back home started begging for forgiveness, you can also make your wife/husband change person today by trying it

[@tammydunnettleadership]

I agree!

[@cathythomas8546]

Definitely!!!

[@heiscapable8559]

He is the best when it comes to recovery relationship

[@heiscapable8559]

M e s s a g e h I m n o w V i a W h a t s A p p..⏯️

[@dragonmom495]

When I am happy and doing my thing, that is when the ex sends demanding emails about the kids. Without fail.

[@alfredmiles6638]

When they see you happy with someone else it makes them squirm. They have such low self esteem seeing you laughing and someone else making you more happy cuts them to the bone. They want you miserable without them but little do they know you are free and happier without them in the long run.

[@pwilliams4073]

Stephanie Lyn , Thank You so much I hope to take a course bundle in the future . I was finding answers and now I have found your YT channel . Answers found .

[@StephanieLynCoaching]

Yay!!

[@teysiewpeng3884]

Exactly! My mother, who is a narc, actually scolded me for having successfully retired as a teacher! So unimaginable getting scolded and shouted at for being successful! She was raging madly as if I had done something wrong, and if not for your video and other videos on these evil beings, l would have gone bonkers thinking what did l do wrong! I have not talked to mum for a year and a half now ever since that episode, really couldn't take her nonsense, tqvm for your video.

[@cathmorgan6359]

As a 15 year old I dared to get an A+ for a school assignment, my mum has never shouted at me so much, never dared to do that again(!)

[@fedupwithyourstuff]

@@cathmorgan6359 Get as successful as you practically can, when time comes, run as far from her as you can. Be happy!

[@klynn549]

I love how your video popped up at the right time! Like mins!

[@jacksonwang5668]

I have been in a toxic relationship with my EX WIFE until i meet a seer who help me cast a love spell on my wife after the love spell my wife came back home started begging for forgiveness, you can also make your wife/husband change person today by trying it

[@caralynschwartz4442]

Same🙏🔥🕉💚🌱

[@heiscapable8559]

[phone]⏯️⏯️⏯️

[@heiscapable8559]

[phone]⏯️⏯️⏯️

[@heiscapable8559]

M e s s a g e h I m n o w V i a W h a t s A p p

[@lana-townie808]

You nailed it, they dont really "mean" it... I felt like I was in a 2 year relationship with an actor playing a role, I never actually met the person.

[@cindymcdonnell2119]

The ultimate Complement is being discarded ! ❤. Love this 🎉 and so so true !

[@godzillamanstreb524]

This is exactly what I’ve been through for 4 decades w/npd sister…..it’s disgusting….everytime anything good happens to me she gets even meaner than she already is

[@ekaterinadimitrova2287]

Thank you Stephanie! Your videos have been a massive help! After watching your videos, I’ve massively improved. I had a very toxic relationship, I came from a place of low self-esteem and no boundaries, and now I’ve detoxed myself from the ex, no contact for 2 months. He texted me (he was bored and lonely 100%) and I ignored! I wouldn’t be able to do it without the education I had.

[@Vilmarie_Sanchez_90]

So what I’m getting from this video is that a healthy person won’t feel the need for resentment or want to see the narcissist do bad? So I definitely need a lot of work because I don’t want to see him do better because he treated me like poop and it’s not fair to see him do well.

[@mr.invisible3770]

I see some aspects of narcissism in myself. But I know I am not. I have more work to do on myself. More than anything I am done with unhealthy relationships. In my experience the narcissistic person who broke up with me always finds a new unhealthy relationship and it confuses me because I always spend at least 1 year alone to work on myself before meeting someone new.

[@spacequeenruby]

I was raised by a narcissistic father, so I think I can have some traits. The good thing is to be aware, to not feed into it, to know how not to treat a person ☯️

[@OneWhoKnowz]

Yes 🙌 u aren’t a Narc. Narcs can’t be alone! U might be codependent with narc fleas that’s the bs u pick up from them!

[@jacksonwang5668]

I have been in a toxic relationship with my EX WIFE until i meet a seer who help me cast a love spell on my wife after the love spell my wife came back home started begging for forgiveness, you can also make your wife/husband change person today by trying it

[@jacksonwang5668]

I have been in a toxic relationship with my EX WIFE until i meet a seer who help me cast a love spell on my wife after the love spell my wife came back home started begging for forgiveness, you can also make your wife/husband change person today by trying it

[@spacequeenruby]

@@jacksonwang5668 no spells to force a love isn't right. I'm sorry hope you find peace

[@ladyvirgo013]

This video is very helpful for me. Thank You ✨️

[@aliceswderworld369]

I become healthy and happy. Don’t care about him but keep moving on. The Narcissist is trying to hoover me😂. But I ignored and remind me of a classic old good song! That lyrics are so powerful😎

[@drewd9956]

I was in a relationship with an Asian woman and I knew that once she tried to separate me from my other friends and family, I knew that I had to get out.

[@millyardopeacecraft9778]

This has been the hardest psychological test I've ever undergone. My latest discard I feel like I failed at everything I learned just about. But after the hurtful things she's said about my family on her way out and can never go back to that. People she never met. I told her about the abuse I went as a kid. And she randomly pulls out "Your family did a horrible job at protecting you as a kid that's why you are the way you are!" Then she went on to say that emotional manipulation is not abuse!? Wtf. All I want is to heal. All I wanted was to make amends. But that person who I loved never came back. Only this demonic she devil that cheated on me with no remorse and blamed me for it.

[@skyylea9859]

I really appreciate your viewpoint on this disorder .

[@dalenjurgens6751]

That's the big take away from my experiences... thankfully, short (only really involved this year). I have learned a lot about narcissism in general, and her needs and wants... but more importantly how I was being her supply in so many ways. I am now looking for healthy relationships. Thank you so much for your work!

[@PatriciaRypkema-bd1ot]

I lived in Hell off and on for 8 years. They love it when you are weak. I'm free and I can breathe without holding my breath for so long.

[@lindazhang8004]

Stephanie, your content is really really good!! thank u for sharing. i am sure a lot of ppl here seeking and appreciating for the LIGHT through facts, knowledge and skills !

[@andrewbeffa7467]

Hi Linda

[@lindazhang8004]

@@andrewbeffa7467 hi!

[@andrewbeffa7467]

@@lindazhang8004 how are you doing,where are you from

[@datdapgotskip]

Wooow strong. The Ultimate compliment..is the dicard. Great breakdown, for the superficial Narc an material possessions to fill the deep dark whole.

[@ullaekstrand634]

Now I got it,I am flattered that he cheated on me after 30years, thanks a lot!!!