They Refused to Wish People Happy Bday Who Didn't Wish Them Happy Bday

[@felisa957]

I don’t think it’s petty to match the energy you’re being given in a friendship. You can either ask them about it or just stop putting in the extra effort.

[@medslarge]

yes!! thank you! for me its not about being petty, its about reciprocity. And I've had to learn to look for reciprocity in my relationships after some life trauma also, so thats really important to me

[@sneffie]

Reminds me of the time I was out for a birthday breakfast and I started getting pissed that other customers were saying it was their birthday too. You just can't throw hands at random children 😂

[@irishbutterfly369]

My father in law & future step mother in law forgot my husbands birthday this year. Even after a bunch of his family members told him happy belated birthday in our group text, they still didn't say anything. They waited until weeks later when his dad's side got together for Easter to be like "oh yeah btw, happy belated birthday". But we stopped celebrating birthdays with his Dad years ago & even then he wouldn't remember birthdays or anniversaries or holidays unless you remind him way too many times.

[@justanotherpiccplayer3511]

My boyfriend forgot his brothers 30th and honestly it was hilarious

[@TheLilyMustang]

I am always wishing for people not to wish me a happy birthday because I will forgot. I will even wake up on my sisters or my mum birthday and tell my husband hey it is this person birthday we gotta wish them happy birthday. Then it will be 11pm they are on the east coast with me in Texas snd I am like aww hell.

[@justkibby5959]

Can we just stop the expectation of people caring that it's your birthday, as an adult. It's fun for kids but what is the point as an adult. I don't get it. Maybe having a crappy winter birthday has me jaded.

[@sneffie]

I have a summer birthday on July 7th and so it's always celebrated over the 4th and a fun time. Plus even as an adult I love my birthday cause it's the 1 dang day it's all about me.

[@justkibby5959]

@@sneffie I don't even get anything special for mothers day. I don't think it's necessary to have "one day all about me" but like I said, winter birthdays suck. Can't exactly have a BBQ in the middle of a blizzard when it's illegal to be on the roads. You can make any day about you. Most people make every day about them.

[@stephang3151]

@@justkibby5959 I have Bday in Autumn and I also give a f bout people s bday. ye i'm happy for a few friends but I still don't really congratulate on my own (also due to forgetting most dates) i'm the kind of person = Oh do I have Bday? (I don't want to go outside) * I'm in my 20s and never had a bday party once, think also that it's overrated tbh

[@Kyosumari]

I'm with you but also not. Its meaningful to someone for many reasons. I get sad when my birthday isn't at least recognized, doesn't need to be celebrated. But I WILL match energies and wont put in extra effort that someone else wont put in for me. Im jadeded too - I often had to share my birthdays growing up and As soon as I got siblings that were younger and I became an adult, I was suddenly the caregiver parent #2 because my mom kept getting with deadbeat dads and then ending up a single parent of four kids, 5 if you include the semi adopted one. While I have a very complex relationship with my family, I can at least easily say I can understand your Bday being actually traumatic or stressful for you - but that's all the more reason it means something to me when someone genuinely cares enough about me to remember and say something about it.