THINGS I DON'T LIKE ABOUT MYSELF

[@Natures_Symmetry]

Well, you got run over by a truck, not a bus. So good job on living your life to the fullest spending every penny on things you wanted. The universe knew, and deep down inside you knew as well, that's why you couldn't save and felt like you had to do stuff all the time. You knew you were running out of time here. Freaky, but amazing. Sending love to your soul. R.I.P

[@simbo0ne]

I admire your honesty. You bare your insecurities rather bluntly. Never change.

[@go-dog-go]

Spot On !!

[@Missmary852]

WE LOVE YOU EMILY.

[@vandertuber]

You have a good sense of humor, care about animals, care about mental health issues, and you are open and that's a good thing.

[@silviopicciau4462]

@@vandertuber she was very beautiful woman

[@JasmineAmaa]

Getting into meditation is like getting into exercise. It takes awhile to get used to it. Helps heaps though. Love ur channel x

[@neiltaylor4453]

Don't be so hard on yourself. Maybe your next video should be about, ten things you do like about yourself.

[@U2QuoZepplin]

I’ll look forward to that one

[@jomason8961]

I for one love your honesty as I am pretty much the same. I followed you on instagram but have since come off as, like you said; it’s not always a good place. Keep being you and don’t change for anyone. If people don’t like you, who cares!, you can’t get on with everyone, that I have learnt in my 42 years. At the end of the day no one is perfect no matter what they might think. Life is too short. You can have all the money but actually have nothing. Knowing your boundaries and faults are seen as a bad thing by many people but actually they are the fools. Keep up the good work, as long as you believe in yourself, who knows what you can achieve 🕊

[@SteppingStonevlogs]

Thank you Emily for showing us the sides to you that know aren't your best sides, because we are all imperfect humans! It's really brave to put yourself out there and say stuff which a lot of can relate to, but might not admit to having the same challenges in our character! Hope you find a balance between being content and being a high achiever xxx

[@MORTO178]

Most of what you don't like about yourself I think are good qualities.Being impatient , punctual, driven will only drive you forward. Those are the same traits of most successful people. Your very funny and entertaining. I look forward to your vids every week they're a breath of fresh air. Who couldn't like you?

[@markflanders1651]

I do think it's incredibly brave to be putting so much yourself ' out there ' and be open to such public scrutiny...ok so nobody's forcing you to so I guess there's an element of needy narcissism too, frankly...but then again, most entertainers possess this trait and you most certainly are an entertainer Emily. As regards self criticism, this can be healthy but of course on the flip side every single one of your apparent negatives contain extremely attractive and worthwhile positives which I'm sure your friends and family will be as keen to assure you of - because they love you for who you are.

[@sinedo]

Narcissism.!!.. She is just a fun girl looking for reassurance in her world view. Complement her!.... idiot!!!

[@kirk1363]

I love this video because you are both so honest and so oblivious of all the talents that you have. You have one of the most expressive faces. Your emotions really come thru and never seem fake. You are ambitious and while it is possible to strive to hold a job beyond your ambitions you don't and you wonder why. You are not fake - you just can't fake it until you make it! Cheers!

[@MrBklein31]

Every thing you said you made negative, but they are not. Most of them are actually positives. You are strong, you are not patient because you strive to be better, do more, and be more productive. You are a true Entrepreneur with a strong drive. Take it as a challenge and make it kind of a game. When I get down on myself, I just think really hard on why it's actually a good thing. You have so many things I like about you, that anything you think is a flaw, it's actually one of the things that makes you unique and special.

[@taketheredpill1452]

tip for #2: Emotional Processing. It's the opposite of meditation. Meditation is emptying our minds. Emotional processing is dedicating time to acknowledge what's going on in our mind...aka dealing with thoughts and emotions. I spend at least 1 hour every morning before getting out of bed acknowledging my thoughts and my responses to them (emotions). Embracing the pain, rage, fear, etc... that I've kept bottled in to survive in our world. Consequently I'm more stable, less needy and more capable of handling stress. If you want more let me know.

[@Conero08]

I can relate to so many of these. Find myself making lists and despairing if I don't tick every item off of it...

[@idontneedthis66]

Oh I can relate, especially with #2, only I can't even go on vacation cause I go STIR CRAZY after maybe an hour of laying around doing nothing. It's a problem. Btw I highly recommend reading "The Last Lecture" by Randy Pausch if you've haven't. Lots of good wisdom in there, but in particular he had a few amazing insights for those not sure about their career choice, finding the specific parts of what you actually like about your "dream job" and then setting out to achieve them.

[@44lgarden]

This popped up today on my feed. Not sure why suddenly it comes up today but I really miss Emily's posts. A great vlogger taken away from us way too soon.

[@lazylank]

I can handle the gross chat. Not a problem for me. My mom is a nurse, and would always start telling me gross medical stories, then pause and be like "Oh sorry, I shouldn't tell you this while you're eating." And I'd be all like "Nah mom, it's fine. Talk away." I never really understood how some could get sick just because they heard something gross while eating. I could always handle it. Insert my brother and sister. They couldn't handle it, apparently.

[@BamGregoire]

I forgot that I had subscribed to your channel but I've gotta be honest. I'm fascinated by you. Love your eyes, sucker for your accent and you humor is spot on.

[@ScratchBabble]

Working through our own self judgments is EXHAUSTING!

[@summertime1875]

Your very humble, that's a great virtue! Don't pull yourself apart so much, be your own best friend. x

[@Kinsman00]

Emily, thank you for making this video. These are always my favorite videos to watch, because I am dealing with many of the same things. It helps me work through the things I'm working on. Thank you again.

[@magicguy2061]

I think you just need a challenge to meet your ambition. Find something you like(you are smart enough to do anything you want) and get a degree and advanced degree, and vlog about that! That would be beneficial for you and at the same time, quite inspire others. You're a wonderful person, Emily!. Don't sell yourself short.

[@Ugoogolizer]

Emily, I don't think any of these are truly things you have to hate about yourself! Let's go through it one by one. 1. Impatient / Timely You can be relied upon to be on time. This is a very useful personality trait. The people who aren't on time probably have other gifts 2. Just Be That same feeling which will make you on time, is what causes you trouble when you try to just be 3. Contentedness Especially for someone like you who is very open and conscientious, the contentedness you will feel from meeting goals will necessarily be fleeting, because your brain wants you to move to the next goal so you can feel good about completing that one too. In some ways your discontent helps you move forward in the world, not so bad 4. Ambition This one is always going to be difficult for you, and I think the best thing to do is sort of outsource that to other people. Listen to them and try to trust them when they tell you that you are doing well and are already an impressive person. One little life-hack might be to frame the relaxation as a goal. Schedule it in! 5. What do I want? You are very creative and open minded, so you can easily imagine a million good things that you might be. That makes it hard to pick one. Still, not so bad! Imagine the alternative: I know what I want, and I must have it. Then I don't get it. Then I can't think of something else I could be. Fortunately you have a flexible mind and so can discover the next thing that you will be. 6. Jealousy I think it is a problem of complexity. Even before birth we each develop different gifts, and then each of us lives insanely different lives and our brains develop in different ways, until through our unique experience we each become in some ways a universe unto ourselves. So maybe you imagine that your friends have had a similar path to you and then did something right where you went wrong may, well... that's only sometimes true. It may be time to accept how wonderfully unique you truly are. I think the solution is to compare yourself to who you were before. Not to who someone else is now. Because really, we don't even know ourselves. And if that's true, how could we know each other well enough to perfectly compare ourselves to them? We can't of course! So I think maybe the jealousy you feel is in some ways mediated by negative feelings about yourself. 7. Perfectionist This is deeply interrelated with all the others. You're perfectly on time, you're not content with failure, you're ambitious enough to strive for perfection, and you want to know more perfectly what to do so you don't just pretend to know what you want. Thing is, perfectionism can be part of the path to behaving in a moral way. The perfect is something we strive for, not something we attain. Think about Error Correction and Exception Handling. Sometimes there are errors that you must correct, but sometimes life just threw you an exception. So don't get too down on yourself for being a human :). 8. Money I think you're insanely industrious, but not super obsessed with everything being in order. That little bit of chaos in your thinking is what helps you to be so funny and to be so creative. I think what might work for you is to automate your saving so you don't have to even think about it. Think of it as the reverse of your hypothetical "12,000 pound a month" future. You could just as easily spend 250 pound instead of 275. So if you automate the savings (with your bank or an app or a financial advisor or whatever), and can compartmentalize the 25 a month and forget about it, could help 9. People pleaser Of course the good things are obvious, you're a great friend, great sibling, and you're probably great with kids or animals (same difference :P). On the flipside, it can sometimes feel like you'd rather just give the other person 60 and you take 40 from the get go. It can feel like you are taken advantage of. And it can feel like other people's joy is more important than yours. While to some extent you're stuck with that feeling you don't have to be trapped by it! Basically you want to think about how to negotiate on your own behalf. Imagine that you cared about yourself the same way you do about the people you love or are responsible for. You'd negotiate fairly for them, right? Even if someone didn't like you for it. So, as cheesy as it sounds, you might have to love yourself more. 10. Too honest and open The same thing which disgusts one person will amuse another, so you can't possibly please everyone in this way. The simple truth is that it's good to be honest. You know, it's like, the first step to telling the truth is just not lie. So you probably have that down pretty well! And the next step is to figure out what is the right thing to say at the right time. I bet you are much better than you think at knowing what will be too much for someone to hear when you interact with them in person. And you can never please youtube (and you don't really want to) so it's silly to try. Anyway, hope any of this helps!

[@Julia-zz1gq]

Number 10 is so accurate for me, I’m way to open! It was a great video to get to know you even better, I didn’t know we have so much in common

[@danielbritton8588]

It will always change all your life. One event could skew you off on a direction you never dreamed of. I like your video effects & the things you post. All 4 of you sisters are incredibly beautiful & Jess & Alice add intrigue as the twins they are, who could launch their own popularity career. You all enchant the world being beautiful, nice & British.

[@stuff7250]

I think we are crazily similar. As for settling down, it doesn't fix it at all. I'm married with three kids and whilst on maternity leave I started my own business, started volunteering and went to university for another degree. Still don't feel busy enough or content with what I've achieved or have.

[@johnreynolds6074]

I enjoyed your video just now, as I have for over a year. You're real, funny and although you don't seem to see it at times, you are pretty. You have good friends and a great family that help you on many videos. A person's friends are a good indication of that person's inner quality. You're not perfect but it is not a fault to aim toward that goal. I don't remember all 10 things, but I think it simply proves you are normal. Everyone has some small degree of insecurity, but you are always trying for better and that is good. I always look forward to getting notifications when your videos come out. Have a nice evening out.

[@SoniCatedx2]

Thank you for your honest video Emily.

[@christopherhall9591]

Thanks for sharing Emily. You're always my favorite and I'm extremely sincere. Beauty, grace and honesty is what I think of when I watch your videos.

[@mrlevittown]

The title scared me but this wasn't what I thought it would be. This was a good natured but sober estimation of yourself. That's a good thing Emily! You did this with a sense of humor. Wonderful! Self reflection is a good thing. This video wasn't you putting yourself down and I'm glad. I already follow you on Instagram so keep it coming missy. Take care, Emily. 😚

[@Izeart]

"I was pissing shit" Yep,... that's called "Shootgunning the bowl" I have friends who can very descriptive when talking about things like that, but it's best to pick those moments with people who you feel can handle it But when it comes to being honest, that's always the best, telling people how you feel will always be the best way to show your true self and you will attract those who will see you for your true self.

[@krylesangerbeaver]

"I'm terrible with money" Don't forget to sign up for her Patreon :P

[@U2QuoZepplin]

Ditto

[@terryblake1554]

Em, A lot of the things you describe , I think , can be directly related to anxiety and or depression . I fight similar symptoms everyday. The worst is not being able to just be in the here and now, without constantly thinking about stressful things like work. Wether or not you believe in God, I found praying helps me. Wish you the best!

[@greaserbubtheoriginal7923]

100% right god bless you terry try fishing lmao no really give it a try

[@mattstanyard]

Emily as you think one of your faults is liking to please people, please do this for us 1/Like Yourself, 2. Carry on just as you are we all love hearing your stories, watching your Vlogs etc Highlite of my week sometimes, have a wonderful Xmas, bet wishes to you and all the Hartridges including part time Olive

[@1baboon1]

Instagram is the ASS CANCER of social media... especially in terms of mental health. I can relate to most of this too 10, but I’ve stayed away from almost all social media.

[@IchibanMoto]

thanks for being awesome !

[@duaneedmunds1326]

Re: occupying your time; i find doing artwork is a great out fulfills that need to do something all the time. Regarding contentment, nope. Came back to Canada over 10 years ago and will leave tomorrow when the opportunity arises. Not for me. Know how you feel. Good to get that out there, Emily.

[@well_i_liked_it]

Nothing wrong with any of these. I am the same when it comes to patience and waiting. I get supermarket line rage, slow pedestrian rage, traffic light crossing rage, late public transport rage, waiting for cash to come out of the cash machine rage,bar service rage...yeah well, it goes on.

[@Lepal]

I think there is much people that has the same things you've said. And the most of it doesn't know how to handle it... at least "in good terms"... "in a good way". I find myself identify in much things you mentioned, but I just don't feel too bad for that. I just improve in the things I believe is the best for me... and keep carring/handle the other things as I can; or as I want. You know why? because no one is going to get to die being a perfect person. The only think we can do is to try. But we have to be honest with ourselves, and know that is hard, and SURELY a "game" we cannot win. So, the way I think is: Make (first of all) the things I really want; and then, make my work, and the things "I have to". And trying to get fun in any way I choose. Anyway... Keep that way! Or better, improve as you like! :D Just don't forget that there is a lot of people feeling... close the same way you feel about yourself and your life. Don't be mad with you.

[@haroldgjr]

Emily, I could write volumes about Emily but, what I think is superfluous. I would like to recommend something to put in your backpack so you would carry it with you...there is a book or a video production entitled “ THE SECRET “ that I would ask you to read/hear or discuss with a friend. What ever path Brits used to obtain a book to peruse, library, retail book store, whatever is most expedient, use it to get it. Be forewarned, you can read it in a day or hear it in an hour. I think you should have it in your own backpack for ready reference. Cheers Emily

[@depechemodecovers]

Isn't it all in all like "I want everything at a time, and I want it right now, no second later"? Reminds me of that Queen song "I want it all, I want it all, I want it all, and I want it NOW!" :-) But although you are that way, and although you don't allow yourself to be different, you are still so loveable ... not "because", but "despite" ;-) So I wish you a chilling holiday, try it, and allow yourself enjoying it :-)

[@robbuglass6199]

Keep going Emily , there is much love out there for you .

[@Christob13]

You are really amazing and genuine. You will go far, it will all work out. Keep up the amazing videos, they are so fun, and sometimes insightful.

[@PluviophileTraveller]

I relate to this a lot, especially the part where I want everyone to like me.

[@hurrycraneannie8146]

Now I know why I love you! You and I are a 100% alike! :-) and I also see now, why we are not married.....

[@go-dog-go]

Now that's Funny!! But just wait Annie...someone is going to come along and Sweep you Both off your feet....waiting is good. My 1st and Only choice cost me well over a mil and i was the one that was faithful : ) It's all good.....and Karma is Real. Stay Strong grasshopper....

[@Julia-zz1gq]

HurryCrane Annie I’m also so alike, but how do you see why we’re not finding a partner?

[@go-dog-go]

Julia...Sent you a pm....pass it on to HurryCrane Annie if you'd like : )

[@ReReChan]

I completely agree with this statement.

[@nicholasgibbons]

Lots of love for you Emily. I'm not content in life and I'm trying to get my head around it. Yes Insta can be very very evil

[@danielvanzyl3418]

You are perfect Emily..

[@davepalliaser4798]

Breathing is super important to all the exercising you do too. Concentrating on your breathing while exercising is also meditation. :)

[@jamierogers5848]

1) You are amazing.2) Your palm needs TLC (not double entendre)3) You need TLC (don’t we all?)4) Your mouth is amazingly kissable5) You are honest (maybe)6) You are brave (to do this segment)7) You play wonderful music.8) Impatience is OK. 9) Yes, content.10) I wish you love and luck

[@anxietynomore907]

Don't try to be, trying to 'be' you lose who you are, as you should never have to try to be. You can never be anything but who you are, unless you put on masks, acts, try and be who you think people want you to be. That's when you lose who you are.

[@denverllewellyn671]

1 through 10, check, check, check and CHECK!!! Haha. You are not alone Emily. Loved the video! Thanks for the share! I am crazy about Instagram at the moment too. Addicted really! Lol. Hope to see you on there again soon! Caio!

[@linzzy21]

Found u in my recommendation

[@ardentdfender4116]

Your not giving your self enough credit for being who you are. Your a great person with many great qualities you take for granted that you don’t consider great assets. Just be your self. Someone out there will like you for just who you are. Just be honestly you, and that what you should be.

[@javoratree3861]

Maybe Emily, you should combine the things you like to do or talk about. Like write/star on a Sitcom based around living or working in a mental institution.

[@jindermahal5669]

Nobody is perfect. But I do enjoy your videos. They do make me laugh. Plus, you are very beautiful. Rarity to have a good sense of humor, a great hobby, family values and beauty. Keep up the good work!

[@joe246810010]

Thank you for your honesty. Most of the things that you don't like about yourself are just normal human characteristics, and especially characteristics of good, ambitious and intelligent people. And to repeat Paul, you are sweet and beautiful and funny.

[@alwaysplayeroneneverplayer9302]

Is it just me or is the sound of her voice so smooth that you do anything she tell you

[@noelj62]

It's nice to go on a trip (voyage) and to pass it all suffering stomachaches.

[@overthehillandoverthemount2925]

You are just awesome your sense of humor always puts a smile on my face

[@trevcornwall8160]

I could sit and listen to you all day Emily! I follow you on insta and.. well.. everywhere really?? Seriously not a stalker xD This video just sums up how down to earth you are! You're awesome! Keep that shit up :)

[@exiledintheus7251]

yes but all that plus the good stuff makes a beautiful puzzle !

[@HarshitPopat]

Emily, I don't think you are going to read this.... but if you do, I have a meditation tip for you. I have anxiety and I know how you can't stop your thoughts sometimes. But, when you are trying to meditate and there are lots of thoughts going on in your mind... do not try to make them go away. That will make more thoughts come to your mind. The key to meditating is just accept whatever thoughts come to your mind and just keep breathing deeply. Meditation helps me whenever I am too anxious and I hope it can help you too!

[@anshushukla5522]

I love you Emily, i love how real you are.

[@blackbetty476]

5:37 "I could get run over by a bus Tomorrow…" Oh, man. Emily.

[@dancomerford204]

You seem like such a fun high spirited person !

[@TheMonkeyrock77]

That's like a Vlog on your bad points. It's hard to save money in an age that your not getting enough to save. As far as lose stool that's a subject a Sturdiest brought up the other day because their having problems with passengers on planes that shit in their seats. There must be something in the food or water that's causing this. Keep up the vloging because I enjoy watching you and your family.

[@LloydSeven]

Meditation tip: Just meditate 5 minutes at a time. You'll get better at it as you go on.

[@K1rmcc]

But you do have the heart of mother Theresa. You care

[@ricksmith4840]

K R M I wouldn't go that far lol

[@K1rmcc]

James Dubaise Really? I watched her channel for sometime now. And I think that like mother Theresa she is willing to make sacrifices, work hard to improve hers and others lives, and passionately advocate for things that matter to her. She does cares. But, that is just my opinion.

[@mistress707]

p.s. surrond yourself with people who make you laugh and happy, not who make you feel bad about being yourself. life gets so much better and easier right away, when u decide it like that.

[@claypigeon001]

10 things you don't like about yourself?...I only saw 1 ..over critical..you are awesome ❤️

[@Nkanyiso_K]

I'm definitely not content but I'm working on it. I'm aiming pretty high career-wise so I know it could take me a decade to make an impact on my list of goals but I'm fine with that: *it's about the journey*

[@chas4x4]

I am the same way and I'm 67 I think I'm satisfied and shortly after I find my self wishing for more

[@anthonylessthanzero1498]

You are and will always be a Lovely Lady. :) Have a great Christmas Emily!

[@idk6465]

I'm the same, I'm very honest person, but then people get mad at me for being 100% honest

[@muhammedkajee]

"pissing shit" I'm still laughing...

[@caseyheath8131]

Wow that Dubai story... you definitely got the honesty thing goin for ya lol. Never lose that... I mean we don't really wanna know the loo details but you know what I mean :-)

[@BamblingsofNaffy]

I resonate with this so much!!! May film my own version on this

[@mistaseeforce]

The pigtails swag makes you look like a supermodel 😍👍🏾

[@BonzoKilbourn]

I am slightly ashamed of how quickly I clicked on a title that says things I don't like about myself, but now that I'm here, let's gossip about Emily.

[@robertneal4244]

Embrace your honesty, but remember...you do not have to tell a person the WHOLE truth all the time. Tell them the parts they need to know, or would gain from knowing, but the tangents...and maybe some of the gory details.

[@rolfsinkgraven]

A great one and honest one, at least you are saying what most ppl wont say about themself hehe

[@djouann]

Appreciate your honesty!

[@georgepollastri7701]

I like you - Have a good Christmas !!

[@afrosepatel]

Being honest is truly amazing and it's hard to find in someone nowadays so please keep being honest, well she should really listen to you i mean she is your friend and being friends means you talk or share about anything with each other without being bored, you can be a tv-presenter , you are very famous on here so you can be tv-presenter, well being jealous is woman nature just embrace it haha, meditation I have told you on IG that it won't gonna work , for content you try to make someone happy or help needy people as much as you can or do some charity and keep remember god by just saying "Asstaghfirullah" all the time whatever you do where ever you go just keep reciting this will help you

[@ProfessorDIY]

I like everything about you :)

[@WRPUS471]

Hundreds of thousands of people like and watch you. I've watched you for years for the simple reason that you are interesting.

[@annie49]

The discontent and restlessness I believe to be the natural state of the human being when identified as a self. Zen Buddhism aims to guide people to see they are not the character they assume they are, and if they see that then there is no discontent or restlessness. Sorry that's a real brief explanation. Check out Zen Bitch Slap on KZbin if you're interested, he talks about this really well in a very straight forward way. Also it sounds like you might benefit from taking the big 5 personality test which you can do for free online. Might help you to understand your qualities. It sounds like you might be very high in conscientiousness (perfectionism, ambition) and very high in agreeableness (wanting people to like you, caring) Meditation - have you tried just 10 mins per day and using a guide? Your mind is strong, like a wild horse.

[@DTRB56]

Befriend the bored when it arises. The being place is accessed through the befriending of all the (unconscious) places in you that fuel and drive the endless doing. What fuels your doing? It’s very often unresolved childhood stuff. Btw the question - ‘what do I do’ is the wrong question. The answer is not in the doing realm.

[@jimcorbeil]

Without oversimplifying and Hopefully, without pissing you off too much, all you did was list 10 things you need to work on to make a Better Emily. That's it, Baby Steps. None of them are the end of the world and you're not leaving us anytime soon, so pick one and off you go. As far as pleasing everyone, it can't be done. Differences in people, envy, jealousy, some/most people's glasses are half empty, the list goes on. Have a Great Weekend and work on becoming More Awesomer ( I might of just made that word up) : )

[@BodyImageFitnessLLC]

Try different types of meditation! There are many many ways to do it so experiment and find out what works for you. Personally I like listening to meditation music in my ear buds and counting my breathing, but not everything works for everyone. Read some books on it if you haven't already. It really really helps with achieving a better level of contentment.

[@redsands1001]

Bad with money w/ gaby dunn is an interesting look at spending habits and cultural and institutional traps.

[@ConanSoshi]

Nice video. It’s like you are speaking my mind .. I have very much in common with you and totally understand. Take care

[@zacheddy9685]

You are GREAT FUN! love your videos, all of them! - from that guy in Canada!

[@pfscribe8935]

Ever forward, Em! You’re the best you, and that’s good enough.

[@thomaschase1719]

SUPPOSEDLY people fail at meditation due to their overachieving ambition [biting off more than they can commit rather than short bits at first]. {me too}

[@shannonmorton6363]

Watching this video is like watching someone describing me lol. Your not the only one like this Emily

[@thomaschase1719]

Wow I just this second noticed my "NO!" picture on the wall is gone? [DAMN!] "Yeah Frank, I try and keep most of my bodily functions private and they are less severe and less frequent oddly enough--maybe speak of devil sort of nonsense," said Earnest.

[@jonathandalton2921]

i think you're very funny , you're doing good , keep up the great work!

[@zaineridling]

#8 is my weakness, too. I pay the bills, but truly don't care to learn anything else on how to manage the $13 left! 😁

[@ImpartiallySpeaking]

RIP Emily

[@woodlandsavenue88]

LOVE YOU EMILY!!!