Things I Hate About Adoption

[@katrinaa7581]

My number one reason why I hate adoption: I’m a birth mother who was promised an opened adoption. The adoptive parents told me everything I wanted to hear before I signed the papers however, the adoptive parents and I had some issues, I suggested going to an adoption specialist but they did not want to work anything out, so they decided to block me. The trauma my son has experienced has been largely ignored, I have been educated on the trauma. The adoptive parents have decided they are better than me and I should be erased. Recently, I reached out and my son blocked me. As heartbreaking as it is, I’ve grown stronger and learned to love and appreciate myself.

[@brisingarinstaridavis7084]

I hate my birth mother I feel she abandoned me She has 6 kids 3 girls & 3 boys I'm the 1st Daughter & I'm the 2nd child to my birthmum

[@brisingarinstaridavis7084]

I feel she is selfish & Cruel SHE STOLE MY IDENITY SHE STOLE MY SIBLINGS SHE RUINED MY LIFE SHE MADE ME CRY FOR 25YRS FOR NOT BEING IN MY LIFE PART OF ME WANTS A RELATIONSHIP WITH HER BUT I HATE HER & DONT WANT TO FORGIVE HER I WANT HER TO SUFFER MY PAIN, I WANT HER TO CRY LIKE I CRIED, I WANT HER TO APOLOGIZE FOR THROWING ME AWAY SHE SAYS SOCIAL SERVICES TOOK ME AWAY BUT I DONT BELIEVE HER I LOVE HER BUT I WANT HER TO FEEL HOW I FELT ALL THOSE YEARS WHAT DO I DO??? PLEASE HELP

[@Flylittlebirds]

I so agree with you. There’s ALWAYs trauma..but people just don’t understand x

[@katrinaa7581]

I’m in a situation where the adoptive mother doesn’t understand trauma and she has decided to erase me. It’s heartbreaking but I’m strong and don’t let her ignorance get to me.

[@winterhendrickson2242]

It’s true! It’s so hard to understand!

[@shainaandresen5681]

Such good info! Thank you for sharing :)

[@winterhendrickson2242]

Thank you friend! ❤️

[@winterhendrickson2242]

I would love to hear your stories! What frustrates you about adoption?

[@janvan4424]

Thanks for sharing. God bless you and your sweet family 💕

[@winterhendrickson2242]

May God bless you too!

[@whelanmmw]

Great info.

[@joannjohnson2780]

Hi Winter! Hope you and your family are having a wonderful Christmas. Just had a quick question about adoption/foster care. In the state of SD how many kids are allowed in a room? What's the rule of a little boy and girl sharing a room? When adopting two separate kids can they share a room or can only biological siblings share a room? Thank you so much for sharing!

[@winterhendrickson2242]

Great question! Off the top of my head these are the rules: No kids can sleep in foster parents bed. Boys and girls must have separate rooms after they are 5 years old. (Biological relationship doesn’t matter) Every child needs their own bed and no one is allowed on that bed. Not even the foster parents. For respite you can offer a couch or cot. Pack and plays are okay for toddlers. I hope that helps!

[@undercatcards3080]

Hello-anybody have any advice on creating an autobiography for becoming a foster parent?

[@Challengeteamz]

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[@onlylove-fn3zg]

just cant take it anymore . always being neglected for being myself .with adopted family that only see their perspective and doctrine .i must adopt their surname language and even fuckd up relegion that contradict it self .ill never be them i will never ever change myself to fit into their norms even if i don't know my own damn self. i don't expect you to answer my comment , im just telling you how fuckd it truely is for some of us.

[@winterhendrickson2242]

I know it’s so hard. There’s definitely is definitely a dark side to adoption. Thanks for sharing your heart about it.

[@JasonLE89]

How much did you pay per kid? #adoptionsucks

[@winterhendrickson2242]

I made a video about how much foster parents get ‘paid’ if you want to check it out! Normally you get $500 a month reimbursement from the state while the kids are in care. All the financial responsibilities go to the foster parent except for the medical insurance. I hope that answers your question.

[@onlylove-fn3zg]

i fucking hate it. its the worse fucking feeling. wish my biological mother never ope.....