Things I Regret Buying & What They've Taught Me About My Style

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Today's video is all about things I regret buying & what they've taught me about my style. By reflecting on the things I regret buying I'm able to make better purchases in the future and get the most out of my wardrobe while figuring out my style. Thank you so much for watching xx Audrey
WHAT I'M WEARING:
Turtleneck: Verafied bit.ly/3hAzxLm
Belt: A few years old from Massimo Dutti
Earrings: bit.ly/3WqdCVP and bit.ly/3Yw5TYh
Jeans: Aritzia Denim Forum bit.ly/3PynXwT
THINGS I REGRET BUYING:
01:06 Vanessa Bruno Boots bit.ly/3hCI4gL
04:56 Frances Austen Cashmere Sweater www.francesaus...
07:10 Doen Top
09:05 Rachel Pally Dress bit.ly/3FZWvET
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[@AudreyCoyne]

WHAT I'M WEARING: Turtleneck: Verafied bit.ly/3hAzxLm Belt: A few years old from Massimo Dutti Earrings: bit.ly/3WqdCVP and bit.ly/3Yw5TYh Jeans: Aritzia Denim Forum bit.ly/3PynXwT

[@1LillyClark]

Are those thumb holes in your turtleneck sleeves?

[@corinalina]

Massimo Dutti make gorgeous leather pieces. Almost all my belts are from MD and I love them all.

[@NF2392-n2u]

Hi Audrey, regarding the lavender sweater I think an easy fix is Rit dye. If you use a darker shade than the sweater it should work. If an item has the right fit and fabric, I use dye to tweak (or completely change) the color to fit my palette better. The downside is that it takes patience to execute properly and the end result is not always predictable. Nevertheless, it has salvaged many wrong purchases for me.

[@kat_thefruitbat]

Two other things to watch out for with over-dying knits- 1.) *shrinkage* if it’s a dye that requires a hot water bath (Dylon can work with warm water but I’ve never tried it with knits), and 2.) any *exposed stitching* since nearly all ready to wear clothing construction utilizes synthetic thread. I haven’t over-dyed anything in a long time because it’s rare to find a perfect candidate; I just use dye to refresh faded like-color items (such as black jeans).

[@ah5721]

@@kat_thefruitbat where do you get your dye refresh ? my black jeans need it desperately !

[@kat_thefruitbat]

@@ah5721 Most craft stores carry RIT, and some carry Dylon (my local Joann Fabrics store has both). There are many drug stores and grocery stores that carry RIT (laundry aisle). Of course, there are plenty of places to order from online as well, and there are other brands options out there too (the only other one I know of off the top of my head is Jacquard, but I’ve never personally tried it).

[@anneotherday]

Something I really want to work on this year is to stop buying items for occasions far in the future or just in case scenarios. I get in almost like a honeymoon phase with the excitement of a new purchase and am not as discerning and critical as I should be about fit. By the time an occasion comes around (if it ever actually does), I’m often left wondering what I was thinking or realizing I settled for a fit that wasn’t ideal but only “good enough to keep” then the return window has passed

[@sophiaconsta3307]

The lavender sweater is so so pretty and in my opinion it looks great on you! When I saw a video of you in this sweater a while back, it really inspired me and I have since purchased two lavender sweaters. (I am a "cool winter" as a color type).

[@katem3961]

The blouse in white with the lavander floral pattern is beautiful on you Audrey. White being the dominate colour balances it on you for me. That brand does some absolutely beautiful feminine pieces. I think the dress looks lovely, but not with the black ballet flats, they look too heavy for such a light airy dress. I find the correct footwear is always vital to the overall look of an outfit. However, if the cut is wrong for you in the bust, let it go. Nothing worse than feeling like "you're going to fall out". While the lavender jumper is gorgeous I agree the deeper purple suits your colouring. Shame about the boots, they are beautiful. Great video, thank you 🤍💜🖤

[@dr.gama.psychologist]

My lesson has been to leave items that don’t ‘scream’ to me when i first see them. Im learning to not convince myself that an outfit will work.

[@ruthtorphy2204]

Bubble,that why I leave the store empty handed 99% of the time.

[@ah5721]

I agree! if I'm iffy on it I leave it with the clothing attendant in the fitting room or on the rack .

[@tamiwithani]

Same. I have this psychological game i play witj myself. Imagine i see something but it isn't available in my size. Would i be sad or ok? If i would be ok, then i don't really love it. I need to LOVE a piece. How i also deal with that is to leave it. If i cant stop thinking about it after a month, i get it

[@brookstanbery9106]

I'm surprised by how much I like the color of your turtleneck. I had always thought that you are a deep winter, but the warmer tone actually is beautiful!

[@floridanativelh568]

This was supremely helpful. You have such a fantastic and unique teaching style. Thank you and happy 2023❤️‍🔥😉

[@teribeers5447]

Great video! As a wellness coach I'm always posting pictures of myself. I've learned there are a lot of clothing items that don't work for me, but I've never really analyzed why they don't work. Mostly having to do with my lifestyle is too casual to wear a lot of the things in my closet. This is very helpful. I think those black boots would look awesome with that outfit that you recreated from pinterest with the light cropped sweater and the cropped pants.

[@kimhoffman433]

Such a thoughtful and important video - thanks

[@heidiarms6624]

Audrey, I’m writing as an artist who is very attune to color. And, while I certainly respect your personal experience and observations I felt you may appreciate an artists perspective. I understand your difficulty in embracing a new color into your closet and lifestyle. I struggle with this as well. I think part of the problem is that basic colors are so interchangeable that I am use to my whole wardrobe mixing and matching. It can feel a bit discontinuous to incorporate a color that may not coordinate with everything. However, I hope you don’t mind my sharing that I am sad the lavender sweater and patterned blouse didn’t find a welcome in your closet. In my view you look stunning in both. They bring out a life light from within you. They make your eyes stand out and your hair look a richer bluer black more shiny and lustrous. They even out your skin tone and make you look soft and feminine yet confident and strong. They give your look a tone of grace and elegance. They really were outstandingly lovely on you. They both also actually combine beautifully with black, white, winter white and some shades of camel and even dark indigo blue and navy as well as grey. To my eye you looked better in the lavender sweater than in the camel shade of sweater worn for the video! This lavender sweater and printed blouse also revealed the ethereal nature of your body type and personal expression discovered in the body typing video you shared so graciously with us. Oddly enough, it wouldn’t surprise me if you find the lovely boots you opened the video with pairing well with both of these items. Though I don’t believe the look of the boots is the issue for you. Look wise they would have even paired lovely with the outfit you wore for this video shoot. It is most likely the loose fit around the ankle that is causing the challenges for you in their case…. Have you considered that in the same way that skinny jeans may not be as consistently flattering as a looser fit, that perhaps skinny boots may benefit from a rest from time to time and a looser fit might look wel?. I feel that we can get into style and color ruts like we do with food ruts. Our taste buds can change. Perhaps our style and color perceptions can change too. Have you considered making yourself wear each of the items once a week or once a month etc to see how you feel after wearing them over time and to see if you get compliments. Embracing a new color may take some intentionality. I would hate to see you miss out on this one as to my eye it was stunning on you. And refreshing! To my eye it did expand your color range in a lighter and lovely way. You are so beautiful and lovely. Thank you for all the work you do preparing your content. You stand out in your field and I appreciate your insights and expression.

[@irairod5160]

Idea for the linen dress: add a piece of lace or ribbon to the neck, either in a straight, horizontal orientation, only to the bottom of the scoop to "square it off" and add coverage, OR add a pleated trim all around the neck, fastened (sewn) under the seam of the scoop as if it's peeking out from underneath the dress. Either detail would look appropriate with the umpire waist of the garment, would add modesty, and would still allow the dress to be airy and comfortable in hot, muggy weather.

[@cussot]

I agree - I'd work a little on that dress, too. I like your idea of adding a bit of faux undergarment. That could really work and give it just enough detail.

[@starburstVOLTAIRE]

Have you ever done a video on how to store & care for clothes, shoes & jewelry? As I build a high quality closet, I want to take care of what I have, which is hard in a small closet!

[@sparklie962]

I've also been struggling with online shopping and fit - almost everything is arriving too big despite ordering according to the online size guide - especially when they include barely any information. e.g., width of shoulders/length of arms? Overall length of a skirt from waistband to hem? How much wider the piece will be than the body measurements? 1 inch? 5 inches? Who knows, total spin of the roulette wheel... The cost of shipping back returns means that I'm out less money to pay for a seamstress to alter things than return them, but still tacks quite a whack onto the final price of the items. This has made me a lot more thoughtful about what I'll actually "proceed to purchase" on.

[@malihagarden7062]

Most people regret buying certain clothes or shoes, however, I mostly regret the returning or donating of clothes , shoes, or bags, that I didn’t know how to properly style at that time, or how useful a certain item actually was 😂😂

[@amandaamanda5398]

You are the reason why people keep finding amazing items in thrift stores. So thank youl.🤣

[@lookingatdaisies9901]

​@@amandaamanda5398🤣🤣I've been thinking to myself the stuff in charity shops in the UK was so crap 10 years ago when I discovered thrifting, then around the whole declutter era, boom! Nice pieces after not finding anything worthwhile for years.

[@lookingatdaisies9901]

I have also done this and my new rule is to keep everything unless it's physically harming me, I've donated plain (expensive) basic coloured 100% cotton t-shirts that were worn once and also found a black wide leg trousers and a simple denim skirt in my donation pile about a year later and was wondering what spirit came over me that I'm now trying to donate basic items. And yes, it's a trend coming in or some image on Pinterest that sent me to my donation pile. The only regret free donation has been clothes that were trying to squeeze the life out of me or chafe my skin.

[@pamelaklemp5615]

I loved seeing the Lavender Sweater on you. To me it screamed out for Jade Jewelry! Jade Beads or Jade and Pearl Strand Necklace. Maybe a bold Jade Ring or Jade Bangle Bracelet. I'd do that or a Broach in a heartbeat... loved that sweater in that color but topped up a little bit.

[@yehudithdashevsky443]

Loved this video, thank you so much for sharing the lessons you learned! One thing I regret buying is a pair of gray suede knee length boots. The lessons I've learned: I love a half-inch heel for walking far, and I love the zip and the lace-up detailing. But the boot is too loose at the ankle and I like something tighter, I would prefer a sharp pointed toe over a round toe, and the gray suede feels too rough and "natural" looking for my style, I like sleeker materials. Thanks for the inspiration to reflect on this!

[@rachelgilders130]

…Audrey, Very Coincidental - I did the same thing…I just loved the lilac on everyone and couldn’t understand why I didn’t have any lilac so I bought a lovely lilac dress but the colour just didn’t look good on me So it’s on its way out! Also I bought the perfect ankle boots which ticked every box BUT they fitted like wellie bobs with a the loose ankle - I tried and tried to wear them (as I had paid more then usual) and ended up giving them to my daughter - they had a bit of bling on the back of the boot that I didn’t initially notice - so I was happy to let them go in the end. Your reasons why your purchases didn’t work out was very helpful. Thank-you. Rae

[@ilariaagostinelli]

Hi Audrey! I loved this video since I like as well the approach of analyzing what works and what doesn’t in the pieces I haven’t used enough. If I might give a suggestion…I’ll try to wear the lilac sweater with dark navy blue instead of black (this move could help emphasize the beautiful lilac color) and maybe try that gorgeous linen dress with a small bag that has an adjustable shoulder strap as to rebalance your torso (and probably it will work better with a pair of low heels instead of ballerinas). Have fun!

[@Rjstratman]

I agree with all of your assessments, but would need to see the boots on you to really understand your thoughts on them. An idea for the dress is to wear them for pajamas. Linen pjs are the best!

[@natalliask]

The blouse was great with jeans !

[@katekenyon7318]

I have the VB boots and personally love them - because they are flat (and the leather is soooo soft), I can march around the city. I style with cropped jeans and trousers, midi dress or skirt …

[@FS-rb2bh]

My main regrets are having let myself be carried away by some influencers and their obligatory garments has not only happened to you (hello t-shirts with shoulder pads and halter necklines) and for letting myself be guided by the price and advertising to buy worse quality items that they have given me a disastrous result and they have been more expensive than the good one. I no longer watch videos of trends or essential capsule elements because they don't work for me, videos like yours on how to adapt things and stick to my style, my colorimetry and body shape (if I also have them identified I don't know why I get into those troubles )

[@ruthtorphy2204]

While it’s nice to sit back and watch some influencers,I have come to the realization that they are sales ladies. I wonder if they actually go out in public in Walmart clothes.

[@crissolmontiel]

I decided a long time ago that I only buy cloth and shoes in person, that way I know if it fits, if the color is right for me and if is comfortable, I don't want to waste time and effort shopping online.

[@elizabethpeterson455]

Have you thought of wearing the boots with long maxi skirts or a flowy dress?

[@katherinebaer6798]

Agree on the dress!

[@Lighthouse1852]

On the lavender floral top: such a good insight. As with many style choices I endorse your rule of thumb: pick one. Flounces or sweet print - either, but not both. Bare legs or bare decolletage - pick one. Bodycon fit on top or bottom - but not both at once. Those are lovely boots. You did your homework and took an educated guess. You might've made the same decision even if you'd tried them on at the store, because the disadvantages you mention aren't always immediately obvious. I'm not sure how a midrise shaft could yield enough freedom of leg movement if it were much tighter. Sometimes walking will create a crease at the ankle, which gives a slimming effect, but if it doesn't happen soon, and if fastening the lower buckle tighter doesn't create the slimmer shape you wanted, someone else will definitely enjoy these. Footwear is so tricky. No lesson to learn, other than we need to be quick about trying on and returning, no matter how much we hoped a shoe would work.

[@badarock177]

If you love a piece of clothing but the color is too light or washed, or the pattern is too delicate, just dye it! My mom used to make beautiful white blouses to sell, and people would ask her for other colors, so she started to dye her white blouses any color. She even re-dyed the pastels to get more vibrant colors. That lavender sweater would look amazing in maroon or violet. And the cute top could be dyed olove green or even black, the pattern would still be there but much less visible and still an interesting detail. I would try dying any piece of clothing before giving up on them because of the color or tone.

[@karenjones9006]

Hi Audrey! The linen dress is so nice and seems appropriate for Charleston as a historical warm southern Port city.

[@33Jenesis]

I don’t own any regret purchases because I save all the receipts. when it was decided to return them, I can. It helps that I buy from only 2 discount retail websites and can return items to local stores. Anything beyond the money back window I get store credit for future purchases. What I feel proud of myself from 2022 is that I didn’t buy handbags and only a couple pairs of shoes. I usually love bags and shoes. However, since I retired last year, I knew I didn’t need more bags and shoes.

[@Dazzelated]

I think that the color of the lavender sweater looks good on you but if the neckline were different it would be better

[@barbararowan8738]

A great video. I understand I keep things in my closet I never wear .I need to clean it out also.

[@gracerajah8972]

Blessed Christmas Audrey !

[@yuzurugold3874]

i kept a lilac trench coat that i was skeptical about after watching your video on the color purple, in which you wore this lilac sweater with black pants and made a very compelling argument for wearing purple, but now im second guessing my purchase hahaha.

[@donnamcdermott443]

Try those boots with a midi pencil skirt and tights or a mini skirt or a maxi skirt ❤

[@42rucuk28]

You look amazing in all of these pieces of clothing but I it takes more to feel good in an outfit I appreciate that ☺️

[@genas.3536]

Thank You for sharing. Very helpful! 😊

[@TheMusicPinkLover91]

I bought a lavender sweater myself because I loved your lavender sweater and wanted something similar for myself. However I have a cooler skin tone so maybe it works because of that. I am going to miss it.

[@שרהיוסף-ש6ה]

Hello Audrey..having so many regrets..to buy gives so much joy at the moment..then at home the feelings change and regrating ..the cicle goes on n on..please how to recover ? Merry New Year a beautiful woman💞💞

[@louiselapointe8622]

I think your lavander sweater looks great on you, with your hair color.

[@npkrn6764]

That style and shaft height of boot doesn't work for me either. Neither does a complete flat boot like that. I agree that either a chunkier lug sole for a casual look, OR a more dressy high heel looks better on me, too. And the only way I'd get something in that high ankle shaft is IF it was in a high heel (like 4"-5" stiletto dress heel). To me mostly, that higher ankle shaft cuts my shorter legs off too much. I either like a shorter-height ankle boot, OR a knee-high boot. Those in-between shaft height boots are not very flattering, IMO. At least not on me. And pastels in most any clothing just don't flatter my face or skin tone. I prefer blacks, whites, and in colors - it must be dark and jewel tones. And same for me with unstructured, flowy type tops or dresses - or pants for that matter. Again, I'm short AND have curves, so all this bohemian, oversized, unstructured clothing out there in excess in today's fashions just don't flatter me. Being short with curves, anything like that just makes me look like a frumpy blob. I definitely need structure and form-fitting clothing. Thank you for sharing your fashion missteps - we've ALL made them! It does take years to realize what is most flattering on us and it's always evolving - especially as you age, your body shifts, and your tastes usually change some. *** My main fashion rule is that trends come and go and aren't nearly as important as proportion and quality. Just because something is in the magazines, stores, or on celebrities doesn't mean it will look good on YOU or ME. --- Much like anything in life, I suppose!

[@donnamcdermott443]

Try not wearing the lavender jumper with black , black tends to eat the colour lavender looks beautiful with camel cream and white trousers try that instead

[@tanyabooysen3958]

Hi from South Africa 🇿🇦

[@Tabatha437]

What will you do with these items? Especially the boots since you never wore them?

[@flower-ss2jt]

Very good video on the perils of internet purchases?

[@REP090]

May I ask the style name of the linen dress? Thank you! Love your videos, as always.

[@tamiewert808]

I really liked the dress on you!

[@audreyheart2180]

maybe, the purple jumper and blouse can be "fixed" with a plum 💜lipstick.. please try again... the white dress, with hair up, small white pearl earrings, and with pale pink nude 🌸or pearl gray shoes 🤍.. 😊.. thank you and 🎇🎇🎇Happy New Year 🎇🎇🎇to you and your family, Audrey.. and fans... 🎇🎇🎇

[@devleenadutta]

is your sweater torn ? or thats how it is

[@lynnebarren2410]

I've had similar purchase of boots - then two years later I started wearing them non-stop...so still a chance for them perhaps??

[@bi4704]

Does anyone know the brand of the lavender sweater?

[@melibluoso248]

Did you figure out how to style the boots or did you end up selling them?

[@myobee9875]

You seem to prefer neutrals, so why make an effort to add color? The neutrals look great on you. I do like the wine color range for you and even very dark greens. Maybe that's because I have similar coloring and those are two of my favorite colors. I also like reds. Have you considered trying to dye the sweater and shirt? I've never tried that, so I'm not sure it would work.

[@TheGreennblue]

I can understand the sweater, dress and boots, but not that feminine blouse. You look beautiful in it and it adds just the touch of femininity to those jeans you paired it with. The softness of your voice and mannerisms IMHO need that touch of femininity for balance. Great video!

[@Androgynary]

I think she looks great in it too, but ultimately is she doesn’t feel entirely herself in it, then it’s better she not own it!

[@TheGreennblue]

@@Androgynary I agree! We all see ourselves in different ways then maybe how others see us. A lot of how we see ourselves comes from our upbringing and childhood experiences. Personally, I think she's beautiful in anything she puts on!

[@sylvianblue]

I kind of agree but the short sleeves don’t work imo, and it’s all a bit twee with the ruffles. It’s definitely something I would run away from!

[@ThaoLeSmileyEyes]

Are you giving them away? I would love to take the lavender sweater 😅

[@xristinarose2409]

No giveaway? 😔 i d love the lavender sweeter

[@maricelg777]

❤

[@BBoPPo88]

What size is the sweater? Im trying to understand the sizing on the website

[@letycialima9073]

beaultiful dress

[@jocelyneprovost295]

Same thing for me with the combat boots! Do not work at all for me!!!

[@Msterminaytor]

How do you feel about dressy wedge booties in 2022/2023? 2:00

[@klc5876]

The linen dress looks like you may be able to transition it to nightgown status.

[@ms.schnapp7415]

My regretful purchases have taught me about my body type, what is flattering for my body type, my lifestyle, and my taste. Personal style is always a journey♥

[@ninah9412]

I cannot agree with you more!

[@Jess_Smith0903]

The pieces I regret buying are ones I feel absolutely beautiful in, they’re flattering, fit and feel good, I feel beautiful, but the problem is that I never have such occasions to wear them. It’s so hard to wave good bye to pieces that make you feel wonderful like that and have no down fall! However my lifestyle just doesn’t present me with opportunities to get the most out of those pieces 🙁

[@cmg25]

As a New Yorker who always feels over dressed, I hear you.

[@jmw1683]

wear them anyway just to feel fabulous

[@FakeAccents]

I'm the same, work clothes and weekend clothes are very different, however last year i tried to make the commitment of introducing more weekend clothes to my work days and i felt my mood shift instantly. hopefully you can find the space to bring them out into your life, we all deserve to feel good

[@bulletproofhappiness1111]

same for me! i have a huge collection of high heals and beautiful dresses and most days -I walk running errands in jeans and sneakers 😢

[@ritastutler1470]

Yes I started buying for my real life..lol

[@chereyldamour3633]

The lavender sweater paired with navy instead of black and a silk scarf tied French style would look beautiful on you.

[@katieguinn1612]

I think the lavender with dark green would also be gorgeous and I know you like dark green. Sometimes I think black can be to stark for some of those lighter colors and a slightly softer dark color works better.

[@AsyaTikk]

Or lavender with a deeper brown. Notice how it pops against the color of the brown belt that Audrey's wearing! I think there are still ways to style it, it just doesn't go with black

[@anne3067]

The lavender sweater would look beautiful on you with winter white or with dark brown. I wouldn’t wear it with black either.

[@carooka8210]

I think that even if she would pair it with another garment, she still wouldn’t like to wear it because she said that she liked more magenta(ish) colors on her (sorry if my English is not perfect it’s not my mother tongue)

[@sannastrid]

@@AsyaTikk yes or maybe a beige/tan pants. Love your idea!

[@SmidBeach]

Even though I'm pretty happy with 99% of my online purchases (including a great pair of boots), boots in general are something I've learned to try on in-person to avoid regrets. Happy new year!

[@edennis8578]

Me, too, unless they lace up. Pull-on boots are always a problem for me.

[@havana2banana]

I like to try on boots and see how comfortable they are. That blouse is gorgeous on you.

[@amandathompson7691]

The darker purple color definitely suits you better than the icy light purple. I like that you added the shot of you in your darker purple blouse right after the light purple sweater- it was very easy to see the difference in how your skin looked. Your face looked much more glowy and healthy looking in the darker maroon/purple. Interesting how much of difference colors make!

[@AlexLouiseWest]

Whereas I'm the other way round, so it was useful to see the process. You're right, colours are very important.

[@delithnutkins6017]

That lavender top looks absolutely beautiful on you don’t get rid of it

[@bridgetbadeaux3582]

I love how positive you are about these regrets. I need to be more like this

[@carmelasantana3091]

Regarding that ice-lilac sweater: Since it's absolutely perfect in every other way, I would try to wear it with a scarf in a color that suits (like burgundy). I have a wool coat in a color that's a little too light for me (lavender)- I style it with strong, deep-colored wool scarves (burgundy, deep bright blue, golden rod) and it works. My biggest clothing regrets had to do with silhouettes that were ultimately unflattering on my body.

[@mykarma4345]

Don't know if it's pure or not so u can do this or not. We have professional dyers who can dye it magenta if its pure.

[@kimmaguire3621]

I have also had to come to terms that I don’t love linen for the same reasons. What’s good for other people, not always good for me. I determined this summer that I prefer crisp poplin cottons and should generally avoid linen. All beautiful pieces in this video but I can see why you are moving on.

[@NYEmma]

Of course, the most important thing is how you feel in a piece of clothing, but I actually thought the linen dress was nice on you. I was thinking of pairing it with sandals, though.

[@KMartha22]

That lavender sweater is soooo beautiful

[@michelebrotman5345]

Why not wear with white pants. Personally , I think it is much more flattering than the brown sweater you are wearing. Also, I don't get the holes on the lower half of the sleeves?

[@aldonastraczek]

If you love the fit and cut but not the colour, just dye the items. Loooove the boots!!

[@Robin-no8cu]

Try the sweater with grey, cream, brown and green; I think you have many of those in your wardrobe. They are softer and a better balance than black.

[@carrietwickler3157]

4 items of regrets are not alot of mistakes.🙂

[@musicangeltx]

I reluctantly accepted several years ago that I just grew out of the small puffer sleeves. So, I have learned that no matter how adorable certain pieces are, just DON'T buy them...haha

[@hijlaa]

I have a few regrets over items that no longer suit my style, which is fine because style does change over time. One thing I have regretted though are not being strict enough in fabric composition and sizing. Thinking a pair of jeans will fit better if I just amp up my workout routine is NOT a good reason to keep an item

[@nyokabrown2957]

That sweater is pretty and would probably work better with white vs black. Maybe something you can wear in early spring. Gray is another option.

[@anniemazariegos621]

Thank you, really good advice, I have never go around my closet at the end of the year and analyze what works for my style and style life, will be doing it. Happy new year.

[@bri7014]

I think cropped shirts look strange on mature women

[@Puglover130]

Audrey- that lavender sweater looked like a million bucks. While I can agree it probably isn’t the most flattering colour for your skin tone or customary colour for your wardrobe, I still think you should reconsider, for these reasons. 1. You love it 2. It looks fancy & stylish 3. Easy to pair with your usual color story 4. It’s a very special and striking look. The details, the ribbing, the semi balloon sleeve. Gorgeous. 5. While lavender is a little cool for you, I feel like there’s something to be said for not being 100% hung up on a wardrobe color story. Sure, you look best in warm earth tones and dark rich jewel tones, but lavender is very “now” and it’s also nice to mix things up a little and add a little je ne sais quoi instead of being same-same 6. Have you considered adding a scarf or necklace close to your neckline to bring warmth or neutrality to the piece while making you feel more comfortable about the colour choice? What about a black and resin amethyst chunky fashion necklace? Or a champagne/ amethyst/ black scarf? I just. Love that top lol I love thé blouse too but knowing you also have it in white makes it feel more okay that you are culling it. You’re right: the details are fantastic and girlie but combined with the girlie print it is almost too much, somehow.

[@lovepilie]

Dear Audrey, I feel like you can give this dress a second chance! In my mind, the problem is not the neckline at all (I'm a short torso club member too lol), but the length. I feel like it would really work if it was cut a few centimeteres above the knee !

[@plumblossomed]

Agreed. I find that with that length, the linen fabric, and in that beige color it just looks like a shift or undergarment that should go under something else. I would dye it black, and hem it above the knee and I think it would fix almost all the problems with it.

[@knikki2u]

My (unimportant) opinion: I like the color. I’d pair it with gold jewelry. I’d hem the dress to right around knee-length. I think above (my favorite) or right below would work. A wide hem (2”+) might be really cool and add subtle interest. If below the knee, I’d wear it with brown leather heeled sandals - even slightly chunky ones might work. If above the knee, minimalist brown slide flat leather sandals. I think most browns would work - from honey to whiskey to chocolate. Definitely no ballerina flats. No suede. No closed-toed shoes. I’d avoid black (and I usually love black). I’m also not ever a fan of espadrilles, but that’s just me.

[@amandahorton6826]

Yes it’s far too long, that really caught my eye too.

[@susanwexler6983]

A suggestion: Wear a structured shirt over the top of the dress, treating the dress like a skirt., maybe tying it at the waist. When it's cooler, you could wear a lightweight pullover over it. Like others said, shorten it. If it still doesn't work, it may be time to get rid of it. When I have to fuss too much to get something to work, it's not worth it.

[@NYEmma]

This is a huge mistake I have been making and I have vowed to do better this year. Since I buy most of my clothes online I always make sure I try them on as soon as they arrive so I can return the failures. However, apparently I am not being strict enough in my original judgment. They some times hang in the closet for weeks or months before the time comes to wear them. I then put them on and wonder what I was thinking when I decided they were good enough to keep. I can then see they don't fit correctly or are"off" in some way. I need to be more judgmental when they arrive.

[@janderson2366]

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[@irairod5160]

I feel your pain. I purchased a pair of taupe knee-length boots from a brand I have many pairs of. This was almost 3 years ago, when we were still in lockdown and not dressing up to go out anywhere, so they stayed in the closet, untouched, ever since. Last week, since the weather has cooled down enough, I decided it was time to take my "new" boots out for a spin. THEY. DO. NOT. FIT. Even with the thinnest socks, my foot is cramped inside. It is so bad that I looked to see if I had ordered the wrong size, but no, they are the same size as the exact same boot (brand and style) I have in black and in cognac. I then tried those older boots again, thinking that perhaps my feet had widened, but that wasn't the problem either. These new boots are supposed to be "the same" but are made differently. I'm going to have to gift them because there's no way I can wear them---my mistake for not trying them when they arrived in the mail!

[@amandathompson7691]

@@irairod5160 that is very disappointing! I have noticed that different colors of the same brand and style can fit differently. I had a pair of cream leather heels that I had to sell when the black leather in the same style fit much better. I wonder if it has to do with the dying process? Jeans are like that for me also

[@anneotherday]

I relate to this so much! The regret of realizing you should’ve just gotten your money back and now have brand new items that most likely will go straight to donation is an awful feeling. I need to stop procrastinating on driving to the store/shipping returns too because those dates sneak up on you lol

[@karenrader2160]

I have done this too, many times. How do we avoid it??

[@KeGy67]

Dear Audry, in case of the lavender pullover I do not think the color is the problem, but the round neck line is. This round shape looks a kind of old fashioned and does not fit to your body shape. A turtle neck or better straight neck line would please your shoulders more and the color combines very well with your hair and eyes.

[@jelenamarcelic5228]

I also have some clothes ( shoes ) I regrett buying. Mostly because I buy without thinking or because it's on sale and looks good enough. I learned my lesson ( hope so 😆 ) and think twice before buying. Your chanel and advices helped me a lot, so thank you! By the way, those boots look great!😊

[@melocoton7]

About 99% of what I buy is online. But only from shops where I can return. I’ve reduced closet skeletons by trying on new things with as many existing items as possible. And to do it over several days. Moods change and once the love goggles wear off you can be more objective and focus on the negatives. The problem with your dress, imo, is the color. It’s already very simple. The boring beige makes it extremely bland. You could either shorten it or/and dye it a darker olive. Style with brown and gold. I think it’s salvageable.

[@victorialester1634]

Are you kidding me?! That dress looks absolutely beautiful on you! Invest in some fashion tape so you don’t have to worry about bending over

[@alinam8854]

That purple color styles really well with the grey wash jeans or white. I'd agree though that it's not the best on you, makes your complexion look a touch too yellow

[@dessieohler]

Great content. I would wear the purple sweater with your hunter green pants. Try it!

[@salala4412]

Wear the lavender sweater with a pearl necklace and with something in navy blue. Also you could wear it with a white blouse under it or with a silk scarf.

[@conniepleasantnails]

I really can relate to these decisions. Years ago I had a beautiful pair of lavender pumps (when I used to wear pumps) that were suede & leather. 🙄 I realized I loved the color but literally only wore them twice. They just didn’t work in my wardrobe. Last year I bought one blouse in 3 colors (double 🙄🙄) I always reached for the creamy beige blouse and not the colors…😂. I have also recently learned not to add a color to black pants. Like red top/black pants. For me it just kills the color. The one colorful look I am willing to try is a fuchsia top with red pants, well maybe one day. I love both colors ❤️💕. I really like your boots but I know exactly what you’re feeling about them. There’s a solid look to them, maybe a small printed longer dress and a softer coat, or a pair of tights and your black mini 🤔. I too live in Hades so I need to constantly be on the lookout for the right dresses for the hot season which lasts 6 months here. 🥵 Oh wait maybe your boots would work with your wide leg dark wash 👖 jeans. The almond toe would like nice on the side profile with those jeans.

[@AnkaMara7940]

My regretful buyings taught me to buy less, in fact, only if it is a wooow and if the item (and colour, too) suits me well

[@angiezeng]

My most regrettable purchases are definitely ill-fitting pants I didn’t bother to return 😟, blazers that are either too oversized or too fitted 🤦🏻‍♀️, a icy pale blue T shirt (that now belongs to my mom), and a purple cardigan I just shake my head at every time I see it. Fortunately most of those mistakes were made in 2021. 😅

[@LizanneL]

Hello, I've been enjoying your channel and your insights have been helpful. I appreciate the discernment you put towards your wardrobe and clothing in general. I used to pay closer attention to my wardrobe, but that shifted after moving, changing jobs, having a child, and other life events. I'm trying to develop that skill again, and your keen eye is helpful in that process. Thank you, and may all your purchases be winners in 2023!

[@mathewbeena7572]

Audrey your mesmerizing voice accompanies my meal times. Your elaborate yet precise choice of expressions are so immaculate just like your well curated closet You are the nightingale in the fashion based you tubers. Sending lots of love from India

[@beautybydez]

I did exactly the same thing with a lilac jumper! I wanted to bring some colour into my wardrobe, but a crewneck lilac on my olive-y skin just didn't work. Thanks for showing an alternative - and really great tips to consider on how not to make the same mistakes again.

[@mariecampbell3324]

My sister and I ask eachother, “is it too “milk the cow”??

[@catherinem.g.8845]

I am much older and have learned also the hard way- when a neckline is too low and having it altered would change the bust line too much, regardless of anything else, back it must go. Sometimes when I buy 2 of the same tops like you said you did with the Doen, usually 1 works out great & the other doesn't, so this happens. Maybe try a detailed collared shirt under the lavender sweater to help add a color that works better for you? Or a dickie? As for the boots, very good lesson going forward and the only way to have learned that was to play around with them. I've been there with similar issues w/all these. It's great you are learning and are so aware. LOVE your channel!

[@purpurina5663]

Hi Audrey, I believe that sweater could work over a white blouse (or even the magenta purple one you showed!), with just the collar peeping out. Makes a world of difference, and with grey jeans and a rich brown belt it could be perfect! I completely understand your frustration with the boots -I believe the height is the biggest issue, as they probably hit right below the widest part of the calf. Maybe with a miniskirt and black tights?