THINGS I WOULD TELL MY YOUNGER SELF W/ SPECIAL GUEST AMBER RILEY (EP. 41)

[@sparkwill5337]

Without getting too deep Amber Riley was the perfect person to bring on the show. I’m sure you all had a number of choices but y’all chose perfectly. This is why I love this podcast. Representation matters 🥃

[@eighthlab2383]

"be with someone that is healed" A WORD!!!!

[@robzzzzzz1]

The biggest thing I took away from this is CREATE WELLNESS! It’s sooo needed .. people don’t realize that the body has certain requirements to thrive and what you eat watch and drink affects your mind The body needs to be taken care of

[@Msladyrae92]

Sad to hear of the engagement break off but Ms. Amber has so many great things coming. She is glowing up so brightly. Thank you for sharing, you’re so inspiring.

[@lotuslovequeen]

“I love black men.” Yassss girl! Say that!! lol

[@BigFloyd100]

my wife approached me. I love her so much and am thankful for her.

[@vernonhayes7341]

she was dropping some GEMS. The change of perspective was great

[@seeingmyselfclearly5368]

i love AMBER!!!

[@fraydough23]

I just wanna say that I appreciate you guys being great role models for younger men like myself who are still growing and still learning and trying to be the best version of themselves. 💯

[@novaleeramos2784]

Love this episode! She needs to come back for a simular episode. Amber speaks so well.

[@roea7846]

Thank you for this interview. The transparency and vulnerability from Amber were felt.

[@lakeshagustave4048]

Madame why are you telling people about me like that😩but Amber has nailed it, “black women we choose everyone before ourselves” And it’s really hard us to not let our caregiver of a self to not be activated in every and any relationship or partnership we go into.

[@forwardmotion216]

She speaks so well….very refreshing to see! Great interview guys!

[@WhoIsTheeMeister]

I am IN LOVE with the way God works through yall! Everything, every moment, every detail, every guest, every angle, every smile, every gesture is perfected and orchestrated by God! I’ve never heard of this woman and 9:54 in she’s helped me understand my God’s calling deeper and more clearly! I had to watch a clip of her dancing and that helped me understand myself more! I’m excited to discuss these things with you all when I come on your show 💓

[@jvhunt6319]

She said she had to “create wellness”… Thats a word.

[@ambergant6058]

Great interview! Amber is super down to earth and dropped some great gems.

[@keria1724]

Love this 😩🙌🏾 please have Amber back on the show again

[@tmccrystal]

Jalon been spittin’ lately. From this episode to the last, to the one before that!! Loved the thing about letting people be people. I’m so critical off top so this resonates

[@lotuslovequeen]

Yassss we got a guest! Okay period!

[@jashonprophete9345]

24:16 when she said this I swear it hit home!!

[@forwardmotion216]

SIDENOTE: I think her and Jalon would be adorable together…I love how he speaks about her and his appreciation towards her….

[@queenqueen1053]

For me I’m hesitant about approaching a man because 1. Embarrassed if I’m rejected 2. I feel if i initiate it he’s expect me to carry it on 3. Fear of showing interested and being taken advantage of

[@lakeshagustave4048]

Yesss that’s so true….I’ve had 3 happen often but with 1 I tend to approach and then tell them they’re going to reject me straight up. 2 is something that’s just apart of my daily life.

[@NicE32E]

LOVE the ladies you have had as guests lately!!!!!!!!

[@DaijahChanel]

Yesssssss I loveeeesssss a PLUS SIZE black Woman paving the way for me and others alike ‼️‼️🥰🥰🥰 BGE 4L

[@faithdestiny2001]

Loved that Amber was brought on the show!!

[@cecelyn790]

Just searched Amber and this podcast popped up, I definitely subscribed! Great conversation

[@RL-kr9md]

1. Great episode!!! Loved this. 2. As someone who is from the south and raised on men courting women and making that first move I used to think that way. I now don’t mind approaching a man and letting him know my interest and this depends on the environment as well. I don’t fear rejection because just as every man isn’t my cup of tea, I might not be theirs. I practice perfecting my boundaries in every aspect of my life and voicing intentions. My approach will never be WRONG or too STRONG for the RIGHT one.

[@marciamcclain7198]

I’m a more older women and the words Amber spoke I Am Beautiful because……was a drop the mic moment… Younger ladies and older ladies these words are powerfull………

[@Tyler-cw6se]

My guys not playing this season with the topics! 🔥🔥🔥🔥

[@destinyisyours]

Thank you! Thank you so much for this!! I really needed this more than you know. This podcast has done great things for me and I am forever grateful.

[@beantownzfinest1247]

This was my first time watching your podcast & I subscribed half-way through! This was a great interview & you all did a fantastic job with the questions you asked. Amber is just incredible & the more I hear from her, the more of a fan I become. What she spoke about resonated with me on so many levels & gave me insight into how to finally address things I personally struggle with. Please let her know that she is helping so many black women, just by speaking her truth & sharing her journey. I'd love to see more of her on your show in the future!

[@dyvenotbeaublanc4127]

This was dope. Every episodes are dope asl!

[@ANGEL-ne6ue]

#1 Podcast in Cali!!!!

[@tyjohnson1765]

Very needed! So on time! Thank Y’all.

[@ItsEgyptB]

I am a living human breed and I deserve to tell myself that!! That’s it!

[@charliahstarks1071]

She’s amazing 🥰 such a beautiful soul I relate with the anxiety and her when it comes to approaching, I’ve approached few men but the ones I did approach….. let’s just say if I didn’t make the plans then we weren’t going anywhere. Just know what your getting yourself into.

[@cj10109]

Love Amber! She’s so talented 👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@lotuslovequeen]

Great episode guys. Lots of things were reinforced for me personally and it was nice to hear that I’m not alone and not on the wrong path. 👌🏾

[@cierraripnikki2011]

Amber Riley U are a MOOD N VIBE

[@TheIDK95]

I don’t approach men because I feel the type of man I want is going to approach me. I will set up the play like Duke said though. Lol As far as giving him the cues to let him know it’s cool if he did approach. I just like when a man approaches me. An assertive man. And I have a bandaid on my finger too from a broken nail. Loved the episode guys. And I love Amber. 💚😌

[@princeton.mp3]

Loved this episode and what Amber Riley added ❤️‍🔥

[@amari6117]

This was so beneficial I get so much out of this podcast!

[@ItsBritttney]

I love Amber and this episode! I need details on Amber’s shoes tho?!!🔥

[@jasmyneperryman9629]

I'm a huge huge huge fan of amber riley love this

[@comeclowe]

I love this intro song omg at the day you guys change it, please don’t 😂❤

[@theatricaldiva3028]

Such a great episode, you guys now have a new subscriber. Hello from London 🥰

[@MightyIntellectual]

And that song is literally FIREEEE haha

[@EnjoyOverEverything]

Fire convo y’all. Been watching y’all for a min keep up the great work.

[@Keisxi]

This was soo helpful .. thank y’all

[@kay2633]

Approaching men makes it difficult to gauge if they are truly ready for partnership. I prefer men to approach me, because it allows me to read their intentions more clearly.

[@MightyIntellectual]

energyyyyyyy in the intro lol i love it :)

[@byronmyers5480]

cool interview

[@Wholisticbohoo]

the show is absolutely my most fav and the intro always gets me FOR REAL,All love💯💯

[@amandacarr3929]

Fantastic episode!

[@47Sylvia1]

I really enjoyed your podcast!

[@dyeshiamonet1788]

I don't approach men, but unfortunately I also have trouble showing interest back (or flirting). I agree that at times if women are the approacher, you may find yourself w/ someone who doesn't initiate anything. So I like to let men take the lead w/ that especially since men have more control over that space, it lets me know as a woman that you actually like (pick) me🤷🏾‍♀️

[@bongekamasango6796]

Love the podcast! Amber was a great guest. Can I ask that you make your audio a little louder? I like to listen to you guys whilst I clean my apartment but I actually can't hear you if I'm not super close to my computer, and I've already put my volume all the way up. Otherwise great content, I love the dynamic you three have ✨

[@briamcgee2379]

I typically don't approach men because in this days society it almost feels as if the men want us to do all of the work. I like the old school vibes for sure. Show me that chivalry isn't dead and take that first step.

[@comeclowe]

Shoutout to the shameless plug. I’ve watched almost majority of the episodes posted and didn’t realize it wasn’t subscribed. ✅

[@lotuslovequeen]

I was shol gone ask about the bandaids lol

[@babygirl4949]

I love me some amber!

[@naketia83]

Great episode guys and Amber! (RESPECT) I don’t approach men b/c all of my friends are beautiful and I’ve never seen them go after a guy. Guys always go for what they really want when we’re out. I want to be desired the same. It’s not the same as a skinny or slim thick chick that’s approaching,. We risk the possibility that the man may not even like BBW’s (& that’s ok) but that attempt can go sideways quick if he’s disrespectful and idc what anyone say that’s hurtful to a plus size woman.There’s also a stigma like Amber said they don’t think we have options b/c we do! She failed to mention that a lot of them are closet BBW LOVERS and that’s unattractive once we realize that. B/C if a woman is really desired in that way there’d be no “ROSTER” and the relationship (mutual connection) would go somewhere if it right. My opinion! I give signals, compliments and eye contact… that’s me shooting my shot.

[@LaKae444]

Ohhh this should be guud.

[@SuccessfulShay]

I’ve never had the opportunity to approach a man. I’m not opposed to it but I’m soo in my head about being rejected I haven’t 😅 (but it shouldn’t matter) If you’re interested in him, I see nothing wrong with communicating that. I’m sure men wouldn’t mind a woman speaking up first.

[@kimberlyjowers4525]

I don’t like approaching men because I feel like they look at you a certain way even if they are attracted to you. I won’t say thirsty but I’ll say wide open.

[@kimberlyjowers4525]

@@BrittbyBit ahh man. Sorry to hear that. It can be tricky approaching men even though some men say they are open to it. I think they subconsciously prefer to approach the woman rather than the latter.

[@AJS0214]

Honestly I don't approach men is because I'm scared of rejection. Like what if I'm not his type? I know its a confidence thing I have to work on..

[@jasmyneperryman9629]

I dont approach men because I'm afraid of coming off too aggressive/ masculine I'm afraid of stepping outside my femininity I guess when it comes to approaching men I'm interested in

[@Hawks514_]

understood! but there are nice and feminine ways to go about this!

[@jasmyneperryman9629]

@@Hawks514_ yes I agree

[@okikioluwakitansokoya8010]

I won’t approach a man I really like, but I could approach a man I’m merely attracted to. Men don’t necessarily love or hate it when women approach them but it gives “thirsty” on some levels. And honestly, the kind of men I like tend to be the ones to approach the women they like. If they don’t approach me, or at least express a similar level interest in me, imma keep it pushin😊

[@naynayhi93]

Answering the quetion of why, it's definitely I don't want to be taken advantage of and if a man wants you he will truly pursue it, I've seen it, so I'm not gonna keep dropping hints where there's no feedback. I do set myself up to be pursued though. You will know there's some interest.

[@novaleeramos2784]

I have approached men before but its like Amber said, just to show interest but I still prefer for the man to take some leadership shortly after

[@tierrasardine562]

Well *Iz married now* 😂👋🏽BUT approaching has always been one of those , vibes things. Some men have came off intimidating & uninterested , then admitting they actually wanted to approach but the time or place did not fit their ideal space. I’ve approached , I actually approached my husband on deployment but in the “ooo I like those shades” type…now look 👀🙏🏽 5 years later lol

[@priscillaanderson4358]

I don't approach men often as I'm old school where I like to be chased by a man, it provides the opportunity to play and flirt, as Amber mentioned. However, if I see something I want, I'll make the move cause energy doesn't lie. He won't mind if I do, gently, soft and lady like tho!

[@faithemari]

If I choose not to approach a man it is because I find a smooth alpha male very attractive. Someone who is not afraid to let you know he is interested in you and can communicate that in a sexy way is admirable. I am not against playing the flirting game. Let's play tennis :) but the arrogance in expecting women to gawk over you because you are a conventionally attractive man is a turn off to me. Also if you lack the confidence to make any moves at all, even if it isn't the first one, shows me that my strong personality may overpower yours in the relationship, forcing me to lead.

[@ifeomaonyeagocha1481]

When you approach a man you are kinda of seen as invested and responsible for the outcome! I prefer for a man to take that responsibility

[@roshaewilson7950]

FEAR of rejection; Fear of him using me before he ghosts

[@kaebell3563]

I highly doubt I would ever approach a man , I’m from Louisiana & alot of our dads instilled those old school values in us … I simply do not find it attractive when a man doesn’t take the initiative. A man will always go for what he wants …

[@eezus9452]

So should a woman

[@lakeshagustave4048]

I don’t approach men because they seem intimidated by the way I do their role but when they approach me I tend to challenge them maybe a bit to much. Like sir I need to know if you’re truly interested in me or making a move to smash then pass

[@ambercharmayne]

I probably have approached a man before & I do b flirting hard core sometimes. I've never really been turned down but I think that's because off the physical I don't think I would b turned down for sex but it's another thing 4 them to want something serious and that's y I wouldn't really want to approach a man. I feel like if he approaches me it's more likely hood it could b because he's actually interested in general. Vs me approaching & him feeling like he already n and skip to sum sex. Also the guys I really really like always make me nervous. Which I'm kinda feeling like that means they aren't for me cause the person that was for me should make me comfortable. & if a guy was really interested in me that would b his goal so if the guys in interested in aren't trying to make me comfortable because they don't care to.

[@jahsiahthomas618]

🥃🥃🥃

[@bevyy_a]

I don’t wanna look thirsty! I also I want to lose my sense of femininity in having to lead a man. Them tha rules.

[@faithharris2982]

I don't approach men bc men go for what they want. If they don't approach me, it's because they don't want me... I'm not wrong, right?

[@abbymutiganzi3990]

Honestly, I dont approach men because women are always looked at as thirsty to do so. I've shot my shot about 3 times and airballed like a mug! so then I decided to just let them come to me lol. I realized then that guys prefer the chase, it seemed like every time I take charge in asking a guy out, they get a bit uninterested

[@rosemarygood7684]

Noooo shade but Duke did not start the shoulders!! That was all Jalón c’mon na!!!!