WHY EVERYONE SUCKS AT DATING. (EP. 50)

[@BrittbyBit]

Lori is progressive. Future comes with multiple baby mothers and doesn't care about all the broken homes he created (hence part of the toxicity). Comparing future and Lori is like comparing apples to sneakers.

[@LexCATL]

Yea I’m surprised they barely mentioned that. Duke slightly brought it up, but they didn’t explicitly give that comparison haha

[@kalami2010]

I don’t see anything toxic about Lori Harvey…she’s literally just dating like anyone else. People are just in her business and making A LOT of assumptions because she doesn’t talk.

[@saidasavage]

AMEN

[@christiannatai98]

Agreed, people just can’t stand to see women being highly selective and disposing of those who don’t align 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@courtniecoleman5304]

We definitely need a Know For Sure and Nice & Neat Collab. I think the conversation would be amazing!!

[@RebeccaRenae]

We most definitely do !!!!!!!!!

[@LaKae444]

Duke said a WORD about lazy dating!! It’s partially our fault though for not requiring more. Great discussion kings 🥃🥃🥃🥃🥃🥃

[@MendWithMenda]

“I have everything that I want except the things that I want “ !!!!! I felt this accountability is everything because without it there’s no change

[@trulydorcas]

I like this convo with Lori Harvey, I think she can date for whatever reason she wants.. Toxic to me implies lying, cheating, verbally abusive etc.. . I think a lot of women are told if you date multiple men or leave a relationship, ‘you’ll never find better and you’re a h*e’.. She’s 25, enjoying her Life, never speaks negatively about her exes, and looks beautiful doing it.. Doesn’t drag out a relationship when it’s over just for perception or shame.. Definitely some qualities everyone could take from that philosophy.. . Love the convo ❤️

[@teandraclarke3749]

LightSkin Keisha would be awesome. She's so level headed and I love her take on relationships.

[@devineelegance84]

I really enjoy listening to you guys perspective. It's refreshing to hear young men with such character. I am older with not much experience in the dating world bc I married young and was married 23 years. I've been single 6 years and I'm sad that dating is so difficult. I'm Ole school and I value connection so online dating doesn't work for me. Your show helps me understand that I'm not alone and understanding myself as a single woman and adjusting to the climate that society has created. Thanks again for investing in our community. Respectfully

[@GypsyEyes27]

I think this is a great topic to start a conversation but I don’t think Lori is neither toxic nor progressive, I think she’s a young lady in her 20’s dating in public with no need to settle down. She’s said publicly she’s finding herself. As Wendy Williams would say “ in your 20’s, date them all” until you learn what you like. Glad you guys are back, y’all on here talking that talk! 🔥

[@sparkwill5337]

It’s becoming difficult to know who ACTUALLY likes you, nowadays. Guys will just talk to you just to kill time, while they juggle other women

[@ImPerfectlyTwitta]

YUP. Girls too.

[@LaKae444]

Ohhh that’s a word!!

[@sparkwill5337]

@@ImPerfectlyTwitta that’s wack af, either way. I don’t see how people can even sleep at night knowing that they are actively toying with people. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@kadeijadalrymple137]

Facts

[@KillaCam2534]

Women do the same. Just had someone waste my time about a month ago…shit crazy

[@comeclowe]

It takes such a blow to my ego to say, "I NEED MENTORSHIP LIKE THIS FROM MEN" but my emotional space needs this. Great King Talk..

[@Kaye.Nicole]

10 minutes in and I already know this is going to be a good convo.....Keep up the good work guys. Duke has such a good head on his shoulders and perspective.

[@BellaFierce]

I would love to see Shan Boody from lovers and friends podcast and B. Simone and Megan from the know for sure podcast on here. The convo would be amazinggg

[@itsskrystall]

Agreed, Shan Boody would be amazing

[@15Asialuvsu015]

Omggg yes love this idea

[@RareAr]

Intentionality has been my mantra for the past year. I’ve fallen into my relationships byway of situationships and didn’t really even know the person well. Doing the self work now so I can use better discernment. ✨

[@theshawnrosa3994]

You brothers have no idea how much I needed this video. In a past relationship my ego would be hurt instead of me taking it as constructive critics. I found myself going crazy in situations that should have made me laugh. I'm going to be slower in relationships, dating and ask my partner what I can do better once in a while. This vid is golden!

[@anniellechristina8]

Definitely need to do a Know for Sure x Nice and Neat collab!! 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾 Loved, loved, loved this episode!

[@CarmaniDenae]

For sureeee! ❤

[@dennesaaa]

Yes we are out here looking for love! Lol. Progression is always the end goal. If someone is showing you that they are not willing to step up to the plate and make the necessary changes first for themselves, and then the relationship.. There's nothing wrong with walking away 🤷🏾‍♀ No matter who it is. Better will come once you know you deserve it. Always look forward to these episodes & I'm happy to see y'all doing great 🙏🏾💕🥃

[@canvasanderth]

You done said a word!! This is exactly where I am at. I'm out here looking but I've been meeting men that are not matching my worth. So, I've been doing a lot of walking away and I feel so proud of myself.

[@jasturner1]

Fact check: The woman who was in the car accident was actuallyproven to not be drinking, or having an argument with her boyfriend. She was a nurse and was asked to leave by the hospital for having a mental breakdown during her shift. Still enjoyed the episode!

[@NiceAndNeatThePodcast]

Thank you! 🥃🥃🥃

[@lwhite474]

Yeah me too next relationship I’m going to take my time to know the person and develop a friendship first!!!

[@MercadezMichelle]

I’m with Omar she isn’t toxic for her to date to find her person. People fail to realize she was in a long term relationship really young and was almost married. Something happened that made her realize she shouldn’t settle and that is ok. The whole narrative of being toxic is loosely used these days. Future is considered toxic for making babies in different households same thing Nick is doing not necessarily dating!

[@FoxyGoddess_]

yess... the ladies (this lady) of nice and neat is looking for love, but more so looking to perfect the type of love i can and will give to my future man. which is why this podcast, from three men's perspective, is SO important. so much value.

[@Delonta1221]

on a weekly/bi weekly basis I do the checking with my best friend (a dude) and my girl (emotionally, physically, mentally, talk about money, goals, etc.) so it’s good to see that that’s a new practice other ppl do with their inner circles as well

[@amberabracadabra]

@ 42:20 … that quote! I too feel this way, I’m not sure if I met the man of my dreams but for me it is necessary to take care of areas where I feel I may come up short before going into a serious relationship or even dating intentionally.

[@coachchauntea5222]

This half-time topic is spicy! lol Shout out to Omar, because I believe he has a better understanding of what dating entails. We have to remember that Lori is about 25 years old and she's at the height of her career. She may be looking for love, but since she's successful at such a young age, her needs may be different than the average woman. We don't know what happened with her in her last relationship, but we haven't seen her out and about with a new man, so comparing her to Future, who has like 8 kids with 8 different women is very sexist! Leaving relationships that aren't serving you anymore is progressive, and many more women should do the same. Glad you guys are back :)

[@MizzAsiaMonique]

Yes Live Q&A Tour so I can see y’all in ATL

[@alexalugas1945]

Y’all gotta have all 3 of your significant others on for the ladies!

[@roea7846]

I love this podcast. Thank you gentlemen for great topics like this and giving a thoughtful and calm opinion based on your experience and the experience of others. You guys really are Nice and Neat.

[@badgyaltiaa]

Great content and great questions. I love that you guys really think about what you’re saying before you say it. Also happy to hear more from Jalon in this episode. I try to click on the ads when watching so y’all can get a profit, keep up the good work fellas‼️👏🏿👏🏿

[@Loulou123_]

That was a bar 🔥🔥 “we are doing the bare minimum to get the maximum out of the next person” -Duke

[@miyakemp106]

I would like to see B.Simone and her best friend come on the show!

[@comeclowe]

Lets GO OMAR! WE MOVE TOO FAST. Forever is a long-term game.

[@BellaFierce]

NICE AND NEAT!!!!! This is dopeee guys. I listen to every single episode. Keep.it up!!!

[@Thegiftofkay]

Any mission without a goal don’t make sense! 💎💎💎

[@tiabranch680]

KFS , know for sure! Get the ladies on there!

[@kierabutler7055]

You guys should have Shan Booty on the show! I think that would be so dope!

[@Snicklez89]

I would LOVE to see y’all have Shan Boody, both Bridget and Mandi from “see the thing is” podcast, and y’all at some point HAVE to get Jessie Woo on here fam.

[@jazzyj904]

I love Shan!! She’s been doing this for a super long time and dating, sex, and relationships is her realm. I would love for them to bring her on for a sex convo because it would be fun and educational. TBH they should be on her podcast as well.

[@marybutidk]

I’m lookin for love and my good brother in the middle w the locs, said 👏🏽 the 👏🏽truth👏🏽👏🏽!! I just started watching so I’m learning yalls names, please forgive me 🙏🏽💕😬 but Lori is just dating. She’s not out here sliding and having babies like future. That’s what makes him toxic. Plus he’s older than her and still not tryin to settle down w anyone (so they say! Lol) Really loving this episode so far…

[@dyvenotbeaublanc4127]

Welcome back fellas!! Great episode. Every episode tops the other

[@ChaoticWhiteHouse]

I would like to see y’all Collab with #KnowForsure Podcast

[@GG7GodsGrace]

I love it here. The dating pool is scary. I only know to let God lead me cause I’ll make mistakes that I can avoid without him.

[@KevonnaMosWanted]

A collaboration with Know For Sure podcast would be so interesting!!

[@jdrterio]

I think Future is looked at as toxic because he’s having kids with some of these ladies and then leaving! Lori is just dating.

[@doseofLouie]

Personally I would like to see your partners on the show

[@belledelemos9615]

Such amazing episode, the narrative is so profound and mind blowing and, a whole of food for thought… 🙌🏾

[@yulnikita]

I think it's misogynistic to even ask if what Lori Harvey is doing is toxic. She's a young woman and dating around. That's it. How can she be compared to Future who has created 9 broken homes and counting? "If she's just dating and doing it because it's fun and she's young, I think that's toxic" how could that be considered toxic? 😂

[@faithdestiny2001]

Exactly

[@TheMaya712]

Duke & his dance moves are unmatched lmao.

[@Janine84]

A collab with the ladies from Know For Sure podcast would be great (B.Simone and Megan)

[@xoxogabrielle8005]

Lori just did an interview with Teyana Taylor about this. She’s dating for love but she stated who she wanted when she was 23 isn’t who she wants when she’s 24. She can’t live her life based on who she’s “influencing”

[@swagQue]

Great episode I’m really reflecting on myself and I’m tryna hold myself accountable for my actions and words 💯

[@comeclowe]

Tagging myself ✨🙌🏾✅

[@kdarkwa06]

This was such a powerful episode with a lot of key takeaways🙏🏾

[@tiyanaf]

In regard to the open Q&A.. Y’all should allow a segment where people can call in and ask questions

[@iealeanjohnson7731]

Most definitely a live Q&A would be awesome.

[@tringo2081]

I would also like to see Lip Service with Angela yee on the show

[@yvonnekennedy8458]

Love the perspectives on this episode. Would love to see quotes from your previous episodes on your merch! We need Bsimone and Meghan on nice and neat!! And also the lady whose tweet Jalon referred to.

[@tanaishahill202]

B.Simone & Meg on nice & neat!!!

[@marcuswilliams9964]

I’d love to see y’all interview Tabitha Brown!

[@portiathobekamsomi1555]

"Is this hurting me or my ego." That was my biggest take away, damn i hve to do the work. Lol

[@jerlanyruiz-alvelo6368]

Also Roxane Gay! Omg - she would be so great!!! She’s the author of Bad Feminist. Great book, I highly recommend. But she is so great and I feel like her perspective and what she has to say would be a great addition to your podcast!

[@alexb9487]

Great episode per usual. Would love to see you bring your partners back for that female energy

[@Wrldofbeautifulmusic]

This was so good!!!!! ✍🏾 and yes for the live Q and A!

[@laurianeo5395]

Congrats guys for joining revolt network !!

[@stewartalana]

Y’all could do listener questions if live QA is a big commitment. Would love to see Shan Boodram, B Simone & Megan Brooks, or even just bring Candice and Chanel back on.

[@pwelcome1976]

Man duke's point at 37:28 hit me like a two piece

[@keys8885]

They got a new camera b/c this look like a movie 🤨

[@malikabernard966]

I liked Duke’s story at 38:49. Solid point made 👍🏽

[@JoUwineza]

I’m so glad you guys are back🤗🥰

[@mondytelfort4709]

​ @Jessie Woo deserves an invitation!

[@JustALittleAsh]

I’m happy to see y’all back

[@janahamilton3]

I’d be interested in hearing all speak to Tony Gaskins, he has a lot of content on dating etc.

[@cemeciam.4019]

Yes, TG would be a good one!

[@StephanieDanielle_21]

I really think IamKiraJ would be such a great feminine touch to this podcast! I believe that was the person Jalon was speaking about when she tweeted that the guy was out of her league! I love her! She’s great with doing inner work!

[@MrJumpman0023]

I’d fly out to LA for the live Q&A, from Atlanta

[@instrinsiclove]

Unsure if it’s just me but there’s no link for the merchandise on the linktree?

[@jerlanyruiz-alvelo6368]

Omg! I would love to see Angelica Ross on your podcast. I feel they could be a new perspective and great conversations!

[@15Asialuvsu015]

B. Simone & Megan Brooks from KNOW FOR SURE Podcast ❣️🙌🏾

[@tringo2081]

I would love to see Pour Minds on the podcast and I also love the Q&A idea as well

[@aeprilsmith7834]

Shan boodram would be great to have on the show!

[@chelseawallace2843]

A sit down with Issa Rae, I’m speaking it into existence…🌸🌞🍃!

[@myriahshanice303]

Y’all should definitely have ‘Six The Goddis’ on the show!

[@LeeyahTheMuse]

I would love for y’all to sit down with Khadeen and Devale Ellis and interview them about h The success of their relationship and marriage. I love their podcast I feel like the collab would be amazing.

[@sweetcynsation]

Cynnamon Ré would be a nice addition to the nice & neat family. 😌

[@daviafenty3990]

B Simone & Megan Ashley from the Know For Sure podcast would be great guests 🫶

[@eddieg6704]

Future is toxic because of the things he says and the way he treats/openly disrepects the women he dates. Lori is just livin her life dating, while in the public eye. There's nothing toxic about dating until you find what you want

[@sweetcynsation]

I’d be so down for a Q&A but not in north Hollywood and the Valley. That’s a push lol.

[@Nat-nw2wn]

Y’all should have Love Your Natural (aka Bella Barz) on here

[@marjoriea.s.5907]

Great Episode!

[@marie_frzr]

A woman looking for love, looks like a woman dating on her own terms. If it doesn't service you , don't stay , move on. That's what Lori is doing . It's progressive.

[@cemeciam.4019]

Well said. ✨✨

[@RareAr]

Get April Mason on here!!!

[@albertontanda5413]

Issa Rae would be awesome on the show, since she’s from LA too.

[@jewelljenkins984]

Why is it “progressive“ to watch a woman date? Like Omar said if you aren’t happy leave. What’s so “toxic” about that? She’s a beautiful girl and if she wants some fine man candy on her arm… let the purse match the shoes darling! She could be dating for love but she could also be dating because she likes dating. She’s dating like other women do, we just see her on ENews. Nothing major or “progressive” about it lol

[@KeeParker_]

Bring B.Simone & Megan Ashley to the pod!!!!

[@erlinejulian9100]

Know for sure podcast

[@mylisife]

-Nice and Neat ft Know for Sure -Lightskin Keisha

[@naadiahsmith9462]

Hey ! I think you guys should invite B.Simone and Meghan . I think you guys will mesh well !

[@AshR5194]

Amirah from self care and chill with Maui would be nice female energy. Also would like another episode with the ladies in your life 🫶🏾

[@Itsdreana_]

The ladies of Lip Service would be awesome!!

[@crisstinam7489]

I would love to see Kira Rose on the show!!!

[@crystalrubbie9383]

i wanna see blue tulesma , jessie woo , bridget kelly there really good at poding

[@AngelaElikya]

I’m sorry but Jalon you lost me with the “I wouldn’t want my daughter doing that” What Lori is doing that you are so against ? as far as we know she’s dating like most women in their 20 so you wouldn’t want your daughter to date or you would want your daughter to stay in a situation just so people won’t say that she jump from man to man ?

[@LaKae444]

I’m confused like O. Calling Lori H, the female Future??? That’s grossly unequivalent!! What’s toxic about literally choosing to date WHO you want when you want? She’s not misleading anyone or leaving babies. People just don’t like that she moves unapologetically. And a lot of ppl would hang onto Michael & Future. She got OPTIONS. DEAL!

[@Rebeccaluvxoxo]

Exactly…..it made no sense

[@doseofLouie]

I don’t think he meant any harm because people do call that. They didn’t bring up future’s baby mommas which is why he is deemed toxic.