Things No One Told Us About Marriage - NdaniRealTalkS3E8

On this episode of Real Talk, Yinka Oladiran discusses expectations versus reality in marriage with Yemisi Odusanya (Sisi Yemmie), Adenike Adebayo-Esho and Banke Akinsunlola. Watch!
This one is for our married fans, what are those things you found out after you got married that got you really shook like "gosh why did no one tell me this?!!!" Feel free to share in the comments section.
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[@nitamark4924]

Who’s watching in 2020? See Trikky Tee!!

[@krissgold]

Was surprised to see him too

[@kassiespages4727]

Omo see tricky and his head. Lol. So happy to see him

[@abigaelkazeem8999]

Watching it in 2021😁

[@rydersilas6543]

instaBlaster.

[@kessa9755]

Please who noticed the waiters walking in like bodyguards in a village Nigerian film. 🤣🤣😂😂

[@m.philips3313]

Don't make me choke on my food 😂😂😂

[@adeade1712]

But why? 🙆🏾‍♂️🤣🤣🤣

[@preciousx2459]

Kesiena Nuesiri in was so confused 😂😂😂😂

[@SumBeautyAnnointing]

Kesiena Nuesiri lol

[@Ogonwa]

😂😂😂

[@ysf_cosmo]

Pick your battles, you don’t always have to fight about everything..

[@NollywoodJunkie]

Ndanitv of laive! Thanks for having me. I had a blast and watching again I'm reminded of so many important things. Lots of kisses and love.

[@abisodun]

Thank you for that last advise. Learn to bite your tongue it saves you argument, i am still learning this and will put in more effort

[@joycefolakeigbafen5143]

Baby Geh, I watched cos i saw you in it.

[@priscillaeriakha9793]

You are real.. I liked your responses..

[@TheFisayo]

Adenike O. Adebayo I enjoyed this! Nike see you talking like you have been married for 20years! Full of wisdom! 🙌🏾

[@vickieogb1262]

😍😍😍

[@Ellapinkette]

If only a married man was included in this too.

[@flourishomotola5306]

I respect the woman who spoke last on street talk.

[@TreasureChris]

Sisi yemmie spitting out knowledge!! I'm proud of you mama. I enjoyed this episode! ❤

[@FaariBySisiOpe]

Things i learnt: Bite your tongue/pick your battles wisely Joint account signifies togetherness!! I enjoyed this episode!! Yinka is as stunning as always!!

[@ayomide12345678]

This was a great talk but on the joint account issue. The smartest thing to do is keep your own separate account and also have a joint account so that all your money isn't tied up in one place.

[@merek8514]

I was just thinking the same.

[@ireneorotalks]

I wished the host asked her this. She just jumped into something else.

[@ireneorotalks]

I wished the house asked this, but she jumped to another question.

[@debbyscornertv4943]

wow i learnt a lot especially " Learn to bite your tongue and Pick your battles, you don’t always have to fight about everything"

[@mariamatchamo745]

i really like this episode....it is long and the guests were matured and on! sisi yemmie i see you. great topic. i am not married but...i i have learned from this. and from my mum

[@enya.7868]

Adenike's face @ Ahn Ahn, I went to Ghana for my honeymoon. Lol! Don't worry, Ghana is a beautiful country. My sister, abeg live within ur means. We went to Calabar. No be say I never travel after that.

[@NollywoodJunkie]

hahahaha Na soooo!

[@GracefulKnots]

I love Calabar. That's where I met my husband while we were both serving as Youth coppers in 1994. We have been married for 23 years. Obudu Cattle Ranch is a nice place there

[@purplemjay9779]

True! And that’s how I jammed my cousin on KZbin! Lol. @Enitan Awoga This is Enitan Omotola J 😜

[@Jdudette1andonly]

And Ghanaians want to travel to Mauritius for their honeymoon😂

[@imeldakodjoe5415]

Ghanaians have suffered

[@Cheryltheresa]

That has to be one of the most realistic talks about marriage I've seen in a while. Very intelligent ladies.

[@Theparentcloset]

Marriage is a process, is a journey but in baring your truth, embracing your shame don't forget that as couples you should not forget that you both are coming from different backgrounds. So it takes, communication, patience ,self control to move it.

[@elohorizevbekhai7920]

I watched because of SisiYemmie... I love her realness, I enjoyed the other guests too.

[@sesayida]

Everyday that you stay married is a accomplishment

[@rachealobiesi]

sesayida 👌

[@littleblacklawyergermanbla2008]

no

[@olaowolabi8520]

This is so wrong! It should be "every day that you stay HAPPY is an accomplishment". There's no accomplishment in bring unhappily married.

[@didiash]

you need a reset in your mentality....what about marriage makes it an accomplishment

[@vanessaakinadesola]

Banke boo. Too down to earth and sweet❤. Its because I saw her I clicked the video. Great work ethics Too. Great event planner.

[@GracefulKnots]

Nice episode. Loved watching!! Another topic is how to bring up children. We all have different approaches and ideas and often have to meet in the middle. I have been married for 23 years and my children are all grown up and now we are having to try and agree on different aspects of what we can allow them to do and what we can't. Marriage is a continuous school. It never ends

[@sergelinepierre7903]

This was a great session. My husband and I just celebrated 7 years of marriage and what you guys spoke about it is really in line with what marriage means to us.

[@sylvia9183]

This was educative and very revealing. Love how everyone gave unique examples and lessons👍🏾

[@vanessaakinadesola]

This video was very educative and informative. Thanks @Ndanitv ❤

[@thelandisgreen7499]

This was very well conducted. Just flowed. Didn’t even realize when 20 mins were up lol.

[@NguvanAgah]

One of the best real talk videos ever...they all participated equally in the discussion and engaged the audience.

[@emmanonye]

Great talk. I always look forward to 'take it to the streets'😂. the accents and gesticulations and expressions get me every time🤣. Looking forward to next week.

[@cernykun9317]

BOOM!!! Master's of Residential Services.

[@lovettejohn9730]

My dear

[@WuraManola]

One of the realest episodes I’ve watched! Great presenter and guests! Love it! Everything they said was the honest truth and for a nation that places so much pressure on getting married there needs to be more videos like these!

[@thebrownivory9670]

Wura Manola I love your channel

[@WuraManola]

The Brown Ivory auww thanks ❤️🙏🏾

[@Morrhhh]

I think this is my favorite topic...cos it's hardly discussed...people just have expectations and then when they get into the marriage and their expectations aren't met, they begin to rethink whether it was worth it.

[@honeytrionia7299]

This is wisdom in one sitting. Funny, educational and entertaining. Aunty Nike’s last word.......Learn to bite your tongue in marriage. That’s real wisdom......Kudos to you all 💕❤️💋😍

[@ChiTime]

I enjoyed watching this video. Great personality. I love their contributions

[@LaideMatthews]

Landed from IG and just as predicted..... Edutainment package as usual

[@okokonscholastica8871]

My fav people... adenike and Sisiyemi..much luv

[@thegirlchild4414]

Great talk....thanks ladies!! This Blessed me ❤️

[@damiesdiary]

Some of my favourite people !!! Let's get comfortable

[@delindawilliams3935]

I love when the lady said bite your tongue,pick your battles.

[@kerenkeziaofficial]

My favourite people! really interesting!♥️

[@TheGreenlove87]

This are topics you sort out on counselling. Pre marital counselling is very important.

[@miriamwoks5780]

I think,having a joint account doesn't only signifies togetherness but it also installs discipline and keeps you on check as regards future plans and expenditures in your home, but couples could also have an individual accounts that they're both aware of aside the joint account, for little home emergencies .

[@zandilentsipho1150]

Im glad I came across this conversation , I learnt a lot .

[@temitayofraser]

Sisi Yemiie 💃💃❣💞❤

[@abigailosabu5586]

Very insightful!!

[@jovitamomodu49]

Nice, i Know communication and understanding is key in any marriage but i learnt something new "Bite your tongue"

[@WhitneyOsei]

I said let me come and watch because I KNOW that Sisi Yemmie will DEFINITELY be talking true lol

[@idaraakwa5274]

All my favourite people in one video😍. I haven't even watched yet, I am so happy

[@chychuks6090]

Me too

[@seyifunmioye]

This was very insightful

[@enaruvie]

Very wise young women. Proud of these ladies. True ambassadors.

[@TOLANIBAJ]

Quite informative! Bravo

[@cecekyeyune1345]

Great episode. Thanks

[@ibukunoyeniran6989]

Adenike is full of wisdom in this school of marriage. God bless you ladies.

[@mariamatchamo745]

yass...am ready for this one!

[@akinjayejumoshope8385]

Sisi yemmie! I see you 😍

[@theotosinafolayan1314]

I love, love, love this show, totally learnt and enjoyed it. but that wedding that was called off after 20M, chai! people spend so much on ceremony

[@olufuntoesther9016]

Enjoyed the talk.Sight sisi yemisi and Adenike 😘😘

[@staj]

Great show as ever! Proud of my 9ja people! p.s. the usual phoney nor too plenty today :)

[@Chiego08]

staj lolllllllll exactly🤣🤣🤣🤣.

[@dekemidiaries5646]

Great show. I loved the comments of the streets.

[@HarryItie]

MY PEOPLE!!! Love this one!!!

[@OreoluwaAremo]

A very stressful topic. I love all the guests 💜

[@echetabuemeka4087]

Why is it stressful?

[@SuppleChicTV]

snap Sisi how could I be this late, def agree with Sisi's advice don't comment on peoples marriage just listen cause if they get back together it gets awkward takes a toll on friendships

[@elizabetha2809]

Good job ladies. Loved it!

[@AdaAda_]

I’m here for Adenike, my fav blogger!

[@thompsonolamide2427]

I really enjoyed this episode

[@Desireeiyorah]

Adenike and Sisiyemmie 💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽💃🏽

[@Stitchadress]

Wow! I enjoyed watching this....

[@pamelaononiwu2496]

"Pick your battles" Word...

[@temitayofraser]

Adenike mummy!!!💞💞💞💃💃

[@beverlyfrancis8433]

I agree, love IS over rated. It is communication and respect.

[@emenikeuc6979]

Very informative

[@GADSFAMILY]

A very good message passed across there, the point is, prepare for a full package of your spouse after marriage. By so doing nothing will be strange to you.

[@christinaricardo9842]

I love this!

[@CookingWithVoluntas]

Look at smarty SISI Yemmie❤️. Pikin go get sense so?

[@fundssum331]

Great talk

[@bibicrom1647]

Why sex was the first topic lol. Anyway I do believe a woman should always have her own bank account with serious funds even if there is a joint account. You never know when it is needed to save you or your husband or family. Secondly never tell everything you do Because it can be used against you. The bible even says not everything your right hand has done your left hand should know. Be wise as a serpent but harmless as a dove. The past is the past unless it affects your current state. Even God forgives and forget. Understanding and compassion longsuffering everything that defines love is needed. When you hit a wall pray and pray hard because living with someone from another mother is hard at times. Marriage is not everything. yes he that findeth a wife finds a good thing. however Paul said I rather that you not be married.... and he goes on to explain why. marriage is not for everyone. It doesn't make them bad or unaccomplished. As Auntie said it's not an accomplishment. Marriage shouldn't define a woman as a woman (Mrs.)

[@joyceobeng5746]

Very educative

[@ChiTime]

😂😂😂😂sisi yemi said together Is good. The way she said it cracked me up.

[@ThatsEunice]

Great show!

[@jescadamas4482]

I enjoyed listening to this 🤭 realtalk

[@oluwaseunojeikhodion6483]

Adenike, i think you are awesome!

[@ChiTime]

But that’s what dating is about share information that you think might cause trouble in future...

[@TreadingwithDeefashion]

I tell my husband every thing but that's because I have no 'dirty'past. Nice video

[@MissFelzy]

Wow... trikytee of BBNaija lock down, is among the people who were interviewed on the street 2years ago. What a small world

[@vanessatj4860]

Wow that’s true. He looks so different

[@cynthianancynanteza8341]

Wow the world is small, you interviewed trikytee who knew we would now know him because of bbb

[@cynthianancynanteza8341]

*bbn

[@cynthianancynanteza8341]

*bbn

[@olamidemariet]

I'm just watching this 2years after And OMG see TrickyTee😲😂😂

[@chivicworldTV]

I sight u sisi

[@lamosiabu8033]

VERY MATURE TOPIC

[@cur_marie8712]

NdaniTV you guys need to work on your audio... My volume is all the way up and I am having trouble hearing properly.

[@SisterAmaka]

Thought I was the only one!

[@MsAakifa]

Mine isn’t all the way up and I can hear just fine. Must be your system that’s messed up. Or your ears

[@kryssiewoo51]

Yea maybe it's just ur device. Sometimes some videos are louder than some, but this one was fine for me. Hope u got to hear well.

[@adisaakomolede3039]

The audio is perfect for me

[@HeyMichsi]

Great information. I'm learning now that my marriage is between me and my man. I used to get angry and talk to people about things. You can't do this. People will judge and pick side and be upset with your choice to stay or deal with it.

[@TheAmazonDeb]

Trickytee was one of the street guys interviewed....

[@chibaby0306]

mehn been laughing the whole time! i love these women very smart, real, beautiful and funny

[@DavidWilliams-rk1nq]

As a Yoruba girl please learn how to speak your native tongue. We Yoruba’s are guilty of not speaking Yoruba to our kids. We seem to think it’s a class thing (being an ‘ASO’) please take it from me , it’s a huge mistake. I live in Canada and I have had to get private Yoruba lessons for my kids because when I was living in Nigeria my wife and I fell into the same trap of not speaking Yoruba to our kids. The Chinese, Indians , native Americans, other Africans et al ensure that their kids can speak their native tongue except YORUBAS! Did that lady say you should learn how to make love through KZbin? Having a joint account does not work, decide what the husband has to take care of and what the wife is responsible for. If my wife wants to buy lipstick I don’t want to know about it, but if she does not buy groceries , yawa go Dey! Is that sisi yemi the you tuber and food connoisseur?

[@prettyme3150]

Thank you David. I absolutely agree with you. Other nationalities here in Australia speak their native language. Nigerians tends to associate English proficiency and phonetics with intelligence. When i get married, Yoruba will be the language of interaction in my home.

[@pejuamadi]

Whatever happened in the past is past...and as long as it has no effect in the present, it should be left in the past.

[@Jdudette1andonly]

I am a simple gal I see Sisi Yemmie I click

[@e.m.a.8862]

I think if you can tell everything. Tell everything. Remember its not what you say, its how you say. Please even if its my hair do, i will say.

[@Ifeomailloh]

Lol. Abi dear.

[@sophia4christ]

SisiYemmie TV! I see you fab mama!

[@XoxoVictoria_]

If you can’t have a joint account have a savings account, also a life insurance policy for those outside Nigeria. We need to consider the possibility that just in case something happens, how will the need of my children or partner be catered for?

[@ogochukwuchukwuemeka146]

Every marriage is truly different

[@LifewithDeenessa]

Sisi Yemmie❤️❤️

[@ruthb.7675]

Please for the love of all that is good STOP GENERALIZING AFRICAN MOTHERS. My Mum hasn’t ONCE not even subtly attempted to tell me go and marry. I roll my eyes every time I watch videos as such where educated African women are discussing about marriage because they always make it seem as if marriage is every mother’s greatest desire for her child (ren). No it isn’t and the persistent assumption is getting ridiculous at this point. There are some African women who value education and good careers for their daughters over marriage. Why do shows like this never talk about such women? Or is it a sin for an African woman to value having a career over being a Mrs.? Yes my mother is married to my father for the nosey youtube comments analysts.

[@bibobratagbatsemi14]

Ruth Buh true talk some people even die early because of marriage. Life fulfillment she be on our individual dreams but if you find the yin to your yang then marry and have a blissful one.

[@m.philips3313]

I totally agree with you. Well articulated my dear! My career and sanity was a priority to me before marriage.

[@thebrownivory9670]

But why so pressed Aunty?

[@TonyAdigwe]

You know it can depend on age too. I'm sure u are far less than 30. Won't u be stunned if u still live in ur house at age 30 & ur mum who probably has never seen you or heard u go on a date does not seek to find out if u have anyone in your life? I think any mother would be concerned given the instance except she's nonchalant about such matters

[@BabyLoloify]

So true, wish my mom was one of those mothers that didn't value marriage as much as peace of mind. Marriage is not easy & I wished I had waited until I really knew myself well & understood what God had in store for me before marriage. 😔🙄💆‍♀️

[@sharonadeyemi4488]

Sisi Yemmie 😻

[@princesshephzibah5894]

Wow.. One of the most exciting episodes till date. Great guests. Those on the street were awesome

[@misssugacoco]

Omd their accents are beautiful

[@metugenkonge7715]

lOVE THESE WOMENNNNNNNNNNNN

[@delindawilliams3935]

I love this topic. Thanks to SisiYemmieTV for leading me here. I've learned some things and I'm reminded of some. I learned a lot from singles seminar for years before getting married,then I attended marriage seminars and learned much there also. My mom taught me how to look after my home and how to set my husband's place for his meals. I'm still learning more,especially from KZbin. Thanks ladies.

[@sct.temitopeo.a8713]

I love this, inside life, real talk. i want to know should husbands know WIVES MALE FRIENDS VICE VERSA ?