THINGS NOT TO SAY TO A PERSON WITH TRICHOTILLOMANIA

[@hikari23k]

Person: "What's wrong with your hair?" The response should be: "What's wrong with your face?"

[@ashleymoore7638]

😂

[@DNLALSA34]

Worse thing ever is people taking off my hat just because. Like... please dont 😬

[@giuliamelillo9744]

Honestly the nicest thing one of my friends have said is giulia your eyelashes are growing back they look great even tho I barely had any at the time 🥰🥰🥰

[@livywithane]

I loved it ehen ppl asked if U got my eyebrows waxed. Like had soooo many compliments lol

[@katmandoot5941]

Hey Megan, I had to shave my head again today. I feel good about it until out in public.

[@maddie_farns]

Also don't say "did you shave your eyebrows?"

[@zielonxx]

YES, I hate that so much!

[@deadman587]

😤😠

[@deadman587]

My mom keeps saying how my eyelashes looked so good and that kills me inside ;-:

[@deadman587]

Chipotle_ Spoon YOU MOM IS A MONSTER SHE SHOULD MAYBE UNDERSTAND WHAT YOU FEEL AND CARE BUT I GUESS SHES A MONSTER ;~;

[@blurryink115]

Bird Extra your response kinds of contradicts whatever their mom said, how is it what you said any different?

[@rachellee1057]

I’ve never related more to anything in my liiifeee, I also hate when people assume the reason you have no hair is because of cancer treatments and you have to awkwardly be like nah and they’re like oh ?

[@em7626]

Right?! I was at the grocery store once and someone was like, "God bless you." And I was like, "Dude, I don't have cancer!"

[@flopissues7121]

EOOOWWWW my mom thought I had lupus for the longest time I was just looking at her like 🥴 cuz I was too embarrassed to tell her I was pulling it out.

[@laura-vn3im]

i got a buzzcut this summer because i needed to stop pulling (not only my hair was ugly but my arms were hurting) things have been great since! but i started school this week and some people have asked me what's with the hair. i've always been super open about having trich but these times when i told people, you know i cut it because of this disorder i have, bla bla bla, they all make awkward faces and make me feel like shit. i could punch those stupid faces. like, if you don't know what to say, say that you're happy that i'm doing better or just be honestly surprised about this disorder you've never heard about!!! i'll explain it to you!! but!!! don't look at me like that!!! 🤬🤬🤬 some people have just said "well it looks great" and we've moved on to another subject. you don't act uncomfortable if someone tells you they have a disorder, for fuck's sake! it's only been three days of school and i'm already tired of these people ugh i just needed to vent, i love your videos!💛💛

[@ZaidatulSalwa]

Wearing headscarf is super comfortable cause you have freedom to wear what ever you want, and you don't have to even care what people think and want they WANT you to wear. Forcing a lady to open her head cover is bad (scarf or hat or whatever it is), its actually an action of taking her freedom to wear what she want. Nonetheless ladies, we are all beautiful :) , no need approval from people.

[@boxhamwichderp2805]

When I was younger sometimes ppl would ask me if I had cancer. Not a lot of time but just sometimes. It was super awkward.

[@magg0tbr4inzz]

I'm not doing good I'm currently dealing with Trichotillomania and my brother looked at me and told me to just stop pulling hair and I won't have bald spots

[@Carebear07]

When I had this a boy in my class asked why u cut my lashes off 😭 I’ve known him since preschool so it’s fine now

[@flxffy_edits]

Omg that’s terrible 😩

[@lexiiiiii9076]

that happens to me

[@billysimington1211]

My friend shaved her hair and told me she had this and I don't want to be rude we have been friends for awhile she is taking a break from school and I have trying to understand what she is going through anything someone can tell me would be appreciated

[@perlarodriguez8807]

YYYYEEESSSS, I feel you about the "take it off" part 😭 it always happened in school and I hated when my teachers would ask me

[@aidakko]

mines never asked me

[@awesomexxpancakes]

thank you so much for posting these videos. i literally have never felt so seen in my whole life. ❤

[@jetnight88]

Well stop pulling it’s simple

[@awesomexxpancakes]

@@jetnight88 stop speaking super simple

[@brookeallen9306]

One time I had a really bad bald spot on the top of my head and my friend touched it and asked if I had cancer😐

[@ciaramaya4417]

💗 Honestly I love your hair like that it’s so cute 💗

[@kimberlycookson6043]

Finding your channel has literally made me bawl my eyes out. I've suffered from this horrible disorder since I was 14, I'm now 27. I don't know why I never thought if it before, but I looked in the mirror and saw my completely bald scalp and just thought why not. I typed "Trichotillomania" into the search bar of KZbin ( a platform I've used for years) and it led me to your channel. I can't thank you enough... Honestly. You are such a beautiful person and I can't wait to see more and follow your journey. 😍 Kimberly from WA

[@itsm3l12]

I suffered from this disorder when I was 10, but healed around 12/13 by myself. I am 18 now and very happy 💗

[@teresajones2000]

love this!.. I've had trichotillomania ever since I was little and never actually got diagnosed or knew it was a condition until I was an adult...and I agree it helps so much to keep your hair shorter and not pull when I decided I wanted to cut my hair short again because I had started pulling more I got a reaction from the guy I was dating that caused a breakup because he literally forbid me to cut my hair telling me that my body and my hair was his property 😕😒

[@kaiyanachan9273]

That’s awful! I hope you’re able to find someone better who accepts you for you and doesn’t “claim” you. You deserve better.

[@tyma8838]

When I was in middle school, all my classmates knew that I have trich and when the teacher asked me to take off my hat all of them were just like. "Sir, she can wear that" "Sir she has something" sir this sir that. I was quite happy because my friends understood but some were like hey... if u can wear a hat then I can wats so special about u? I iust realized that I have a little advantage in this and it's because I kinda have confidence even if it's on me because I reached out and told people

[@Asadlemon]

Bro I love how you have fun with your channel and make it sound like trichotillomania isn't bad (which ofc it isn't but you get what I mean) it makes me feel more confident about my hair pulling habits

[@mjmcadam7490]

FINALLY SOMEONE! I used to have hair almost to my rear, then I started to pull out my hair, my mom noticed it a lot, so then I got my hair cut to my shoulders, then alittle bit higher, but I let it grow out abit, then we just CHOPPED it right off, I'm doing good now, and wanted to say hi😊

[@paresrichmond645]

When u said something about your hair I think u look beautiful with short hair

[@jaxmlarker]

The day i shaved my head, and went out in public, someone asked, jokingly if all my hair had fallen out. They didnt know i had trich, but it made me 😠

[@samaberman4692]

hey Megan, i was wondering if you can do an in-depth video on how to tell your parents that you pull out your hair. i recently started, and i’m a socially awkward person that doesn’t tell my parents anything, so i’m extremely scared to tell them. can you give tips on how to tell them? thank you!

[@vaishnavigupta38]

She is so gorgeous ✨

[@elizabethberneman1809]

I have struggled with this since I was about 9, and its a never ending battle, thank you so much for making this video

[@ajmurray1942]

I just want to say thank you for sharing your story! I never knew that hair pulling had a actual name and that im not some psycho who just yanks out hair I feel like a social outcast but I came across your KZbin page thanks to my friend and I don't feel so alone anymore. So thank you!!!

[@Stsebastian8900]

I personally eat the root bulb of my hair around 90% of the time, but i also will eat the whole hair after grinding it up. I really hope i dont have hair stuck in a ball in my stomach ffs. I have bad digestion issues to, but my doctor recently looked in my stomach (though not for Trichophagia) and i assumed if he saw some ball of hair he would have said.

[@jamesb7241]

My sister has this disorder, it seems to be getting worse. I'm so worried about her, I don't know what to do anymore. I feel frustrated and sometimes I get angry because she's dealing with this. I just wish she had her beautiful hair back.

[@halliemartello4867]

I pull my eyebrows out! It’s hard to cover up

[@estella.d]

“why don’t you just stop?” damn man, i haven’t even thought of that one. thanks for the advice, appreciate it

[@ashleymoore7638]

Best intro I’ve seen so far

[@kashifabashir9037]

Someone told me "oh look look you don't have any eyelashes, omg what happened!!?" As if i don't know, another one that hurts the most is when your own family doesn't understands you, and tells you to stop 🙁.

[@MildRyot]

Lmao I love you thank you for this also that intro slaps

[@flxffy_edits]

“Where are your eyelashes?”

[@animeco3297]

i have trichotillo. and im thankful for every critic in my beard, it helps me to think about it and slowly stop

[@itzsune1284]

Megan i am 13 years old i have been pulling from 4th grade and i don't know what to do please help me...😭😭😭😭😭

[@kaitlyngreen2161]

Go to a therapist. It worked for me

[@yazm1nflow3r7]

Omg one time my friend asked me if my eyebrow lashes were falling out and I got so embarrassed 🤮

[@butterflyz1112]

I had to shave my head once and whoever would asked about it I would just say it was for a dare and I got 10 dollars out of it

[@chicken_nug6833]

lmao I’d do it for free, I have it and I haven’t shaved my head YET. my parents are still deciding if they want me to look like a baldy, personally I feel that’s rude, they keep on telling me to stop so I trY BUT GAWD. yeah I’d do that for FrEe

[@kaitlyngreen2161]

Good idea!

[@Saejalsen]

She’s so gorgeous woah 😦 ❤️🥺

[@Issacwale]

I started to eat the hair follicle around 2-3 years ago, today I searched about it and I found out it was an actual thing. I really throung that I'm only one and that I'm so disgusting. My uncle and mom recognised that I'm pulling out my hair, but my hair don't look that bad so they don't do nothing about it. 😕

[@savanahliebl1400]

i hate when people say did you cut your eyelashes🤦🏽‍♀️

[@amalyafreund9981]

Hey Meghan I have had Trichotillomania for a while now I stopped for a bit in the summer but once school started I have gotten worse. I had beautiful long brown curly hair and now it’s just thin and people ask if I cut it

[@baileyp4158]

I'm not to good and I'm repalsing back into my trichotillomania habits.

[@kaiyanachan9273]

Me neither. I’ve been off and on for over 5 years now so I get it. I hope you get everything worked out soon! Good luck and remember you’re beautiful with or without hair.

[@ShoopdaShoop]

I pull my head hair the least and facial to the most

[@lithippy2410]

I have trichotillomania, and I've been constantly bullied for the length of my hair. I've tried really hard to find things that will force me to use my hands so that I don't pick my hair out all the time or so that i don't have to rely on my wig to prevent me from getting to my hair. the bullying for my hair length, sadly, It's made me really insecure, just wanted to share!

[@em7626]

I'm a new viewer and a have a story. I was in middle school when this kid pulled my hat off my head because he thought it was a joke. He realized his mistake and apologized over and over again to the point where I said that it was fine cause I'm a nice person like that. I guess I got lucky cause I was in a group with a lot of people and I don't think anyone saw. I still hate that kid to this day even though he was sincere.

[@riseasthedawn-6250]

i have been ripping out my hair since i was 11. now im almost 17. i rip out everything from my lashes, brows, leg hair, armpit hair, every place on my body that has hair. i thought it was only me as i always told that it was a bad thing. im muslim, and family and the classmates at the islamic school i went to told me that plucking eyebrows was a sin and i was cursed by god. . i cant open up to my family due to their religious beliefs and i cant really stop. i need help. im literally trying to control my urges as i watch this video

[@itsm3l12]

Hi I just want to tell you, I thought it was bad as well that I did that and if I knew, that people out there go through the same I would have understood I wasn’t weird at that time. I started trich at the age of 10, or more like I noticed it at 10 I remember the exact situation. I also remember the exact situation to stop, when I was 12/13. I was on school trip, but didn’t want people to notice my missing lashes, so I used mascara and went into the bathroom before everyone else got up. But I decided for myself, that’s enough. I really don’t know how I did it, but when I came home I was so proud to tell my parents, that my lashes grow again and they were super proud as well. Till I found this channel I pretty much pushed this time of my life away from me. I still can’t really watch the videos, I don’t like talking about it so much, but I thought I need to encourage you, because I am 18 now and healthy ❤️.

[@faizaan7938]

It took me 10 minutes to read the title

[@Kaynaydiaandkumo]

my one coworker constantly asks me to take off my wig because he wants to see how bald ive gotten

[@ashleyB-ic6qj]

That sounds like harassment So sorry love

[@mjmcadam7490]

In elementary, my teacher allowed hats inside her class, so in every pictures they took for fun photos, u would just see my 11 year old ass, with a winter hat on, but when we had to go into the school, I always had to take my hat of, even though I have told the principle about my trick, even though my bald spots weren't visible under my long hair, I was still ashamed about it. Then my mom cutted it shorter every like two months. Now my head is shaved and I wear my dad's old baseball cap, but I'm still ashamed.

[@mjmcadam7490]

Edit: also in middle school, and my hair was almost shaved. I had some guy friends and they asked me what happend to my hair, and I said that I had a disorder, but they dident question why. Then one time I was in class and a girl decided to take my winter hat off, and say my now visible bald spots, then she called me cancer girl and spread it all over the class, but my friends protected me, even my sis.

[@livywithane]

Yeah... I hate when my sister says "stop pulling it then." Oh yeah like I can just magically stop all the triggers, impluses, and ichyness, and tell my fingers to stop pulling them all together. 😑 It's like telling her to stop being depressed or stop being black or something💁🏾‍♀️ I want to stop, but then again... I kinda don't?... i just want it to slow down or stop pulling in particular areas... I've had therapy 3 times after stopping lol (like had therapy then stopped then started again) it's been getting easier, but yeah I love this video...

[@ashleymoore7638]

I’ve just recently found out that what I’ve been doing for years is actually called Trichotillomania. Years ago when I would pull out my hair, it wouldn’t be as bad, you know? It would usually just be one strand every other day/week.  and I wouldn’t tell anyone other than my mom when I went to her house because it wasn’t a big deal. But recently, through these last 2-3 months, it’s been a lot worse. I pull out hairs EVERY DAY that I call “bad hairs” because they have more texture/thickness than my normal thin hair. I’ve talked to some of my family about it more and they just keep telling me “stop pulling out your hair. You’re gonna get a bald spot. That’s gross!” But what they don’t realize is that, yes, I know I might get a bald spot, and I know it’s bad for me, and I know that it’s gross but it’s not like I’m doing it on purpose! Sometimes I’m doing it and don’t even realize it. It’s kinda like telling a smoker to stop smoking. They know they could get lung cancer or another type of disease, but they just don’t know how to stop. They can’t bring themselves to stop. They need support and guidance to help them get through it because they can’t do it by themselves. For me, and everyone else who has any disorder, needs support, and guidance for them too. We can’t go through it by ourselves because it isn’t even CLOSE to being easy. This video helped me realize that I’m not the only one going through this. If you’ve read all the way through, thank you for reading my story.

[@jaxmlarker]

Wow. Same. I always had a small bald spot at the front of my head when i was like 8. Im 12 now, and have seen it making a much bigger difderence. Its shaved now. I also just found oit what it was called and why i do it to my scalp

[@hannahslade2]

same here

[@hfrt29]

This is harder than when I was a drug addict many years ago😢

[@ashleymoore7638]

I feel like if Trichotillomania gets more known, kids in school would be like “I’m allowed to wear my hat because I can” but really they’d be lying and then everyone would start doing it and they would probably end up banning hats because they don’t know if people are lying or not

[@fia3821]

I recently developed trichotillomania and it makes me feel so bad about myself :( Its so hard to try to stop pulling the hair in my eyebrows and the bald spots are huge but I am working on it its so hard though Does anyone have tips for eyebrows?

[@oldiewandkelobi1909]

Someone should make a video about things not to say to people in general

[@grace-pu9wn]

peop;le used to rub off my root cover stuff ( the poweder that you put on and stuff, yk?) yep that sucked

[@laceyraeae]

My best friend has tricto

[@arielkoby9436]

Thank you for this 💚

[@anushkachowdhury2569]

“Don’t do it” I m sick of it

[@xXBarbDwireXx]

I just started wearing a headscarf because girl, my bald spots are bloody and bad

[@Rainy2323]

Thank you😊

[@hfrt29]

My mother should watch this!

[@em7626]

Also, when I'd pull out my hair in elementary school, my friends would call me "bee hive" cuz my hair would end up really frizzy. Also I made a comment to my friend in middle school when I had a wig and said I looked like a lamp shade, so that became a second nickname. I guess I brought that on myself though.

[@minettevosloo9778]

Hi again Meg. I just came upon your previous video about cornsnakes and I did comment about it, good comments don't stress 🤗. So I hope you still do KZbin videos and would be able to read this even if it's a year later.. In the first video I saw you, I thought wow, you are so beautiful and look gorgeous in your short hair, but I talked about corn snakes 😂. Yeah so, like Trichotillomania is something I have never heard about before. Although, the freaking EYEBROWS I totally heard of because that is me. I have super light and out of proportion eyebrows, I used to colour it in with a brown eye pencil when I was in my 20's. But then with all the nagging from my ex husband and his folks, I had ppl put on PERMANENT eyebrow (like a tattoo style) on my face. Since then I had it done four times, last one was just before me and ex hubby's wedding. So, I have seriously always wanted to shave my hair like yours but I am quite like....okay so you are well build and you have a great bone structure, but me, I have more fat like..i my face bla bla bla. Hopefully you will get this msg 🦎🐉😊 You look beautiful, your hair totally suits you and I love your funky personality! 💞. And since I'm freaking single now and almost turning 37 on 5th December 2020, I may give myself my dream of cutting my hair off! And I won't let anyone get to me, well I will try really hard. Lots of love Minette from South Africa xoxoxo

[@navyavlog311]

Because of trichotillomania I'm struggling badly

[@jambienatorxxx]

In Elementary, I was wearing a bandanna and everyone was soooo curious. Luckily my dad told my teachers about that I have a hair problem. In Middle school, that’s when I shaved my hair and everyone made fun of me. In High School, i didn’t really care what people say about me. My hair grew longer , but …… I started to pull them again. I was doing so good until i started to pull them out.

[@Anime-eo2hr]

I felt that. I had someone from the board office that was visiting the school and told me to remove my hat. They didn’t say that to the girl who had cancer. I told them I was allowed to and they didn’t believe me. So I was like bish go to the head principle if ya don’t believe you.

[@hannahslade2]

my sister says "You can just stop pulling your hair, its just a bad habit" ☠️

[@toxic_city]

That's what I thought Trichotillomania was too, when I was young. I was wrong. I thought it was a bad habit I could break if I tried hard enough. 😞

[@paigeepooh19]

Yea all my teachers in middle school knew about my trich and a lot of the kids complained. Trust me I'd rather not wear it but I'd rather you not see my bald spots. 🤷‍♀️

[@bendyalien]

My dad just says: Stop Like... if only he was in my position and he knew how it felt... I just can’t stop 😞

[@ayayaisha]

Sameee, like they don't understand the struggle that we have. If we could stop it, we would've done it ages ago 😩

[@bendyalien]

@@ayayaisha exactly 😭

[@tinyriss]

where did you get your earrings?!?😍btw i’ve never seen your videos before this is the first one i’m seeing. i have trich as well and i wanted to know how you decided to shave your head and like if it was a hard decision or not. im debating shaving my head but i’m nervous cause i’ve always had my long hair but trich makes it ugly and i’m nervous about how to take care of it from that point on as it grows back

[@al8286]

Thank You.

[@zyla4612]

Trich stories: 1. I have this thing with paper where I like need to fold the edges or something. Kinda hard to explain. Anyways, I didn’t want to ruin school notebooks or regular books so I got a pad of sticky notes and drew in it because I finished early in stuff and had the time. (5th grade btw.) So I’m chillin with my little sticky note sketch book when some of my friends/classmates come up to me and are like “omg you should totally make a flip book.” Or “Why did you draw this?” Sis, I didn’t even tell you that you could look through it in the first place. 😄 2nd: someone took my sketch pad notebook thing, looked through it. On one page I hade a spiral. Just a simple spiral. They then told me “you drew it wrong.” TOOK IT AND DREW IN IT. Without any permission at all. That was fun 😃 3: I don’t remember the entirety of this story, but I thought trich was like a superpower so I was showing of my skill to some “popular girls.” They were empressed. And later asked me to do it agian. After I told them that it was a mental disorder that developed last year.

[@izzyy886]

I thought I was the only one that said trichotillomaniac!

[@williambeasley6448]

Honestly before watching any videos of you talking about this disorder I just thought you had short hair cause you think its beautiful cause I do 😍❤

[@animallover2314]

Hi and omg thank you for making a video like this I'm glad I'm not alone. I have trichotillomania and my step dad thinks I'm doing it for attention. Which I'm not.

[@aidakko]

reason why i do online school

[@ScarlettW-l2g]

As a person with trich… this is all true

[@nayarivera5186]

I'm gonna send this to my mom

[@kylawood9543]

I get it when people are geuinely curious but they could approach the situation differently. I've constantly gotten: "Where are you eyelashes?" "I just noticed you have like no eyelashes" MORE THINGS _NOT_ TO SAY: "It's only hair." "Doesn't it hurt?" "You'll grow out of it." "You look like a a frog." "You did this to yourself." "That's freaky/weird/gross." "What if it never grows back?" "You'll end up completely bald" "Do you enjoy pulling your hair?" "Is this something on you have?" "You should stop, I see bald patches" "Why don't you try eyelash extensions?" "Try to relax. Maybe focus on something else?" "Have you tried pinning your hair back or putting it up." "You used to have such pretty hair/eyelashes/eyebrows." "How can you not notice when you're pulling your hair out?" "I get stressed too but I don't pull my hair out because of it." "Notice when you're pulling and try to focus on something else" "Maybe you should see a doctor. Maybe there's a medicine or cure for it?" "Don't cover up your bald spots. Maybe you'll stop if you see the damage." HOW TO _HELP:_ 1. Help identify patterns. 2. Ask how you can be supportive. 3. Change environmental factors, if necessary. 4. Help brainstorm coping skills and tools to help prevent hair pulling. 5. Encourage healthier means to express and cope with difficult emotions.

[@meganz.8144]

Oh yeah you forgot one “Do u have cancer?”

[@dawn6507]

I shaved my head for the second time recently. Only this time I have many bald spots I didn't know about that are visible and I'm so disappointed that I shaved my head again. I was so excited. Now I look like I have cancer or something, lol. :D fml.

[@BlazingNeptune]

Person at DMV: You need to take off your bandanna for your ID picture Me: - Shakily takes it off in front of everyone in the DMV - Person: - is so shocked they just stare at you before telling you to put it back on-

[@poison_rose0110]

Practically all the things she just said, people had said to meh

[@alimichels9490]

My moms says that one...2:16

[@meggy_davidson]

I started pulling at the start of 8th grade. I came back to school with the side of my head bald. One of the first things I heard was “Yo, did you get attacked by a lawn mower?” Yeah, I wasn’t too impressed by that 😂

[@grace4818]

Long hair or not, you're beautiful

[@simsalabim7627]

I think you‘re awesome.

[@SanrioFan]

True

[@Josiahkaleb29]

Lmao sorry this whole video made me laugh. But it’s absolutely true, those who don’t do it don’t understand it. I have it. I pull my eyebrows and eyelash. I have one “Im going lick your eyebrows off” 🤦🏽‍♀️ like I hope you like the product lol

[@hannedis1459]

I can relate so muuuch 😂

[@kaitlyngreen2161]

WHO DISLIKED THIS VIDEO?!!!!!!

[@shelbymcdonald793]

👍

[@MrSunny112]

you are so sweet so nice wenn i looking at you its make me happy,. al lot of super energy xxx and you look asome whiet your short hair xxxx stay short xxx

[@mccabehyggjh]

One day I was pulling in class and my teacher stopped her lesson and yelled GET A FIGIT! I was so embarrassed!

[@ahmedosman2011]

looool

[@_izzy_t2110]

Firsttttt