Things We Tell Ourselves

[@Pamsmith59]

One of my all-time favorite memes: The way we talk to our children becomes their inner voice.

[@priyanka0202]

That made me cry... i appreciate myself for standing strong and do it all by myself...thank u so much

[@miasgrownuplife]

MOMMYWAYS I cried toooo!!! Totally caught me off guard. I’m definitely subscribing today.

[@christydiaz30]

What a great exercise!!! I am going to do this myself!

[@chelseah3725]

All the tears! What a great message. Thank you!

[@cynthiabakke825]

Do it on a Dime sent me- I say the most vile, hateful things to myself. I not only would never say it to anyone else, if someone else said it, I would stand up for the person they were saying it to, and let them know what I think about bullies. I've been fighting this my whole life (I'm 47 FFS!)-oops-did it again. I've never thought to use the photo. What a powerful tool. Thank you!

[@MrsHelloSpotlight]

This was beyond amazing! I might have to get a picture of my younger self and put it somewhere visible also. We NEED to be kinder to ourselves!!! 💕💕💕

[@krmh75]

LOVE THIS! We are so hard on ourselves What a great message....sharing

[@pialarsen3414]

I have seen this One a million times over the last 3 Year ❤ love it

[@pink_magical_girl]

You've been helpful for me. I have a son and have had many health issues over his 6 years and I've always beaten myself up. You tell the truth and I loved how you "I was the perfect mom before I came a mom" in a previous video. It's true. Thanks for encouraging other moms. ❤ Much love and blessings.

[@janetbarnett1898]

God bless you. I feel ya. I have three children, one of whom has special needs, a father who needs my help, an aunt who occasionally needs my help, a husband I love taking care of, a part-time job, and church.... and with all that I have a lot of joint pain... especially this time of year. I always feel like I'm not doing enough because I'm always sore or tired. Isn't it great that God gave this world Kristina to encourage us?

[@yasminsalih5119]

I started tearing up 😢 Thank you for this video 🙂❤️

[@HelloBusyMom]

I'm crying like crazy! I need to get my picture on my desk and stop saying to myself how ugly and tired I look and that I'm not shy and can speak for myself

[@hmchmc76]

Brought me to tears...

[@JonathanChaseHypnotist]

Mostly the Truth Bomb Mom just makes me smile - this goes into why everyone who feels they're not enough is there.

[@EliAndFamily]

Beautifully heart wrenching! I need to get a picture and put it on my desk. That’s when I tell myself I’m horrible, not creative, zero talent, messy slob who won’t amount to anything. I would never dream of telling anyone those awful hateful words. Thank you for this 🙏🏻👏

[@hollyholfeld]

Kristina, your videos always make me cry... but they're also the kick in the butt I need. Truth bombs all over the place!

[@royajahani1]

Kristina, u just may have saved someone's life and motivated them like no one has before...you're an angel sent by God. TY!!

[@shaunadumelle1624]

After today, I needed this. Thank you Kristina! ♡♡♡

[@RainsK2]

This is absolutely needed and amazing! The Lord put this very thought on my mind after a long fruitful season of counseling. About 6 months ago not having seen this I put my 7 year old picture up on my fridge in an effort to help me lose weight and say to myself “ would you feed her this?” . It actually helped a little but THIS covers many reasons for my negative self talk ! What a huge layer of healing this video will be to my own healing ❤️‍🩹 Thank you for pouring your life out for others to learn and heal from 🤗 Blessings sis !

[@midnightsun5711]

This made me cry, and the situation you speak about has for awhile now ... mother of 2 both girls 7 and 14 months a wonderful hubby whom I've loved for 10 yrs now ... a student and a fulltime mom/house wife .... I feel this everyday, shame, emptiness, loneliness and not enough ... I am never good enough, can never do enough ... this is me talking... I set my self up for failure more than I think anyone realizes ... I take on more everyday than I could ever accomplish at one time... and hate myself for letting me down, I talk horribly to myself inside ... Example of over doing it .... like having our daughter in between midterms and finals for my calculus and biology classes ... milk allergy at 4 weeks left me holding my poor little one the whole week I needed to study for finals ... I cried and eventually (not from Callisee or my oldest) I hit a massive postpartum depression that kicked my normal depression and anxiety to a level that felt like a war raging inside ... I bombed both of them... passed the classes but barely, was so upset I couldn't do it all ... So as I am in the middle of learning how to love myself to be a better mommy to our girls, and somehow trying all I can to handle the wounded & traumatized little girl inside ... after the loss of my mom to cancer 2 yrs ago ... I and my hubby are changing day by day for our girls, we are good parents but who couldn't be better right?! ... my mom ... Oh how I miss her ... she would be telling me ... "baby ... one day at a time that's all you can do" ... it's hard dealing with her loss ... we were so close and it was so fast ... I've learned 2 things since she left this earth to fly with angels like herself .... 1st ... even though she didn't leave on purpose, my heart still doesn't understand it ... it feels like abandonment, torture even though my mind knows this my heart doesn't ... So that's something I'm trying to work through too ... 2nd ... "It's not her death that's the hardest ... it's learning to live my life without her in it." ~ Callie I know it's just a post ... but it really helps sharing ... it helps me feel not so alone ... thank you sweet girl, you have no idea how much this means to so many of us 💗

[@SavingMoneyAndLivingLife]

I've been doing this. I recently put pictures up of when I was younger and I tell those pictures, out loud, everyday "I love you". I'd forgotten about this video but it clearly stuck 🥰

[@mariedillon1771]

Shared this with my whole family...we need to remember we are that little girl and give ourselves a hug and a pat on the back...thanks Kristina x

[@SKRsoul]

Kristina, the World's-Most-Precious-Gift Kristina, for years and years, I never felt proud of anything I achieved or did, I constantly berated myself almost daily and was literally my worst critic. I'm in my early twenties, and I've never felt more depressed, alone, and numb. This video made me cry, it not only inspired but SHOWED me how I could love myself and eliminate these negative thoughts. This exercise is amazing! Absolutely revolutionary (as simple as it is). And hey! I'm 1994's sweetest, most adorable baby!

[@sladjanalukic4193]

Hi Kristina! I’ve just listened a few of your videos (while. ironing ;)) - you are hilarious! You make me laugh, you make me cry, and I 100% agree with you! Keep doing what you do, moms of this world are to be awakened and finally relieved!

[@zumbawithkatty]

So beautiful!! Thanks for sharing and helping so many moms out there! This video should have thousands of “likes”!! I’ll be sharing this 😘

[@trishareese1521]

That was a great eye opener!! Thank You!

[@dorionethousandstories3369]

I try to remember that I am someone's daughter and need to give a little slack to all children. On the other hand I also need to encourage all children to try until they fail (especially me). That failure is just a sign that you tried. Either you try again or try something else.

[@iammeg7761]

Ugly crying!!! Very powerful message 😘

[@johnpizana5405]

I used to tell myself that I should have been a better father when my wife left me with four kids. I could have spent more time and worked less, I should have listened more, not felt so sorry for myself. That was nineteen years ago now they are grown with families of their own. Now they tell me that they wouldn't be who they are if it wasn't for me. ❤️🙏

[@connecteavity]

I was weeping... thank you, that is like awakening: God created you beautiful and you are enough to be yourself)))

[@betterusnow]

This made me ball like a baby. 😭 I have 3 daughters and I would never say what I say to myself to them. 🙏🏻

[@momofmany8117]

Brought tears to my eyes. I do this all of the time. I love encouraging people and giving them uplifting words when they need it most. Yet, I can't extend that same encouragement to myself. The struggle is real. Thank you for the video.

[@teresacorreia2417]

Thank you so much for this video, what a reminder. I have three little ones under 5yrs stay home mom and I too beat myself up say I'm not doing enough or think I'm not trying hard enough because I look at other mothers and they seem to have it all, everything figured out and all packed up. Thank you for this and God bless you love your videos

[@katwebster1986]

Thank you! My inner voice has been negative for so long, this brought me to tears. To anyone watching this, I just want you to know that you are loved, wanted, and cherished; no matter where you are

[@flavah5o3]

What a powerful message!

[@pooja09]

This made me cry. It made me think to appreciate and encourage myself. Thanks for making me rethink of myself differently.

[@karalynhorst7723]

And im crying. Wow. You are incredible.

[@mistywhite9128]

O my goodness!! Wow! Thank you Kristina! You are so right.

[@dinael-shaarawy6935]

You had me tearing up right here! I DESPERATELY needed this message today. Thank you, Kristina. Much love and respect. ❤

[@leannemills4311]

I needed this today! My favorite video of yours so far. Thank you ❤️😊

[@claudiaweldon9460]

Thanks for doing this I’m 72 and feel loved😍😍😍

[@megangosiak1489]

I love this. We are so mean to ourselves. Sadly, i know others who pile on my self hate talk. Its awful that we treat ourselves and others like that.

[@SimonaRentea]

This is so empowering. Thank you, Kristina!

[@busymama7903]

This was freakin’ BRILLIANT!!! 😭 What a wake up call! So powerful, thank you Kristina! 💕

[@YourCompass]

I loved this video! I’m a coach for Single moms and I see that so much with my clients! I re-posted this for encouragement... huge to hear how we all do this! She’s bringing it home so well for everyone to avoid the self- defeat.

[@DeetsterB]

What a truly wonderful idea!! My little me was so punished as it was, with the abuse she went through, so me dumping on her is just very wrong. And truly I am pretty dang great to have come through my childhood sane, drug free and with daughters that love me and that people think are truly wonderful human beings. So, yeah, my young self and my old self are pretty dang stupendous.

[@ErinNDo]

Thank you !!! I needed this so so much.

[@jaska6654]

I love all your videos and this one totally rocks! 👍👍👍

[@sncolferguson2016]

Very powerful, of course I'm in tears. Kristina your videos always are so touching and being a mom or a woman in general it is so nice to just know someone else feels the way we do. Thank you for shedding light on the negativity we are putting on ourselves

[@reneeprosser8217]

Thank you so much for doing this video. It couldn't of come at a better time... I so needed this being a wife and a mother ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@Marina-jt6oy]

I've been binge watching your inspirational videos and I cried on every single one. Thank you so much, Kristina. I'm not a cryer. This exercise here is very important on so many levels, not only the obvious ones, but on vibrational, energetic, spiritual levels too. Thank you so much for that ❤

[@mattmagana188]

Kristina I am under my husband's account, but my name is Amber. I want to tell you how much your videos, especially this one, have touched, inspired, positively motivated and influenced me... I have 6 children, the oldest being a 18 year old high school senior to the youngest being a 5 year old doing her first year in kindergarten. Lately, I have been torn and drowning myself in my own yuck... depression anxiety and an insane amount of self loathing. We recently had to pull our kids out of public school and I am homeschooling the 7th grader down to my baby.... between trying to be the perfect mom and comparing myself to other moms and especially wives, given certain issues throughout the marriage, I have hit rock bottom. I started diving deeply into the Bible with my kiddos in our morning basket and gaining a lot of faith and momentum there but still lacking something. I literally have shut everyone out due to not wanting to project all of my negativity on others and so alone I sit obsessively picking myself apart. Becoming an antisocial freak of nature lol I just had to share with you the way you have somehow reached something insiide of me, somehow I don't feel so alone, pathetic and hopeless. I love your truths and your inspiring stories. I hope to see s lot more bc I have decided to make you a part of my daily morning routine to help me stay focused and positive throughout my day. I just want to say thank you for bei ng a glimmer of hope in the dark tunnel I have found myself to be traveling through. Keep on keeping on... please.

[@crystallinde4186]

I'm a divorced Mom to two little boys and your videos really make a difference on days that I'm not feeling like a super mom - or a super person. Thank you for sharing the truths that all parents need to hear

[@fatimabaig6822]

Thank you Kristina for sharing this, I’m not a mom but constantly so hard on myself so this means a lot of to me and hits close to home

[@DaisyKindFitMama]

This is so true and so real. And I think PPD really magnifies this self talk a lot too. Thank you as always for your realness and honesty. ❤️

[@sarahm.9445]

oh wow kristina. im really crying over this. not teary-eyed. real tears (and since im watching this in bed and my head is on my pillow, the tears are falling into my ears. How ABSOLUTELY MOVING! idk how to make emoticons on this (32 years old and a complete non-techy person) ...... but i LOVED this. THANK YOU.

[@tauraluna]

Kristina, you owe me a box of tissues! But on the other hand, you just taught so many people a wonderful way to validate & appreciate themselves. Thank you so much for your positive outlook. Have a fantastic New Year!

[@clickfam9]

How powerfully thought provoking! Very good!

[@Genevieve88]

Tears. I say negative things to myself all the time. “Im ugly. I’m annoying. Nobody likes me. My kids deserved a better mother. Im a bad Mom to teenagers. I’m hard to love. Im hard to like.” Man, I really don’t like myself. Yet when I look at pics of myself as a little girl, I always feel a lot of emotion. I was so sweet, innocent. I had no idea the hard things I’d go through. It’s hard. I’d tell myself, “You will be okay! You’re going to make it! Choose a different college! God is with you always. Spend more time with Melissa because she’s not going to be here forever.”

[@Sweetpea2982]

Man I wish I had a friend like you Kristina Kuzmic especially as a kid since I was always bullied. You are so awesome and sweet.

[@DaisyKindFitMama]

You are such a queen. Mom goals.

[@jessicaravenqueen768]

This moved me so much that I'm crying like a baby because after thinking about me as a little girl and what I tell myself in my own head are things i would never say to her because that little girl would understand what I'm going through and did everything in her power to help me feel better about myself it makes you see yourself in a hole different light

[@Brianna-rw9yv]

This is so eye-opening and amazing. Thank you so much for this. I know I do this all too often. This was a great eye-opener.

[@BruceAUlrich]

This was powerful! Thanks for sharing...and for the reminder.

[@elizabethmfay1]

I love you 💞🥰i seriously have watched you for years and you've helped me so much. I have 5 children 18-7 year's old and I know that we've all been wasting our energy being and hearts on bad thoughts, words, feeling because if what we THINK the world expects of us. Your great. Seen many times just needed it today

[@amyteller1835]

Love it. So powerful and makes you stop and think.

[@leftyweirdo87]

Thank you so much for this Kristina!! Since becoming a mom almost 5 months ago you have truly helped me, a perfectionist, be happy being imperfect

[@denisesenior2801]

Thank you I beat myself up for not being good at times. Love it😍😍

[@lillygardens1]

Wow! Powerful stuff!! TY. ❤️

[@galaxyplaysroblox681]

Holly crap im in tears so much my contacts are litteraly coming out of my eyes smh you are so right i would have never said such things to the little girl in my picture ....this behavior stops NOW ...i will never again say such things and i know that girl is wonderful and amazing and has great feelings and sees the best in everything . loves life and loves who she is ...thats who i am ..Kristina you hit it on the nail every time and for being able to see you i am greatful stay who you are we love you babe . With love #onelostlittlegirl

[@laluna2264]

My friend was having this conversation with me today!!!!! Thats for making and posting this Vlog - SO MUCH APPRECIATED!

[@hodolidou]

Kristina, I love you. I have so much fun with your videos! Sometimes they make me cry.

[@anettburri75]

What a powerful Message. Thanks a lot ❤

[@patriciamolinar2083]

This one made me cry. And when you pulled out the picture of the younger selves l couldn't respond the same way because that has always been the message. Not good enough,polite enough, thankful enough, why couldn't I be more like fill in the blank. Which is why I was always striving for perfection and never attaining it. And so with emotional bat in hand the inner tape continues to play for another segment of Mommy Fails. But God and reason is teaching me a new way.

[@TheGirlYouKnowAsJen]

I'm literally crying right now thank you Kristina I really needed this.

[@janewright8249]

I’m mean to myself because I have failed at everything and looking at my kid pic would just be a reminder of all the promise I squandered and I feel sorry for that little girl who deserved so much better.

[@estaamit3011]

This is truly the most powerful, eye opening video, I have ever seen. Thank you so much for making this video.

[@SuzSingsnTris]

Great visual! I carry a school photo of myself in second grade for this very reason. I just need to remember to take it out and look at it when the “mean girl” in my head starts beating me up.🙏🏻💜💕😊👍🏻⭐️

[@jeanlee1911]

Because as a little girl I learned to hate myself. and not think I am worth anything better in this world than the bad that happened to me as a child. that as an adult I somehow deserve nothing better than struggling I have always had. We learn this things from our childhood. (good or bad life we learn). It was a odd kind of freeing week, the last of the males in my family that abused me passed, it was an odd kind of release. my mom thinks I should be sad as the others in my family but she doesn't know the abuse that happened from diapers to 10years old. she cant or wont remember(I pray somehow the doctors are right that she is in pre-dementia so she doesn't know/remember) now maybe I can heal knowing they aren't around to hurt other family members. there are a handful of us girls that know the truth and we know and support each other. WE know and accept that we have to move on and become what they told us we couldn't. That small mean voice still haunts us but we try not to listen. xoxoxo thank you Kristina for being a voice that most of us have lost and yearn to hear.

[@justrelaxable]

Thank you so much for this lesson, Kristina.

[@natashahernandez2272]

So powerful. Thank you so much. No words can explain the impact of this video.

[@hinaz85]

Hi Kristina. So agree with the house being messy part. Could you do something on pregnancy hormones and how it makes you feel irritable and sensitive.. feel like it really aided and abated my prenatal depression

[@partymimi1]

Wow! so touching and so true.

[@isi98ani7]

I'm still crying... Thank you.

[@storyofmylife2047]

Thank u so much. I really needed this. Being a mom of 3 and pregnant with our 4th, i really needed to hear this.

[@momofmany8117]

StoryofmyLife I have five children ages 7,6,4,2, and 5 months. So I can totally relate to a busy home with lots of little blessings. We also homeschool, so there's many instances to feel like a failure. It's not always easy. Sometimes there's just not enough hours in the day. How refreshing this video is.

[@Gojuninja]

I’ve been having a really hard last few days and everything just gets so overwhelming, then this video just appeared and wow, it has really made me cry and think and really helped. I went to your videos for a laugh about mom life, I never expected this, thank you!

[@rosaramahi1651]

I needed this.

[@tclark1122]

I’m in tears. Thank you.

[@shalinawillis2164]

Wow! This was so amazing! It makes me want to have all of our ladies at my church do this!

[@AG-cf4wn]

Oh how I beat myself up too much....I hate it. definitely an area I need to improve on.

[@SamanthaVoce]

I cry... A lot... What an excersise!

[@xdawnxangelx]

This video is me every single day of my life.... and I usually feel worthless.... also those boots are so beautiful, I wish I knew where to find them. I'd wear them alllllllllll the time

[@shreeshireenkhan]

Your videos are so therapeutic.. funny.. emotional.. positive.. keep doing what you are doing.. lost of best wishes..

[@FatDag]

Thank you for this.

[@cassidysatterfield5104]

My apartment has been messy since Christmas I managed to get some dishes done and somewhat of my floor clean so I tell myself I'm lazy and messy. I work and my son is 6 go figure I loved this video!!! Thank you

[@cristinaserafim6745]

Great food for thought! My inner child wants to hug you too!! :-)

[@stacy1279]

Im a year out from fighting STAGE 3B ANAL CANCER and I beat myself up constantly because im still struggling to get back to the old me. I used to be super mom and now i feel like im failing my kids everyday because my house is a mess,laundry is piled up and etc.

[@My.Lifes.Journey]

Whoa! That made me cry! Thank you!

[@angelamiller2082]

This is absolutely AMAZING!!!!! I never actually thought about this. It is so powerful. Thank you so much for this. I love all your videos, but this by far has got to be the most amazing one ever!

[@fojanpris]

Thank for this Kristina ❤️

[@donkeybrown]

I just recently put a picture of young me on my my bed table...to learn to be kinder to me!