Things you LOVE when you’re an INFJ

[@sainandhebbar5694]

"They've probably explored all manner of taboo and dark thoughts in their mind already and nothing is going to shock or *surprise* them" Well that's so true😂

[@EmTreasure88]

Is your pfp Kuroo from Haikyuu?

[@sainandhebbar5694]

@@EmTreasure88 oooo someone actually noticed :') Kuroo with glasses:)

[@VYMQGSOH]

It kinda sucks though... I never get surprised. That's not literally true, I've been surprised before, it's just extremely rare, and i enjoy surprises, even if it's a bad thing. I enjoy the feeling of not being able to predict most things, the feeling from the expected of the unexpected being surpassed by a surprise, proven wrong and finally being wrong again about something i felt absolutely sure i thought i knew and understood correctly but didn't, someone showing me they actually care in ways i didn't believe they did, etc. Surprises for myself as an INFJ is more valuable than all the money in the world. The feeling i get from being surprised is just something that comes and goes so fast and is so great, and money cannot buy it, and it will take effort on someone else's part to surprise me.

[@sainandhebbar5694]

@@VYMQGSOH I accidentally have some of the weirdest ENFP and ESTJ best friends I can't belive how completely dumb and smart (rarely) they can be at times and I'm surprised on a daily basis😂

[@candellina6]

Even if we haven't explored something someone had told us, we find it interesting or something new we can now shelf on our bookcase of knowledge from people's stories.

[@GwenivereYF]

1. One on one conversations 2. Symbolism and meaning 3. Planning, projecting, and predicting (and spontaneity)

[@doriaware2965]

Right on! Planning and creating is my favorite thing.

[@cpt_toshi]

1,2 and 3 is on point for me

[@thefrankring]

As an INFJ, if I'm ever spontanous, I most likely planned it.

[@marianney7644]

Or really really drunk 😉

[@Jaxmusicgal23]

Lol

[@Jaxmusicgal23]

@@marianney7644yeah that’s the only way to get them to be spontaneous I’ve found 😉

[@Dianaxhoney]

This is so true. I’m an INFJ who will catastrophize a future social situation just to be mentally prepared for it 😂

[@boprzybysz2603]

I can relate, I used to do this all the time which was a source of great anxiety until I learn to leave all things in Creator hands, give the worries to him💜💖💜and agree with his will💞

[@diananguyen9824]

I’m Diana Nguyen too 🤣 glad I’m literally not alone

[@riquelcarey]

@@boprzybysz2603 same! I just give it to God and let Him take care of my worries

[@boprzybysz2603]

@@riquelcarey 👍❤❤❤🌈

[@ashleybennetts3108]

Lol. I do this - to a realistic degree and to a completely Hollywood level degree just for fun.

[@defmaybe-s2u]

INFJs love being inspired by spontaneity but when push comes to shove we're like "uhhhmm, idk" 😂🙃

[@333invitado]

For real! Abstractlly speaking I'm like "heck yeah, let's improvise!" and when it comes down to it I'm always like "um... OK... I can be spontaneous, planned spontaneous. Like give me a plan or some guidelines of how well be spontaneous" 😂😭😂😭

[@MsLaurithaa]

That's why I love my extroverted friends (especially ENFPs) - they just throw me right into new situations and get me to experience adventures I probably would have only played through in my mind a thousand times and never actually done them if it wasn`t for them.

[@heavnxbound]

@@MsLaurithaa I want friends like that

[@rafreyes1190]

🐈 i am not an infjs

[@DonTrump-sv1si]

Were just living contradictions

[@gsahara8405]

"For infj's, oe on one conversations are like a confession box and a therapist chair" We keep it deep and real man..

[@rafreyes1190]

👀

[@moha2056]

yes but sometimes it becomes exhausting , u can t do it every day , cuz it s so real an deep it requires a lot of energy sometimes i wish i have fun with just small random talks

[@grumpyschnauzer]

Yup… this is how I perceive therapy with my clients.

[@GrafinVonHopper]

​@@moha2056Yes. Maybe that's why we're so drawn to ENXPs...they're random. Brainstorming ideas is a lot of fun and at the same time, it gets us out of our own heads.

[@PENGUINGIRL1210]

Ah, that makes so much sense. As an INFJ, I’m not affection starved or lonely, I’m deep and meaningful one on one conversation starved 😢

[@mschlund1]

Exactly, most of the rest of the world simply don't think on a deep level to converse on any topic

[@jeremiahgallo1055]

On the pro-active side, I found INFJ's to be very intuitive with design. Most INFJ's I know have elaborate plans and executions of those plans to the tee. As a result, the music, literature, graphic arts, etc., become so nuanced and unique masterpieces that it immediately stands out among the rest. It's fascinating really. And inspiring.

[@kaylableier9067]

I’ve found that to be true with myself! I had “fights” with my engineering teachers because I could see the design in my head perfectly even though he said it wouldn’t work. It worked 😏

[@jeremiahgallo1055]

@@kaylableier9067 That's definitely self awareness. Very useful in any skill for sure.

[@jeremiahgallo1055]

@@fowchiiiliedpuppiesdied I love you too. 😂

[@ianlange8108]

Ironically, despite having calculated plans and then exacting them "to the tee", they're rarely satisfied with their work, and they are absolutely terrible at celebrating their accomplishments. The INFJ's work is never done.

[@pamallabashline9468]

I am constantly told I "make things more complicated than it should have been"

[@maybeazombie]

about the spontaneity: it's funny, when someone invites me for anything, i do think of all those things you mentioned and usually come up with some excuse to not go. but if it's my parents calling me to just go over to their place and have some coffee and nothing much, i usually have no hesitation. since i know exactly what to expect from the whole experience: i know how my parents act, how their house is and functions, what are the dynamics involved; it's really just easy to exist at their place.

[@luminaramelody]

recently a similar kind of thing happened. The only difference is that i agreed to meet a not too close friend. But i regretted saying yes, and then after 3 days of pondering how to reject her offer, i finally was able to tell her the excuse, still feeling bad though. But just like you, when it comes to very close friends and family i can be more relaxed or even agree to last minute plans, even though they’re very unpleasant.

[@Andrei15193]

There is one more I would like to add, constraints. As an INFJ when I plan, predict or project, having constraints helps me a great deal because from all the variants I can imagine I can begin to rule out the ones that do not work because of constraints. Then I can separate what is left into exclusive threads, they may have a common part, but ultimately lead down very different paths. "If you turn left here, you will never be able to get back on the same path that is towards the right, make your choice.", furthermore, if the path towards the right is what I want for me in the future, but the left is tempting, I will turn right rather than left because of the undesirable outcome that will come at some point in the future.

[@redroselace9545]

Same issue

[@punkbunnee9558]

Pro tip 🧡

[@girl6girl6]

Exactly!!!

[@issra8408]

I love how you phrased everything, it also seems very logical and the best way to go about stuff so I always wondered why people just don't think of what's gonna happen, or why something happened? and how to prevent it from happening again or do it again?, how do you not know it's pretty obvious that's I used to get a bit heated with people with no projection of the future and just intentionally hurt themselves all the time, isn't your life precious don't you want to live a good life? , then I learned people just function differently and I should help the if they can't do it themselves. I do what I don't like now because I need that more in the future than this momentary tempting option sometimes it's hard and sometimes it's easy but always rewarding and sometimes I choose the tempting option just so to be like other people and understand them more sometimes something I didn't think of might pop and I actually love that way and mostly I was right but still an experience and a lesson needed, also because of thinking that if I go a certain path I won't come back just make me stay in a comfort zone that I know is not good for me for the long run but I just can't get out until I just force myself or/and try to make the comfort zone as useful and productive as possible so I won't regret anything and feel like I've done something useful, and most importantly it's all about a happy life so if I was happy and didn't lose my time well then that's should be good enough, sorry if it was too long I loved reading your comment thank you have a nice day.

[@Andrei15193]

@@issra8408 I get that, I had to go through the same realization that people, in general, see things very differently and what is obvious to me is not obvious to them and vice versa. And yeah, sometimes I need to pull my head from the clouds and actually do something :D

[@payal6480]

As an INFJ it is unacceptable to not know or miss out important details about something, sometimes I feel like we are always preparing for an exam. For us even spontaneity should be planned. About symbolism and ideas it is exciting to analyse and different meanings and manifestations of them in the world and it is real satisfaction when our prediction is accurate. (Told ya) One on one conversations especially about abstract subjects like occult and philosophy etc. are like games of intellect and wit which we are sure to win and even if we don't, there will be a new concept or topic for us to delve in.

[@lunarspine]

so true to me spontaneity is smth that I need to prepare myself to face. I do remember a lof of time that I wasn't prepared and basically lagged and didn't know how to react I was a weird feeling but not an unwelcome one

[@theprinceofcrows8691]

Very true about important details and feeling like you are constantly studying for an exam. 😂 I am always acquiring knowledge and building up my database on subjects I find interesting. I also have a habit of trying to make predictions about events and outcomes or even making bets on sports and games. The funny thing is I am not into gambling at all and I rarely collect on bets like that because to me it is just to test my knowledge and understanding or the ability to predict the outcome rather than a way to make a profit. I feel this is fun to engage in but my friends are not normally as enthusiastic. Especially when I tend to be right more often than not. 😆😆

[@Lazlo.]

Very true about the one-on-one convos about abstract, occult, conspiracy, etc. I've been into that stuff for years and I finally know why lol. Been watching a lot of INFJ vids lately and it all makes sense now.

[@doriaware2965]

Very true, symbolism is a way of understanding the background of ideas, which is very important to us.

[@doriaware2965]

I agree. Symbolism is an outward sign of ideas which is fascinating.

[@latiie]

On point yet again. Asking someone a bunch of questions to get as much information as I can is my topmost priority when meeting someone new. Sometimes I get lazy and impatient and just ask them on the first meeting, "So what childhood traumas do you have?" most of the time it scares them though haha but other times they're willing to share so that makes the conversation that usually lasts for 3 hours just talking about their whole life effortless. After we finish they realize that they know nothing about me except my name, which is amusing :)

[@notjohn2672]

I like to start with "so, what's your story?" intriguing, simple and gives the subject a lot of wiggle room

[@issra8408]

Interesting and nice you make the person feel heard. On this note I like to share my experience and approach, I learned to leave things for time, and let the person tell me without asking them, make myself vulnerable and share a bit of myself and make them feel heard and loved it's nice to see someone in their element and happy, but most of the time that leads to them to want to have long term relations and regular meetings, which I understand but don't really need or want, I just love you and hear you but I've got a life too, I can't be friends with everyone I like to really focus on one to two people as friends and that's enough, so now I only do it with my closest friend or someone I know I am not gonna meet again just to not disappoint anyone.

[@dracsharp]

I do this too as an ENTP. It can make others uncomfortable, but usually they sense my genuine interest and non judgemental nature and act like I force fed them truth serum. Even if I lose contact with them, they have become a part of me, and I can draw on their experiences and wisdom.

[@Peanuts76]

same, INFJ hate small talks, we even couldn't hide our hating expressions of small talk, hahaha i might just too dramatic and depressing INFJ

[@youweird6625]

that's a weird question to ask xD edit: tbh, I've never interrogate someone as asking some questions or forcing myself on them, it took days for people to be open with me and when they do, that's when I start to ask them some questions regarding of the topic their sharing and this probably makes them comfortable. I don't really try hard, it's just them doing it cuz they probably sense that I'm listening to them and know that I understand them, it's like I synced with them even if the topic is something I didn't know xD ( funny, I noticed it before knowing mbti )

[@LL-muddy1]

Growing up I think I learned foresight because it kept me safe. Growing up in a very unpredictable household I constantly scanned the environment for subtle cues of "what's to come". If i saw a pattern emerging that usually ended in a negative result, I'd take action to attempt to change it. I often wonder if I became an INFJ because of that or if I was born an INFJ & that's how I coped. Regardless, for me the need to get all the details before i decide to engage comes from that. But you're SO right Nathan, when I do feel safe- I completely embrace spontaneity- it's actually a huge relief

[@lovewho]

This is really fascinating. No one really knows the extent to which our personality is influenced by what we experience when younger, but surely it must be a huge factor if not the main factor. Perhaps we float around in a fluid state at a certain age then eventually settle on one type as we get that positive feedback based on what functions the environment we grow up in rewards ~ Nathan

[@ashdeen]

Tbh I think your personality comes from a combination of nature and nurture. For example, you could be born more intuitive or more sensing, more feeling or more thinking, but how those things manifest (order of cognitive functions, introverted vs extroverted cognitive functions), are probably changed by how you are raised and the environment you are raised in. Also, honestly, I’ve noticed that a lot of INFJ’s grew up in emotionally difficult situations. Just an observation though and by no means applies to every single INFJ. But I can’t help but wonder if I might be an ENFP/ENTP or something had I not grown up in that environment.

[@GrafinVonHopper]

I believe that with regards to MBTI, we are born with it and there is no way to change it. But in relation to the enneatype, yes, I would say that 90% of it depends a lot on the upbringing and environment where that person grew up. In fact, the enneagram explains why someone became a specific type based on their childhood experiences. I recommend studying the Enneagram to anyone who doesn't know it yet. You will be impressed.

[@awkwardgeek7872]

This is absolutely true. The words used to describe the way infj's view people is very lovely and so detailed!

[@stevethea5250]

What is the content maker's type?

[@awkwardgeek7872]

@@stevethea5250 I think INTP. (?)

[@stevethea5250]

@@awkwardgeek7872 hmmm ya I couldn't find any video where he talks or reveal.. Wanted to see

[@Adam-hz6wk]

@@stevethea5250 he is an INTP

[@stevethea5250]

@@Adam-hz6wk does he have a video about this him?

[@keysburntgucci9016]

"They've probably explored all manner of taboo and dark thoughts in their mind already and nothing is going to shock or surprise them" I guess, that is why when We say "No, I get it" to them, they can sense it's genuine for us and for once they felt seen and not dismissed for their point of views. I think this is why a good rapport is made between INFJs and social misfits.

[@kaylableier9067]

There is also an added draw I feel to the underbelly because it’s less easily read about and researched. It’s really only something you can physically get into - so wanting to know it all and understand it all, I’m drawn to a part of that

[@electricclouds4862]

One thing I always appreciate about your INFJ videos is that you don't leave out our analytical nature. We are often stereotyped as being overly giving and nurturing, which *can* be true (Fe craving validation), but that Ni-Ti analysis is always always running. Someone asks "do you want to go to a party?" and my immediate internal mental response is to immediately imagine the setting, feeling, and people present. "based on who's asking, what will that feel like? Is there a strategic purpose for me to go? Will there be someone I'd like to see? What will be the expectations of me? (Do I need to bring wine?)" But of course at the end it's "Do I have enough social energy for that?" Also appreciate never forgetting about that Se. It may be inferior but it's very much there. This coming from an INFJ who just talked about the ways they pre-imagine a simple party, but also broke up with my partner to go to an entirely other city to be with someone else ... in the same night.

[@pmlover1810]

I am very analytically annoying to friends and family

[@SonicUmami]

Lol @ "Is there a strategic purpose for me to go" too true.

[@justdomore]

a year ago... I'm so curious to know how that move played out for you? kipping my fingers crossed it went well! :D

[@ikarugaxx3749]

It depends by the person. Some INFJs get unbalanced, and entrust their Fe with their entire life, leaving a bit to Ni and nothing to Ti.

[@julietteferrars3097]

Very true about the abstract viewpoint! My mother always says I speak in code because I’m constantly using metaphors.

[@koonesuki]

This is so true. Especially predicting something when someone admits they're wrong for dismissing your prediction when it was correct.

[@antonyka-pra-ra]

Any correct predictions are happenstance Infj is not a great predictor by any measure. INFJ however Is extraordinarily AMAZING at calliing out a motive, an intent and or hidden agenda. Future conditional ? No go The pluperfect conjunctive? On the mark everytime.

[@iwantsomesleep5703]

things you love when youre infj: videos explaining your personality to you bc you dont understand what you are

[@piuuw3214]

😂lol but true

[@KatNich]

Being an INFJ before I knew MBTI, it was quite a bit tough to understand myself at times yet I'm now so proud to understand myself so much better and of course to understand others as well.

[@mckamy4711]

I think it's important how you mention that we have a scientific side as well. While I enjoy seeking meaning and metaphors in music and art, eventually I will get tired of that and question whether it is productive at all, instead yearning to do an activity that is more factual/scientific, so I'm constantly swaying between being interested in that but thinking it's pointless too

[@Meenaia]

Thank you for saying this! This is exactly what I'm wrestling with now while making art pieces to sell at a booth. People like them, but the whole time working on them I can't help but think "this is such a waste of time. No one can genuinely benefit from this as they would from something medically related"

[@opalknight6947]

I loved your example of "looking at code, as opposed to the user interface" example for experiencing/translating life into ideas, it felt like a very INTP viewpoint!

[@laya1077_]

yeah, as an INFJ I always related to INTP's way of thinking too.

[@Roasty420]

Would that mean INTPs and INFJs have a lot in common? I wonder how a relationship would work 🤔

[@laya1077_]

@@Roasty420 tbh INTPs and INFJs are known as the 'golden pair.' They make a great pair of friends or partners, or even a relationship. INTPs and INFJs have pretty much a lot in common

[@Roasty420]

@@laya1077_ I figured that much, me and this INFJ were very close once, she had feelings for me and was very warm towards me. Now she doesn’t talk to me as much and I miss her presence. I have no one to blame, but myself. I betrayed my nature and who I was and I became infatuated with my arrogant ego. She cared for me and gave me ideas on what I should do with my life. I should have listened, now she’s always on my mind and I can’t only think of where I went wrong.

[@issra8408]

I love that you always debunk all the stereotypes about Infj, it's refreshing, I love that you talk about the side of how much we love and value science, really appreciated, your videos are so well made and written it's like a serenade to listen to ♥, the narration is so well done, coherent and articulates quite satisfying really, thank you I am always learning from you and your videos helped me a lot ♥

[@redroselace9545]

Spontanitey part is spot on. I recently went on a spontaneous trip to another city which I been planning and putting off for months once I did it I felt fulfilled but little tired. Planning is more anxious inducing yet enjoy it in theory byt no practise. So I think I'll be planning to take spontaneous trips more often rather than going for a planned trip! 😫😫 struggles of infj

[@333invitado]

I love how you said you'll be PLANNING more spontaneous trips 😂😂😂👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻😭😭 even when we wanna be spontaneous it has to be planned spontaneity 😂😭👌🏻

[@LuisMedina-pj4be]

😭😭😭😭😭 unfortunately we plan-spontsnius 😭😭😭😭🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@SD-rm5ty]

Nothing will surprise or shock an INFJ 😂 and yes I thrive in one on one conversations. 😊

[@BJID]

Why nathan why ?? Your uploads about infj is so accurate, its almost seems like you have an infj person as your experiment subject you'd analyze every week... lmao... What i love the most is having a thoughtful and considerate person as my friends 😉

[@ylvali]

This is correct. As I said earlier today to a friend after a two hour long one on one conversation: this is the lifeblood that flows through my time space and gives it meaning. Nurturing and eliciting new understanding, reactions and connections. Conversation to make new theories bloom - gifting me deeper insight.

[@zintlenzimande4848]

Every day that's what I yearn for

[@frangipanisandgirl]

4:15 I had to laugh from here on, because that is exactly me! Give me all the details! 😆 It’s frustrating though because some people (who don’t know me very well) assume I’m asking who’s going, etc. because I want to know if it’s worth going to or not, like from a ‘is it cool enough for me to go to’ perspective, which is not it at all! I just want to be mentally prepared for anything that could happen, and know who’s going to see if I have the energy levels to deal with certain people who will make small talk all night. I feel much better about going somewhere socially if I have as much information as possible.

[@chica3824]

I love planning and scheduling in 'spontaneous time' where I (in theory) have no plans.

[@christineplaton3048]

True. My narcissist didn't like the attempts at heart to heart talks.

[@enigmaomega4471]

I think its right to view the world as manifestations of ideas rather than the other way round. If we take a technical example, if the laws of physics were formed by the universe, we would see all sorts of inconsistently applied and one-off rules. As it stands we can see the laws are universal, and where there are strange exceptions we can explain these as various laws interacting in ways we didn't account for.

[@zelda_k6]

As an INFJ I really enjoy watching your INFJ videos, the way you describe us is so accurate, I hope you keep doing this kind of videos 💕

[@ryobeiyamaoka3287]

I didn't even know that viewing the world in an abstract way was special. Yes, I love art in many ways. Another thing that comes to mind is how my view on someone that I like changes over time. As feelings grow, I can't see them for just their outher layer, because all their colors are shining through. Is that relateable?

[@sundus928]

" Symbolism and Meaning" makes me question if INFJs are more prone to become Maladaptive Daydreamers. I have Hyperphantasia, that means my mind create images subconsciously. Sometimes it helps with Meditation, Experiencing Nature , Creativity and Art but with Depression, It becomes Worst. My mind goes to a very dark place and I'm constantly speaking in Analogies and Symbols or even illustrations on how My depression feels like. I also question if INFJs can be on the Autism Spectrum too.

[@davidcook680]

I have have conversations with people. Lasting all night. Had one girl say as the sun came up. That she loved how we could sit all night. Keep talking and the conversation never died down. She had never been able to do this with anybody. Other people will say there is something about you. Where I want to tell you really personal stuff. I can pull people into the depths of their soul. I never judge people for anything really. I always try to understand why they did what they did. Or how they live. If they tell me a dream they have or want to to do. I become there biggest cheerleader. Erase their doubt. Tell them how they can do it. That they deserve to do it. They derseve being happy. If somebody had trauma. I seek it out in them. I want to help them with it. It is like I want to take it from them. Like give me your pain. I will take it on. So you don't hurt. I try and explore it. Even as I feel it heavy in me. Like I start to feel it. I just want it from them. I don't intentionally do that. It just happens. I know it will hurt me. I just want to help. I will do everything in my power. To help. I can feel somebody feeling better. I feel lighter and more at peace. I feel so much relieve. I just want them to feel happier and more at peace. I'm also terrified that my pain will hurt somebody. I do everything I can not to make people uncomfortable. If I feel like I am. I have to stop. I can even apologize to somebody. That I'm so sorry if this is bothering you. They usually say it's okay. I assume they feel like I do. Most don't though.

[@jaimiehorton9669]

I love what you said about spontaneity, when I'm with people I trust I'm very comfortable being spontaneous! I love situations where someone else plans and I just have to come along for the ride. Most of the time I do a great deal of social analysis without even fully realizing it, it's exhausting and takes the fun out of things.

[@sylviaowega3839]

As an INTP, I love that aphorism, “the conversation between to individuals is a dance between two beautiful minds”

[@fortune_roses]

INTJ *surrounded by INFJs* quite often... I like the commonalities & find the differences to be balancing

[@schokobro9676]

I like INFJ's

[@IO-hh3gw]

The processing of planning, predicting, and projecting in my head is really fast whenever I'm facing a situation or a crisis, you'll think it will take me a long time thinking of different situations but NO in seconds I've already thought of a solution whatever situation I predicted arises, I've already come up with a escape if things gets crazy and executing those plans is the only way I need to do.

[@xoxo_radiohead]

Hello fellow infjs! I hate telling people i’m an infj because I come across a lot of fakes and toxic people so i’m glad I have finally found my community!

[@mandydavis7150]

As an intj female most these things are agreeable to me as well. Patterns and planning but I get very bogged down by details that seem irrelevant to me. And though I genuinely care for people I do sometimes struggle to understand their feelings. I do however feel that I understand myself well and find myself constantly critiquing my own strengths and weaknesses to better myself for future endeavors and interactions.

[@lovewho]

I’ve often wondered about the difference between the sexes when it comes to the types. I might cover this topic in a video at some point. It might the case, for example, that many female INTJs are able to dip into those INFJ-esque abilities ~ Nathan

[@melindamorrison1]

Thank you for your video. I'm an INFJ and I've been trying to understand and process some things about my life lately. Like why I attract certain types of people and circumstantial outcomes. As I was mulling this over in my head during a sleepless hour last night it suddenly occurred to me that I see things in patterns. Didn't know that that is an INFJ thing until I found your video. The timing is ironic but i don't believe in coincidence.

[@julietteferrars3097]

Posting an INFJ video at 4am? You know me so well. 😌🖤

[@solarisan_]

I will try to break down in simple terms the ways an INFJ thinks, reacts, sees the world. Because there is this view that INFJs are mysterious and live in the shadows, let’s bring INFJs (or, at least, one of them) to light. Let me first address the stereotypes that people read and use to further type themselves. There are some that are true and can be linked to functions, while others come from people’s subjective perception of the type. Which ones are true? 1. Door slamming the past. Once an INFJ is done with something/someone, they are not likely to seek the same situation, or person. 2. The wish to pack a suitcase and disappear for a while. Yup. Absolutely true. Would I do that, though? The idea does exist, but knowing that people somehow depend on me, it would feel like a betrayal to actually do it, especially once I have realized they need me to stick around. So, I would be prone to delaying the actual ‘disappearance act’, but it would eventually take place. That is for sure. There are words that people associate with INFJs that don’t ring a bell to me. Some of those are: old soul, chameleon, mysterious. I understand where they come from, but am aware that people who read them and don’t have a deeper view on how and why they are linked to an INFJ, will confuse them with a definition of their own that is the one most likely to be true. Old soul, as people see it, is someone who has a connection to old times, the past, certain longing of it. What does it mean for an INFJ? Surprisingly different and deeper perspective on things that people translate as wise. Chameleon - ability to become like everyone else in the room and easily fit in (as seen by people). What does it really refer to? Showing empathy and understanding without the necessity to link it to oneself and one’s own reasoning and personal experience. A non-judgmental attitude. Mysterious - secretive, withdrawn (per other people’s view) vs I hold multilayered self that can seem contradictory to others and I can’t really explain it in a way that will make sense to everyone. 1. How do INFJs process emotions internally? Through thinking and analysis. Externally, I can pin down how others feel and why with great accuracy, while I have difficulty in applying the same process internally. In fact, I show that uncertainty in the way I express myself and re-examine the truth of it. I have used phrases such as: I think I feel…, Ummmm…, confusing feelings with how they might come across,… 2. How do INFJs explain an emotional process? By visualizing a ‘scene’ that holds a metaphorical meaning. For example, the best way I could explain my phobia was internally visualizing a painting-like captured moment. This is how I have done it: Imagine yourself standing in front of the ocean while you can see the waves coming at you creating the feeling that they have the power to sweep you away, but you find yourself unable to move because your feet are placed in a quicksand.

[@marybelarenas64]

As an INFJ I can say I love analyzing people…not in a creepy way but to really get to know them

[@sunburstrose7860]

Loved the video and thought that it was pretty sot on. But as an INFJ, let me offer this where the topic of sponteneity is concerned. We INFJs are continuously taking in information, a lot of it uconsciously. Makes EVERYTHING IS SO *COMPLEX*. It can lead to us freezing up where, for example, decision-making is concerned. And then there are those blessed times where all those many ibnternal feeling and thinking pieces come together and we move into action on something that is deeply meaningful to us without hesitation. I love it when that happens! Wish it happened more (haha). But I also value being able to see so many facets of something. It's such an extraordinary gift to come upon someone who actually enjoys complexity as much. Most of the population unfortunately do not have the same capabilities for, and enoyment of, complexity and therefore also do not have the patience to go into deep thinking about ideas. Which is not to say they don't have their own strengths of course.

[@GroovyDean]

Spontaineity is reserved for the special people in our lives. Our loved ones, close friends and family. they took precedence. bcoz time is priceless, we rather do them with those that truly matters to us.

[@saloni.sharma]

"ideas are real, everything else is just a manifestation of that" is such an incredible way to put Ni's way to seek and analyse patterns into perspective. everything is spot on but i can never see myself being truly spontaneous, unless it is around people i trust, which in a way, is planned. that way i can be certain that there is an element of familiarity in the situation because i know how those people act under different circumstances.

[@JakeDaBoxer777]

Spot on 👌

[@sunndnguy30]

*Homer Simpson backs into the bushes.*

[@malakhroub8697]

As an INFJ, that's sooooo accurate !!!! although we feel like we are strangers in this planet, and we are rarely understood .. yet our souls can be a great source of beauty in this world ! the world is lucky to have INFJs :)

[@taetae4508]

But they aren't lucky themselves

[@Mr3kiwis]

As an INFJ with an INTP husband who adores me, balances me out, and who stays up late night after night having deep conversations with me; with an ENFP teenage daughter who will intently listen to me monologue for hours about psychology and literature; with a background in music, who can deeply connect with the variety and intensity of emotion when interpreting Beethoven, Schubert, Chopin, etc; who has a meaningful life guiding the development of eight beautiful and unique children through motherhood and home education; and who knows that we are created as one-of-a-kind individuals by an infinitely loving God to return a unique love to Him that no other being can give Him, I feel blessed to live such an emotionally, intellectually and spiritually rich life. We are INFJ for a purpose.

[@stellerate]

Being an INFJ is a double edge sword... Its great to be able to tell alot about a person without talking to them, knowing your friends will always be thier for you when you need them, being able to avoid conflict without even thinking about it, having a creative mind... there's a lot of things that I love about being an INFJ-T... However on the flip side becuse we don't trust others to see our vulnerable side easily it's almost impossible to just open up to a therapist because at the end of the day, we're just another client and need to get to know people personally before we open up. And if you've been in an abusive household in your life it's easy to have nightmares of possible outcomes because the INFJ mind goes through every possible aspect of a situation... That stuff keeps me up at night. So yeah, on one hand I'm glad that I'm an INFJ but at the same time it definitely has it's drawbacks!

[@May-xt9pv]

Spot on! Omg…Im laughing at what u said about “us” re Tolkein’s dragon quote. My mind does go soooo fast. I wonder how many INFJs have adhd….

[@helenhandley1711]

Spontaneity? Maybe but only under the right circumstances . . Selective spontaneity . . If that is a thing ??!

[@Jaxmusicgal23]

Sure is… learned as an ENFP to give that to my non-spontaneity loving MBTI cohorts.😊

[@cinderling5472]

Wow. Speechless after having my subconscious/conscious methods uncovered ever so eloquently and precisely. This was an absolute treat, i was smirking all the way. Thank you!! 💜💜🙏

[@notjohn2672]

Real talk, it's funny to watch Ne/Si try to describe Ni You're describing it correctly, but

[@talonthorn]

Not only do I automatically speculate about a situation that interests me, but my subconscious is processing it too. This doesn't stop at any point--It could be days later, and suddenly my subconscious will inspire me with some new insight about that past situation. It may even be years later that the memory of a frustrating conversation is triggered. It comes back to me with great clarity, like it was just yesterday, and along with it, the perfect retort! Though I've missed the window of opportunity, I still feel strongly compelled to find the person, but only for a moment. I still enjoy my "triumph," but it is only mine to enjoy. This may seem a bit vainglorious, but it really isn't about the triumph over the other person. It is more about completion--I believe an INFJ hates loose ends! Anyway, if I do happen to think of the perfect timely response, chances are I won't say it. I wouldn't want to say what I wouldn't want to hear, myself. 😮

[@monikasuszek3434]

I am not spontaneous. But as I want to please a spontaneous person, I join their idea and immediately start planning, backup planning and backup backup planning.

[@Teddybeloved]

You had me when you mentioned and described my process as soon as you mentioned party. I instantly started wondering all you said.

[@notjohn2672]

About the liking art, literature, music, yes. However, we need that Ni pull. If the thing is too out there, if the painting doesn't actually fill the Ni box, it might be very uninteresting. We like abstract, but not that much. Ni, not Ne (right). A joke can't be funny if the outcome is completely unexpected or random. This of course applies to the whole INFJ way of living, not only our art interests.

[@notjohn2672]

On INFJ (Ni) planning: yes, we lack spontaneity and plan automatically. But we live in the plan. Something might happen and kick you over to plan B, C, or whatever feels like it fits the best in the moment. We actually CAN be very spontaneous, at times. If we plan to be. This also means Ni doms have a hard time actually planning. If you're a masterclass chess player, it's hard to force yourself to practice the basics like you're just learning to play. If you asked me what my plan is exactly i'd have a hard time laying it out for you. But i'll always have a rough idea of the possibilities and possible courses of action.

[@Universal_Cymbol]

You've always had a great insight to our type. Uncanny at times. Great work.

[@carolyncolinhogarth8732]

I did enjoy this interpretation of personality patterns, thoughts, spontaneity, and how analytical I am when specifying that I indeed studied Psychology and Psychiatric ways and thoughts of analysts like Freud. I enjoyed...I also enjoy the fact that I believe you are very correct about symbolism. A great deal was studied about symbolism in Canada's Universities around the years of 1980's. Thank you for your most productive video....I agree in all ways of that which you interpret about personality...Indeed interesting.

[@life_lab_chronicles]

Um... Have we met?? Lol. Astonishing perspicacity, Nathan. Well done!

[@miriamsternlicht]

INFJ (A) here and this was so fantastically accurate, I'm blown away.

[@amasterofone]

The way you describe INFJs is so accurate it's scary. It's like you are describing me and specific situations that have existed throughout my life. Every once in a while I'll think, maybe I'm not an INFJ and then I watch something like this that is basically like here is someone describing you in detail.

[@yvvxn]

If I ever get asked to ride on a rollercoaster by my friends while working at my job I will almost immediately say yes. I enjoy little things like that at times, a few moments where I don't have to think, I just enjoy the process and let it happen. It happens rarely but every now and then its okay.

[@lunaris7235]

Great video! :) As an INFJ, I truly love spontaneity, but it's something that needs to be earned. Before I go to a new place, I try to learn as much about it, find out which restaurants and cafés there are and which are good (for me or the people I'm going with) and try to find out all the possible connections back home such like train/bus connections. Then, I can truly embrace spontaneity :'D... No, really, I usually dont make concrete plans, I just try to prepare myself as good as possible to then be able to act spontaneous. I really dislike concrete plans as much as I dislike getting into a situation unprepared. If I ever get to a place I've never been, the first thing I do is try to learn about it as much as possible to make this fear of the unknown go away. tl dr; never go without a plan, but dont follow it to closely ;) But the way I handle planning and spontaineity is exactly the same way that I handle inuition and thinking in intellectual debates or strategy stuff: I dislike to make concrete strategies beforehand, I try to know as much as possible of a possible topic to be able to get inuitive, educated predictions, I mostly... don't think :'D Not this deep pro-con or strategical thinking, It just feels unnatural to me. But I totally hate it to make a strategy out of nothing or discuss a topic I dont know much about it.

[@Ram-1231]

You are pretty accurate on this INFJ. I agree with a large percentage of your INFJ outlook.

[@jillharrison3924]

I’m not sure how to convey my gratitude for this video!! I’m an INFJ, and I feel BLOWN AWAY by your insight!!! This is the most understood and uplifted I’ve felt from a KZbinr (or anyone) who purports to knowing INFJ’s. If only I could share this video with family and receive the kind of positive outcome that all INFJ’s deserve…oops! Just woke myself up from that fantasy lol!;) sigh. Thank you for making this excellent video! I am comforted in knowing that someone really understands.:) Especially someone that’s as incredibly articulate as you, as I hope it gives a greater chance of this important and informative message being shared and heard by many others. It needn’t be a fantasy. In fact, I am sharing this video with whomever I think might watch it, and I ask others to please do the same!

[@tahah.babikir7698]

4:31 I think Anne is being suggestive here.. what would you do if you can’t sleep and just had a deep conversation?

[@gwyn.]

Deep Penetration… Of Philosophical Thoughts.

[@cynthiasarah4286]

Haha... yes... we do that.. but typically say no to the last one... I'd rather think alone. Then listen to people spewing garbage

[@stevedavenport1202]

So true, at least as far as this INFJ is concerned, about one on one conversations. I used to work as an airport shuttle driver and had dozens of great conversations every week. One time I had a tall woman with a deep voice riding next to me and I dared to ask her how she made her living. Her answer was "science fiction writer" So, we spent the next 30 minutes en route to her house discussing the finer points of character and plot development. When I returned home I Googled her and, sure enough, I had given a ride to Octavia Butler. What was even more odd was that she lived just 4 miles from my house.

[@beeimaginative]

Love your quotes. And, I love rolling in the deep.

[@waykee3]

The issue is that I have to figure stuff out on my own mostly because people don’t like me asking too much stuff to figure things out.

[@brandiek82]

I really appreciate how you reveal the hidden Ni-Ti heart, beating life into the Fe exterior. Most see the Fe surface and blithely conclude that's all there is to it. Bravo.

[@carolyncolinhogarth8732]

Knowing what love is...indeed...

[@bethiciaprasek9415]

By having detailed plans and backup plans you are freed up to be spontaneous...because you know..."I have a plan for that!". Once you have thoroughly analyzed a situation then worry no longer provides a benefit, you just pull out the "get out of jail free" card out of your back pocket if things go awry. Why doesn't everyone do that?

[@Ester0ck]

Nice video thanks ! I'd be interested in the difference between INFJ and other types, especially sensing types. I relate to all of your points but I feel that it's not always specific to INFJ... And I can't tell if everyone uses intuition at some point or if my intuition makes me feel that everything is connected. Help please 😂 Edit: I asked this kind of question to my ISFJ boyfriend and he answered "I don't understand". Damn

[@jessicathespy]

This was recently commented on for infj on dear Kristen's signs dating or on a first date

[@Ester0ck]

@@jessicathespy thanks for the information! I'll look it up (I love Kristen's videos too ☺️)

[@alexanderkeehnen]

Brilliant video, yet again. I watched many dozens of them, and I'm usually sharing your videos with the people whose type I discovered (through physical tests, not a questionnaire). So much insight. As an INFJ especially, I'm loving every bit of it. Sometimes I get caught in a loop of watching personality videos, when I want to understand somebody (or myself) better. This video was the fourth in a streak of your INFJ videos. Thank you, and keep up the good work. Every human should understand these things about themselves and the people around them ❤

[@jamielake-boyd3600]

I don't ask those things but i think those things and others probably think instead of ask which is why we say no because we wear ourselves out with all that thought.

[@JojoChan320]

as an INFJ, the first idea and the last idea are 100% correct at almost all time

[@enki012]

When I talk to someone, I don't want a "deep" conversation. I want an interesting, educational conversation that opens my eyes. Most of the time "deep" conversation is just me repeating what i've already come to a conclusion on and won't budge on. I love to meet someone who teaches me something new.

[@thepaintedlady7653]

So true about planning out the future yet occasionally being seduced by spontaneity! Like it’s almost a relief to just let go and see what happens.

[@dracotitanfall]

Ok...this is spot on

[@redroselace9545]

Omg was FJ just advertising mytype as one of legit ads omg he's getting bigger

[@caramimi]

I am an INFJ and have subscribed. That's one more for your data. I've also clicked the bell. *Ding *Ding!

[@melbygosling890]

I have to thank you for this well thought out and executed video. I am amazed at how accurately you described us INFJ types. Kudos! this is definitely one of the best ,if not the best I've seen, heard and related to!

[@ScottA2345]

I've taken the Meyers Briggs test numerous times in my life - about 5. First was in the 1980's during college. I've always scored as an INFJ (although I once came out as an ENFJ). Anyway - I never really knew what it meant. Back before the internet, there was very little out there to explain what being a whatever meant. I wish I had all this info years ago. I used to just think I was a bit strange, but now I know I'm just an INFJ. The characteristics are spot on to a frightening degree of accuracy. I'm happy to know there are others out there too. :)

[@Kyouske_42]

I am still second guessing if I really am an INFJ, but this video definitely nudged that guess towards yes. I can relate 100% and have never heard such a detailed description of how I think every day.

[@lovewho]

The fact that you're still questioning your own type is a good sign. It's not a process that's straightforward - typing yourself. It takes a lot of time to really know for sure! ~ Nathan

[@jennaleeburch2970]

I liked this. The symbolic way of understanding the world + “based my complex deep psychological analysis I’ve done on them over time” (which was funny and true); these things stood out as very niche accurate which is always nice to see

[@virginialee5065]

as a INFJ, i relate to EVERY SINGLE one of the points i am so stereotypical lmao as for the spontaneity i totally agree!! i've actually wondered about that for quite some time. when i became a teacher i was kind of obsessed with planning (it's sort of the only way to learn lol), but 1 or 2 years later i changed so much (i 'automized' everything in my life and work so i just enjoyed going with the flow, so to speak) that i thought i might actually be an INFP lmao Thank you for the video, it was interesting and even helpful ^^

[@LearnGermanwithMarzipanfrau]

I love that it's so true. 4:15 That's what I do. I will go through the people and try to remember all the names so that I can say Oh hello ... just that it looks like I know every name. ^^

[@jadeparcels000]

this is awesome

[@spmoran4703]

You got it right with this INFJ .

[@AdisaCar]

This is good. This is real good, feeling a bit seen and also ready to float back into the shadows lol

[@ghgh5611]

This is so accurate!

[@NathanaelNaused]

You nailed this! -INFJ

[@TeraHammer]

lol! My person I'm seeing just message me "do you have a candle lit too?" and I was like: "A candle, what a great idea, that will give me inspiration to finish my writing". I lit the candle becauses of the underlying idea of inspiration, not necessarily because of how it looks cosy xD

[@ShushanGalstyan]

Please @LoveWho, make more videos about ENFJs. I would be happy to learn more about this type. It seems they're somewhat ignored or underestimated in the MBTI community.