This Causes the Largest Wounding to the Narcissist

[@Rondy0328]

I never needed revenge, just peace.

[@pinkrainbow1]

Well it's good to know I did the most wounding thing for him. I planned it and packed slowly. A little bit every day. Always while he was at work, moving my car inside the garage so no neighbors could see I was filling my trunk up everyday. Then one week later all I had was a single gym bag full left. I showered, blow dried my hair, got ready and left just like any other day with my little gym bag slung casually over my shoulder.. there was nothing left behind. I left everything in perfect order, clean Sheets, freshly vacuumed carpet with a completely empty closet but smelling like fresh Pine Sol & Windex. I wanted to leave respectfully with class. Without a single item left behind... then promptly blocked him on social media. I enjoyed the whole process so much.

[@toscadonna]

I did something like that. I called the movers and went around the house cutting myself out of every picture and leaving the frames filled with only him. That’s who he loves the most.😂

[@franpag2611]

well done!

[@NatCee]

Me too! Best decision I ever made.

[@niwreyentihw1496]

I did something similar as well.

[@Kim-vs4vb]

Did the same, left my narc family, they were shocked! I cleared my parents house of every trace of me, they ignored me so well n left me alone most of the time that nobody knew I was busy cleaning, packing n giving things away! 😂 3 yrs plus No contact! Blocked everyone 100 plus ppl, had Hoover’s, fake accounts ect but I never replied just block n delete! That shock will never leave them n they will never forget how I managed to do it without a soul knowing....... my extremely precise planning worked so well. Their evil ways towards me actually helped me work in silence undetected😂🤣 thanks narcs!

[@drlarrymitchell]

Letting them know in no uncertain terms that you outsmarted them, and were onto their stinking game long ago: PRICELESS.

[@PRETTYGIRLSWAGG918]

💯

[@SequoiaMoonSpeaks]

They truly think that they are smart 🤣 not when you’re dealing with a High Priestess who sees through BS a mile out! I never trusted him and at the end I told him that I was the one stringing him along bcuz I was never going to help him open his business 🤣 he couldn’t believe what he was hearing and almost had a melt down right in front of me 🤣. The look on his face...priceless 👍🏾

[@sinceresong9907]

Basically play time is up..

[@coreyhaga2623]

It may seem heartless to show the narc. You always knew what they were doing but ! I raised my kids and left , she asked me why I stayed so long , I told her it was for the kids and not her , her face changed big time , she got mad and said so I had to suffer , typical response from a self absorbed brat , there were four more people in the house but as usual its only about the narc . this happened yesterday 🙄

[@sweetapplepie4707]

..

[@Vixinaful]

Empaths get angry too. After YEARS of emotional abuse we get ANGRY. Perfectly normal. Good to know why its such a blow to leave them though; Its not love, its an ego blow.

[@annemccarron2281]

Thank God we do get angry or we would stick with these devils forever!

[@suzywalsh7906]

Super empaths know revenge is not necessary. Every man who has tried to destroy me has experienced terrible consequences ,not because of my actions; I just watch their karma catch up .

[@BlindGirlBeauty]

SAME!

[@EthersMysticalChildTarot8014]

I 💖 this about myself I get to see instant karma to those who try to come against me😝 it never fails🧐😩

[@lisacrispell2269]

They will reap what they sow !!!

[@In-house444]

Me too. I don’t waste time with revenge.

[@R.Specktre]

Most are ignored. Threats are answered.

[@shhhkapowww]

When you leave. Never look back. Not Even for revenge.

[@ME-FAFO]

So what I am hearing is, No Contact creates insanity. 😉 That was a beautiful lesson learned 5 years ago.

[@coreyhaga2623]

Its true , my ex wife has been wasting her days telling everyone how bad of a person I am while doing some of the craziest stuff ,, now over a year latter I wrote a message on her KZbin platform a few things she has done to her own adult kids , and I mean I was on her IPad when I wrote the message , everyone following her to crucifi. Me now has this , ! I warned her I was better as a friend than an enemy , Karma sweetie 🙃

[@hannaewelina8282]

Almost 8 years in my case :D

[@annemccarron2281]

Me as well. My narc sister sent letter after letter. I never responded to a single one. Even offered to get me to stay at her condo when I was visiting Fla. Never responded.

[@peaceangel-rl2hf]

It does- I have witnessed it first hand

[@Alieortwo]

It is not true. They are glad you are gone and can play the victim with the new supply that they allready had before you ran. 🤣

[@Tomara632]

When a man tells you that 'you are his favourite'... Run for the hills and never look back.

[@yvetteeverett6531]

No contact and let karma take its turn .

[@annd1411]

They don’t seem to have consequences. Rarely does “karma” ever reach them.I’d love someone to prove me otherwise.

[@emmafilamo8519]

Narc they don't believe karma..

[@kylawanderlust9939]

@@annd1411 mine has herpes as a result of his ways. Not to say everyone who has it is vile, but he’s a sexual deviant.. and a Psychologist. Go figure.

[@njfilly8705]

I escaped when he didn't expect it. I wounded him deeply. He is blocked from all contact, and will never see me or speak to me again. I win.

[@msdemeanour]

👏👏👏

[@emagard8076]

Same exactly.12 mths gone, listening to H G, justice has been served :) enough for me, just to be gone.

[@pl7808]

Yes!! You win!! i so needed to read this right now. Thank you!!

[@sandrablake5199]

I escaped 3 years ago absolutely still NOCONTACT👊🏻! I’ve divorced him after 40 years of hell n abuse👿 I want him to b well and outlive me, so he can continue to pay my ALIMONY 🙏🏼

[@queenkarma_4450]

My narc was broke,didn’t work... I paid all the bills....and found that he was having sex with a female in my house...I’ve been gone ever since,he tries to contact through my sister,I’ve not gone back...don’t think pf him ever...but he’s going to always think about me

[@stephaniebuker1812]

The level of Apathy is the goal. Not hate, not revenge and not wounding.. Sweet, sweet Apathy..

[@dorothysmith7226]

Apathy is good so it doesnt cause so much pain to either of you!!! yes i know bc im an empath!!!

[@michellebh]

Imagine how Tom Cruise felt when Katie Holmes brilliantly escaped under a cloak of darkness 😬

[@scarletoharabia3801]

Yes I believe she found him out and his lover is miscaviage.

[@Cherrysmith2809]

@@scarletoharabia3801 Katie’s father recognized that she was in a cult, helped her to understand this, and helped her plan her escape. That is what I read. I think he may be a lawyer.

[@mowthpeece1]

Isn't it interesting that this is Hugh Grant?

[@kategould4857]

I know! With all his resources and those people from that creepy religion he is in with as a really high up especially creepy creep person. She had to do a lot to get herself and their daughter safe.

[@coly4ever]

Good example.

[@madambutterfly5343]

Wow, so I really did kick him in the nuts when I escaped 😂

[@NikkiG718]

Good!😂😂

[@runawaycat4594]

Seems like I did too, those 5 months of homelessness were totally worth it :D

[@candycanes7581]

Not only did you kick him in the nuts, you chopped one off and dunked it into a bucket of bleach. Empath =1 Narcissist =0

[@nomopms1]

Same here!

[@d3ltaking419]

Amazing and don’t ever look back at all

[@bookwarmtee7750]

Just walk away! Life is meant to be fun! Narcissists are so boring and repetitive 🙄 Control, bla, bla, bla. Life is so much more intriguing than a nut case! Just go, do you!

[@Wb-is8wi]

Once you see through their constant lies, they are indeed really boring people!

[@Revelation18-4]

The best way to do this is to make sure you pay them compliments and talk only good things about him or her in front of their flying monkey friends. This will bewilder the flying monkeys and question the narc's motives. Worked for me.

[@leveragees]

I like!

[@carolynfry4797]

Perfect!

[@carolinelabe3542]

‘Flying monkey friends’: good description

[@daughterofzion4791]

Interesting ..I never thought of that

[@sararichardson737]

Very smart. Noted

[@lisaking4386]

Ah, yes, the narcissist hates to be shunned, ghosted, or whatever you want to call it.

[@karinaurintzof9330]

You are funny... you are aware that there’s a dark side to an empath lol 😂

[@omare-4cpl423]

Definitely

[@jacqueline4365]

Love this! 😂

[@andreamoe1641]

Of course he is.

[@andreaturnquist4855]

I'm laughing!

[@twilightmoon5840]

You are right hitter was an INFJ empath and so was Ghandi it depends which way we use our gifts... Narcs are easy to beat its like a game if chess we are 2 steps ahead of them... his voice sounds evil just like one and doesn't the robot claim to be a narrassists and 1% of the world are narrassist and everyone has some narrassistic traits, perhaps you and I should educate this robotic narc! 😉

[@dophiemcghee7062]

I escaped. He downgraded rapidly. Polar opposite to me. She'll be grateful. He'll get bored with the downgrade quickly especially on lockdown. Poor girl.

[@bondeappetite703]

So glad I wasn’t in lockdown with the narc. 🙏🏻

[@recoveringsoul755]

Mine bought an even bigger house during lockdown with my replacement and started some business. Not sure what kind. Got himself a good slave and spending my money

[@thebestboss4563]

Music to my ears. This fuels me to never look bk

[@kathys1285]

It’s really quite simple you GOSO get out and stay out and be SILENT FOREVER! Enough said 🙌🏻💯

[@michaelkbolton]

Brill

[@lisadeee1343]

This is my favourite video of yours HG, you’ve made my day 😁 While I was escaping ( he had no clue until the moving van turned up) he was served with an AVO by the Police ( 2 attractive female officers I might add). Wounded badly and no matter how many crocodile tears he tried to dupe me with, there was no turning back, my fuel tap had run dry. Best days work ever.

[@selfesteem3447]

Lisa Dee Ahhh Ha... two attractive chick officers👍🏻🤗 Awesome !

[@jeanettecook1088]

It's my favorite too... according to H G, I wounded my ex "horrendously"!!! Isn't that wonderful! I actually did that then, but didn't realize how much it affected him, until now! Thank you HG for saying this, I am a "horrendous wounder"..... hee hee! (Serves my ex right, he was more terrible than I by worlds.)

[@SwiftyEJ]

Mine just got a restraining order and community service for abuse/gender violence. Reported him right in honeymoon phase. We've been married six months. He didn't see it coming. Game Over.

[@colliric]

..... Cutting them off. That causes the largest wound. Edit: I knew it! Knew I was right! Lol!

[@michelle.mabelle]

Lol!

[@erinmorrow5001]

Brilliant (again) HG! I am celebrating my 3 year 'escape-aversary' today with much laughter listening to your sardonic sense of humor. Thanks for putting yourself out there. You helped save my life.

[@Hippielife398]

I wounded mine to his black core. After 30 years I pressed charges after he strangled me. It’s been almost 2 years of no contact and I have won. My prize is peace and freedom and I have myself back ❤️ Thank you HG, out of all the videos on narcissism, you are the one that has saved me. Yes, this is the Candi who you scheduled the consult with you over a year ago 😊

[@recoveringsoul755]

How do you prove strangulation if they left no marks, and you didn't report it at the time? My word against his.

[@caracopland710]

I DUNNO- what's left of you after 30years- a HUSK. . .

[@VedanthB9]

@@recoveringsoul755 I’m just glad to know that the OP won, despite the (probable) setbacks.

[@voodookitchenmama]

He thought he had me cornered and caged, so I moved over 1,000 miles away. Still brings a sly smile to my face when I think of that phone call, listening to him rant like a lunatic. Oh yes. It was lovely. Some empaths can be just as vicious and cruel as their narcissist when pushed too far and... enjoy every single moment.

[@michelle.mabelle]

Yup!

[@Welzy79]

Fucking oath

[@lauramatherne1049]

It's all about self preservation. Knowledge is power.

[@karenovalasiti7819]

Stay away from evil people because when their karma comes they'll make you bear it with them

[@myfriendjosie]

Lol! "My you are a despicable bunch." Your Narcissism is showing. 😂

[@ginnizanco2398]

Simple AWARENESS. DISAPPEAR SILENCE PERFECTO. NEVER LOOK BACK.

[@TheUsurperGuy1]

I was an intimate partner primary source. But I passed the baton to the new boyfriend. I couldn't take the emotional abuse anymore. The ex-narcissist I was living with was going to go to Georgia on vacation with her new boyfriend for a few days. She wanted me to keep in contact with her and said she would see me later. I responded "Goodbye" not in a dark way or a sort of way to indicate that I was leaving forever. Just a simple Goodbye. When I saw her driving down the road. I promptly left and never looked back even now. After about 3 days of my escape bombarded by calls and texts from every angle. I ignored everything and blocked her. She left me a voice mail saying it was "an emergency" but I knew better. It was only the love of Jesus that got me through the dark days that soon followed.. but nearly 8 months since my departure I am getting better.. and I have not spoken to her since. It is a breath of fresh air to realize one day that you haven't thought about the narcissist at all. That is when your healing can begin, friends. Stay strong and learn to love and forgive

[@imshaun4563]

I thought wouldnt see a man testifying about escaping a female, but you made my day!✊🏽 Stay strong. She sounds pretty bold to say that to you.

[@Indigenious.Kopper.Goddess]

Im a Empath Woman an I tell you female narc are the Worst so Great job on how you dodged that creature

[@annemccarron2281]

Narcissists cause so much pain. As an adolescent I used to look at maps of the U.S. and think about where I wanted to live so I could get as far away from my narc morher as I could. I lived in south Florida at that time. I though of Maine and Washington state as my best 2 options. Instead, I ended up in Alaska. Have been here 35 years. Of course I still attract narcs, but am much better at identifying them.

[@clauaome25]

"I thought you called yourselves empaths" 😂😂😂

[@psygnale]

This dude is so prolific it's ridiculous. I periodically binge watch and I STILL can't get ahead.

[@dianematlock7922]

Just get away...

[@VesnaVK]

Same!

[@psygnale]

@@dianematlock7922 Huh? "Just get away"???? Why? He provides BY FAR the most accurate and in-depth information on this subject I've ever seen. So much so that I've unsubbed from all the other narc-centric channels I've been going to over the years.

[@weltschmerski]

Fuel

[@psygnale]

@@weltschmerski Still not getting it...

[@gloriapetropoulos6977]

The introduction! Pure GOLD!! 😂🤣🤣 I'll still run when I identify one..🙂

[@robertpugh8116]

Calling out their behavior especially when it's something embarrassing puts them into a huge range which is so so sweet to watch.

[@robertpugh8116]

*rage

[@steveconnor89]

🌳🦋🦋Your Happiness🦋🦋🌳 🌴🌴The Best Revenge🌴🌴🌴

[@ceebee1704]

I escaped, but not without a lot of damage caused to my core. I don't want revenge on the narcissist. The fact that they are who they are is retribution enough.

[@EllenBrighton]

Am so glad you managed to escape. There is no need for revenge, compassion and empathy are our rewards.

[@aphrolith7676]

Their retribution is that they can never feel joy. Only fleeting moments of everything.

[@annemccarron2281]

Understanding how sick narcissists are helps a great deal in not holding on to the pain. They really are needy, desperately insecure Androids without a heart. They do a great deal of damage to society but it is what it is. I am sure they have always existed and it is likely they always will.

[@annemcdonald5602]

God bless you HG. Your videos have pulled me out of a state of mind I thought I would take to my death - he almost destroyed me.

[@toscadonna]

Whilst the movers were taking my stuff out of the house, I went and cut myself out of every picture and left the frames on the wall with him only in them. 😂 That’s who he loved the most anyway. He wished me dead and said he didn’t want a sick wife. His poor second wife actually did die. So I thankfully got away in time.

[@debscornercanada]

Probably from neglect unfortunately.:(

[@michaelbergeron1554]

Cold blooded. Congratulations 🎉

[@LahSosa]

Your Narrating Voice Is Top Tier ‼️ One Of The Best In My Opinion

[@jamaisvu8365]

“Treacherous Traitor” Needs to be on a coffee mug HG. 😍 I love it lmfaooo

[@mariaray7614]

Haha ha ur so right or a t shirt

[@yvettemoore71]

I've never ever wanted to know the answer to any question more than that one question

[@tnmantn8938]

Vengeance is mine says the Lord...there is nothing that I can do that is worse than what she does and will do to herself...

[@Mac-sb6dr]

I’ve watched, read and studied a lot of info on this subject. This video is gold 🏆

[@MsGlamazon]

Love it. I waited till my ex was away working shipped all my clothes etc home then I cleaned out the joint account maxed out the credit card and hopped on a plane home he never saw it coming that was 20yrs ago I havnt looked back. I'm glad it was a kick in the balls to him

[@michellereynolds4152]

Justice is what we want. Not revenge!

[@elhaanegeh2019]

Hooray! I did not know this. No wonder my ex narc became mentally ill. I was physically, verbally, emotionally and financially abused by him for 5 long years. I REPEAT, 5 long years. Then suddenly my sister came from overseas and kicked him out by calling the police after he physically abused me. He left the house in handcuffs. He was the epitome of EVIL.I am definitely going to celebrate knowing that l caused a narcissistic injury. He did not see it coming because he reduced me to nothing. I could not make such a decision by myself as I was too far gone. I lost my identity and became an empty shell who was at his beck and call. I could not think straight as my brain had shut off.

[@bluntweirdo]

Your humor is really engaging. You make me snicker regularly. Laughing at myself, laughing at everything. It is lightening. I enjoy it.

[@kellyeileen2659]

This is my favorite thing I’ve seen on KZbin. Ever.

[@davidcoupal8083]

What u are providing is tactical information for people who need to know the possible outcomes when situations arise like no response no contact etc. Like the greatest soldier whoever lived stated Knowing Is Half The Battle

[@Paula-oo1ko]

Seeing this title I thought this might be the case. I escaped a Greater. What he wasn't aware of is I've dealt with 2 other Mid Range in the past. So, there's certain things I wouldn't put up with. That allowed me to have the strength to escaped. However, I didn't know what I was dealing with at the time. I quickly found out. So after alot of studying, it occurred to me I've incountered 3 Narcissistic Relationships. So needless to say I had to look inward, as to what I was doing wrong. Self healing has been wonderful. Of course HG'S work is the Best to learn from.

[@haihai5293]

Thanks you HG Tudor for your patience and sharing this knowledge, you generally really do create some kind legacy and achieve a certain "immortality" just by being honest. As for the rematch, I personally propose to forgive the narcissist, self, even shed a tear over the narcissist, forgive them, let go and be indifferent and walk away. I know that for a narcissist it is the worst that can be, but for us empaths it is the best and most liberating. Best regards.

[@Jerina369]

exactly what I did. It took me five years, bankruptcy, destroyed health, loss of a child and all of my family. God job narcs, how can u not b proud!? Truly unforgetable!

[@staciahein22870]

Another motivation for wounding a narcissist is so that he may exert the 3rd assertion of control. Leaving me alone.

[@asryn96]

What's the third assertion of control?

[@coreyhaga2623]

Well said

[@luisarivera6737]

Can you elaborate please

[@adrianingram9588]

@@asryn96 the 3rd assertion of control for the narcissist is withdrawal, for the narcissist to leave you alone altogether usually because they can’t control you or the fuel you give isn’t good enough.

[@warangel4389]

I ended it and moved 1200 miles away. My life is full of joy. To live happy is the best revenge.

[@susiflattermaus8400]

Yes, makes sense. I had escaped once before (and was truly serious about leaving that first time also), and then, accourdingly to the terms, got hoovered back. The promises of self reflection and change behaviour lastet for about good half a year, and then, Mr. Hyde slowly returned. And was worse than before, having another, greater reason for punishment when needed, from that point on.

[@brandygillespie5419]

Hahahahahaha the way you started the video had me laughing hard!! Tried to make us non narcissistic people feel guilty of a sort of Redemption so to speak. I still however watched/listened to your video til the end. Absorbing all the brilliant information you are sending out. Thank you for the video and you are welcome for the fuel, proclaimed narcissist!

[@hgtudor-theultra]

Glad you enjoyed it

[@ChristinaFromYoutube]

@@hgtudor-theultra we admire you even when you're implying we are mid-range unaware narcissists after all lol

[@evabrick2526]

Laughing hard? 🤔strange humour, it was refreshing and unexpected but funny???

[@JayLovez28]

1:15 ❤ not in your best interest. That is sooo important to understand the values before even trying to label them

[@nomopms1]

I was involved with 2 different narcissists decades ago. Walked away from both of them. Had no idea I'd kicked them in the nuts by doing that. Gee, now I feel REALLY GOOD!

[@anniegillespie7935]

Justice and closure do not happen when you're dealing with a narcissist. Hard to accept, but true.

[@hgtudor-theultra]

You form your own closure and justice might be obtained through the sanction of the law, if applicable. You are correct that you do not obtain justice or closure from us.

[@catherinesinclair7727]

I've discovered that you can get Get justice and closure ..and healing..from God, if you ask Him

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

Those are things that you have to give yourself ❤️

[@oregonwildboy]

Oh I can definitely be a bit "nasty" when I feel like justice is needed to be dispensed...

[@chunkaroo26]

We learned WELL We watched you and how you played the game. When we figured it out we WE knew we WON

[@prunelle9051]

I don't want to get even. I want the dog to stay in his far back corner.

[@lewisebon277]

🤣😂😭😭 this comment made my night.. cuz I feel the same way

[@eagleeye2300]

Hey now, don't insult dogs, lol.

[@annemccarron2281]

Me too - just get the Hell away & leave me alone! Not interested in him changing, don't care who he's with or what he's doing. I just want my freedom & never want to hear about him again!

[@triplejmom7826]

Nice to know I seriously hurt that bastard!! 😊

[@shantispliff9284]

Not wanting revenge. Just information to understand some of the behaviours and body language. I too categorize and therefore I'm curious about the internal workings, this way, I can then put the various behaviours under specific categories in my mind. Also, knowing what hurts and what doesn't gives me the advantage over him being that I will know how to counter, being prepared is better then not. I'm a prepper in life, lol, know thyne enemy!

[@christel6462]

👍

[@coreyhaga2623]

Its simple , they are highly insecure people , broken people , very low self esteem , if you poke at their weakness they will erupt , explode , tirade , they are an entitled spoiled child in an adult body and can't handle other people's confidence , they feel shame. When others excel around them , that's why they never give a real complement to anyone because inside of them someone else's success is like an acid to their constant self loathing . Its actually sad !

[@lightandlovewarrior9552]

I think an old ex of mine was a narc, I found when I finally had prayed for the strength to ask him some simple questions, I was able to close that horrendous relationship, total rollercoaster. I never looked back. It helped my healing bigtime not looking back. I know him well, and how careless he is. His karma I am sure he deals with on the daily, without me. I don't need to do anything, .....just....let...go.

[@quickbeam71]

Ha! I did it without realizing I was doing it! I was living with him in a foreign country and one day when he went to work, I got on a plane and flew back to the States!

[@briandoherty1886]

Your spot on deliver the pain I’m an empath punisher ❤️💡😂😂😂

[@ashchan0504]

You have company 🤣😊

[@briandoherty1886]

@@ashchan0504 good when you know there drowning without the good old grade a fuel ❤️💡🏴󠁧󠁢󠁳󠁣󠁴󠁿

[@margomazzeo1680]

@@briandoherty1886 Yeah..😂😂 so very true..

[@normamontoya3441]

We are one of a kind. Even better when we heal in private true but when we bounce back we bounce back looking better at least I am.

[@aliceinwonderland9791]

5:10 Get in💪!!!!! Oh I know it’s emotional thinking blah-blah-blah but this video is music to my ears 💪💪💪💪👺

[@hakametal]

I think that's one of the main reasons they suffer so much rage, it's the fact that they know, you know who they really are.

[@JeffKnows1]

After 2-3 months it’s like the narc never existed. They get way to much credit, however, the education on “emotional thinking” has been beneficial. They are just people, they have no more or less power than anyone else.

[@taanyahleecat8090]

When I'm healed enough to talk about my shameful experience with the narc I will have the stories, the revenge and the lessons ready to be expressed. Right now, I'm still working on myself. Thank u HG for your horrid truths. It's a necessary evil I guess.

[@PopPop-on6bt]

Where is the story?❤

[@millicenthenryhue7693]

It’s more to educate myself and prevent my shadow from surfacing Not to avenge or take revenge..

[@SONAAwareness]

Walked away 14 years ago & he’s still punishing me!!

[@tnt01]

how?

[@ej1722]

@@tnt01 Sometimes they harass you legally, through gossip, turning your family and friends against you, slander you professionally, sabotage social network, anyway possible to destroy you 🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬🤬

[@mariaray7614]

Mine still tries to contact lol. Iv closed down my social sites n feel so good n free.

[@pwhite5411]

I’m not listening to this out of a need for vindictiveness. I’d actually rather gain knowledge as to what NOT TO DO! Wounding only elicits more bad behaviour from my Malignant narc mother. My father ( primary source passed away- how dare he!) . Ive been handed the torch. Ive gone no contact for 2 years. Thanks for sharing your knowledge. It is fascinating.

[@binatitagain]

Your comment caught my eye! I'm still not sure if my older brother is a psychopath or has BPD/an extreme narcissistic personality disorder. Anyways, he keeps entangling my mom into his mess (ruined marriage, messy divorce, etc.). He blames everyone for his mistakes/misgivings including me. I'm target numero uno right now. My mother is 71 and my younger brother and I are so scared of the day when she'll eventually pass. I suspect that his anger and vitriol (as well as his need to feed his narcissistic tendencies) will be passed onto me and to a lesser degree my younger brother. Not sure how well I can handle that and how the rest of the family will react once they see pass his facade. My younger brother and I made a promise to my tearful mum that we would do our best to try and 'keep the peace' and include him in our lives as much as possible. Can I ask you how you handled it in your situation? You mentioned having no contact with your mother for 2 years. (I'm sorry for your loss btw and the circumstances). I can just picture fist fights between my brothers at her funeral, endless phone calls at all hours of the night, nasty text messages and so on. It's already exhausting as it is. I'm already planning on cutting him out once her will is sorted but I'm soo not looking forward to this and as an empath, I know that I will want to do my best to honor my mom's wishes and reach out to him despite the pain he has caused.

[@michellew4637]

I'm a survivor of a narcissist mother. I literally escaped her at the age of 42.... I totally relate. Sending you much love and strength

[@lisavazquez3651]

Did it two weeks ago! NC to the book. No warning! Loved your presentation! 😂

[@iizrivera4142]

Impactante escucharlo del mismo HG Tudor. No sé si decir que escuchar esto me ha dado libertad o terror.

[@kathleenmorrison8450]

What your describing here is how the Narssisist feels when you get free of them and they loose their favorite punching bag. WELL MUCH OF MY LIFE I WAS A PUNCHING BAG, trapped and unable to get free because I was a child. So I could care less how wounded the Narsissist feels when I am no longer available to be their punching bag, and I cannot possibly believe any "hurt" they feel from this will even be close to what I went through for years as their victim!! Instead of feeling this way the Narssisist should be thinking what they are going to say for themselves, and why they did what they did in The Final Judgement. Hell is the ultimate "smoking section"....no one ever chooses to go there, and there's no way out. EVER!

[@sparkelsdiamond2699]

Ur sooo animated at times HG & WE APPRECIATE THIS

[@vcowherd39]

I live for it🤷🏾‍♀️

[@mosthigh5743]

the starting up in this video is so on point 😂

[@juliethkontos]

Nice entry line. I applaud it. 🤣

[@terribrown4683]

I love your voice...

[@ldn1929]

And this escape has to be during golden period (least expected). Because during devaluation where narcissist probably gets fuel elsewhere or towards the end of devaluation where disengagement is around the corner, the narcissist probably doesn't suffer huge blow.

[@SJ-up9em]

That initial escape DOES cause some serious wounding. My ex-narc spent a week in a mental institution after I left. He got a girlfriend 6 months later and she left him a year after. This time he spent a week in a psych ward of a prison. Too bad, so sad.

[@user-of9bx1uk3u]

They never mature emotionally xx

[@solice8844]

That means I did it twice. I divorced my narc ex-wife after 11 years marriage along with my later girlfriend afterwards, both by just walking out. Both are narcs but the spouse went into rage for 1-1/2 years and is still hoovering me 25 years later. Narc ex-girlfriend is still hoovering after 5 years. Like HG says-they never let go.

[@isabelolsson1890]

Yeah, yes, yes 👏 and yes. I did it again . They weren't that supreme; were they. Thanks for the explanation 😅😅😅😅😅

[@cindypoulin4302]

You crack me up. You’re probably right. I’m probably not an empath! I was on the fence about listening to this one because I’m afraid I might do whatever you’re going talk about!

[@englishgarden2189]

I Believe in Justice feel Comforted knowing “It’s Coming for Him Soon”

[@garycordle5295]

Goso get out stay out, that's all the revenge you need.

[@hgtudor-theultra]

Pure logic. HG approves.

[@hvpudan]

Well said. Thank you so much for saying that.

[@ninahund5773]

I escaped!!! Three times..... ( Hoovered ) Things went to court and this seems like a war. But I'm free now, and doing better with my healing every day. HG's teachings have guided me in the right direction

[@leazy1618]

I have to laugh because as the video was loading I thought 'woah what does this say about you, why are humans forever looking for ways to hurt another...'. And then you basically voiced my thought in your introduction.

[@trueli4708]

... I know that's the dark side of the empath, but I'm just trying to find way to heal and run away asap.

[@noraburns6346]

Your going to enjoy HG 💕 Honesty & the Voice is a Bonus plus he's the Best my Option ✨💌. Sometimes he's so Cool he will speak poetry 🤗. He's a 💯 Ultra . But please Don't Tell him I Told you 😀.

[@vcowherd39]

By far the best I’ve been in my narc relationship for exactly 3 months and have learned so much from binge watching these videos. Just trying to lower my emotional thinking so I can go NO CONTACT and really mean 😪 it!

[@ej1722]

@@vcowherd39 you can do it 👍 I dated my narcissist for 8yrs, then married him. Divorced after 1yr. Been no contact since 2012. Yet he still has spy's that report to him🤣😂

[@alijame3585]

U got to run away first before u think about healing one narrator say goso even if u have to escape to a couch

[@runwiththewind3281]

HG, thank you for helping me understand me.

[@anapantelic782]

Thank you most sincerely HG Tudor, your information is invaluable.

[@SavedbyGrace19]

Throw these demons a brick...they know who and what they are...let no man deceive you

[@darlenesutton7248]

I walked away don't need revenge his life is his suffering. He will never feel love or give love and always look for supply like oxygen that is hell to me. I get my worth from within I don't need to suck off people for attention.

[@nandgate50]

You got me Tudor! You got me!! On the first sentence ..

[@catarinaneto5579]

I was the second source, the secret garden, the friend and confidant. When his partner kicked him out of the house and took him to court he lost more than 15 kg, and aged 10 years, but as he was already with another he tried to disguise it... also! He's with someone else, a poor victim! I don't want revenge, what I would like was for him not to destroy any more women! Thanks for your time🙏🙏

[@zinaidaparker4448]

Wow, the opening words sent chills down my spine! V.good sound quality, totally realistic, as if you spoke directly to me!👌👍😂