This could RUIN your relationship with your dog :(

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@jwhowuntit9359 7 ай бұрын

This lady has convinced her self that she knows what she is doing is 100% right and is trying to convince the trainer I don’t need your help

@tracytinker 7 ай бұрын

It appears that way at first. Tom is very patient with her not to offend her when he says you are over doing it and confusing your dog. Stop and watch. The dog already knows what is expected of her. Just needs a leader that's not obsessed with popping the prong. Makes you wonder why some people don't agree with them. I just don't want the prong if not nessessary. Maybe I should just break down and try it. I gave away all my old prongs. Will have to order another.

@heelyeahk9training 5 ай бұрын

Happens more often than not

@LaNoireDetruit 5 ай бұрын

She still sought his help, so I guess she somehow still knew that there must be a flaw in her handling.

@elenadejesus7489 3 ай бұрын

@@LaNoireDetruitthe flaw is the woman and with that ego.

@mtxeer8838 7 ай бұрын

Poor lady is so high-strung; the dog seems really good but feeds off her demeanor.

@ScottSilva 7 ай бұрын

Calm confidence. Tom has it. Dog mom doesn't. She is so tense and nervous the dog is on high alert with her. Hope she can put into practice what she was taught for her dog's sake. Great lesson.

@jeno264 7 ай бұрын

His ability for communication to the handler is extraordinary. I do hope the lady was listening to him. 💖💖

@mtxeer8838 7 ай бұрын

Her "Mhh Hmmm's" told me she was NOT... and then she turns around and does everything Tom told her NOT to do (continuously yanking on the collar and providing over-input to the dog).

@its_Today_ 7 ай бұрын

She seemed almost offended her dog ‘preformed’ better for Tom, almost as if she was willing the whole thing to fail.. Perhaps just me reading too much into it but the thought ‘chip on the shoulder’ kept crossing my mind.. Repeatedly 😢 Ah well, least the gorgeous very sensitive Pupper enjoyed meeting Tom 😊

@Janknitz1 7 ай бұрын

That dog is so focused and working hard to do things right and earn praise. I hope her owner learns to see that and gain the handling skills Tom is teaching.

@Toni_Snark 7 ай бұрын

The dog looked at him the entire time he was handling her. It's so good!

@BeyondEcho95 7 ай бұрын

Oh. My. Gosh. When the lady noticed her dog alert to the other dog, *-And then went WITH her dog to GO SEE-* made me sigh with so much exasperation. She feeds that dog's behavior in every way. Thank you so much Tom for your work 🙏

@Texas240 2 ай бұрын

Nietzschean dog training... Allowing the dog to do what it desires will remove the the desire by satisfying the urge. Probably not very popular for a reason

@tikejohnson7155 7 ай бұрын

Her saying mhm was driving me nuts

@mtxeer8838 7 ай бұрын

I was just about to post this. This lady definitely was the one who needed all the training.

@docleaver 7 ай бұрын

I checked comments just to see if I was the only one driving nuts. She was killing my will with that moaning. The owner needs a leash, not the dog

@AyaBlue22 7 ай бұрын

I've heard that called, "active listening" and I find it to be *so* aggravating...

@johncspine2787 7 ай бұрын

It’s a self comforting behavior that tries to signify to Tom that she “understands” as a granted what he is saying, regardless of whether she does or not. It means she’s not listening as well as she should because she’s too concerned with “being right” or communicating back to Tom that she “really” knows what to do..

@BlessedBeByHisGrace 7 ай бұрын

@@johncspine2787100%

@Cathan1856 7 ай бұрын

It’s great that we got to see an owner learning and the owner allowed it to be shared. Making mistakes is how we learn, sometimes you just need the right person to show us what those are. Yes, she does seem a little defensive, but she got it in the end, it’s all a learning experience, just have to be open minded. She does practice calming herself to help her dog, she tries really hard, she is just a bit anxious….it takes all kinds and hours and hours of practice. When she gets confident in her handling I think she will get better and better.

@PaulaDTozer 7 ай бұрын

Tom has plenty of patience!

@jtmnavy 4 ай бұрын

One more “mmhmmm” and she should have got a correction with that prong 😂

@leecollis4706 7 ай бұрын

I love this one because your real challenge is with the owner and actually that's probably the case very often - Tom is sooo patient and has such clarity with both dog and human

@erikadogmomanddoc 7 ай бұрын

the "dog melting" was an amazing moment, and very cinematically shot and edited. nice. I had to watch it again and again 🥰

@saveadog64 7 ай бұрын

Anytime I see someone overcorrecting their dog unintentionally I always tell them "Less pop and lock, more drop" and explain keeping their arm down and relaxed so that their dog isn't getting conditioned to always being under slight correction.

@puccipower 7 ай бұрын

Totally. I've seen this a ton working with dogs. When I was young I was guilty of it. Some dogs like this can also benefit from a head halter instead. Perhaps the tools aren't correct for this dog.. who knows.

@thebamboocat9140 7 ай бұрын

Haltie not capable of the pop/attention getter ,which she needs. Owner has obviously misused the prong from the start. It’s use not explained properly , which happens a great deal . Tom is wonderful educating the owners .

@juliafiore120 7 ай бұрын

5:39 BOOM! 😂 Well done,Tom! You’re patience was astounding!

@zuzuspetals8323 7 ай бұрын

Oh, my. A little knowledge can be a dangerous thing. The right knowledge, miraculous!

@zuzuspetals8323 7 ай бұрын

The “trust technique” was a bust . . . 😢

@tay.pow11 7 ай бұрын

Sometimes it feels like our trainer is training me because I am a very stiff/anxious person and it definitely impacts my dog. I always said he is insecure but my trainer immediately worked with me for my anxiety, dropping my arm, not being so stiff, etc.. It's been going great!! It's been making walks more enjoyable because I'm now consciously aware and not unconsciously stiff arming the entire walk!

@DisforDogs1 7 ай бұрын

I feel you. I have an anxiety disorder and CPTSD and depression. I always feel so guilty that I feel that way because I dont want my dogs to feel that. Luckely I dont over correct. But when she is lunging when another dogs is too close thats when I do get tense to much. When I see her get that stare and fixation thats also when I get tense. I try to breathe through it and use a happy light tone and say lets go But I dont get it right every time and it brings me so much shame. When I have a bad day, they sure feel it. When I'm feeling good, I see the difference in walks. Not all the time, but 98% of the time.

@d_libby 7 ай бұрын

That honestly sounds like a great trainer!

@MooseFreeman 7 ай бұрын

Your dog is a mirror to your body language and your behavior. Not an exact image but a reflection 🪞. You get out what you put in

@raniyuna2930 6 ай бұрын

Being dog trainer isn't about fixing dogs, it's about fixing people and their style of communication with dog.❤

@melodieramsay655 7 ай бұрын

The owner is a bit defensive too which is keeping her from listening to what Tom is saying.

@sdfaulk01 7 ай бұрын

I was going to say the same thing. She does not like to think she is wrong.

@paulwyleciol3459 7 ай бұрын

@@sdfaulk01 jaa, that is a very stupid attitude ... IF YOU HAVE NOT LEARNED TO LISTEN: DONT ASK!

@puccipower 7 ай бұрын

I thought she seemed like she was struggling with a mental illness and it was showing in her relationship with her dog. I hope she can get help.

@Memebrain777 Ай бұрын

Women and I right

@MooseFreeman 7 ай бұрын

Seek first to understand then be understood

@ellemarierolfe7518 7 ай бұрын

Lol! I love the way you are with the dogs! They are so relaxed and it shows! Sometimes we as owners don't realize what we're doing wrong until we can actually watch these videos and relate to some of the things we do! You make it look so easy and I appreciate the content you put out❤

@CaptTragedy 4 ай бұрын

Watching this lady makes me realize im probably talking way too much to my dog as well lol

@lisaduehr5306 7 ай бұрын

I'm forever amazed with your expertise and knowledge Tom Davis.

@paulwyleciol3459 7 ай бұрын

When I hear her insecure voice, I know what's going in the dog ... 😢 But then suddenly she grows with the dog! That must be satisfying job, to help and see people growing

@tracytinker 7 ай бұрын

The anxiety goes right down the leash to the dog. I admit I have no anxiety with her untill she gets her head/shoulders a pace ahead of me. Then she starts to pull, with slip lead. (almost 3yr old Aussie) Knocks me off balance=pain and instability. Maybe I need to walk with a dog walker. I think I may try a prong. I can't afford to trip or have her knock my lower spine out of place by trying to pull me.

@paulwyleciol3459 7 ай бұрын

@@tracytinker it is a little bit a matter of the character: If you are somebody who WANTS to lead, you will not even recognize, that there is somebody who doesn't want you too leed. On the othere hand there are people, who simply do not want to leed anybody else, but want to be led. So should they have a dog? I think better not, as the dog has a very distinctive sense for hierarchy! Understand "rule - gorge - fuck" - there is no more to serve a males mind ... ( ... and the females? ;-) ) So: If you know, what you want, the dog will follow. If you think you have to celebrate some esoteric bullshit on your dog - I hope for you, the dog read all those esoteri' books! If you see how dogs treat themselves when the temper is "not so good", than you lose any inhibition

@Tipsey692003 7 ай бұрын

That poor dog. You can see that he trusts you way more than her. If she over corrects that much just walking. Imagine what she does for everything else. 😢

@Marruisz 2 ай бұрын

My god I'm getting anxious just watching the lady handling the dog and I'm not even the dog

@plastikloser 7 ай бұрын

First thing i see the prong is too low on her neck. Second is her tugging leash constantly. Thats alot of confusion and frustration for both of them

@HoneyBadger0704 7 ай бұрын

Yep, prong is not fitted correctly for this. 🙂 I was going to comment this. It was the first thing I noticed in the video.

@Chasenhaws 7 ай бұрын

Such a good, sweet girl!! A lot of good info in this one. Good job, Tom!

@nancytritt4097 7 ай бұрын

She is very argumentative with him.

@jrelllll 5 ай бұрын

literally stopped the video halfway through and still gave my dog the best walk of our lives. this dudes amazing

@elenadejesus7489 3 ай бұрын

She has no clue but she THINKS she does. Without this gentleman's help, she will eventually create a monster then she'll blame the dog.

@saulzuniga4877 7 ай бұрын

Hola me agrada tu canal y como trabajas con los peros y personas, me gustaría que tus videos estuvieran subtitulados el español para comprender todo el trabajo y análisis

@melodieramsay655 7 ай бұрын

You can hear the nervousness in the woman's voice right at the beginning - why the dog is reactive. If she wants a calm dog, she needs to learn to become calm herself and assertive.

@puccipower 7 ай бұрын

Sounds like she was trying and it was obvious the dog had been through a ton of training. Her relationship with the dog was toxic because she was having personal problems. It is very sad. Mental illness can deeply affect a pet. :(

@melodieramsay655 7 ай бұрын

@@puccipower How do you know the owner is suffering from mental illness? I don't recall the video ever mentioning anything about that?

@DisforDogs1 7 ай бұрын

A dog doesnt just become reactive because someone is feeling a bit anxious. There has to be an experience and or overlooked body language. And after that the anxiety doesnt help. But being anxious is different for everyone, some get tense in the arms or yank to much in this case, others do not. Like I have an anxiety disorder, CPTSD and depression but I'm very mindfull that i dont get tense and all. Breathe through it and turn the other way if needed. My dog is very calm. He actually calms down when I'm outside and get an attack. Almost like he knows "She's not feeling okay, I'll take it slow for her" He behaves even better. I give him treats when we get home, get a cuddle and my attack is gone ❤ Sure the energy has influence, but its not like whenever the owner is a bit nervous, the dog will be insecure and lunge etc. You need more context. Like how do you behave when anxious, what the dogs experience is and a lot more

@Tomijee 6 ай бұрын

Wonderful and clear! Love this dude

@BarcelonaDelacalle 7 ай бұрын

Literally love this,every moment. ❤

@GrowLLLTigeRRR 6 ай бұрын

That's a nice dog. She is definitely picking up on the high-strung, very emotional owner.

@Sam-qt5ff 7 ай бұрын

lol. Even when the dog is laying down shes reefing on the leash. Like dude. He’s explaining this and she pretends she knows what he’s saying. Wowsers my man you have the most patience ever.

@qiveyproductions9454 5 ай бұрын

Out of every video I’ve seen this one is the best because she knows it all and your handling it perfect. I would love to know how many times she says “Mhm” 😂

@dogfitness247 6 ай бұрын

She’s there for training but still acts like she knows exactly what she’s doing, that must be so annoying as a trainer

@mick4300 7 ай бұрын

This was a great demonstration. I can maintain this with my dog if we're going for a random walk, my dog also has great recall & is well trained off leach.. this all goes out the window if we are walking with ball thrower in hand. My dog will try lead me to any place she has been before, I'm guessing it's object related. Is the answer is walk around everywhere with the ballthrower to desensitise the object? Or is there something I am missing here 🤔

@FAFOifYOUwantTObozo 7 ай бұрын

Your patience is second to none, Tom. I would've told that lady to kick rocks after a few of those mmhmms that were demonstrating her ego and lack of the capability to accept that she is wrong and doesn't know what she's doing. I love dogs and want to train them but am not able to allow people to act this way in my presence. Glad you are able to help the dogs, in spite of the owners.

@GracieValenti1 7 ай бұрын

Being able to teach and guide without alienating the student is a gift that Tom has.

@GuyWithTheDogs 7 ай бұрын

Judging the owner, here, is really not necessary. She knew she needed help and she's working with one of the best trainers around. And...his help doesn't come cheap. The big winner in this scenario is the dog.

@FAFOifYOUwantTObozo 7 ай бұрын

@@GuyWithTheDogs it's not judging when you're stating the facts of what just happened in front of you. I don't care about people's feelings, only the welfare of the dog. If you can't plainly see what was going on here, then I'd suggest studying human behavior for a while. As I stated, the dog was being helped in spite of the owner.

@GuyWithTheDogs 7 ай бұрын

@@FAFOifYOUwantTObozo "I don't care about people's (sic) feelings." That's the root of your problem, isn't it? In this video, the owner (a person) was being trained. That was the trainer's focus, and he handled it beautifully. Your screen name fits you perfectly, by the way. 👍🏻

@FAFOifYOUwantTObozo 7 ай бұрын

@@GuyWithTheDogs my screen name is directed at people like you. Sound it out...the last part is for you😘. The root of my problem is people like you that are afraid to speak truth and call things like they really are. I commented on Tom's patience and that is exactly what was on display here. I didn't degrade this woman, and I truly couldn't care less that you can't understand. I've saved more people's lives and helped more people than you would believe. It's the attitudes of the ignorantly righteous, like yourself, that are the people's feelings I don't care about.

@sub3_art 6 ай бұрын

Fantastic video, well produced and great teacher

@melodieramsay655 7 ай бұрын

The owner's "uh huhs" were starting to drive me crazy because it almost seemed like they were dismissive sounds - like she was hearing what he said but not listening to what he said. Notice how well the dog did when he was handling vs. when she was handling - because he was calm and confident.

@puccipower 7 ай бұрын

This dog looks like a mixture of a Great Dane and a Belgian Malinois. Perhaps there could just be German Shepherd in there but with that movement, I think Mally. I am sure you end up being a bit of a therapist sometimes for people. This owner seems like she is really struggling with PTSD or some anxiety disorder. The dog is more nervous because she's nervous and it's creating the issue. You can't train a human being out of having a mental illness that could have been triggered by something really bad. The dog and the owner are both nervous around one another. This kind of situation really breaks my heart. It's not anyones fault.

@nissihires3518 7 ай бұрын

I just.. these videos taught me so much.

@ryanpayne7796 4 ай бұрын

what a great dog!!!

@td4234 7 ай бұрын

In a recent podcast Tom said when you are walking your dog, walk like you forgot your phone in Starbucks and you’re going back in to get it. I have found that comment very helpful. That’s what this video reminds me of!

@obiiiiiiiiiiiiii 6 ай бұрын

This is interesting, can you expand on this, or share the podcast?

@MaeveJagger 6 ай бұрын

Wow I've never heard that before.Thank you for the comment.. I'm going to try that

@Chzydawg 6 ай бұрын

@@obiiiiiiiiiiiiii I imagine it means that you want to walk with purpose to a destination, rather than stop and sniff the flowers - so to speak - if your dog sees you being constantly curious with the environment, your dog will get the signal that it too should be curious with its environment, and often dog owners don’t want that kind of behaviour, the dog gets confused that you’re sending out those signals and then clamping down on it at the same time as it will overwhelm them. Whereas if your intention is to go directly to a destination, the dog will only get the message of we’re going to the park and will be less likely to overly interact with the environment around them.

@JuliePhillips-hg4yz 7 ай бұрын

You make it look so easy. I currently have a Shepard dog that will not stop trying to pull me like he is a husky. The only dog I have ever had this issue with. I have tried your techniques over and over. He has no interest in any treats whatsoever, I have used prong collar, flat collar, lead, harness, etc.

@daniellecoates8705 7 ай бұрын

I feel your pain. What kind of Shepard dog do you have? I too have had several dogs ( Australian Shepards) that I have trained without issue. Not the one that I have now. He is frustrating and exhausting. Like you, I am following techniques in these videos over and over again with just minimal improvements. Tried all of the different collars as well. I’m sure you are doing your very best. You are not alone…

@ivonnemaciasBrady 7 ай бұрын

Right off the bat on her first lesson she's justifying why she was doing the thing he was trying to correct her on.

@Djgoof.40 7 ай бұрын

It looked like she was trying to show it’s not her it’s the dog. I think it was her. She was tense, especially when holding the leash. It’s like she has a tick in her arm. Correct, Correct, Correct. Poor doogy

@tracytinker 7 ай бұрын

I have been using a slip lead and strugling. How do I know when it is time to try a prong? I had many Akita and they all used prong, extremley obediant. Now I have a Aussie. She insist on her head being 2feet in front of me and starts to pull. If I stop she will stop and sit at my side. I have bad arthritis in my hips and spine. The walk is great for both of us however, her pulling causes me pain. Any thoughts?

@amymbeauty8765 7 ай бұрын

I feel you. My golden pup walks great and doesn't pull because I instantly started training leash pressure at 9 weeks. She's almost six months now and she has these moments when she sees a dog or person and trys to jump up and sprint to them because she wants to make friends with absolutely anyone, and me having arthritis in my shoulders, spine and hips, it absolutely kills me with the sudden jerking and pulling. I just got a slip lead to work on it and fingers crossed lol. I watch will Athertons slip lead videos and he does fantastic with it if you haven't seen his videos. Him and Tom have truly been a godsend with my puppy lol. Good luck to you

@MKFishing666 6 ай бұрын

Yep, the training was for the lady, the dog is there already :)

@DesignRobPearce 7 ай бұрын

Solid tips Tom. Working with Samoyeds I find is quite different due to their nature and behaviour. Any experience/advice with Samoyeds at all? He knows the rules and super clever, but is repelling him with a prong for instance the only way to make him listen? How would that make them afraid to pass your foot if you then switched to a flat collar?

@TheShrugLife 7 ай бұрын

What an absolutely beautiful dog! Is she a Catahoula?? Reminds me of my previous 🥹

@JourneyofArgos 7 ай бұрын

Thats very smart and nice dog ;)

@messy-dee9891 6 ай бұрын

😢 I’m just like this lady, I’m so focused on my pup not being out in front even by a tiny bit. I mostly just stop or turn instead of popping the lead bcuz it’s too much. Pup always stops and sits when I stop but it’s so constant. New trainer started pup on a slip collar yesterday since we only ever had flat

@flavienadjovi 7 ай бұрын

Thank you. Will yoy still talk about introducing leash pressure to a puppy?

@amymbeauty8765 7 ай бұрын

It should be the same with a puppy. They are very receptive learners to leash pressure, so it's never too early as long as your puppy is over 8 weeks. The prong shouldn't be needed yet for a young puppy. Doing what he states here should be a great start to introducing leash pressure to your pup.

@flavienadjovi 7 ай бұрын

@@amymbeauty8765 Thank you

@freddy5563 4 ай бұрын

this lady pissed me off i can't lie... That was hard to watch

@gertlarsson9285 6 ай бұрын

Very well explained 👍👍

@lindamcmanus5807 4 ай бұрын

I have a gsd puppy , working line and what age can I use a pong collar or e collar? Some times maybe 75% forges ahead and sometimes distractions both him?

@Marina__rp 7 ай бұрын

She's a great dog ❤

@alexandriachello8330 7 ай бұрын

“I practice calmness in the house already, I know how to be calm” -someone walk in the door, dog reacts- “WHAT WAS THAT, what was it?!” -Tom take the leash, says someone just walked in- “oh, ok.” Where is the calmness from practicing. “Mhm, mhmm, mhm, mhm” Lady,, relax!

@carolineozog-orzegowski6812 5 ай бұрын

Hello ! Does anybody know what breed it is ? I went through most of the comments, but i haven't found the answer... It's a beautiful dog ! Thanks in advance for the answer !

@watchmoivies123 7 ай бұрын

Hey, how’s your new puppy? I thought you were going to do daily or weekly videos of him he must be almost grown up.

@tomdavisofficial 7 ай бұрын

Yes he's grown and trained already.

@watchmoivies123 7 ай бұрын

@@tomdavisofficial wow you were so lucky and he’s so so cute. I don’t think he’s gonna get much bigger or is he? I think they get like 200 pounds don’t they?

@Shir2024 7 ай бұрын

😮omg Tom is amazing 🫣

@arieljimenez6785 7 ай бұрын

I'm really glad that the collar was adjusted to the back of the ear, its very unhealthy for the dogs to have the collar at the lower part of the neck.

@titus4166 6 ай бұрын

The owner wants to over control and really needs to manage her vocalization with her dog. Less is really more. Dogs are very smart and direct. They pick up on commands when it’s clear and concise. Hopefully, she understands that and applies it. Most owners don’t keep up with the training that was provided for them and get frustrated that their dog just isn’t learning. The owner is 99% of the problem; they just don’t realize it until they are taught by a dog trainer.

@audreystegg5862 2 ай бұрын

Omg, I am this lady. I need training 😂🤦‍♀️

@felizsoy8290 6 ай бұрын

The respond to each Toms command from lady...Ok ok ok

@xbabyxbeastx 7 ай бұрын

Are you using forward instead of heal?

@GuyWithTheDogs 7 ай бұрын

That's probably the word that the owner uses and that the dog understands. Any word will do.

@denisseypieces 7 ай бұрын

Please help! I just got a believed to be German Shepherd (we're waiting on her DNA test) from the shelter 2 weeks ago and she's a mess out on the sidewalk when seeing other dogs, leash reactive to the max. I haven't been able to walk her far for a decent walk. We've been keeping it to just walk around the block for bathroom breaks. Her fixation on her surroundings is insane. I don't want to take her back to the shelter :( It appears she's had zero training and experience out in the world because she's really skittish and alert at all times. Stimuli like leaves, wind, car doors, people walking and dogs make her go nuts. Oh and anything that clings like keys and leash sounds make her alert too. There's some crying in the mix of her reactivity.......I'm overwhelmed with information and research I've done along with practicing ....

@tomdavisofficial 7 ай бұрын

@craniumrex4614 7 ай бұрын

Especially with rescue dogs, give her time. Practice with the leash indoors and in neutral areas (like your back yard or driveway if you have one) not out on the sidewalks with all those distractions. Her whole world has changed - build the relationship in small bits and move to higher distraction areas when she has settled in a bit.

@trishhibberd22 7 ай бұрын

God bless you for not giving up! Don’t they say it takes 4 months for a dog to fully decompress after shelter life? hope you get the help you need! Best of luck ❤

@craniumrex4614 7 ай бұрын

@@trishhibberd22 you’re right. I have two rescues and was told there is a rule of 3s - three days, three weeks, three months and you will see significant changes in most dogs in those time frames. My shepherd mix was longer - took more time to develop a relationship, but my little girl (who would barely look at me and startled every time I went near) came out of her shell in 3 weeks. I did not push either for walks around the neighborhood until they had settled in more. They were both on leash in the house in my kitchen first, then out to the living room after a week, then off leash with access to the rest of the house within 3 months. If I did move around the house they came with me on leash for the first bit. Seems restrictive but I think it really helped.

@jillzy1182 7 ай бұрын

Do you know her history? My neighbors keep their dogs locked up in their garage for most of the day. Perhaps she too was kept cooped up for long periods and everything is overwhelming for her. So slowly, be patient and give her time. Don’t coddle her, but so slow. She will come around and the more patient and confident YOU are, she will relax