This is How You Stop a Narcissist

[@AlysiaOC]

This is my first time to listening to you and I really appreciate the points you have made. You truly understand the behavior of a narcissist. I recently experienced being in a relationship with a narcissist. Also, I was thinking you are really pretty before you even mentioned the disrespectful comments about your appearance.

[@5EmBem]

I've noticed that especially on social media you can't say anything without a man jumping on and trying to turn it around to make you look like the problem then think it gives them a ticket to abuse you. It was talking about the man Vs bear thing which I got curious and looked in to. Basically the gist was that if a woman encountered a bear she knew what she was getting and the uncertainty of encountering a man and his behaviour scared her. Men won't even go near this without attacking and abusing anybody. Their behaviours are abhorrent. If a woman has been in an abusive relationship then she should know better. If she married him she should have seen the signs and it's her own fault, if she has children with him and he leaves her and she becomes a single mother, her kids are going to grow up to be criminals and drug addicts and she should give her kids to their dads because they stand a better chance. It's a good job I grew up with 3 brothers to show me what a man is actually like. I would have lost all hope in men by this point!

[@debbie4062]

Thank you. I love your book.

[@CarolineStrawsonHealing]

Thank you so much!

[@pauline6005]

You are brilliant. And hope you get a call from Loose women how cool would that be

[@waitingfortheday9384]

I’m really sorry that you have had to experience this awful behaviour and bullying from, who I can only deem to be, extremely disrespectful and immoral men. I am a single dad and when I hear accounts like yours, feel very disappointed by the behaviour of some of the men out there in the UK. Especially as I am trying to teach my boys to be respectful to all people irrespective of gender or identity. I do however wonder if these male trolls are exhibiting such an extreme reaction which is not necessarily isolated to you, but rather a deep seated frustration at something on a societal level, possibly a maligned fight back against zealous feminism, or some ridiculously primitive way of these men trying to scrape back a semblance of masculinity? Here’s an real life example of what I mean (because I might not be conveying clearly what I mean): My boys came back from school and were annoyed at their teacher because he had said that all dictators have been men, and that the world would be a better place if more women had been and will be in power. My boys felt ashamed of the teachers comment and were angry. They then went on to say that they feel men are being so often “put down”. This then led to a very good conversation about equal rights, morals, societal expectations etc. But it does concern me that if boys are hearing this and unable to then have opportunity to talk these things through, do they end up becoming like the men which you have sadly encountered in response to your interview. I would love to know what you think? Again, I’m so sorry you have experienced such hateful backlash, and am grateful that you have been brave enough to tell your story. You are a big encouragement to so many of us.