This Is The Reason Why DIVORCE RATES Are SO HIGH! | Pearl Daily

[@stanlyqbrick1621]

Never has a generation of women demanded so much yet provided so little.

[@AerysTMD]

& incentivised by the government.

[@gorskamakva203]

just returning the favor

[@Deimonos85]

@@gorskamakva203 tell me you're single and bitter without telling me you're single and bitter lol

[@sirg-had8821]

All of that woman arrogance to be nothing more than three holes and a pulse.

[@JzzzZz-n5p]

48 hours without electricity they'll fall right back in line

[@JPJ432]

Some men will sacrifice their happiness for their family. Some women will sacrifice their family for their happiness.

[@Krunchtastic727]

Women overwhelmingly divorce if they win the lottery.

[@Richard-f4b4r]

Exactly right

[@jamespeterson6236]

How Relationships Affect Your Testosterone Levels. Research suggests that men who are in committed, romantic relationships (married or unmarried) have about 20 percent lower testosterone than men not in relationships Relationships makes you weak….stay strong

[@DayumSonny]

Some?😂

[@captainraven8004]

Well said.

[@robertclark9]

Women need to be understood. Children need to be understood. Dogs need to be understood. However, when it comes to understanding men, society couldn’t give a rats arse.

[@bigmikeobama5314]

very true

[@Murphator]

we just need respect

[@binkysquiggums]

All too True......

[@markusschaffer9712]

We’re considered expendable assets… until someone wants something… then we go back to being expendable assets.

[@gregmiller8284]

There is a Patriarchy and a Matriarchy. The Patriarchy - men, particularly husbands and fathers - are protectors and providers. Their focus is the outside world, outside their households, and the direction of society. They push back the frontier and the savage. They create a safer environment for women, children, and the elderly. This safe environment is where the Matriarchy functions. The Matriarchy nurtures and refines. Their focus is within the household and daily functioning of society. They raise children and shape the culture of both Patriarchy and Matriarchy. They make the home comforting and stable. They make civilization more comfortable and accommodating. The Patriarchy made things too safe, and the Matriarchy decided that men no longer mattered. Women tried to take over the roll of men because they thought it looked fun and easy. The Matriarchy has abandoned its function and responsibility.

[@spowers3298]

There should be mandatory paternity DNA testing prior to a woman receiving child support. Also, ban perpetual alimony.

[@Window2Wilderness]

@@spowers3298 danm right

[@bigmikeobama5314]

they should ban all allimony. she can monkey branch to another man cant she? have another man already set up for months before a divorce? then she can do the same thing with a job. any payments made to her is state sanctioned theft

[@Window2Wilderness]

@@bigmikeobama5314 LMAO good one brotha

[@derp8575]

@@bigmikeobama5314 It's starting to impact divorced women too. Something will be done about it once women start complaining enough. Men must suffer in silence.

[@kooringagnd]

@@derp8575 Always funny to hear women in comfortable shoes whinge about having to pay alimony. Such as Jane Lynch.

[@millyardopeacecraft9778]

Im a self defense instructor. One of my private clients is a federal judge. He told me the absolute worse thing a man can do in this modern age is get married.

[@wendigos_eat_people7177]

That says a lot. If a judge says that .

[@kengaroo5170]

Why sign a contract with a person who benefits from breaking it.

[@Mac_Mayne_ATL]

Daaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaamn that is some serious stuff

[@alanpatten468]

@@millyardopeacecraft9778 You are well equipped to deal with some of the women I've met

[@michaelwhite6614]

Hallelujah. That judge should run courses at his local YMCA, free entry for young men.

[@qsperspective4287]

The word ...is sacrifice. Women today will not sacrifice for the betterment of others - not even their own children. While it is expected of men to share their resources with their family, women resent sharing their own resources. My money is mine, his money is ours.

[@SopranoPizzaJMFNJ]

Hear! Hear!

[@DaDeCodeIsTruth]

Facts

[@kooringagnd]

Exactly. Women and men seem to forget two flesh becoming one bit of marriage. There isn't really any His\hers, yours mine. It is Us, We and ours.

[@jimarger8533]

My ex-wife actually said that, "What your's is ours. What's mine is mine." But, my girlfriend of 41 years is just the opposite and IS responsible, honest, generous, fair. Happens, she's Asian. So not all women are this OR that.

[@Bushodai]

@@jimarger8533cute anecdote but anecdotes don’t disprove general claims. No one is making universal claims.

[@stevelucero9047]

Men will continue to walk away until the legal playing field of marriage is leveled, and paternity tests are required at birth.

[@dustinryan9671]

You don't understand where the government and private citizen line should be. The government has no authority in the private lives of Americans. If anything it needs to go back to the old way if the women divorces or leaves the man gets the kids and everything else.

[@pearlangeline]

Men can already legally demand a paternity test after the baby is born. The courts just won't do them while the baby is in the womb.

[@Nordic_Sky]

Remember, you can be forced to pay child support for kids that aren't yours. Even if they showed up with your ex when they were already several years old. Totally unfair.

[@mgtowbylogic5592]

I agree. And as long as NFD = fault divorce, people will file no fault because they are lazy. The spouse that files a NFD should be forced to forfeit the first 30% of the marital estate and they should be barred from receiving alimony. Costs force people to make good decisions. No costs = anarchy.

[@majesticmsfc]

Spot on

[@chazzmichaelmichaels5766]

My mom's greatest joy was when her family succeeded! That is why we loved her and took care of her until she passed away.

[@karlpierce3035]

Did you learn from her or the societal norms of today's selfish cult norms?

[@bigmikeobama5314]

are you divorced and receiving alimony or child support?

[@elevatedscholar5028]

Same!! Love my mom to the moon and back. Selfless to a the core.

[@tedmeeuwsen712]

@@elevatedscholar5028 selfless is the magic word

[@deasilmcmanus9220]

The male role is to provide and protect. While the woman’s role is nurturer. If a woman cannot nurture, she is not much use to a man or her family.

[@rallythewords]

100%

[@AndresColumbus]

a wife's main role is to support the husband not just nurture the children.

[@BREEZYM6015]

​@@AndresColumbusShe can nurture her husband too.

[@channel1_channel]

If a husband does not nurture his wife or kids.....she will leave. Even in 1950s America over 30% of women were officially in the workforce. Vacuuming does not need doing daily.

[@derp8575]

@@channel1_channel No, but kids need a teacher and caregiver. Women's lib is terrorism. It even affected the emergency services. Brenda Berkman sued her way into FDNY because she wasn't able to pass the physical aptitude test. Many men had also failed that test, but they never sued. Well, not the Caucasian men. Anywho, Brenda won the lawsuit, resulting in the reduction of physical aptitude requirements. If firemen raise a safety concern they will be fired or sent to sensitivity training for reeducation. Firemen have an additional fear that they did not have prior to 1975. Now *that's* ideological terrorism!

[@magsteel9891]

In my experience many women want to get married, but aren't prepared to be married. Getting married is a party. Being married is work.

[@johnjohnson9182]

Yes mate 👏 exactly this! They want the ring, the dress, all the attention and the big day that's all about them... but the actual marriage bit, the moment shit gets hard or isn't quite as expected they just leave instead of trying to work on relationship. Very short term!

[@rene-rv6pp]

The oat of marriage say in health and disease.

[@corbind8193]

Yes they want the title and the benefits that comes with it but they don't want the work.

[@samuelangol595]

Marriage isn't what it used to be. It's very easy to get divorced. When the going gets tough, the tough get going.

[@kingscairn]

Talking Heads - This Aint No Disco - This Aint No Party - This Aint No Foolin Around

[@Masatao1]

Two reasons why divorce is high. Women don't understand what death do you apart mean & they are Incentivized to leave the marriage.

[@n.d.m.515]

It's also the death do you part that is a problem. When the couple understands marriage is an eternal God given requirement the divorce rate declines.

[@jasonshults368]

Marriage is a contract between two people and the government. It has nothing to do with God.

[@JimVaught-qm6gf]

Basically any of the serious parts of the vows. Goes right over their heads, they figure none of it will ever apply to them

[@bw1357]

Modern women feel until death do you part means death of the income ladder.

[@CVEIWKID]

Marriage is a lose lose for men after 1970 when the legal system dropped the hammer on guys no matter if the woman was at fault

[@chucklesthered2338]

Or if the child was his or not.

[@JomhLoe8523]

And then today they wonder why the family structure here in the west is gradually falling apart.

[@pearlangeline]

@@CVEIWKID Before that men could beat or kill their wife if she cheated and face little to no legal consequences. It wasn't until after 1970 that domestic violence was even starting to be considered a serious crime..... But let's ignore all that data.

[@aloksrivastava7938]

Is it a coincidence that it was around the same time that all the countries around the world started moving away from the gold standard? Is it a coincidence that women began losing their class? Is it a coincidence that rights and freedoms were slowly and gradually taken away? It's all by design. Your freedom and your rights are protected by your financial independence. If everyone had gold and silver in their possession the governments wouldn't have dared to try narcissistic gaslighting during 2020 and thereafter.

[@aloksrivastava7938]

@@pearlangeline The wife-beaters were later dealt with by the gen-X kids when they grew up, if they grew up. Judicial systems may have failed but, most children didn't.

[@serendipitouscomet]

If they somehow get Chad, they get mad that Chad doesn’t treat them well and worship the ground they walk on. If they go with a guy that actually likes and respects them, they get bored and either start making up imaginary problems or leave because he’s “too boring”- even though everything else is stable and otherwise perfect.

[@chevypreps6417]

Pretty much sums it up.

[@a64738]

And then regret it later usually that she left the perfect husband...

[@itachiovermadara]

Be like Chad, simple! The equation is simple, not complicated ha.

[@therollingstone9701]

You gotta understand them and consider that when you get a Chad, there is always the Super chad they didn't get... And then... there is that Giga-Chad 🤔 Life is hard for women you know....

[@therollingstone9701]

​@@a64738with idiots , you sometimes gotta let them go and learn the hard way.

[@peterreid9769]

You shouldn't be breaking up your family just because you're bored.

[@mcgrudo]

Agreed. Most of the time the 'bored' person is in fact just a boring person.

[@alanbradley9621]

It is NOT the responsibility of someone to make another person happy. A bored person lacks the intellect to make themselves ok on life.

[@doyourownresearch7297]

having basic expectations for female adult behaviour is seen as an attack on women.

[@cryptojihadi265]

Lol. And SLAYYYYYYVERY!!!!

[@josmclove4426]

@@doyourownresearch7297 naked narcissism

[@SantiagoVeraLoor]

While having unrealistic expectations for men is the social norm

[@TheyCalledMeT]

and the amount of videos of regular women PROUDLY proclaim .. they do the BARE MINIMUM one can expect of an adult .. i.e. don't spend more than you earn, live in your own rental space and keep it clean ..

[@guysumpthin2974]

Such a BIG DIFFERENCE between shopping for a lifestyle VS shopping for real love .

[@labdad4695]

All I’m hearing is FOMO. Selfish adult is the child who never grew up.

[@crabbypatty973]

What is FOMO?

[@nycandrei]

@@crabbypatty973 fear of missing out :)

[@crabbypatty973]

@@nycandrei Thank you! I'm too old to be here 😂

[@John_Wood_]

most of them got FOMO bad. My soon to be ex wife has it bad, it drives them all insane.

[@what-about-bob]

Exactly! There was a time when the predominant fear was fear of God and morals that came along with that. Nowadays the predominant fear is FOMO and leads to hedonism and little or no morality.

[@gordongekko2781]

Traditional marriage is not compatible with modern marriage laws. Thanks to no-fault divorce a bored housewife can checkout at anytime, keep the kids, the house, the car, and continue collecting a monthly income from the ex-husband. Continue receiving all of the benefits of marriage (at the man's expense) without giving anything in return. This is why marriage is dying in the West.

[@kc6810]

Such bs. Read some different material and look up statistics. Alimony only gets paid 10% of the time. Most women lose financially by getting a divorce but they do it anyway bc it’s better than their current situation.

[@nicenslow45]

🎯

[@Marek-o3u]

America isn't "the west". My sister was basically beggared when her husband left her and his three daughters for another woman. She got "half" the house, and a pittance of alimony. So she bought a tiny house for herself and her three daughters, using a mortgage to pay. Put herself through college, and then when the alimony ended, and it does end, she was qualified as a teacher. At 45. It's not her fault, she certainly was worse off than she would have been without marriage, when she had the same career as her husband.

[@bricaaron3978]

​@@Marek-o3u So you agree with the OP, then, that *"Traditional marriage is not compatible with modern marriage laws. Thanks to no-fault divorce..."*

[@James-eg3nf]

A friend of mine filed for divorce because his (now) ex-wife was convinced by her friend that she was unhappy and that she needed to leave. Once she saves some money, she moved out and got her own apartment, hoping he would beg her to come back. After a year of this nonsense, he finally realized she wasn’t coming back so he filed for divorce. She was apparently really shocked and begged him to reconsider but he had already made up his mind. After the divorce she spent the next five years trying to rekindle the relationship while telling their kids things like “dad didn’t love you enough to try to make things work”. To this day, he tells me that if she hadn’t left he would have tried to make it work.

[@abergreg]

The damage it does to the children is lifelong. Their capacity to trust, their self esteem, their ability to chose a partner thats going to be trustworthy and their mental health, most for the short term, some for decades.

[@kingmaafa120]

Facts

[@elmair8673]

Truth. That doesn't matter to them because they think about their own short term happiness and don't care about the short term and long term happiness of their children. They cover this up with "but my children can never be happy when i'm not happy so this is actually best"

[@curtgomes]

I've NEVER heard a woman admit that she was wrong in any relationship...... I've seen it plenty of times.....

[@therollingstone9701]

Cause they were never wrong, you were. All men are wrong. All women are right. Every single time.

[@abdirahmanabdullahi8142]

😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅😅

[@derp8575]

Most women can't talk about these things because it would force them to admit that men and women are different, and no amount of social engineering will change that fact. It would force them to admit that women's lib is bad.

[@chriskirsten8221]

accountabilty is ALL womens kyrptonite

[@0biwan7]

if a woman says she was in the wrong for agreeing to the relationship, does that count?

[@Johnwick-07]

To be selfless is not just feminine. Being selfless is the highest maturity of both male and female. It is a state of mind that is only reach by realizing that you are here for a higher purpose. One higher purpose is to have a family. It is in the act of procreation that we realize our own cycle of life. Having children should be a spiritual decision that 2 mature adults make but our society devalues the importance and meaning of sex, relationship, and our connection to God.

[@WhyJesus]

The problem is the role of faith is increasingly mocked in our society, particularly the Christian faith. It begins in the govt school system that teaches that humans are the descendants of some critter out of the primordial slime as if that is a fact, thus there is no God (Creator). That makes it much easier to mock the Bible along with Christ's precepts therein. Pearl mentioned evolution in this video, clearly she's fallen victim to the indoctrination also. DNA the highly complex information system upon which all life is based did not come about by chance. That didn't happen. We have a Creator. Seek Him +++

[@johnbuglethorp5921]

Well said, fully agree. Too many don't realize that connection to God brings a feeling of serenity, peace, security, IF they are open. Leftists teach that God doesn't exist and that religion is hocus pocus because they want people to be afraid, angry, nervous, resentful, selfish.

[@mikeabrams8959]

Well said because - a marriage adds interesting content 'to our lives for one - the joy of children and then how does the world devalue it by turning it into a " money - making system for profit" Jesus said do not turn My Father's house into a place of merchandise. So Love your comment because it straightens out our psychological approach, much needed today . 😊❤

[@MrR40388]

You need to focus on what is, not what should be. And what are you gonna do about it?

[@mikeabrams8959]

@@MrR40388 Pre destination is what it is , now you may never marry but you may be missing out .

[@donnamoll3159]

Setting up a future for herself, NOT saying setting up a future WITH HER HUSBAND. There ya go....................

[@mgtowbylogic5592]

The spouse that files a no fault divorce should forfeit the first 30% of the marital estate to the other party AND should be barred from receiving alimony. You married each other. Go work your crap out.

[@spitfireap77]

30%? Why do little?

[@mgtowbylogic5592]

@@spitfireap77 it will never happen anyway so no worries. If anything, we will be going in the other direction. I predict by 2050, marriage and birth rates will be so low, women will gain the right to force a man to marry her, his consent won’t be required.

[@kwinglee5923]

The problem with at fault divorce is now you give parties reasons to make up faults. Lawyers are going to get real rich...

[@mgtowbylogic5592]

@@kwinglee5923 most states still have fault divorce. It’s just no one files that way cuz they would have to prove a case. So you have a greshams law situation, the easy way crowds out the hard way. The problem with that is if you reward quitting you destroy the thing being quit. For example, when you quit a job you can’t collect unemployment nor can you collect your future salary nor do you get to take your desk and the break room home with you. You can straight up abandon your marriage and kids and walk away a millionaire after doing very little to “earn” it. Just being there, being an impediment to your spouse, being wasteful and a pain in the ass the whole time and then quitting on top of that, then getting paid for it. It doesn’t work either, this is a worse solution. My proposition isn’t to eliminate nfd, just to impose some kind of cost to dial the incentive to reward quitting back a little.

[@2000freefuel]

@@mgtowbylogic5592 This is commonly called a prenuptial agreement.

[@austin12ascot]

One word sums up the reason that relationships have so many problems now. Feminism.

[@therollingstone9701]

Relationships will soon be a thing of the past, so we're gonna be fine in 20 years. Let feminism finish the job. Women have never been content in human history anyway.

[@derp8575]

@@therollingstone9701 It's basically a big harem at this point. Women are shared by Chad. Long-term relationships allow people to swap partners on a whim. One year here. One year there.

[@SantiagoVeraLoor]

Like all revolutions feminism is the downfall of society and the world economy

[@MrAvfc14]

Now women have pushed men away to pursue happiness only to find that men found out life is more peaceful being single.

[@fritzidachl]

Femininity is about nurturing. Masculinity is about protecting.

[@markaurelius61]

Pearl describes femininity as putting others before yourself. So is masculinity.

[@cryptojihadi265]

Yes, but society already expects and DEMANDS the latter. What Pearl is saying is the exact opposite of what women think their life mission is and is revolutionary to our fckd up society.

[@indigobaloon8091]

It is really about being mature.

[@DaDeCodeIsTruth]

And that's the point. A femal who isn't selfish IS FEMININE. Just as a man who does the same is MASCULINE.

[@franklottar]

Sounds as a description of garbage men, electricians, sewer workers and construction workers to mention but a few.

[@cantwealljustgetalong2]

you dont know what masculinity is then

[@clarencehoover6748]

Femininity isn’t about looks. It is manifest in the genuine behaviors of caring about, loving and helping others.

[@KevinKillNation]

No woman wants to go 50/50.

[@doyourownresearch7297]

they want 50/50 if they make 4 times more than the man. If it is the other way they say it should be 80/20

[@therollingstone9701]

Don't worry she ll go 50 /50 with your assets when she files for divorce ❤

[@positivelydisliked]

It should be 100/100 otherwise neither is giving it their all!

[@JennyKalasho]

There is no such thing as 50/50 in a marriage. This mindset is already setting you up to fail. Mark Driscoll has two incredible series on his KZbin channel called "Leave and Cleave" and "Real Men" that outline Biblical roles of men, women, and marriage the way it was divinely designed. Check it out! Good luck and God bless you.

[@JosephChandler-vd1cs]

It all depends! It can be done.

[@restingsmirkface]

You are absolutely right that not all women (or men) should have children.

[@SeorkMaxx]

The bad part is that a lot of good people don’t have children, while the “bad” ones have loads….

[@HoldenTreasure]

Quote of the day: Real Men will Sacrifice Happiness for the family. Women often Sacrifice Family For Happiness.

[@jessiesheldon-huffey1824]

There are tons of men who also sacrifice family for "happiness"

[@ericbodin5909]

Spot on brother.

[@Adiossocialism]

To justify infidelity, a woman must first devalue her man and destroy his reputation. She’ll do this in secret until she is finished training his replacement(s).

[@tangent6204]

The problems arise when we start caring more about ourselves than our partner.

[@Pala-t2p]

Well said!!

[@Tee55118]

Men care. Women want more.

[@workingshlub8861]

nobody will ever care for you more than you.....harsh reality but once you accept that life is much easier

[@mikeabrams8959]

From a spiritual perspective the woman takes on the role of " extortionist "'😮😢

[@dankimbrough2411]

Best answer I've read thus far. You are spot on.

[@LostHate]

This is exactly my ex wife 100% she was trying to be a traditional woman but she just wasn't, then resented me for it.

[@sqfanatic]

Her only regret was: "not asking for more money in the divorce." She didn't regret breaking up her family. She didn't regret betraying her husband by flip flopping on her commitments, multiple times. She didn't regret destroying her family's finances. She didn't regret wasting half her life by living in a way that wasn't true to herself. Because for her to say any of those things would be; wait for it... TAKING ACCOUNTABILITY.

[@friarfoxz]

My advice to any young man today is stay single. The law is not on your side. Women know this and most will keep it in the back of their minds if they are not enjoying the arrangement. My nephew just lost a 200k home and pays out the nose in child support because she cheated on him. And get this ... she did so with her lawyer. His own lawyer was a woke woman attorney who basically gave away his balls on a plate. He is a union welder who must travel all over the country for contracts to pay these bills and support himself. He lives in motels and she and the lawyer sip cocktails at my nephew's pool. Son if your dad has not explained the state of marriage these days to you then be warned by me. Always wear a condom and never date less than two women. You have been warned.

[@patnor7354]

And make your own justice. Secure property in a trust or with momma etc...

[@cattheman6491]

Jeez, that's some cautionary tale 😱

[@TheKarlslok]

Dating two women at the same time? That is what Julian Assange of Wikileaks did, and how did that turn out? When the women found out about each other, they were triggered and accused him of gRape.

[@pulse4158]

Absolutely disgusting, but expected really. Hope your nephew finds his way and does better than her.

[@AngelsandDragonfliesAIVideos]

"My nephew just lost a 200k home and pays out the nose in child support because she cheated on him." She shouldn't have gotten anything and he should have full custody of his kids. Unfortunately the law is not fair and very corrupt.

[@kevin9218]

Femininity is about selflessness and service. So is masculinity. The difference is in what services we are best able to provide to each other. Femininity is more concentrated on nurturing, socialization, and emotional support and well-being, creating an environment conducive to growth as a person and growth of children. Masculinity is more concentrated on logical decision making and ensuring physical well -being and survival, providing protection and creating a safe environment.

[@michaelhorner6804]

The person wanting to leave the marriage should pay child support.

[@Ellfman]

*cough cough bullshit* There are situations where getting out of a marriage is for survival, especially when the other attempts to kill you.

[@DaDeCodeIsTruth]

No, because men do desire and should leave the fam. They don't because of alimony and child support laws. There needs to be EQUAL custody and NO ALIMONY and a set basic child support amount split 50/50, no matter the income or who has custody.

[@wendigos_eat_people7177]

That can be bad. If a man married a borderline, or Narcissist or anyone who has a personality disorder needs to escape such a marriage once he finds out he was duped into marring one , before she destroys him and the kids from the inside out.

[@sagatuppercut2960]

Believe me, if that was the law, 99% of women would stay married.

[@svartvist]

@@wendigos_eat_people7177 My situation. In those days these things were not known publicly. She did a lot of damage.

[@helmeteye]

Wives watch their friends doing all the stuff they wish they could do, in the meantime, their friends wish they were like her, married.

[@paulpeele8387]

The real problem women are the selfish women who DON'T leave. Contribute nothing and Who spend their lives demanding everyone accomodate their ever whim and mood. Then the husband when he finally leaves is called the one who broke the marriage.

[@joemonroe1106]

my exact story.

[@josephl9619]

This video should be popular with the ladies 😂

[@stephenewens6094]

Femininity is opposite AND complementary to masculinity. It isn't selfless, it is cheerfully cooperative.

[@lukepare71]

Marriage requires 2 things.... to be selfless and respectful. Most people are selfish and care about themselves....all successful relationships have selfless people who are looking out for each other and not themselves. PERIOD!

[@knightheaven8992]

Absolutely

[@kalanos4660]

Speaking generally, it isn't *internal* pressures that flip women, it's *external* pressures - feminists telling a married woman she's oppressed if she's a stay-at-home mother, or aspires to that role. Women are social creatures and are vulnerable to social pressures.

[@rfwoods]

@@kalanos4660 social media plays a big role in that. Women are constantly feeling like the grass is greener with these influencer’s depicting fake lives. They’re also seeing the myriad TikToks where women are bashing their husbands and then thinking geez my husband does that too sometimes.

[@mrsdjwildcat]

Women these days are so exhausting.

[@howardbartlett3026]

@@mrsdjwildcat I'm Gen X and can tell you that they were exhausting back in the 70's, 80's and 90,s too.

[@cottoncandykawaii2673]

This is why it's so important to only marry someone if you have a true bond with them because doing things for them isn't a burden, it's done with real love. When people marry for selfish reasons (just wanting stability, kids, lifestyle, money, etc) it never works

[@SIKE01]

where again in the U.S. that women are second class citizens??

[@sagatuppercut2960]

Compare the rights of American women to the rights of Afghan women.

[@glowballpiece]

​@@sagatuppercut2960 Why? What's your point?

[@ericelsberry5585]

Minneapolis, Minnesota

[@howardbartlett3026]

@Sike01 Only in their own misguided, delusional and addled little minds.

[@bobbyduke777]

The real reason is, it has been made so lucrative.

[@SantiagoVeraLoor]

Ofcorse. Imagine being paid to break up your marriage!!

[@OrwellsHousecat]

Parasites can be a symbiotic relationship or one that drains the host of it's life.

[@christopherbrubaker2070]

It’s pretty revealing the heart of a woman, who excludes the man she had chosen, and abandons him for materialistic crap! Don’t marry a selfish woman! Wait until she understands what providing it all for herself means. Men feel lonely in relationships too. Especially when our efforts aren’t appreciated and respected.

[@x.atheista]

Proverbs Chapter 31. This is the definition of feminity. This what men need and treasure the most. Not easy, but possible.

[@seanpearce5809]

Who cares what proverbs says

[@n.d.m.515]

​@@seanpearce5809believers in God and the Lord Jesus Christ. In fact, the death of faith, atheism, is the number one cause of the modern relationship failures.

[@clubdesalud1488]

​@@seanpearce5809there's wisdom to be found in both proverbs and eclessiates and you don't have to be religious to digest it. But you do have to have a bit of maturity or wisdom to not get triggered by religious speak in there like "the LORD" for example...

[@seanpearce5809]

@@clubdesalud1488 certainly wasn't triggered.

[@rightwingprofessor1356]

@@seanpearce5809 Your comments prove otherwise! disrespectful and simply ride.

[@buster-vu7sx]

The number one trait that men look for in a potential wife is being co-operative

[@Orvulum]

Men will sometimes receiver criticism for harboring unconscious expectations that their wives serve as a surrogate mother, but actually, that's the femininity you speak of... It's women in the role of caretaker, home-maker, and so many other things... It isn't necessarily for a husband at all, but for the sake of a FAMILY. The things that good mothers do for the children and their families, the sacrifices they make...It's truly amazing!

[@edinnorthcarolina--ovelhog5786]

In machining, “married” parts are machined together. They are not interchangeable with other like parts. Married parts are used until they are unserviceable and then disposed of together. Language matters.

[@davebenz8271]

Excellent analogy.

[@rolloraul7283]

Pearls 'prime example' of femininity is identical to many of us older mens examples of masculinity... at work we call it 'read the need'. If something needs fixing, fix it, if something needs doing, do it. Try to be peaceful, productive, and positive... Don't talk excessively or risk being viewed as a nuisance by many of us... Bless Pearl in all her endeavors, and be grateful to this genre, for helping many of us in our quest for wisdom and balance.

[@darnellayers3245]

So many valid points

[@haydenwatson5083]

Women consume Men produce Women consume more than they produce

[@BrianMolstad]

Nice to have you back honeychild. Missed you.

[@TroyBancroft]

honey child ? but creepy how bout, good to see you back Peal ??

[@Kai1ou]

BEST definition of femininity I've ever heard. Thank you for sharing!!!!

[@Billpeterson4785]

Cosplay, therapy and wanting to go to college…baisically a teenager in an adult mother’s body.

[@valentinmilanovic9183]

What you said about women makes me cry married 30+ never had a wife

[@mikeabrams8959]

So then you're saying you're chained in a loveless marriage? 😮 The solution you need is to bring " meaning" into your existence , pre destination my friend - the order as prescribed by your Creator, explore it for your happiness 😊❤ Ask and it shall be given you , seek and ye shall find . Who said that ? Right 👍

[@dzcav3]

@@mikeabrams8959 You are spewing random bits of stuff out of context - garbage. If you have wisdom, share it. Otherwise, keep quiet.

[@THX5000]

Honor, Integrity, Morality.... Not found in XX DNA

[@FigmentVFX]

These are values that are taught by fathers, not mothers. The epidemic of fatherless homes is the reason women today lack basic decency.

[@SD-mi2vc]

There you go

[@jeffreyrichard2575]

got to know what you are committing to when you start a relationship Most women don't

[@sagatuppercut2960]

Men know they have to be responsible breadwinners, but we tend to think we are getting a permanent "girlfriend experience" when we get married...then reality happens.

[@jeffreyrichard2575]

@@sagatuppercut2960 nope, rarely if ever do women hold up their end of the bargain. Generally they try to back out as soon as it becomes remotely inconvenient to them or the get "bored"

[@Crabbie1945]

Looking good Pearl and great content ❤

[@studytime-qb9bx]

I've been saying this for over 20 years! I'm glad to see someone finally saying it on a platform.

[@Swiflee-r9k]

Men are tired of the games . It starts out fine and then your being molded into what they want you to be , WTF . Just be yourself real thats all . Its easyer being single , and with the money you save wow .

[@yesterdayseyes]

My house is very clean, mopping every single day sounds ridiculous, unless you have muddy dogs or 12 kids. House chores on a strict time schedule. Scratch made dinner, every night, without fail. Strict and insane rules. Relax a little, enjoy life. Go out for dinner once a month. It's not that serious, and such strict rules around being a wife are why we swung too hard the other way. Balance is key. Happily married for 22 years. My husband tells me daily how grateful he is I'm such an amazing wife, his words.

[@danielhammond3218]

I’m very glad for you and your husband!! Very few men get to experience this in this modern age.

[@derp8575]

Sadly you are an exception to the rule. Per-capita you are rare.

[@laughteraddict1003]

Sadly one day you may wake up and decide this life just isn't for you anymore.

[@sandraheinz5609]

Thank you 29 for us! 😁

[@Sunday20890]

@@yesterdayseyes he just used you and don’t care about you, he just care for him self, if you just stop cooking and cleaning he will call you bad name and leave

[@grinningchicken]

A feminine woman, a high value woman is an asset to a man not a burden. She adds joy to man’s and her childrens and her relatives live brings peace and makes it easier. She’s not jealous combative or demanding. She brings honor not shame.

[@swimm3r137]

Said who? You borrow that out of a book?

[@grinningchicken]

@@swimm3r137 🤖

[@lamamama41]

What is a masculine mans duty?

[@grinningchicken]

@@lamamama41 To be the best person he can be for his community. He doesn’t have a duty to get married. If a woman wants to join his team and help him in his journey she can request that.

[@lamamama41]

@@grinningchicken That was rather vague. People get pretty specific about what a woman should do. What should a man do to be his best?

[@vincentmoreno5746]

❤️Pearl, she speaks the truth..

[@cantwealljustgetalong2]

lots of these libs in the comments cant handle the truth though

[@alancosens]

My grandmother, who was a farmers wife, took the practice of serving others to a high art. She was so great at it that her life itself became aesthetic as a practice. Her skills are what made life livable, and pleasurable. While my grandfather provided the wherewithal via farming, hunting, fishing, mechanical maintenance, etc., my grandmother provided all the things that made life not suck. So, the best possible food quality imaginable via recipes and continual trial and error over many generations, handed down and worked on with specific intention to make greatness. She was a supreme caregiver for children. If you were a sick kid, there is nowhere on the planet you would rather be than with her. She would rock you all night and sing to you all night just for the sake of providing comfort. When she woke up in the morning her game in life was to make the lives of others easier and more pleasurable. There is never any question about commitment or any doubt about permanency of her marriage. They married, it was forever 100% and that was it. Everything else was just working to make others lives better, and from that she derived her own self-worth, which was well earned. Can you imagine what this world would be like if half the population operated in this fashion?

[@channel1_channel]

Even in America during the 1950s over 30% ofvwomen were officially in the workforce. A lot more will have been working in family businesses. Homes generally don't need to be vacuumed and mopped every day....unless you live in an active quarry or something 😂

[@touge242]

A long time ago when people married young they grew together as a couple. There was no "before" to miss. Both halves depended on each other to survive. Why is a married "trad" woman worried that she has no personal money saved up, isn't it the man's job to provide for the entire family? It's as if she was planning on the marriage failing.

[@brianmclean7576]

We are selfish by nature. Todays society is making us more selfish - Single - no kids career ( sorry for most it’s just a job that becomes work) Thus we become angry and depressed - just listen to this lady railing - hard to listen to

[@bythedog]

They look at what they are giving up and don’t focus on what they are gaining.

[@osmosisjones4912]

Caring about Someone more than yourself only works if that someone also cares about you more then themself. Maybe you could share feelings signals mind meld . So s bit of each of you is in each other

[@Truthseekingorb]

Men in the RP, please don’t get in relationships. You must learn!!!

[@CheapGodiva]

Cowardice. Simply learn to correctly discern and select well.

[@darkfatekod3962]

@@CheapGodiva Care to let us know if you're a man or a woman? I'll wait...

[@CheapGodiva]

@@darkfatekod3962No. The truth is unchanged. Accept it or do not.

[@Brandon-so9fp]

Don't worry most RP men don't get in relationships in the west.

[@CheapGodiva]

@@Brandon-so9fp Most of them don't get into ANY relationships. If they actually identify THEMSELVES as "red pill men" they're normally stuck in the "rage phase" for their entire lives. Wasted potential.

[@catawampuslife]

Your dad is a genius.

[@bobbyduke777]

Men care about there women. Women care about there mans money.

[@Rankbaajin]

Their

[@crabbypatty973]

That's not true or it wasn't for me and my husband. I'm almost 75 and he's been a good husband, but, very clueless seeming and acted like he had no idea how to make a sandwich

[@derp8575]

@@Rankbaajin You're*

[@fragidistic]

...or, they never had a proper role model in their life i.e. a good mother to learn good patterns of behaviour from.

[@kevincheung436]

Pearl is the best...

[@danjohnson6800]

This is very sociological/anthropological good work, observing and analyzing human behavior and how the viability of choices changes over the years! You do get at the root of why we succeed or don't. Being selfless is difficult, tiring, and exhausting. It can look like it is a mistake, as traditional mothers council their daughters about getting married. What people don't get, as the information is at the other end of a lifetime, obscured by all the years we cannot yet see, or of the path we didn't take, is that the OTHER road is also demanding, unforgiving, and exhausting. The simple truth is that life IS work, ends with exhaustion, and is filled with troubles. Societies that provide the most support to their people throughout their lives, such as the Scandinavian countries, are the most happy. They feel that, by and large, their country has their back, is there for them when they are in need. They generally feel supported, as a part of a larger whole, that they matter, and are significant. These are things we DON'T feel in the US, especially men. Women are exploring freedom, making every mistake in the book. Price of free will, freedom of choice. Living 2-3 full lifetimes (30-35 year lifespan of a couple hundred years ago), we should expect such messiness. After the kids are grown, that's the first standard lifespan. What are we to do after that? Who are we then? How do we fit together, if we do? No one expected "you can have it all" would first turn into dropping the woman's responsibilities to husband and children, and "going their own way" into the land of feminine fantasies. Now men are going their own way. We need older men and women, wives, husbands, and singles, to combine with the younger and figure out pathways that work and incorporate most of our responsibilities and needs, scoping out workable lifestyles. Everyone figuring it out for themselves by burning down their own houses with their own ideas fueled by media silliness, is the most painful, destructive, and socially explosive way. It doesn't end well, as we are seeing.

[@pickafingname]

What bothers me about talks like this is categorizing behavior because it sets a precedence for some. Being selfless shouldn't be considered a feminine behavior. All people should give all of themselves until it starts to tap into your own personal happiness. People are people up to a point, but everyone has their own red line. THAT is where compatibility is the most important. You can't have a pacificist paired with an emotional terrorist right? They're just too far apart and a guaranteed failure.

[@SopaDeLengua]

Loving the new vibe from the channel. Calm and collected. Factual and non-judgmental. Keeping the drama to a minimum and speaking the truth. Keep it up girl!

[@meadowbyastream]

To all the women throwing everything way because they "have to find themselves," pay attention. WHO you are, is how you have behaved until now; how you have treated others until now; including, your choice to throw it all away and destroy the people you left. You are not looking for who you are. You are dissatisfied with you you are, and want to become someone else, but have no idea "what you want to be when you grow up." Simply, you're being selfish, you know it, so it makes you feel guilty. You don't want to feel guilty, so you make up reasons it's someone else's fault.

[@JulienGordon]

Can't believe I'm actually hearing this so clearly dissected. Well done

[@peterg219]

Some nice pearls of wisdom here. Thank you. Cheers from Sydney, AU

[@anthonyyoung4638]

Pearl! Been a fan for years! You knocked this out the park!

[@papapigeon7589]

The problem is that society has separated religion and marriage, they stole marriage from religion because of the security it provides for all parties, and forgot the fundamental structure of marriage which is sacrifice for the greater good "The Family Unit". In a time where the world was more hostile to existence both male and female listened to nature and conformed to it in the most natural way, but now that we have altered nature to make life easy, we have changed what it is to be human and forgot how to raise our kids in harmony with God, people and nature.

[@cryingdemocrats1460]

1). A womans femininity comes from heart. 2). A wife is a woman obedient to her husband. The difference between the two is : A). One is the provider of the world B). One is the provider of keeping the world going with life itself. Both need each other to the end because ! Between the two life go's on ...

[@workingshlub8861]

the hand the rocks the cradle rules the world..

[@leonblack7637]

Selfish people that sign up for a selfless role.......amazing statement

[@brandonjones6780]

Very insightful and 💯! Not all people should have kids and not all people are mentally prepared or want to be mentally prepared for marriage.

[@jeandaugherty830]

masculinity is being selfless for your family not so different is it

[@cantwealljustgetalong2]

selfless an selfish are two different things

[@tombo7719]

Enjoyed the talk Pearl. Thank you.

[@spitfireap77]

Bitterness. It's a killer. That woman with the glasses said my, myself, my, mine more than any person ever really should.

[@Melkorleo103]

Man, Pearl puts good videos lately.

[@ADobbin1]

Divorce rates are so high because no one puts the other person first anymore. If both of you care more about the other person than yourself you will have a great marriage that lasts till death. if one of you cares more about yourself than the other person your marriage is doomed from the moment it begins. Its that simple. Stop looking at marriage as a transaction.

[@jasonfox9992]

1) this is my favorite Just Pearly video of all time. Very deep, very thoughtful. 2) that “warm” feeling is indeed indicative of true femininity. It is an openness, welcoming, inviting. She has something beautiful to show you, and it is called life! 3) true masculinity is also about putting others needs first. A woman offers beauty to the rest of the world so that others can smile. A man offers his strength so that others have protection and are provided for. We need to love and respect each other for what we can offer.

[@macparra3576]

Question for everyone, would you enter into a contract with someone if they can be rewarded for breaking that contract? 70-80% of the divorces in the US are initiated by women. Remember this, men will sacrifice their happiness for their family but a woman will sacrifice her family for her happiness.

[@jeffreycase9497]

@@macparra3576 hypergamy never sleeps

[@MR3DDev]

The reason why so many women ask for therapy is cause they are bored and don't have anything to look forward to.

[@thinman8621]

Glad you are back, Pearl. Appreciate you helping us understand the world we live in.

[@jengka2001]

Blame on feminism