This is What my Entitled Mother Considers "UNFORGIVEABLE" - Reddit Podcast

[@nefertit1927]

The first story reminded me of a grudge my grandma had with her sister for over 86 years💀

[@REALLY-cool-guy]

EIGHTY SIX YEARS

[@fangirl3323]

Goddamn that long?

[@ClaudiaStarfish2000]

I just can't imagine having the energy to hold a grudge for that long.

[@leanneh5293]

That boyfriend is trying to manipulate her, he's going to isolate her from her friends and the paying rent thing was cos she stayed out at her friends house. He will stop her doing things and eventually she will be trapped.

[@HammyAndSammy]

Classic narcissist trap

[@jeb156]

might be a bit cliche and just quick thinking but it's a possibility.

[@victorramos3791]

Please everybody know you want raitng 😂😂😂

[@leanneh5293]

@@victorramos3791 I have no idea what raitng is 🤣🎉

[@dianekay8771]

Bullying is so horrible and so detrimental. I know I hurt a girl in my elementary school because I told her she had cooties. It was in no way like the way kids bully today, but it wasn’t right and I still feel bad for what I did. I did send her a message on Facebook, apologizing fr what said to her. I just sent it through messenger, I didn’t request her to be my friend on Facebook. My heart breaks to this day when I hear about someone being bullied. We had a kid in high school that was bullied, not by me or the people that were my friends, but I heard after we graduated that he killed himself. My heart was broken because if someone, anyone, me could have talked to him maybe he would be here today. He was a good guy. I did not know him that well, RIP Randy.

[@kennethwilson4316]

Military: if you marry and go with him overseas ... the Military will extend his TOD . If your relationship cannot continue because you are separated for 18 to 24 months ... then you are better off not getting married.

[@Scradye]

2nd story seemed kind of relatable, our school was public but I was the girls friend with this other girl, in 4th grade when covid hit things changed, I bullied her like saying 'kys' and stuff and basically that other stuff, I really regretted doing it to her later after.

[@AlexrsGAME]

I will say for story 2, I have experience of being bullied during secondary school as I live in the UK and one of the bullies did message me on Facebook and this was about 10 years ago, and he messaged me saying sorry fir bullying and he felt like a jerk, which did bring up bad memories, but I remember I became a uncle during my time near the end of secondary school in year 10, and I said it's fine, and that I moved on from it and I said I hope he has a great life and just move on about it which at the age of 27, I work in retail and a uncle to 3 nephews and 3 nieces from both of my older sisters and I am happy, and use my experience of being bullied to not let it get to me anymore and treat everyone with respect and stand with people who is being bullied and has been bullied.

[@Onepiecefan95]

Well TBH the last time i got bullied by someone(That Someone had a felt a School desk smash his face)(And looking at how right now im 6 years into bodybuilding ive never been bullied since).

[@bgcorporation]

Whomever is playing these games needs to brush up on their multiplications lol.

[@Justin-A-Carter]

About the bully you know? My bully added me to Facebook and he was the first one to make contact and he deeply apologized. He told me what went on and that he changed during High School when we no longer met each other because I changed schools. He was greatly apologetic and told me if I needed anything at all to contact him. He changed and I consider him a very close friend and very happy to talk to him. He's a family man with children he just went through a divorce. But he's with somebody new and he's happy and he works in a detailing company for a cars and trucks. He was actually very nice! Children do cruel things but adults you know grow up most times

[@wlehglowdiehburnett3845]

Story 2. I'm sure she remembers if you try to "make it right" is you being selfish and trying to wipe your guilt.

[@ministryofnonsense3692]

Amends exist without having to be self centered, the question is will making those amends cause further harm?

[@olgar.6604]

There can also be an apology out of respect. As in acknowledging that his actions were hurtful, disrespectful and just saying that he wishes that he hadn't behaved in this way. I think that if he doesn't make it about himself (like how guilty and miserable he feels) it's going to be ok.

[@gingerinkgamings4227]

I'm not dating anyone or married but I suggest waiting till your significant other comes back to see if they wanna get married to you

[@juliane.mfarias9285]

Yeah, this compromise without the marriage is not working

[@gingerinkgamings4227]

@@juliane.mfarias9285 well if it doesn't work out then break up I know someone who is married to abusive husband and doesn't want to divorce him

[@juliane.mfarias9285]

@@gingerinkgamings4227 Ugh

[@nahbruh2613]

The first story: there is more to the story that you will never know about. It involves getting pregnant.

[@juliane.mfarias9285]

Explain....

[@aubarlowe]

what are you implying?

[@TabbyCatq]

What?

[@Blaque_Dahlya]

OP has every right to be ashamed for bullying. There is NEVER a good reason to treat anyone that way. Apologize yesterday.

[@alexanderyt4610]

"My mom had a grudge on her sister for 25 years" Seems like a line from quandale dingle

[@greytala]

I’m a Army SGT’s wife and have counseled many girlfriends, boyfriends and soldiers ok this exact topic (actually just got off the phone with a gf), so I’m going to tell you what I told them. If either of you have doubts on a move without being married, especially an overseas move, don’t go. You will be overseas, away from your support system with limited options on getting back home if something were to happen.

[@bluedragonfox]

The Last: He doesn't have to marry her this young and she should not follow him across the country with no backup plan. No one is TA just an unsure path ahead.

[@ashlearhodeskim3112]

Story 2 I got bullied a lot and I have had some apologies over the years. I also became good friends with one of them and she was the worst one because she used to push me, yell at me even harassing me in the change rooms to the point she hurt my wrist making it bleed. I try letting go of the past. Sure at times I wonder if I would be different, if my emotional and confidence had been better if I had not gotten bullied but I can’t change the past I can only live in the now and live for me and not for the memories of young jerks. I take more issues with those that continue to be bullies in their adult life.

[@kameshiam1674]

Story2 - apologize! You did wrong. Own it.

[@TheVulpesh]

Last story: Best possible way: Get a small, unceremonious wedding for the benefits and after a couple of years get a big dream wedding.

[@DanielGonzalez-qk6sd]

Last story: such a bad take by the narrator. So if roles were reversed, the woman would *have* to marry her BF? Is this the belief we are using? If not then why use it here? It is nonsense. The boyfriend set up his boundaries. Much like the stories where the woman is the OP you have always said those boundaries needed to be accepted. So it is no different now. Now if OP *wants* to move with her boyfriend that is *her* choice and she *should* take responsibility for it by paying what she has to pay for. It is not on the boyfriend because it does not sound like he suggested it or is guilting her into coming. It seems OP sees all the benefits and wants to rush (yes she is rushing) into marriage so she can get all these benefits. It is entitled behavior and if she does not back away from the idea, it is a *MASSIVE* red flag for the boyfriend to break up with OP. What OP *should* do is respect her boyfriend’s boundaries and just try it long distance. If long distance does not work then that is unfortunate.

[@olgar.6604]

I agree that long distance is probably the way to go. I think that the question is about determining the situation where it would be acceptable to move with their partner. If you are uprooted and leave everything behind to move with your loved one because of their job, well you should only do that if you are married (and that regardless of gender). Marriage does protect the weaker party (especially in Europe) and when moving to a completely new place, with no job and probably not speaking the local language, you are factually quite dependent on your partner and weaker than them. Being married would bring some balance to this situation.

[@andrewdisiewich7913]

Narrator has some stupid takes on some things. Most is good but a few times he sounds like a idiot lol

[@anakaliaeastwood]

The first OP's mom is just like one of my aunts. She finds reasons to get angry at and quit speaking to my mom maybe two days after they "make up," which really just means my aunt decides to forgive my mom for whatever false transgression she committed and pretend she didn't disrespect my mom to the fullest. I've been begging my mom to cut her off once and for all for years.

[@rjgaynor8]

2nd story. This used to be painful to talk about. I have forgiven my bullies over my lifetime. My case hit the papers many years ago though not my face (my parents shielded me from that thankfully.) 2 of them immediately stopped after an incident that put one in the hospital and we didn’t become friends but became civil. 1 found that we shared a love of comic books in high school. Another 2 I beat up in high school (not my proudest moment) and afterwards they stopped. The last 2 I wouldn’t see till after I graduated college as they were expelled and not allowed back into our school district. 1 apparently thought using the stupid nick name they had for me would go over well I actually ignored him. It was my friends that beat the hell out of him and the people with him. I actually tried to stop them and though I am a very strong man and have been very strong most of my life I can’t stop 12 people. 2 of my friends got arrested and one did time for it. The final one I met at our high school reunion. He married a woman I graduated with. We talked and he apologized for what he did. I accepted his apology and forgave him. I may be a staunch atheist but I don’t believe in holding on to grudges. I think the OP needs to just get it out and move on. She may already have forgiven him. Most of my bullies I can’t even remember their names. I will always remember the fight in the bus and feeling like they wanted to kill me.

[@TheDarkLink7]

With a bullying story. I feel he needs to approach this carefully. Like he is walking a tightrope. One wrong move and he will screw up what he wants to achieve. Yeah getting forgiveness shouldn't be on the table however being an adult and owning up to what he did. It might also go the other way. She might be like "Hey look. I appreciate what you did by maning up the way you did." And it might lead to her and the company he works for working together for a long time.

[@CidVeldoril]

Forgiveness should not even be needed. Elementary school? Seeking forgiveness for something you did when you were between 5 and 10 should not be a thing. It is forgiven by default.

[@PortalLand63063]

@@CidVeldoril Have you ever been bullied? Look I see what you mean. But bullying is an absolute nightmare to work through and will leave you with emotional scars that just me though

[@CidVeldoril]

@@PortalLand63063 I have. Incidentally during elementary school. If I still held it against those dumb kids, knowing how much I myself changed even between 18 and now, I'd think I'd be the biggest loser on the planet.

[@PortalLand63063]

@@CidVeldoril that's very wise

[@PortalLand63063]

@@CidVeldoril and sorry if I offended you

[@user-uw7ch5hk2n]

For the third story. It can very easily be the stress. I used to do this a lot when I was stressed and everything would stress me out. If anything put a bit more space between each other or try to talk about it with him so he understands

[@velveteenrabbit5940]

I think if you get so stressed out that you start saying shit like “I think youre taking advantage of me” after moving in was ALL your idea and you practically begged for it, you don’t need a girlfriend you need psychiatric help. Weather or not he means to do it, thats like, max teir gaslighting and emotional manipulation and no amount of personal problems makes that excusable

[@christianmarshal6117]

If the former bully OP apologizes now it’ll just look like he’s doing it because she’s his boss now. The classic move of a jerk who sees karma might be coming back to bite him/her in the butt!

[@kano8]

I can understand why the military bf may not want to get married. If something was to happen if they where married and they got a divorce. She would still be entitled to everything, and get half of his income. Not to mention a lump some of money if he was to die. Sure they may have been dating for 3 years, but you never know when something is gonna happen.

[@lovelysakurapetalsyt]

I don't really know what to do on story 2 since I've been bullied and I'd never forgive my bullies. One of them even physically assaulted me by slamming the edge of a locker door into my head with all her strength, which was a surprisingly big amount of strength. She dared to try to act like we were buddies when I seen her last and I heard her calling me a bitch behind my back for not acting like we were friends

[@tsm4201979]

from Elementary to 30's? forget it! i recommend invite her to a luncheon and discuss current events only. nothing of the past!.

[@OynxWolf11]

2nd Story - Trust me, I know exactly what it was like to be a Victim. In School, you were either the Bully or the Bullied. Listen bud, sometimes it's best to bite the bullet and apologise, even if it's out of guilt. If my Bullies apologised, I would forgive them in a heart beat. And in a way I am grateful for it, because it taught me on how to be a better human being. Sure it left a Scar, but I see it as a Medal for surviving such an ordeal and living the happy life that I am doing now. Just apologise mate, rather she accepts it or not is up to her.

[@Icalasari]

Story 4 - Yeah, they need to talk. Just to make sure they are on the same page

[@Blaque_Dahlya]

Why does OP think she needs to do anything about her moms grudge?? She needs to just keep her relationships going and let her mom deal with whatever comes her way. Shell regret this some day, I'm sure, however there is nothing OP can do about it.

[@apoorva.720]

as a person who was once bullied i can tell u that learn to roast them and that be better than physical fight

[@k.a.4522]

BULLY:. As a child I was bullied at home by my parents, siblings, and cousins. I was bullied at school. In High school, I was triple bullied because my parents refused to buy me clothes even at a thrift store because I was overweight. I also was bullied in Christian churches as a young adult. My father once said, " You are still harping on that? Grow up and let it go." I left. My father also stole money from me after promising to return it but when I asked for it, he told me he was keeping it to pay for my place in the house. Note: I helped take care of my sisters' and brother' children. That money would have gotten me a car but his keeping it kept me tied to them because I couldn't drive and he had promised to teach me to drive but they wanted a son to take care of them in their old age after my siblings all became drug and alcohol addicts. And I now have severe PSTD and agoraphobia. I do leave the house but it is very rare and that was true before COVID as well. Bullying is a crime and it needs to be a law in every state. Bullying is now in social media every day because of Darrens and Karens. It must be stopped for everyone's mental health . Bullying causes violence and suicide. Bullyjng never leaves you. I am almost 60 and it I still hurt over it. It has to be stopped.

[@robertstimens337]

I wonder if she felt remorse before or after funding out she's a client in story 2

[@shadowfox8751]

I was a bully in elementary school to a girl and I apologized to her later down the road which now we don't talk that's karma and something I deserve.

[@nara_saya]

It stupid to apologise after just like you suggested

[@laughingcatlolyt8251]

so the mother is a spoiled brat that thinks everything is about her, i am lucky if i even know about my own appointments more a day before.

[@sashaziglin3724]

Perhaps she had hoped her sister would stay single?

[@CidVeldoril]

Well, the boyfriend may be overworked, but I have read thousands of stories where the girlfriend was annoyed for the BF not trying hard enough at his job. He likely has in mind that a better career will also afford his future family a nicer life. Also military woman: You are coming to GERMANY. GERMANY. You don't need to worry about healthcare or dental, because we are GERMANY. If you work here you have to pay into the system and are therefor also automatically covered.

[@go.a.t]

The last story I can see both sides

[@Jujuz77]

The military one is understandable. Also, he's in the military, he wants to protect your emotions incase...

[@monoandsix3066]

the last story: if he didnt want to get married so much, then make him pay for everything, you be the housewife and do all the cleaning, and he pays for the house, the food and the plane ticket, if he didnt care about marriage or you, then make him pay for everything and just say that being married would solve this problem, do some pro revenge or something, that's what i would do

[@lisamacon-ramirez8171]

Do not go, finish your education here.

[@Fiercetits]

What's the point of going overseas with your boyfriend If you're not going to be living together? As an American whose lived in Europe for work it's far more expensive and difficult If you don't have a husband/wife or job already setup there and may coat the op here thousands of dollars for no good reason.

[@ashlearhodeskim3112]

Omg story 1 is crazy 😱

[@CoraErickson-cz3zp]

Story 2 bullying is not detrimental. Especially later. The narrator thinks that she's probably scarred, but I don't think she is.

[@monroerobbins7551]

7:09 I think being professional is the most important. Professionalism first. But, on a personal level? Be you. Be humble, be kind, and try to prove that you’re not who you used to be. If she brings it up? Be honest about how you wanted to react, but you didn’t want to intrude, or bring up bad memories. You wanted to treat her as the successful businessperson she is, not as the victim of your past behaviors.

[@gillerdaduck]

4:24 I have lasted 1 hour and I still haven't seen any silent voice references

[@samariumproductions5287]

the first two stories are about forgiveness

[@Babieburner]

Every time they say my husband I don’t know if there a gay man or a female

[@thedomesticengineer6408]

That one chick is being waaaaayyyyy too touchy!

[@animetalk8132]

just remarried them and have the beautiful wedding y'all dream of I would say

[@erikaguilar4624]

For the second story I believe it'll be better left alone you never I think it'll do more harm then good due to past trauma

[@shirish99official15]

Bro sounds like quandale diggle

[@Errcr404]

For the second one: he needs to say sorry I was Bullied at school to the point I had to switch schools 4 times and move 3 times and as soon as I got in to a good school I couldn't even go because I had Severe panic attacks because because of trauma and anxiety and I still can't go nere a school without shaking or having a panic attack to the point where it is normal for me to have panic attacks. I am currently doing home school/"unschooling"

[@ravenspurplebeats5412]

story 2: just say sorry about past it seems is idea i think instead of trying to over think it and hide skeleton in closet as by now your both adults and have learnt to be better people so im sure both can talk it out like adults and get over the past.

[@jacobwatson4235]

My grandmother has held a grudge against my mom for 29 years and the other grudge ended after 44 years after my great grandmother on my grandfather's side Died. So it will probably continue until the end of time.

[@joeyjesus2746]

For story 2 I understand both sides and he needs be up front and say everything out right. Not over Facebook but in person. I was bullied to being a bully and found out that as long as you say your sorry from the heart then most of the time you can move on but saying sorry just to try a save client or business is going to make it worse. A hearing from op how it ate him up inside then he seems like a good guy but know he messed up

[@ColorsGlow]

Last stor I’d have to be married to follow to a foreign country

[@johnnymcneal5914]

Yeah that is a pretty Petty reason to hold the garage I mean she really needs to go up honestly I wouldn't know how to fix this problem myself

[@YuriCrimmy]

Everyone, quit with the "1st" or "2nd" bullshit. It doesn't matter who was first or second. I can imagine yall at a funeral: Priest: here we are to mourn the loss of Henry Bartholomew dinglenu- YOU: first! priest: what- You: I'm first to the funeral soo🙄💅💅 Priest: are you even here to mourn? You: no, I'm just first🙄💅💅 priest:....Leave. You: But what'd i- Priest: LEAVE.

[@xXCode9Xx]

Yeah that is annoying and childish

[@Joshua01836]

This is great

[@hamnatahir5978]

My bf story Ik how u feel I also have ptsd. there is nothing wrong with what you're doing. he doesn't deserve you. leave him

[@Blaque_Dahlya]

OP needs to move out. He is an AH and I don't think she can trust him. Maybe he's feeling off BC you went somewhere else for the weekend?? Idk in any case he's really acting sketchy and OP doesn't need to worry about where shell live.

[@coffeebean8463]

Some people are petty

[@charcoalcookiez]

12:56 what. thats half hour more each day. i don't work yet so idk but that doesn't seem like that much more.

[@Lucidum..]

I like your stories but can you please change the background to a simple black or white colour instead of gaming videos? Thank you

[@Teszo]

Great vid

[@elelelelelelelelelelel]

sped racer [ral]

[@Teszo]

@@elelelelelelelelelelel Your probally the kid who eats glue but tries to get a girl and gets rejected by every single one, even the other ones who eat glue. Your probally the wannabe rapper in school with a speech impediment, so whenever you try to say your r's it sounds like a w

[@averageafrican1]

Im being honest, when I watch your videos I feel like your being biased towards the women in the situation, when it involves the men at fault you make it seem like a huge deal but when it involves the women at fault you dont make it seem as such a big deal, Idk if Im seeing something but its just something Ive observed

[@nahbruh2613]

This is absolutely true, he’s a usual man.

[@gotenblack2542]

true given the last story shows the boyfriend clearly loves op but is not ready to get married being young still but if always the guys fault even when is not

[@DanielGonzalez-qk6sd]

This commentator is bias towards the women in the stories. To be quite honest, it is better to listen to the stories and then just skip his opinion. I have started doing that and found the content abit more enjoyable since the clear bias is sort of annoying to me

[@gotenblack2542]

ya

[@Mario87456]

Dude no in story 2 you are WRONG some people DO deserve to be bullied especially since bullying is a GOOD thing and well it’s hilarious that that girl was bullied and op is stupid to feel guilt over this he should take pride in it so shame on him for feeling guilt.

[@Willzb-xk4ew]

Whats the game in the background?

[@Syxxth]

In Elementary school, my friend turned on me with another boy. That boy was my bully and my friend was indifferent over it. One day, my bully stabbed me in the back with a pencil.

[@markthesapphicdumpsterfire1745]

Jesus Christ, I hope the end did not break off. And in your back? That’s literally the same as stabbing someone with a small knife in the back, I hope that bully got in huge trouble

[@melaniescribbles]

Story 2: OP, I'd say to tell your boss. And to ask them what they think is the best course of action here. But as someone who used to get bullied herself: in my personal experience, bullies never change when it comes to selfishness. Any apology that you might get as a former victim is more about them then it is about you: It's only about THEIR guilt, never about how you were wronged by them. So from that perspective: the girl probably doesn't want to hear your apology in the first place, so save yourself the trouble and don't message her. It would come off as being a selfish act regardless, since that's exactly what it is. I mean, I wouldn't even bother if an old bully apologized to me: that message would permanently stay on 'read'. Because while my name is on it... That doesn't involve anything about me at all. It's up to YOU to come to peace with your past actions, nobody else. And frankly speaking: it's unfair to try and pawn off that responsibility onto someone else. You can only try and be a better person in the present day, and hope that your old victim has forgiven you. Only time will tell: you would find out if you stayed on the case, but I feel that it would devalue the product since you said that you can't even focus. So for the sake of that girl's business (which she worked hard on), tell your boss and ask what course of action they would find to be best.

[@jingtinggao-dd2zd]

How he played the game is triggering me no offense

[@firem8097]

cool vid :D

[@cygnusa5992]

What is this game?

[@Blaque_Dahlya]

If he really wanted to marry OP then why wouldnt he in the circumstance?? I wouldn't go overseas and uproot my entire life without the safety net either.

[@DanielGonzalez-qk6sd]

Because he said he does not want to get married young. He set up a boundary and is sticking to it. What is the issue there? If a woman was on deployment and the OP was the boyfriend would you still keep the same perspective?

[@johnnymcneal5914]

Oh now I understand yeah I understand that is pretty a childish reaction I mean so you didn't get to the information first big deal

[@bobm5951]

Story 2 - wrong wrong wrong. Do not bring it up. You apologizing now is about reliving your guilt, exactly what you say you don't want it to become. Just leave it be. There is no reason to bring up a past better left alone.

[@CidVeldoril]

Especially since feeling guilty about something you did when you were a literal child is stupid.

[@drako8343]

Also, I think the narrator is projecting. Like maybe she remembers being in school together cause they are Facebook friends not because she’s holding a grudge.

[@BossSuperior201]

Bulling? Once I got punched in the face because I told the bully he cut the line

[@notaquaz_v2386]

Yo what the ñame of the game

[@Marvin-Crusader]

My grammer izn't the bezt becauze I'm a Zombie I want brainz

[@Tayden.D]

Why

[@aliamvickersfan2388]

Why what?

[@Tayden.D]

Just why

[@KingCam_396]

Bro let’s go

[@theonlydissconector7228]

is anyone here a christian?

[@SkimNes-pe1gf]

ok

[@faithstacey7631]

I'm like 20😁

[@KLP99]

Story number 3 shows the exact reason why unmarried kids should not live together. I have a degree in sociology and every study I've seen shows that the divorce rate among couples who lived together before they were married is 5 to 10 times higher than those who waited until they were married to move in together. There are some quotable statistics about half of all marriages ending in divorce. That is based on a lie and should be ignored. But if you want to find out the truth, do a search for half of all marriages and in divorce. And you should find the root cause being some stupid statistician who counted the number of marriages in a year and the number of divorces in a year and found that there were half as many divorces as there were marriages. If you think about that, you realize the idiot did not count all of the other marriages that were still in existent from all of history of the living married couples. The fact is that 95% of couples don't get divorced. Just don't move in with some dude because he asks you.

[@Tayden.D]

Idk

[@KingCam_396]

Everybody come to what number you saw this video

[@Teszo]

I was second, right after caliber

[@alexanderyt4610]

A loooooot back

[@mr50caliber45]

First

[@v1ncecuharmy449]

I’m here

[@Doxycyc]

Here

[@Teszo]

To all of yall saying you were second and stuff:Mr.50Caliber was 1st, and i put a comment right after. I was second, caliber was first. Yall are saying "second" like 2 minutes after I put my comment

[@deoverseers]

No, it’s just how KZbin loads it, it’s how fast it loads, it’s not how fast you are, so be quiet.

[@kunfussed213]

First. 💅😌

[@philipjohnson1068]

Early

[@elelelelelelelelelelel]

early

[@warthunderaviationman7319]

2nd

[@Teszo]

my comment was second

[@AAblaze_7]

First three minutes

[@KingCam_396]

Second

[@Stone_Cold-316]

@iiorange nah you were third

[@Teszo]

@iiorange my comment was second

[@hellriderindustries3083]

Okay from the second story your wrong. You don’t deserve trouble for something in the past we’re talking about eliminatory school

[@olgar.6604]

"you don't deserve trouble for something in the past" oh well, tell that to the judge :) On a serious note, you can't decide if something is "in the past" for a person because that might still be bothering them to this day. If the bully moved on doesn't mean that the victim did.