The Reality Of Dating High Value Men

[@marathoner43]

If I have learned anything from watching videos about dating it's this: 1.) If a woman says "High Value Man", she means "High Net Worth Man". 2.) If a man says "High Value Woman", he means "A woman with morals and values who doesn't bring drama." Calling it like I see it.

[@jakesully007]

This!

[@Celi.S.00]

If a man says "High Value Man", he means "High Net Worth Man" too. That's why I prefer to say "High quality man"

[@MP-ut6eb]

​@@Celi.S.00what makes a man high quality?😊

[@ildemarorequena2221]

@@MP-ut6eb His high net worth.

[@Celi.S.00]

@@MP-ut6eb The character traits that make him husband material.

[@donaldbiden9492]

So many people thinking they're "high value" humans these days 😄. Most of us are basic af, time to grow up.

[@dianmatu]

Real

[@opticracer3927]

Very true. Even "polished" people need to constant evolved and or mantain physical fitness, knowledge and spirituality.

[@tuomas_knives]

At one point I thought I was a high value person, after quitting sugar, starting to hit the gym and starting to meditate. But I'm still so far away from being high value. My social life is laughable, I'm not earning a lot of money, and I have a lot of space for improvement in spending my free time wisely. I also have to start reading and actually start becoming more intelligent and not less intelligent.

[@light2011]

I’m pretty sure you have a job and you work for somebody right ? everyone in this world has value

[@leamas5971]

It's true...women included. Most women bring little to a relationship and these days seem to base their value on their appearance and what they bring, "physically", to the relationship. Add to that that so many women these days were ultra-coddled by their parents well meaning parents who raised them to have "princess syndrome", to the point that their perspective is so outside of reality, they can have nothing less than total and utter disappointment. The types of guys these women have been taught to expect, they say is the top 5%, but I think realistically, it's under 1% in today's society.

[@y66nick]

I wish more people asked themselves that question: Are you being the type of person that the person you want to be with would want to be with?

[@tann_man]

There's an entire industry around this for men who seek this. Less so for women.

[@DDD11239]

English class wasn't your strength

[@elwoodblues9613]

Western women reply "Everyone wants to be with me. I'm a 10. I get so many DMs on my IG and OF, and I can get a date easily. Yes, I'm a high value woman." Thereby revealing themselves to be narcissistic abusive 304s.

[@CatGamer-wc2ij]

We ask it all the time...and women sometimes too. The problem is they view their "career" as important to men of means, and then view their quest as being worthwhile to men. Great for them personally, but money is not the same to men of means.

[@tuh774]

Thats not really a great question to ask because you can't answer that. Question is "do you like the person staring back at you on the mirror?", if your answer is no then you got some work to do. And hey, someone might accept you long before you even accept yourself.

[@masteranyrelationship6259]

"High value" men don't wait a year before pursuing. They can spot most low value women in the first 10 secs of interaction. They spot the rest after a few dates.

[@edheldude]

Some are very skilled at faking it. You have to get to know these modern ladies, and what their past is like.

[@scottcoachlife5443]

This guy gets it

[@spinnetti]

True. I moved in with my now wife a couple weeks after meeting her. 40 years and two grown kids later still going, though I'd be ok to be on my own now but it would cost me literally millions lol.

[@andersnielsen6044]

High value men does not waste their life going on dates with random women to find out if they are the one or not. We do have other things to do, like a life to live on our own. ;)

[@kurtniznik8116]

High value men don't need to pursue women, they have plenty pursuing them.

[@PRdude]

When I was younger, I was deterred from dating since it seemed like women just wanted the kinds of guys who don't respect them.

[@DrRock2009]

That’s because the women go for the bad boys when they are in their 20’s.

[@SlayerOfTheDamned]

The bad boys? Funny enough I was treated better when I was an asshole vs being nice. It was night and day.

[@Omega-xs2yq]

They still do

[@Swearengen1980]

@@SlayerOfTheDamned It's usually not. There's a balance that most guys just can't pull off. Nice guys end up simping. You don't have to be an asshole, but indifferent on the other hand can be very effective. Good example from years ago when I was in my mid/late 20s. Meeting a couple buddies at a bar patio for drinks and smoke cigars. A guy shows up late and brings this "friend" he's in love with. I barely that guy, he's a friend of the other 2. The chick is hot, petite, fit, outgoing, 5 years younger than me, doesn't like smoke. He, not her, asks me to put out my cigar. I told him to fuck off. He said it's for her. I said, "then she can fuck off. No offense darlin', but I came up here to bullshit, drink, and smoke cigars. I didn't invite you, I don't know you, so you can tolerate the smoke or the 2 of you can leave". They stayed and I was pleasant and polite from then on. 2 days later, she calls. She'd gotten my number from someone. I didn't have to be mean, I was just honest, me, and didn't kiss her ass like teh friend zoned bitch she came with.

[@brewmastermonk9356]

Yeah but for a lot of younger guys "respect" is an excuse to be shy and cowardly.

[@positivewavwriter]

With all the labels like high/low value, Alpha, Sigma, Insel, and Chad, it must be really tough to define what it takes to simply be a man who wants to love and be loved......

[@truthbetold6496]

Because you make it though, terms, well I am 52 now and started life as a weak beta, then i lifted weights to gain mass to defend myself against bullies, in the mean time i became alpha, and now at my age i am sigma, its hilarious to look at it this way because it makes no sense at all, why because all those terms are related to life experience, and your way of thinking. In other word those terms mean absolutely nothing

[@quixomega]

Anyone who unironically uses those terms is just showing their emotional immaturity.

[@venomking3602]

​@quixomega no you just don't understand what they truly mean

[@ceasetheday87]

the term is “incel” and not “ensel.” short for “involuntary celibate.”

[@positivewavwriter]

@@ceasetheday87 thank you for that :)

[@sportlams]

Men should know that success isn't built on success. It's built on failure and frustration, and on fear that you have to overcome. That's what the e-book called Unveiling Your Hidden Potential' by Bruce Thornwood taught me. The best read I ever had.

[@lordpalandus11]

Initial successes yes. Later successes are built on previous successes though. ie It may take a lot of attempts to find a good technique in basketball to scoring a goal, but once you have a technique, then its a matter of practice and continued refinement with successful or barely successful shots to get to a point of being able to reliably get it. But yes, initially you have to fail a lot to even start to get there.

[@thanhhuybui452]

Marketing shit

[@Mr2MuchJuice4U]

There's no such thing as success when life is rigged. There's no such thing as failure when you're trying. I don't know where frustration comes in. I only get frustrated when playing video games 🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@jayess1363]

This is a scam, theres a reddit post detailing how the site is a scam and is there is no actual book.

[@alansmith4655]

@@jayess1363 that's the joke...

[@edheldude]

3:38 "It's not just about looks" But it is upfront 95% about the looks. You have to bypass a certain threshold, and then all your other qualities matter. I find that often when women talk about their criteria, they _completely_ bypass their actual attraction triggers and start talk about their "galaxy" - all the things they want after the guy has bypassed the insane tight selection criteria.

[@JohnMcLaughlin-ec4zz]

I feel like getting to 1st base is about the $$$ she sees in a man.

[@edheldude]

@JohnMcLaughlin-ec4zz It's part of the looks. Women are hyper sensitive to displays of status which is why wearing expensive suits and watches etc. works. Women's clothes don't have that same effect on us which why women make videos wondering "I look like this and guys approach me??".

[@asharudlandlifeteacher]

There's a difference between how handsome you are and how show your confidence. It's not about how handsome you are so much as a man. Your confidence, and your personality does matter more a lot of the time.

[@johndamascus6039]

People actually have very good comments on this thread/video. This is one of them. The stuff women talk about is AFTER they are attracted, which means that given the culture, it's relatively meaningless, like most things they say (and most people say). Something that many women don't know, and what our forefathers always knew, was that they are FAR more flexible, since they are the passive partner AND they have a short attractiveness window, and the pairing thing is for LIFE. Women aren't good at seeing the big picture. That's why a woman's best adviser by far will be her father or brother.

[@tipsy09]

I think I know what you’re saying and that I agree but can you explain it in a different way for me? Lol I get the first half of your post but not the second half. Are you saying women ignore the initial physical attraction part of the equation? And it misleads men into thinking all the other stuff is just as necessary as the physical attraction when physical attraction is the most necessary because without it you won’t even get in the door? I guess women do this to not offend anyone?

[@lylez00]

So it's not creepy to be a multi-month stalker if you're rich and good looking, but it's creepy if I say hello to a woman at a bar because I'm nobody. Got it!

[@edheldude]

You got it! 🤝

[@DanielBice]

You just now learned that? Creepiness and attractiveness are inversely proportional😂

[@lylez00]

@@DanielBice I've known it for a while.

[@Mike_From_Connecticut]

Stop being a whiny bitch

[@hassanalzaher3893]

That is very true. Even more true, being attractive as a man, in itself prevents many men from thinking of themselves or behaving in a creepy way. Why? Because they know they can pick the girl with confidence and kinda warranted entitlement. An ugly guy will himself act more on the creepy side of things because he himself knows that his genetics don't deserve that hot healthy chic he is chasing. It is fucked up from all sides, not only on the part of girls. All people play the rule that suits their appearance and vibe. Those who don't are exceptional individuals.

[@dharmakaya_bee]

Its in the language. If a woman says she wants a "high value man" its about how much that man is fiscally worth and what he can provide for her. If a woman says she wants a "High quality man" then it's about what sort of human he is on a personal level, how he treats the world around him and how he moves through it. Self-awareness should be the #1 attractor. If it was, the world would be a very different place.

[@diabolical1976]

Unfortunately, the women who need to hear this message won't come anywhere near here to actually hear it.

[@antoinecharlesdegaulle580]

Lol

[@EricMoore790]

This is true! I saw a co worker treat other people poorly and she was interested in me and I went NOPE because of that.

[@hnewman2907]

The women who say "all men are the same" are usually the ones who consider themselves the prize and high value but don't realize that their choice in men is a reflection of who they are.

[@cedricnicholson7446]

This was me with a girl I went on a few dates with recently. I think she spun the block a few times and still had a party side of her that wasn't attractive. What really got me was when she told me she dated a guy who had 3 kids by 3 separate women and he didn't take care of them. I knew she was a low quality woman after that. It's sad too because she was stunning, like I would give her a 8-9 on the looks scale but her history and cold features really was a turn off to me. She even said that I had my shyt together compared to all the guys she's been with. Oh well back to the grind.

[@edheldude]

Good job avoiding her. A man on his path gotta learn. I lost years and a lot of work and money because of my ex - in addition to my health and mental stability. Not making that mistake again.

[@kristofferrobinhaug8029]

A man of discernment - thank you for sharing your story 🙏

[@IntlOilman]

Quality never gets old, it’s timeless, expensive, and is observable in perpetuity. Unfortunately, low quality that looks great (stunning) is only superficial & you’ll grow to see the poor quality soon enough, and regret the choice.

[@paullentz1972]

When women today who are in their 20's (some even in their early 30's)...they will target Chads/Tyrones who 'make them tingle down there' (only 4.5% of men make most women 'tingle down there'). However, once that bio-clock starts ticking (usually when they are in their early/mid-30's)....most women will start to target men to 'settle' with who hit 'the other checkmarks'. Chads/Tyrones know that most women want them. They can behave like loins/silverback gorillas...and basically enjoy a pride/harem of females. They know they dont have to be faithful/men of their word (basically be walking Red Flags)...because most women today have shown that they will overlook the plethora of Red Flags that many Chads/Tyrones exhibit....because those men make most women 'tingle down there'! I play poker with a guy whose a Chad whose a literal walking Red Flag. The stuff he gets away with...most men could NEVER dream of pulling off!

[@youareawonderfulman]

In a world full of labels like Alpha, Beta, Chad, and Sigma, it’s tough for a man to simply want to love and be loved. Society often values status and dominance over authenticity, making it hard to just be yourself and seek real connections without fitting into a predefined box. Ultimately, love should be about being genuine, not living up to labels.

[@hugevagiine]

Just being loved is for women and pets, men are loved for what we provide whether we like it or not

[@SleepyGB]

Courtney I feel like a lot of people are talking about high value person, but what you talk about is a high quality person. A person of integrity is leagues above someone who has a lot

[@edheldude]

That's what men are attracted to, but that's not what women are attracted to. Ladies love criminals.

[@planetdee3587]

I think another large negative in today's society that women seek is just unattached sex. This distorts how a healthy sex life should be in a relationship because players with a large body count will always be more experienced than a regular good man. So now women get hooked on chasing sex.

[@leamas5971]

3:50 - Long term compatibility!! BINGO!!! Back when I was single, I had VERY specific requirements because I was looking for a "life partner" not a "toy". I was looking for someone who shared the same likes and values as me. Someone I WANTED to spend time with beyond bedroom time. For instance, I was outdoorsy, active and fit and wanted someone of like mind. I wasn't terribly fussy about how attractive she was, we all age and beauty fades in the long game, which is what I was playing, but she had to be outdoorsy, active and fit. I could go on with the list of requirements, but I think "compatibility" more or less covers it in a general sense.

[@S.J.L]

High quality or high integrity are less subjective. Some people are attractive or rich but are landmines or fool's gold.

[@seangaw6429]

When Tiktok girl said High value men watching you for weeks or months she meant a guy wearing a suite every morning who you serve his coffee to everyday is observing you before approaching you.

[@deanfirnatine7814]

I have observed girls for months exactly like she said to make sure there are no red flags and to see she has similar interests and most important is kind and treats people and animals with kindness.

[@stevensmith4213]

"The person who you choose to be with is a direct reflection of your emotional development". Well said Courtney. That is something I believe. Thank you very much.🙂

[@AntoninaJytte]

If somebody really wants to be a high value woman, she first has to read Feminine Ancient Blessings

[@Stewdawg4]

No. She first has to read the Bible. A truly high value woman is a godly woman.

[@HomeEngineer-wm5fg]

My Lord......never ask a woman relationship advice. Especially if she is pulling out taro cards.

[@Mauriciovargasjr]

The Bible will teach you…. Feminine Ancient Blessings just new age jargon

[@martynobs6970]

$500 says Courtney would have nothing to do with a man who made an average income

[@dang75790]

Ofc. She would never look at a regular dude.

[@krumplethemal8831]

Oh I wonder why she didn't heart your comment, it's a great fact..

[@g_rr_tt]

'value' is relative; relative to everyone in the immediate surroundings; always has been. The problem is the 'value' range has been broadened unnaturally by social media and hook-up apps, which leaves normally high 'value' guys looking like average nobodies.

[@edheldude]

Value is both subjective and objective. Does the person offer what you personally want, and what your biology wants. For ladies, it's also very social - is he preselected by other women, and like you said, how is he in comparison to other men. With social media it might be ALL MEN.

[@WoodnetRonnie]

Watching this mesmerizing video dredges up painful memories of the recent dissolution of my 4 year relationship. The departure of my beloved, the one I adore deeply, has left me in a perpetual state of longing. Despite my tireless attempts at reconciliation, I find myself mired in frustration, unable to shake the persistent thoughts of her. Despite my efforts to move forward, I'm compelled to share my inner turmoil and the overwhelming sense of missing her here.

[@Roselinekendris]

Letting go of someone you love deeply presents a formidable challenge. I faced a comparable ordeal when my 6 year relationship ended. Refusing to succumb to despair, I relentlessly pursued avenues to reconcile with him. Ultimately, I sought solace and guidance from a spiritual counselor, whose intervention proved instrumental in restoring our connection.

[@WoodnetRonnie]

Remarkable! How did you discover a spiritual counselor, and what's the procedure for me to get in contact with her?

[@Roselinekendris]

Meet Suzanne Ann Walters, a renowned spiritual counselor acclaimed for her talent in bringing back ex-partners.

[@WoodnetRonnie]

Many thanks for providing this valuable information; I've just conducted an online search for her.

[@Synkotic90]

You should move on. Her value to you is now negative and your attachment to her is causing you pain and sorrow. Cut her off from your heart. There are millions of women out there desperate for a man to love them like you love your ex, but instead you give it to the person who doesn't want it? Value yourself more. There's nothing your ex gave you that you won't find in other women.

[@sanitary103]

Congratulations on 800K subscribers! Closing in on the gold play button!

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you so so much! 🥺

[@genshinsage]

​@@CourtneyRyanYour content has been amazing and you are very respectful and reasonable. Thank you Courtney! This is a geniune compliment because I dont simp and I hate simps.

[@opticracer3927]

​@@CourtneyRyan Lol why the sad emoji thingy? You're doing amazing Amiga! And very important work. Proud of you.

[@CourtneyRyan]

@@opticracer3927 lol it’s my thankful face emoji! 🥹 thank you!

[@djskunja]

Congrats 800k🎉

[@SinguSoon]

Since the question is always "what does this person bring to the table', it means all relationships are simply transactional, and 'romantic love' of someone for just who they are, is an illusion and a self-deception. If you can get by that fact, you can enter into a relationship with your eyes wide open to find deeper connection with that partner, choose to stay a single 'playa' but never get serious, or just stay out of relationships and work on your own goals and peace of mind. If you invest your time, energy, and resources in someone else, they can dump it all on an emotional whim, and all of that investment is gone, but if you invest all of that time, energy, and resources into yourself, it stays with you forever.

[@eazymethod01]

Be with who loves you and you love back. I know that's easier said than done, but this is where you'll have the best result.

[@-KorruptionOfLight-]

I'm so glad this channel exists. It means I don't need to sign up to Tiktok

[@dmitrimikrioukov5935]

I agree. There were very few girls who I asked out in my entire life. 3, actually. And they all were my friends first. I can't be attracted to a woman who I know little about.

[@AutoBodyEverything]

Wow intro, I highly respect that girl’s speech. What you’re not changing, you’re choosing.

[@computerenthusiast402]

Steve Jobs said “Good Peoples want to work with the Best. Working with the Best Makes you Better. Do your Best in Everything you do and Don’t settle for anything less”. “Accept only the finest”. “Live your life like its your Last day because SUM Day you will be Right”

[@Nobarkus]

So this tic toker says "A high value man can watch you for months even a year". What?! How would a guy do that unless they have the same friends or are coworkers?

[@stevenwallace773]

A lot of women don't understand this about men, or me at least. Unless I'm at a party type scenario (which I haven't been in years), any woman I'm approaching I'm already reasonably confident that I would date her. Of course she may not be interested, or she may take herself out of the running by revealing some difficult facts about herself that I was unaware of, but that's basically it.

[@edheldude]

They do understand men are s"xually attracted to them, but they just play around or feign ignorance.

[@robertcalkjr.8325]

Thanks, Courtney. I knew my wife was wife material when I met her. And the more that I talked to her and dated her, the more that I knew she was. Turned out, years before we started dating, I would play with her very long hair in math class. Of course, I always asked her first if I could play with her hair.

[@lordpalandus11]

High value is both = have standards, integrity, values, husband material, but also makes a lot of money. There is lots of dirt poor men out there that have standards, integrity, values, and are husband material, that get passed up constantly, because they don't make enough money. Many people end up homeless have great values, just didn't have the ability to make money. ie War veterans with PTSD so extreme they can't hold down a job, but are the most honorable, just, and integrity you'll find, but they have nobody. So you need the money along with the rest to be truly high value. Money will get you to being reasonably high value for a lot of women, but pair that with the values and integrity and you are a 9/10 / 10 guy.

[@stever2583]

Silliness... First, Military man has Zero to do with Personal Integrity! High standards... meaning what? Your saw something in a book? Values? I've seen Military men act as Conmen for Whores, I've seen Military men give their last $5 to a homeless person. High Value Man at best and in very rare circumstances means right now - at this moment! Period. Just Like the Military Men.

[@YT512llc]

I would not want to be with a non-Christian woman even if she owned the whole world, but that is just me. Your soul is priceless in God's sight!

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

Great video, A month ago, my five-year relationship came to an end. I really can't stop thinking about the love of my life, who made the decision to leave me. I've done everything in my power to win him back, but it's all in vain, and I can't imagine my life with anyone else. I genuinely miss him and just can't stop thinking about him, even though I've tried my hardest to stop thinking about him. I'm not sure why I'm saying this here.

[@Mia1827]

It's hard to say goodbye to someone you love; I experienced this when my 12-year relationship ended. However, I couldn't just let him go; instead, I tried everything to win him back. Eventually, I turned to a spiritual counsellor for assistance, and he was able to help me win him back.

[@Nancy2551-g6i]

Interesting! How did you locate a spiritual counsellor, and how can I get in touch with him most effectively?

[@Mia1827]

His name is Father Obah Eze, and he is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@Mia1827]

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[@Nancy2551-g6i]

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[@bogdanb32]

Great points at the end of the video! "Are you the type of person that the person you want to be with, would want to be with too?" "You have to hold yourself to the same standards that you hold the significant other to" "The person that you chose to be with is a direct reflection of your emotional development"

[@highlanderknight]

The thing is Courtney, is that by your definition you actually have to get to know the man to discover those things. And that is great! BUT you still need some reason to be attracted in the first place and for some women, money status height etc are it. Those high value men by your definition rarely get a chance unless they are like a friend of a friend that you get to know over time (an actual high value man that is your friend is most likely in your friend zone so doesn't count).

[@marcopolo2028]

As a guy who has a lot going for himself who agrees with the first woman, the reason why I'd watch which kind of guy a woman selects is because it just tells you most of what you need to know. If all her exes were drug dealers of f# boys then most likely she does not like u if you're not those things. There's a high likelihood that you'll end used for stability which does guys often cannot provide, get cheated, ect. And what you are attracted to is also a reflection of who you are as a person. So if that's what someone likes even if its not obvious in their presentation, deep down this women has the same values as the men she entertains or she is accepting of them. So it's less about thinking that the woman is bad at choosing or has low self esteem. It's more so how the people you date are a reflection of yourself and your personal values.

[@atlantishorizon]

On point. Normally husband material doesn’t go with money.

[@Young_Metro]

What is you talking about a man who got his mind right and is super successful is high value. Men like that are in high demand

[@simoncarnal3403]

I’m from both LA and Las Vegas. I have plenty of experience with women especially during my university years. I’ve been separated for a year now after a 12 year common law marriage. Seems to me that women currently value their abundance of options more so than dating one high value man. Even when dating a perceived high value individual, they still want to have other options. This is what I see from my female colleagues and coworkers. All of them college educated. I’m in the educational field and I come across teachers, counselors and administrators. All believe they are high value or at least well above average. Mostly all of them would not trade their abundance for one high value man unless he is completely unaware of her relations and has no intuition nor common sense other than to generate a high value income. Women are doing this to themselves, squandering high value for abundance.

[@em77775]

Well you didn't marry her, so she could leave at any time. If a woman looks at other options it's because she hasn't met the one yet, just like men do.

[@simoncarnal3403]

@@em77775 I separated myself from her. She is not exploring options but she has my support to move on. I want her to be happy so we can both move on and raise our daughter with our new circumstances. I don’t hold anybody back, I had many open relationships while at university. If women want to be free and single, by all means, more power to all of you. If women want to settle down with one high value male, then that individual has to strive for that high value man. I haven’t met a high value male that allows the woman he’s dating to keep guy “friends” to hang out with. Especially if they are “bad boys” or rather an “F-boy” If women want to experience everything “a man” can experience from being single, powerful, wealthy, beautiful then do it til your hearts content and stop complaining about the circumstances that you set for yourself. If you want a high value partner you must be high value yourself, if you’re willing to share the high value, are either of you truly high value while sharing? Seems to me like individuals want their cake and eat it too.

[@georgiosiosifidis5999]

Being selective... having the luxury of selecting... being considered high value... this is all a world unkown to me.

[@CatGamer-wc2ij]

Since there is confusion on a not-confusing issue, here it goes. Self discipline (Also includes fitness. No high value man is 400 pounds.) Great social skills / respect of others Financial That's it.

[@philsmeeton]

Thanks Courtney, very thought provoking, I like your hypothesis that the choice of who to be with is the most important decision in your life, I think there are many other important decisions you have to make in your life too. Thanks for the great videos, hope 2024 has been awesome for you.

[@underweightHater]

if "high value" means anything, its just a man in high demand according to the market, not to YOU necessarily. Because you'll have to compete to keep him, he's busy, and has options. some people want a million dollar supercar, to others its an overpriced pain in the ass.

[@jakesully007]

Agreed. A lot of people try to give arbitrary definitions to “high value man” when in reality it’s just what you said. It’s the same reason we can define what high and low paying jobs are. It depends on the market.

[@spinnetti]

Pretty girls are the million dollar supercar... In many cases nothing but a boat anchor after a few miles and the maintenance goes up every year while the enjoyment goes down and you "sell" at a big loss.

[@Cateater123]

Exactly he won't be waiting on a girl for even a month and the one in the video said years 😂😂

[@Clint_the_Audio-Photo_Guy]

If there was a female version of me out there, I'd absolutely want to date with her. I've never been treated like a princess before, haha. I just want a woman who shows interest in me back, who wants to contribute and invest in US, just like I do. What I don't want is a woman who sees me as a meal ticket, who just wants to get nice dinners out for free, and then have to run immediately afterwards because they're SO busy, and they've got Sooo much to do. I just spent a year, talking to a woman, texting nightly, and taking her out to dinner when she'd let me, buying her gifts, I even spent $3000 on the world's best portrait lens and a new beauty dish, just because she asked me to take pictures of her (I'm also a photographer), then after ghosting me to go to a singles Halloween party, and not responding until a week later when it was time for me to come help with her condo remodel, I learned that she had no interest in me other than what she could get out of me. She was my dream girl. Dang, I feel like a fool. If she saw me as no more than a friend, then why didn't she ever reach for her wallet when the check came? Hmm.

[@ilefthemfree2jizz]

Well put vetting. I would see what type of guys this girl dates/entertains/is attracted to, before approaching. Since as you mentioned in the past its very easy to lie with your words it's hard to lie with your actions. If a girl consistently only dates guys that are the opposite of me, It makes me hesitate to think that pursuing a relationship with that girl would work out

[@V1rginslayer]

1:15 she deserves a raise for that statement, thank you!

[@theguynextdoor4978]

A lot of these chads can be low value. He may be tall, and good looking. But lacking in so many other aspects. A not so tall, average looking guy can be possess a lot of great values that she is better off with long term. Personally i hate the term high value. A person either has Good values, or not good values.

[@anthonymartin9672]

I have always been accused of moving too slow. I also have a peaceful life because I don't roll around with every woman that comes along. It is impossible to see how a woman is by a chance encounter.

[@TheDoctor398]

So true. Guys are called picky but really, it's just looking for the right person at the right time.

[@Swearengen1980]

But let's be honest, at this current point in time, modern feminism has made it so the women are far pickier than guys. Being outnumbered on dating apps 100 to 1 easy, the 4s think they're 8s out of sheer volume.

[@TheDoctor398]

@@Swearengen1980 That's why dating apps suck. If you're a guy looking for a woman grow some balls and ask. Most women will appreciate even an average looking guy if they show they have the confidence. The ones that act crazy will probably ruin your mourning, but you can get over it if you do it enough like I have.

[@DDD11239]

​@@TheDoctor398 True. I get neutral-expession stares, but women still don't approach me. I'll wait.

[@hassanalzaher3893]

Isn't that the very definition of being picky? And Isn't being picky a right, or even a duty in any half decent guy?

[@Swearengen1980]

@@TheDoctor398 Agree. Most of these guys will repeat what they read online like it's a personal experience, but it's a simple lie that most women freak out and act offended, insult them, or act like you're harassing them if you approach them. That is not the real world. Those crazy ones are the minority.

[@paullentz1972]

Here's how women have defined (by their preferences) what defines a High Value Man: 1. at least 6 feet tall...2. has broad shoulders...3. has a head full of hair...4. has a great smile...5. has a strong, pronounced chin...6. has amazing/striking eyes. In addition, he has to be...1. wealthy (has a net worth in the millions, while netting millions in income yearly)......2. have charisma....3. have the gift of gab (great conversation)....4. be funny. Here is the type of woman that High Value Men are seeking: 1. is between 18-24 years of age...2. is a 10 beauty-wise (a legit 10...not how women all think that they are all "10's")...3. is a 10 physically (same as #2)....4. is fertile....5. has a low body count (3 or under)...6. isnt argumentative...7. compliant...8. wants to be a stay-at-home wife/mother. 9. faithful. Most women rate 80% of men as being 'below a 5' (on a scale of 1-10)...while rating the top 20% as being 'above an 8'. Still, most women only find 4.5% of men to be sexually appealing. 80% of women are chasing after 4.5% of men. However, not all of those Chads/Tyrones hit the economic checkmarks. Simply put, there simply arent enough High Value Men to go around for all the women out there who crave like crack being wifed up by one.

[@SweepTheLeg2023]

😂😂 *We found out today that my Grandfather is addicted to Viagra.* Nobody is taking it harder than Grandma.

[@SweepTheLeg2023]

@@Laphonzae 😂

[@nafnaf0]

This post is GOLD. This is on the re-watch list

[@campbellpaterson5003]

Congratulations on 800k subs Courtney! You absolutely deserve that and more!

[@bb5op585]

First thing to discuss on a date is your core values and whether they align or not. If they do not align, it will never work out.

[@VideoGameRoom32]

Congratulations on your 800k subscribers. We appreciate your hard work on your videos

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you so much 🥹

[@popofilipo7114]

A high value man is a hard working man that has plans and goals purpose in life spending he's spare time helping others like friends and family, that's a high value man. Is not about how much money in your account is about what you have done in life setting good examples, teaching and sharing. Be a humble servant helping your love once and the needy. Be a giving person and don't hold tight on your money. When you died people won't remember you for how much money in your account people remembers you for what you've done for them.

[@BALHAM69]

Short and sweet today.😮 Nice watch, thank you. Well done on 800000 (eight hundred thousand) subscribers do far. 1:44 advice from Courtney. 3:39 nice words. Q and A Yt in near future too!

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you so much my friend 💗 I always appreciate your kind comments

[@BALHAM69]

@@CourtneyRyan you’re welcome.

[@BALHAM69]

@@CourtneyRyan so far * Autocorrect

[@salpairadice]

I think phrase " high value" has the most pracctical meaning when a person applies it to someone they are dating. You notice that this person is just self aware and they know what they are doing and they put out signals through their behavior that makes you stop and consider who they are. My wife , after we dated about a yea rand a half she just started teaching sunday school at my grandparents church. She lived in another town but drove over there to do that. And I was like " whoa. this girl is on another level." It wasn;t a big deal, except that I couldn;t help but notice that. And that message was pretty clear.

[@stever2583]

The problem is why did she not do that before... Just an actor in a role ... High Value is a delusion!

[@Jacobarch1981]

It goes beyond what both you and the influencer stated. Men, don't take months or years watching from afar. They make a quick educated decision and move on, they don't waste months waiting to see if a woman fits their needs. A simplified version is a man looks for a woman who fits his lifestyle. Whether he wants a working woman or a homemaker is irrelevant, if that woman doesn't fit his criteria he will move on and move on quickly. Boys & Girls stick around thinking they can change their partner. It took me about 35 years to figure that one out.

[@plasmagunwh40k91]

I agree with you to an extent, but some women act very well, and hide their flaws , so it does require some watching

[@developerdeveloper67]

It's not THE most important, the most important is your work, your vocation, your calling. But it maybe the second most important. Courtney looks a bit like my wife, but my wife is blonde. I would consider myself high value, I'm handsome, I'm 6'1, I'm very ambitious, not financially but with the quality and scale of my work. The finance however is a natural consequence of success. What I would say is that: if a girl has dated any man at all, regardless if it is a "bozo" or not, she is not good enough. You want to marry a virgin woman, or meet her when she is a virgin. That is how I met my wife, and frankly I wouldn't settle down for less than that.

[@stayhappylittlemermaid]

New weel, new start, new focus, new blessings, new intentions, new opportunities.

[@deadsoulrob]

i am a low value man, i dont have a lot of money, i work at an animal sanctuary which i love as i love animals and helping them but i am pretty dirty after and i have no friends, im shy and timid and i live a solitary life trying to help my family and animals. I know ill never be high value and i will never be attractive but i am happy with that, men and women should never think they are low value just because they dont have much or may not be attractive, being a good person is what truly makes you high value

[@brianthesnail3815]

If I never again hear the term 'high value' and 'what do you bring to the table?' it will be too soon. By the way, a man doesn't sit and evaluate a woman for a year. If he does, then he is more likely a player who has a string of options he is playing along. Men who are honest about their intentions decide quite quickly. Probably far more quickly than women. Think about it. We all deal with people and frequently new people in our lives at work, in business and social life. We don't spend years figuring people out. We all evaluate people - some people say we form initial opinions in 30 seconds. Sure, we all make mistakes, but we don't spend years figuring out people we trust and like.

[@Dan-Black]

4:56 - Yes, a lot of people seem to think that they deserve better than they're behaving themselves. I think part of it is they delude themselves into thinking they are the person they dream of being, not the person they actually are in their actions and behavior. So another problem that I think is related is that many people think they can be a bad or immoral person "for now", and they'll suddenly choose to be better person when they find "the one". But not only should "the one" not be attracted to you if you're making poor decisions, but even if they did, the vast majority of people would _not_ improve after that happened, or at least not by much or for very long. That's because you _are_ the person you are now. It's not a temporary thing where you flip a switch and become better; you're forming habits and ways of interacting with people and handling life. It takes time and conscious work to choose to be a better person. Typically, the people with the "I'll change later" attitude are too lazy to do things right, so when it comes time that they _need_ to "be better", they're going to find out it's hard, slip back into their regular habits, and give up easily. It doesn't work. Choose to be that better person _now_ and every day. It's the only way that truly works. You are your actions, and you will be who you practice to be every day.

[@Jotaro5181]

Congrats on 800k! You are definitely gonna hit 100 soon.🎉😀

[@jacobmoney]

You mean a million. :)

[@jmj7543]

0:15 This first one is exactly what happened to me. I'm a person who very rarely has any type of crush on a girl and even when I do have a crush every other woman becomes "undateable" because I have full tunnel vision on this one girl. Over two years ago, I met a girl like this, and I didn't even get a crush because I fell in love HARD. The first couple of months I just watched from afar and every time I heard something that screamed red flag I ignored it because I was blinded by love. Then, after seeing the red flag behaviour with my own eyes (giving it easy to other men), a switch turned inside me, and I lost all feelings for this girl. At the same time, it hurt like heartbreak because I had spent almost a whole year watching from the sideline and being careful. During this year, multiple very attractive women tried to get me, but of course, I rejected them because I had full tunnel vision on this one girl. After I lost all my feelings this girl started to flirt with me a lot and the table had turned and she became as obsessed with me as I was with her. Seemed like she knew everything because she started to be very quiet around me which was surprising because she is very extroverted and loud. I was very cold for her and I stopped looking at her the last time I saw her at a bar she wanted to hook up with me which I indirectly said no to.

[@spinnetti]

Sounds like "all or nothing" thinking. Therapy would be helpful so you don't end up in toxic situations.

[@SweepTheLeg2023]

😟 *My wife was incredibly mad when she found out I have been visiting prostitutes for sex* I said “Well you can hardly blame me, it’s not like I was getting any from you!” She yelled, “But I didn’t know you were willing to pay for it!”

[@genshinsage]

Sometimes wives started acting like prostitutes.

[@jonaslafleur2429]

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@midnightmvck4368]

Value can be defined by Price or Principle. Many Women use the former and many Men the latter.

[@Yezebnesh_Maharat]

Hey, Courtney and everyone. Congrats for 800K subs.

[@CourtneyRyan]

Thank you so much 🥹

[@FurtherInvest]

As a 26 YO man who owns and manages his own business, has a full time career, goes to the gym 4 days a week, has multiple hobbies, and spends time with friends/family, there isn’t much time to dedicate towards in my life. I wouldn’t consider myself high value, because I think there is still a lot of progress to be made in my life. However, in order for me to seriously entertain a long term romantic relationship, there is a lot of forethought and pre screening before even considering dating. How is the person going to help me get what I want out of life, and how am I going to help them get what they want out of life? Do those goals and desires align? Is there physical attraction? Are our personalities and values aligned? I largely agree with what the woman said in the TikTok, what is the point in consistently investing time/energy/money/emotions into someone when you can determine with pretty high accuracy if someone would be a good long term fit for you or not without doing so.

[@andersnielsen6044]

Finally a video from you - that I agree with all the way thru'. Lets just hope that at least a few of your viewers actually let it sink in ;)

[@derwoodhamburger]

"High value" is really just an inside job. It's self respect and having a good relationship to yourself before anyone else. A man who truely knows himself. So yes, in this modern era, a high value man (a man who respects himself) will be quick to get the ick with a woman who is either not interested, has a bad attitude or plays manipulative childish games

[@edheldude]

For me it's all about showing low character traits and behavior. I take my time observing, and the ladies play themselves out of the game in the first 100 meters of the race.

[@EricTheINTP]

She's right on. I will watch for months to observe their character, how they treat older people, how they treat people--basically how they act when they don't know anyone is watching because that's the most honest they will behave. I decided to not do this before pursuing a relationship once and it was the biggest mistake in my relational life.

[@hugevagiine]

How exactly are you doing this? going to the same places as them?

[@EricTheINTP]

@@hugevagiine Many times they are people who are in the same social groups. So I don't need to go too much out of my way to observe them (school, church, social gatherings). There's also common places, like coffee shops, they and mutual friends go to. Also, watching what they post on social media helps paint a picture of who they are. Then, from time to time, I'd spark a conversation with them. If it is someone who is completely out of my normal social group, I would be more inclined to take initiative and have conversation earlier on and see if there is a connection.

[@MEDIEVALMXNE]

High value humans are humans who are extremely attractive and healthy and who have good genetics

[@BruceJC75]

I’ve only dated emotionally unavailable women. After this last break up I can finally see the pattern…

[@sportscinematicuniverse]

I always preach that to people. That’s the question no one asks. Everyone is always looking for what the partner can do for them but not about trying to be what that partner wants.

[@walking.phoenix]

YES! Are you becoming the type of person that the person you're looking for, is looking for? Great perspecitve.

[@nykia31]

Courtney's facial expressions say everything 🤣

[@SkandalRadar]

There is no such thing as "high value" or "low value" in people. These are fictitious, made-up subjective criteria. In fact, there is a lid for every pot. And that is also the case with people.

[@johndamascus6039]

No, one shouldn't look at it in some metaphysical way. What the value people are saying are, and pay careful attention: For MEN: youth and beauty. For WOMEN: resources and status, or competence. It's a biological reality that ALL MEN find 20 year old women the most attractive. It's a biological reality that all women find tall men and men with resources, most attractive. Complain all you want, but these are realities.

[@maximushung]

you attract what you are. I'm in my mid-50s now but had 2 beautiful girls (one a 9 and another a near-perfect 10) chase me because they wanted to marry me both for my values and the lifestyle I could provide. i loved both of them because our values were consistent. they didn't drink and party. both made tremendous efforts to show me they would be terrific homemakers (cooking, cleaning, etc.) the near-perfect 10 even won a beauty pageant in her country and became a mini-celebrity. i won't elaborate on myself but I was in the top 1% (education, income, looks) when I was younger

[@snaakie]

What you say at 5:40 is so true. My first relationship was a mess, because I was a mess and she was a mess. Now I am dating a girl who is way more grown up, as am I.

[@MrLove-666]

I adore your definition of a high-value man, on point!

[@trork489]

I'm hoping there a woman like Courtney ryan out there for me. Ive never met any woman that is conscious of ethical behavior.

[@jeremym.4294]

Yep!! What she said is 100% accurate!

[@AGuiragozian]

I love this clip Courtney, in today's quick world of gratification this is needed. I hope one day we all find the person of our same moral standards and values. I also believe more than ever people are in search of this.

[@will1122]

Being seen as a high value man doesn’t require having a lot of money but it definitely makes it harder to be seen of value if you don’t have money, where you’d need to be spectacular at everything else. These you need to be a millionaire but if you make 45k a year it’s gonna be tough.

[@jokerpilled2535]

I never understood why some people pull the trigger on asking someone out within like 1 or 2 weeks after meeting someone. I’d rather get to know someone for a long time before deciding whether asking them out would be worth the risk. Best case scenario, you date someone who’s compatible with you. Worst case, you avoid getting humiliated in case they reject or dump you.

[@Coppolious]

You're genius, I can sell that 😊

[@highlanderknight]

That can work, but at the same time the woman you are getting to know before asking you out ends up dating someone else. So damned if you do, damned if you don't.

[@jokerpilled2535]

@@highlanderknight that’s a good point, i guess it depends on the situation. When I notice a girl has too much male attention, I just don’t even bother unless I know I can beat the competition.

[@britishsouth]

WOW! That is so right! I always made the decision whether or not to approach a woman based on the guys she surrounded herself with. Does that make me high value? I don’t know…. It just seems like common sense.

[@emn666]

Congrats for 800 000 subs 🎉🎉

[@bronkonovak6555]

First you have to be a high value Woman before you consider choosing a high value Man, men are the price not the other way around, but women want you to believe its the other way around, stay true to yourself gents and keep grinding, women come and go but your sanity and mental health are of utmost importance here, choose wisely..

[@inditiva6203]

That first clip hit the nail in the coffin with precision accuracy

[@dvduadotcom]

Short, sweet, and to the point. Good video.

[@jonathangriffin8060]

Unfortunately, we can thank social media perpetuating the "high value" labels as far as dating is concerned. Yes, men in general actually have standards, boundaries and preferences and we will not lower our self worth, time and energy and expect the same thing in return. Men in general, we are okay with what we have and don't want to waste our time with anyone who doesn't bring value to our lives.

[@edheldude]

Men in general have no standards and will pick most anything. Most men have unhealed mother wound, and will lead their lives submitting to the feminine frame and whims, or being afraid of being in true polarity with the feminine. This channel is the perfect example. It's all about submitting to the feminine frame but very softly expressed.

[@stever2583]

@@edheldude Best not do too much thinking my friend... You'll wrap yourself up in an lifestyle you can ill afford to live.

[@jonathangriffin8060]

@@edheldude Men in general do have standards and men in general do know what they want, but those men are not taken seriously and when that happens, they just do their own thing and live their lives single and a majority of them live a good life without being linked to a female. And seeing what is out there and what's on dating apps nowadays, it's no surprise that men choose to be single.

[@edheldude]

@@jonathangriffin8060 It's not a choice if that's the natural consequence of being a man. You can cope all you want but it's up to each individual to solve their reproductive problem now that the marriage culture has been removed. "A good life" is still a biological deadend because you fail the main quest.

[@robbo3132]

It sounded like a guy told her that he wasnt going to commit to her, but that as part of a "high value man vetting process", he was going to put her to the test for a year, and after that she might have a chance