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[@nancyrhyne9224]

Finally..permission to stay up all night. I haven't done that since yesterday.

[@Tckskater411]

LOL

[@elisabethwyndaele1380]

You are always free to choose!

[@vivienlee610]

It's funny how we can procrastinate about getting a good sleep routine but then tell ourselves to stay up all night makes us want to go to bed...

[@starlightpancake]

We become what we repeat ❤

[@GuntherSnaps]

🎯 Key Takeaways for quick navigation: 00:27 🌙 Resisting anxiety can make it worse, as what you resist persists. 01:42 🔁 Negative feedback loops can perpetuate stress and anxiety, creating a cycle of symptoms. 03:37 🧘 Interrupt negative patterns by becoming aware of triggers, then replace them with a new, calm response. 05:07 🔄 To change your brain's response, identify how you want to feel, choose a new response, and practice it to rewire your brain. 06:58 🧠 Consistent practice over 10 days can help establish a new default state, reducing anxiety and stress. Made with HARPA AI ```

[@lucylight176]

Thank you !!!💥

[@martinv.-]

thanks! :) I would replace the word "can" for "will" in the two first points

[@tattvavidya]

Thank you for that quick navigation

[@devin4796]

A lot of times I wake up, think of work, immediately my mood changes. Things seem to matter less and it feels like the thought zaps the good from the day and then I end up feeling distracted for a lot of the day. Im going to try a similar excersie of taking a few deep breaths and focusing on my physical body for a moment prior to getting out bed and giving myself permission to enjoy the time i have before clocking in instead of letting my thoughts about work affect my time even not at work. Thanks for sharing! Its encouraging to know you're trying these things and that they are helping you!

[@bridgettemedeiros5234]

Have you tried any brain retraining programs?

[@devin4796]

@@bridgettemedeiros5234 Hi! I've actually gone through therapy for roughly 2 years which has reframed a lot of my thoughts and beliefs. I've also done a lot of work on my own. Unfortunately it's still something I struggle with. If you have any thoughts or have tried anything yourself, let me know. :)

[@cadeheinberg3047]

Read the book “The Panic Switch”

[@tnijoo5109]

I feel like there should always be a second example for more dysfunctional people. When the example involves checking emails daily and actually responding instead of thinking of needing to check email and then curling up in the fetal position instead, it’s not very relatable for people with more severe problems. It would be like giving an example about dealing with my anxiety and indecision over traveling on my yacht versus my private jet. Although, that example is actually more relatable because I can relate easily to being torn over two options. Can I relate to checking emails daily and even responding? No. Not at all.

[@80a470]

My thoughts exactly, he had me in the beginning but then it was like oh.. oh no, poor guy he is suffering from having too many emails 🙈 Especially when "putting a smile on" helped, you know it wasn't too serious to begin with.

[@tnijoo5109]

@@80a470 yes!!!! LOL. I felt the same. I’m so glad someone else relates to this. Thank you!

[@tobik2627]

@@rrxyzrrwhat a great response! Wanted to write the same but you described it perfectly

[@tnijoo5109]

⁠​⁠​⁠@@rrxyzrrnah. It’s not the same principles. Feels different. Like, if I have to read or respond to an email from my landlord I’ll probably ruin the whole day over it no matter what mental tricks I try. Maybe the youtuber will see my comment and include advice for more severely traumatized people in future videos on how to respond to email. It’s different when you’re in it. I know your trying to help, but your overall tone, things like asking, “what do you expect,” is hard. You’re trying to make points but the fact we’re here doesn’t prove anything you think it does. Complaining about the example and your comment HAS helped me though. So, thanks.

[@tnijoo5109]

@@rrxyzrr I guess I was being kind of a bitch, but these pep talks of yours. Come on. Just be cool. I don’t think anyone has ever benefited from being talked to like that. And anyways, telling someone they don’t get it isn’t self-sabotage. Speaking in analogies and platitudes is self-sabotage. Or wait, no- it’s the definition of insanity! Hahaha. Yeah, it is kind of fun to make those up. I see! I’ll have to try that more and write in comments to people with PTSD that only they can change themselves and shit like that. That must be a lot of fun for you. Neat!

[@Mama-Magwai]

Your sleep examples couldn’t be more perfect! That resonated with me and helped me better understand.

[@connie10000]

"It doesn't matter", I say to myself w/SMIRK on my face! Learned this from a movie re: letting go and accepting.

[@Shannon_Robbie]

I always say a line from a song: "It all amounts to nothing in the end."

[@stevec404]

Viewing this after watching several videos on 'Letting Go'...the best way forward to leave anxiety behind...it's becoming very clear to me. Thanks.

[@ranc1977]

Problem is that unsuccessful psychopaths narcissists use this information about "Letting go " in order to suppress their abuse and feeling of guilt and shame of harm that they inflict on others.

[@carolallison862]

Thank you. So helpful. 🇬🇧

[@SuperDpoole]

Thank you!!

[@aribella6913]

Thank you so much.

[@stellaancimer8505]

It is all depend how much sugar, cortisol, inflammation is in the body..we need to fix nutrition, gut healing..😊 and it is all depend in what kind of situation, circumstances person is..😊 I change the diet, keto is miracle😊

[@Truerealism747]

Nice to see more TMS videos

[@karenduey9675]

Good stuff! Thanks!

[@Typhoon792]

Well said. Thanks man.

[@terrigossett6575]

How did I not know this stuff?? 😂 You’re so helpful and explain yourself in a way that makes change easy and possible! Thanks for keeping it simple!😊

[@GodiscomingBhappy]

I just found this video. Came at the perfect time. thx. new subs.

[@brookemariemusic]

Amazing!

[@re_origin]

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[@melissaellzey7550]

Such amazing advice

[@re_origin]

Glad you have found this useful!

[@Billdelano]

Looks Great!

[@re_origin]

Thanks!

[@aracelim9991]

Just discovered your KZbin channel, right when I really needed. I have been doing CBT for 6-7 years and really haven’t gotten better but worse. I’m desperately hoping this will help because I really resonate with this is the state of my body

[@avamiller2325]

Same q😢

[@avamiller2325]

Here

[@janglestick]

sounds good, people say that one difference between successful and un- cbt is felt sense, bodily connection , in a way this video's work is a very good place to work with and learn that, and handling feeling good. ....also, related but perhaps secondarily, ...ive heard that before cbt (real cbt) youre supposed to do a lot of work to find your issues in various subtle ways over time first, and then sort of test them with a middle stage body therapy like that EMDR(?) ciccade eye left-right thing, was once common. Before you submit those issues to the real cbt process. regardless, many put cbt as their modality, but few actually do it or lead up to it properly.

[@htp1146]

Did it help?

[@David-eu1ms]

Sometimes it feels worse we're actually getting better.

[@suzanneshephard2743]

Super helpful! You are really good at conveying helpful information in an easy-to-understand way that makes sense. Thanks for this valuable input.

[@re_origin]

Thank you!

[@ranc1977]

Interpersonal strife with those close to us leads to rifts and resentments that produce symptoms of mental illness; these problems are, in fact, the logical consequence of troubled relationships. Glasser emphasizes that lasting psychological problems are usually caused by problems in our personal relationships (rather than signifying a biochemical abnormality in the brain), and distress can be remedied through repairing these relationships without recourse to psych drugs. WILLIAM GLASSER Controlling Habits: Blaming Criticizing Complaining Nagging Rewarding To Control Threatening Punishing William Glasser William Glasser "What's my Choice" Connecting Habits: Listening Supporting Encouraging Negotiating Respecting Accepting Trusting

[@anthrax565]

I usually delete the emails. They’re all from companies anyway. Not important. Now I’m learning to breath. Yes MECFS. House bound for two years now. I’m trying to lean brain tee-training ie neuroplasticity. Doing my best.🇦🇺

[@re_origin]

Well done! It's is great that you are working towards recovery. Keep going!

[@greggonzalez859]

You can do it.

[@bridgettemedeiros5234]

Have you tried any brain retraining programs?

[@bitofwizdomb7266]

The Buddha was ultimately right when all said and done 😉the intimate interplay of setting the wheels of cause and effect in motion underlies all of this. We are nothing but an accumulation of conditioning, patterns , and habits all created by the unrolling of cause and effect….much of which was put into play when you were just too young and didn’t have the cognitive faculties to process needs (comfort , soothing , trust in caretaker , security , responsiveness and emotional attunement from/to caretaker) as an infant . Once you understand that, you’re free to transform /reprogram yourself. Personal growth ..

[@tnijoo5109]

Hey! Someone who didn’t misquote Donald Hebb! 👏👏👏 good job! My faith is restored.

[@dirtyharry2534]

"He who quotes well, lives well." -Donald Hebb

[@tnijoo5109]

@@dirtyharry2534 😂😂😂 nice 👍

[@christinavelazquez8931]

Good video but KZbin my shorts are blacked out , not playing. My videos keep pausing !

[@julianbrown7976]

Great video as usual. But, self reinforcing systems are Positive feedback loops. Lots of people make this linguistic error.

[@re_origin]

You are correct!

[@Peter-mo3pr]

I'm wondering how one could apply this to something like mould/chemical sensitivity. For me strong scents cause blurred vision, brain fog and even twitches, I never used to be like this either. I don't know how I'd change a response to a small or scene though

[@nolamayer4101]

Thank you Ben, will certainly use these tips. How can I stop tuning into every little noise at night even though I wear ear plugs and become very anxious that I’m not sleeping? I’m aware I need to calm down which I can do but that doesn’t get rid of my constant tuning in to noises

[@vivienlee610]

It's the "what you resist persists" thing.. I'm very good at it! I read in a book once by someone who was bedridden for over 20 years.. "In acceptance lies peace"... and I do think that's true... If we can learn to accept things/symptoms/fears etc instead of fighting against them, which takes energy then we lighten the load so to speak, and free ourselves to heal. I havnt mastered this yet BTW, but know I will feel better when I do. Same for you too I hope.

[@BeeLZBeeb]

Can you elaborate when you say pushing away pain? How am I doing that?

[@AnaFB9696]

Hello , everyone. So.. i'm experiencing some health issues.. I've been at home almost one month no with a problem in my knee and this is causig me so much anxiety or i have this problem because of the anxiety. This is so crazy, because i dont't sleep well and my body is so high on cortisol that i think that all my health issues comes from that. I live alone and thats a problem. No one to talk to and keeps my mind so loud that i do get sick very often. I dont know what to do.

[@vivienlee610]

Try making your own little formula based on the info in this video... If you will I will because I'm a bit stuck too.

[@conniehinton2681]

How would I do this with sleep anxiety? I lay down & immediately by heart starts to race…I would appreciate any help

[@cardonadarlene4650]

Me to

[@re_origin]

We've actually done "rewire your brain for better sleep" workshops within our program. Sleep conditioning involves shifting your relationship with your sleeping area, and also overcoming the fear of not sleeping (which paradoxically contributes to the issue). There's a fair bit to get into here, so if you're interested, I highly recommend checking out our program where you'll also gain access to that recent sleep webinar. www.re-origin.com/program

[@gregcruse4647]

My chest gets red hot. Painfully so when im in chronic alarm. Its awful

[@DisneyVideos123x]

It's almost like our mind is designed to make things worse once they are bad. For most people it is designed to perpetuate an endless cycle of pain. You would think we would be designed the opposite of that, but we are not. When things get bad, we worry more, and that makes things worse, which makes us worry more. I think the human mind is just a bad design. What you are teaching probably works in some people, but it is not the natural way of the ego/mind. You have to basically be Buddha or some other spiritual master to overcome the awful destructive nature of the human mind without extreme effort. Knowing that my mind is not designed to make me joyful or peaceful but rather is designed for me to be neurotic actually helps me ignore my mind, so maybe that is good to come to that realization. Otherwise I will continue to believe that worrying all of the time serves some type of useful purpose, and I will continue to listen to something that is designed to make sure I am never happy.

[@zharahussain8004]

Youre so right! Wow that's insightful

[@eegleweege]

hard agree

[@Truerealism747]

But the subconscious makes the pain or tightness in the body?

[@lafloreacion]

I'm always on the edge and even tho I do this breathing exercises, I'm never on ease I just caaaant I'm tired :c

[@bridgettemedeiros5234]

Have you tried any brain retraining programs?

[@lafloreacion]

@@bridgettemedeiros5234 no, right now I'm drinking a lot of chamomile tea, this has helped me like nothing else. I'll look up for what you say. Thank you

[@dirtyharry2534]

The vagus nerve exercise videos are immediately relaxing and comforting. Give a try.

[@vivienlee610]

There's a lot of brain retraining prigrammes out there now, so I'd advise do your homework and find what suits you, although I've just discovered this channel and he's summed up the fundamentals in a short video, instead of hours if videos and tons of paperwork and a lot of money! Thank you!!

[@stevenkovler5133]

What about when you don’t even feel you can do your basic work tasks ??

[@tnijoo5109]

Right???!! I’m feeling the same. I was looking at doing one of his programs but if he’s constantly using examples like check and responding to email every day, I probably won’t finish.

[@bridgettemedeiros5234]

Have you tried any brain retraining programs?

[@LaurieNHoffman]

How can I apply this to the physical feeling that comes over me about 3 times an hour all day and night? (I don't sleep more than 3-4 hours) I am overcome by extreme anxiety and heat followed by intense chills and the cycle is ongoing. I don't know how to stop the loop. How do I consciously redirect my thoughts or reaction to this to break the cycle? Thanks in advance for any advice.

[@bridgettemedeiros5234]

Have you tried any brain retraining programs?

[@LifeRips]

You might need to get your vitamin d levels checked

[@user-kd3xt4kn7w]

So how do we deal with serious suicidal thoughts from this???? :(

[@cwebbwash3]

I try to create a new response to a stressor by letting my body go limp, making sure my breathing is slow and being really slow to do any movements. But I still feel lightheaded, chest pains, and just overall stressed deep inside as if my nerves are activating or my blood vessels are constricting in an imperceptible way. Am I doing this wrong? Amy I employing the techniques in the video in a correct way? Any tips are appreciated

[@bridgettemedeiros5234]

Have you tried any brain retraining programs?

[@Kinship1]

Who can afford those??

[@rialtagirl]

❤

[@Kinship1]

I wake up every day panicking, before ive even done anything. What are we supposed to do with that?

[@re_origin]

Ah yes, so many of our members experience this. Indeed, I did myself. This takes a bit of time and patience, but here's something that has helped so many. The night before, see yourself waking up and doing something slow and deliberate, e.g. getting out of bed slowly, taking a few deep conscious breaths, and gazing out the window. The next morning, as soon as you wake up, go physically go through the motions of what you saw yourself doing despite any feelings of anxiety that may arise. The key is to move through them, not resist them. In time, your brain and body will get the message that YOU are in control. And your anxiety may begin to come down on its own.

[@Kinship1]

@@re_origin thank you i will trt

[@elisabethwyndaele1380]

Why do I am so good to trigger . My husband likes that ….not normal I think . Why does hè like to trigger me . I cannot keep quiet!

[@cadeheinberg3047]

Its called Irony Processing

[@tnijoo5109]

It is?! I’ve never heard of that? What is it from?

[@idragonfly]

Really like your advise - am applying the one-deep-breath technique to some of my activities and find it quite helpful. However, I'm not sure what to do when things like back-to-back, intense headaches with hyperacusis flare up and pretty much take over my ability to think straight. I try not to react or focus on them too much; however, I find that the one-deep-breath technique falls short in helping me to retrain my limbic system in this case - and thus, they have become a trigger for anxiety and fixation. Do have any suggestions as to how to retrain severe symptoms as they occur?

[@re_origin]

Hey, that's great to hear that you're putting the one-deep-breath technique into effect! What you described is actually a very common challenge and question that comes up re: limbic system retraining. Within our community, our coaches and I, regularly answer common questions from our members such as this one. Here's a sneak peak and my response to this common issue: kzbin.info/www/bejne/p5TZd55vhbSebLc - Hope this helps.

[@jidebalogun5302]

Taking a deep breath and changing your posture doesnt seem to work when you are dealing with physical symptoms of months long hyperstimulation anxiety

[@re_origin]

Ah yes, but remember - it isn’t what we do once that makes the difference, it’s what we practice repeatedly that eventually makes the change.

[@jidebalogun5302]

Thank you. I'll remember that

[@naturelover1284]

you can be calm and more intelligent than who is in charge of you... or the people asking for required paperwork at an apt, or...? I am generally calm, too calm. These aggressive dunder heads cannot interpret paper work correctly....anxiety is tip toeing around it when you know they haven't and won't and do not learn just insist in order to move on

[@cody3504]

Am I resisting my anxiety by going to work everyday or by staying home? I feel less anxious when I’m home but I need money

[@bridgettemedeiros5234]

Have you tried any brain retraining programs?

[@shanthanaidoo6605]

Me too

[@Kinship1]

​@@bridgettemedeiros5234stop asking everyone that it's so annoying and invalidating. We're not all rich!

[@carlasienna8683]

Does this work for complex PTSD??

[@bridgettemedeiros5234]

Have you tried any brain retraining programs?

[@carlasienna8683]

@@bridgettemedeiros5234 li What did you have in mind?

[@robertwood9984]

Your volume is so low on thsi one i csnt hear

[@bonniedavis9076]

Identity interrupt practice & repeat.

[@WordsBloom]

Seriously? Checking emails was the example you chose to go with? How about something that's actually debilitating like a person with emetophobia when they feel a twinge of nausea and that's all it takes to have a 5-alarm full-blown panic attack accompanied by extreme nausea that makes the person seriously want to un-alive themselves just to make it stop.

[@donnavorbach215]

Any training for a quick fix on insomnia????🥱I do not have anxiety...sleeping escapes me. Will only be asleep 2 hrs or less at a time. With gaps in between. Vexing.

[@re_origin]

Yes! In our program, we recently did a "rewire your brain for better sleep" workshop! this is something you can access for free if you become a member of the re-origin program: www.re-origin.com/program

[@donnavorbach215]

@@re_origin Thank you! Will look into it! Good Night!🌙