☘️ This Is Why You're STILL Dealing With Clutter (AKA How To Declutter Your ENTIRE Life)

[@edelinprogress]

I don't want to sound negative but everything will end up in landfill eventually. I think it's important to keep things in use and out of landfill for as long as possible. I support charity shops and Freecycle groups. This helps financially and with sustainability too. My daughter and I were recently flowergirl and bridesmaid. I've already donated the dresses. Hopefully, someone will be delighted to discover dresses that are still being sold. In the past, I would have waited years before decluttering them.

[@HowToGYST]

Yes, I keep this thought in mind when I'm out shopping. No matter what my intentions are, it will inevitably end up as trash.

[@TheMinimalistTherapist]

My local Facebook recycling group is SO great for avoiding trashing stuff. It's such a great way to directly match up with someone who wants something you no longer have use for. And it works in return. When our microwave gave up on me, someone on the recycling group offered me one they were getting rid of and I didn't need to buy new! Great🎉!

[@kathleensutton4117]

My dad painted a wall rainbow for me in my bedroom when I was 14. I am now 62!!!

[@TheMinimalistTherapist]

I've not heard *anyone* break these different forms of minimalism down like this before Laura. THANK YOU. This really helps me understand where my blocks are. A series with more on each please? ❤❤

[@breg9476]

yes, please

[@BarbaraDr2023]

Have you read Tracy's books from dclutter?

[@goodenoughgirl8102]

The place I had to start at was relational clutter. I guess it’s why I eventually wound up here. Learning all about minimalism. Extreme relational clutter (narcissism, abuse, toxic family) can wreck and stall you in all areas. That to me is number one along with my own mental work…which for sure are kind of intertwined Bcuz these folks can very much keep you mentally and emotionally spinning, spent and exhausted or even injured and broken and never getting anywhere. You have to consider just how much time or energy is wasted on having to stop and tend to injuries. Best to just remove them and not be further injured. Last thing anyone needs is death by a thousand little cuts. As far as temporal stuff, what I do is make “me time” a distinct mark on my proverbial calendar or schedule. I flip the script on “to do” and put myself first along with any bare bones “must” items. There are times also that I kind of intermingle my little must do things with “me” breaks in between. Bottom line is that nobody is going to be looking after you like that but you. If you don’t prioritize yourself (rest, nourishment, fun, self care etc) it isn’t likely to ever happen and then comes burnout and grueling monotony that never seems to end. So really fun time, mental break time etc is a thing I consider as important as daily feeding my animals etc. I don’t just try to squeeze “me” in when I can (like I used to). I mark “‘me” in like it’s a MUST daily. Plus if you really sit down and give it a good think, you’ll soon realize that anything you do for others will not benefit them at some point if you wind up sick or spent or crashing and burning. At that point you’ll see that taking good care of you is a very real necessity. I won’t be any good to anybody else if I’m wiped out or half dead from serving others. Plus truly the needs of people is never ending. We often can’t afford to base what we do for anyone on their needs. I now base it on my own capacity and limitations. One simple question really just is “Can I really afford this…energy and time wise or not if I say yes to it?” And so now it’s like I think always “no”…unless I can afford any “exceptions” instead of thinking always “yes” if possible. It’s not “selfish.” It’s self preservation. Honestly tho, private tell offs CAN be a good thing tho. I sometimes have to do that to be able to move on. I take it more like a deliberate act tho, like getting some closure and then I mentally burn it and drop it Bcuz once they finally get “told” I’m done with them. Lol. Some folks are impossible to say your piece with in real time so next best thing is just letting it rip privately Imo. Just don’t go back and pick it up again more than you really need to. Lol. The only litmus test with that really is rant until you feel satisfied. I think really it’s more or less a need to feel or see at least SOME kind of justice being done. I think it’s good actually. How we can stand up for ourselves in some way when we could not do that before and when nobody else would stand up for us or with us when we were unjustly hurt or wronged. And it’s really just a crying shame how some folks continually get away with murder just running around forever treating others like crap. Hurting them and doing damage. I don’t think it’s cool and I think if the only way they can be held accountable is in our own heads, then just go ahead and call them to the carpet there if you have to. Sometimes it’s the only justice we’ll ever get to see. And we need to have some sense of justice in our lives Imo. And truly imo it’s why surviving victims of violent crimes get to make impact statements. This imo is about the same thing, only the “court” is in our own heads and hearts. And if anyone wants to get biblical with it, there’s a good reason Jesus said, “If your brother offends you, REBUKE him.” I take that as a thing that is needed to be able to flush out things properly. “Forgiveness “ is the caboose and you have to know what exactly needs forgiving BEFORE you try to do it. And even if you do forgive, reconciliation with some folks is just not possible. Well ok. I think I wrote a book. But I def have learned a lot over the years when it comes to conflict, offense and abuse recovery.

[@EmilyEmilyEmily01]

I battle the need to keep items but I also keep working on minimizing/ decluttering for the simple fact that I have a terrible back. The more I have to move, rearrange, pull and push items the less likely to get done. It makes cleaning easier, takes less time away from other things as well.

[@HowToGYST]

Oh yes, it makes life in general so much easier. One of the first benefits I noticed was how much easier it was to get dressed in the morning.

[@sharonw4541]

I'm so happy I found this video before the new year!! Thank you - VERY helpful👍👍👍👍👍👍

[@lauriem2053]

Back in the 90s I was a bridesmaid in a wedding where my friend had the dresses made. I had to go to several fittings, the dress was expensive, and imo the ugliest dress I’d ever seen. I hated it so much, yet I kept it and hauled it around for several years. (I think it was at a time the mindset of mine was to hang on to things.) The lightbulb moment to donate was a freeing experience when I finally got rid of it. I loved when Declutter challenges and info started becoming more common into the mainstream because I’d always enjoyed organizing and decluttering on some level. Thanks for the video! I ruminate too and it’s so important not to let mental clutter bog you down.

[@miriam4235]

I'm finding myself re-cluttering a lot lately. Could you do a video on stopping that. Thanks ❤️

[@gwenj5419]

I do like to thrift and look for treasures. I just try to donate an equal number of items to thrift. Recently found some vintage Corelle,so I got rid of other dishes I didn't like as much.

[@juliajs1752]

My suggestion would be to try to find out why you are recluttering. Life turmoil? Fears? FOMO? Finding the cause can help stopping, or at least becoming more aware of what is going on. Good luck!

[@92wit]

A deep dive on digital minimalism, pretty please! 🙏 I'm already working on the others with self help books and therapy :) your videos are a great reminder on what's most important, thank you for all your hard work! ❤

[@ginaloschiavo7542]

I struggle with digital declutter. I unsubscribe as much as I can but it seems to multiply. I add folders but I don’t always go back and read the article, recipe, etc. My photos are all over the place. I would like to have everything decluttered and organized so I can find things easier. 😊

[@debbeaver]

Yes, I would also appreciate more info on how to declutter my digital life. I get frustrated even thinking about how any photos, emails, etc have just piled up. I really love your approach to minimalism. It’s very refreshing.

[@Marissathered]

The green carpet with the plants and rainbows 😍 so incredibly beautiful

[@HowToGYST]

Thank you! 😊

[@mariastathopoulos744]

Highly informative presentation. I would like to say that it is important to honour all feelings whether it is happiness or sorrow. It's OK to be sad when sad things happen, to be angry when there has been an injustice, to be frightened when there is a threat. The children's movie, Inside Out, is fantastic for the above reason. I think the pressure is to 'move on' quickly from a devastating event and that is what jeopardises mental and emotional health. On the other hand, the expectation to always be happy or find happiness is also unrealistic. Happiness comes in bursts. It is contentment that is longer lasting and where gratitude and appreciation are the threads.

[@lizm4557]

Yes! Ruminating is one of my time wasters too. Thanks for bringing it to my attention!

[@HowToGYST]

It consumes more of my mental energy than I'd like to admit!

[@bethwhite1033]

Completely relate to your openess about ruminating & being a highly sensitive person & toxic people in life. Its affecting most of my life! I have 6 children & so busy but I still can't get my brain to be in the present with them so suffer with mum guilt too & get addicted to shutting out my brain noise with you tube videos etc to try & stay sane. Really need to figure out how to deal with this better xx

[@ghg8634]

I have 3 kids (the youngest has autism, adhd and other good stuff) and i am in the same boat as you

[@myraaitken8954]

Definitely agree with those people saying a deep dive into these different aspects of minimalism you mentioned would be great! ❤ I've recently took my foot off the pedal. 😊

[@karendunlop3534]

This is such an excellent breakdown of all different facets of minimalism, Laura. Incredibly helpful and powerful!

[@suepumphrey1559]

I am older with health issues, and I need your channel. tysm!

[@kathleensutton4117]

Thank you for saying “In the big scheme of things, it doesn’t matter” or something like that!

[@donnab2810]

I am constantly finding myself in the scenarios world. It's quite annoying and leads to sleepless nights. I'm recognizing when I'm about to head that way and have been working very hard on trying to detour my thoughts in the more helpful/constructive direction. It is difficult. I'm trying to live more sustainably so would like to see a video about that please. Thanks!

[@lianeyoung3921]

Fabulous video, thank you. I didn't realize there were so many different types and would love to learn more about each one! The mindfulness portion really spoke to me. Take care! 🐞

[@HowToGYST]

Will work on those! 🙂

[@ericalewis1084]

I'm in the mindful area right now. It's put me in sad state... Working on it

[@HowToGYST]

Been there, friend. Hang in there. 💖

[@chrisludwig3610]

Omg! Love your Labyrinth door knockers! Great movie. ❤ Thank you for your content. I appreciate your thoughts. Yes, ruminating is my kryptonite. 😂 I hope you're feeling well. Best wishes to you and your family.

[@ΑΓΓΕΛΙΚΗΤΣΙΛΙΑ]

I appreciate if you make videos with details to every category Good morning from Greece

[@vivianhudacek1556]

Those 2 pictures on your thumbnail spoke volumes to me!

[@HowToGYST]

Guess which one's from my actual home. 😂

[@vivianhudacek1556]

@@HowToGYST 🤣🤣🤣

[@zsuzsannabak1530]

Truly appreciate this video. You schould talk more about emotional clutter... I would be happy to hear.

[@MrsJax304]

Yes I would love videos on deep diving into these 9 types of minimalism Thank you Laura. I enjoy your channel so much. Your daily story of the pond and bird sounds are such a delight to me

[@JasmineTamBeautyChannel]

I'm nearly bingo! I missed out "Digital!" No wonder i still fell clutter! lol Useful information thanks for making this video for us! Muak! 🥰

[@danaonaga1936]

Love your style/decor🤙

[@alexandrac.l3359]

Looking back, before I learned about minimalism, I already implemented the environmental and relational boxes of the bingo card!! Woot woot for me lol. Love this

[@katharineboyd2793]

Hoo boy; becoming aware of one’s thoughts and staying in the present is huge. I have lost count of the number of internal screaming matches I’ve had with people that never end up happening in real life. Identified a little too well with those imaginary scenarios based on the past…

[@klimtkahlo]

Subscribing just because of your beautiful accent!

[@HowToGYST]

😂 Thanks!

[@1012chart]

Thanks again for another great video... Yes the mindfulness issue is a life's work... But remember to pat yourself on the back when you manage to let things go! I actually learnt something interesting this evening from another yt-er... The cost benefit of actually saying something... or giving an opinion about a situation. I've never thought of it like that!

[@catheriner2615]

Very good content today Laura, It's definitely a great thought stimulator for myself and probably many others. Thank you! ❤

[@PhoebesWorldProductions]

*nods* this is good. Yes, I would like videos dedicated to the different ones.... Especially interested in the Sustainable, Mindfulness, and Temperal ones. I can relate to A LOT of what you were talking about in this video.

[@kariikosmos3005]

Definitely want the deep dive videos

[@HowToGYST]

Great! Would you like one on each of them or are there specific ones you'd like to see?

[@kariikosmos3005]

One for each feels best for my completionist brain, but I also feel like you've got a vast library of videos for decluttering ones environment, and as you said, the aesthetic one is kind of a free space. So, I'd love videos for the other 7 bingo squares 😊

[@cleitatreestrong8397]

Love your content so much! You always provide very valuable and so well structured input ❤❤! Digital and mental minimalism are very underrated topics, in my personal opinion. Sunny regards from Germany! 🌞

[@IrisYogini]

Wow! One of your best videos ever! Thank you so much! It cleared up a lot of my motivation - now I know how to focus.

[@melaniehoffman8512]

Excellent and very thoughtful video. Thank you!

[@HowToGYST]

Thanks so much! 🥰

[@margheritap.1187]

I recommend you read the book "Sustainable dish" by Diana Rodgers

[@allisonsmith1019]

Yes please give more info! Thank you!

[@micheleboschert175]

A very thought provoking video. Thank you.

[@cherylgonzales4146]

Thank you so much for this detailed video. Didn't realize there were different areas of minimalism and thought it was just about clearing out excess items. You gave a lot of information to think about and I will probably need to watch this again. In response to your question regarding if more detail could be useful, it might be helpful for separate videos on digital, temporal, financial and mindful minimalism. Thank you again for all your effort and hard work.

[@Ellie-Mae]

I love your channel. Thanks for your outstanding work!!! 🇨🇦

[@ellelanham-pv3qg]

😂😂😂I just stopped by to say, I actually HAD the "expectation" when my children were young! it's now that their gone that I am living in the reality 😅

[@autumn111155551]

I was also very shy and sometimes bullied. I found out one of my high school bullies died recently. So I looked up and said “ha ha you’re dead, and I’m not. Karma’s a bitch!” Childish, I know, but it felt good lol

[@HowToGYST]

So sorry to hear you were bullied. That must have been an awful experience.

[@NormaHenley]

Please add a link to your laundry detergent bottle! I love that and don't really have space for a giant bottle. Thank you for the relationship pep talk! I've got a family member that needs to go away due to the negativity and control they attempt over me. I've been working on it, but needed the validation! Love your videos!

[@HowToGYST]

This is it here: rstyle.me/+z3oZrCTdN1cDU6BtMO3aHQ and this is the detergent I use in it: rstyle.me/+kFXF56cIyn09yU-mWHHS3Q (affiliate links)

[@kyuree]

Thanks for the reminder...... and I'm lacking in all departments 😢

[@tomorrowkiddo]

With the sustainable one, I plan to move o/s and just take a couple of suitcases at the most. Any time I'm about to purchase something, it must have a purpose and a destination. Will I take this with me? If not, who will it go to? Can I avoid buying this entirely? It makes buying things a lot easier, but also, not buying things and walking out of a store with no guilt. I do more research online and pausing before buying things.

[@tomorrowkiddo]

HOW DID I NOT NOTICE THE DOOR KNOCKERS?! I've hand drawings of a Sketski and a Mystic framed from an Artist friend. They'll be coming with me 😉

[@tomorrowkiddo]

I know...different movie, but same era.

[@HowToGYST]

Yes, reducing consumption has to be at the heart of a lot of decluttering and, frankly, is the only way the planet can survive at this rate.

[@pinayinuk]

Thank u

[@shoppingislifeuk]

ur very right

[@MSKCCooke]

Temporal...the time sucking rabbit holes. Let's dive deeper!

[@anniebeanie710]

Tip: When you saved youtube video for some reason and dont have time to watch it again 1.) look for summary in comments 2) if there is no summary ask ChatGPT about the topic video seems to be about (for example if the video is about XYZ giving tips for longerivty you ask chatGPT about XYZ's tips for longevity) 3.) if you found something profound put it your knowledge management system (if you dont have any then A) learn about them and start one (its as easy as signing up for evernote and eventually figure out some system there) B) delete all those bookmarked videos)

[@joannacurran8475]

I love your comment re numbers. The concept of 1 plate, cup etc. is more than rediculous. Do such people not have friends and/or family!

[@gladyssicolo7701]

were i put my stoff

[@bethbasilone5927]

What is the significance of the pennies in the shadowbox on your bedroom dresser?

[@HowToGYST]

It was an anniversary gift from my husband. We go by traditional gifts, so this was for the "copper" year.

[@bethbasilone5927]

@@HowToGYST Neat! Clever idea!

[@agi5522]

Hey, what's that laptop stand ?

[@randaray24]

Same question!

[@HowToGYST]

Hi! I got it at Aldi about 2 years ago. They regularly bring stuff back though so maybe keep an eye out. Or I’ve seen similar online. If you search ‘adjustable laptop stand’ you might find one. 🙂

[@oliviacarroll6761]

Are those the knockers from Labyrinth?!?

[@HowToGYST]

They are. 😁

[@asc.k1865]

Laura! Just when I knew I adored you and your channel, I peeped that pierced tongue....nice to know that even as a well put-together "grownup" you still have that rebellious streak❤. I'm 41 and overweight but I've kept my own piercing in since age 18 so that I, too, can feel a little rebellion sometimes!

[@ifetayodavidson-cade5613]

Rebellion against overconsumption is a healthy choice!

[@HowToGYST]

I’ve had mine since I was 16 so we’ve both had ours for the same amount of time! 😁

[@corneliakeller438]

First I recommend to declutter this crazy rainbow.

[@jodypaulson255]

I used to like rainbows ... until 2023 happened ...

[@HowToGYST]

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[@jodypaulson255]

@@HowToGYST I feel like it's been hijacked by a political movement.

[@HowToGYST]

What political movement?

[@randaray24]

I’ve always loved rainbows since I was about 12. They were super “in” in the early 80s and I’m not LGBTQ+ but consider it a plus that when I decorate with or wear rainbow things I may be viewed as a safe person by often-marginalized people! Hooray for rainbows! 🌈 🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈🌈

[@MissPurbeck]

I'm not LGBTQ+ either, but I really love this comment.