“This Keeps 99% Single!” Chris Williamson on The Dating Crisis, Building Wealth, and Becoming The 1%

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0:00 - Intro
0:41 - Why Should You Listen to Chris?
3:22 - Chris's College and Club Promoting Days
23:53 - Love Island: Behind the Scenes of Secrets
38:16 - How to ACTUALLY Get Good Sleep
49:51 - STOP DRINKING
50:50 - Exploring Health Hacks: Caffeine, Cold Plunge, Sauna, & Fasting
55:51 - Embracing Discomfort - The Path to Growth
1:00:55 - The Mating Crisis
1:04:43 - Mastering Memorization and Critical Thinking
1:20:24 - Chris on Alex Hormozi & David Goggins
1:35:29 - Tips for Judging Online Credibility
1:40:59 - Chris on Hormonal Birth Control
1:48:19 - What You CAN’T Control Because of Genetics
2:02:47 - What You CAN Control When it Comes to Genetics
2:17:51 - Strategies for Finding the Right Relationship
2:35:47 - Did Men Have it Easier 50 Years Ago?
2:50:53 - Chris's Personal Insecurities and the Power of Therapy
2:58:10 - Final Thoughts
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[@desultorilypanacea]

"The only way out is through." He stole that saying from Buddhism. Monks have been saying that for a thousand years. I can find quotes from Buddhist if you want.

[@AnonymousanonymousA]

get Erin Marie Olszewski nurse whistleblower on the show

[@ChrisWillx]

This was a lot of fun. Thank you for having me boys!

[@jacoblowery8263]

Your very well spoken man 💯

[@howdouturnthisoff]

The podcast we didn't know we needed

[@JEREMY99218]

1:35 No one who is a model, club promoter, or reality show star is "normal".

[@danielj3010]

He gets it.

[@VegetableChoppingChannel]

My biggest flex is that I subscribed to Chris's podcast when he only had 100,000 subscribers.

[@RivSalTech]

"I basically made a career out of being the stupidest person in the room 732 times in a row..." Absolutely Powerful!

[@_spicypainliquor]

wtf lol and why did the channel like this smh

[@vladutzuli]

@@_spicypainliquor Because it's an extremely useful insight that you are apparently missing

[@ZM-dm3jg]

​@@vladutzuliIt's a trite motivational quote of the same tier as Instagram motivational quotes or "live laugh love"

[@sambarta9865]

He’s obviously being humble though. Chris is an incredibly smart guy.

[@justanothernick3984]

​​@@sambarta9865 A word-smith making his living out of entertaining self-help dummies like us listening. While I'm one of those dummies, I don't wax the balls of KZbin and podcast gurus. I oppose most of them. There are few genuine podcasters out there having a humanistic curiosity and not in it for plain cash via audience capture. The more successful these "gurus" become, the more duplicitous they turn.

[@wisdomandy9361]

I'm a huge fan of Chris Williamson's Modern Wisdom podcast but hearing him speak openly towards questions is so fascinating. He often makes the joke about being the stupidest person in the room but I believe over time he's become overwhelmingly exceptional on so many topics that he can intersect them together into a beautiful well rounded understanding. And his ability to articulate these understandings in a simple way is amazing.

[@stevekouchis1201]

Guys please stop with the cringey bombastic titles. Just say “episode 126- Chris Williamson.” Nobody wants to share a video with their buddy titled “why 99% are single”

[@nickfrazier2710]

A. MEN.

[@itisgarrison]

Nah, I'm all for them getting the extra clicks

[@MrOgggie]

/\ This dude don’t share videos with friends

[@imuck1625]

having your reason being embarrassment from your buddy is corny, sure it click bait, but being scared of something that miniscule is child shit

[@FtGFA]

@@imuck1625 never take anything from people who use "corny" seriously

[@ianrobinson4200]

Wow, you guys are really ticking off all your bucket list guests. The growth of this show over the last couple of years has been simply amazing, congratulations!

[@rjthomasindyusa]

As a 46 year old Gen X who group up without internet…… this is bat sh!t crazy. These younger generations are being driven crazy by social media and all the ‘guru’s’ and ‘data’.

[@justinrosado5177]

gen z here. i agree. Also stats are just a collective average of large groups of people. I dont see why its relevant to be concerned with generalizations when we are all affected by these forces on an individual level

[@coyotepeyote]

I think there's also a big difference between those of us who did grow up with the internet during formative years--i've been online since age 10--but back then social media didn't exist outside of forums where everyone was anonymous, and smartphones didn't exist so internet time was limited to a few hours per day, i didn't even have a cellphone until age 17 and that was just phone and text. Now people are constantly tied into the internet and their social groups (or lack thereof).

[@dh8148]

@@justinrosado5177 Very smart observation. Averages should indeed be interpreted with caution. The more general the data, the less reliable it is when applying it to your own situation. For example: Average salary of an occupation is $150k/year. Questions that are not answered with this: - How many years of experience does the average have? - How many hours weekly do they work? - What is the spread between the low end and the high end, and how evenly is it distributed? - Where do they work, geographically? What is the cost of living in those areas? - What companies do they work at? If you cannot answer these, you cannot make an informed decision on whether you want to pursue that occupation or not.

[@o00dreamweaver]

i know right being simple is so much easier

[@wong668]

​@@justinrosado5177 outliers?

[@Alex.Explores]

I've only watched 15 mins so far but I can relate to this SO MUCH already. Chris on the Iced Coffee Hour is what we've all been waiting for. Can't wait for the next 2:45 and thanks for making it happen!

[@Alex.Explores]

Also being from the UK I love how Chris mentions Wigan, which no one in the US will have any idea about.

[@nerd26373]

We appreciate how well you articulate your insights. You'll always have our support.

[@davidwoeste5684]

The collab we didn't know we needed. So hyped!

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Enjoy!

[@JakeSmith-qm6nx]

Might be the best one yet!! Very impressed with the articulate questions and back and forth between Graham and Jack. 🎉

[@SirPeteWindsor]

Whoa! Finnaly Chris in tha house! Great convo, guys! Keep the videos coming. 🚀

[@teratavincent-hillman8197]

so good to see you guys linking with the other people I like to watch

[@fortuneeeeeeeeeee5220]

Incredible interview.. Chris is the truth. I love how you guys questioned him about fresh and fit . I figured them being so controversial he would not want to interview them, but in reality I can see him and Myron having a very high intellect conversation. Great interview Guys

[@ashdinmilligan5373]

I am very thankful for all these great podcasts. It always gives me a new perspective and something new to go down the rabbit hole on. THANK YOU GUYS

[@isabelamaria7184]

I’ve been waiting sooo much for this!!!

[@winnershandbook1069]

this was surprisingly good. I've only watched like 3-4 of his podcasts. i tuned in this one for like 15-30 mins but ended up watching the entire video

[@MitchDore]

10/10 Chris is so well spoken. Very enjoyable!

[@brookes1911]

Liked it before I've even watched a minute - this is bound to be a good one!

[@MrBoykauvball]

This was a brilliant interview. I have not sat down and watched a full podcast in a while.

[@SyedMuktasid]

I watch all the big podcasts, and I think you guys do the best job. I'll watch the same guests on different podcasts, and your conversation with them is always the most enjoyable.

[@thrawn_150]

Been hoping you guys would have Chris on! Looking forward to the conversation

[@PianoWrecker]

hey guys, i know yall read the comment sometimes but i wanna say ive been here since the start of this channel and the quality of the podcast as well as the calibre of guests you guys are bringing in are top tier. Thanks for continuously doing this! much appreciated!

[@josephplunkett3337]

so much insight from chris in this episode - really appreciate it, big love from NZ

[@LostSoulAscension]

The more I watch the show, I see a gracious side of Graham that I never knew, but it's just so real. Sometimes Jack says something that I can tell Graham gets offended by in terms of the framing and Graham really just lets it go, he really puts up with it and is mature enough to not let that dictate the atmosphere of the episodes 😂 I think Jack's clearly articulate, but also young still so he get's caught up in the "me" factor. Where as Graham just want's a little bit more of that "we" factor. It just goes to show Graham really knows to set aside those personal emotions on the show and to really just keep treading forward and embracing Jack for who he is because he knows the value and authenticity Jack brings to the table and doesn't want to diminish that value and energy.

[@LostSoulAscension]

Don't get me wrong, Jack is an amazing interviewer and speaker. I'm a writer so I tend to notice certain subtleties in word choice that I would simply choose different if the goal was to portray xyz vibe or express the framework or place you're coming from. Not everyone thinks about what they or others say to the degree that I do. I'm more on the meticulous side of the spectrum.

[@TheRusschannel]

he is too greedy now sadly tho

[@nochannel787]

Well articulated. I've observed the same.

[@barryhoi]

@@TheRusschannel how?

[@Joey2Tap]

My favorite part is at 1:15:00, when he tells Jack to go fuck himself.

[@JonathanSchmitz]

That was great! I love the modern wisdom podcast but I loved listening to Chris as the guest. Great job guys!

[@Ye7l]

Chris is a true master of his craft with podcast and relaying info

[@raulthetrainer]

really enjoyed this podcast - it was great learning more about Chris back ground

[@charc4814]

Man I love these podcasts! It’s awesome to hear ideas exchanged between very motivated individuals! Keep them coming!

[@iiandreio4228]

Loved this. Love seeing Chris on others podcasts

[@Neyskii527]

This was a great podcast! Chris Williamson has some great perspectives on personal growth and development.

[@vikinghorn1940]

Thank you for the unique interviews. So many times guest say the same thing in different interviews and you always have great questions.

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Glad you think so!

[@RaRFtv]

What a nice podcast this was, I've enjoyed to the max, let's go to 1,000,000 sbs, you guys deserve it!.

[@jasonsullivan00]

ADDED TO FAVORITES! PURE GOLD PODCAST

[@eamonshields2754]

Great show boys

[@navlis7053]

Thanks for the free lunch boys! Loved every minute.

[@rav781]

This was one of the most interesting podcast episodes I've ever seen. Thank you all so much! Great atmosphere.

[@daple1997]

I absolutely couldn't stop watching this

[@paulkiuna8126]

Amazing Episode!

[@DavidMossMGS]

You guys find the best guests! Chris’s new energy drink is by far the best I’ve drank too

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Agreed!!

[@nikitamarynich1794]

Most well spoken online person I've ever listened to.

[@spidaman8888]

I Love these channels: The Iced Coffee Hour, Stock Brotha, & FREENVESTING. Great to watch! ❤ ❤ ❤

[@shikhaM1]

Great guest!

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

THANKS!

[@ChrimsonChin]

Chris has so effortlessly changed my life.

[@Daniel.Eriksson]

Great episode!

[@dims1607]

New sub here. You guys are surprisingly good interviewers! Well done ✔️

[@jacktracey3215]

I see 3 hours… 🤝 love it

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Woohoo!

[@Julesmarquette]

@@TheIcedCoffeeHouradd timestamps

[@amysouza2253]

Also- amazing guest! I love his curiosity!

[@Ybalrid]

To Jack: the "notebook I write the quotes that I find impactful" is an actual very old thing people used to do! Just keep a book where you write stuff you learn about, whatever it is. It's called a "commonplace book" (locus communis in Latin)

[@BigE182]

Back In October I made a playlist of this podcast and have updated it every time a new episode was posted. I just now finished this episode after listening to every single episode at 2x speed. There is an extreme amount of information I have learned from this podcast. I will keep listening to each new episode and hopefully someday I will get on this show or at least meet the hosts.

[@rcarmack]

1:12:14 I love how you tried to ask a question and narrow, the Plainfield by saying what was your favorite “that “had the most impact.“… And immediately we are regaled with one quote, followed by other quotes, a story, and example, two general concepts, for new ideas, a rebottle of his own thinking, and at the end of the day… It all ties together really nicely, but doesn’t boil down to 20 words or less in any way shape or form. Lol.

[@Julesmarquette]

Timestamps?? Edit: thanks for adding them in!

[@danielespinoza8614]

I literally searched "Chris Williamson Iced Coffee Hour" the day before this was posted hoping you guys already had an episode. Was so sad to see you didn't, but when I saw this on the top of my feed the day it was posted I literally screamed. And it's three hours too. THANK YOU JACK AND GRAHAM

[@RollingcrewTV]

Big vibes!

[@julesmeyeri2056]

CW is inquisitive about relevant topics and that's why we listen and learn from the pod cast😊

[@ThePeterp55]

Great podcast

[@simona___]

Chris is absolute legend! Thanks for having him 🫶

[@kahrhoshe]

Love all these guys

[@danielj3010]

Keep on crushing Jack!!

[@JoshHoulding]

2:52:26 Seeing a guy like Chris talk about going to therapy and crying is inspiring to me. Those things (in moderation) are really helpful and I wish more men were open to them. Also, Chris's bit on being authentic is 100% spot-on.

[@James_36]

authentic LOL - a YT grifter talking the talk and not walking any walk is authentic now.. society is lost

[@patty7804]

As a mom of three boys this is incredibly interesting. Love Chris glad to see him on here.

[@joem924]

The midrolls are getting a little out of hand boys.

[@theguydudety]

This is gonna be a repeat listen

[@dolphin7860]

TOTAL freakin CHAD! Great pod!

[@killbilltwo]

When are you releasing the podcast with Max Chewing?

[@voskresenie-]

The discussion starting at around 1:32:00 about discrepancy between what the person says and how they behave or other things they say is exactly how I feel about Chris Williamson. I still enjoy listening to his stuff because I think he's a good interviewer, but it's such a surreal feeling hearing someone complain about a type of person when they're describing exactly how they themselves come across to anyone who looks past the charismatic exterior. Also note how he treats Jack throughout the episode with such disdain, particularly when Jack would dispute something he said. I thought Jack had a great point about how people who grow accustomed doing difficult things don't actually find those things truly difficult, they'd find it more difficult to do nothing. Chris provides some surface level acquiescence to the idea, but then argues that you should do difficult things that have a purpose -- and then Jack suggests there's value in doing something difficult just to learn to difficult things, which is a point Chris himself frequently makes (even with regards to cold plunges earlier in the episode), but Chris doesn't seem to buy his own argument when used in a way that supports doing [bad thing]. Chris of course ends that portion with a humble brag about how driven he is (how he has difficulty drawing/painting without trying to get better at it). He's clearly a very egotistical person and is charming and friendly as long as he's being validated, but has a very strong, albeit subtle, response to any perceived or tangential criticism to himself or his way of doing things. Even his "I basically made a career out of being the stupidest person in the room ..." is a humble brag about his own humility, since he's willing to put himself in a position where he looks 'dumb' (when in reality, everyone knows that accepting the things you don't know is considered a sign of intelligence, not stupidity -- he says so himself in his own content). And he might be ok with not knowing things, but he's not ok with being confident he knows something but then being challenged or shown to be wrong.

[@jaredmello]

In fairness, many people struggle with that, being able admit they are wrong. It is an element of narcissistic personalities and people on the spectrum a lot of times. I work on that very issue myself.

[@gordonjones3360]

Somehow managed to surpass the Alex hormozi podcast! Absolutely loved it

[@LJ-ld1lp]

Jack is looking very nice today!

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

:)

[@fordtough9553]

The eye candy that IS JACK! Lol

[@jeffrounsville4961]

Great video

[@Rapishad]

Love this series. Have Tim Ferriss on next! Scratch your own itch!

[@tiphainer7143]

Sorry to comment halfway through the show but, if any women on birth control read this, life off birth control is SO MUCH BETTER on many levels. It has been my experience as well as the experience of all of my female friends that stopped it. I didn’t know it was a « trend » and I haven’t read the studies but I can summarise it as: I am now completely in sync with my body, with my cycle and my desires. I can attest that I did, indeed, meet my very masculine, protective, grounded man just a few months after coming off the pill and I will never go back. Back to listening to the rest of the podcast. Two of my favorite podcast combined! Thank you gents!

[@ColombianLNP]

Another guy who i had no idea who he is. But what a great podcast nonetheless! Cheers amigos from your biggest fan in Colombia!

[@davidmarin8520]

facil es el mejor host de podcast - super recomendado que veas los podcast de el especialmente con alex hormozi

[@Jvwny]

Ahh yes Modern Iced Coffee ☕️

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Enjoy!

[@wow50plus9]

Very familiar with Chris but first time watching The Iced Coffee...podcast. How old are Graham and Jack? they seem so young and at the same time so wise, articulate and engaging.

[@jessbridges564]

I listen to fire sounds all the time to get me to sleep. Works well 😊

[@96ej]

Graham, you don't even need an alarm clock just get a deaf mattress, it's a thin pad that goes onto your top sheet and vibrates to the time you set it to

[@Thisisausername556]

Based collab.

[@Bjorn_R]

15:23 I have a book with the 1000 year old Edda- poems from the vikings. One of them goes: "Men should be moderately wise, never too wise. Greater happiness has life to the one who knows in moderation

[@mitchgriffin2611]

Hey man, what’s the book called?

[@markwinsor446]

My first time seeing this show. I watched because of Chris Williamson. Without knowing for sure, I'm guessing Jack's the guy on the right. and Graham's the one on the left. Jack's talky, Graham's thoughtful.

[@acason4]

"Be precise in your speech" coming from JP is one of the funniest/ironic quotes I've ever heard. While I completely agree with the quote as specificity is paramount in communication & conveying ideas the irony is that quote coming from JP. Aside from his field of expertise he's constantly a wash in word salad sophistry on almost any other topic. This is a guy that said it would take him "40 hours" to answer the question whether or not Christ actually resurrected. LMAO...

[@pingwin7035]

Could someone please link the study regarding genetical predispositions that is referenced in the segment that starts at 1:47?

[@simplyfem]

Idk why this tickles me so much but I absolutely LOVE the way Chris says ‘literally’ 😅

[@scandola356]

can we please have chapters?

[@chhitijpahari1011]

Description

[@Njc451]

Jacks point @2:00:34 was hysterical but #facts. The proportions will definitely be affected. I wonder how that would translate into mate selection?

[@emailandcoffee]

on therapy culture. spot on.

[@aubreytraverse.]

Modern Wisdom!

[@celpower]

Would love to know what is the ear bud he uses to sleep. He said it was on Amazon for $20. I could use one

[@WheelieMedia]

Graham if you want the vibration alarm wear a smart watch most have it.

[@wikithatshizy]

How many more people are you going to ask about creatine. It is one of the most studied supplements out there. It’s safe, cheap and helps a little. It is not the reason you are not jacked. You need to gain weight or you will not put on the muscle you dream of.

[@retrac3147]

I was surprised by that question. I thought it’s pretty much considered fact that it is safe and beneficial

[@Jorbz150]

Does adipose tissue contribute significantly to muscle hypertrophy?

[@jessbridges564]

I had no idea how much hormones could influence my thinking until I gave birth to my child. The thoughts that came through my mind were so foreign to me. It was like I was given someone else’s thoughts. I was totally shocked and taken aback by the thoughts that came to my brain . So now the evidence that hormonal birth control alters your thinking is completely consistent with my experience

[@IdealSelfco]

`every single drink you take is moving you closer to death`. actually, everything falls under that statement: every single breath you take is moving you closer to death, every step you take and so on. amazing wisdom there, truly

[@KalebSDay]

Well said, haha.

[@TheMightyMidget]

Missing the point on purpose. Genius. Take it you like a lil poison 😂

[@Madchris8828]

Truly intellectual.

[@purplesuitman3764]

Incorrect. The statements resemble each other but they actually are communicating very different things

[@Mazlem]

Hey Graham, I sent a new email about the discord to both addresses you said. If neither work, I know for sure that Jack has the link so you could get it from him.

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

This is so weird, i'm not getting anything. What's your email and I'll reach out to you, first?

[@Mazlem]

@@TheIcedCoffeeHour ugh, and youtube is deleting my replies here. It's mazlem from outlook (hopefully vague enough for youtube but you can get it)

[@Achter.]

Gram’s new haircut is great

[@tobymcflurry258]

Chris is so cool

[@You2ubeGuy01]

1:29:59 Think Goggins is already familiar with”chilling out”. Before he became who he is today, he was the opposite so I would say he did choose to be uncomfortable in an uncomfortable environment. As a general idea though, I agree choosing an area to be uncomfortable that’s not comfortable for you is good every now and then.

[@AF2277S]

I've heard Chris talk about night life before and when he explains the way it works it sounds similar to an MLM

[@richardelms5588]

1:54:30 Both the picture and Chris are actually referring to Lady Justice, not Lady Fortuna (who is usually depicted with a horn of plenty).

[@mathewvillain3322]

I agree on the take of Peter Zeihan. He sounds so certain but who knows if it is true. His books are even more down the rabbit hole.

[@jellyjams7217]

Such a good podcast covering so many topics….why the narrow title about being single

[@videosibueno]

Three ads in the first 30 minutes cmon man 😅

[@Gabri3lRocha]

Every week once a week I take Benadryl to recalibrate my internal clock the night before my Monday. I always fail to be consistent with my sleep schedule on my days off. Take it an hour or 2 before bedtime and lights out. I assume this probably isn’t healthy long term

[@Gabri3lRocha]

Also I use a digital vibrating alarm clock from Amazon under my pillow along with some good earplugs. Not good to use a phone under pillow because you never know if it can randomly catch fire one day. Also there might be something to the whole radiation thing. Can’t confirm it but I’d rather be on the safe side

[@retrac3147]

“Every week once a week” you can just say once a week 😂 or weekly