Harvard Psychiatrist on How To Get Ahead of 99.9% of People (Starting NOW)

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TIMESTAMPS:
00:00 - Intro
02:23 - Why School Isn’t Made for Smart Kids
07:44 - IQ vs EQ
14:02 - Why Dr.K Was Sent to India
28:48 - How to Attain ‘One Pointed Consciousness’ / Tantric S*x
42:28 - The Power of Studying Your Internal Self & Desires
58:05 - The Nature of Desire
1:11:38 - Help Others By Asking Questions
1:21:36 - The Theory of Karma
1:36:32 - Why ADHD & Autism are More Common in Today’s World
1:54:42 - Restless Leg Syndrome
1:57:14 - Dr.K Analyzes Graham & Jack
2:03:24 - Dr.K on Dating, Tinder, & Red Flags
2:18:02 - Digging into Jack & Graham’s Relationship
2:26:25 - The Key to a Happy Marriage
2:32:52 - The Framework for a Fulfilling Life
2:43:50 - Closing Remarks
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[@whatsthisidonteven]

-Walks up to the show -Harvard -Psychiatrist -Monk -Gamer -Dad -Refuses to blame women for everything wrong in the world for 2 hours and 46 minutes straight -Gives god-tier relationship advice -Tells the hosts they love each other right in their faces and doesn't make it insulting or demeaning to their masculinity or heterosexuality -Cures narcissism and BPD -Elaborates -Leaves Absolute gigachad

[@ouroruo]

S tier human

[@jeredquidlars8819]

Firm handshakes 🤝💯

[@72-bit]

I can tell what kind of person you are

[@ziwuri]

I love the touch of "-Elaborates"

[@millsykooksy4863]

LOL

[@xavierxavier3610]

Please bring dr k back on for a 24 hour straight podcast. I could listen to this guy speak all day

[@eligoldman9200]

He has his own KZbin channel.

[@ZESTdabest]

Healthy gamer gg

[@gotthis5613]

Flow state

[@PuroInternationalPhenomenon]

He is pretty controlling. But yeah he's gregarious, a nice story teller, and a great teacher. So the apparent good surpasses the bad. Is it just me or did Graham Stephan have many brilliant moments of pivoting back to the foundation of the initial question?

[@whannabi]

At this point just invite him at your house and speak all day with him

[@mykie]

I think Dr. K is brilliant and ahead of his time. Bring him back on for many more if you can.

[@VLAD1241]

agreed

[@dhepermana]

No. Have you heard what he’s saying on the theory of karma? "Lots of the karmic theory is proven scientifically" LMAO He’s completely nuts and a cult leader.

[@justus4423]

@@dhepermana when did he say that? That’s crazy tbh

[@aurelianspodarec2629]

@@justus4423 Its crazy and that's why hes making it and you're not. You can't even comprehend what he means because you're not at his level of understanding. How is so these crazy people who are at the top always make it and poor people always complain and sasy its crazy or impossible?

[@Quaberr]

@@dhepermanasounds like you’re the one that’s nuts tbh. Like use your brain

[@BDSandM]

The best podcast I've ever listened to. I wish Dr. K talked more about his monk journey. What he did, learned, how his mindset changed, etc. I'm so curious.

[@domojestic4155]

He talks a lot about it on his own channel! Trust me, there's plenty of info about his journey there out there.

[@luizguilhermelencioni6708]

you will love his channel, there is a lot there, so it may be hard to find that exactly, but its there

[@michaelfisher8435]

Dr K: "Going to India changed my life." Hosts: "let's talk about edging."

[@eligoldman9200]

I was just like DR K until I forced myself to get good at studying during college. I realized that if I focused less on passing my exams and more on just learning I was blown away with how cathartic it was. I realized that my anxiety for test taking and my comparison to my classmates and my pressure from my parents to do good made me forget how much I genuinely enjoyed learning chemistry.

[@misszoemuch9765]

darn that's how I feel recently😢

[@zack2804]

This is exactly the stage I'm at right now. Only, the pressure comes from the fact that I'm trying to transfer to a good college--and you're going nowhere without good grades. I'm long past the idea that "good grades = smart" as a source of validation.

[@Ryanisthere]

mental health is weirdly paradoxical

[@jannat_i]

same!!! im a college sophomore rn and after almost getting kicked out my first year, i finally learned how to study 😭

[@gaugea]

thanks for this

[@ShenobiYT]

Thank you for having Dr.K as a guest! Been watching him for 2 years now. I get so excited when he gets invited to these podcasts :)

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Our pleasure! We had such a great time chatting with him!

[@Ryan.G.Spalding]

He is pretty great. Awesome resource for the world.

[@AnonymousanonymousA]

​@TheIcedCoffeeHour you know who else was a Harvard psychiatrist MD. Ph.d Joesph Biederman, person migrated from Europe to Argentina with his family around 1945 as a baby then became a Harvard professor great documentary referencing him on 60 minutes years back, he's responsible for cosigning psychiatric prescription use in children and 2 year olds, the title was called Rebecca Riley, she would have been 21years old. Just learned the scu_ ba_ Biederman died in January 2023 too bad he deserved to spend years in prison with the inmates knowing who he was and what he did.

[@marksereno7849]

Please get that crackhead on Adderall out of there.

[@Loveabbie]

Same!!! I LOVE him!! & I can hear that man talk for 8 consecutive hours without losing interest lol

[@theimmoralcookie6344]

This is a gold mine of important topics.

[@MrSkme]

This is the feeling i have every time i watch dr k. I dont get this feeling from anyone else. He is incredibly wise.

[@malte4984]

Like edging

[@suparcamel5852]

@@malte4984 exactly

[@jackboa46]

@@MrSkmebuddhism

[@ramgraphite6311]

This podcast was honestly incredible, even had me taking notes and wondering a lot, I can't believe I watched all pretty much in one sitting, I was too interested, I've watched Dr. K's videos before but a lot of the questions and topics you guys touched on were on point and actually very relevant in my life, and I'm sure a lot more people. I'd like it if you'd invite Dr. K back and expand on awareness, and techniques to discover insights within yourself and kind of build onto that

[@nic23lond23]

There's a You Tube Channel and Podcast... Healthy Gamer... you will be taking notes :)

[@TheDynamicsOfMoney]

Intriguing insights from a Harvard expert! It's amazing how small shifts in mindset and habits can significantly propel us ahead. This is a great reminder that personal growth is an ongoing journey, not just a destination. Starting now seems like the only way to go!

[@SavvyFinanceOfficial]

Mindset is everything

[@flycrack7686]

being from Havard is nothing to brag about! If anything its the exact opposite!

[@Lolipop59]

​@@flycrack7686there is no point in what you are saying now. The post wasn't about being from Harvard ,but about mindset

[@flycrack7686]

@@Lolipop59 yes there is a point ! If you are making it important being from a racist antisemtic woke ideological institution then you deserve to be called out, btw we are talking about the mindset!

[@yoshiwhere148]

@@flycrack7686 what do u mean by this?

[@Paulchiefsquad]

33:50 Being Present = Being Happy 44:20 One cure to one disease 1:10:00 Desires 1:14:00 How to help friends: ask questions to make them find themselves 1:50:00 Not training the kids to control their desires and diminishing returns 2:13:30 solve the red flags, don't run away from them. Have shared emotions good or bad. What's wrong with dating now, not seeing the human 2:24:00 don't find the right person, make the right person 2:31:00 Real acceptance 2:38:00 How to start improving: Awareness and awareness practice

[@vanilla_bd]

thank you :)

[@mmennote]

Where is the answer to the question about how to be part of the 1%

[@JoeARedHawk275]

⁠@@mmennoteWork on your EQ and knowing how to control your mind

[@user-ti4bm4md5y]

what is the timestamp from the intro?

[@user-fd3lb8jr3w]

My English is not super good...can someone make a list of the tips he gave? Thanks in advance

[@steven99191]

I have listened to a LOT of podcasts in my life. This is in the top 3 all time. I'd been familiar with Dr. K previously, but this was top tier in every way. Definitely bring him back for part 2!

[@yiin]

bro what are the other two?

[@jakecathey7061]

david choe joe rgoan has to be one@@yiin

[@Kazooieandbanjo]

I've been watching Dr. K for years and I've also been learning about finance and watching Graham for nearly the same amount of time. This was genuinely one of the best podcast interviews ever. You could tell that Dr. K really connected with you both and was willing to dive in deep quickly in a way that he normally does not with most people. It would be amazing to have a part 2 and see where it takes you all.

[@kito8968]

So this is what Dr. K was talking about when he said that he wanted to teach us more but he cant due to format bounds and he can only teach about 15% what he wanted to. Truly remkarkable almost 3 hours of deep conversation. Thank you so much i have taken a lot from it.

[@jewishgenes]

That’s exactly right. Hop in books like he did and you can sit in that seat!

[@harrygriffiths6180]

Please do a part 2!!!! This was one of the most interesting and intellectually stimulating podcasts I've ever listened to. Definitely gives me a lot of things to think about.

[@7Zyd]

This was an amazing collab. A great conversation with relateable experiences and examples! Great content from all! Hopefully we'll get a part 2!

[@TheBrentPopp]

The discussion about being a Vata with Jack was actually really relatable for me and gave me so much to think about. I've been watching Dr. K occasionally since about 2020 and I think this has been one of my favorite discussions. Please do another!

[@wildfyre-music]

Dr. K really hit the nail on the head when it comes to creating meaningful and impactful relationships. It's amazing to see the number of people my age (28) that are not willing, or ready, to put in the work to outlast the honeymoon phase. It's like the moment conflict crops up people run for the hills. In reality, it's through conflict that we learn the most about others and ourselves. I don't want a partner that agrees with everything I say, I want a partner that challenges me while wanting the best for both of us. There are uncomfortable moments that come with that, and they are worth it It's also really nice to see Jack and Graham openly talk about their platonic love for one another, it was moving to see two male figures not shy away from such a healthy display of comradery. Much respect 💯 Part 2 for sure

[@Franticity7]

Intimacy exists in the space between deconstruction and repair

[@findpeace6645]

Same

[@gitgudgaming506]

I love when actually educated and qualified guests come on. The amount of value to viewers with this content is so much, thank you.

[@kushaladhvaryu2910]

This is genuinely the best podcast episode I have ever heard. The way Dr. Alok dives deep into each topic with credible proof is amazing. Need a part 2!

[@deanhuang6841]

Amazing talk. I thought I knew a lot about life and wisdom but Dr. K taught me a few things I didn't realize. Like meditation is essentially when the mind stops while retaining awareness. That's honestly the best description for meditation I've ever heard.

[@Wellspicedchaffinch]

Have you read 'Search Inside Yourself' ("search" because it's by an ex-Googler) - it talks of the mind as a vase/urn filled with muddy water. Meditation helps calm the water and the mud settles on the bottom of the vase/urn; leaving stillness (of mind). It's a helpful concept when meditating to help still your body and mind - seeking that stillness and clarity.

[@alqoshgirl]

The gifted child being special needs is so accurate. My youngest brother was NOT easy and had some behavioral issues as a child. He’s gifted though. Top of class, just recently graduated masters in AI. He’s way smarter than any of us siblings, but was way harder to deal with as a child than any of us. He’s doing phenomenal now as an adult 👍

[@jzen1455]

I was in the gifted program and just found school torturously and mind-numbingly boring.

[@CobaltAITech]

amazing. what is a masters in AI?

[@alqoshgirl]

@@CobaltAITech artificial intelligence

[@ensumas8856]

One of my favourite interview and one of the best guest speaker ever! I love how engaged you both were in the discussion, especially Jack's curiosity and neverending questions. Hope to see more great stuff like this!

[@Kable10]

Part 2!

[@words007]

Part 2 of what? Getting ahead of 99.9% people? So that means all of the viewers who are watching it in HOPES of being that 0.01% are betting on succeeding with these odds? With these probability? Have you seen anybody ever successfully working to be that 0.01%? if it is yes? Then what are we? What are the rest of us? If all of us can be that 0.01%, NON OF US CAN EVER BE. I laugh at the futility of people's will to have everything, AND FAILING IN DOING SO. 😅.

[@kubasek1111]

@@words007 there is nothing wrong with failing. also if from all of the conversation you just come up with the idea of getting ahead of 99,9% of people it indicates its the only think that matters to YOU alone. bad assumption.

[@Optimistas777]

it's out

[@alejrandom6592]

​@@words007you seem angry, take a look inside u bro

[@xieryu]

0.1% then help other do the same way, and that 0.1% will become another 99% then the cycle goes, this is how humanity evolves and grows to a intergalactic civilisation.​@@words007

[@ekt2656]

Been coming back to this video over the course of a week to watch it and as a Dr. K watcher for over a year now, I loved your guys' approach to just asking questions and being curious. I would love to see another episode with even more everyday questions and inquisitiveness.

[@BONKOYT]

This information feels illegal to have for free. By far is one of the most valuable things I have come across on KZbin. First time watching the podcast and must say the value is insane. Dr. K's speaking fee must've been huge. Thousands of dollars of therapy and self discovery in a 3 hour podcast.

[@australianpatriot]

mhmmm

[@jimbow25]

Yeah let's make it illegal to be able to read or watch videos for free

[@jewishgenes]

It was great! He reads a lot of books. There’s a lot of this stuff out there. Books!

[@jakub568]

@@jimbow25go away satan

[@BONKOYT]

@@jewishgenes I've recently been reading more into stoicism! It's absolutely changed my outlook on my troubles and life.

[@Lacky546]

"A relationship is created by two human beings. It is not something that you fit someone in to"

[@spigney4623]

Ive watched dr k for years and even done a few of his programs, but your interview questions opened up a personal side of him that ive never seen. Incredible guest, but the interviewers are amazing too. Y'all asked all the questions in my head

[@cashglobe]

One of the best podcast episodes I’ve ever heard. Wow. Dr. K is brilliant. Not only an excellent scientist but also open minded due to his training as a monk. He recognizes the limits of modern science and that’s beautiful. It’s also amazing that he recognizes their is evidence for karma, rebirth, etc, while maintaining a healthy skepticism.

[@claire6223]

what evidence?

[@MS-ov9sv]

@cashglobe.....totally agree.....I felt the same ....

[@empyrionin]

​@@claire6223epigenetics. But as he says, it's quite a stretch

[@Tockin]

We definitely need another episode with Dr. K. This was without a doubt my favorite episode on the podcast, I’ve learned so much.

[@MarelynGonzalez23]

I usually find it so difficult to sit through long videos but I was so invested in everything you guys were discussing, thank for the great discussion, part 2 would definitely be appreciated 🙌🏼

[@zachfeick6651]

This was the best 3 hours I think I've ever spent on youtube. I would love to hear more from Dr. K and you two.

[@kennylaysh2776]

The discussion around dating was SO good, thanks for this interview - love Dr. K! What was said about dating apps and everything around that, pinpoints exactly what I was trying to understand why I hate the apps so much. I had deleted all dating apps long ago, and just absolutely hated them - this helped me see WHY I hated them.

[@nikitaivanov7415]

This was one of the most eye opening and insightful podcasts you guys have done to date. PLEASE DO ANOTHER PODCAST WITH HIM. GREAT EPISODE.

[@alvinchu1]

what is so eye opening about this?

[@sovereignknight9290]

@@alvinchu1what is not eye opening?

[@alvinchu1]

@@sovereignknight9290 That is why I was asking. Can you provide your insight? I really do want to learn.

[@camsbluespace8404]

He has a great youtube channel

[@sethforesi307]

@@alvinchu1watch it in full, you’ll come away with something

[@louisfrancois27]

This was probably the best podcast I’ve seen y’all do so far! Part 2 please 🙏🏿 haha would love to hear Dr. K dive deeper into meditation and relationships!

[@jaredhead9503]

Completely agree!

[@mariaa1410]

Check out his guide, I never spend money on any KZbinrs stuff but this one I’m so glad I did

[@camsbluespace8404]

He has an amazing youtube channel and even a group of coaches that you can make appointments with

[@IZSIN222]

I thought it was pretty bad honestly. The guest is kind of annoying

[@r1ot997]

if youd like more just watch Dr K podcast type stuff he does, he does a better job there and is asked more intelligent questions

[@Namulsi]

Would 100% watch a Part 2, so many amazing insights and advice, really made me internally analyze myself and I would just love to hear another several hour talk about many other aspects of life as a whole

[@Jet7Wave]

I didn't expect just how satisfying it'd be to see the excitement and curiousity from you guys talking to Dr. K in this way. Most talks with him are kind of somber but here I felt that energy as if twitch chat itself came alive to finally get Dr. K's full attention lol. Fantastic questions and engagement!

[@JFabric500]

I see this guy on my suggested videos all the time. He is literally blowing my mind. Same thing happened to my childhood, homeschooled, skipped multiple grades, I never learned to study. Luckily ended up with high EQ and I can never understand why people can’t read the room. The self awareness of people continues to blow my mind.

[@JJonwheels]

Definitely one of my favorite episodes. I loved the two of you talk and hearing Dr K easily talking with you guys was amazing. I always have questions like you did but always fear that I would come across annoying but Dr K being so open to the discussion, it makes me feel like i can connect with him and take in his advice more. You should definitely do a part 2, I would love for it to be on things like helping one finding the right doctor for themselves, more specifically like Dr K as his videos are always great and can connect with. Other than that, im sure you guys will come up with great ideas too.

[@stashnites]

i watched so many dr k videos and they are nice and informative but i love this one right here the most, because in human interviewing and dialogue is such an amazing part of mental health and you guys asked interesting and on the nose questions, love it

[@nicoleturney4706]

I will add that your reference to gifted kids as special needs is spot on. I have actually used that terminology in various settings. And yes, my kids also lack study habits for the reasons mentioned. My son would report that he would ace the math pretests without previous exposure to the concepts, which puts him in a position of boredom while the concept is taught. He had a very hard time making friends for years because he thought on a totally different level than kids his age. A lot of these children turn to drugs like marijuana just to numb their brains so they can fit in better.

[@ryanfrank1309]

It's especially hard for me and others I've found like me to connect to most people. It's very isolating. Having someone that can keep up/understand the things that interest us is difficult. It's incredibly exciting when you find someone who can though. Thank you for sharing your experience.

[@wpwildcat]

Ive enjoyed a lot of the Iced Coffee Hour podcasts, but this one has been one of my favorites. This discussion really resonated with me and I'd love to see more of you two and Dr. K

[@FinancialCharles]

This is such quality content graham. I started watching your main channel in 2019 and I gotta say that info was super helpful, but today, it's the iced coffee hour that provides soooo much value. so much....

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

I appreciate that! Jack and I put a lot of effort into the guests, questions, flow, etc!

[@SandraLemenaite]

Because of you two, I have discovered Dr. K. Because of Dr.K’s wisdom, I’ve now connected dots and implemented actions in my life that are changing my life. This episode is hands down of the best episodes of any podcast ever, and I thank you all from the bottom of my heart.

[@anaca7789]

Pease bring him back this conversation was so insightful time flew and I want a 5 hour part 2 found you and subbed because of this!!

[@Anthony-ru7sk]

The study habit thing really hits me. I dropped out in 12th grade and got my GED. I was in the 99th percentile in 3 of the 5 sections, and above 90 in the other 2. My SAT scores were awesome too. When I got to college, I struggled immensely.

[@eligoldman9200]

I use to be that way until I forced myself to work and I found studying to be cathartic. It’s just a zen. It gives me this release of calmness.

[@arnavrawat9864]

Dr K has videos on this. "How being smart leads to failure. " That should find you the videos. they are immensely helpful. I think you should watch them

[@Alex-ns6hj]

@@eligoldman9200 what's a zen? studying? how does it give you calmness. man I really need to know how to let go of the fear of not passing exams and really trust and enjoy the process

[@austinmpranger]

Great conversation! Rarely do I find a podcast/conversation so captivating I don't want to multi-task while listening. I really appreciated how Dr. K helped bring certain points home by asking questions and allowing the hosts find their own answers for some topics.

[@sonny5497]

Wow this was one of the best podcast I've heard. Dr K is amazing at communicating ideas.

[@c---R]

He pieced all of the things we've heard elsewhere together in a very digestible way. Thank you for this podcast episode

[@IRSTAXENFORCER]

Being a HUGE fan of both Dr K for the past year and Graham and the Iced Coffee hour this has to be my favorite collab of the year. PLEASE do a part 2!

[@vst3p]

This was fantastic! I watched from start to finish without stopping - and I usually don't watch three hours of content. The most significant insight was about awareness and how it is at the root of everything. If we learn to master it, we can change anything about ourselves. Also, I loved how the amount of focus is correlated with happiness. Thank you for this podcast - I would love to see part 2.

[@cattyily0]

what i love about this interview is that the audience and even when you look throughout this video on the hosts faces is that nobody knows what to say. nobody can say anything without sounding arrogant or not intellectually aware enough to combat what he says. he didn’t dominate the conversation they just listened. they were stuck in their thoughts, in their head while simultaneously trying to understand his words and also perhaps rejecting his words. yet we all stayed and were mentally capable enough to just hear him out for 2 hours straight. and he came from such a neutral standpoint that it is hard to disprove what he’s saying and it made sense. unless the audience had questions of their own or disagreed what have you, his point still stood and he still came out on top. he was the only person where i was able to put my opinions to the side and learn. and i think we all have the privilege to understand him, let alone hear him speak.

[@TheHR1973]

Yes, absolutely and positively yes! Bring Dr.K back for more questions. Would be great to learn more about autism, causes, how to improve the symptoms and social aspect. Would be great to learn more about improving relationships, how to deal with feelings of guilt, depression. What does make people happier? How to improve discipline (Yes, I will try and do my best meditating from now on. Tried before “watching my breathing”, fell off the wagon). Dr. K has amazing ability to communicate ideas and thoughts!!! Loved the podcast!

[@JTIrons]

This is becoming one of the highest quality podcasts available. I love the genuine curiosity with guests. I don't like when shows feel scripted.

[@jonathanticas6901]

Well said

[@violetselim6874]

Lowkey Theo von I still love his podcasts but he seems bored with the guests😂

[@GrahamStephan]

Thank you!!

[@tomtesting99]

LMAO !!! Just googled him. He's another Skammer grammy interviewed for clicks and views.

[@jesssandhu9432]

@@tomtesting99No Dr. K’s not. I’ve learned so much from him that got me back into university. He isn’t even getting money from this, he’s a psychologist - he has his own job. He’s simply trying to help people that were lost like he is

[@PumpkinPotatoPie]

I love how DR. K saw Jack trying to creat a moment about Stephan, and instead turned it around and made it about him, you can tell Jack was not expecting that and was being truly challenged

[@acpjr]

Keen observation. Jack was looking for advice on how to "fix" Graham, and in so doing revealed that he's the one who needs fixing!

[@brannyvr5728]

This was incredible from start to finish. Honestly, I'm currently in a strange mental state where I feel as though I have learned so much about how to explore myself and my mind. Please invite him back, I'd love to hear more about awareness - exploring self. As well as the path to be taken when you get distracted by those desires. The process surrounding realising the desire is there, the awareness of it - and then following that train of thought to deciding on the next action to take. Thank you so much

[@BuildingTimeFreedom]

This one was packed with so many great insights, I do a lot of research and these two hours were gold. Thanks guys.

[@youngbahss3220]

DEFINITELY need another one from him! So many of the guests that we see on podcasts are great but many kind of overlap in alot of ways. I really feel like Dr K has an insightful perspective that you can't get anywhere else.

[@Razerhasgame]

The first part of this conversation and EQ and different measures besides IQ helped me learn so much about myself and not beat myself up over dropping out of college 10 years ago since I had no study habits and raw intellect that was unfocused

[@clarezajac3276]

Totally agree I'm kind of still in the early parts of this I'm probably an hour and a half in but yes that was.... It just told me a lot about myself as a younger person that I spent a lot of time beating myself up over:)

[@ViolentMLG]

I dropped out of school, never enjoyed school, thought it was pointless and boring. Taught myself most of everything I know on my own. Never could study until I learned how to study. I also never felt I could fit into society and the typical 9-5 life. I just stay in my own lane as an entrepreneur. Things like this 100% resonate.

[@kora4185]

I started to cry listening to it.. It was very obvious to me and everyone around me something was different, and every adult thought I would change the world or smt, and once I didn’t (because I couldn’t even finish school), it was hell on earth for too long to not leave scars.. Suddenly I had no discipline and no will, and this kept on going until I was somehow more tired of being broke than living, and I had to come up with a solution asap. I now have my own company that brings me more money than I need but _only_ because I wouldn’t be accepted in any so I literally had no other choice but to make one myself, which is hilarious but I can’t help but only feel heartbroken about what I went through and what so many people are going through right now because they don’t have the right guidance.. I hope the way we teach kids now will absolutely shock society in the future the same way it shocks us to see how mental hospitals were before.

[@XanderB42]

Amazing! I've been watching Dr. K's videos for a long time, and it was really nice to hear him talk in an interview format

[@theimmoralcookie6344]

I need more of this man. Dr. K. and his team are amazing.

[@stanleyyelnats4524]

This is probably the first time I have watched a long podcast in its entirety. Very insightful and I appreciate the more niche ideas. I especially enjoy Dr.k being able to put real life examples for Jordans questions and experiences

[@cosmicpowa]

Appreciate so much of what Dr. K has to offer. Impressed with how Graham and Jack handled the little moments of disagreement. Watching people's body language change during these moments was the coolest part of the whole interview. Want to see more for sure!

[@frillsjane7753]

I can tell too! Haha glad all of them have so much patience and were very professional. If it would've been me, I have walked out already lol

[@CahenBarlos]

KZbin Served this to me and I was neither a sub to either your channel or Dr. K's and I immediately subbed to both. So much value and thought provoking content Thank you. I hope for a pt. 2 at some point.

[@robertcornelisse8664]

Thank you Iced Coffee Hour team for all the great podcasts. Got to hear alot of my favorite people thanks to you all. This episode is another classic. Happy New Year

[@Antarcticist]

This conversation made me subscribe.. I'm a HUGE FAN of Dr. K and seeing him outside of his own format makes me so happy and I learned so much! I LOVE YOU ALL

[@ap822cornell]

This was amazing - 1st time in my life to ever sit through a nearly 3-hour long podcast all in a single session

[@wilsonwong431]

Been following Dr K for a long time this was a great podcast elaborated on a lot of things you just can't talk about in only half a hour would absolutely love to see another 3 hours!

[@deyu1111]

Thank you guys for this incredible podcast! I love Dr. K and watch his stuff regularly but this podcast right here made me appreciate him even more! Please bring him back for more! :) Also you've earned at least one more fan and subscriber. Keep up the good work!

[@Roobah]

What I enjoyed most about this video was watching 3 individuals who each are in such a different mental headspace interacting to try to come together mentally. I also noticed the last 20 minutes Graham was mentally checked out and exhausted. I already subscribe to the HealthyGamerGG channel, but this kind of converaation was way more interesting than his normal channel. I enjoyed this group discussion more.

[@Danzamagu]

I too noticed how at times, Graham and Jack we're alternating between getting it and losing him. Dr K being patient and trying to get through to them.

[@lcam961]

PART TWO PLEASE! Quite possibly one of my favorite episodes to date

[@Chrizbent]

Such a well spoken guy, this is pure gold.

[@kentjaypepito2771]

That was absolutely perspective -changing. A treasure trove to watch.

[@nathanielcarmichael1033]

I’ve been a fan of both Graham and DrK for quite some time. Did not expect this crossover and listened until the end. We need a sequel!

[@sheepmellow]

This interview is awesome (I'm only half way through it). This Psychiatrist is fascinating to listen to, I literally started taking notes pretty early on. You guys asked great questions, and I appreciate the visual assists (like when Samskara was mentioned at 1:29:32 and there's a definition dropped in, those have been so useful). I'm having to listen with a couple sitting sessions but the concepts being brought up are pretty damn interesting. Edit: Got to the end, would love a part two.

[@user-zy8is1vl1n]

JACK WAS AWESOME!!! Best interview I’ve watched in a while, bring him back! Bring more guests like this and let Jack soar!

[@bronsondiamond2025]

I wish there was another hour too. I really love hearing Dr. K shed light on the many misconceptions that occupy the young minds of today. Really good guests lately damn you guys are workin!

[@ziwuri]

minds of all ages, really

[@erastal]

if you really do want to listen to Dr.K's teaching, the HealthyGamerGG channel will satisfy that itch for the next couple of weeks

[@citizenerased000]

Never watched Dr.K's videos outside of his own channel, but these two guys were fantastic at interviewing him. Great job!!!

[@Millnar]

Made it to the end. it was amazing. Would love to see a part 2/3 with one on one with each of you.

[@CafeLu]

Agreed- great interview and I would come back if there is a part 2!

[@808mup]

This guy is fascinating, I could listen to you guys jump from topic to topic about honestly whatever.

[@s2logic64]

Made it to the end and this was without a doubt one of the most interesting podcasts I've ever watched/listened to. I've followed Dr K. for a while and like a lot of his content but this was such a great way to concentrate weeks worth of content into a single 3 hour stint, while feeling like a natural conversation. I plan to re-watch this and make sure there are insights in here that don't get lost in my mind with the 1000 other self help books

[@Monas99]

This was amazing! And this was just my second episode i watched.. ill watch more, for sure.Please bring dr K back for another round. I could have listened to 3 more hours of this...The conversations were so genuine, so authentic, and i absolutely love how vulnerable and opened both of you Jack and Graham were during the episode. It was beautiful and very commendable. this is what healthy masculinity is all about. I hope more men follow in your footsteps to show more vulnerability, which in fact is powerful. Personally when a man has the courage to show his vulnerability that shows true courage, which i find very attractive in others, and especially in men. Great job w the podcast! Bravo! 😊

[@aysudolas4810]

Dr. K is my favourite online person of all times. He talks about heavy topics without draining and tiring people. It is always such a pleasure to listen to him. It's the first time I've come across your channel and you guys were awesome as well. A small viewer note: It is the personal elements of this conversation that made this episode epic.

[@ivanivan4155]

This is your best episode so far! You've been constantly improving your podcasting skills, and you're choosing better guests every time. Thanks for doing this!

[@EmilyRigh]

Man this was an excellent interview. It was wonderful hearing Dr. K get interviewed for once and you guys asked some really good questions. I'm definitely looking forward to part 2!!

[@Creationweek]

😮

[@Mcouey2]

Incredible episode. Glad he came on the show. I discovered him by way of his “former gifted kid” video. I cried pretty hard. It’s been a hard life, and harder 5 years. Woof. I was not ready for THAT enlightenment. I have embraced it and laughed at the memes now. I’m back in school. Like so many, around the 30’s you reconsider. I’m happily on that journey into IT. I’m learning how to learn, post-concussions, now with crazy ADHD, lots of sickness that’s only just now under control as of November. 5 years of pain, sickness, left my career as a band director. It’s been hard. A life not worth living. But I’m starting to see the light again. And people like Dr. K are helping me get through! Thank you, Dr. K for your work online. ( in case you read any comments) You give us so much time, content, wisdom and knowledge!!

[@newgirl3660]

I liked answering Dr K’s questions myself as he asked Graham and Jack because it enabled me to practice awareness in the moment. Calling it meditation seems more unattainable to me than calling it awareness even though I know both words can have the same definition. Graham and Jack: I acknowledge that this interview required vulnerability and I appreciate your participation and willingness to reveal glimpses of your true thoughts and desires. I do not think any of your responses were dishonest. Do I want another episode: Absolutely. I would like Dr K to talk to both of you together again in person then individually afterwards maybe on different days afterwards in person. I like in person interactions better than virtual even though I’ve observed Dr K guide folks to increase their awareness virtually. Ideally I would like these part 2 interviews to occur within the next 4 weeks so I can get more strategies to guide me. Hearing Dr K talk about “Vata” again was informative. In a nutshell, awareness and curiosity are essential to live a fulfilling life.

[@TaiFritoPie]

This was awesome! I buckled in for the whole podcast a few seconds in and I’m so glad I did. Great job to all three of you!!

[@kierracastleyt]

Made it to the end and wow. This opened my mind up to soooooooo many things about myself that I didn’t realize before. Def need a part 2 😭

[@stephencoxbass]

That was fantastic! I rarely have the attention for something of this length, but there was so much insight and some entertaining moments that I stayed with it. Thanks for making this one!

[@user-ez8eu1fi3e]

this is my first full episode experience of the iced coffee hour and I love how they just listened for nearly 3 hours and spoke minimally Throughout there own podcast. Love Dr k, Love stephen. excited to get to know jack in another episode

[@GetBetterGolf]

1:07:12 This is one of the most incredible things ever said on a podcast. That amount of insight and understanding of the human condition of suffering is priceless!

[@comend1910]

If you haven't checked out Dr. K yet, you'll find so many more incredible insights, he truly is the most impactful person I've watched on the internet. If you want to be entertained as well, check out his interviews with content creators, checkout the ones with creators you know first.

[@AS-oo4gv]

@@comend1910^^^ definite! He’s got years and years of content. It’s really great

[@emekaukoha9847]

​@@comend1910absolutely comend, ever since I started watching healthy gamer I've had better understanding of myself a lot

[@jimbow25]

Lol pretty common knowledge

[@GetBetterGolf]

@@jimbow25 To some people it’s common knowledge, and to some people it’s not, that is the beauty of people sharing knowledge with each other. Hopefully someone out there that needs this advice or insight will hear what Dr. k said and it can help them change their lives for the better.

[@justinluy8997]

Watched the video all the way through. Been a long time fan of Dr. K and love to see that his influence is expanding like this. Thank you both for putting on a show that has given me alot to be aware of!

[@FireBallDecay]

Didn't even know about these guys, but I clicked because of Dr. K, very, very good video, had a lot of fun watching, I would love to see a part 2 or even 3 with deep dives into both you and more questions.

[@friedsugar2701]

This was the best podcast, I've ever sat down for.

[@mathiaslovnes2667]

Dr K's amazing teaching abilities and your guys' genuine curiosity is a perfect match for a podcast. Definitely wanna see another one!

[@demonsnails]

Im only 35 minutes in, and I am LOVING this conversation! Awesome seeing this collab between my favourite creators!

[@TheIcedCoffeeHour]

Glad you enjoy it!

[@jdzzz7]

I love how he covers a lot of things on the pod. I'm so happy that I know the root of me not being able to get it up for my first time doing the deed. My mind was all over the place and therefore I couldn't be present which blocks and fucks up my blood flow. I was not aware of the issue and thought I had an ED. Note for me is just be more present. I will practice meditation and yoga. But knowing my problem gives me so much peace.

[@azizahmed648]

Man this podcast is so helpful. So many learnings.

[@daisysalgado4576]

First time coming across Dr K. Thank you for bringing him on! And the last 60 seconds… I’m obsessed with the Hormozi’s and watch all of their content but I’m actually sad this ended! PART 2 please! I also never leave comments on KZbin videos but felt compelled to do so! Great channel!