This Practice Helped Me Heal Decades of Nervous System Anxiety, Trauma and Mind Body Disconnection

[@pollyb2950]

This is very consistent with the best trauma research. You are not alone in arguing this. Bessel van der Kolk (The Body Keeps Score) and Peter Levine (Waking the Tiger) argue exactly this kind of line. Also I agree with you that positive psychology, in contrast, can be like gaslighting (denying your feelings or even blaming you for them). Thank you for this post.

[@ElishaCeleste]

I love Bessel van Der Kolk's work, although I found it long after I felt complete in my own healing. I'm so grateful he's doing the research and work he is to shine a light on this. Thanks for watching and commenting 😊

[@dubravKA1111]

Thank you for commenting and mentioning Peter Levine, his work being groundbreaking in the field.

[@seektruthnow00001]

I came to the very simple conclusion that if bottled up emotions are not expressed they rampage through your being until they are expressed or manifest as an illness and/or warped irrational responses to various events in life. Venting or release can be done via simply by talking about it to someone who is capable of listening, and then the next way is through body or breath work. For those who doubt that just try it. Thank you for being so authentic in your videos.

[@Riverflow8]

This so so true. As Carl Rodgers said: “when we accept ourselves as we are then we change.”

[@VictoriaHealing]

This reminds me of EFT/Tapping where you do say how you're feeling. I've found that to be way more helpful than just saying a positive mantra

[@RWelsh-ro9gb]

There's something somatic about that tapping. It's somehow reaching or activating something deep in the nervous system, inviting it to heal. It's so simple, but it causes shifts for me, too.

[@kiviness]

I was just going to comment the same. An important part of EFT is acknowledging the current feelings even though they are “negative.”

[@lisabarney3473]

I explained this concept to a group of friends a few months ago! It was during a mini-class we were doing together about being more social. I experienced some relationship trauma growing up but never really knew how to deal with it in a healthy way. I tried to use positive affirmations as a way to reassure myself that I was "safe," but instead they became a barrier to self-understanding. It felt like lying to myself and pretending that I didn't feel the way I did. Acknowledging and being open to those scary emotions has helped me heal so much in the last few years, both physically and emotionally.

[@ElishaCeleste]

Lisa - 🙌🏽💛 I'm so happy to hear all of this, and that you're taking a leadership role with people in your life to do the same. Amazing.

[@mountainfever]

I have had the same experience! I totally felt like I was gaslighting myself when I tried to tell myself I was actually safe even though I didn’t feel safe. It was like I was saying, “you don’t really know what you’re talking about body.” & that feels bad.

[@alaroc7269]

So one day I was walking around mutterings to myself about a situation that was bothering me. I said out loud that I hate it when that happens, and said I didn't like that person. She always make me feel a certain way. I felt guilty for saying it, but then actually felt better for being honest with myself. I was able make note that if I could avoid being in that situation it would be better for my well being. But until I said it out loud I thought I should just "be nice and put up with" rude people. Voicing what made me uncomfortable didn't drum up negative feelings toward people it just let me free to feel, and then move on. Thinking positive is probably a good thing for some but you can't deny what you are actually feeling inside. Voice it then move on to positive vibes. :)

[@ElishaCeleste]

I love this. Maybe you were taught to "be nice" when you were a child? I was definitely taught not to express the emotional impact people had on me or confront anyone, so those patterns have been the hardest to break. You hit the nail on the head though - instead of drumming up negative or "violent" feelings towards someone else, allowing yourself to simply admit you don't like them FREED you up. And that's the fear I think, typically: we think if we allow ourselves to admit the truth that we'll dwell in negativity or pain or judgment or whatever, but actually the opposite usually happens. Thank you for sharing!

[@dubravKA1111]

Oh how lovely. Finally I came across someone addressing this new age self help bs called affirmations a.k.a. putting whipped cream on top of a pile of some serious psychoemotional s****. Thank you . I highly appreciate your approach, bravery & persistance.

[@ElishaCeleste]

Thanks for watching and sharing your thoughts 😊

[@RWelsh-ro9gb]

Well said!

[@celinahwang9353]

Many thanks for this post, I feel the same way after spending years of positive thinking, mental persuasion, those adhesive bandages were working kind of ok on the surface but it was not solving any profound issues my body was desperate to heal from. Later I understood that this was emotional suppression, that I was negating my very own feelings, avoiding a huge part of me. With more maturity now I can stay with what is not ok, give it a voice to the emotion can give the message and stop killing the messenger. I really value your work and your post, thank you thank you for your generosity!

[@user-th7lu2yf7n]

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[@Marshadow69]

Positive affirrmations are a very nuance business. Lying to yourself is not positive affirmation. Reminding yourself of positive things which your negative voices are denying is good for you. Telling yourself that you are fine, when you are not, is simply denial. Instead of telling yourself that you are safe when you are not, just tell yourself that you will do your best to keep yourself safe, and be a friend to yourself.

[@chrissyheiner2580]

Wow! That was definitely an Ah-ha moment for me! It makes complete sense now that you say it like that!! THANK YOU for all the work you do in this area! It continues to help me with the awareness of my body and my healing journey.❤️

[@ElishaCeleste]

Yay! You're so welcome. I LOVE those aha moments 🥳💛

[@sharondmeber3802]

I totally agree! I believe when we don’t acknowledge our feelings firstly to ourself then it is nothing more than “stuffing” and ignoring them which in turn does not lead to healing and this has caused a crisis of mental health since your not dealing with emotions which would in turn help to move on from them! Validation of feelings is so power in the healing process and I feel due to traumatic childhood experiences of abuse it taught me it’s not ok to be validated...I’m not worthy...how I feel does not matter! The biggest piece of healing for me was the validation I received from therapy and it has helped me begin to become unstuck! Thank you for starting this conversation😊

[@ElishaCeleste]

Sharon - you're welcome, and thank YOU for commenting and sharing your own experiences with healing trauma, the pain of invalidation and the healing power of validation. 💜

[@amerc453]

Thank you for your work - it's honest, transparent, and wholesome!

[@ElishaCeleste]

Thanks for watching 💛

[@jessebruya9131]

Oh man this one sure hit heavy And thank you for bringing this up. I think you are talking about emotional nervous system proprioception. Similar to bare footing feedback to how our muscles, ligaments tendons all need the input of pain and discomfort to find best movement. So does my nervous system. I need to feel these inputs and be intentional with them instead of dumping or burying. It’s a little overwhelming having so much broken shit to deal with but I imagine it gets easier with practice.

[@ElishaCeleste]

Jesse - LOVE the topic you're bringing up. This is something I talk a lot about in my online courses (especially Mind Body Breakthrough). There are nerve receptors called interoceptors that are responsible for detecting what is us, vs what is not us. Then there's exteroception, which are nerve receptors responsible for detecting our external environment. Combined with proprioception, nociception and neuroception, these are our SENSES for knowing who we are, where we are and what's going on inside our body vs outside the body. Once we get familiar with our senses (we have many more than just the 5 we're taught we have), then we can consciously work with each of them separate from each other, but in connection. For example we might be able to use the proprioception process to follow our inner movements - bodily movements inside (like how our organs are functioning, or to direct blood flow with our consciousness), while knowing what is us vs NOT us (like perhaps an invading toxin, that we can identify and move out). And YES - all of this gets easier with practice, and can even be FUN.

[@tonia52966.]

Thank you so much for posting this! I suffered a lot of sexual abuse when I was a child from three years old to 11 years old, I am in the process now of trying to have the man who molested me thrown in jail. Lately I’m having extreme difficulty in my neck and shoulder area, and my upper back with tension when I move my head forward or backwards there’s pain I can’t look to the left or the right totally. I have limited range of motion. I’ve been having Rolfing sessions trying to help I need all the help I can get so I appreciate you posting this.❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@ElishaCeleste]

Hi - I'm only just now seeing your comment, and had to reply. I have sexual trauma in my past as well, I'm so sorry you went through it too. I hope you've been able to use some of my videos to help your body/nervous system. And good for you to look your past head on and do the hard work of healing! It takes great courage. 💛

[@marlaadamson1633]

Excellent. Name it, feel it, thank it, put it away.

[@poshmama24]

Oooo so powerful and against the grain! I love this! I’m unfolding so many methods of going against mainstream teachings and it feels very in alignment! Thank you for this!

[@ElishaCeleste]

You're welcome, thank you for watching and sharing your thoughts! That feeling of alignment is really what we're after 💛

[@wendybrooks5552]

Thanks. Body mindfulness explained🙏

[@spinnettdesigns]

Thank you Celeste, I so agree with you! Also, thank you for introducing me to block therapy (life changing) Acknowledging what is, is the only way to face it and then be able to let it go. Without a target for honest reflection, nothing can be addressed! That’s one reason that I love tapping (here in KZbin with Brad Yates) because one always starts with the negative feelings first. I do one almost every day and it’s been huge for me. Thank you again ❤

[@natnelans]

I am impressed. I absolutely agree. Telling myself that I am happy and healthy and everything is Ok always felt like a lie. We know enough about the brain to know that you can't lie to it. The only thing that helps is to go do happy movement -- walk in the daylight, dance, arms up yoga poses -- anything to turn on survival circuits

[@ElishaCeleste]

Thanks for watching and commenting. The movement piece is great to remember, because we CAN change our state with movement, absolutely. And it can be very healing. I also think it's worth considering that if we have a lot of unused fight or flight in the body, we might think about using that unused energy (which can feel like anxiety) to fight or run. If we allow ourselves to complete the process physically, sometimes the energy will move out.

[@jonnyb12]

This seems to resonate with EFT tapping where the first stage is to acknowledge the feelings that you have. You can't release them until you've acknowledged them first. From here you move on to actions (tapping) to encourage healing.. Great video.

[@MsJayneA]

Acknowledging what is has been a powerful tool for myself.

[@ElishaCeleste]

🙌🏽💛 It's one of the MOST powerful tools we have for alignment and healing.

[@BeStillandKnow0000]

I tried this! and I vocalized: "I feel unwelcomed and unsafe in your presence" something that I must be holding on to for a long time... thank you for this

[@angelmcglasson2622]

Oh wow!!!! This was my experience most of my life- others invalidating my feelings!!!! I was laughed at so much for my emotions and was even told that the others’ responses were my fault because I had not ignored them!!!! Thank you for this advice!

[@donnashepherd3272]

Thank you! I can relate. You articulated how affirmations could have a harmful affect with it's associated with a dismissal of trauma. I'm looking forward to the next video. Blessings and prayers.

[@ElishaCeleste]

Thanks for watching Donna (and thank you for sharing your thoughts). I released a follow up video today actually, with a tangible practice for doing this via the body 😊

[@fckyafeelingz4064]

Damn!!! I got chills hearing this from another person.

[@jessebruya9131]

Ditto

[@laurie3147]

I just discovered you! Your videos are spot on! Thank you!!

[@deancamp6836]

Wow Elisha your explanation of what affirmations are really doing blew my mind! You are absolutely right. I had heard they do not work but not a reason behind it. Thank you so much for the work your doing in getting this information out there!

[@ElishaCeleste]

You're welcome! So glad this resonated 😊

[@shaz_66]

Thank you Elisha! Looking forward to your Kinetix workshop this coming Sunday!! 💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼

[@ElishaCeleste]

Yay!!! Me too! So excited you'll be joining 🥳

[@steffibaker6121]

Great explanation for why affirmations sometimes not only don't work, they can actually be harmful.

[@barbgreen7569]

What you are saying is so true. Thank you so much for what you are sharing. It’s awesome

[@angelicmunday3767]

Thank You so very much! You are an amazing person. Video by video, you have been literally saving my life. I'm in tears from this particular video. I can't believe that not only do you understand, but your ideas, thoughts, suggestions have made more sense & helped me more than any psychiatrist I've ever spoken with. I'm just speechless. I don't know what to say, but thank you. From the very first video I saw, I've felt that you were my own personal miracle. I can't say thank you enough ❤

[@ElishaCeleste]

Oh wow! You're so welcome. I'm really moved by what you've shared here. I'd love to know more about exactly what has been helpful to you, and what brought you to my channel in the first place. I'd like to make more video like this one, so feedback from you would help me know what kinds of content to make. Sending you so much love, I'm glad you're here! 💛

[@spanishsky1840]

Thank you 🙏🏻

[@njo2770]

Thanks for sharing. Watching your videos on a loop.

[@Just.a.girl.doing.her.dharma]

This makes so much sense. Saying it aloud. So it has been said the air (elements) has a way of burning things when said out loud. But this was more for when you are gaining knowledge and certain processes. That it is best not to talk about it at all. The air can burn them and you may never see them come true or to fruition. I wonder 🤔 if the air is helping to burn those emotions. I’m definitely going to try this.

[@stevenpark6492]

Amazing! Love this body work- trauma connection. Thanks

[@ElishaCeleste]

You're welcome, thanks for watching!

[@karolw5840]

I agree with You 100%. This has come to me a few days ago and You confim it.

[@hjordisbradley3532]

This is great to know. I have found this to be true and helpful

[@clairec.3485]

Hi Elisha, thanks for highlighting (once again) that different things work for different people. While I understand the mechanism of positive psychology and how it can be beneficial, I think it’s very important to acknowledge emotions and allow ourselves to feel the way we feel. I believe the trick is to learn to acknowledge it in order to accept it, let go of it and move on, and identify that it’s an emotion and not who we are, which is why saying “I feel...” is much better than “I am [insert emotion]”, the latter making us confuse our own identity with that of an emotion. Personally I find acknowledging my emotions, allowing them to exist and THEN adopting some concepts of positive psychology, or giving myself some self-care/love works for me.

[@ElishaCeleste]

Hey Claire, thank you for sharing your thoughts! I am 100% on board with optimism and positive self stalk. I share your strategy of acknowledging what is or what I feel AND I always keep an eye on possibility (one of my top personal core values). I appreciate you taking the time to share!

[@stacielivinthedream8510]

I completely agree with you!!!

[@ElishaCeleste]

Thanks for watching!

[@seashellz321]

LOVE your content! I have finally been able to get my lower back and hips in alignment from the fascia release techniques you have taught us! I resonate with this video because I also "learned" to NAME IT through... ? Intuition? Channeling? I don't know, but it works! I then ask it why it's there... 🙌🦋

[@swedensufal]

I also have similar experiences and I am suffering from CFS/Fibromyalgia for a very long time. Thank you for sharing your perspective. I will try this new approach.

[@ElishaCeleste]

You're so welcome Mohammad, and please see my follow up video to this one where I describe one possible way to engage this practice using fascia release to create mind-body alignment 😊

[@swedensufal]

@@ElishaCeleste Thanks for the recommendation.

[@BA-tu5eb]

This is well taken, in line with Dr. Caroline Leaf's work

[@aquaseahorselove3939]

Caroline Leaf’s teachings are transforming. I have her CD set Switch on Your Brain that I listen to all the time when I’m driving.

[@muravitskaya]

Thank Elisha! This is great emotional literacy work!

[@lotuslightheart]

When I listen to this talk yesterday, it was like so exactly what I was working on yesterday. I only did like a 10 minute meditation earlier in the day, when I took a break from working for another woman. During this short meditation time, I was like I was trying to drop into my meditation, but I realize like I was having all these feelings that were like blocking me from dropping into the comfortable inner space. I had to say, OK what am I feeling? what is my body feeling? I was feeling nervous and kind of afraid that I had told the woman that I was doing work for that. I needed to leave now and I said those words. I felt like afraid for stating what I needed. I had to go back to myself and think about what kind of things were happening in my body, it felt like my throat was tight like because of the fear of saying what I needed. Then I started thinking about human needs, and for some reason it just brought me back to when I was young. It seemed that when I was young to me that my connections about expressing my needs, that I had been kind of emotionally manipulated to feel like my needs didn’t matter. So I either shut down or I probably just stopped trying because I realize that I wasn’t getting anywhere, besides being shamed or guilted. Then I realized how sad that it was, and I had to just feel sad for myself for a minute and like feel compassion for The person that felt sad. I think my inner child felt afraid to express needs because my parents didn’t validate my needs. I had to have compassion for myself. It made me feel like I’m getting better. Thank you Elicia for talking about this emotional intelligence and body intelligence mixed together. It’s a real game changer, so thank you. I love you, Elisha.

[@MicheleSwihart]

Thank you for TRUTH, this just totally resonated.

[@ElishaCeleste]

Thank you for watching, and sharing that this resonates!

[@tahiyamarome]

Nicely put forward. I have gained tremendous traction w tara brach's RAIN process that fits well w your premise

[@ElishaCeleste]

Someone else said the same thing, so I'll definitely have to check out her work.

[@jessicaferguson9753]

So simple, or it should be. And so true. This resonates with the Christian practice of confessing the truth. If you're living in lies, it is a sickness to your body and spirit. But it's not easy to bring the darkness to the light.

[@Camila-hv7ve]

this is incredible, I agree with you. such a simple pratice. i have been in a constant state of physical anxiety and stress for the last two weeks - my life has changed dramatically and I do realize Im not giving myself the space to feel this way in the first place. I try but it seems to be conditional. I will try this, thankyou!

[@ElishaCeleste]

You're so welcome! I'm glad this resonates. And yes - as simple as it is, it's not the "easy" way. It takes courage to simply name and feel "what is" when it's painful. If you're new to my channel, welcome! You may find my most recent video helpful as well, it's about releasing emotions/trauma from the body in a gentle, exploratory way.

[@Camila-hv7ve]

@@ElishaCeleste i will check it out, thankyou!! Very excited to watch more of your content

[@MS-bs8dd]

So simple but so powerful, I’m feeling....

[@BaishiMusic]

Thank you! I hope your channel grows so much!

[@josephmartinlowsky4178]

This feels right. I feel like I need to feel these feelings (yes, I know... feel, feel, feel.) It feels like a violation to try to force them away and it feels like lying to say that I'm feeling otherwise. The only problem is that it seems like there's no end to them. No matter how long I feel them, they remain.

[@ElishaCeleste]

Thank you for the thoughtful comment. Feeling the feelings and being honest with ourselves is only one helpful process towards a life of healing, freedom and integrity. If you want to get somewhere new, you have to A) have a destination mapped out, B) know where you are, and C) map a path from where you are today to where you want to be. I don't know what it is you don't want to feel anymore, but my position is that we can't just eliminate feelings. That would create a vacuum, empty space. We can transmute and transform feelings. We can alchemize them. But we can't just erase them. This is true of physical pain as well as emotions, memories, anxiety etc.

[@Psychedelic_Wolf]

Totally support you, here is the comment, thank you for helping me with my fascia. I make music and sing and it’s really changing my life, meditation and progression 🙏

[@ElishaCeleste]

Wow, thank you for sharing! Helping you sing and make music and create positive change for you, that feels great to hear 😊

[@Psychedelic_Wolf]

@@ElishaCeleste Well you’re very welcome and I again I am very grateful for the insight. Any specific tips for aligning lower back and or releasing pelvic fascia?

[@Caroline-Horvath-Rivera]

This video was so beautiful and even made me release a few tears. ❤

[@ElishaCeleste]

Aww, yay 💛

[@couldbedreaming6330]

I’m glad I found you. I haven’t had a look at much you’ve put up yet, but this is a very good start. I know for myself that nothing makes me more anxious than lies, and those affirmations have always felt like lies to me. Thank you for this

[@ElishaCeleste]

Welcome, glad you're here - maybe it's my aversion to lies as well. No matter how painful, I'd rather hear/speak the truth. Thank you for sharing 💛

[@RWelsh-ro9gb]

Agreed.

[@mfr58]

Thanks. In my experience, feelings are best allowed to flow in a way, as adults, we can do safely and responsibly, the affirmation and rebuilding work is important too, in order to learn a new way of being. But unless we allow the feelings already generated to be expressed, the body and/or mind will continue to hold them and the rebuilding work cannot be authentically achieved. Healthy children allow feelings to pass through them readily, one minute crying dramatically, the next they are playing with joy. As adults we need to find ways of allowing our feelings to pass through us, without repression....part of the way is to learn that feelings and the emotions that arise, are essentially transient and we are best not to use them to inform our behaviour, rather develop our adult self as an observer of feelings....allowing them, but keeping them in perspective....and using heart wisdom to guide right action....maybe easier said than done!

[@ElishaCeleste]

Definitely easier said than done! And I love what you said about heart wisdom. Indeed, I think our task is to transform our feelings into higher perceptions that can guide our actions in life with loving wisdom. Thanks for sharing!

[@wildeslothe5475]

Exactly, wonderful explanation. Common sense wins.

[@ElishaCeleste]

Thanks for watching!

[@fionaparker6803]

You look very beautiful in this video. You’re glowing ! Xx

[@cheeseburgersandwich4497]

Good stuff as always Elisha! Mantras and positive affirmations just never felt right and true to me, so I could never get myself to do them. I found that when I started to embrace my anxiety and stop resisting it, which is a natural reaction to most of us I would say, it calmed my nervous system so much faster! When I'm anxious, I validate my feelings and hold space for them. It's been an incredible and powerful tool for me🙏

[@ElishaCeleste]

Yay! I always love hearing about other people's stories/experiences working with their body, anxiety etc. Thanks for sharing!

[@sdmains]

Thank you for sharing this valuable information!

[@kennystauffer2220]

Thank you for sharing your insight. You're right, self-affirmation ("I am loved") is good so far as it goes, but it's also important to give voice to the full range of what one is feeling.

[@kellinachbar1962]

Thank you for this! Aligns perfectly with Tara Brach's RAIN process for lovingly recognizing emotions.

[@ElishaCeleste]

You're welcome, thanks for watching! And I've heard of Tara Brach but haven't actually watched/read or engaged with her content. I know there are other people out there teaching this, which is wonderful!

[@kellinachbar1962]

@@ElishaCeleste check out her RAIN process when you get a chance. I think you will really like it.

[@lauradungan]

Layla Martin, too!

[@lorenegibson2946]

validation. It does help to get past to healing.

[@mariahill4339]

Thank you for this suggestion! Acceptance of what is instead of fighting or fearing it..... Looking forward to practicing this in my life 🤗

[@ElishaCeleste]

You're welcome, I hope this practice serves you as well as it has me!

[@AnthonySchneider1990]

Thank you so much for this ❤️ I've been using your diaphragm release video, since after trying to work out physical tension on my body actively since last April, I've discovered that that's where my underlying muscle spasms originate from. I know that the the pain is also tied to emotions, and you've put into words something I've experienced myself over and over. It feels like a very slow and steady journey, but like real progress has happened as well. Thanks for your advice!

[@ElishaCeleste]

You're welcome! Thanks for watching. I'm so glad the diaphragm video has been awesome for you - that one has helped me a ton in the past, and now I love using the gut/vagus nerve release (combining the two can be very powerful). Yes, this can feel like a slow/steady journey, but I do believe that our attempts to shortcut/hack our way through healing trauma so often backfire anyway...leaving us with more work to do over an even longer period of time than letting go into an organic process.

[@AnthonySchneider1990]

@@ElishaCeleste totally! I started with this pain around 10 years ago, and the Coronavirus silver lining for me is that it's given me the time off from work to finally really work on finding a solution for myself that actually sticks. I specifically came across your video after searching for a diaphragm release I could do myself like my osteopath had shown me after she's the first person to correctly identify the issue. Yours was the one video I found that actually made sense for self manipulation! All the others were done by someone on a patient so weren't that helpful.

[@marie-shirley]

Merci.

[@susannatinsley6177]

Very good information. Thank you 😊

[@ElishaCeleste]

Thanks for watching!

[@asiseesit6032]

Thank you, I am just starting to explore your channel. I first used your gut fascia technique and I felt really good after that.

[@ElishaCeleste]

You're welcome! That gut release is one of my favorites - glad you like it!

[@kristinedorsett8038]

Thank you😊

[@cynthiacramer5879]

These are very good points, thank you for sharing

[@florentinosanchez3969]

great video

[@Archiebean]

The secret is the word 'feel'. It goes wrong when people say 'am'. Feel is not permanent, am is.

[@altonlg24]

@7:45 what might happen? I was at my mom's the other week and prepared her some very healthy food with fermented cooked beans and sourdough bread. She wound up not being able to finish it. We went outside on the porch and was talking and i voiced how I felt disappointed. I felt relieved, and it was let go. It is helpful to seek to understand oneself and others.

[@newatthis50]

This makes sense

[@seemesolve]

Your explanation is so insightful. Thank you!

[@ElishaCeleste]

You're welcome, glad you found it helpful 😊

[@ParisLatka]

Yes, totally agree and thank you for voicing this. What is best to do next after the feeling is acknowledged? Thank you!

[@ElishaCeleste]

I believe this is unique to each of us, and unique to each feeling/release. Sometimes I've had moments of extreme clarity after acknowledging what I feel, such as knowing that I need to confront my parents about something, or knowing that I need to set better boundaries in my professional life, or getting an aha about a food I'm eating (or not eating, that would be good for me). Too often I think we try to predict AHEAD of time what to do next...but I really love letting go of that mental chatter, and letting the inner KNOWING come to me through my willingness to be honest and acknowledge what is.

[@MaybemMakeup]

I enjoy your work. I will be sure to comment more in often.

[@ElishaCeleste]

Thank you Mari 💛 and I'm glad to hear you enjoy the videos!

[@agirlinterupted]

I love it. How do you grow in this way with people ( my husband, etc ) who invalidate your feelings a lot of the time. How can I self validate to heal and grow.

[@ElishaCeleste]

Oh man. This is THE question - isn't it? I don't know if I have any answers for you. All I can tell you is that in my own life, I have consistently chosen to date men who could mirror to me my childhood wounds (so I could heal them). We have a tendency to choose people who represent the ones (usually parents) who created the circumstances in which we became wounded in the first place: through invalidation of emotions or physical pain, neglect, abuse, shaming, punishing etc. You asked a GREAT question inside your larger question: how can I self validate to heal and grow? BEAUTIFUL. What I do (and maybe this is helpful for you) is use any and every life experience that triggers me into a wounded state...and then, I trace things back to their origins. To the experiences of being 8 or 10 or 14 when I felt hurt, invisible, invalidated etc. And I ask myself "what did 8 year old me need? What did I need when my dad spoke to me like that at age 14?" And I give that to myself NOW. If you don't know about The Holistic Psychologist, I highly recommend following her on Instagram. She also just released a book that I'm eager to read called "How to Do The Work". You might find that helpful. And I intend to film a lot more videos on trauma patterns, how they impact our bodies and what we can do to heal from a body-based perspective. Thank you so much for the beautiful question. Please keep commenting and let me/us know what you're wondering about on the journey. It will help me film content for YOU (and everyone else that needs these kinds of videos). 💛

[@agirlinterupted]

@@ElishaCeleste thank you so much for your reply ❤

[@suzanahas4740]

Makes sense! Thank you!

[@ElishaCeleste]

Thank you for watching!

[@SidewaysStewie]

It doesn't look like a shadowban, you showed up in my YT recommended :). Your method is how Andreas Moritz said best to handle your feelings when you stop smoking.

[@ElishaCeleste]

Thanks for letting me know! Some of my subscribers have actually said that they no longer saw my videos on their YT homepage as recommended. Shadow bans can be lifted, too. I'm pretty sure I was in the YT doghouse for my interview with Andrew Kaufman last year (Andy has been canceled and banned just about everywhere since then).

[@SidewaysStewie]

@@ElishaCeleste I'm sure an interview with Andrew isn't the best idea for maintaining a channel here on themtube but without RFB his views were insignificant for themtube to bother much. Part of it must also be a massive shift in interest since last year. You can clearly see in the streets people are now interested in selfharm and traumatizing children :) (if you are on an Andy basis with Andrew it might also be time to make sure with which people you like to be on such basis, just my humble opinion)

[@sleepinglioness5754]

I'm missing something: you're saying acknowledge it, versus invalidating it/suppressing it, etc., and then what? What do you do after that?

[@ElishaCeleste]

The "then what" will be unique to each of us. And I believe we can only know what comes next (after allowing ourselves to feel what we feel without condemning or escaping those feelings) when we stop trying to figure it out ahead of time. For me personally, this practice has led me to know I needed to set boundaries with my family, have a conversation with someone, speak my truth in a new way or any one of a thousand different things that I gained clarity about by allowing myself to simply feel without my mind getting in the way of "then what?" Does that make sense?

[@sleepinglioness5754]

@@ElishaCeleste Yes, that makes good sense. We need to look around us and make some changes, see what (who) is adding to/causing a lot of this, eliminate or change our surroundings....not to enable our anxiety, but to alleviate or reduce it. A whole new journey; may be lonely at times, but liberating. Wonderful message and thank you for your answer.

[@Dimadick]

After listening to the above my first reaction is: what a pity that you are not a doctor or a psychiatrist or a therapist because you do seem to have a crucial understanding about how the feelings in our bodies and the chatter in our heads may interact!

[@AllieUK]

❤

[@taruhildebrand7253]

👏👏👏👍👍👍

[@lizsteilkie]

We cannot heal if we do not know wha/ is wrong. Having bandaids does not work...your feelings must be identified processed and let go go. With continued monitoring we can learn that feelings are valid signals about our lives but don't have to run it...

[@jarno_art]

Ive had bad stomach solar plexus cramps for around 16 years related to emotional stress, but last weeks its become very intense also going to my throat a lot spreading the tension.. which gives me this kind of choke/gag feeling.. this really sends me into panic since my biggest fears is throwing up.. do u have any tips or videos on this? :( thanks a lot..