😡 this wedding INVASION is WRONG! 😤

[@PerformanceClean]

As a 30 year hospitality and event professional, this story pisses me off. Thanks for sharing.

[@VanessaJoy]

my pleasure :-)

[@762MusicFan]

I have never heard of pop up weddings. I can't believe the photographer was ok with the situation. The audacity of the bride, groom, wedding party, & the photographer is off the charts.

[@okeefest]

They should have called the police and had them arrested. The photographer could have taken the mugshots.

[@Edwin1947D]

“ignorance?” Maybe - but more likely “arrogance”

[@MatthewVickersPhoto]

This wasn’t a professional photographer. This was a friend with a camera. That’s who that was. No professional would have signed a wedding that was going to do this.

[@petervives7033]

Thank you for bringing this up. Learned something new today and am very grateful for this insight. Courtesy and respect is fading away but from time to time a great example of it occurs, and it’s like a stunning sunrise or sunset. Sadly this was not one of those moments!

[@derbagger22]

I was waiting for the rant on the photographer! You did not disappoint.

[@VanessaJoy]

😂

[@sbai4319]

Totally gross act and a reflection of society today! Some people are so self involved and have no conscience. And it got worse!

[@sarahmocke]

This is a great story. Please keep telling stories.

[@SweetenMiller]

Please keep doing podcasts like this possibly with behind the scenes info like this. I live in a small town with lots of wineries and could see this happening at any one of them. Someone earlier mentioned the arrogance of people; then thinking they had done nothing wrong. People are insane! Cheers to the coffee shop!!! We need more coffee shops like this with the brave souls that work there!

[@roundsjr]

Captivating story. Thank you for sharing! I couldn't NOT listen 'til the end.

[@VanessaJoy]

Glad you enjoyed it!

[@dtgenty1]

I'd listen to you on a pod! I've listened to you specifically when you're on other pod's like Behind the Shot. A combination of your bts on photography but then also photography horror stories would be so engaging!

[@VanessaJoy]

Hmmm could be fun

[@cosmo0080]

that marriage will not last if that is how they treat others at some point they will treat each other the same

[@VanessaJoy]

Oof. Interesting perspective tho

[@cosmo0080]

logical @@VanessaJoy

[@TheNewMexicoMan]

These are the type of people who are proud of themselves that scammed someone out of something at the expense of others. What's troubling is the the entire wedding party was in on it and willingly went along with this. The Photographer was probably a family friend or relative because this couple was probably too cheap to hire a professional. These people are the same type as those bargain hunting brides who want me be discount my talent 25% to shoot their wedding so they can honeymoon in Tuscany. I don't do discounts - EVER!

[@pembridgehouse]

Well done for exposing this Vanessa.

[@pauls1ngh]

I love the outrage. My emotions and anticipation jumping up & down like your camera's autofocus 😂

[@VanessaJoy]

😂 I feel that

[@pauls1ngh]

@@VanessaJoy 😂😂😂😂👍

[@jhenry248]

Great podcast, good information on proper decorum. But the wrap up was priceless...🤣🤣🤣

[@VanessaJoy]

😁

[@jbivphotography]

I had no idea that people were doing this. THE WORST!!

[@VanessaJoy]

Crazy right??

[@danilofajardo6175]

Great video! Glad you talked about this small business and what they went through. The story at the end was also funny! LOL 😂

[@VanessaJoy]

hahaha - crazy right?

[@rhussey]

I couldn’t imagine that much spur of the moment planning for such an important day. A nice gift 💐 for a small inconvenience

[@robdlain9145]

🤣🤣🤣 The end of this vlog was the best part.

[@VanessaJoy]

😂

[@aaroncaseyfilmphotography6862]

Excellent points for sure! And I think you should keep doing this podcast format...but, you may consider having your camera in manual focus mode, because it is hunting a ton!

[@VanessaJoy]

Ugh I know. Was my fault, I set it wrong

[@michaelheliker2835]

That's a pretty tacky wedding group. I do appreciate the honest perspective... helps validate what I was thinking as well.. I feel the wedding group needs to pay the invoice in full and send along an apology bouquet as well!

[@VanessaJoy]

Absolutely!!

[@matthydephotography9742]

I'd have been reimbursing myself with the contents of their purses and wallets they asked me to look after 😂

[@VanessaJoy]

LMFAO

[@ThomHadel]

i mean.... it's only fair... :)

[@nickseth-smith2920]

Tempting but unfortunately that second wrong doesn't make a right. Better to call the police and complain about them making a public nuissance. It may be hard on the couple but I'm sure the original idea was theirs so they should accept a good portion of the blame. That being said I 100% agree with Vanessa that the photographer should have refused to go along with this.

[@o.aldenproductions.9858]

It's in the spirit of: I'm taking my dog with me on the plane and lie that it's an emotional support animal just because I want to. Or I'm taking the grocery basket from the store with me home and never return it because now I have to pay for a plastic bag The knowledge of why stealing and lying isn't good for anyone is completely gone from young people nowadays.. entitlement entitlement 😩

[@reneefariasphoto40]

I would never recommend a lawsuit... but I would in this case. Not only for all the things you mentioned, but also, for IP... the reason many places charge for these types of locations is the property licensing... Intellectual Property is still alive and well. Much more to say, but I will now hold my tongue. Thanks for sharing.

[@chrisgalephoto]

So that's where I left it! But yes, I feel like the pop-up wedding trend is definitely an unholy amalgamation of social media influencer stunts and young people not having money that hopefully doesn't stick around.

[@iamvictorperez1482]

Btw the surprise under the bed is hilarious 😂 Also your scene setup for this is very pleasing to eye Keep it up 🤙

[@VanessaJoy]

Thanks! 😁

[@simonsen7621]

Your content is a huge inspiration. Love your work, love your style, love your videos. Cheers from Brazil! Hope to see you here someday! 🇧🇷

[@VanessaJoy]

Brigada!!!

[@kh1188ish]

Good to call this out. I wonder if the photographer was really a “professional”? Sounds more like something a friend with a camera (taking pictures for free) would do.

[@VanessaJoy]

Could be

[@ScottRadfordChisholm]

Cannot believe people would even CONSIDER doing this. Just wrong wrong wrong !!

[@gregcorker2193]

Great lesson; engagingly delivered.

[@VanessaJoy]

Glad to hear it!

[@Hangiinjohnny]

That’s insanity, a park is one thing but shutting down a business? Come on

[@AydinProductionsLtd]

Somehow you popped up on my feed! Been too many years Vanessa hope your well !

[@VanessaJoy]

Hey hey!

[@IsaiahMcAllisterImagery]

Bet this couple is going to put the “needing a permit for photography” right back onto their photographer, which is actually their problem… but still. So many Red Flags about these types.

[@VanessaJoy]

soooo many

[@NEILAMALONE]

This is completely wrong! Whoever was the driving force behind it was completely in the wrong. The wedding party are lucky the staff took the steps they did, other places may not be as courteous. Bit of a shame they were afraid to take steps to kick them.out due to potential reactions. Anyone using a private space for a wedding/event needs to arrange it in advance, this is unacceptable behaviour by those involved in the wedding!

[@LGS_Inc]

That whole situation is hilarious. I can’t believe that the couple thought it was OK to do that in the first place. The staff should’ve told them to leave regardless, that’s kind of an L on their part. Better choices could have been made on both sides 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@PrairieDad]

Story time: Years ago I worked maintenance for an apartment company. One tenant requested a repair in their apartment hallway, so I let myself in after getting their permission. Doing this repair meant kneeling down low on the ground. The lights were dim and I didn't pay attention to the kids' toys on the floor. After a few minutes I have to reach and grab a tool, and found something --- silicone-y. I looked and saw a glittery device that was NOT A CHILDREN'S TOY. They never got me flowers, either.

[@VanessaJoy]

HAHAHHA a glitter one? Awesome

[@taranicholephoto4689]

Ok this story was good but then end story takes the cake 😂

[@VanessaJoy]

😂

[@davidstone408]

Wow - how can anyone be so entitled and rude

[@PhilipRanson-d5t]

They should have written a bill for this as that is the spaces business,pop up or not.

[@brent_f]

Obviously this wasn’t spontaneous. They must have planned and scouted the place thinking it’s fun and whimsical buts it’s not. When it impacts people outside their circle, it’s just plain wrong. The photographer, also, can’t claim ignorance; he/ she has to ask the right questions before the shoot. Love these stop and chats / rants Vanessa. You should definitely do more of them.

[@VanessaJoy]

Haha will do - glad you like!

[@chosenbydesign9007]

Microphone rear hole auto focus. (reminder to self, do not use a white microphone with a black rear din plug placed in front of the subject ) thank you for sharing the story. To interrupt a family business for their gain is/was/will be a curse for their wedding, surely not a blessing for all. To interrupt so severely a private family owned business is like taking food out of their children's mouth .... horrible.

[@ThomHadel]

oooh.... i've done one of these... train wreck insues... (couple is already divorced) felt really bad about the park we were located at... good story at the end!😉

[@ThomHadel]

...and you should do something podcast... podcasty?.... even if it's while editing or talking to a client or even a photo shoot... simple screenflow podcast... it might work!

[@VanessaJoy]

hmmmm maybe!

[@ShadyJay77]

False sense of entitlement is a real thing. I’ve seen a video of a woman who pulled into a stranger’s driveway and started using someone’s Tesla charger without permission and proceeded to explain without leaving that they were pregnant and no one was using it. Unbelievable

[@VanessaJoy]

Wow 😮

[@isaacmorales4859]

Vanessa your right, now take a deep breath and thank u for caring for small business. oh by the way hairdo looks great on u.

[@VanessaJoy]

😊 thank you

[@MaryAnnWamboldt]

I heard about this story. It was, without a doubt, incredibly inconsiderate of the couple to do this. Performing a popup wedding in a park is one thing but in a busy coffee shop, while ordering staff around, leaving stuff everywhere and re-ranging the place is quite another. Personally I don't think the photographer involved was a professional. Most professional photographers would have enough sense to not be involved in something like this, would not block a business entrance and would go through the right channels for a permit. That and the fact that the bride felt that the $500 fee was too much makes me think the photographer involved was has having one of those " I'm doing it for the exposure moments". Hopefully anyone considering a popup wedding will hear this story and consider the impact their wedding may have on others.

[@E1gardo]

Great video. I’m now subscribed but just out of curiosity: what kept making your camera to lose focus? It was a tad distracting.

[@VanessaJoy]

I set it wrong

[@JohnArcaraPhotography]

Oh my! Can you imagine if this happened at RED TANK BREWING!?!?! There would be blood! I would get screwed on more levels than most! hahah

[@VanessaJoy]

lol yeah you would

[@PostColorGear]

a couple thoughts so people can breath, and sleep at night. 1. I don't think that photographer was a professional. Professionals know better. If they, apparently, didnt even have the money to rent a place, there's NO WAY they paid for a professional photographer. 2. Don't lose your hope on society, people. This was one loser couple, not a trend. And while I hope they did pay for what they did...I actually hope they also "pay" for what they did. I feel as if even they "reimburse" the business, they still stole. And stealing.....has consequences. This is not a situation where you get off "scot free" and it's "better to ask for forgiveness than permission".

[@Dawnnidol]

vanessa is so angry that the autofocus couldnt keep up

[@VanessaJoy]

HAHAHAH that's exactly what happened

[@DavidAlanReece]

Send invoice...small claims court. There is historical proof that this location offers the service of these types of events. No way they will not win.

[@thats_mr_b_]

This is good education as far as finding out for even newbie photographers, who have good editing skills that may not know that they need to find out if there is a permit involved where they would be shooting. Now attitude towards a business worker that's one thing that professional or not you just should not do especially if you know you're blocking customers. Didn't sucks I know I bet that people not even with a visiting radius of this coffee shop attacked that couple in their inbox. I bet somebody shamed her on her image, the husband's image, maybe a death threat, or other forms of threats. Because that's what people do, thumb warriors who come attack people even if they don't affect your sleep.

[@VanessaJoy]

Ugh I hope that last part isn’t true. Just taking it way too far

[@thats_mr_b_]

@@VanessaJoy I see it all the time. People send death threats to tv actors because what they are doing in the show.

[@marvinbluephotographyandfilm]

Well this was some good tea!!

[@VanessaJoy]

Heck yeah

[@krieseljoris]

A powerbank for free: always nice! 😂

[@VanessaJoy]

lol it would’ve been!

[@nickseth-smith2920]

Well said! I hope your blood pressure drops soon. BTW. Please turn your camera to manual focus - it keep hunting between you and your microphone. I'm sure it;s a great mic but I think we're here to see you.

[@picjv]

The video is awesome, and I love it. It seems like the camera was breathing a lot and the focus was on the mic. Just wanted to let you know.

[@VanessaJoy]

Yeah had a self filming error but didn’t want to through away the video entirely

[@picjv]

For sure! No shade, just wanted to bring it to your attention.@@VanessaJoy

[@jeffreyhill4705]

This is why “No professional photographers allowed “ signs keep appearing in my area.

[@nicholasdargus401]

Am partway through the video but can’t help notice the focus keeps bouncing between you and the mic. 😂

[@VanessaJoy]

Yeah. Self filming sucks sometimes - hence the disclaimer at the beginning of the video ☺️

[@RodrigoPolo]

Your mic doesn't need the pop filter

[@VanessaJoy]

It does - note the last few videos with it and everyone complaining at my “p”s 😂

[@richards1243]

Selfish people suck! So many of them out there now.

[@up-close]

What kind of camera area you using to record your podcasts? Might wanna have someone help you focus it on one spot, and put that sucker into manual mode so it doesn't keep doing that rack in and rack out mess.

[@VanessaJoy]

Just made a simple mistake and set my focus wrong - didn’t feel like throwing away the whole video for it 🤷🏻‍♀️ I have to self film A LOT, sadly I can’t make my husband come film whenever I need

[@up-close]

@@VanessaJoy Just put some fresh cookies by the camera or his favorite snacks when you need his help and do it routinely. Then we as men, by habit will attract to what we like and are hungry for, then you TACKLE HIM TO THE FLOOR! lol No just kidding. Then you say hey, run my camera. And he's stuck there because the food is there. lol

[@hawg427]

Totally wrong. They should have sent the Bride & Groom a bill. I'm surprised that the Police weren't called.

[@leonardotonin6201]

I admire you. They had one strong lack of elegance, respect. Worrying situation. well...

[@PrairieDad]

04:00 Now I want to sneak into your studio and play with your lights and backdrops. /s

[@VanessaJoy]

😂

[@jlawr4427]

How come you don't wear your wedding ring anymore? Are you still married? Did you move from New Jersey to Austin? Hope you are having a happy life.

[@VanessaJoy]

I’m still married, but I hate rings on me (most jewelry actually) so I don’t wear one ☺️ we’re in Austin now ☺️

[@JustMeVanessa]

What is the reason why is it going in and out, Vanessa? Is it the camera you are using?

[@VanessaJoy]

I had a brain fart and didn’t set it to spot focus and had it in area… totally my fault

[@JustMeVanessa]

@@VanessaJoy Oooh. Thanks so much for letting me know 😊❤️

[@TerryManning]

Which camera were you shooting with? Yeesh.

[@VanessaJoy]

Not the cameras fault. I had the AF set wrong on accident

[@donmaines]

Hmmm…..Been there done that.🙄

[@xxichikokoxx]

only $500 too? thats a steal for most venues.

[@SliverCreations]

Indeed. That was the first thing I thought. 500 for the weekend??? They should bump those numbers up

[@JimKilgo]

The “entitlement” generation! SMH 🤦‍♂️

[@jasongreenwood3260]

It's the entitlement of people today. I'm speechless.

[@rebegre]

I would like to give the photographer the benefit of the doubt, that maybe they were lied to by the bride and groom. But seriously this is so bad. They all should be ashamed of themselves.

[@VanessaJoy]

Ah true that’s also a possibility

[@The_WarL0rd_Way]

That is almost as bad as a smash & grab!

[@adrianvanleeuwen]

Short weddings are becoming quick and disposable just like the divorces that come next. :)

[@VanessaJoy]

lol true

[@bobpollack6894]

$200.00 token payment is a joke. That does not cover the salaries of the staff, lost of revenue from other costumers,let alone the cost of cleaning up after your so called wedding charades. This may be a good law suit!

[@CO8848_2]

This is good content. Thanks!

[@VanessaJoy]

Glad you liked it!

[@eileenpodonnell]

I'm upset at the couple too. Obviously, the photographer should have something, but this is just common decency that this is clearly wrong. Try it at a park, sure. In a business... horrible. I give the @mansionsocietyindy credit for not calling the police.

[@KennyKim]

Who's the photographer that agreed to work a wedding like this?!

[@VanessaJoy]

Definitely not me or you buddy 😉

[@ladylincoln6691]

So wrong..... This is what our society is all about today. Take what you want because you feel you deserve it. Disgusting...

[@Ranger7Studios]

Note to self: For the next time I travel... Plant toy under bed. Get free stuff. Got it. ✅ ;)

[@VanessaJoy]

😂

[@Riskbreaker2009]

The start portion has a lot of hunting

[@VanessaJoy]

Hence the disclaimer 😜

[@kennethlui2268]

People don't have common sense. Blocking the entrance and telling them to wait fxxking five minutes is unacceptable because reservation was not made. Rude.

[@rogermanning4353]

This happened near me, so, because I follow some pros in central Indiana I heard about it through the original Instagram posts (Thanks IG algorithm). Great that you are bringing the story to a wider audience. Unbelievably rude and selfish behavior. The photog should be banned from working all venues.

[@VanessaJoy]

I just hope the photographer was new and just didn't know any better and has since learned

[@HenryJones-kh6zx]

This is really just a snapshot of our society as a whole now. Take whatever you want and accept zero responsibility for your actions. As for future podcast ideas, perhaps permits and insurance, expounding on your NJ park issue when you had a permit but another party claimed your spot (without a permit) and were harassing you.

[@VanessaJoy]

Ha quite true

[@fredrogers4186]

Gee, I can only WONDER what age group is doing this and thinking it's totally okay. And I'll go you one better: twice in the last six months I've been called by 2nd- or 3rd-tier referrals asking if I'd be interested in taking wedding photos either the next afternoon or that SAME afternoon (they called around 9:00 a.m.) . . . and the best part? They were offering a whopping $50 and $100 respectively to shoot the photos. Both times the excuse for the laughable rate was . . . take a deep breath . . . " . . . because you're not really doing anything else this afternoon, are you?" I'm still angerlaughing (patent pending) about that. I wished both of couples well and politely told them to go f . . . find someone else.

[@VanessaJoy]

Whoa 🤯 that’s a heck of a gamble for them to just think it might work or maybe not get any photos. 😂 I love that they assume your batteries are charged and your gear is packed

[@guylawyer705]

Only problem, you can't patent "angerlaughing". Copyright it, maybe so, patent it, not so much.

[@RH-cv1rg]

It is called theft of service.

[@VanessaJoy]

Exactly.

[@zaidmuscle80]

You camera were focusing on the mic by the way

[@NoelDelPilar]

Wow!

[@VanessaJoy]

Right?

[@tysonator5433]

The photographer at this pop up weddings needs to be tracked down and shamed. Otherwise this gives others a green card of entitlement to do the same as there is minimum come back. Also the photographer can boast to other wedding parties how they can offer a pop up wedding g venue for free ! Come on people name and shame....

[@jimwlouavl]

Hard to believe this is a real story.

[@VanessaJoy]

It is hard to believe. NYT covered it too

[@vagaickie]

Oooh! Too many 'entitled' selfish people out there - ack!!

[@FernandoSLima]

hard to believe you asked the concierge to get rid of the object... :) Call the concierge and they will think it is mine and dont call the concierge and they will be sure it is mine... :D

[@VanessaJoy]

😂

[@charminbaer2323]

I'm sure you can figure out who the photographer is but you won't, and even less, call him/her out.

[@VanessaJoy]

Maybe but I have better things to do with my time 😜

[@charminbaer2323]

@@VanessaJoy so why even bring it up then. People need to be fully informed. Don’t be like the mainstream media and , ah fuck it, I have better things to do too! 😝😂

[@kellymorvant]

WOW! Thats a lot of nerve and just wrong in so many ways. It’s clearly theft of services. Why did you keep going out of focus? 😮

[@VanessaJoy]

Self filmed incorrectly and didn’t feel like refilming when I saw it 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@kellymorvant]

@@VanessaJoyI figured that. Loved the dildo segment hilarious 🤣 😂

[@corykphotography]

I had no idea this was a thing. That was awful of those people. Messed up.

[@VanessaJoy]

It's definitely a thing lol

[@ElevatedThreat]

Respect and courtesy are two things that are dying fast in our country. Take a look around you... Think deep on what's going on... Then take that thought with you when you go to vote. Just saying...

[@inframe-brooklyn993]

Just when you think you can't be surprised by the poor behavior of people you hear a story like this and once again have to adjust the bar of just how mindlessly selfish and boorish people can be. You keep calling them out V.

[@stevemeredith4689]

So arrogant those attending the pop-up wedding...

[@hokleung2660]

Can we safely assume there was no professional worked in this wedding.

[@VanessaJoy]

Probably

[@snappyft]

Shocking behaviour!