What's the most painful thing you've been told?

[@grace_ly]

isn’t it so scary to think we could be that person, telling someone the most hurtful thing they’ll ever hear?

[@DoomsDay.21]

No, because I've never been hurtful. Last time I've probably hurt someone was when i got into an argument with my parents. But as i grow up i mature and i'm just a Humble, Chill guy.

[@SRoseBlog]

Yes. Ive said mean things and hope those people internalize it and forgive me

[@AGKyran]

Not really. I know I hurt my parents and my sister with my words, but it was the result of them hurting me again and again. Otherwise I don't hurt people. I know it may happen that I say things a bit without thinking enough, but I'm great at observation so I know if it hits. And if it happens I'm gonna talk about it more and clarify. Because my intentions are to make people happy and feel good, I don't fear hurting because it always will be involuntarily and not something I really mean.

[@loveinthematrix]

Yes. No matter how much I change for the better - I will always be a really bad memory to someone. That’s why therapy and healing childhood trauma is so necessary. I now try to be conscious of everything I say to others especially when I feel hurt because I used to be really mean. Kindness and loving words to ourselves and others is where it’s at.

[@Heatherbeesknees123]

Yes absolutely terrifying it had me in my mind so deeply trying to remember if I said something so horrible to someone

[@_Nadine00]

The first guy's answer made me really sad. It was just a moment, perhaps that girl didn't even really mean it and probably she never thought about what she said ever again, yet for him being told that at an early age was painful enough that he can't consider himself handsome for the rest of his life.

[@katierojas8066]

Yeah, it’s not like he looks the same as he did in 8th grade.

[@lisarodriguez6966]

The filter he must see himself through. And his looks are nice.

[@Katowice_1]

for my opinion, its not being handsome but more likely being 'accepted' have u heard of the butterfly effect? i had the same experience as well, but the difference was, I endured those for 1 freaking school year, every single day, suicide always came to my mind as the last resort, i always asked myself until now... why prolong the agony? I was a transferee student before take note " i was a transferee student in a so called Christian School" if i was born an atheist maybe i already ended up my life. the urge is still there... and its becoming more powerful and aggressive day by day... so im glad that im still writing this and i hope you guys from the internet can read this and learn from it.

[@Forsaken0rder]

Get out of the maze, first guy!

[@Lesaloote]

Makes me think back to that one time in junior high school, we were trying to play volleyball and one boy took our ball and started doing tricks with it, and at one point I told him "you're not impressing anyone, just give us the ball and go" and he looked at me with a frown and gave us the ball and left. Not long after I began feeling awful. To this day I fear I may have affected his self image negatively, because at that age boys really seek validation from the opposite gender and I gave him the equivalent of a slap in the face. Ball boy, if you're reading this, your tricks WERE impressive and I'm sorry. :(

[@franziskagraf4006]

Someone once said to me:" you haven't got a personality. you're just there sitting and listening to other people's talks. nobody knows you, you're invisible." I felt that deep, and I still do, as I have always been afraid of opening up to others and had a hard time finding friends.

[@Giulia-om2gl]

I feel the same

[@saraharabia3640]

You honestly should have laughed about that, because the description they made about you is literally the proof that they know nothing about you. What a Clown. And also please watch some videos from the youtuber thewizardliz. She gives really good advice for gaining confidence.

[@Shebeast3]

that's very cruel to say X I'm sure you have a lovely personality and there's nothing wrong with listening when everyone else is talking

[@hedgehogshill3522]

In school I people said I am like a ghost. Standing in a group while pause sometimes they forgot I was even there and at some point someone would say something like "Omg since when are u there, I haven't seen u."

[@ShayBoogie44]

The wisest people observe more and speak less. That person is an idiot.

[@mikela1685]

I totally relate to the girl who said receives compliments about being a good listener but doesn't feel other people do the same with her.

[@DoomsDay.21]

Same. Nothing much that can be done other than find some people we can actually rely on when we need someone to lend an ear.

[@micah5847]

Totally me too!! Feeling invisible when people praise you for your own habit of making yourself silent and supporting other people instead of yourself is so hard. Im just learning to put myself first! And its so hard sometimes!! But i can only control myself. I can only be responsible for my own happiness.

[@a12i9]

Same! That really hit me. I love my friends and am truly interested in their lives and problems, I love to be there for them. But I wish one of them would be just as much rooting for me as I am rooting for them. It's just never an even thing: I'm listening and doing my best supporting, but as soon as I have problems, no one seems so interested.

[@ville666sora]

Same. No one in my life has ever listened to a word I say when I do talk to them my feelings or my life, so I just don't anymore. Yet they go on and on and on about themselves.

[@s_e_ss]

@@ville666sora the best thing you can do is just learn to not care too much about others...

[@Cheri94]

To the girl who said that she didn’t look like her family, they were SO wrong, you DEFINITELY look alike❤️

[@askaristorm9069]

It’s sad how much family hurt one another I know I’m going no contact and will slap my mom before I go

[@belindarocky961]

Yea that one was bizarre considering they're the brunette & blonde version of each other.

[@davejanas948]

They looked beautiful when her sister came into the shot and they smiled together.

[@dotslashdotslahsdotslash]

Had the same experience when I was told that I looked nothing like my older sister who was quite popular in her college by one of her peers who was also popular (he called himself an activist, humanist, etc.) and boy it did feel bad. Years later I heard the person died and saw so many people mourn but not me, what he said was demeaning that I couldn't even care that he no longer existed.

[@cameronx8711]

Agreed

[@EricaGamet]

I felt the "being told you're too sensitive" to my core. I've been told that my entire life... and I never really thought about how it's the last thing a sensitive person would want to hear. Yeah, that just hit me so hard.

[@karinberonius8799]

"Too sensitive." Pfft. Such utter nonsense. It only means that you're human. Congratulations!

[@agathasune1761]

Your sensitivity is the most precious !

[@madeofcastiron]

i hate it when people say that, like i can’t help it if i care too much or cry easily.

[@oredaze]

I was too sensitive and I hated it. Then life happened and I lost most of it. So having seen both sides I would say I prefer being sensitive. It makes life more rich in experiences, more interesting.

[@KZesty]

I just recently started going to therapy and my therapist helped me see that my sensitivity really is a gift, a beautiful part of me that can bring something new to this world. I would love for others to learn how to love that part of themselves 💓

[@thewelder4449]

In 7th grade I thought I was surrounded by awesome friends. I was being a class clown and the teacher told me, "That's why you don't have any friends". Everyone started laughing. He said, "They might pretend to like you...but they dont". One by one I asked everyone around me if we were friends and one by one they told me no. Over 20 years later I'm still extremely insecure if any of my friends are just faking it.

[@zooper_cloud3115]

You deserve real friend's, I hope they are real. Also, no teacher should every say that, straight up rude

[@mj-rg9kp]

What a cruel teacher! How could he say a thing like that in front of the class, that is so heartless! And if those kids didn’t want you as a friend, it’s their loss. All we can do in the end is try to be a good friend. Sometimes we do well, sometimes we fail, it’s all of us. That teacher saying that wasn’t much of a friend to you was he so he has no room to talk. That pain he caused you just made you more sensitive to other people’s pain and made you more compassionate than before, that’s all. Don’t ever let anyone break your spirits! Merry Christmas and God bless!

[@carolina482]

A teacher isn't only someone that is supposed to teach basic stuff or subjects, they have to teach morals and be a good example to their students, as in a good person "empathetic, kind, etc." Your teacher wasn't a teacher he is a cold hearted person. Don't worry I also have troubles making friends at school and I am also insecure, but with time you will find people who are more similar to you, and those are the ones that matter. Hope you have friends now, and that they are good and care for you!

[@jellojiggler1693]

You should make a viral tiktok about this and get back at the teacher.

[@singing.winnie]

I feel so bad. The teacher is a stupid piece of ssss. I am so sorry you had to go through such painful experience. It sure must be haunting. I hate it.

[@amirabekkouche4531]

You should reverse this: "what is the most painful thing you have told to someone else?". Because as much as I like to believe we are all good human beings, because we're so, we do hurt others too, intentionally or not. This perspective is also important for us not to get used to the victim mindset thing. Love your work ❤🤞🏻 hope you give this proposition a try

[@ИвелинаСимонска]

this is an amazing idea

[@koboldmaki6014]

You're so right! I find myself empathizing with all of these people in the videos, which is great. But to reverse the question would be so interesting. When I asked myself what were the most painful things anyone ever said to me, I immediately knew the answer. The other way around, I really have to think about it. But the introspective is so important.

[@talastra]

I suspect some of the most painful things I've ever said to people were inadvertent and I didn't even realize it. But I've also been super-impatient with mates at times. One time, a boyfriend was super-shitty and stupid and WAY over the line with me, and so I told him, "Well, I guess we're not mates any more, because mates don't say things like that." And he got very upset, and we were in bed together, and I kept telling him, very calmly, very quietly, very coldly, that it was fine if he didn't want to be my mate, that was what he'd chosen. I remember him crying and pleading with me, saying he wanted his "cat" back (that was his pet name for me), and it was really really painful to me, because Sean (alone among all of my mates, even the one I've been with 15 years now), when he would say, "I love you" I physically felt it. That fact made us last a lot longer than we should have, and I don't know why I was affected that way by him. But we were still a bad fit. So me saying he'd chosen to break up with me, but listening to him plead with me not to, that he wanted his "cat" back, was definitely one of the most painful things I've ever experienced. I know this was supposed to be the other way around, but it was both in this case. It was so, so hard to listen to, and yet the whole time, I was so cold, and distant toward him. Another time, when our cat of 12 years got suddenly sick, and it was clear I would have to take her into the vet to be put done, my current mate helped me carry her out in a carrying box to the car. He couldn't go with me. It was my task to see her out of this world. I'd asked him if I should take her to the vet, and he'd said yes, and I said, "If I take her, she's not coming back." But he helped me get her out to the car, in the middle of the night. That cat, Sahara, was really one of the sweetest I've ever had. And after he put her into the car in her box, and I'm feeling miserable about her being in the box and confused, to say nothing of dying, he hurried away from the car and muttered back at her, "Bye, little cat," and that was by far the most emotionally stab I felt.

[@Dintathomas]

True…

[@matilda.marlin]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/pZKaZWWZr7-jiNk she did this 2 years ago

[@gracejones2831]

the lady that talks about being told she is too sensitive has the most soulful eyes I have ever seen.

[@trip_t2122]

Yeah, very beautiful and deep eyes. I'm surprised no one else is mentioning it.

[@Devistech]

Agreed

[@donmcallister3745]

They are deeply stunning…

[@Sindrijo]

I was about to write this very comment

[@buffster948]

To anyone still struggling with the pain of stigma: my brother had Down's Syndrome, in a pretty bad form: peeling skin, speech impediment, hearing issues, bald patches, terminal heart condition. But his heart was golden, pure gold. He got bullied every single day at school and he never let them break his spirit. He didn't speak well, but when he spoke, he said brilliant and beautiful things. One was: "Bullies only show you their weaknesses, by thinking that they are hurting someone weak." I hope the toxic, horrible, pathetic part of those kids turned them into better people, as the years go by. Another one from my brother: "Bullies have a tough path too." - So, I guess he meant, be brave, but don't let them hurt you. See their struggles, but don't engage, and rise above it.

[@debbieaguilar5498]

Pure wisdom! ❤

[@agathasune1761]

Aww thank you so much for sharing this with us 🤍

[@matimikk2275]

Gigachad moment

[@youratwinklingstar5644]

@buffster948 that is such a beautiful beautiful quote/sentence he came up with! I need to use and think of that more often! Thank you to you and your brother for sharing ❤❤ if I may ask, how is your brother doing?

[@pambesley9910]

As a mom, it is very heartbreaking, sad, and scary to think that we (as parents), could be the people who hurt our children the most with our words... 😭😭😭

[@AsymptoteInverse]

As the son of a mother, I'd like to say that what you give us far outweighs any sorrows that you bring.

[@froggy_moon2271]

As a daughter , sometime parents tell us hurtful thing and don’t think it hurt us , but inside 😢

[@donatasvelicka5370]

@@AsymptoteInverse Depends on situation!!!!

[@tanie3543]

​​@@AsymptoteInversehat's not true actually. My mom has called me a burden , and she's told me multiple times that I'm the ugliest person she's seen. She's told me i look older than her. She's told me that i need to suppress my depression for everyone else's peace. When i said i felt like I'm losing hope in living (i had a terrible injury) , she told me to 'stop overacting' and challenged me to do it if it's really that bad. I understand you were trying to be nice but mothers are capable of being abusive and the joy they give definitely doesn't outweigh the sorrows to manyyyy many many people.

[@omfgshefuckindead]

lol my mom has completely destroyed me as a person I have 0 self worth and I struggle to do anything in life not completely blaming her but she has a lot to do with my current mindset a lot of what she did haunts. me

[@TheAngel055]

It's heartbreaking to see that the ones hurting us the most are our parents...

[@emilyx8377]

That's why I cringe when I see parents and their children in public. I always wonder if they're as happy if they seem, and whether the kids are going to be permanently scarred by something that their parents have done, are doing, or will do to them.

[@agathasune1761]

To the girl who is sensitive: Your high sensitivity is so precious. We need more people like you in this world

[@iamjoy888]

Though you said it to another person, that resonates with me deeply too. I'm very sensitive, and sometimes I think if I were a stone-like bitch, life would be much easier for me 😓😩😫

[@alexsanimeart5706]

I can admit as a man I am sensitive, even though I usually have a good handle on my emotions. I'm an artist, and creatives are very sensitive people most of the time. My mom said I was "too sensitive" and it made me feel so invalidated and small. Almost like my whole existence didn't matter

[@TheNewMailLady]

The last gentleman broke my heart ❤️ If you read this, I’m praying that your family will become stronger and stronger every day and also hope your business takes off. You definitely deserve it!

[@colette8568]

“Being told you are too sensitive. It hurts because it’s the very thing a sensitive person would not want to be told.” That is so true. Bruh when her eyes were full of tears and she was saying this it friggin hit hard

[@basharatrehan]

Be careful about what comes out of your mouth. Your words can leave someone traumatized for the rest of his life and trust me you don't wanna live knowing that you did that to someone.

[@kristinkat76]

Yes, there is power of life and death in the tongue. Proverbs 18:21

[@DoomsDay.21]

People don't realize the power of words

[@Phoenix-md8sh]

True. My daughter estranged from me for something I said while in psychosis. It's made me more cautious of what I say.

[@zuki9425]

@@Phoenix-md8sh I hope you are able to find the strength to forgive yourself and apologize to her

[@maiNmusica]

Have you ever asked people who they miss the most? I think that could be an interesting episode!

[@neptune0909]

absolutely

[@domitille4752]

Just reading the question i started crying. I think it would make for a beautiful video!

[@hhanaaaaaah]

true....

[@mazzee]

The childhood is what I miss the most recently..

[@killmelemmy2170]

I love how you film people. You manage to make their natural beauty shine, and make them feel so real and close through the screen. Helps the purpose a lot. And god 9:00 is deep. She must be as smart as she's sensitive.

[@24apple25]

I’m a sensitive person as well. The book The Highly Sensitive Person by Elaine Aron helped me so much to understand my strengths and the fact that probably no one will ever understand me. It was reassuring to know that I was not alone and that it’s a beautiful thing to be an HSP.

[@bagyalakshmi5973]

I was told that I was good for nothing. It hurt at that time. But now after a lot of healing, I know I'm good for everything.

[@DoomsDay.21]

With healing, we can withstand many things. Glad you realized.

[@unepersonneunepersonne3206]

Waw. That's amazing, I'm glad for you. ^^

[@Acord718]

Amen to that!

[@thebigragu9952]

My girlfriend moved to Rhode Island for college. I planned a whole visit. Got ready to go see her, planned stuff to do together. The day before I was planned to go up there she said “you coming to visit me doesn’t excite me.” I didn’t know why she said that. She never elaborated. That was the end of that one.

[@FrogzOnLogz]

It would be nice if one day I experience this level of dedication. It makes me sad to see picnics ruined by storms.

[@grace_ly]

@@FrogzOnLogz agreed. what a horrible thing to be told after you’ve done so much.

[@DoomsDay.21]

She found someone else

[@apricotpapi]

Yeah dodged a bullet with that one fella. Sucks when that energy isn’t reciprocated, it makes you doubt your abilities as a partner

[@trappart9209]

She freed up the space for someone who will truly appreciate you

[@FirstLast-pt6vu]

It was nice of her to plug that guy's product. I feel like you could hear the desperation in his voice. Just subbed because of that.

[@lia4833]

About ten years ago, my parents, brother, and I got into a car accident. I was eight years old then and I was so naive. At first, I thought everything would be all right, that we're all going to be okay. But that wasn't the case. I can still clearly remember the pain I felt when my grandfather told me that my mom and dad died. To this day, the emptiness and pain still haunts me.

[@sweetpotato469]

I am so sorry lia, you are so brave and mature, I wish I could hug you.

[@dariuslateralus7128]

You have my deepest sympathy... it will probably never stop hurting but I hope you find something healthy to fill the hole. Recently I read that the amount of pain will never decrease. It is our heart, our capacity that grows over time. I wish you all the best on your path!

[@DoomsDay.21]

Rip your parents.

[@Shebeast3]

I could not imagine going through that hugs hugs

[@meliapo1367]

♥️♥️♥️

[@Idolbottle]

I love when she allows these people to advertise their passions in these videos. Some people need help and she is happy to be the person to help them❤

[@Some_kind_of_wonderfü]

“You’re too sensitive” God, I felt that pain in her eyes to the core! 💯

[@ShayBoogie44]

My mom told me I was weak and too emotional because I called her crying stressed out because I was an overwhelmed struggling single mother. Although now she says how proud she is of me and how I am a great mother I always remember those past words. As a mom myself I understand parents aren't perfect and sometimes say shit they don't alway me. What I learned from that is to choose my words wisely when speaking to my 2 sons. I do not want to be the cause of any childhood trauma in their precious lives

[@DoomsDay.21]

Makes sense why you reacted that way being a single mother, it's not easy. Glad your doing better now, Wish you luck

[@GodsOath_com]

While it’s hard to accept, most parents are shitty parents. Don’t look to her as an example, and if she’s unreliable as a source of support and advice, don’t go to her. Solve the problems you can and reach out to other adults with kids and see what they say. I think there are mom groups you can look into.

[@AceyOC]

She most likely was taking out her own anger on you and just because you were crying doesn't make you weak, i cry all the time, though i'm only thirteen i have 4 younger siblings who I've practically raised so i guess that counts?

[@trappart9209]

Teach them how to protect themselves and communicate with you in case someone will try to hurt them emotionally or physically

[@darknight3613]

Please tell that girl that her grandmother's death had nothing to do with her cursing omg 😭

[@tycannon384]

"You're unapproachable." This has always stuck with me for some reason, for over a decade now. As someone with chronic depression, it's imperative to have someone that I can be vulnerable with and open up to. But when I get into these depressive states, to this day I shut down and keep to myself. Because I don't want to bring others down with my emotions. I don't want them to think of me as someone they'd rather avoid...as someone who isn't worth approaching.

[@rebelliousdreamer]

Relate

[@thelamb86]

Same

[@Mentalpotato]

''I don't love you anymore'' from a person I wanted to spend the rest of my life with - was probably one of the most painful one.

[@olak8800]

Same happened to me. I hope you recovered. Sending hugs for you.

[@lovingmayberry307]

To the first man, YOU ARE NOT UGLY!! That little girl was wrong and mean for saying that. If I had to describe you, I would say, He's nice looking, seems like a good person with a huge heart. 54 years is long enough to let her continue to have power over you. Let it go. 💙✌️❤️

[@griffin5738]

Did anyone else notice that these people had REALLY beautiful eyes..

[@GwenActually]

I think most humans have really beautiful eyes, but we're rarely close enough that we can look directly into them without it turning awkward or embarrassing. I bet your eyes are beautiful! Go look at them in the mirror, close up. I bet there are whole worlds of beauty contained within them that most people will never be lucky enough to get close enough to witness.

[@bolotabr12]

Our words can be like a sword, that’s why we should think twice before saying anything.

[@jae-annedanae4512]

To the sensitive woman, I feel you ❤ just wanted to let you know there are more people like you out there

[@DoomsDay.21]

There's a lot going on in this Dark world. There's people who are Loving, Supportive and Good people while there's people who are Heartless and don't realize the power of words

[@camillewindle5488]

Aww it makes me so happy to hear about the young man who's dad hears him.

[@bubba283]

My dad won't speak to me, the saddest part is how loyal I was to him and it was never good enough, he always wanted me to find a nice woman and get married, but he never knew Its not what I'm interested in, I never told him why

[@GorlWorldComments]

when i was 13 my dad died, i never had a mum, my school bully said HAHA YOUR DADS DEAD she was laughing and telling everyone, drawing a man on the bored at school with x eyes, i am 40 now, it still hurts

[@JohnSmith-lc8mp]

Damn. When I was that age, a bully on the school bus told me my mom was dumb so I said her dad was dumb. She started crying and shut up. I didn't know but her dad had just been killed. I didn't feel bad about it though. She shouldn't have been talking about my mom.

[@DoomsDay.21]

Sorry Bro

[@brotherwolfhandmade9414]

Oh my goodness kids are just so cruel💔 like really....I don't know how comforting this may or may not sound, but that girl had to be so VERY damaged from the inside to be able to do that. Most of bullies are. So broken themselves they only find pleasure or like a kind of dark relief in breaking or at least trying to break others..😥 Hope you are getting out of it, your Dad sure was a wonderful dad and he still living through your memories & in your heart is the only thing important❤️🤗

[@NoOne-ru4jh]

My adoptive dad, when I’ve messed up or made a mistake, has said quite often, ‘I could have picked the kid in the other crib.’ And from when I was little to now it has been one of the things I carry, a weight on my shoulders, that I will never be good enough, never be worth it

[@zipperplucker]

I’m sorry you ever heard that! But know the kid in the other crib would have made mistakes too. Dad would have said the same thing to them, because dad is the problem. Not you. ❤

[@Alex-fl6qu]

@@zipperplucker lovely words 🤍

[@cd9400]

@@zipperplucker perfectly true ❤

[@trappart9209]

You are always enough!

[@joys_dressy]

@@zipperpluckerthese are very kind words, you have a beautiful soul

[@TrainwithNoelle]

Sometimes it’s what people don’t say that hurts the most…. when you really need to hear them and they give you nothing but silence. That is torture.

[@toughtiffies]

“He probably killed himself because of you”. My husband died by suicide while I was on the phone with him. His last words to me was “it’s all your fault”. I struggle with guilt a lot, I don’t need people adding on and making me wonder if I’m strong enough to stay too.

[@guzelfetkulina9599]

OMG i csn imagine what u are going through. U hv to know one thing: everyones life and death is predestined long before he/she is born. U hv no guilt in that incident. I hope u will b able to completely free urself from those hard feelings.

[@tessiepinkman]

It was not your fault. I hope you know that. But if you struggle with it, I really need you to know that. It was *not* your fault.

[@MightiestArm]

"Thank you for everything you've done for me but I don't need you anymore" still hurts me to this day

[@kenza9087]

Parents have such impact in our childhood and life

[@UngoogleableMan]

My ex, together for 5 years, when I proposed laughed at me and then broke it off. She said I wasn't a real man (because I like astronomy and books more than sports and working out), I was just a little boy and she isn't going to marry a little boy. She was happy to have me pay for her rent, her therapy and all sorts of other stuff over our relationship, but that's all I was to her, an ATM.

[@tamannatazz5800]

💔 I was in a almost 6 year relationship, last year was hard ,due to some issue he just married with unknown girl within 2 months . I tried to contact him before his marriage, he didn't receive my call. Atleast I deserve a goodbye call. It was the 'black Swan' moment in my relationship. His ego was bigger than my feelings.

[@darknight3613]

You dodged a bullet my friend! Im so sorry it happened to you but only by the way you chose to tell your story i can tell that you are mature and connected to your emotions which is everything. You are awesome and loving and i hope that the person who deserves you will come to you very soon!

[@JohnSmith-lc8mp]

Where did you bury the body? That is ridiculously harsh. Not a good person at all. (I was once told by a girl that I wasn't man enough to hit her. Wow. Massive red flag)

[@UngoogleableMan]

@@darknight3613 thank you. This was like 10 years ago. And while it was painful at the time and for many years afterwards, ive come to terms with it and I understand now that she doesn't define my worth or value. I am also glad this happened before rather than after we got married.

[@UngoogleableMan]

@@tamannatazz5800 that's brutal I'm sorry to hear. Don't spend too much time blaming yourself like I did. We can't control other people and what they do. We can only control ourselves.

[@lannaemilli6241]

One little things that haunts me every now and then is that when I was 7-8 or something, a girl was nice to me in school and befriended me. I have always been so bullied in school, all the interactions with me were violent. My family does not hug. No one hugged each other. My mother was also very violent towards me back then. So I really had no reference of physical proximity. One day this girl hugged me and I told her she smelled weird. I am very very sensitive to smells, and here's the thing: she just smelled like a *person*. Like a human being smell. That I didn't know of until that point because I hadn't really gotten that close to anyone until that point. And this haunts me because I keep thinking what if she was forever traumatized by it, and I didn't mean it like that. It came out of my own traumatic experience altogether. Because I spent my entire life moving, I won't ever meet this girl again.

[@mcpodcast30]

Seeing the person with bpd made me feel so bad for him when he talked about his kids. My uncle has bpd and he’s scared to have children and mess them up because of it

[@zknight4481]

Wait did he have BPD? I thought he said bipolar disorder. Any idea what the shaking is from?

[@Catlily5]

BP usually = bipolar disorder BPD usually = borderline personality disorder

[@summercbeauty]

“ I’ve just been using you for your body, I’m not in love with you” I still haven’t healed it’s been almost three years I pray and hope I can heal for my kids

[@hannahsexton3312]

i once was told “You really need to start thinking, you don’t think. Life is gonna be so much easier for you if you just use your brain.” and that really hit me deep, i remember just making a simple mistake and being told that made me feel like i was stupid, and it eventually led to me thinking i was stupid, i would do something super small like putting a bed sheet on the wrong way the first time, taking a minute to solve a simple math problem, not knowing how to change the mop head at work etc and i always called myself stupid for making a simple mistake. and it did lead to some mental health problems, my self esteem became super low because i truly believed i was to stupid to do something. I’ve gotten better but still to this day what was said to me is in the back of my mind and i don’t think i will ever really be able to forget it. really an eye opener to be careful with what you say to people.

[@dezalexander6657]

This is probably the first time I’ve ever really responded to a comment but, wow. I’ve never seen someone so perfectly articulate the things I’ve felt for the past 6 years. I’m 18 now, but I’ve had these exact thoughts you’ve had during those little mistake moments that just make us human. It’s such a shame sometimes to know the people who say these words truly don’t ever see how it could hurt or change one’s perception of self. I’ve struggled with this for so long and I’m just getting better at it year by year, although I still have those moments of feeling lesser brained. Not good enough. Or just simply less intelligent than everyone else. I have to remind myself that I am only human, and push myself through my daily obstacles telling myself that I am strong, I am smart enough, I am good enough. It is so important to also congratulate ourselves when we succeed at those little things! I hope you’re even better now than you were before. Truly, I feel so connected to your experience, it makes me so happy to know I am not alone in what feels like a phenomenon nobody else understands!

[@olak8800]

The person I loved the most told me that they stopped loving me. We were together for almost 11 years. That was year and a half ago and I still pick up pieces of myself.

[@thislovesposessingme]

I am so so sorry about that, ❤

[@janelledillon6553]

I am so sorry. You are an amazing person never forget. 🧡

[@talastra]

Good job making progress, even though it is hard.

[@olak8800]

Thank you all for the kinds words 💗. After going through all the phases of break up grief, I was finally tired of it, so recently I decided to add regular exercise to my life style and it made me feel much, much better. Wish the best for you 🌻

[@olldomu5790]

eight years for me, same length relationship- 11. not over it.

[@ThumpaContinues]

8:15 Wow I feel you... I'm 100% the good listener who never speak because I feel like no one listens

[@softfirecrow]

"There is no one else in this world who would do all the things I did for you." My Ex-bf told me that when I left him. It hurt so much because there was a time in my life I believed that this was actually true, and he knew. Left him anyway and found so many people who love me

[@DoomsDay.21]

Takes time to realize, Glad you did

[@karinberonius8799]

"Ex". It can be such a beautiful and powerful little word. Yay you!

[@cassierexroad2154]

"You're not a priority to me anymore," said to me by my brother, who was now dating my best friend. He was my best friend growing up- I taught him to cook, helped him write songs, made him a scrapbook as he went off to the military. I gave him everything. 100%. But he gave me nothing, while he pulled my best friend away from me and gave her everything.

[@melissaakamel]

Hello From Sydney Australia This One Made Me Cry: I'm 54 Now But When I Was 5 One Of My Sisters Was 7 And She Was Killed In Front Of Me After We Got Off The Bus She Ran Across The Street And Was Hit By A Car When I Was A Teen My Mother Was Beating Me And She Said It Should Have Been Me That Killed My Spirit In That Moment . As A Grown Woman I See It As Words Said In Anger Rather Than Meaningful Words That Are Said xx

[@LaMarie222]

The woman who's now living her nomadic dream, wow. I really needed to hear her story so much. She is a true inspiration.

[@emmagoes]

That’s me! Thank you 🤍 sending you love and strength!

[@GaruxPuru]

My father said to me fairly recently, "I don't regret a single thing I had to do to raise you." After a long childhood of emotional and physical abuse, I thought I had been making headway in restoring my relationship with him and forgiving him for all the fissures he's created in my soul and psyche, so that one statement hurt me in a way no direct insult could ever. I'm still young, so I hope I'll be able to be honest with him one day about the pain he's caused me so that we can heal together.

[@AFireBirdPhoenix]

Vulnerability is scary but it's so important, wish people knew that.

[@alyssa_vw1481]

To the guy who was mocked for trying to kill himself.. I have tried too and can't image the pain of someone saying that to me. I'm sorry that happened. You are important and you are heard. I hope you got the help you needed and you're doing better now

[@maranara397]

My mother raised me as a single mom. I have so much respect and love for her. She made sure I never went without as a kid. It was always me and her vs the world. On Oct 9th, 2015, she called me “worthless”. It still stings more than anything that anyone else could ever say.

[@TheNOBODY2810]

God that’s just horrible. I hope you’re doing okay

[@cd9400]

I'm so sorry she said that. You are not worthless. Nobody is. What she said was a reflection of how she viewed herself ❤

[@agathasune1761]

Aww I am so sorry too. That was a profound betrayal. I hope you were able to overcome this and know in your heart that was not true.

[@mj-rg9kp]

Im so sorry you had to feel that 😢 that hurts. Sometimes no matter how perfect you may think they are, parents are people and they make mistakes. Sometimes big mistakes like this one. If she’s that great like you say and I’m sure she is, I’m sure she felt awful about it too. If you can, why don’t you talk to her about it? Wishing you well and merry Christmas, hugs 🎄 ❤

[@trappart9209]

It's not your fault that someone may think like that. You are a gift for this world because you are a human like all of us. We do our best

[@Shebeast3]

my heart goes out to the man with bi polar.i truly hope he can work things out with his children x hugs

[@CrystalBenford]

It’s so painful to see how many people have been hurt by their parents. Same here 😢

[@jessifields8881]

There are so many things I’ve been told, but the one that always plays in my head “you’re pretty if only you were skinny”. This hurt because it came from the guy I was in love with at the time. I had trust issues with guys because of childhood trauma and he was making that change. Because of him I went into the greatest depression ever. Im ok now.

[@DoomsDay.21]

Even if you escape depression, it'll be a scar that will remain in you forever. That seems to be real common with women being thrown back by a guy they love. Don't change who you are just because someone says so.

[@evelynmatt2000]

Not good you saying it will be a scar forever? I think it’s something hard to hear but she doesn’t have to give any weight to what this guy said to her long ago. It hurts especially your first love, don’t tell someone that hurt will be with them forever. Some scars will be there sure but a hurt like that don’t carry it with you forever. They were wrong to say it and they were wrong to think. Give it the weight it deserves. Don’t carry it with you!

[@couttsie]

the first thing that came to my mind was being told when i was 12 by a boy in my class, that my mouth looks weird when i laugh. 10 years on and i can’t believe that anyone would ever mock how someone looks in their purest and happiest moments. i still cover my mouth when i laugh

[@bertafuchs2384]

I feel the first guy. Was also told to be ugly in school all the time. But he is so beautiful. I really want to tell him that. His laugh lines and eyes are so cute. And im not sure but i think, he has nice hair too. And his voice is very calming. How can we let go of this shit, i wonder.

[@Ch1ril0ver]

the fact that many of these come from parents makes this whole thing even more sad 😭

[@ezraw98]

I think the most painful thing I've ever been told was "Your friend died before the ambulance arrived". Those few words shattered my heart and changed my life forever. I was convinced that they were going to be okay and it didn't even cross my mind that they might die. I related to quite a few of these but nothing cuts quite as deep as when I was told my friend didn't make it.

[@df6265]

Pop no

[@SadSloth666]

Anybody gonna talk about the seventh guy? Imagine being so depressed that you try to leave, and it doesn’t work and your parent makes fun of you for it, damn hope he’s alright

[@jonlannister345]

Mine were nice enough not to mock me for it, though they did berate me about how it would make them look bad if I did it. That was all they were ever concerned with; what their coworkers thought of them (neither had friends, that I ever recall)

[@IngeEvenwel]

Just sad. Shows you what power WORDS have on people.

[@willm5032]

Being told I'm boring because I quit drinking sucks

[@Cheri94]

Proud of you. You do you, I bet it’s way better than the “drinking you”

[@JohnSmith-lc8mp]

No man. That just shows you got shit friends. They should be happy for your decision to stop drinking.

[@willm5032]

@@JohnSmith-lc8mp Most of/all my actual friends don't say it, its colleagues, relatives etc that come out with that one.

[@missGemelli]

Proud of you for quiting! They are just saying that because they themselves cannot do it (at least not yet) and rather them being proud of you, they just want you to be like them again - drunk and fake fun. You enjoying your life sober just makes them feel more insecure of themselves. You do you.

[@JohnSmith-lc8mp]

@Will M well. It's awesome that you were able to stop drinking regardless of the haters in your life. I have some serious alcoholics In my family that have never been able to break free even when they lose everything.

[@carlasghost656]

"I settled for you" My ex's explanation of why she married me, and why she left. The sudden knowledge that everything she said from our first date on was a lie. Everything I had done was futile. She needed someone to take care of her and be a safe harbor while she got her life together. As soon as she felt she was strong enough to try being single again she bailed.

[@savesoil3133]

Dear, that must have been a difficult time! Hope you can heal, hope you can create healthy relationships and find happiness 💓 Also, I thought I'd share this: It is said that by 2045 we would be producing 40% less food than what we are producing right now and our population would be over 9.3billion people. #nosoilnofood Let's act now #SaveSoil I thought it's important to share #SaveSoil #ConsciousPlanet #Mentsükatalajt #Tudatosbolygó Love from Hungary 💓

[@geertruivanbroekhoven7209]

Seems like you were the victim of a parasite. Says nothing about you. Says everything about the parasite. I hope you find someone who is loving and honest from the start.

[@TheSavybanna]

"You're being too sensitive" is just an absolutely salty thing to say to someone and will do nothing but make things hurt worse.

[@catgiles3268]

I was told by the kids at the bus stop that my mother didn’t want me because I was adopted. My adoptive parents told me to tell them, that I they got to choose me. That was over 45 years ago but I still remember it.

[@AlexEnRoute]

The girl who spoke about her Nanna passing being the worst thing...I felt that so deeply. My grandma took care of me a lot too, because my mom worked a lot. She passed last year in March, but I think about her every single day. I literally call her my sunshine...and her laugh was obnoxious and infectious too! Lol I miss her so much.

[@Nicole_with_a_tte]

For me it's the hurtful words of my narcissistic physically abusive ex/bd that I've loved thru all the tears & pain, drinking & drugs😞 also recently the woman who gave birth to me telling me "she was the greatest mother I've ever known" which is bonkers because my grandparents & aunt raised me & my sister🤷‍♀️

[@Jami..]

This comment hit home for me. Thank you for sharing. You are a strong and beautiful individual ❤️

[@TA-vr5fp]

My God. The woman at 8:55 who is also in the thumbnail is so beautiful. Her eyes tell a story. Sending so much love to everyone. We are all worth it.

[@roamiblu1833]

It amazes and hurts me how much emotional, mental, and physical damage a parent can do to their child as they grow up. And how much of that damage remains with them well into their adulthood.

[@Ripp_mimi]

The girl talking about her nana. I relate to that harddd, I feel what’s she’s saying bc my dad also broke the news to me. That lady was my everything, a soulmate, my rock, someone I could run to when no one else was there. She was the reason life was worth living..but hearing those heart aching words still eat at me to this day. She always talked about my wedding day and how exited she would be for me she ALWAYS talked so beautifully about my future..I miss her voice, her laugh, her gummy smile, the family gatherings at her house and the way she would freak out if someone tried taking a picture of her without her dentures 😂😂 she was such a wonderful lady and i miss her every single day and it hurts just to know she isn’t around anymore..but I’m trying and i will do everything in my power to graduate to make her proud!

[@Lesley.h]

I was told I was ugly but the logical side of me accepted that there will be so many people who will find me unappealing even to the point some might want to vomit at the sight of me. However I came to peace with thie reality that you cannot please everybody literally. What I learned was what really matters in life and looks is definitely unimportant. I am actually very grateful for all the things I do have. Which is not a lot but those things mean so much more. However I understand I may have a lot more than those that truly may have nothing and I wish I could share everything I have with those that truly have nothing

[@ronshamc]

You are so very sweet 😊

[@DoomsDay.21]

Glad you realized, We won't please everyone but let's accept ourselves for who we are and live a happy life in this Dark world.

[@leothepug4326]

I heard a friend saying to someone that im the most boring person they met. I tried my best to make myself fit in their group. Right now im all alone but i think its better being alone than having them

[@izzy5464]

i was told by my bf at the time that he was still in love with his ex and that id never be her. he would also talk about how much more fun hoeing around would be than loving me, he ended up cheating and it is by far the most painful experience i’ve ever been through

[@bubba283]

The exact same thing happened to me with my ex gf. Now I look back and think it's best it happened for me , because I've now met an amazing boyfriend, but im not open about it

[@olak8800]

😢

[@Navi_xoo]

When i was a child my dad used to get explosively angry. It was always about little things. He would pull my arm and beat me with his leather belt while screaming "stop crying". Also my ex girlfriend telling me she wanted someone else. This was a week after convincing me she loved me and wanted me, so that I wouldn't end things with her. They gave me extreme pain and several deep issues but eventually you can become stronger from these moments.

[@sophiaisabelle027]

Everyone has their own painful experiences to share. Seems like the people featured in this have so much depth and complexities to them that makes them stand apart.

[@DoomsDay.21]

I've been Numb for so long i don't even know what things i've been through would be painful to others.

[@janakatharina2610]

that’s so sad :( i hope you get better! ♥️ i get it though.. sometimes things are way to painful to process correctly

[@lerothelizard]

When I was a kid my dad always told me to "stop being so silly" whenever I had fun and laughed. Time after time I became more silent and to this day I still feel like I have to be dead serious around him and can't make any jokes. I do a lot of childish things on a daily basis like cuddle with my plushies. It brings me back to the childhood before I had to become so mature. I really miss it.

[@torawalker392]

i feel you...

[@DoomsDay.21]

Don't change just because someone says so, It's your life not theirs. I don't even see that as being childish. Live a happy life not a possessed one

[@lerothelizard]

@@DoomsDay.21 Thank you David! It's hard to be yourself as a kid when you look up to your parents but I am now happy to embrace myself and my silliness ^^

[@karinberonius8799]

I presume your dad consumes a lot of antacids. I was so relieved when I read that you (still) do a lot of childish things.😄

[@DoomsDay.21]

@@lerothelizard No problem. It's true that it's hard to be yourself around your parents, but it is what it is. Glad you chose to follow your heart and be yourself.

[@FunckyAna1921]

I had the same issues as the guy from 5:10. People told me that they liked my older sister more than me. I've come to realize that it doesn't matter what other people think of me. What matters is who I think I am and what kind of person I want to be towards others. This has given me more confidence, and a willingness to be myself with those I truly care about.

[@dawnsimpson8186]

Thee most painful thing I've been told is that I'm annoying. Anytime i feel excited or talk a lot or feel excited about something I'm talking about, I feel like I'm just annoying everyone

[@bloop_8]

Growing up i struggled with bullying after moving to a new city when i was 10. In year 7 I thought i had finally made some friends and finally lost that lonely feeling i had always been plagued with. During the end of that year i was struggling again with REALLY bad bullying (death threats, physical abuse, yelling, cyber bullying ect) but i thought i was okay as long as i wasn't lonely. during one of these bad fits of bullying i went to go find refuge in my bestfriend and she told be to leave her alone i was "simply a burden". i could take the years of abuse and bullying as long as i had her, as long as i wasnt lonely and that word 'burden' shattered all of it. She became friends with my bullies soon after, never participating but always watching. Im almost 18 now and still think about it alot.

[@reflectionOfLyf]

My ex left me when I was jobless. I just did my masters and during Covid I had a hard time finding a job. She didn’t let me borrow money from anyone else, but she did lend me the money I needed . She told me, she feels pity on me and she would be better off without me. It broke my heart and soul. I got a job and returned all her money. I saved 90% of my salary by living in my car eating 1 meal a day. I returned all her money in 3 months Including the value of all the gifts she gave me with a heartfelt gratitude. I just thanked her for helping me out during my time of need and never called or texted her again. I forgave her But it still hurts like anything.

[@carom.2284]

My younger sister had a mental break down and was about to harm herself. I called the ambulance and police because she locked herself in her room. Things escalated quickly, I got beaten up by her in a fury. When my other sister came home, she freaked out too and said "we don't need someone like you". this happened 3 years ago on New years eve. Never talked to them since. Hurts to this day (sorry, if the Englisch is bad, a fan from Germany here)

[@torawalker392]

i don't know what to respond, i just wanted to let you know that i read your comment and that i hope that you will get better

[@strawpiglet]

Truth seems to be you don’t need people like them. No wonder your sister broke down, sounds like some bad parenting happened in your family.

[@carom.2284]

@@strawpiglet Well... Yes. It's allways been a mess. But my sisters are much younger than me and my mom left home when they were toddlers. So I think I am the enemy for getting my mothers attention too.

[@classicambo9781]

You made the right call. When a person is a danger to themselves and others, they need professional help.

[@Violetismyrealname]

I’m autistic. 10 years ago someone I really love slapped me across the face and called me an emotionless b i t c h during a time when I was experiencing severe panic, heartbreak & confusion but wasn’t able to express it with my face. I know they were just mean but I always wonder if people think I lack empathy or feelings just because they can’t read my face 😞

[@strawpiglet]

Wow. What a nightmare experience.

[@jillwanlin9558]

Please be aware, the problem is not with you, it’s with the person that slapped you. Their behaviour is NOT acceptable. It is NOT normal to go around slapping people.

[@Catlily5]

I have autism too. I am sorry that happened to you.

[@alberttang7641]

2:03 I can relate to him. A similar phrase was told by my father. Makes me doubt myself from time to time that " am I good enough?"

[@Jesus.saved.me.]

Wow. I feel the exact same as the girl at 8:33. I’m always being complimented on my listening skills but never feel comfortable/vulnerable enough to open up the same way to others. It can be exhausting at times .. constantly taking on the burdens of others while bottling up your own 😢

[@Takowakod]

I would love to see people being asked what they regret telling someone else and maybe what they wish they did differently, or leave a new message for that person they think they might have hurt.

[@cucuraki5913]

Day 2 of trying to convince Thoraya to become a professional psychologist

[@Giulia-om2gl]

Wish it could be THAT easy lol

[@GodsOath_com]

Then we wouldn’t know we are all in the same boat and truly not alone. I appreciate these videos so much. And I realize that we are all afraid and sad and lonely and it should be something that helps us all to be empathetic and over come the pain toward others. And no longer feel afraid in social situations.

[@lastar3557]

Trust is huge, I trust Thoraya and would contact her

[@elizabethndara2172]

The most painful thing I've ever been told is that "my son died because of you" this was from my aunt who raised my siblings and I after the death of our parents. He was murdered and I was blamed for his death, I was 10 btw.

[@DoomsDay.21]

Not you're fault

[@strawpiglet]

That’s so awful. I can hardly imagine what that would be like.

[@thepersonnooneknows]

How would a 10 year old be responsible...?

[@Apetitegirly]

Jesuscry im so sorry aunts are like monsters like wtf

[@elizabethndara2172]

@@DoomsDay.21 thank you, I'll try to remember that.

[@josephgatonye6915]

The girl who said she gets complimented for being a good listener is me, and I feel the same exact way,

[@jod5mx23]

I can definitely relate 8:25 it seems literally everyone asks or wonders why I’m so quiet but I felt ignored and unimportant too many times that it really feels pointless to even speak and give an opinion

[@heatherbagley7668]

"When your sister has a baby, we will celebrate it. If you have a baby with [current boyfriend] we will shun it." After an hour of yelling and lectures, my parents told me this because I chose a man they didn't approve of.

[@annie_bg]

I very much relate to the girl at 8:20. Sending love to all of these people! And yet again, a wonderful video Thoraya!

[@stephaniebecerra2298]

The most painful thing I’ve been told is “I’m afraid to eat” said by my dad. My dad has a lot of health issues and sometimes when he eats his stomach starts hurting badly. It’s something that he deals with on a daily basis and there’s nothing we can do about it 😔

[@joys_dressy]

I'm sorry 😞

[@stephaniebecerra2298]

@JoyBabes it's not your fault.. but thanks for being comforting.

[@tabitagervers1891]

this comment section makes me sad and happy at same time. sad, cause of so many hurtful things thatve been said to ppl. happy, cause of so many people helping each other and giving advices❤️

[@majo8138]

I'm amazed at how many childhood memories we keep and how bad we can hurt our kids if we're not careful with our words and actions. Really sad...

[@hollyj2925]

First guy telling him he's ugly he is not! Lady told she's too sensitive she's not. I'm the same way and have been told the same thing. She's beautiful inside and out! I love you thoraya!

[@thislovesposessingme]

my sister’s friend calling me a b*tch behind my back to her friends, she also said that I was a ‘dry person’ and that’s why I didn’t have friends, and she also said “I’d rather die then spend ten minutes with you”. She also said “you make me hate myself” because my parents have complimented me a lot. That was a few days ago and now my confidence is completely destroyed. My brother also said that I was my sisters “sidekick” meaning that I wasn’t important without her. My heart goes out to all these people

[@jellojiggler1693]

If someone wore a ski mask and broke her kneecaps with a bat she might stop. I don't condone this.

[@user-jb4rz7kx5h]

I’m so sorry you had to hear such painful insults. Sounds like some people are seriously jealous of you. When the insults are so grossly exaggerated i would almost take it as a compliment… you must obviously trigger some deep insecurities in someone else to want them hurt you so much, meaning you have something they don’t so celebrate it 🎉🥳

[@raspberrybriars]

To the first man, you’re not ugly. I know that word hurts a lot. I really believe the only people who use that word are people who are either deeply wounded or deeply shallow. Not people who should have a voice in our lives. I hope you go forward and feel good about yourself!

[@thoughtfuldevil6069]

I'm autistic. I said something kind of awkward and then asked somebody I thought was my friend if I made her uncomfortable. Her response was: "You've never made anyone comfortable in your life."

[@neko_neko9]

Ouch :( I'm sorry you had to hear that