thoughts on social isolation

[@krystalw2]

“Being alone for a while is dangerous. lts addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don't want to deal with people anymore”. - Tom Hardy

[@BeastMode-oz8qc]

The opposite is also true though... The more and the longer you live in isolation the more dangerous. You start yearning for a sense of socialization, needing to have company (in the form of love and affection) from women. And wanting to make connections in the form of friendships. I am cripplingly socially anxious and introverted to the extent of having to be semi drunk a lot of times I go to social events, yet I still crave social interactions. I've lived both social isolation and being a party animal and I can assure you the happy medium (for me at least) is in having balance between both.

[@Rain_901]

Spot on. I feel like people say this to cope because of our hyper-individualistic society. When everything becomes transactional people start to disassociate with socializing and society in general. In a way i don’t blame them, but it surely isn’t the way.

[@Infanta-sofia1]

We all love you 💖🩷💙

[@blackstar3984]

The only reason any of this is applied by a negative connotation is simply because you all are overly self conscious instead of just letting yourself be free within who you are around people and not learning how to let go due to negative thoughts or ideas. Let the world see who you are even if you’re a quiet type or rowdy this world needs color and that’s what individuality is for

[@harriporter8044]

I think Jim Carrey quoted it before Hardy not sure where it’s originally from. Love both actors.

[@Kumo0toko]

You know your cooked when prince charming has the same problems you do 😭

[@zeroo7359]

the better you look alot of times the more you can be vulnerable to being less relatable then the people around you, people love to be friend people who are like them.

[@theheck963]

🤣 right 🥲

[@lil_tari]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@artorias1559]

It only shows that the greatest talent is useless if unused while the "ugly" people will get that girl, have a big friend group, have close friends, etc.

[@LordHeliosPhosphorus]

I’m decent looking and I’m in the same boat too. Lol

[@plumface_]

"so excited to hang out with someone I feel like I'm off-putting" I know that feel bro.

[@thescarecrow897]

mogging in 180p is crazy

[@8_no]

LMAO

[@721rena]

He's fine af

[@lilithashvelle]

idk about yall but i prefer this kind of qualities rather than 4k videos. it's giving a video call with a friend, not just watching an influencer

[@johntheanimator4317]

lol

[@ripplik9323]

@@lilithashvelle I'm so glad someone else thinks so lool

[@imb4j214]

Extremely self-aware video. That’s what isolation does to you. You start to think about things you’ve never thought before because all of the sudden you’re responsible for your own wellbeing without anyone telling you what to do.

[@YuRe-u3y]

Well said

[@anthonyf616]

For me, it just made my brain further mushy

[@AtuqWariTarukaWaman]

Fr

[@alalulu4503]

It sounds like a cliche but isolation really does feel like a gift and a poison at the same time.

[@Randomly.assembled.molecules]

Yep, that's the best thing about isolation

[@george3788]

This is so damn true. I have this issue where I feel lonely, and debate trying to socialize more, then I do something awkward and realize how weird I am, and run back to isolation for comfort.

[@hildahemmah54]

SO REAL

[@strawberri0o]

this omg everything about this is exactly how I feel

[@NinaXiao-p3v]

same here

[@lina9591]

find a balance.

[@johnnypeepee]

socialise vroski ur never gonna get better if you don't expose urself to others join a club right now G

[@hueheeuuehueuheuheuhueheeu1245]

bro is mogging in social isolation

[@ANKLEBREAKER400]

bro got nerfed with social anxiety

[@sentbycyberliferk800]

What's the use of having a big dong if you can't use it?

[@macyb-x4y]

this guy is gorgeous

[@seligaprv8669]

bro mogging his walls

[@sentbycyberliferk800]

@@macyb-x4y simp

[@KaidonRoddy]

You know your cooked when KZbin start recommending these types of videos

[@FriedRice3519]

expecially with the mogging thumbnail

[@user-pf3ub]

Neh. I've getting this kind of videos for a long. U can call it the weird side of KZbin and my life got better tho. It's just about how u take it. If u see these stuff from a perspective that helps u to build urself, then it's good for u

[@EmeraldView]

Haha. Right!?

[@gabedehlinger2508]

Sheut up

[@CarlFredrik-uo1cu]

I've been recommende them for a long time

[@DanielDavis-d1f]

"Ive built these 4 walls for protection until they became my prison."

[@atsuhirku]

That could be an awesome quote.

[@DanielDavis-d1f]

@@atsuhirku thank you :) probably been said before but that's how I felt when I withdrew for years. Are you currently in isolation?

[@Escapism888]

damn I really felt this one

[@DanielDavis-d1f]

@@Escapism888 I'm glad my feelings connected with you! Are you currently in isolation?

[@Escapism888]

@@DanielDavis-d1f yessir, I am assuming you are as well

[@peter7582]

The worst feeling is knowing that life is going on out there for other people, but I'm stuck inside.

[@dawnofdonnie7275]

True, watching everyone around me laughing with their friends and always having plans to hang out. It feels like I'll never have that. It hurts.

[@Ali_flo333]

Same

[@baddiezone]

A lot of times those friendships be fake

[@liammiller3934]

stop thinking, All thoughts are evil continually

[@DarkManBeatzUrFace]

Being a social outcast makes you deranged

[@TysonASMR]

I feel like I’m stuck in a cycle of isolating myself, feeling lonely, pushing myself out of my comfort zone to socialize, being disappointed, isolating myself, repeat…

[@livaja27]

Say that again

[@AudioHugsbyMyster_yvan]

Oh! You're here 😅🎉😢 be well boy!!

[@xxspecterxx]

Welcome to the club

[@jxxhnn]

break the cycle:)

[@Noizzed]

Yeah expectations did that to me. Honestly the best thing is to try to find a space where you feel fine by yourself but can also try social stuff. Somewhere you can have small talk which doesn't need to lead to grand relationships but help you slowly build yourself up to a level you're okay with things going south in a social way. Even a simple comment about the weather in a daily basis can help you act more outwardly.

[@molhoshoyu]

It's crazy; this guy is absolutely beautiful, and still has developed social isolation problems, in my head i always expect beautiful people to be more lucky in life, to have no problems with socializing or finding a partner, but i guess that's not a general rule right? In all cases, i wish this guy the best, he is going through what i've been going for the past 10 years or more, i hope one day we achieve to get out of this infinite cycle of isolation and internal sadness.

[@kraftyhandz]

Anybody can have self-esteem issues regardless of the package you’re dealt with.

[@ddude1212]

right?!?! honestly, i've found it to be the opposite. my "glowup" was a major factor that contributed to my current disposition towards people and social isolation. for most of my early life, i was considered at best average, but more often than not just plain weird lookin. i was used to how people acted and treated me, but it was nice because most of the time people didn't approach me unless if they just thought i was an interesting person or that my character had something to offer. i didn't get approached a lot, but i wasn't as immediately apprehensive of people. it was pretty easy to fly under the radar. fast forward to around 17, my hair curled up, started wearing contacts, got my braces out, was finally able to wear the things i wanted to wear, and suddenly the people who treated me like shit before or straight up called me ugly are flirting with me!!! like no,, fuck you, fuck off, and go fuck yourself while you're at it!! you really don't realize just how differently people are treated for their appearance until you've seen both sides of the coin. it made me feel disgusting. i lost a LOT of respect for a LOT of people. all of the sudden i was being sexualized and objectified by people who i'd confided in, and i couldn't trust anyone who approached me anymore. people started commenting about my appearance more than my character, which bothered me a lot. not nearly as many people tried to actually get to know me on a deep level after that, or even just check in on me. which is funny, because i was suddenly talking to 10x as many people as i was before. it was harder to find groups to fit in, because the popular people realized that i was still the same nerd who loves music, religion, philosophy, and literature, and a lot of the nerdier kids distanced themselves from me because they just assumed i was either a bimbo or not interested in that stuff. or the people who i would get close with just wanted to fuck me. it just solidified my belief that people can't be trusted. i learned quickly to assume that if someone initiates a conversation with/pursues me first, there's probably some sort of agenda or huge red flag i'm not seeing yet, and it's probably not because they just want to get to know me as a person. i got into a lot of really really emotionally and sexually abusive situations because i trusted people who seemed like they genuinely cared about me, but ended up just viewing me as some kind of trophy boyfriend or a breathing, walking dildo. is just being cared for, safe, and unconditionally loved simply on the basis of being human too much to ask for a small guy in this big world?!?!??

[@Jimmyisabot]

perhaps it is how you apply the concept of a "general rule" that you are misled - general rules always have isolated exceptions, those exceptions don't make the general rule invalid

[@hawkblood_art]

I know you don't mean it that way but that makes it sound like only "ugly" people struggle 😭😭

[@paulveba6225]

Its refreshing to hear people who are articulate speak.

[@chiaravene4287]

for real

[@deluded2630]

ah yes i love when people - articulate speak.... (psst thats not correct grammar)

[@Lydia774]

@deluded2630 I believe the sentence is meant to be read as "it's refreshing to hear [people who are articulate] speak," not "it's refreshing to hear people who are [articulate speak]." Would have probably made more sense to say "articulate people" instead of "people who are articulate," but that's just my opinion.

[@deluded2630]

@@Lydia774 OHH, the comma makes a huge difference

[@Josephinesprl]

@@Lydia774this was probably one of the only helpful youtube comment replies ive ever seen

[@ashas781]

Isolation makes your senses sharp. I can spot fake person before anyone else in the room, but it's also a curse, because nobody is going to believe in your feeling without hard proof, they have to get tricked/cheated/taken advantage of before they see the truth for themselves.

[@arnoldo9319]

This is so true. I have multiplr instances of this happening.

[@leggotheeggodemon1323]

Not only this als o unrelated and stupid but always more sensitive to electrical issues... could feel jolkts of electricity through electronisc and water on the ground randomly that people couldnt replicate and think imn crazy would walk around anfd figure out water on shoes steal tip shoes hole in the bottom and wires that are broke or melting inside devices.... I was always going around shoiocking myself till I could get the right source.

[@lucian940]

youre just paranoid lmao idiot

[@env0x]

or you can call them out to their face, and if your feelings are true, you will be able to beat them rhetorically.

[@missgurl837]

I totally get this too and it makes you feel like you need to keep an eye out for them like closely watching them and waiting for them to do something that proves your case

[@danielwalley6554]

You nailed it - put yourself into more social situations. Practice makes perfect in all things. Fundamentally it's a competence problem - you have social anxiety because you're not good at social situations. How do you get good at things? You practice. The only obstacles is the fear of looking incompetent at the beginning - but you have to accept that as a necessary precursor. Have been through this process myself - I had to get comfortable with being uncomfortable but pushing forward regardless, and eventually got it all nailed down. Social competence achieved, social anxiety gone. Another thing is this - become okay with looking bad. It's fine to make a fool of yourself, ain't the end of the world.

[@Love11904]

How long did it take you to get to that point ? ❤

[@NickGreiner1988]

Said hello to someone at the pub, got bashed. So much for trying to make friends

[@aldokurti3272]

Bro youtube mogged me by recommending this video.

[@Andreandre2xx]

Lmaoo same

[@user-co8uf1mj6c]

Bruuooootal

[@dualshock3]

yeah lets listen what a guy with a chad face has to say, and see how relatable this to all sub5's are..

[@fabians7673]

@@dualshock3 pathetic incel spotted

[@Brightyssta]

​@@dualshock3Blackpill becoming mainstream!? Didn't expect that

[@skurtyyskirts]

I didn't know this video quality was possible in 2024

[@projectalyce]

Lol. 😂

[@AimlessAbyss]

What a time to be alive...

[@anonymouscode1635]

​@@projectalycedoes ur eyes have beef with each other??

[@meantforlove]

@@anonymouscode1635this is such an unnecessary and disrespectful comment. she literally commented agreeing with someone and you brought her looks into it. if you’re gonna act like that, then post a picture of yourself and let people make fun of you.

[@anonymouscode1635]

@@meantforlove after a much needed reflection i agree . Thats fu©ked up thing to say. But world won't be entertaining if everyone is like u .

[@TheDanteBoots]

I was isolated for over 10 years then got a retail job and learned to socialize that way, for the most part I still prefer being isolated, the only thing that gets me out of the house now is friends wanting to do things like hiking/fishing. I often fantasise about companionship but lack the motivation and would rather not drag somone into my mess of a life.

[@merber6070]

Everyone’s life is a mess 😂 people typically get together to ease each other’s “mess”

[@KingDopaminee]

Bro casually beautiful

[@BlackMonoSU10]

Literally looks like a Rock Star

[@jasonrose1758]

Tha fuck

[@cangurona]

model

[@sero662]

u brown. why u talk about beauty?

[@stevenewton6776]

He looks like an anime character. But for real, a lot of people feel this way, especially me.

[@Heliocentrism_denier]

Three things that I learnt from being socially isolated for multiple years: 1. Distancing is eye opening, as you mentioned you get to see other's perspective a lot better, at the same time that leads to more anxiety and ultimately 2. Social isolation is stagnation, you will at some point be left with only your past to wonder at as your achievements in life become less impressive, you will spend less time being active and doing things outside of your bubble which is (personally) a main cause of self loathing 3. Lastly, the more time you spend by yourself the more likely you are to come out with serious mental health issues, try to spend time around others and accept that you've mostly lost from spending time by yourself I really liked the video

[@owlspider62]

Lol what your point number 3 doesn't even make sense, lets say if I spend time alone improving myself then I have lost?

[@penelopeo8761]

@@owlspider62 i think they meant. there is a line in how much time you should be spending by yourself. while its good to reflect by yourself. isolation is ultimately bad for your mental health and can sink you into ways of thinking that would otherwise be challanged once you enter social enviornments again :) much love and happy travels in your journey

[@owlspider62]

@@penelopeo8761 Thanks for your explanation, but I only interact with a few people currently, and I am still very happy right now; it's quiet and peaceful. However, I do agree that having completely zero interactions can lead to mental health issues.

[@nihad3019]

@@owlspider62live your life hhowever you want. i feel the same.

[@Litteratii]

This is so true, I've been isolating since the pandemic and have realized only now that I've missed this chunk of my life, and I'm young so that chunk was kind of pivotal. It's like I fell asleep for 4 years, but even now when I try to interact I am so awkward and I don't remember how to do it - I know the solution is to keep trying, but I really don't want to. The lack of motivation and simultaneous restlessness is a horrible combination. It makes you feel so alien.

[@Miumiu630]

Intelligent people often do not have friends, or very few ! It is not something wrong with it at all ! There are people that can not be alone with themselves, they need constant attention, communication, mingling… boring and empty people! To be with yourself, and not feel alone is the most beautiful thing! You have a beautiful voice by the way!

[@kjoboz]

Nailed it!!

[@Danyoljonson]

Im very introverted

[@Miumiu630]

Live the way you love to and do not care what others want, what others say , what others think , what others need ! Do whatever makes you feel good !!! Our life is our journey to make and not what society plans for us or tells us what is good and what isn’t! And for some people a journey can be full of life and happiness and beauty with themselves!! Consume is what society wants from us ! Let the empty ones consume and mingle and be so happy!!! 😏 Books , plants , fantasy and pets is all we need to feed the soul and the mind !

[@logansdomain16]

A normal person NEEDS socialization or they go insane. When you sit there and psych yourself and think introspectively for years no socialization and you call it learning to love yourself? No bro you went insane, you snapped lol.

[@Miumiu630]

How do you define “ normal “ ! How do you know what normal means? How do you know what normal is for everyone else and every single individual? You do not have a right to decide what every individual needs , what every individual think what it is good or bad for them! Every individual has their own needs and believes!

[@Lionhearted626]

It’s a real gift to listen to a human being speaking without filter and with pure and direct expression.

[@Bb-xp8ym]

God really created bro beautifully

[@edwardjoseph8007]

The new zyzz

[@user-co8uf1mj6c]

​@@edwardjoseph8007 mini zyzz

[@GeorgeKing-ms1vy]

To prove that looks aren't enough to make you socially successful.

[@manu03_]

@@edwardjoseph8007 I was thinking that jaja

[@Stevewilldoit96]

If he was ugly he would get 0 views. Brutal halo effect, people only care because he’s Chad. He probably got 100+ females in his DMs from making this low quality webcam video.

[@omegawave4850]

Very relatable. I'm socially isolated since 2 years. Lost my last friend half a year ago, after he ghosted me out of nowhere. It's really hard to go outside now and talk to new people or even to try to find new friends. I just don't wanna get hurt again, so i'd rather stay alone than have 10 false friends yk... But that's okay, beeing alone really builds character, you finally have time to contemplate what you really want in life.

[@JonnyCrackers]

I'm extremely socially isolated. My parents are around and I have a job, but I haven't really had a meaningful conversation with another human being in a very long time. I can relate to feeling socially inept too. Even very simple social norms like saying hello to a co-worker as I pass them feels incredibly awkward for me. Nothing feels natural anymore. I feel like I have to pretend to be human and I'm a really bad actor.

[@SimonR38]

Learn the Gospel, embrace it and share it! :)

[@grishakek]

try cocaine

[@leomuller4653]

@@SimonR38 Wrong stage to introduce that bro

[@dawsoncarpenter-v9y]

ugh me too. i chose homeschool this year for my senior year because of my anxiety and my parents decided to move in the middle of nowhere so im not in a big city anymore. i used to be an extrovert but i got used to being alone and i would rather lay in my bed all day and i feel like a looser, i just turned 17 and i still dont have a job, i cant drive yet but im working on it. everything i say and do feels unnatural and it takes way too much effort to appear normal. im aware of everything in every social interaction and developed anxiety too so hopefully when i geg a job and move out i can go back to normal

[@leianahope4831]

You are very human, beautiful, and I wish you the best! And same as person who most recently commented, I understand heaps ❤ all we have to do is go out of ourselves a bit (if theres lots of unhelpful self focus), which happens naturally with focusing on life (and theres always more to find in thought). We all can do this :)

[@Nai911]

half of the comments just talk about his looks 💀

[@n0tchqn_.]

Ikr like, yes he is good looking, but cmon guys 😭😭

[@v-dogquick5888]

@@n0tchqn_. he’s not lol

[@Fightanddie]

Your eyes and Brain tell stories. Your looks are there for social status

[@sineadgaming69]

blackpill never dies

[@HUGO-vl4ur]

fax he looks good tho

[@cyyberdarko]

thank you for making this video, specifically your words on how people get on your nerves, which is the same for me. i've always been easily irritated, but now the fact i'm so alone, every social 'flaw' i see in a person straight up bothers me and i cant tell if being lonely is a blessing or a curse.

[@esyz0]

Real

[@Escapism888]

same, it got to the point that I fear I won't be able to survive in a long-term relationship because of so many things that trigger me, from eating sounds to louder noises etc

[@God22222.]

You seem like a chill dude, have a great day.

[@kaeltkottmir]

He's chill guy

[@Copemaxer]

Halo effect

[@Aaaiiuuyy]

@@CopemaxerOng

[@EvanD787]

God is Good. God is also within us when we figure this all out

[@twinkpony]

​@@Copemaxerlmao incels trying to prove he is a horrible person

[@michaeldonnelly8068]

2004 flip phone video quality, scene haircut, and bro talking about social isolation is a total vibe. Yeah, we're definitely kind of an autistic society now it seems. Seriously, God Bless you bro. Praying hard for ya 🙏

[@purpleflaminggoatsnakes9864]

As an autism I can definitely confirm we live in an autistic society

[@lardface8080]

If anything neurotypical is the new uncool.

[@friednugge8155]

R you a malayali bro your using the words😂

[@purpleflaminggoatsnakes9864]

@@friednugge8155 no I'm autistic not Malayali

[@shreeeramkijai]

​@@friednugge8155scene haircut parajal scene aayi ennala manda😂

[@ButtercupASMR]

Thank you for talking about this so openly. In my experience, being alone can feel so safe that it's hard to stop isolating yourself but ofc the loneliness that follows is excruciating.

[@alaska3390]

feels like living in a void

[@noashohat8380]

Yep

[@Infanta-sofia1]

We all love you 💖🩷💙

[@Wolfspaine7N6]

Yes.

[@BoxGirl9]

Yeah

[@JotaroDrake]

Basically

[@mickey-ij7un]

Accepting and embracing boredom helps me a lot.

[@ChuyEVC]

w pfp

[@reducetheatoms]

always the proggers x)

[@giannamason9848]

Ay king crimson

[@Daniel101.]

What are the benifts you gained I'm curious.

[@mickey-ij7un]

@Daniel101. In theory you stop chase and achieving peace of mind instead of happiness seems to be more within my reach

[@SammyASMRRrR]

This is the first time I’ve ever felt a connection and understanding with someone else who’s been in social isolation

[@skaito]

imagine if he was ugly, this is a small window into how much humans value looks. a small channel called "the lit nomad" made a good video about how adult relationships are transactional and looks are a great majority of what people value when calculating someones worth. I wouldn't have watched this video if it weren't for his insane facecard in the thumbnail

[@bjackalope3]

brutal

[@khplaylistyt9729]

there is a video on that. lots of views too

[@Phawnreath]

SO fucking true, nobody wants to admit this as reality but thats exactly why i clicked

[@nishijoichiro2515]

I watched Videos of other guys Telling their stories and they are ugly or don't Even Show their faces Lol

[@nishijoichiro2515]

​@@PhawnreathIn my case It was not like That, I just Like To watch guys Documenting Their thoughts on life Lol

[@KhadejaKhaledahmed]

This video really touched me, social isolation really destroyed me, after three years of isolation - and I am now in the fourth year - I discovered that I was really behind and lagging behind everyone, and I will live in all aspects of my life with this stupidity if I am not able to go out and confront, confrontation is difficult and people are very difficult, everything related to what is social worries me as if I am in hell, I hope I can overcome all of this and be able to leave behind fear, fear of people and relationships... and life.

[@pranavjoshi2283]

hey want to be friends?

[@ccchhheeennn2]

I would be a bad friend, so I’m not suggesting that, but you are seriously not alone and even popular people get lonely a lot.

[@Loverofgod123]

Ask God into your hear He will guide you and help you learn how to love others and he’ll deliver you from loneliness

[@AbdulRahman-vy7ko]

sending you lots of hugs and i believe i you gurl💙 it's def so heart-wrenchingly difficult but with time you can make yourself accustomed to social interactions

[@neowild8102]

female in pfp, opinion rejected

[@sophiebanana299]

i've been alone for a couple months lately and it really does suck and i can relate to the things u said there's also a down side and an upside to it. without any noise for a long time can really make u observe things/ read people more clearly. + when you have nothing rlly going on in your life you basically have a minimal schedule so u can focus more on yourself and school, but there's a bad part to being lonely. It gets depressing overtime having almost no one to check up on u etc. I really hope it isn't like this forever I just want a couple friends to make memories with and thats enough.

[@Carter9007]

It's so crazy listening to you. It's like listening to the part of me I thought was special.

[@Choose.Nurture.Not.Excess]

Geowing up?

[@luamfernandez6031]

true

[@RAYMONNNNN]

@@Choose.Nurture.Not.Excess fr

[@slowreading-q4o]

It's crazy how many profound thoughts we think we have lol it hurts the ego sometimes at least for me lol

[@ccchhheeennn2]

@@slowreading-q4oreally? I actually finally feel human and normal 😂 interesting what our minds create when introspection occurs

[@shineinouzen7412]

You're not alone. I grew up with social anxiety in my late teens, in my early 20s I got very depressed & I purposefully isolated myself from anyone and anything outside of my escapism (video games) for YEARS. As you said, that silence benefitted me in figuring out who I AM. Late 20s now, and I've been starting to branch out, catch up with childhood friends who are thankfully still there for me, and go on dates. During this phase I'm in I STILL feel like I do a lot wrong sometimes, like I'm too awkward or inconsiderate. But I've realized that these are just moments. Yeah there might be some where we're a little odd, but that's fine because these moments however often they happen, do not define our entire being. People are also more accepting and forgiving then I've given them credit for. I believe we all go through similar things at different stages in our lives so for anyone reading this, if you're in a lonely phase or an isolation phase, while it may be very difficult at times realize that this freedom & silence can be a blessing to build yourself up... into WHOEVER you want to be. And that you are not alone.

[@shadyisshady9897]

hey, thanks for this comment bc sometimes i feel like im the only one around me that doesn’t have any social life and no future plans. i’m 19 and i have no job, no irl friends, and just rot in bed most days. i feel like my future is already fucked bc of how isolated and useless i am to society now. i really hope i still have time to find a place in this world. i am very glad to hear you are doing better. 🖤

[@shineinouzen7412]

@ Thank you! Oh wow you are 19 only? I am 29 so yes you have so much time to do anything. You just gotta choose what you want and go for it! For me that was the hardest part. You got this.

[@dean6967]

relate to the social anxiety, depression and isolation. starting isolating myself in highschool, I was practically a mute. 22 now with no friends and I spend my time in my room doing nothing. improvement and change seems impossible at this stage but I know it isn't, this sort of thing is just a fight with yourself more than anything

[@shadyisshady9897]

@@dean6967 exactly the same situation for me man. i need to change myself before i can go anywhere but it seems so far out of reach sometimes.

[@f4ther111]

@@shadyisshady9897 ur literally me it’s crazy, same age same situation 😭 the annoying thing is i always feel like it’s too late to do or change anything, but i hope things improve for the both us and everyone else in the same boat

[@OkMinMusic]

Right there with you brother. Enjoy the objective awareness and observing. Not being a victim of social narrative seed planting is priceless. The positives of physical social isolation massively outweigh the negatives anyway. The joy of the internet is that you can connect with others and socialise online without necessarily having to invite them into your life in the way you would with physical socialising. Be good, kind to others, and focus on your goals and ambitions. You have undisturbed time to focus on whatever it is you want to. Sending good vibes from Australia! ✌

[@starr5268]

Face card is lethal.

[@mexican_pelican9238]

face card is yummy

[@Mista1Take]

DRRRFRRRR

[@acardinalconsideration824]

Bro looks like a young Ian Somerhalder

[@Mr.Wayne12]

He does! Boone from LOST!

[@chelseasstolentahitianpearls]

He looks like Ian Somerhalder visiting the Minimoys

[@NewbieLoki]

Bro looks like Jordan Barret

[@probablyBigT]

i was thinking the bauhaus guitarist

[@JillRobertsIsmyGF]

This video is so The Rules Of Attraction coated.

[@marcusgotts2938]

I used to be mega sociable but these days the total opposite. Unfortunately a sign of the times. Hard to find real genuine people now that actually have value. So I hear you bro.

[@grizzlybearsayshi]

I can totally relate. I've felt isolated before too, but I constantly try to break out of it. The more you interact with people, the more you learn, what things to avoid, how to see the best in others, and how to make the most out of every conversation. It also gives you a chance to reflect on yourself. It can be exhausting for those who aren’t used to it, but it’s still better than staying isolated for long periods. If you're lucky, you’ll find a few people, or even a handful, who truly match your quirks. I think the desire to be alone often comes from a fear of how others perceive us, taking their words or actions too personally. But in the end, you have to look after yourself, do your best, and not dwell on every interaction. If a conversation doesn’t go well or takes a turn for the worse, don’t stress about it. Just think, “Well, I tried.” At least you’ve learned something from the experience. Of course, this isn’t easy, and I’m speaking as someone who absolutely can’t stand being alone. It gives me the ick. Empathy is key too. Not everyone is judging us harshly. Most of the time, it’s really about how we perceive their judgment.

[@YvngCheese]

PSA for anyone that feels this way. Its not easy. it takes work to get out of the loop that isolation puts you in. Isolation is amazing in moderation but negatively impacts your life, self worth, and confidence. I used to be in the same spot. So alienated from social interaction and being around people. However once you start putting yourself out there you realize there are people that genuinely like you for you. Effortlesly so. You just have to find them. Thats the hard part. Cause you face a lot of rejection and so its easier to just go back to isolation where you dont have to face any of that. I do however promise you that putting yourself out there will be truly beneficial in the long run. Dont be afraid. Youll fail, youll get rejected, youll meet people you dont like. You just have to try again. Relationships come and go. So find them and just enjoy them while they last. Among other things isolation is typically a defense mechanism to keep yourself from getting hurt. I went from only having 3 real friends for 4yrs, to just my girlfriend and no friends or family for 3 yrs. I got comfortable in my isolation and only having my significant other. It truly messed me and my mental health up. Now here i am 4 months out of that relationship and im the most social ive ever been. Ive met more new people in the last 4 months than i have in the last 7 yrs. It was far from easy. I faced a lot of rejection and i faced a lot of awkwardness and uncomfortability. but eventually you fall into a groove. Where you feel comfortable with it. Where being yourself is easy and you recognize your value and you find the people that value you for yourself. Youll make it out the otherside man. I know you will. You just have to find your motivation to reach the other side. Cause at the end of the day isolation typically give you negative motivation and negative self talk cause all youre doing is talking to yourself. Also making friends online or through apps is terrible. Its a good start to the journey but dont be discouraged solely because you dont seem to meet a lot of people or have meaningful connections with them. its a complex thing and it takes time. People have their own lives and motivations. So just take your time and ease yourself into more social settings, interactions, and put some effort into finding yourself some friends. You should also consider therapy. It helped me a lot with this. Youll have to reframe some things about the way you think and perceive things and it wont be easy. Feel free to hmu man. You seem like a great guy and id love to be your friend. Much love.

[@GregoryNothnagel]

Dude, you're talking like you're on the other side of the pearly gates. Flying solo is a totally viable playthrough option. Forming social relationships to avoid being alone is a bad sign, because it shows the desire to be with other people is stronger than the desire to be with oneself, which shows self-perception of inadequacy. The desire for social bonds is just pressured into us by a society that wants its individual parts to be in service to it. A lot of emotional attachments work that way. You think that you just naturally are emotionally attached to something, but really a good deal of it is society trying to manipulate your behavior through creating these emotional attachments when you're young and moldable. I think breaking these emotional attachments is the key to a peaceful life. Not completely sure, testing it out now and it's somewhat working I think, at least so far...

[@JosephSammon-l4k]

Hey man I kind of have the same situation you have. I’ve been with my girlfriend for the past couple years and ive pretty much only socialized with her. I just broke up with her for a multitude of reasons but I feel so out of touch. How exactly did you go from the breakup to actually meeting people? Where did you go?

[@YvngCheese]

@GregoryNothnagel You're not wrong my friend. Like I said too much of anything is a bad thing. I don't disagree that you should be prioritizing yourself over the validation of others. However, everyone needs some kind of support system. Typically, that can be through people that support you. I think some of the ways you describe things are very reminiscent of how I used to think from my ptsd. That people are evil, what's the point, people are only out for themselves. Which is Tru to a degree but thats why I said enjoy relationships while they last. Create strong boundaries and self worth. Having friends is a way to validate your self worth. By changing your core values through validation isn't a bad thing. As the quote goes I'd rather love and lose than to never love at all. People are innately social creatures. The only time we act like we aren't is when we're afraid of being hurt and putting a shell on. Creating relationships to avoid problems is bad because avoiding problems is bad. It's OK to not build relationships if you don't feel lonely thats a personal preference. But being lonely and alone are two different things. Don't let the possibilities of something bad happening keep you from the infinite joys that relationships can bring to your life. Also I'm talking about friends here. If it's not bringing you joy or productivity then get rid of it and move on to the next.

[@GregoryNothnagel]

@@YvngCheese Ideally, not having friends should not inspire any kind of fear in us, be it FOMO or fear of no support. In my eyes the only motive for friendship should be enjoying being with the person, or as an extension of an already existing relationship (student and teacher become friends, coworkers become friends, etc.). Do you see any other good motive? (not rhetorical, srsly wondering if you have another perspective) And am I wrong about societies evolving to produce people who instinctively emotionally manipulate other people into propping up the society? Not that the individuals have ill intent, but that they've been brainwashed to an extent, into propagating pro-social behavior? I feel like that's a valid point that I don't hear often, if ever.

[@Calle.Hutch..]

This comment is good, but it made me think about why the idea that relationships won’t last forever is so hard to accept. I think we as humans were made to have relationships and community that DO last forever, but this day and age makes it hard to live that way. Think about our ancestors, for the majority of human history we lived in smaller communities and relied heavily on each other for survival. Everyone in the community had to get along whether they liked it or not(which is healthy), and people probably rarely permanently parted until death. We need deep relationships with others, but if they aren’t going to stick around then there’s no use putting in the effort to make it that way. It is so hard for me to accept that and honestly I don’t think I ever will, when I’m friends with people we are going to be friends for a long time.

[@Sciencegames21]

I had this problem, I started working at bars to get out more, it did change me as a person. Id say that being socially isolated, you’d prefer not to be. You get in your head, and it turns out that you will never solve yourself. Not through thinking. You have to experience things, get what you want, and then through the achievement of your goals, you change. You can better tune in what you actually want. But not by being alone. You will contemplate your problems for decades, never really getting anywhere

[@Love11904]

How did you naturally get out of that nervousness when you first started working at bars ❤

[@Sciencegames21]

@@Love11904 Showing up is huge. You don't really need to talk to anyone, but if you have a task to do, you are part of things. I started with gigs, like through apps. I know apps like Instawork have server / barback gigs that puts you in social settings. Just existing there helped me with my social anxiety, and as you get more comfortable in those settings, you naturally open up.

[@cc3]

I do this shit all the time, I go through months of social withdrawal, re-enter civilization, and realize that not only do I not know how to maintain a friendship, I've lost all ability to interact with people. I've grown very perceptive, and am able to almost psychoanalyze people within a conversation or two which doesn't prevent the underlying issue that I am too guarded or awkward to maintain a casual conversation for any amount of time. I only feel the isolation occasionally when I walk past a bustling bar at night, pretty much every other moment I am content. Earlier this year I did something that changed my entire perception of myself, I traveled to the other side of the world and went backpacking in Australia for just under two weeks. In backpacking and the shield of being so far from home I was able to form sincere but mainly temporary friendships with other travelers, I was able to crack jokes have fun, loosen up and speak without sounding completely brain dead and flustered. At one point people kept coming to me asking what we were going to do next which is possibly the first time in my life that I've ever been viewed as some sort of leader. I'd recommend it to anybody who's lost, the people are extremely accommodating. You're not a shadow of your former self, you're still yourself, just in the shade.

[@vyfrigerio6214]

Wow that’s actually beautiful, really, I got this idea in mind to just run away for a while and re-learn to enjoy life, people, one day it’ll happen

[@cc3]

@vyfrigerio6214 run away is a strong way to look at it as opposed to moving past it but if you're not satisfied with your situation the only thing you can do is to move on however difficult that must be.

[@sorenschleifenbaum9013]

I did the same thing, travelled on the beginning of 2023 for over 2 month to Australia and got to known the Backpacking Hostel Lifestyle. I went with hopes and came back more broken then before. It was to 98% of this time just social anxiety present and im being weird. Some ice seller even said it to my faces "You are weird". Now this time later i lost like almost all hope. But because of other things, too

[@cc3]

@sorenschleifenbaum9013 that's unlucky, sorry to hear that. I'm sure it depends on the crowd. I got quite lucky repeatedly bumping into people i'd loosened up with before who would introduce me to more people. I definitely felt like an outsider for the first few days, I couldn't imagine extending that to months. I actually had a pretty miserable experience on a boat later on where some guy had beef with me for what was essentially just a misunderstanding

[@SupaBuu]

" am able to almost psychoanalyze people within a conversation or two " you sound extremely pretentious and annoying no wonder people hate you

[@Marpai14]

I, too, am a friendless creature; detached from most people but for my parents, however many years now. No online friends, either. I don’t get lonely, per say, but I do imagine what it would be like, to connect with someone likeminded (a friend), and I get sad. That said, I am more content with my inner self, having spent so much time alone. I was a horribly inauthentic person, four years ago.

[@RAYMONNNNN]

glad to hear ur doing good:)) that's motivating. feeling your most authentic self is the best that can ever happen to you, and also making yourself proud

[@bigoudi07]

That's what matters. Being content with yourself.

[@shayalynn]

I relate to a lot of what you’re saying. It can become easy to isolate when you’re used to it, especially if you are more introverted. That’s the way we humans work; we adapt to our situations and form habits even if we aren’t conscious of it. It can then become your comfortability and your refuge of safety. The problem is, we are inherently social creatures, and it’s important to not go too long without socializing, and by socializing, I mean more than communication through online means but face to face contact with others. What really helps me to slowly integrate back into society and the social world is increasing my time outside in nature and decreasing my use of technology. It’s very beneficial to go outside and get fresh air, especially walking in public areas such as the park where other people will be there too. You don’t have to necessarily talk to anybody, but it’s a great transition to break any social anxiety by exposure like this. Then over time, smiling and making small talk with strangers, whether you shoot someone a compliment, makes it easier and easier to open that shell. I hope this helps anybody. :)

[@ehlaaah]

i feel like when i force myself into social situations with the aim of making new friends, i feel so uncomfortable that ive forced myself, that i cannot be comfortable with anyone that i meet. it all feels like a front, and i cant be myself, and i dont know myself enough to act like myself.

[@Escapism888]

exactly! you spend so much time alone you feel like you actually do know yourself, but social interactions show you the completely other side of you that you cannot discover without them

[@CemAkkuzu]

​@@Escapism888 some people can't show their "real side" because they are probably afraid or ashamed to be themselves. If you spend time alone and really do know yourself, the only reason you can't show yourself to other people properly is the fear of critisim and shame. Also, these people censor themselves (self-censorship is the real problem), which makes impossible to speak and act naturally around other people

[@ssvd91]

Ive been socially isolated living online for the better part of the last 14 years. Its a completely inhuman experience. You become just an extricated observer. To be human is to be present, local, interactive. I don't even feel human anymore.

[@benscoon0145]

Work out trusts

[@alexisstephens8511]

i am in the SAME boat as you trust me I was raised as an ipad baby, but my life has actually gotten better lately from putting in intentional effort. My advice to you is to go on bumble bff, find someone who is equally lonely, and bother them ALL THE TIME. The key to being social is making yourself known, talk to everyone even if you sound stupid and people dont like you, find hobbies where it is mandatory for you to talk to people. For example I plan to get into playing fighting games and going to local tournaments, which I have to meet in person for. It's not over until you give up and you have made yourself known to me by commenting on this video!

[@galacticdirt2925]

Real. I'm 16 and recently started getting home-schooled. I only speak to 1-3 people in real life per month, this is not gonna end well for me.

[@Love11904]

@@alexisstephens8511how did you get over the fear of getting out there ?❤

[@hero9402]

Brooooooo u look so good. You look like an anime character. fr gifted facial features. you could easily be a top model.

[@Mr.ConflictedPigeon]

did you understand the point of the video? appearance means nothing, it's just a feature. LISTEN TO THE MAN-

[@slimey1099]

The sort of neurological patterns induced from social isolation, just get reinforced the longer the isolation last. When the brain is given a stimuli a certain sequence of neurons fire, and when given the same stimuli the sequence gets stronger. This can cause feed back loops that can be positive or negative. But due to this, depending on the stimuli this can give rise to unique perspectives and behaviors that can affect social interactions. With prolonged social isolation it can be hard to get out of that downward spiral. I don't know how to end this comment.

[@ThePinkAnt1]

Strange to see someone so beautiful be so lonely.

[@Okwhateverloll]

The loneliest ppl tbh…

[@progresshasbeenmade]

It’s just attention seeking dudes not lonely lmao

[@peechannel8435]

@@progresshasbeenmade you don't know them. shit like this can happen to anyone at anytime, stop confining people in a bubble

[@Anny-me9ny]

But it’s not strange to see someone who’s ugly be so lonely… sometimes I hate the world

[@peachpuff2438]

not everythings about looks bro

[@user-pf3ub]

I can relate to it. I feel more like an observer trapped in this human body. The view towards the word has changed for me

[@user-mv4ix7jd8o]

You should look into Fernando Pessoa, he was also hyper aware

[@Carter9007]

@@user-pf3ub SzPD is also something to look at

[@XxyjmaxX]

This shit is some post COVID thing, I have several Friends but that change after covid

[@Carter9007]

You should also look into Schizoid Personality Disorder.

[@kaeltkottmir]

Me for real

[@malayo-d8f]

Been isolated since 14 turning 17 now and you are so right

[@malayo-d8f]

it feels like shit though

[@darkcnotion]

Don’t be scared to try other things. I’ve been there.

[@DangerNoodle999]

lol you got bout a century to live dont worry

[@fish_R_stinky69]

Same.

[@adlindorsal9877]

Some advice for you since you're still young, especially since I am someone who didn't have friends since middle school into my mid 20s. Don't miss opportunities to put yourself out there, nobody will ever come to you first, you have to be the one to take action. Also don't take people for granted, who spare time for you. I used to have friends briefly in high school and they really did put in effort to know me, but sadly since I was an anxious downer, that negative mood was showing and I wasn't just a good vibe to be around, don't ever let insecurities get in the way. People will drift away if they don't see you putting the effort back into them.

[@frcisc0450]

hey, I feel you, I know what you mean, I was in a kind of social limbo where I didn't and still don't need approval or lack of a better term, I never really felt the need to be socially but Nowadays I work with children and there is a huge social connection in the context in which I work. What I want to say and what I think can help you is, when you say that it's difficult to reach people, it is, but the first step in doing so is to find a context, be it gym, work, painting classes, whatever it is, something that connects you to certain people in a certain context, then you will realize that reaching people is not difficult, there always needs to be a context. Thank you for sharing this video, it appeared in my feed out of nowhere and was extremely relevant, I wish you the best because there is a good side to society, free from egos and appearances.

[@Kitimino]

I relate so much to this. You described social isolation perfectly. I've seen numerous videos online of people labeling themselves as "lonely", but this is the only video that truly encapsulates what I've been feeling for so long. Thank you

[@anshostein]

I've been on my way to become more social, as in finding more people I resonate with. I get this fr.

[@artivism4068]

"and im so excited to hang out with someone that i feel like im off putting". I can relate. I was born and raised in NYC and after 2020 I lost all social contact with fake friends and I feel a deep change within myself. its not easy to make friends in a city that caters to fake illusion. the grit is gone. theres gotta be someone for everyone.

[@chiaravene4287]

I lived in this condition for a couple of years. You reach a level of self awarness and relationship with your inner intuitions, thoughts and gut feeling that is hard to achieve otherwise. On the other hand, once I started having real and fullfilling social interactions, I started to see things from another prospective and learnt a lot about life in this way. I know it might be a struggle, but for me following my intuition of how to act and don't worry too much about reactions worked beautifully. I wish you can turn your life apart and find your satisfaction in social relatioships !

[@ExploitingLife]

bro looks like a hollywood actor

[@dieselphiend]

You couldn't pay me to stay home from 13 until I was 28. I'd sleep on people's couches, floors, wherever. I only hung out with people who were utterly uninhibited. I'm a recluse, now.

[@jonas5000yuki]

It's cool that you made this video, I also felt isolated for a long time in my life and didn't know how to make friends. There are people who are very extroverted and automatically make friends quickly, for example at school or university. For me, when I was very isolated, I was also very needy and I think that made others reject me more often (especially women). Of course, I think I learnt from these rejections and times of loneliness and grew as a person, but as you said, it's very hard. However, what really helped me was not looking for friends directly, e.g. trying to find a conversation in a cramped way. Instead, I went to sporting events where there was closer contact, e.g. dancing or acrobatics. The good thing is that these events always take place and I don't need a good network to be socially connected.

[@vj-6]

any kind of thing, where you spend time with people consistantly is way easier to make friends. like in school or doing a team sport.

[@pinkwalls]

to the people experiencing social isolation. THIS IS NOT A TIME TO BEAT YOURSELF UP. During this period, build yourself up and become a nurturing parent. Invest in hobbies, wholeheartedly have compassion for yourself, learn every shadow aspect and evolve. It’s incredibly important to pay attention to your perception, and your beliefs about self, and your inner world. What story have you been writing for yourself, and how can you rewrite it? this is why you’re isolated, don’t worry about “fomo” with the world, don’t miss out on yourself!!!!!!!

[@painexotic3757]

Too bad this doesn't actually help with anything lol. I did this for years and it got me nowhere. The only real solution is to actually go out there and fix your life. Meet new people, go back to school and get a career, etc. Sitting around trying to find yourself with your hobbies is what I regret doing.

[@pinkwalls]

@ what you’ve done would be the next chapter to this. there are instances where you can’t get out into the world and self improvement while isolated is better, sorta like hercules when he was training ^_^

[@CryptidBuddy]

Bro really thought he cooked

[@dimensionhacker2271]

hell nah not becoming a parent.

[@Sippy9594]

the only thing I really learned about myself is the fact that I'm a fucking coward. I can't get around the fact that I'm just scared to engage people and develope some meaningful relationships. introspection is a great but only gets you so far

[@deciphee]

severely agoraphobic and socially isolated for the past 3yrs. i understand you. I’m 19. A lot of introspection is being done. I know a lot more about myself, and I trust myself more than i ever have, when i was social. And I’ve learned to study human behavior, due to viewing it from the outside for so long. And i wish i could become social. But like you said, it’s really difficult. I’m either really off-putting & awkward, or i don’t have a good response to say back. It hinders me completely. Our social skills unfortunately have to be built back up, and a part of our brain dies due to social isolation. (We as human thrive on connections & being social). So i feel you completely. And it really does feel like a super power. We see new perspectives on things all the time, we build our own opinions on situations, instead of following what everyone else thinks(so it isolates us more, in a way).

[@jaaannneee]

3:09 so true😭 i noticed that my colleagues connects more about what’s on social media, gossips, what’s on the hot topic of the day and not really having this deeper connection with each other where we share our deepest thoughts, vulnerability and just having this authentic connection. I feel out of place most of the time because I have too little interest in what they are talking about, and it feels like its just a superficial connection. I do have frustrations about myself in this kind of issue that because of this, I am led to isolate myself. I wanted to belong to any group of friends, but it seems that I don’t belong anywhere and I feel very lonely for wanting that deep meaningful authentic connection.

[@hamdankhan319]

In the asian hemisphere, relations of all kind are all transactional. Nothing is sacred anymore. Loneliness is everywhere

[@nishijoichiro2515]

Yes, I mean originally those were ""asían problems"" But now they have spread worldwide it's like Hikikomoris, now For A Lot of reasons Theres a Lot of Neets Right now

[@LifeIsGood1992]

In africain, North africain, Eastern Europe as well, and arab and Middle East

[@BulletHoles-s9i]

@@LifeIsGood1992 Wait really?

[@LifeIsGood1992]

@@BulletHoles-s9i it was always like that. you just don't know the culture enough

[@user-ue4fh5mv9s]

True, the people there are so apathetic and cruel

[@skylxght]

I could honestly relate with you here. I am not sure if I can speak on this for you but for me it was like, because I socially isolated myself, I was/have always been in my head a lot, which led me to qualities like self awareness and introspection a lot. But from what you said and everything, I can see that you're amidst this feeling of "longing for meaningful connections" but being way too introspective and self aware (rare qualities that come with double edges) It's not easy to comnect with people anymore cause quite simply put, your standards are high, you see through people, can't resonate with small talk/superficial kinda stuff anymore. But as tough as it may feel, it wouldn't hurt to put yourself out there a lil more. Yk why? You might just find a friend that's equally hating a topic in a bunch of people and start noticing u feel the same and boom! Things flow. In short: Be you, but keep experimenting :)

[@ocelot985]

No bromo but bro is gorgeous wtf

[@kaleb7636]

All bromo and all diddy

[@YaNansCrustyToe]

Gay

[@kaievoke]

you literally cant even see lol all you can tell is that he's pale, are you that down bad?

[@Mgxkyxxkyxkydyjykykxkysnga]

​@kaleb7636not the Diddy part 💀

[@rippa9174]

for a moment I thought he's a younger Ian Somerhalder

[@geoid5388]

I can so much see that

[@bananaboy444]

2:00 I used to have a large social group and could effortlessly interact with new people. After the pando, losing friends, spending so much time alone, I'm completely out of practice with being social. If I get comfortable, I can interact normally, but it doesn't come naturally the way that it used to. Very relatable.

[@Butterfly.Love1616]

I understand you completely.

[@나덴김]

I'm so glad to know someone has the same exact experience

[@moonframe]

I isolated myself on purpose deleted my Insta ,facebook and all that. It' hard sometimes but its still much better then being with fake friends and chasing the fake life. Solitude is a thing not everyone can handle. Keep it up man you are doing great.💪

[@itsv9914]

I am also living in social isolation, it makes me hyperaware of how I perceive things because it gives me a lot of time to look in on why things make me feel and how or if I need to fix or modify it. Many people do this when they are alone with a lot of free time. Humans need to understand body language, tone, social cues, etc in order to socialize properly. I am very aware of how people perceive me because I taught myself how to do that without actually meaning to, but I lack the ability to properly communicate due to not having much experience socializing. It is an experience thing and can be relearned from what I have experienced. You have a very brilliant mind, trust me. : ) (Also we can be friends, just let me know what to add you on and user)

[@ddude1212]

yep.... that's pretty much it. i wanted to leave a comment, but i wouldn't even know where to start. it's a double-edged sword, because the years that i had with no outside interaction gave me a LOT of time to explore my mind, understand myself, and grow. at the same time however, humans need interaction and love. in terms of needs that are non-essential for survival, i'd say that one's easily among the most important. i wouldn't trade those years for anything, because i wouldn't be the person i am today without them, but damn... having someone i could truly let my guard down around and be safe with would be really nice sometimes. it also sucks because being kept under a rock by abusive parents for most of my early adolescent years, once i actually was able to go out into the world, i was horribly abused and manipulated because i didn't see or just ignored the signs because i thought they were normal, which reinforced my already firm distrust of people, making me even more scared to go out and meet new friends.

[@batmancharles]

Nice to know I'm not the only one.

[@Ubermensch058]

I haven't had friends in six years nor any family since moving to America. Everyday in my room or home by myself but luckily I have friends on the internet. Hang in here guys, we are men, and we must keep trying. Don't be consumed by your thoughts.

[@humbett]

Wow man you rich german can settle anywhere whenever you want ,that's good I wish I will able to

[@loooove18]

@@humbett mf is NOT nietzsche

[@user-2Hteyasizyc]

Hang in there guyths !!! yeah like theres other options.

[@novailoveyou]

Gotta try and find somebody special. Maybe that somebody is looking for you too

[@Fffffffff3]

Why did you move to the US?

[@Jorb.s]

The “valuable social relationships” is so relatable. Like I want to connect more with people but I’ve been disconnected for so long that I’ve evaluated the kinds of people I want to be around and if someone doesn’t have those values, I immediately pull away. To me it sounds like a mature thing to do? But I’ve been in my head for so long that I’d appreciate a second opinion

[@ziphy_6471]

Yeah, youre choosing your friends, nothing wrong with that, if someone dont fw u, u dont fw them

[@eeriegutfeeling]

Hey man I’ve seen you on TikTok. I relate to that idea of being isolated to the point of feeling insane, it definitely builds character and I think in that will bring you experience instead of feeling trapped in observation. Your annoyance w the world is valid that alone will bring you connection I hope. Social media can be a great outlet you’re more capable than you feel

[@eeriegutfeeling]

The contrast in these comments are telling too lmao you have great online potential

[@someone-n7h]

social isolation to me just makes me depressed. i miss being 12 and hanging out with my friends just having fun.

[@averygray22yearsago51]

Thank you for sharing this perspective. I’m sure i’ve felt this as well being an addicted gamer. Being courageous to get out there helped me, life doesn’t have to be so serious is what i’ve learned. ❤ again, thank you for sharing and be careful out there, not everyone is practical association obviously. And always remember that it starts with you no matter the environment, only you can make yourself happy but having GOOD support will help you to fine tune your reality. Take care brother ❤😂✌️

[@imthesweetgirl]

i think social isolation is a very useful thing. i have spent a majority of my youth 'isolated'- and these superpowers you mentioned, that i understand- cannot be let go to waste. you cannot be permanently isolated. for these gifts- this viewpoint from the darkened underside of life- can be channeled into something sooo0O great. if you are into anything creative (and creativity umbrellas sooo0O much) or even just technological (even in that lies creativity and innovation), you would have a great capacity for it and i think it should be shared-. the isolated person, one might think them as a selfish overgrown housecat, but inside they have fermented and refined something in them so 'themselves' and FRESH for the world. a breath of fresh air because its absolutely new. and OH, it's a such a wonderful thing, when you find someone who has 'this'- and you can see yourself in it- like, HEY, that's me, you're me. then you're never alone. never alone, even in isolation. funny how seeing yourself in someone else makes you feel less alone, almost like you have always been your best company.

[@imthesweetgirl]

doesn't hurt to look into Intuitive Introverts by Jung

[@BawsBoo]

Dog I resonate so deeply I was practically finishing all your sentences the whole video 😅, thanks for your perspective I found it both validating and insightful

[@Piccolgoatenthusiast]

I've started to do adopt this isolated mentality, and i can say that while it'll leave me feeling dark and even scared of myself and the thoughts i have, i do much prefer it to how i feel like ive been "faking" who i am for other people. I now feel like if i were to never see any of my "friends" again i wouldnt miss them at all

[@MiyokoNagamori]

I feel u, im an artist myself, doing freelance, worked for a year an office job and it was the weirdest experience. My socialization is scarce and limited and I do enjoy observing ppl in discord group chats ran by my one online friend that I have, but I'm also hard to get along with and easily irritated by obvious mechanisms ppl use to try to get friendly with me (usually due to my art). it's a struggle for me to live on a fringe of society like this BC it's a bit lonely place to be, but your video put me somehow at ease with it, it's not often when I hear about others having similar experiences and points of view. Thanks for being a voice of this kind of existence.

[@VentiWhoreshipper]

I went through the same thing, about experiencing those weird tactics people do when they try to get close to me (I'm also a freelance artist!) I used to be very active on Discord servers but it trickled down which is low-key bad for my line of work lol But I needed this "isolation". It brought a lot within me that I wouldn't have realized if I went with the constant bombardment of other people's opinions onto me.

[@funnybunny4932]

Honestly same. I’ve had some bad social experiences in the past, that mixed in with social anxiety sucks. It makes it feel like every interaction is hell, so I try to avoid them if I can. Hope everything works out for you though

[@justlavendars]

ikr

[@xoxofml2023]

Same

[@gritted]

I can relate with a lot of this man. You’re not alone in this. I stopped being social when I was around 10, and I don’t like many people at all. We observe everything lol I can realize so much but am still so bad at socializing.

[@petter9078]

Thank you for having the courage to share your thoughts. I was hesitating quite a lot to write out this comment, because I find this to be very personal. As a human being who naturally turned into isolation in order to make a sense of this world, I would also like to share that I sit with similar perspectives. In that sense it it is nice to feel that I am not alone, but I also don't really need it, if you know what I mean about that. It is always kind of nice to see someone experience the world in a similar fashion, especially in this scenario when it is quite unique. I wonder what would happen if we met, for instance, because would be just sit there trying to read each other and forget to live or have fun, if you know what I mean. Anyways, have a great weekend sir.

[@burnouty]

I've been solo for about 9 years now and I definitely don't recommend it to anyone at all. yet some isolation to focus on big tasks really works that's for sure.

[@Infanta-sofia1]

We all love you 💖🩷💙😊

[@xoxofml2023]

I relate to this alot. You explained everything how i feel and how i think so well. Its good to know im not the only one out there going through this.

[@ROccoRecluse-q4r]

Eyes to see, ears to hear, the mouth betrays most, they know not what they do. You have a blessing to be able to be that you are, most have made the mask their identity.

[@GenZMuscle06]

I can totally relate to this. I have people that I talk to here and there however out of all these people there is not one person that i could call a ,close‘ or ‚best‘ friend. Sometimes I feel very lonely but it‘s also very peaceful at the same time to not have friends.

[@MattDaGamer21]

Most likely you aren’t compatible with them

[@PracticallyMagic88]

Thank you for making this. You deserve love and support- I pray you know how loved you are ❤

[@yvesalya3914]

Isolation separates you from the objectivity of the world, but with time I discovered that every person lives with his own mind and personal world, not just me. ... Isolation and having a talent isolate you a lot from the world because then it becomes easier to understand yourself than to understand others, and I don't blame you. Isolated people get used to themselves for a long time. ... From time to time I try to go outside as well. I am social if the weather is smooth, but I have my conditions to be that.

[@beatonthebrat4000]

Its hard to be a "chosen one" / "Old Soul".

[@scrapsbyliam]

can you expand on that? im curious

[@Evil_morty28]

Its impossible for me

[@Evil_morty28]

​@@scrapsbyliamsomething about to do with God's chosen one idk much Abt it but ye

[@Wisdomforyou-t4j]

grow the f up, take responsibility for your life. You're not more chosen than anybody else. Be useful, be strong, praise god.

[@SuperiorRobyn]

​​​​​@@scrapsbyliam Idk man. Not everyone here is the same. there are many layers to what's going on here, and even "old souls" or the "chosen ones" can experience corruption. Man some people have NO DEPTH. it's like nothing's going on up there. But idk what exactly is going on but I'm pretty sure it's A LOT of different things going on. These people operate on pure impulse and can be EASILY manipulated. Granted I think there are people who are capable of having more depth, but they are TERRIFIED to look at things. So they just pretend they didn't see anything and continue on in lala land. Perhaps their soul is younger, and they simply, aren't ready yet. But also many people have lost touched with their soul, and some, may have never had one, idk. But many people like this, can easily be taken over by demons. And theres people who have depth and substance behind their being, but they are dark malevolent beings. And these people seem to have been gifted the most knowledge in this world. Which they use for dark malevolent acts. Then there's people with depth and substance behind their being, who are people who generally seek out good. But we are born into a world of dark ness and confusion, so it can be easy for us to succumb to the ways of the world, and have their own shortcomings. This is the major division I'm seeing .

[@xantonette]

looking through your channel i see we have two major things in common: we both like to create music and we’re both lonely. just wanted to point that out since i’m sure they’re related in some way lol. anyway, i became socially isolated after i chose to get away from some people i didn’t quite identify with, yet things haven’t improved for years, and loneliness/social awkwardness is really taking its toll. oddly enough, people often assure me that i’m not socially inept like i think i am-i just haven’t found my people. i think it’s important to remember this especially if you’re still in high school, as it helps to remain hopefully for the future.

[@ghost-gi9er]

Honestly I can relate a lot. But after a while self awareness becomes a strange thing, and you can start to see things in strange ways without another perspective. With so much time to think it’s hard to stay out of my head even when other people are around. So it’s a bit of a cycle.

[@ThiCC_Yosh]

im afraid my comment wont be seen. i relate to you so so much, but you're right most people dont have this perspective because they'll never understand, to them getting relationships is easy, to us it's not. I've been mostly isolated from preschool to college, i have 2 friends that i accidentally befriended because they were disabled like me, but i never befriended anyone traditionally so i was alone for decades. It's like you're an alien among humans, you study and imitate them, but you will never be like them. I too am socially behind, why I might never know, but I think its prolly an illness, because even shy or introverted ppl are able to make frequent friends. Thats why we arent normal, but at least we are unique. I understand your pain :( and i wish you find this comment. but yeah social interaction doesnt come naturally to us, you have to find ways to do it manually.

[@quinny-poo]

you're really well spoken, its been hard for me as well recently when joining college and dealing with the ups and downs. i like the perspective you've spun on this though, it makes me feel better. like maybe things that feel wasted can actually be put towards something useful.

[@Scrungge]

2:25 I have one best friend that I luckily talk a lot too and vibe well with but I still have this with new people, even though I know my worth / have some self confidence.

[@_x2fz]

Same

[@dwad-o2u]

takes time brother, there was a awkward year where i didn't speak anyone for a long time and its affected me socially to this day, i feel avoid hanging out with people because of the fear i just cant match there energy socially but it takes time ive seen a huge difference