thoughts on social isolation

[@krytals]

“Being alone for a while is dangerous. lts addicting. Once you see how peaceful it is, you don't want to deal with people anymore”. - Tom Hardy

[@BeastMode-oz8qc]

The opposite is also true though... The more and the longer you live in isolation the more dangerous. You start yearning for a sense of socialization, needing to have company (in the form of love and affection) from women. And wanting to make connections in the form of friendships. I am cripplingly socially anxious and introverted to the extent of having to be semi drunk a lot of times I go to social events, yet I still crave social interactions. I've lived both social isolation and being a party animal and I can assure you the happy medium (for me at least) is in having balance between both.

[@Rain_901]

Spot on. I feel like people say this to cope because of our hyper-individualistic society. When everything becomes transactional people start to disassociate with socializing and society in general. In a way i don’t blame them, but it surely isn’t the way.

[@SISI-ABDEL-FATTAH]

We all love you 💖🩷💙

[@blackstar3984]

The only reason any of this is applied by a negative connotation is simply because you all are overly self conscious instead of just letting yourself be free within who you are around people and not learning how to let go due to negative thoughts or ideas. Let the world see who you are even if you’re a quiet type or rowdy this world needs color and that’s what individuality is for

[@harriporter8044]

I think Jim Carrey quoted it before Hardy not sure where it’s originally from. Love both actors.

[@thescarecrow897]

mogging in 180p is crazy

[@8_no]

LMAO

[@721rena]

He's fine af

[@yasamxn]

idk about yall but i prefer this kind of qualities rather than 4k videos. it's giving a video call with a friend, not just watching an influencer

[@johntheanimator4317]

lol

[@ripplik9323]

@@yasamxn I'm so glad someone else thinks so lool

[@imb4j214]

Extremely self-aware video. That’s what isolation does to you. You start to think about things you’ve never thought before because all of the sudden you’re responsible for your own wellbeing without anyone telling you what to do.

[@YuRe-u3y]

Well said

[@anthonyf616]

For me, it just made my brain further mushy

[@AtuqWariTarukaWaman]

Fr

[@alalulu4503]

It sounds like a cliche but isolation really does feel like a gift and a poison at the same time.

[@Randomly.assembled.molecules]

Yep, that's the best thing about isolation

[@DSFXRENDER]

in my bedroom, in a different country, no friends, 7 years gone by. couldn't relate more. you're a wonderful human rain! keep that chin up.

[@ChocolateMuffin308]

dude that's very bad... like I totaly relate and I'm in the same situation, and it was comfy and safe for a while, but some time ago I realized how stuck it made me, and the loneliness has become agonizing lately. Not even talking about all the time I've wasted, best years of my youth... I've also realized that if I died at some point no one would even know, because I have no friends and my parents have got very old. So I've been trying to leave this room finally and get out there and connect with people, but it's SO difficult to find friends in your 30's!!! Please don't be like me, please do something about your situation, and I will keep trying too.

[@DSFXRENDER]

@@ChocolateMuffin308 i appreciate you bud

[@looeegee]

I also feel like this and try to comfort myself with music, I've been thinking of living abroad too, since I don't have more than 2 friends and a small family (not of my own of course, I haven't had a girlfriend ever and it seems less likely every day) just to see what other things the world has to offer but that feeling of being even more lonely is daunting, the dread being forever unseen and mattering little to none to the universe, I'm already 26 and time feels like it melts away from my hands, maybe someday our lives will turn around for good, hope is our only friend it seems

[@Totiniospizzaprettyplease]

@@ChocolateMuffin308 what do you do on an average day?

[@jellyjewel7079]

do u wanna be friends :)

[@andreaskhlchristensen2957]

This is the type of video that will pop up in 10 years

[@juanjesus3771]

For a moment i felt in 2035

[@Vx_pixalz]

frrr

[@Fahntayn.]

Why you say that?

[@witchy9161]

Fr and many would clip this and be viral again

[@deadman_0929]

yeah now sybau pls

[@KaidonRoddy]

You know your cooked when KZbin start recommending these types of videos

[@FriedRice3519]

expecially with the mogging thumbnail

[@user-pf3ub]

Neh. I've getting this kind of videos for a long. U can call it the weird side of KZbin and my life got better tho. It's just about how u take it. If u see these stuff from a perspective that helps u to build urself, then it's good for u

[@EmeraldView]

Haha. Right!?

[@gabedehlinger2508]

Sheut up

[@CarlFredrik-uo1cu]

I've been recommende them for a long time

[@TysonASMR]

I feel like I’m stuck in a cycle of isolating myself, feeling lonely, pushing myself out of my comfort zone to socialize, being disappointed, isolating myself, repeat…

[@livaja27]

Say that again

[@AudioHugsbyMyster_yvan]

Oh! You're here 😅🎉😢 be well boy!!

[@xxspecterxx]

Welcome to the club

[@jxxhnn]

break the cycle:)

[@Noizzed]

Yeah expectations did that to me. Honestly the best thing is to try to find a space where you feel fine by yourself but can also try social stuff. Somewhere you can have small talk which doesn't need to lead to grand relationships but help you slowly build yourself up to a level you're okay with things going south in a social way. Even a simple comment about the weather in a daily basis can help you act more outwardly.

[@LeviPetty-v3z]

Bro is top 1% attractive and socially isolated, everyone is jealous of him and it’s sad

[@orangeyewglad]

Is he really that attractive? His skin is pretty fucked up and I get he's like elfish looking or whatever and has nice eyes and hair but there is something slightly unsettling about his appearance.

[@somnia9796]

People kinda put priority on the wrong stuff

[@olaholm5417]

yea man like maybee just maaaybee ur looks aint the CAUSE of ur problems

[@BearManPiggy]

@@olaholm5417 its harder to get pushed out of everyones life when people are drooling over you. its not impossible, but definitely harder.

[@hueheeuuehueuheuheuhueheeu1245]

bro is mogging in social isolation

[@ANKLEBREAKER400]

bro got nerfed with social anxiety

[@sentbycyberliferk800]

What's the use of having a big dong if you can't use it?

[@macyb-x4y]

this guy is gorgeous

[@seligaprv8669]

bro mogging his walls

[@sentbycyberliferk800]

@@macyb-x4y simp

[@Kumo0toko]

You know your cooked when prince charming has the same problems you do 😭

[@zeroo7359]

the better you look alot of times the more you can be vulnerable to being less relatable then the people around you, people love to be friend people who are like them.

[@theheckyeet]

🤣 right 🥲

[@lil_tari]

😂😂😂😂😂

[@artorias1559]

It only shows that the greatest talent is useless if unused while the "ugly" people will get that girl, have a big friend group, have close friends, etc.

[@LordHeliosPhosphorus]

I’m decent looking and I’m in the same boat too. Lol

[@DanielDavis-d1f]

"Ive built these 4 walls for protection until they became my prison."

[@atsuhirku]

That could be an awesome quote.

[@DanielDavis-d1f]

@@atsuhirku thank you :) probably been said before but that's how I felt when I withdrew for years. Are you currently in isolation?

[@Escapism888]

damn I really felt this one

[@DanielDavis-d1f]

@@Escapism888 I'm glad my feelings connected with you! Are you currently in isolation?

[@Escapism888]

@@DanielDavis-d1f yessir, I am assuming you are as well

[@trillfaye]

isolation builds that telepathy and sensitivity to subtleties… picking up on what is not said… hope you find your companion and/or community ♥️

[@Zedtixus-h3d]

👻👻👻

[@Jeff_189]

honggg shiiii zzzzz....

[@peter7582]

The worst feeling is knowing that life is going on out there for other people, but I'm stuck inside.

[@dawnofdonnie7275]

True, watching everyone around me laughing with their friends and always having plans to hang out. It feels like I'll never have that. It hurts.

[@Ali_flo333]

Same

[@baddiezone]

A lot of times those friendships be fake

[@liammiller3934]

stop thinking, All thoughts are evil continually

[@DarkManBeatzUrFace]

Being a social outcast makes you deranged

[@george3788]

This is so damn true. I have this issue where I feel lonely, and debate trying to socialize more, then I do something awkward and realize how weird I am, and run back to isolation for comfort.

[@hildahemmah54]

SO REAL

[@strawberri0o]

this omg everything about this is exactly how I feel

[@NinaXiao-p3v]

same here

[@lina9591]

find a balance.

[@johnnypeepee]

socialise vroski ur never gonna get better if you don't expose urself to others join a club right now G

[@plumface_]

"so excited to hang out with someone I feel like I'm off-putting" I know that feel bro.

[@thekillerbunny]

then you find other people who are just as excited :) it happens eventually - it's statistics ;)

[@titusg4247]

​@@thekillerbunnyI'm nearly 30, I disagree. Some people are just outliers.

[@JasonEllingsworth]

@@thekillerbunny then there's the struggle that happens after some time, where you need to assess if their flaws are worth the good moments. I can tell you there are a lot of deeply flawed people out there.

[@worldFamousPitbull]

@@JasonEllingsworthu are one of them aswell… but yes some peoples flaws worse than others, gotta take the good with the bad sometimes tho.

[@RobotronSage]

he shouldnt worry about it cause it's likely that they're excited to hang out too I mean we're all lonely in some way or another

[@StarWarsExpandedUniverse]

This was a refreshing gift from the algorithm. The raw honesty here really spoke to me. Keep your head up, isolation won't last forever. Look me up, if you ever feel the need to chat.

[@paulveba6225]

Its refreshing to hear people who are articulate speak.

[@chiaravene4287]

for real

[@deluded2630]

ah yes i love when people - articulate speak.... (psst thats not correct grammar)

[@Lydia774]

@deluded2630 I believe the sentence is meant to be read as "it's refreshing to hear [people who are articulate] speak," not "it's refreshing to hear people who are [articulate speak]." Would have probably made more sense to say "articulate people" instead of "people who are articulate," but that's just my opinion.

[@deluded2630]

@@Lydia774 OHH, the comma makes a huge difference

[@Josephinesprl]

@@Lydia774this was probably one of the only helpful youtube comment replies ive ever seen

[@ashas781]

Isolation makes your senses sharp. I can spot fake person before anyone else in the room, but it's also a curse, because nobody is going to believe in your feeling without hard proof, they have to get tricked/cheated/taken advantage of before they see the truth for themselves.

[@arnoldo9319]

This is so true. I have multiplr instances of this happening.

[@leggotheeggodemon1323]

Not only this als o unrelated and stupid but always more sensitive to electrical issues... could feel jolkts of electricity through electronisc and water on the ground randomly that people couldnt replicate and think imn crazy would walk around anfd figure out water on shoes steal tip shoes hole in the bottom and wires that are broke or melting inside devices.... I was always going around shoiocking myself till I could get the right source.

[@env0x]

or you can call them out to their face, and if your feelings are true, you will be able to beat them rhetorically.

[@missgurl837]

I totally get this too and it makes you feel like you need to keep an eye out for them like closely watching them and waiting for them to do something that proves your case

[@melodymodica7922]

Omg same for me! I can spot toxic people and their toxic vibes so fast, Ive tried to warn other people but they dont listen and dont understand I can read others very well!

[@marias.wainwright3481]

Love how 2007 this looks bro. But jokes aside, the honesty is refreshing. A lot more people are isolated than we think because people who socialize post about it but people who isolate don't post. Yet it's clear people are lonelier than ever and our society is making it hard to establish connexions without feeling shame for putting ourselves out there. Lifting that taboo would help. Wishing you well man, you seem to have a good heart.

[@ruwhite6312]

Old style KZbin might make a comeback after the over saturation of content creator

[@channel-your-flannel]

That's why a lot of us wish to live in the past, like 1920's to 1960's. Yeah they were horrible in a lot of respects, but they were so much more socially connected than we are now.

[@Michael0663-qo4wx]

What taboo is there?

[@appleitree]

Taboo that if we appear on public people have to judge others or even humiliate others. ​@@Michael0663-qo4wx

[@appleitree]

This is the Best comment

[@starrpops]

isolation has a way of making us realize things we never really thought about before, and sometimes those realizations feel refreshing, other times they’re terrifying. maybe for some people, it’s both at once. i was isolated a lot as a child, and now that i choose to be, i’ve started to see just how much it’s shaped the way i interact with others. it’s made me so afraid of facing the world, of stepping outside the little bubble i’ve built for myself. instead, i retreat into my daydreams, where everything feels safer, easier where i don’t have to worry about saying the wrong thing or feeling out of place. sometimes, i wish i could just stay there forever, never having to deal with reality at all. but it also makes me wonder if there’s something wrong with me, like i’m fundamentally lacking something that everyone else just naturally has. watching this video made me realize i’m not alone in feeling this way, and that in itself is kind of comforting. i wish i could articulate my thoughts and what im feeling because i feel everything too much, and this comment is not enough to describe this inner tumoil. :(

[@haydenmccary7905]

Practice makes perfect. The more you socialize, the better and more comfortable you will feel about it. Don't listen to that inner voice telling you to stay in your comfort zone! It is so gratifying to make a real connection after being isolated.

[@starrpops]

@haydenmccary7905 thank you! i think i'll use going to school as an advantage and start small. ^_^ it's really difficult for me to engage even in small talk but i'll try!

[@ErikaFane-h4i]

Perfectly said

[@aldokurti3272]

Bro youtube mogged me by recommending this video.

[@Andreandre2xx]

Lmaoo same

[@user-co8uf1mj6c]

Bruuooootal

[@dualshock3]

yeah lets listen what a guy with a chad face has to say, and see how relatable this to all sub5's are..

[@fabians7673]

@@dualshock3 pathetic incel spotted

[@Brightyssta]

​@@dualshock3Blackpill becoming mainstream!? Didn't expect that

[@Lionhearted626]

It’s a real gift to listen to a human being speaking without filter and with pure and direct expression.

[@Gen7486]

You should watch any one of teddygreyonstuff’s Linkin park or Korn reactions

[@mykindofwoma]

Bro casually beautiful

[@BlackMonoSU10]

Literally looks like a Rock Star

[@jasonrose1758]

Tha fuck

[@cangurona]

model

[@sero662]

u brown. why u talk about beauty?

[@stevenewton6776]

He looks like an anime character. But for real, a lot of people feel this way, especially me.

[@ellasmith5658]

3:06 I definitely agree. I find it really isolating to have the desire to be surrounded by people who think like me or are interested in similar topics, but most people are imitating what they see online instead of finding out who they are as a person or what they enjoy doing in life.

[@God22222.]

You seem like a chill dude, have a great day.

[@kaeltkottmir]

He's chill guy

[@Copemaxer]

Halo effect

[@Aaaiiuuyy]

@@CopemaxerOng

[@EvanD787]

God is Good. God is also within us when we figure this all out

[@twinkpony]

​@@Copemaxerlmao incels trying to prove he is a horrible person

[@alaska3390]

feels like living in a void

[@noashohat8380]

Yep

[@SISI-ABDEL-FATTAH]

We all love you 💖🩷💙

[@Wolfspaine7N6]

Yes.

[@BoxGirl9]

Yeah

[@JotaroDrake]

Basically

[@Bb-xp8ym]

God really created bro beautifully

[@edwardjoseph8007]

The new zyzz

[@user-co8uf1mj6c]

​@@edwardjoseph8007 mini zyzz

[@GeorgeKing-ms1vy]

To prove that looks aren't enough to make you socially successful.

[@manu03_]

@@edwardjoseph8007 I was thinking that jaja

[@Stevewilldoit96]

If he was ugly he would get 0 views. Brutal halo effect, people only care because he’s Chad. He probably got 100+ females in his DMs from making this low quality webcam video.

[@skylersorenson1479]

Being alone can be so amazing. My first semester of college was the most socially isolated I've ever felt, and it was one of the best things for me. I had a lot of friends before college, but I had a problem of never really knowing exactly who I was. Because I would honestly just listen to how my friends would define me, and internalize what they thought. It wasn't until college that I really just started hanging out with myself, and really started figuring out me. You learn so much about the things that you like and don't like--whether that's about you or others. Your dreams start to become a little clearer, and your identity starts to really shape how you genuinely want it to. Don't be afraid of being "alone," because you're not really alone. You always have you 🙂

[@Gupatik]

yes me too, but like after 2 first yrs of semi-isolation I started socializing again, and let me tell you ohh boy, how hard it was at first, but know it's like just second nature, I get along with all the class, but those 2 yrs, I really knew who I was, but I am admitting that I also was insecure azf

[@kadirsuyabatmaz]

Hey mate, You’ve described your feelings really well and I can completely relate, I’ve been there myself. Honestly, I learned a lot about myself during that time of social isolation but breaking out of it wasn’t easy. It took small, consistent steps. For me, the turning point was joining a yoga community. I found a sense of connection there and I think groups like yoga or meditation are great because they often attract people who are more introspective. To be honest, my social anxiety was through the roof when I attended my first class. I could only manage one session a week in the beginning but as the weeks went by, I started to feel more comfortable around people. Little by little, I began forming connections. The key is to try without putting too much pressure on yourself. Think of it as an experiment, something new to experience. And if one group doesn’t feel right, no worries. You can always explore another. Eventually, you’ll find people you resonate with and feel more connected socially. I even met my girlfriend in that yoga group. Now, with the self-awareness I gained during those isolated years and the connections I’ve built since, I feel like I’m living a much higher quality life. Just remember, it’s all about taking baby steps and being kind to yourself. Don’t judge yourself or rush the process. You’ve got enough self-awareness to make this happen. Wishing you the best of luck, you’ve got this! Cheers!

[@angelb3339]

thank you this was actually really helpful hope you have a great life mate

[@ashriqe]

this actually made me feel better about myself, while i don't see myself ever attending a yoga club- this does really show i need to put myself out there. ay honestly, have a great day man!

[@ory_gunaydin]

My savior was swimming

[@leightonrud66]

That's gonna help people, well said mate. Much love 🙏🏻

[@atlastmcastillo]

thanks for the reminder man

[@Nai911]

half of the comments just talk about his looks 💀

[@n0tchqn_.]

Ikr like, yes he is good looking, but cmon guys 😭😭

[@v-dogquick5888]

@@n0tchqn_. he’s not lol

[@Fightanddie]

Your eyes and Brain tell stories. Your looks are there for social status

[@sineadgaming69]

blackpill never dies

[@HUGO-vl4ur]

fax he looks good tho

[@JonnyCrackers]

I'm extremely socially isolated. My parents are around and I have a job, but I haven't really had a meaningful conversation with another human being in a very long time. I can relate to feeling socially inept too. Even very simple social norms like saying hello to a co-worker as I pass them feels incredibly awkward for me. Nothing feels natural anymore. I feel like I have to pretend to be human and I'm a really bad actor.

[@SimonR38]

Learn the Gospel, embrace it and share it! :)

[@grishakek]

try cocaine

[@leomuller4653]

@@SimonR38 Wrong stage to introduce that bro

[@dawsoncarpenter-v9y]

ugh me too. i chose homeschool this year for my senior year because of my anxiety and my parents decided to move in the middle of nowhere so im not in a big city anymore. i used to be an extrovert but i got used to being alone and i would rather lay in my bed all day and i feel like a looser, i just turned 17 and i still dont have a job, i cant drive yet but im working on it. everything i say and do feels unnatural and it takes way too much effort to appear normal. im aware of everything in every social interaction and developed anxiety too so hopefully when i geg a job and move out i can go back to normal

[@leianahope4831]

You are very human, beautiful, and I wish you the best! And same as person who most recently commented, I understand heaps ❤ all we have to do is go out of ourselves a bit (if theres lots of unhelpful self focus), which happens naturally with focusing on life (and theres always more to find in thought). We all can do this :)

[@annoying_ana]

Hi I'm so glad I found your video, it is thought out and relatable down to the tiniest of details. I'm really glad you made this and wish you great happiness. I must say as someone with severe social anxiety who lost best friends I lived and had daily conversations with, social isolation is both freeing and the most destructive event one can go through. I mean this of course as a lifestyle actively chosen continuously. There is definitely something different about being self aware and putting yourself first. I stopped social media and lived off the grid, changed countries, changed looks, walked miles and miles to places I've never been before to see something new. It's addicting and it feels like control over your life. An old friend once told me that socialization is a skill in which you must practice. It's true. Countless times your mind feels peace and others seem bothersome because it is home. You can get caught up in the feeling as an introvert and forget to practice then you're back at square one again having to relearn how to order a coffee at starbucks. Other days it becomes easy to be the loudest in the room. The happiest at the party. It's all in your hands, what you want to do. Practice which way you want to go and life feels natural. You seem cool and self-aware stay true to you. PS Felt that excitement over hanging out. Social retardation is so real someone needs to put that on a shirt XD

[@mickey-ij7un]

Accepting and embracing boredom helps me a lot.

[@ChuyEVC]

w pfp

[@reducetheatoms]

always the proggers x)

[@giannamason9848]

Ay king crimson

[@Daniel101.]

What are the benifts you gained I'm curious.

[@mickey-ij7un]

@Daniel101. In theory you stop chase and achieving peace of mind instead of happiness seems to be more within my reach

[@molhoshoyu]

It's crazy; this guy is absolutely beautiful, and still has developed social isolation problems, in my head i always expect beautiful people to be more lucky in life, to have no problems with socializing or finding a partner, but i guess that's not a general rule right? In all cases, i wish this guy the best, he is going through what i've been going for the past 10 years or more, i hope one day we achieve to get out of this infinite cycle of isolation and internal sadness.

[@kraftyhandz]

Anybody can have self-esteem issues regardless of the package you’re dealt with.

[@ddude1212]

right?!?! honestly, i've found it to be the opposite. my "glowup" was a major factor that contributed to my current disposition towards people and social isolation. for most of my early life, i was considered at best average, but more often than not just plain weird lookin. i was used to how people acted and treated me, but it was nice because most of the time people didn't approach me unless if they just thought i was an interesting person or that my character had something to offer. i didn't get approached a lot, but i wasn't as immediately apprehensive of people. it was pretty easy to fly under the radar. fast forward to around 17, my hair curled up, started wearing contacts, got my braces out, was finally able to wear the things i wanted to wear, and suddenly the people who treated me like shit before or straight up called me ugly are flirting with me!!! like no,, fuck you, fuck off, and go fuck yourself while you're at it!! you really don't realize just how differently people are treated for their appearance until you've seen both sides of the coin. it made me feel disgusting. i lost a LOT of respect for a LOT of people. all of the sudden i was being sexualized and objectified by people who i'd confided in, and i couldn't trust anyone who approached me anymore. people started commenting about my appearance more than my character, which bothered me a lot. not nearly as many people tried to actually get to know me on a deep level after that, or even just check in on me. which is funny, because i was suddenly talking to 10x as many people as i was before. it was harder to find groups to fit in, because the popular people realized that i was still the same nerd who loves music, religion, philosophy, and literature, and a lot of the nerdier kids distanced themselves from me because they just assumed i was either a bimbo or not interested in that stuff. or the people who i would get close with just wanted to fuck me. it just solidified my belief that people can't be trusted. i learned quickly to assume that if someone initiates a conversation with/pursues me first, there's probably some sort of agenda or huge red flag i'm not seeing yet, and it's probably not because they just want to get to know me as a person. i got into a lot of really really emotionally and sexually abusive situations because i trusted people who seemed like they genuinely cared about me, but ended up just viewing me as some kind of trophy boyfriend or a breathing, walking dildo. is just being cared for, safe, and unconditionally loved simply on the basis of being human too much to ask for a small guy in this big world?!?!??

[@Jimmyisabot]

perhaps it is how you apply the concept of a "general rule" that you are misled - general rules always have isolated exceptions, those exceptions don't make the general rule invalid

[@hawkblood_art]

I know you don't mean it that way but that makes it sound like only "ugly" people struggle 😭😭

[@user-rb9ed6op1k]

some people grow up in environment of toxicity

[@Heliocentrism_denier]

Three things that I learnt from being socially isolated for multiple years: 1. Distancing is eye opening, as you mentioned you get to see other's perspective a lot better, at the same time that leads to more anxiety and ultimately 2. Social isolation is stagnation, you will at some point be left with only your past to wonder at as your achievements in life become less impressive, you will spend less time being active and doing things outside of your bubble which is (personally) a main cause of self loathing 3. Lastly, the more time you spend by yourself the more likely you are to come out with serious mental health issues, try to spend time around others and accept that you've mostly lost from spending time by yourself I really liked the video

[@owlspider62]

Lol what your point number 3 doesn't even make sense, lets say if I spend time alone improving myself then I have lost?

[@penelopeo8761]

@@owlspider62 i think they meant. there is a line in how much time you should be spending by yourself. while its good to reflect by yourself. isolation is ultimately bad for your mental health and can sink you into ways of thinking that would otherwise be challanged once you enter social enviornments again :) much love and happy travels in your journey

[@owlspider62]

@@penelopeo8761 Thanks for your explanation, but I only interact with a few people currently, and I am still very happy right now; it's quiet and peaceful. However, I do agree that having completely zero interactions can lead to mental health issues.

[@nihad3019]

@@owlspider62live your life hhowever you want. i feel the same.

[@Litteratii]

This is so true, I've been isolating since the pandemic and have realized only now that I've missed this chunk of my life, and I'm young so that chunk was kind of pivotal. It's like I fell asleep for 4 years, but even now when I try to interact I am so awkward and I don't remember how to do it - I know the solution is to keep trying, but I really don't want to. The lack of motivation and simultaneous restlessness is a horrible combination. It makes you feel so alien.

[@James-yr5wv]

i'm so glad this video found me. reading the comments and hearing these thoughts is so validating. it's a rare experience and perspective spending so much time alone and i agree about it being a superpower once you start socializing again.

[@shineinouzen7412]

You're not alone. I grew up with social anxiety in my late teens, in my early 20s I got very depressed & I purposefully isolated myself from anyone and anything outside of my escapism (video games) for YEARS. As you said, that silence benefitted me in figuring out who I AM. Late 20s now, and I've been starting to branch out, catch up with childhood friends who are thankfully still there for me, and go on dates. During this phase I'm in I STILL feel like I do a lot wrong sometimes, like I'm too awkward or inconsiderate. But I've realized that these are just moments. Yeah there might be some where we're a little odd, but that's fine because these moments however often they happen, do not define our entire being. People are also more accepting and forgiving then I've given them credit for. I believe we all go through similar things at different stages in our lives so for anyone reading this, if you're in a lonely phase or an isolation phase, while it may be very difficult at times realize that this freedom & silence can be a blessing to build yourself up... into WHOEVER you want to be. And that you are not alone.

[@shadyisshady9897]

hey, thanks for this comment bc sometimes i feel like im the only one around me that doesn’t have any social life and no future plans. i’m 19 and i have no job, no irl friends, and just rot in bed most days. i feel like my future is already fucked bc of how isolated and useless i am to society now. i really hope i still have time to find a place in this world. i am very glad to hear you are doing better. 🖤

[@shineinouzen7412]

@ Thank you! Oh wow you are 19 only? I am 29 so yes you have so much time to do anything. You just gotta choose what you want and go for it! For me that was the hardest part. You got this.

[@dean6967]

relate to the social anxiety, depression and isolation. starting isolating myself in highschool, I was practically a mute. 22 now with no friends and I spend my time in my room doing nothing. improvement and change seems impossible at this stage but I know it isn't, this sort of thing is just a fight with yourself more than anything

[@shadyisshady9897]

@@dean6967 exactly the same situation for me man. i need to change myself before i can go anywhere but it seems so far out of reach sometimes.

[@f4ther111]

@@shadyisshady9897 ur literally me it’s crazy, same age same situation 😭 the annoying thing is i always feel like it’s too late to do or change anything, but i hope things improve for the both us and everyone else in the same boat

[@skurtyyskirts]

I didn't know this video quality was possible in 2024

[@RamdomManeGenerator]

Lol. 😂

[@AimlessAbyss]

What a time to be alive...

[@anonymouscode1635]

​@@RamdomManeGeneratordoes ur eyes have beef with each other??

[@meantforlove]

@@anonymouscode1635this is such an unnecessary and disrespectful comment. she literally commented agreeing with someone and you brought her looks into it. if you’re gonna act like that, then post a picture of yourself and let people make fun of you.

[@anonymouscode1635]

@@meantforlove after a much needed reflection i agree . Thats fu©ked up thing to say. But world won't be entertaining if everyone is like u .

[@danielwalley6554]

You nailed it - put yourself into more social situations. Practice makes perfect in all things. Fundamentally it's a competence problem - you have social anxiety because you're not good at social situations. How do you get good at things? You practice. The only obstacles is the fear of looking incompetent at the beginning - but you have to accept that as a necessary precursor. Have been through this process myself - I had to get comfortable with being uncomfortable but pushing forward regardless, and eventually got it all nailed down. Social competence achieved, social anxiety gone. Another thing is this - become okay with looking bad. It's fine to make a fool of yourself, ain't the end of the world.

[@Love11904]

How long did it take you to get to that point ? ❤

[@NickGreiner1988]

Said hello to someone at the pub, got bashed. So much for trying to make friends

[@LoLaSn]

@@NickGreiner1988 That's what it's like for people who aren't attractive like the one in the video, his isolation is self imposed

[@b3ck6]

i resonate with this a lot. i feel like i have more time for my personal interests, but going to university (and eventually dropping out to do it online), i got so frustrated with being in social situations with people that made me feel worse about myself, or left out entirely. im glad you put it into words.

[@KhadejaKhaledahmed]

This video really touched me, social isolation really destroyed me, after three years of isolation - and I am now in the fourth year - I discovered that I was really behind and lagging behind everyone, and I will live in all aspects of my life with this stupidity if I am not able to go out and confront, confrontation is difficult and people are very difficult, everything related to what is social worries me as if I am in hell, I hope I can overcome all of this and be able to leave behind fear, fear of people and relationships... and life.

[@pranavjoshi2283]

hey want to be friends?

[@ccchhheeennn2]

I would be a bad friend, so I’m not suggesting that, but you are seriously not alone and even popular people get lonely a lot.

[@Loverofgod123]

Ask God into your hear He will guide you and help you learn how to love others and he’ll deliver you from loneliness

[@AbdulRahman-vy7ko]

sending you lots of hugs and i believe i you gurl💙 it's def so heart-wrenchingly difficult but with time you can make yourself accustomed to social interactions

[@neowild8102]

female in pfp, opinion rejected

[@Carter9007]

It's so crazy listening to you. It's like listening to the part of me I thought was special.

[@Choose.Nurture.Not.Excess]

Geowing up?

[@luamfernandez6031]

true

[@RAYMONNNNN]

@@Choose.Nurture.Not.Excess fr

[@ccchhheeennn2]

@slowreading-q4oreally? I actually finally feel human and normal 😂 interesting what our minds create when introspection occurs

[@Starklin47]

Fr bro, before watching this I used to think I'm the main character and others r just npc .. ah rip 💀

[@Kitimino]

I relate so much to this. You described social isolation perfectly. I've seen numerous videos online of people labeling themselves as "lonely", but this is the only video that truly encapsulates what I've been feeling for so long. Thank you

[@thetaowithin]

I completely relate to you man. Know that this phase of your life is here to teach you deep wisdom, and once you understand you have so much more to give into your social life and the world around you. It is truly a blessing that you get to experience these depths of isolation, as from here you get to transform yourself as a human being. I just hope that you remain faithful in that you will find people to come in contact with again and to relieve you from your isolation. But just you know, it will come when it will come, so surely be ready and open when the opportunities come your way. And thank you for sharing yourself so openly on this channel, you are truly a blessed soul on this earth. God bless you.

[@skaito]

imagine if he was ugly, this is a small window into how much humans value looks. a small channel called "the lit nomad" made a good video about how adult relationships are transactional and looks are a great majority of what people value when calculating someones worth. I wouldn't have watched this video if it weren't for his insane facecard in the thumbnail

[@bjackalope3]

brutal

[@khplaylistyt9729]

there is a video on that. lots of views too

[@Phawnreath]

SO fucking true, nobody wants to admit this as reality but thats exactly why i clicked

[@nishijoichiro2515]

I watched Videos of other guys Telling their stories and they are ugly or don't Even Show their faces Lol

[@nishijoichiro2515]

​@@PhawnreathIn my case It was not like That, I just Like To watch guys Documenting Their thoughts on life Lol

[@acardinalconsideration824]

Bro looks like a young Ian Somerhalder

[@Mr.Wayne12]

He does! Boone from LOST!

[@chelseasstolentahitianpearls]

He looks like Ian Somerhalder visiting the Minimoys

[@NewbieLoki]

Bro looks like Jordan Barret

[@probablyBigT]

i was thinking the bauhaus guitarist

[@JillRobertsIsmyGF]

This video is so The Rules Of Attraction coated.

[@grizzlybearsayshi]

I can totally relate. I've felt isolated before too, but I constantly try to break out of it. The more you interact with people, the more you learn, what things to avoid, how to see the best in others, and how to make the most out of every conversation. It also gives you a chance to reflect on yourself. It can be exhausting for those who aren’t used to it, but it’s still better than staying isolated for long periods. If you're lucky, you’ll find a few people, or even a handful, who truly match your quirks. I think the desire to be alone often comes from a fear of how others perceive us, taking their words or actions too personally. But in the end, you have to look after yourself, do your best, and not dwell on every interaction. If a conversation doesn’t go well or takes a turn for the worse, don’t stress about it. Just think, “Well, I tried.” At least you’ve learned something from the experience. Of course, this isn’t easy, and I’m speaking as someone who absolutely can’t stand being alone. It gives me the ick. Empathy is key too. Not everyone is judging us harshly. Most of the time, it’s really about how we perceive their judgment.

[@chrisfrost7945]

Great comment!

[@user-zk5fy6ci6i]

Bro, I’m in a similar situation to you. One of the best things about it is having so much time for myself. Reading books-classics or anything that interests me-is a great way to spend it. If you’re not really interested in personal relationships, just focus on yourself instead of worrying about others and what they might think of you. Thinking and judging are natural; everyone does it. No need to stress about it.

[@ishitawho26]

This guy managed to perfectly frame everything I’ve been struggling to put into words for months now. It feels like I can simply see beyond it all weirdly but still struggle to do the right things (socially). No one seems real these days. Everything seems to be coated with a layer of projections created by online content. Never felt so seen.

[@vividly94]

Lol, this guy was totally me... for like 4-5 years of my life. I literally talked to no body except online. I would get so bored, i'd create an escapism for myself -- whether it'd be playing a video game, watching TV shows, or writing music/stories for myself. I hated it, but i like it. I craved socialization, but I also craved the peacefulness of isolations. Its probably the a time where most people take for granted -- as its the one and only time of absolute inner self, of thinking of who you are, what you are, who you could be, and what you were. I'd never regret the time that i had to myself, i learned a lot about myself and social constructs.

[@ebzplayz7038]

You are likely in an area or an enviroment you don’t belong in, took me a hella long time to find people I actualy felt were real, I highly recommend joining groups for niche interests you are in, most groups that have online presences have physical presences too, I joined a local caving club and found a ton of friends through that

[@whateverimake9350]

Healthygamer gg please 🙏 😢

[@saltyninja5534]

facts everyone feels fake and its frustrating

[@TimaYziscooking]

yess im exactly like this. the worlds so weird

[@michaeldonnelly8068]

2004 flip phone video quality, scene haircut, and bro talking about social isolation is a total vibe. Yeah, we're definitely kind of an autistic society now it seems. Seriously, God Bless you bro. Praying hard for ya 🙏

[@purpleflaminggoatsnakes9864]

As an autism I can definitely confirm we live in an autistic society

[@friednugge8155]

R you a malayali bro your using the words😂

[@purpleflaminggoatsnakes9864]

@@friednugge8155 no I'm autistic not Malayali

[@shreeeramkijai]

​@@friednugge8155scene haircut parajal scene aayi ennala manda😂

[@bonoyass]

@@purpleflaminggoatsnakes9864 more like we live in a world that doesn't get people like us so we're all off putting for them which causes us to isolate

[@anshostein]

I've been on my way to become more social, as in finding more people I resonate with. I get this fr.

[@irelyn_01]

you’re the only person i’ve seen that has explained my exact thoughts. i’ve also had very bad social isolation, i’ve been homeschooled the majority of my life and i currently still am, and also from homeschooling and being away from everybody so much it stunted me to the point where i developed really bad social anxiety which made me want to isolate myself more. but i have enjoyed the amount of time i have not having to see anybody for months on end, though it’s kind of useless when there’s no one texting you or asking to hangout anyway

[@starr5268]

Face card is lethal.

[@mexican_pelican9238]

face card is yummy

[@Mista1Take]

DRRRFRRRR

[@Joey-dd7rh]

Tiktok kid

[@starr5268]

@@Joey-dd7rh girl, what?

[@imjustselva]

@@starr5268 my bro is mogging the social isolation

[@ehlaaah]

i feel like when i force myself into social situations with the aim of making new friends, i feel so uncomfortable that ive forced myself, that i cannot be comfortable with anyone that i meet. it all feels like a front, and i cant be myself, and i dont know myself enough to act like myself.

[@Escapism888]

exactly! you spend so much time alone you feel like you actually do know yourself, but social interactions show you the completely other side of you that you cannot discover without them

[@CemAkkuzu]

​@@Escapism888 some people can't show their "real side" because they are probably afraid or ashamed to be themselves. If you spend time alone and really do know yourself, the only reason you can't show yourself to other people properly is the fear of critisim and shame. Also, these people censor themselves (self-censorship is the real problem), which makes impossible to speak and act naturally around other people

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

Never trust anybody. Always trust your gut instinct

[@kelseymin]

What's helped me personally is not going into social situations with the goal of making friends. It's just an added pressure and doesn't allow an actual connection to build. So instead go into interactions just being in the moment and with the goal of having fun and learning about another person :)

[@Marpai14]

I, too, am a friendless creature; detached from most people but for my parents, however many years now. No online friends, either. I don’t get lonely, per say, but I do imagine what it would be like, to connect with someone likeminded (a friend), and I get sad. That said, I am more content with my inner self, having spent so much time alone. I was a horribly inauthentic person, four years ago.

[@RAYMONNNNN]

glad to hear ur doing good:)) that's motivating. feeling your most authentic self is the best that can ever happen to you, and also making yourself proud

[@bigoudi07]

That's what matters. Being content with yourself.

[@LoLaSn]

To be fair if you don't have even online friends then you're either insanely awkward even by my standards (they're not high) or you don't want any

[@Denial-Trials]

This is the rawest video I have seen explaining social isolation. It has been about 5-6 years for me of this isolation (initially starting in 7th grade) and I do believe I know what people are thinking/thinking of me, I truly believe ppl are so predictable. I am also at the same stage where I cannot engage and do not want to engage in any social interaction, I know what people in my generation are like & I know what I am like and those two things are not compatible…

[@chiaravene4287]

I lived in this condition for a couple of years. You reach a level of self awarness and relationship with your inner intuitions, thoughts and gut feeling that is hard to achieve otherwise. On the other hand, once I started having real and fullfilling social interactions, I started to see things from another prospective and learnt a lot about life in this way. I know it might be a struggle, but for me following my intuition of how to act and don't worry too much about reactions worked beautifully. I wish you can turn your life apart and find your satisfaction in social relatioships !

[@malayo-d8f]

Been isolated since 14 turning 17 now and you are so right

[@malayo-d8f]

it feels like shit though

[@darkcnotion]

Don’t be scared to try other things. I’ve been there.

[@DangerNoodle999]

lol you got bout a century to live dont worry

[@fish_R_stinky69]

Same.

[@adlindorsal9877]

Some advice for you since you're still young, especially since I am someone who didn't have friends since middle school into my mid 20s. Don't miss opportunities to put yourself out there, nobody will ever come to you first, you have to be the one to take action. Also don't take people for granted, who spare time for you. I used to have friends briefly in high school and they really did put in effort to know me, but sadly since I was an anxious downer, that negative mood was showing and I wasn't just a good vibe to be around, don't ever let insecurities get in the way. People will drift away if they don't see you putting the effort back into them.

[@DecibelFreakLLC]

I grew up isolated for the most part in my childhood and had a lot of experience observing people to the point when I would talk, it was so far and few between moments, that people just thought I was some really intelligent kid because I only spoke when I had something meaningful to say and only when I was asked. Years go by and I had graduated high school and getting my first job where I was forced to be around people for hours at a time as a bag boy in a locally owned grocery store in the country side right outside the main city; I took interest in a book about a year before I graduated school that I read three times over about relationships and the side effects. I didn't know how to interact with people I had zero ties to, so I started by giving myself a little goal of being the first to say hi; I took it in baby steps and only allowed myself to say hi to one hundred people in a month. As simple as it sounds, that was nerve pounding for the first fifty and around the hundred mark, I found myself doing it with ease. The next month, I made a goal to just start conversations with one hundred people; note: I did not make myself continue the conversation or make it last for long. I am not the kind of person that cares for small talk, so the closer I made it to a hundred, the more my personality started falling into it. That was also very difficult leading me up to my next monthly challenge which is to tell as many of my jokes to as many strangers as possible. Towards the end of my work there before I moved on to another job, I had gotten so comfortable talking to strangers that I felt comfortable even flirting with my coworkers (and some subtle flirting with few customers my age), I had even asked a couple of them out; with some difficulty, I was even able to be direct about it. I was seventeen when I started that job, I am twenty-five now and since then, I found my future wife at nineteen and some of my best friends along the way. All of those years being quiet around people really became a super-power, helping me read situations and people; it especially helps with leading conversations because you can grasp a person's interest as well as decide quickly if it is even worth talking to them (in my experience). The most important thing I had learned was that what you want also wants you, in other words, if you know the kind of person you want in your life as a friend or otherwise is also looking for you; when you know what you want, you start subconsciously noticing qualities that others have as well as start seeing people with bits and pieces of said qualities. I really hope you find my story useful. Hope you find what you are looking for.

[@pixelskin]

that’s very beautiful, i was the same way as a child. very quiet and extremely intuitive and emotional. i am 22 now and your story has really inspired me to get out there more. thank you.

[@DecibelFreakLLC]

@@pixelskin Of course man, I'm very happy to hear that and you can feel free to chat with me anytime.

[@kyatoru]

I'll be honest, your story seems really similar like mine, I've always kept to myself, never really had a group of friends like how most kids my age had at the time, never grew with long lasting friends through my school years, I gained knowledge over time and became to see the mechanics that subconsciously exist among people, being able to read them and so on. I was struggling with self-esteem, anxiety and constantly debating my worth at the time, really tough times that I got to overcome slowly on my own. Then I got to find my best friend online and met up with him, at this point he's like my brother and also met a girl that I can confidently say is my future wife, as well as that I met up with some old comrades and family, all of them pointing how I changed and became more good-looking and confident. Tho not everything has been sunshines and rainbows, both my parents are deceased and I'm not even a full-fledged adult, I still believe that with all that has happened, even if disgraces have happened more so far in my life, I have undeniable hope that things will work out somehow. P.D I mainly follow the teachings of Nietzsche and Absurdism by Albert Camus, very interesting; and I'm making things happen to continue my career as a Psychologist.

[@DecibelFreakLLC]

@@kyatoru I'm so sorry to hear that man. I did hear about those teachings and glossed over them (didn't read much of them), but I did gloss over teaching of buddhism as well as bought and read some Jordan Peterson. Any other works you recommend?

[@realykid]

very interesting and inspiring, thank you for sharing this. can i ask what book it was that you read before you graduated?

[@RootsandWingsYT]

Your video just popped out on my home page. I can completely agree, I felt very same, I was always excluded from friend groups. It's now even harder to teach those skills your kids when you simply don't believe in friendship.. But I do pray to God for guidance for me and others and for you as well 🙏

[@jonas5000yuki]

It's cool that you made this video, I also felt isolated for a long time in my life and didn't know how to make friends. There are people who are very extroverted and automatically make friends quickly, for example at school or university. For me, when I was very isolated, I was also very needy and I think that made others reject me more often (especially women). Of course, I think I learnt from these rejections and times of loneliness and grew as a person, but as you said, it's very hard. However, what really helped me was not looking for friends directly, e.g. trying to find a conversation in a cramped way. Instead, I went to sporting events where there was closer contact, e.g. dancing or acrobatics. The good thing is that these events always take place and I don't need a good network to be socially connected.

[@vj-6]

any kind of thing, where you spend time with people consistantly is way easier to make friends. like in school or doing a team sport.

[@user-pf3ub]

I can relate to it. I feel more like an observer trapped in this human body. The view towards the word has changed for me

[@user-mv4ix7jd8o]

You should look into Fernando Pessoa, he was also hyper aware

[@Carter9007]

@@user-pf3ub SzPD is also something to look at

[@XxyjmaxX]

This shit is some post COVID thing, I have several Friends but that change after covid

[@Carter9007]

You should also look into Schizoid Personality Disorder.

[@kaeltkottmir]

Me for real

[@suzizanna]

This was very refreshing to see, I can't lie. I'm someone who enjoys my own company more than being in a group. Being mentally and socially challenged ontop of that since childhood put me in a "fun" spot; most people don't wanna deal with someone like me so I crafted someone else I could play as in wider social settings. This lead to a cluster of consequences I'm still trying to figure out and recover from. I've been struggling with making friends myself to nobody's surprise, so I've stayed with the same-ish group of people for many years from school and now college. Because I haven't really opened up to them I don't feel that big of a connection though. Don't get me wrong, they are good people and I enjoy being with them, I just don't feel like they're hanging out with the real me. I find comfort online because I can delve into my interests freely and watch/interact with people who actually have stuff in common with me. Finishing up, putting on a mask like I have for as long as I have destroyed me emotionally and I'm tired of it now. Very slowly I'm gonna act like how I actually am around others, because I want people who are consistent in my life who actually love and understand me. I'm always gonna be a nerdy introvert, that's the honest truth. I just wanna be more comfortable and happy with my life connections you know? This stuff is hard to put into words. Have a good life, you and whoever reads this :)

[@leesbeesknees]

i switched school districts in middle school. i couldn’t make many real friends or stick with a group. i’m 21 now. i only have a few friends i talk to now and then, just like you. it was very damaging to my self esteem growing up. you often think you’re the only one the world struggling like this, because you’re only a child, your world is small. but i’m an adult now. i’ve had jobs and i meet people in college. though i’m mostly still on my own, it’s shaped me as a person. i feel more mature, more aged than my classmates despite being the same age. because i’ve already experienced that same isolation that is adulthood, in childhood. i see now that this is a common experience, and obviously i’m not the only one in the world who’s gone through this. i was extroverted as a kid up until i hit that pit stop. climbing out of the pit, i can feel myself becoming more extroverted again. i’m going to take the reins and take back the life i missed out on growing up.

[@QueenDaBot]

I just pictured myself overcoming the same issue you had and I am just starting to experience actual adulthood turning 20 in March. I hope that I can get out of that pit the same as you some day. It's a slow process at the moment but I'm getting there I feel.. :)

[@goofygrass]

It's comforting to know that I'm not facing these problems alone. I agree so badly with you. Let's just hope for the best.

[@Wakpinside]

What me helped was getting an job that I liked. I was around people again. I was alone for around 10 years.

[@Schnurriman]

I can feel you Bro. Even though I get along well with others, I love being alone and reflecting. It helps me get to know myself, and that process never really ends.

[@eeriegutfeeling]

Hey man I’ve seen you on TikTok. I relate to that idea of being isolated to the point of feeling insane, it definitely builds character and I think in that will bring you experience instead of feeling trapped in observation. Your annoyance w the world is valid that alone will bring you connection I hope. Social media can be a great outlet you’re more capable than you feel

[@eeriegutfeeling]

The contrast in these comments are telling too lmao you have great online potential

[@SaturnStikGaming]

I've been there for at least a decade of my life (so half my life) and the way you talk about your circumstances with such clarity and understanding reminds me of myself at that point in time. All I have to say is that if you want to change your circumstances or the way you view them enough, you will find a way to do so.

[@cc3]

I do this shit all the time, I go through months of social withdrawal, re-enter civilization, and realize that not only do I not know how to maintain a friendship, I've lost all ability to interact with people. I've grown very perceptive, and am able to almost psychoanalyze people within a conversation or two which doesn't prevent the underlying issue that I am too guarded or awkward to maintain a casual conversation for any amount of time. I only feel the isolation occasionally when I walk past a bustling bar at night, pretty much every other moment I am content. Earlier this year I did something that changed my entire perception of myself, I traveled to the other side of the world and went backpacking in Australia for just under two weeks. In backpacking and the shield of being so far from home I was able to form sincere but mainly temporary friendships with other travelers, I was able to crack jokes have fun, loosen up and speak without sounding completely brain dead and flustered. At one point people kept coming to me asking what we were going to do next which is possibly the first time in my life that I've ever been viewed as some sort of leader. I'd recommend it to anybody who's lost, the people are extremely accommodating. You're not a shadow of your former self, you're still yourself, just in the shade.

[@vyfrigerio6214]

Wow that’s actually beautiful, really, I got this idea in mind to just run away for a while and re-learn to enjoy life, people, one day it’ll happen

[@cc3]

@vyfrigerio6214 run away is a strong way to look at it as opposed to moving past it but if you're not satisfied with your situation the only thing you can do is to move on however difficult that must be.

[@sorenschleifenbaum9013]

I did the same thing, travelled on the beginning of 2023 for over 2 month to Australia and got to known the Backpacking Hostel Lifestyle. I went with hopes and came back more broken then before. It was to 98% of this time just social anxiety present and im being weird. Some ice seller even said it to my faces "You are weird". Now this time later i lost like almost all hope. But because of other things, too

[@cc3]

@sorenschleifenbaum9013 that's unlucky, sorry to hear that. I'm sure it depends on the crowd. I got quite lucky repeatedly bumping into people i'd loosened up with before who would introduce me to more people. I definitely felt like an outsider for the first few days, I couldn't imagine extending that to months. I actually had a pretty miserable experience on a boat later on where some guy had beef with me for what was essentially just a misunderstanding

[@B8BBB8B88BB8]

" am able to almost psychoanalyze people within a conversation or two " you sound extremely pretentious and annoying no wonder people hate you

[@slimey1099]

The sort of neurological patterns induced from social isolation, just get reinforced the longer the isolation last. When the brain is given a stimuli a certain sequence of neurons fire, and when given the same stimuli the sequence gets stronger. This can cause feed back loops that can be positive or negative. But due to this, depending on the stimuli this can give rise to unique perspectives and behaviors that can affect social interactions. With prolonged social isolation it can be hard to get out of that downward spiral. I don't know how to end this comment.

[@gameplay.exe7159]

damn this just made me understand my brain wth

[@slimey1099]

@ You’re welcome.

[@cyyberdarko]

thank you for making this video, specifically your words on how people get on your nerves, which is the same for me. i've always been easily irritated, but now the fact i'm so alone, every social 'flaw' i see in a person straight up bothers me and i cant tell if being lonely is a blessing or a curse.

[@esyz0]

Real

[@Escapism888]

same, it got to the point that I fear I won't be able to survive in a long-term relationship because of so many things that trigger me, from eating sounds to louder noises etc

[@suzuki8951]

I started isolating, it all just happened so naturally during the pandemic and then I couldn't let go of that pattern, I craved. I wanted to be left alone most if the time because I knew I could just entertain myself with the internet, books, etc. And in chasing isolation I lost all of my friends. At this point, I can't even say what I want. I mean it would be lovely to have a friend who knows amd understands me but I keep feeling like an alien and I am too detached and find to hard to open myself to anybody. I've spent way to much time analyzing myself and others that nothing I do feels normal anymore, I mean authentic. I don't know if I am making any sense.

[@rainsrimjhim]

In my experience, self isolation has the profound ability to reveal the true nature of people and see through a person's soul. It makes you quite discerning. I've always kept to myself ever since I was a kid and it was never out of lack of self-esteem or confidence rather an inner calling to interact and be with like minded individuals. I'm 18 and all these years I've had many people around me call me their "friend" but i truly have no one to call by that name. During my early teenage, this reality made me pause and reflect on what appeared to be loneliness and made me shed a tear or two, 'Oh, I'm friendless' but today that's nothing more than a story I laugh at. Another realization around the same time was that I didn't need to fit in with the groups of kids around me. Even if that meant not joining social media platforms in the guise of "staying in touch", or being in relationships because that looked "cool". In fact, my resolution for last year was to stop entertaining anyone who is pretentious, indulged in negative talk or gossiping or is emotionally draining to me even in the slightest way. I'm proud to say I stuck to this promise. I know what kind of person I would want to have a relationship with, and I'm not in a hurry. I know that I will meet those people along the way. For the time being, I'm content with my own company. To anyone reading this, trust your instincts and believe in them. You're enough. Make yourself better-and be a human. Connect with people and foster an environment where genuine connection and authenticity can thrive.

[@arth01r]

Nicely written down. I was in the same situation as you until 2/3 months ago. I'm 21 now, always had one friend, I saw him when going to school and occasionally in the holiday periods. 2/3 months ago I met a new friend. My best friend. We're very close, both emotionally and physically, and it gives me energy. However, at the same time I feel that my life is getting far more complicated. Not so peaceful anymore. And now I see how the majority of the people around me live. Why they're often tired and stress about a lot of things. Managing social relations just takes up a lot of your time and energy. Life can be weird, and I think that's beautiful.

[@kevinfeldtmose4881]

Social isolation is the worst form of human torture and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy. I'm 18 as well and have just started my first year of uni. So far, I've made very few "friends" that I rarely speak to outside of class/in the cafeteria. It made me realize how much I took my family for granted when I lived with them before. Social isolation has enabled me to become more aware of my own wants/desires. I guess I'm an "extroverted" introvert, someone who would prefer to spend time around other people but I find it draining. As a kid I've always dreamed about getting married and becoming a dad, but my social anxiety prevents me participating in life, so this seems like a far-fetched reality. Good luck to you as well

[@rainsrimjhim]

​@arth01r "Life can be weird, and I think that's beautiful." It is, just like your way of seeing it! I feel happy for you that you've found someone you feel connected to, both emotionally and physically. A relationship that uplifts you. Life presents us with its different sides, and as humans, we somehow need to be social. I understand socializing can sometimes be tiring and emotionally draining, but those are the moments when you should pause and reflect. It's crucial not to let relationships invade your personal space, so setting boundaries is key. The earlier you establish those boundaries, the more chaos you can avoid, and the more peace and joy you can experience.

[@rainsrimjhim]

@@kevinfeldtmose4881 Social anxiety can make it harder, but know that the people around you are no different; they have their struggles and silly insecurities; they're trying to navigate life too, and they don't have it all figured out like you and me. Take it easy, and I hope you get closer to the family and the life you dream of.

[@kevinfeldtmose4881]

@@rainsrimjhim Thanks. My social anxiety has generally gotten better though. Some people have had crippling SA their teenage years but then it fades the older they get. I hope this will happen to me but I doubt I'll even be alive that far into the future the way this prolonged isolation has mentally affected me

[@Kyllmor]

I've never had real friends offline or online, and your video is exactly my life. You observe people, and you really understand yourself more. Everything that these people talk about is nonsense or something that can be resolved with a little isolation for themselves. Instead, it feels like people in this world are caught up in validation and fitting in. They're starved for attention and growth but can never know what's it like to really look at yourself and be assured. It's great but terrible. Loneliness is a deadly thing at times, and I'm amazed that these outwardly social people can ever even feel it.

[@worldFamousPitbull]

Why does everyone in these comments who are isolated seem to have this mindset. You almost act as if your higher than other people because you dont chat or have friends it makes no sense. And because a person is out going it means they are insecure and dont self reflect? I agree being alone can help you learn about yourself to an extent but so does going out and seeing how you react with others. You cant learn everything about yourself alone!

[@BawsBoo]

Dog I resonate so deeply I was practically finishing all your sentences the whole video 😅, thanks for your perspective I found it both validating and insightful

[@BellaBlooms2244]

I really love this. I've had a hard time trying to explain to people and family why I like being a loner, they almost never understand unless they're an introvert themselves. The hard truth is, most people can't handle self-isolation even in small amounts because you really do become in tune with yourself and it can be intense. My physical energy is completely cut off from others unless I want to feel someone or let them feel me, and you can feel the void to your bones. Power on💪

[@YvngCheese]

PSA for anyone that feels this way. Its not easy. it takes work to get out of the loop that isolation puts you in. Isolation is amazing in moderation but negatively impacts your life, self worth, and confidence. I used to be in the same spot. So alienated from social interaction and being around people. However once you start putting yourself out there you realize there are people that genuinely like you for you. Effortlesly so. You just have to find them. Thats the hard part. Cause you face a lot of rejection and so its easier to just go back to isolation where you dont have to face any of that. I do however promise you that putting yourself out there will be truly beneficial in the long run. Dont be afraid. Youll fail, youll get rejected, youll meet people you dont like. You just have to try again. Relationships come and go. So find them and just enjoy them while they last. Among other things isolation is typically a defense mechanism to keep yourself from getting hurt. I went from only having 3 real friends for 4yrs, to just my girlfriend and no friends or family for 3 yrs. I got comfortable in my isolation and only having my significant other. It truly messed me and my mental health up. Now here i am 4 months out of that relationship and im the most social ive ever been. Ive met more new people in the last 4 months than i have in the last 7 yrs. It was far from easy. I faced a lot of rejection and i faced a lot of awkwardness and uncomfortability. but eventually you fall into a groove. Where you feel comfortable with it. Where being yourself is easy and you recognize your value and you find the people that value you for yourself. Youll make it out the otherside man. I know you will. You just have to find your motivation to reach the other side. Cause at the end of the day isolation typically give you negative motivation and negative self talk cause all youre doing is talking to yourself. Also making friends online or through apps is terrible. Its a good start to the journey but dont be discouraged solely because you dont seem to meet a lot of people or have meaningful connections with them. its a complex thing and it takes time. People have their own lives and motivations. So just take your time and ease yourself into more social settings, interactions, and put some effort into finding yourself some friends. You should also consider therapy. It helped me a lot with this. Youll have to reframe some things about the way you think and perceive things and it wont be easy. Feel free to hmu man. You seem like a great guy and id love to be your friend. Much love.

[@GregoryNothnagel]

Dude, you're talking like you're on the other side of the pearly gates. Flying solo is a totally viable playthrough option. Forming social relationships to avoid being alone is a bad sign, because it shows the desire to be with other people is stronger than the desire to be with oneself, which shows self-perception of inadequacy. The desire for social bonds is just pressured into us by a society that wants its individual parts to be in service to it. A lot of emotional attachments work that way. You think that you just naturally are emotionally attached to something, but really a good deal of it is society trying to manipulate your behavior through creating these emotional attachments when you're young and moldable. I think breaking these emotional attachments is the key to a peaceful life. Not completely sure, testing it out now and it's somewhat working I think, at least so far...

[@JosephSammon-l4k]

Hey man I kind of have the same situation you have. I’ve been with my girlfriend for the past couple years and ive pretty much only socialized with her. I just broke up with her for a multitude of reasons but I feel so out of touch. How exactly did you go from the breakup to actually meeting people? Where did you go?

[@YvngCheese]

@GregoryNothnagel You're not wrong my friend. Like I said too much of anything is a bad thing. I don't disagree that you should be prioritizing yourself over the validation of others. However, everyone needs some kind of support system. Typically, that can be through people that support you. I think some of the ways you describe things are very reminiscent of how I used to think from my ptsd. That people are evil, what's the point, people are only out for themselves. Which is Tru to a degree but thats why I said enjoy relationships while they last. Create strong boundaries and self worth. Having friends is a way to validate your self worth. By changing your core values through validation isn't a bad thing. As the quote goes I'd rather love and lose than to never love at all. People are innately social creatures. The only time we act like we aren't is when we're afraid of being hurt and putting a shell on. Creating relationships to avoid problems is bad because avoiding problems is bad. It's OK to not build relationships if you don't feel lonely thats a personal preference. But being lonely and alone are two different things. Don't let the possibilities of something bad happening keep you from the infinite joys that relationships can bring to your life. Also I'm talking about friends here. If it's not bringing you joy or productivity then get rid of it and move on to the next.

[@GregoryNothnagel]

@@YvngCheese Ideally, not having friends should not inspire any kind of fear in us, be it FOMO or fear of no support. In my eyes the only motive for friendship should be enjoying being with the person, or as an extension of an already existing relationship (student and teacher become friends, coworkers become friends, etc.). Do you see any other good motive? (not rhetorical, srsly wondering if you have another perspective) And am I wrong about societies evolving to produce people who instinctively emotionally manipulate other people into propping up the society? Not that the individuals have ill intent, but that they've been brainwashed to an extent, into propagating pro-social behavior? I feel like that's a valid point that I don't hear often, if ever.

[@Calle.Hutch..]

This comment is good, but it made me think about why the idea that relationships won’t last forever is so hard to accept. I think we as humans were made to have relationships and community that DO last forever, but this day and age makes it hard to live that way. Think about our ancestors, for the majority of human history we lived in smaller communities and relied heavily on each other for survival. Everyone in the community had to get along whether they liked it or not(which is healthy), and people probably rarely permanently parted until death. We need deep relationships with others, but if they aren’t going to stick around then there’s no use putting in the effort to make it that way. It is so hard for me to accept that and honestly I don’t think I ever will, when I’m friends with people we are going to be friends for a long time.

[@bananaboy444]

2:00 I used to have a large social group and could effortlessly interact with new people. After the pando, losing friends, spending so much time alone, I'm completely out of practice with being social. If I get comfortable, I can interact normally, but it doesn't come naturally the way that it used to. Very relatable.

[@Butterfly.Love1616]

I understand you completely.

[@나덴김]

I'm so glad to know someone has the same exact experience

[@Imalonerwbu]

“It doesn’t come naturally like it used to” pain

[@PurringMelodies]

Honestly same. I’ve had some bad social experiences in the past, that mixed in with social anxiety sucks. It makes it feel like every interaction is hell, so I try to avoid them if I can. Hope everything works out for you though

[@justlavendars]

ikr

[@xoxofml2023]

Same

[@Fido-vm9zi]

Thank you for your honesty. I think many souls can relate to your feelings.

[@moonframe]

I isolated myself on purpose deleted my Insta ,facebook and all that. It' hard sometimes but its still much better then being with fake friends and chasing the fake life. Solitude is a thing not everyone can handle. Keep it up man you are doing great.💪

[@corvusbright]

We seem to be connected through tunnels of wires and screens rather than through our humanity, and yet the humanity shines on through. Thank you for sharing your perspective on these realities. this problem connects us all

[@bobman7877]

You should watch Pulse (2001). It approaches the problem in an interesting, spooky way.

[@someone-n7h]

social isolation to me just makes me depressed. i miss being 12 and hanging out with my friends just having fun.

[@ethanpatch6840]

The being offputting part because you're so excited to hang out with something is so true

[@TheDanteBoots]

I was isolated for over 10 years then got a retail job and learned to socialize that way, for the most part I still prefer being isolated, the only thing that gets me out of the house now is friends wanting to do things like hiking/fishing. I often fantasise about companionship but lack the motivation and would rather not drag somone into my mess of a life.

[@merber6070]

Everyone’s life is a mess 😂 people typically get together to ease each other’s “mess”

[@persxnal]

@@merber6070fair point

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

Perfect lifestyle imo. Only get out when it's on a special occasion otherwise it's a waste of time.

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

​@@merber6070if that's your way of coping I guess. Some people are genuinely thriving in life. Some people are generally content and at peace. And then there are the sufferers. And then there are the extreme sufferers who will never find peace and fulfillment. But we don't really hear about those people too often.

[@krejziks3398]

retail job without social skills? I call cap

[@MiyokoNagamori]

I feel u, im an artist myself, doing freelance, worked for a year an office job and it was the weirdest experience. My socialization is scarce and limited and I do enjoy observing ppl in discord group chats ran by my one online friend that I have, but I'm also hard to get along with and easily irritated by obvious mechanisms ppl use to try to get friendly with me (usually due to my art). it's a struggle for me to live on a fringe of society like this BC it's a bit lonely place to be, but your video put me somehow at ease with it, it's not often when I hear about others having similar experiences and points of view. Thanks for being a voice of this kind of existence.

[@VentiWhoreshipper]

I went through the same thing, about experiencing those weird tactics people do when they try to get close to me (I'm also a freelance artist!) I used to be very active on Discord servers but it trickled down which is low-key bad for my line of work lol But I needed this "isolation". It brought a lot within me that I wouldn't have realized if I went with the constant bombardment of other people's opinions onto me.

[@itsv9914]

I am also living in social isolation, it makes me hyperaware of how I perceive things because it gives me a lot of time to look in on why things make me feel and how or if I need to fix or modify it. Many people do this when they are alone with a lot of free time. Humans need to understand body language, tone, social cues, etc in order to socialize properly. I am very aware of how people perceive me because I taught myself how to do that without actually meaning to, but I lack the ability to properly communicate due to not having much experience socializing. It is an experience thing and can be relearned from what I have experienced. You have a very brilliant mind, trust me. : ) (Also we can be friends, just let me know what to add you on and user)

[@Am_Alatha]

I feel like when someone rarely socializes for a long time, they sometimes end up oversharing when they finally find someone they click with. It’s not that they’re weird, but more like they’ve had so many thoughts and ideas building up with no outlet. Social isolation can do that. I'm one of these people too :)

[@ssvd91]

Ive been socially isolated living online for the better part of the last 14 years. Its a completely inhuman experience. You become just an extricated observer. To be human is to be present, local, interactive. I don't even feel human anymore.

[@benscoon0145]

Work out trusts

[@alexisstephens8511]

i am in the SAME boat as you trust me I was raised as an ipad baby, but my life has actually gotten better lately from putting in intentional effort. My advice to you is to go on bumble bff, find someone who is equally lonely, and bother them ALL THE TIME. The key to being social is making yourself known, talk to everyone even if you sound stupid and people dont like you, find hobbies where it is mandatory for you to talk to people. For example I plan to get into playing fighting games and going to local tournaments, which I have to meet in person for. It's not over until you give up and you have made yourself known to me by commenting on this video!

[@galacticdirt2925]

Real. I'm 16 and recently started getting home-schooled. I only speak to 1-3 people in real life per month, this is not gonna end well for me.

[@Love11904]

@@alexisstephens8511how did you get over the fear of getting out there ?❤

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

Don't worry. We were forced into this position. I'd rather be an observer than a jester for normies. Being surrounded by people you don't want to associate with and people who despise your existence is an inhumane experience.

[@1NightInParisOfficial]

ive been in social isolation for 12+ years first studying an industry, then building my company. Of course in my free time i play tons of games and have also some online "friends" i talk to, but i am also in a similar boat, I legit havent seen sun, or touched grass in so insanely long, even less interacted with irl people. After studying many stories, ive realized most greats are like this. Einstein was in a basement solving math problems all day while occasionally opening his window to see the stars in his telescope. In all reality, we are here to experience what is and I dont feel too forced to conform to what society wants from me, but more what i want for myself.

[@LovelyRabbitry]

Whats your company?

[@1NightInParisOfficial]

@@LovelyRabbitryLike a Sony and Louis Vuitton combined... An entertainment / tech / fashion house.

[@iheartserj7]

I like the way u see it

[@silverwolf2643]

@@1NightInParisOfficial How the hell does that work lol fashion designed tech gadgets?

[@Shadow_566]

Good job man , we are really in the same boat and i will start my own company in entertainment industry “animation studio “ im workin on it and we here to experience what is , things and we should do what we want to✌🏻🤞🏻

[@sophiebanana299]

i've been alone for a couple months lately and it really does suck and i can relate to the things u said there's also a down side and an upside to it. without any noise for a long time can really make u observe things/ read people more clearly. + when you have nothing rlly going on in your life you basically have a minimal schedule so u can focus more on yourself and school, but there's a bad part to being lonely. It gets depressing overtime having almost no one to check up on u etc. I really hope it isn't like this forever I just want a couple friends to make memories with and thats enough.

[@iiCounted-op5jx]

My motto is that it I'm not getting my legs cut off then I'll survive this third world problem

[@SoryuFLCL]

hey man, i just wanted to say; i can relate HEAVILY to you. just know that you can always build up your social skills again. i'm still pretty socially awkward (i have ASD level 1, so that may be the case always. but still worth improving on), but have come a long way from having absolutely no friends at all. you have a great mindset, and i can see you are a really introspective, deep and reflective thinker. you're almost there.

[@ggbellz]

You got this dude, my best advice for this is to first spend some time reconnecting to nature and feeling ‘in your body.’ And to also find a purpose outside of yourself. Acts of service to society and community has luckily changed my depression for the better. Try and find a cause you care about so you can join a club / irl group, it helps lift so much pressure off a social situation when having a common goal or purpose. Workshops to learn fun things on the weekend have been a surprisingly fun way to meet people and feel social as well. i’m in my 30’s now so most of my friends outside of work are busier now too but I’ve learned to enjoy feeling more social just by enjoying public settings 3rd spaces like doing laptop work at a coffee shop or little strolls to the store instead of driving etc. and when you can … travel !!

[@LoLaSn]

"travel" is such a woman thing to say

[@LydiaCaster]

@@LoLaSn wtf... You read all that positive and well-intended advice to reach the last word and then attempt to make an incredibly meaningless sexist comment? men don't travel ? good luck with your social development, the road is long

[@LoLaSn]

@@LydiaCaster Practically only women consider something as basic, thoughtless and vague like "travel" as something worthy of applause or interest It's not the middle ages, travel is neither impressive nor interesting Especially since your idea of travel is visiting what basically is a walled community for tourists in a poor country

[@Red--Moon]

@@LoLaSn Traveling is impressive, and interesting. I've met a lot of interesting people the few times I went out of state. And the sights are also extremely beautiful. This is just an elaborate way of saying you don't go outside, and that you don't like women. Which you could've just said that. You say these things, and then you wonder why people don't like you.

[@Ghost_in_the_crowd]

yoo bro! I have been in my own isolation since I finished school, like really stay at home whole month without meeting anyone except some family members and the smallest circle of friends you can ever get, but now Its like a super power coz you start to understand people and how they see things and also you learn a lot of staff. at this point I know how most businesses work and even geopolitics.. like I don't like noise people make, it makes me wanna go back to the peace I love. even family members see that you have just left the house to sit outside and I know you might think they are thinking you are out because you want to play with maybe kids or dog or a cat but you really don't want the noise inside. so Its mostly common, you ain't only one here.

[@pyrrhonist9879]

Ive been agoraphobic and homebound for most of last year now because of skin purging from acne meds. I resonate with his realizations so much. Once you stop going thru those motions of a normal social life, you really get brought down to your knees living in ur own lonely world. There’s a lot of guilt and shame, but it really humbles you. I rlly hope we all do gradual exposure therapy and get back out there when we feel more motivated

[@priya.bonham.carter]

its so heartbreaking being able to see a video thats so depressingly relatable but also comes from someone that seems like the sweetest guy

[@jaaannneee]

3:09 so true😭 i noticed that my colleagues connects more about what’s on social media, gossips, what’s on the hot topic of the day and not really having this deeper connection with each other where we share our deepest thoughts, vulnerability and just having this authentic connection. I feel out of place most of the time because I have too little interest in what they are talking about, and it feels like its just a superficial connection. I do have frustrations about myself in this kind of issue that because of this, I am led to isolate myself. I wanted to belong to any group of friends, but it seems that I don’t belong anywhere and I feel very lonely for wanting that deep meaningful authentic connection.

[@theshrikeer]

In my experience I think people have tend to like me more because I don’t have social media so when I talk to them I actually ask and care about what they are doing in their life. Maybe just go ahead and ask if they got family and whenever you see them again follow up on those. And I think that builds stronger connections and people tend to care more about you too when you keep doing and get used to talking to people in that way. I used to be like this guy but I do get in awkward conversations a lot but who cares at least I’m trying. And you can still have social media and shi just say your impulsive thoughts to people like “I like your shirt” ect and connections will grow

[@LoLaSn]

Society of 80iq people with 0 introspection, that's why I treat people like science experiments and see them as insects living by instinct

[@imthesecretgirl]

i think social isolation is a very useful thing. i have spent a majority of my youth 'isolated'- and these superpowers you mentioned, that i understand- cannot be let go to waste. you cannot be permanently isolated. for these gifts- this viewpoint from the darkened underside of life- can be channeled into something sooo0O great. if you are into anything creative (and creativity umbrellas sooo0O much) or even just technological (even in that lies creativity and innovation), you would have a great capacity for it and i think it should be shared-. the isolated person, one might think them as a selfish overgrown housecat, but inside they have fermented and refined something in them so 'themselves' and FRESH for the world. a breath of fresh air because its absolutely new. and OH, it's a such a wonderful thing, when you find someone who has 'this'- and you can see yourself in it- like, HEY, that's me, you're me. then you're never alone. never alone, even in isolation. funny how seeing yourself in someone else makes you feel less alone, almost like you have always been your best company.

[@imthesecretgirl]

doesn't hurt to look into Intuitive Introverts by Jung

[@Powpiece9]

Easiest way to create conversation is by observation. There are always things going on when out in the world. Point them out, take guesses about the person you’re talking to, crack a joke about the current surroundings. You talk about being good at observing. Speak those thoughts as they pop up and social interaction becomes much easier, more fluid, and overall more enjoyable. Presence is powerful.

[@gracesblogg]

i struggle making friends because i always have this feeling that these aren’t the people im supposed to be around, im srsly going through it right now after pushing everyone away but I really think it can be beneficial for my mental wellbeing thank you for this and good luck on social interactions it’s really hard especially when you can just feel others energy