My Biggest Fear (stage 4 cancer)

[@brannon5311]

Tiffany, everybody is different but my best friend had brest cancer which metastazed to her left lung. She went through removals two nodules. No chemo, no radiation, neither were an option. Her last surgery was 1992 (guesses our ages lol). She has been cancer free for 31 years. She and her husband adopted two beautiful children (she had to wait five-year with no reoccurrence). Todauy she's happy, healthy, continues to teach part time and has three beautiful grandchildren. She lives in Los Angeles living the face life age. Angelea said she doesn't want one wrinkle or line removed from her face or body. She considers them battle scars. I like to visualize you in a similar scenerio 31 years from now.

[@texassews535]

What a blessing that message was to all of us.

[@thebookdreamersalley]

What a hopeful story and beautiful comment. I'm really happy for your friend!

[@theeggtimertictic1136]

That's great news!

[@bethmugambi8819]

This is beautiful. Hope you both get to a very ripe age ❤

[@LINKINservicedog]

I don’t think offering medical advice online is the right thing to do. My husband and I met in medical school, and we don’t give medical advice without seeing the pati 7:30 ent and labs and scans and/or a referral from another doctor. I’m happy for your family.;however, we’ve seen many taking the wrong advice and it shortened their lives. Just a little advice. Love from Kentucky, Lesley and medical service dog Jake.

[@bjrutledge07]

Tiffany, I'm not sure if you'll see this but I've written before. But I'm a stage 4 lung cancer patient since 2009! My whole left lobe was removed. No oxygen tank is needed, thank God. 2016, it spread to the right. Last August I had ablation due to a tumor pushed pass my target therapy pill. But it worked! You said they were going to do a section removal. That's still good. You will still have great lung mass for breathing. Stop trying to figure out what the doctors are doing or thinking. They haven't let you down at all. Trust them, trust God. I'll continue praying for you 🙏🏾 ❤️

[@pattykochenower4222]

Hugs and prayers , what you wrote was very helpful , hope she reads it ! 🤗

[@bygrace24]

So encouraging ❤

[@teresawagstaffe9606]

Just saw your latest video.. I was so very sad for you.. 😢 try and have a rest, stay focused Tiffany . There is an old saying no news is good. The doctors are probably organising your operation. You and Mat and your beautiful mother will be sitting around your Christmas tree. Xxx I will light a candle for your god bless

[@janewilding1345]

Such a positive message for Tiffany, I hope she sees it 🤞.

[@marymn11]

I wish you some good rest , with a swift walk every day. You are human and young , your thoughts are completely normal. Shower morning, noon and night if it helps. Hope you have heard something by now. You are special and we all hang on every message. Will be waiting…love from gramma in minnesota

[@karnishreegovender7827]

Be strong Tiff, we right here with you. Imagination is worst than reality, be strong, you got this.

[@slattisreal]

I’m rooting and praying for you Tiffany!

[@motherofallemails]

What's the use of prayers? Better to have health suggestions for her. I personally can't understand why Tiffany is never curious enough to do her own research on her condition, not one video, it's always "in the hands of the professionals" who may or may not be competent. ALSO, doctors won't necessarily even MENTION alternatives because that puts their profession on the line, it's the patient who has to suggest it! If you look at the stories of cancer survivors, many of them did their own research too, many made adjustments to their lifestyles or supplements/medication which may be what saved them. People shouldn't just be helplessly drifting in the direction where life takes them, SWIM.

[@pei0476]

Tiffany, I think at some point, it would certainly be beneficial to include a psycho-oncologist into part of your care team. You can safely talk to this person about cancer fear, worries, anxieties, run your thoughts with essentially. This is so that you don't get trapped into your own thoughts, or worry about burdening your family member with your worries. Also sometimes, the psycho-oncologist may direct you to exactly what you need. Please don't worry about asking your doctors how you can get access to psycho-oncologist. I truly think it will ease your anxiety a lot and will definitely be helpful. My mom has access to one, and it helped tremendously in many ways. And also, when it comes to metastatic cancer, think of it as a marathon and not a sprint. Approach the cancer journey like a marathon, and a lot of the thoughts will be shifted accordingly. I hope that helps. Rooting for you. :)

[@Evebear]

Best recommendation

[@mariedoucet2371]

Excellent suggestion….

[@elizabethcolombo3388]

Great advice.

[@daisyrose2425]

Great idea

[@moniquearias7790]

Beautiful

[@StephanieD2]

When I was diagnosed w/ breast cancer I started reading out of Psalms out loud. It made a huge difference! I still do it when I need to encourage myself. Psalm 3:3-4 Psalm 4:1 Psalm 5:1-3 & 11-12 Psalm 6 Psalm 9:9-11 Psalm 17:6-8 Psalm 18:1-6 & 16-20 & 28-36 Psalm 23 Psalm 27 1-8 & 11-14 Psalm 28: 6-9 PSALM 30: 1-5, 11-12 Psalm 31: 1-11, 14-17 basically the whole book of Psalm 😂❤❤❤❤

[@H2SO4Queen]

Such a lovely idea.

[@cugierkoteczka]

God saved you but did not others?

[@MyDaisy66]

Psalm 94:19 “When anxieties overwhelmed me, You comforted and soothed me” 💖

[@debrap9448]

I think God loves when you speak His words back to Him 💗it’s very powerful and I’m sure He’s near to you in those moments.

[@FaithyandOtis..Massachusetts]

Psalm 34:4 KJV: I sought the LORD, and he heard me, and delivered me from all my fears.. after I do my Bible study in the morning and journaling, I have a separate book of psalms that I read out of every single day and I give the book of Psalms for a gift. There is so much comfort in them ❤

[@karenclement4518]

Dearest Tiffany, I live everyday on a roller coaster with stage 4 cancer. So many of us understand how you feel and what you're experiencing we love you.

[@SimpleFoodHappyLife]

Prayers for you 🙏

[@sawdust2556]

❤🙏

[@mariedoucet2371]

Prayers for you dear!

[@rachelmaddison3681]

I’m sending you prayers and good wishes.

[@sharonscott7913]

Darling for most of us experiencing stage 4 cancers the greatest fear is death. I finally decided to confront this face to face and in thinking about this over a week decided to share this greatest fear with my family supporters. We have this aired in the open now and are able to move to other fears such as pain and suffering. I don't mean this as anything negative in regard to your reactions and choices. Empathic souls like you who care so much about others and their situation tend to avoid being direct with our families about fears. Sometimes though expressing our fears and questions openly with those nearest can help them just as much ourselves. I love you and hope when you have a plan on the horizon you will have some peace. ❤

[@Gail-tt7wc]

My heart is hurting for you. Feel so helpless. Know that you are in my thoughts and prayers. A big hug!🙏❤️

[@hemacdonald400]

When my mother was going through her cancer journey she always said the “not knowing” was the most difficult part. As long as there was a plan, a road map, she, (like you) could handle anything that came her way. I hope you get a call tomorrow to meet with the surgeon. My feeling is that everything will fall into place and you will have your surgery soon.

[@pinkeyramsarran2790]

Hi tiffany , hang in there you have been through worst and still there , dont worry everything will be ok , god is great , you is a very strong woman, but how much can you take?thanks for sharing , stay blessed.

[@marianna7702]

Yes, same with my mother. Also always having it in the back of your mind, when will it come back.💔

[@mandyhill3211]

Tiffany, Remember Faith over Fear and Prayer over all Doubt". I'm a two-time cancer survivor. I know waiting for results and surgery dates were mind and spirit crushing for me. So, I understand your moment of fear and panic. You hang in there. I'm sending you a pillow of comfort, praying for your peace of mind, sending you good vibes, positive energy and a huge healing hug. Trust god. You got this!!!!!

[@Toffee146]

Where is your 'God' when babies and children die agonising, long deaths from cancer??? 🤔🤔🤔

[@jessicahagard8185]

What was "nothing" when Universe was created, when small children were born and when people loved each other?

[@cindys2995]

@@Toffee146 Same place He was when people were loving, getting married, having babies, getting rich, laughing, drinking, smoking, and everything. Life is bitter and sweet......

[@katherinechatham9032]

@@cindys2995truth

[@emmarosereviews]

Tiffany, please don’t let others tell you how to feel, only you know what’s best. I am currently being treated for cancer a second time, that does not give me a pass card to tell you how you should be feeling. If you are struggling to speak to your family the NHS offers cancer patients therapy, I spoke with a Psychologist weekly during chemotherapy and it really helped me. Sending you so much love and prayers! 💙💙💙

[@sineadodonnell986]

Most sensible and relatable comment I’ve seen today thank goodness for balanced communication

[@kevinspooner2243]

You are 🥰 loved

[@dorisirving2270]

I’m so glad that there are people out there like you to help Tiffany. It helps to have someone who is similar circumstances to share things that helped you. 💙💙🇨🇦

[@janelleabbott2227]

Tiffany, you are so funny and would be a great friend to have❤❤❤❤ so sweet too!!!😊😊

[@karinasanchez3285]

This family, honestly is the nicest one here on YT 💛🙏✨, the love that comes around full circle is just beautiful. Thank you everyone for encouraging our girl 💯✨🫶🏻

[@karinasanchez3285]

💯

[@christinalewis4715]

My prayers are with you. My dad had the lower lobe section of his lungs removed years ago and is doing great and living life. I know you are going to do great and praying for you to recover from this.

[@CatherinePendle]

Treatment for cancer has advanced incredibly in the last decade, my friend has been stage 4 for over 20 years. You've got this ❤

[@nancykalista4696]

I know you're trying to be strong, but you don't have to be. If you want to cry... then do that!!!! Nothing wrong with releasing some of that stuffed down anxiety

[@missiris1234]

👍👍👍

[@alevucer7310]

Yesssss

[@viviennewright7868]

So right ❤

[@nonsensetalk8953]

Exactly.And in her situation,anxiety is perfectly normal.

[@aplainjaneproduction8285]

Tiffany, not only can you do this, you have been doing it. You went through such rough treatment and one of the most intense surgeries there is and came through on the other side! And I believe you'll come through again. I find you to be remarkably strong and positive, although negative emotions are completely understandable. We are pulling for you 💙

[@candiadams5512]

Dearest Tiffany, Is there anyone on your team you would feel comfortable talking to about the anxiety you are experiencing? Your mental health is very important also. If someone close to you was going through this, you would want to help them feel better emotionally. Be that friend to yourself. You are not weak for asking for help. We are all human. We got this dear Tiffany 💙

[@missiris1234]

Yes, perhaps her doctor could help with her anxiety.

[@shanlon3213]

And therapy

[@StephenRankin-hd1kl]

You are such a lovely person and very beautiful, it shouldn't be happening to someone like you. You deserve a life without such a burden. I am glad you have such a lovely family and partner supporting through it all.

[@jeanash9502]

How brave of you to be able to share about your health journey ❤

[@1Riquena]

Cancer is a collective journey….don’t be so hard on yourself and share with your loved ones! Sending prayers!

[@corneliusdenise]

The thing that makes me in awe of cancer patients is the waiting. Doctors will legit tell people cancer spread to an organ and you won't hear from them for two weeks. I cannot imagine not being scared or anxious. Thinking of you, love to Alma and Matt

[@Rnjeepshoelver]

I know that must be horrible for the patients

[@rebornNavea]

Exactly! They are making me wait sooo long too!!

[@corneliusdenise]

@@rebornNavea Both my sister and my cousin were diagnosed with cancer and its crazy. They will be like your blood test shows your cancer came back, see you for a CT in three weeks.

[@manuela1986]

This is a problem for my mom right now 😢. She was operated for breast cancer in december last year. Now the markers are elevated again andthey are taking so much time with other apointments 😢

[@marie-claudevigneault564]

I have lost both my parents to cancer, and the waiting was awful. The cancer eats the whole family.

[@priyanka-hc1xp]

Dear Tiffany, we are here to listen to you. Please never say sorry that you spoke to us a lot about your anxiety or anything troubling you, because we are here to listen to you!!!! We are with you all the time, even when you are not posting. We are thinking about you and praying for you. Things will get better💙💙💙💙

[@maggiej6717]

As a cancer patient, I understand what you’re going through. God bless you, and May your prayers be answered. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

[@margaretgonzalez7736]

God bless u good luck

[@bjrutledge07]

You're in my prayers🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾

[@laurelllewis3437]

You Get This 💙 stay strong for your journey 😊 🙏

[@Sunshine-zi4nq]

Having an honest chat about your feelings will help and reassure all 3 of you.

[@snowdust3657]

Aww Tiffany, you cry it out and know it is completely normal to feel anxious. We’re all here for you, cheering you on. We got this!

[@glendagrant9042]

I did ok on my two battles with cancer. Then my husband had Colon cancer in 2021. It was honestly much harder than dealing with my own. I was so anxious and had awful anticipatory grief. He had a stage 2 Colon cancer with successful surgery. If it was one of my sons or granddaughter I would be inconsolable. My heart goes out to Amma. ❤ Of course you have been through so much only to battle again. So heartbreaking but you are strong. Just words but I do understand your wanting to shield protect your loved ones. Yes, Call call and call again for yourself!!!

[@MarissaNye]

This is such a heartfelt and honest video. It’s okay not to be okay. You are dealing with something no one should have to deal with. Letting it all out and being truthful about your feelings and fears can be so cathartic. Wishing you all the best!

[@floflocarnivore]

Wise words 💗xx

[@momienmohamed7752]

Pray sweet face God is with. ask God to help u though u ate in my prayer. doll .I know how hard many going though doll .be strong pray. .

[@momienmohamed7752]

U are in my prayer .I am v sad u going though pray. go on . God is greatest .

[@SUNSL33P3R]

Good to see you looking so well ❤ You made Christmastime special for me last year, Tiffany, Me & my kids were going through alot & were having to live in a motel around the holidays & your sparkling personality brought our spirits up when we were all feeling so down. Thank you for being a beacon of hope in the darkness, I wish you good health & good fortune & much love from me & my family ❤❤ I'm wishing you healing & comfort most of all, I'm sending all of my healing energy your way. Rest easy my friend ✨

[@LoriJones-bp4uh]

Dear Tiffany, It’s okay to be emotional! I understand your feelings. I have cancer and my fears are how my children will handle my passing. You have been through so much. You are very brave, waiting for results is nerve racking. No apologies necessary! We who care and follow you understand your fears. Please don’t worry about expressing yourself. Sadly cancer is becoming so common. It’s a horrible disease. You are a warrior!! I wish the best for you. 💜🙏 Lori

[@tiffanys9493]

I’m a referral nurse in the US for a large university medical center. Please know that the delay most likely doesnt mean anything bad. There are discussions and planning and triaging. I’m sorry that the wait is excruciating. Hospitals are so overwhelmed these days -they are here and there is such a staff shortage. I’m sure that’s the case there. I understand the nighttime anxiety. The fears and depression you are experiencing… I do hope you will speak to your doctor about an antidepressant to help ease these feelings. And know that it is normal to have anxiety at night when going through a difficult time. ❤

[@Rnjeepshoelver]

You have been through so much and maintained such kindness and grace in dealing with disease and issues no one your age should have to manage , I admire you … you got this !

[@jenc1276]

I have to say this before I watch the rest - it’s soo understandable that you don’t want to burden Matt and amma with your anxiety - I’m sure they would love for you to come to them always - but I understand your feelings so much. That is the incredible help a therapist (who specializes in cancer especially) can provide you. You can have a space to get out all those feelings with someone who has seen others go through this hard stuff. They will help you. You can still share whatever you want with Matt and amma but you can just vent out the anxiety to someone trained to help you. It works. I’m in awe of you and just would love to help lighten your load even a little. We love you, Tiffany. ❤️❤️

[@roch145]

I agree counseling or a support group could be helpful. I just started participating in a colorectal cancer support group, even though my treatments ended three years ago. There were no support groups during Covid. She needs to be able to have a dialogue in real time with other cancer patients. KZbin is certainly an outlet for expressing herself, but counseling would offer a new level of expression for her.

[@supersparkley123]

I agree with this advice and hope she seeks it out! We can’t expect ourselves to be strong all of the time by ourselves! ❤🙏🏻

[@roch145]

Tiffany, I’ve been following you for quite some time. I’m a fellow rectal cancer patient. One observation I’ve made over the many months I’ve followed you is that you go through cycles of worry, mostly because (or so it seems to me) you have many unknowns and unanswered questions. I don’t know if your doctors are poor communicators or if they take too long to develop a plan or if you are challenged understanding what they are telling you. But it seems like there’s a communication gap that needs to be resolved.

[@alabamagirl1363]

Is Amma, Tiffany’s mom? Sending good vibes to you Tiffany!❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@edwright480]

@@alabamagirl1363 Yes, Ama is Tamil for mum.

[@maureenelizabeth5853]

There are sooo many options! It's not like you have not been monitored, whatever it is, it's not out of control. You will be alright

[@K4rmaRules]

Having cancer can be one of the most lonely experiences anyone can ever experience. That was my experience. Everything was stood still, whilst everyone was around me. I'm still here. All will be ok.

[@sejbomb]

As an over thinker, I would definitely recommend listening to music upstairs and maybe painting, making jewellery, drawing, anything to keep your mind busy now and then. Taking breaks going to the coffee shop or on a small errand definitely helps stop the cycle briefly. We all need space and distractions now and then too. Xxx

[@cokeef7309]

Never feel bad for leaning on your support system. If the tables were turned you’d never want them to feel this way alone❤ we got this ❤

[@simone6822]

We’re here for you Tiff. Saddens me seeing you this way. We got this. It’s okay to feel sad or frustrated even when it’s frustrating feeling that way. You’re allowed and validated. 💙

[@Anastashya]

Tiffany, all your feelings are valid. My mother had one whole lung removed due to metastatic breast cancer stage 4. She had no chemotherapy after, and has had none since. Her lung removal was almost 21 years ago. She hikes, goes skiing, swimming, everything normal in life plus she works in palliative care and hospice. She did feel a little bit of shortness of breath after but she exercised her way out of it. Her other lung does the work of two. It might be good for you to see a therapist and perhaps some anti anxiety medication for night times. Sending you lots of love ❤️ and prayers 🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️❤️

[@oonaghbolton758]

Tiffany as an old nurse let me advise you to get your hands on some anti anxiety meds for your bad days, its okay to do this !!

[@elizabethjohnston3264]

I think this is a good idea during these really anxious times.I have used some in the past when I was going through something very difficult.They helped me sleep better and took the edge off that terrible anxiety.

[@Dogsrule-v5n]

Do you have an anti-anxiety medication that you can take when you’re overwhelmed? If not, you should ask your doctors for one.

[@trmp9923]

it's so hard to get them anymore

[@boganshazz821]

@@trmp9923 not in her situation. I'm sure her drs would be sympathetic

[@clairemercier3969]

Excellent suggestion. I fear for Tiffany's mental health. What she is going through atm is so incredibly difficult. I wish she could talk - pour it all out -- to someone like a psychologist/councellor/psychiatrist/etc. This is too much for her to bear all by herself (Amma and Matt are doing their best, but ngl they are not exactly great listeners). And sorry -- don't want to offend anyone here -- but 'her lovely Tiffany Thinks family' is NOT what she is in dire need of presently. I wish her Strength, Courage, and Peace of mind.

[@kathyerb3134]

Dear Tyfanny, many ppl are living with stage 4 cancer of many types and are still alive after many yrs. I think it depends on what type , slow, aggressive, etc. You need to believe in your Dr's And what they r doing as they r doing. They know what is best for u. U also have option of going for 2nd option. I suggest you ask for anti-anxiety meds as I think u really need them. And find a counselor to talk to asap. Family is not the best in this situation to use big sounding board as they aren't trained in these type of situations. Short term but not long term. You are worrying yourself sick. Please let things go. LET IT GO, as Elsa would sing in Frozen. Focus on being POSITIVE, from now on. I know it is hard waiting . Stop putting things into your head that Dr's are doing this, doing that to avoid calling you, or avoiding surgery etc. You are just driving yourself sick and those around you. Settle down hon. Believe in God, He will answer prayers in His time. Love from Canada 🇨🇦

[@naomisgram1]

I agree, a mild anti anxiety would at least help her sleep at night.

[@darlenew1981]

I don't blame you for feeling anxious. You must have all kinds of worrying thoughts going through your mind. We're here for you!

[@EagleClaw-c4z]

Well she only has 5 years if she is lucky, prayers needed

[@darlenew1981]

@@EagleClaw-c4z Wow! And how would you know that? I'm sorry you feel the need to be negative.

[@EagleClaw-c4z]

​@@darlenew1981check the stats, she's in the denial phase at the moment

[@sallymoore7415]

@@EagleClaw-c4zunbelievable how cruel a comment to make!!

[@heathercrocombe2977]

How horrible to say that!! Are you Tiffany's surgeon? Are you a cancer specialist? Keep comments like that to yourself!!

[@olga-mu7tv]

Try not to stress too much, at the end you can’t change anything. I was diagnosed with breast cancer at 39 and after a year of treatment everything was good and great news and four months later I have a brain tumor and then everything was good news and a month later I was diagnosed with leptomeningeal carcinomatosis which is terminal and here still am a year later still on treatment and alive. At the end of the day you can just keep going and live your best life. Hopefully is good news only, but whatever it is you are alive and your love ones are with you. Much love and good vibes ❤

[@wendydonnelly4885]

Hey Tiffany, what I love about your channel is that not only does most everyone support you in your journey, but they also support each other in whatever others maybe going through. The anxieties that you’ve been having while waiting for answers from your medical team regarding your surgery that’s completely normal. You should always feel comfortable talking with your loved ones when you’re getting anxious. You will have emotional moments and that’s completely okay. Know you are well loved and we will always be here to support you through your journey.

[@mummymoomoomummymoomoo8443]

Hi Tiffany 🖐🏾I’m so glad you have this output on KZbin to vent about your fears, treatment and whatever you need to get out your chest. We’re here to listen and support you, what you are going through is a very traumatic experience and not something anyone ever expects to go through, there’s no manual, no right or wrong way to feel or to deal with it, I’m guessing all you can do is take each day a step at a time. Love, light and strength to you Tiffany love mel 🙏🏾💙🫶🏿

[@KayeCrosby-yk9sn]

You’ve got this! Allow your true emotions to come through. You have to do that for your mental state of mind. And call the doctors and tell them your fears and that you need answers! Remember that they have many patients, and they get busy and detached. Fight for what you need. I’m a cancer survivor and what you’re feeling is 100% justified.

[@marymartinez-k1d]

Tiffany--I learned a long time ago to be an advocate for myself and my family. Doctors don't seem to realize the anxiety a patient is going through and yours may be a less serious case than other patients they are dealing with. Still no excuse for them--but I always reached out to them if I thought a fair amount of time went by--both my father and brother had cancer. My father lived to be 94 with cancer and treatments in various organs My brother is one year into his journey. It is only fair to know what is going on and not let your imagination get the worst of you. Let your family in to help. We are only human. You don't have to be strong all by yourself.

[@SpAxley]

My sweet, Tiff. It's ok to not be ok. We as humans deserve to not be ok 100% of the time. It's may make Matt and Amma feel less alone if they know how you're feeling. You don't have to go to them all the time but letting them in sometimes can help the 3 of yall. Cry it out. Rant it out. Scream. Do everything you feel you need to do. We all love yall so much and are here for you. You're not alone.

[@JulieGilman]

Good advise!!

[@DanaLaKat]

Tiffany your mental health is a priority for you and you don’t need to worry about Matt and Ama getting upset, you HAVE to be able to talk about every fear, you can’t carry this all alone when you have such loving people around you

[@lauraapuan5610]

Tiffany, at the beginning of this video you said a couple of different times “I can’t do this, I can’t “. I want you to know that you CAN do this, you don’t want to have to do it, but you absolutely can! You are a warrior sweetie. I really feel you will feel much less anxious once you get your surgery date. Do your best to fill your thoughts with things that make you happy. You love Christmas, so start planning EVERYTHING you want to do for the holidays…..look through that beautiful Christmas book you bought and plan your decorations, gifts, food, snacks, get togethers with family and friends, make lists, write all the plans down as if you were a special events planner. This will help keep your mind focused on something that you love and enjoy. It may help with sudden intrusive negative thoughts. You’ve got this, we’ve got this!

[@margaretohara7250]

Yes, Tiffany is a warrior and you are insightful. Bless you.

[@elintilia2790]

Tiffany don't feel bad to share your thoughts, even the dark ones, with your loved ones. My dad and uncle fought their mental battles mostly alone, wanting to spare our feelings but it just made me and the others sad they didn't let us share the burden for as much as we can. I do think that the results you have are still something to be optimistic about. Planning surgery on your lungs means they're leaving nothing up to chance. These surgeries take a lot of time to plan though in comparison to radiation/chemo for example. So, try to look at the waiting time as time invested in creating the best plan. Easy for me to say of course but I hope it helps a bit. Big hug

[@bobbiescott3858]

Stay strong Tiffany, anxiety is an absolute normal reaction I would have a word with your GP to see if he recommends any treatments for anxiety if you need some help at night

[@carolescharacters]

The waiting has to be the worst experience ever …. Hope you’ve heard something by now Tiffany …. Sending so much love and positive healing vibes your way …. We got this! 💙

[@patriciamoffitt1058]

Tiffany everything is going to work out fine. This surgery coming up will be a walk in the park compared to your other surgeries. You have come too far to think you have lost the war. You have got this!💙💙💙

[@kharadimilan3378]

Thank u so Mach

[@elizabethdurocher8308]

Tiffany, I totally understand what is happening. I had thyroid cancer over 10 years ago. And now they are saying I have bladder cancer. So the waiting games you have to go through is what is happening to me. Keep strong. Sending lots of love and prayers 💙💙💙

[@judi7282]

Honey, I am a nurse and I know how anxious you r feeling. The clinic is so busy sorting out other patients, don’t think they r holding off calling you because there r problems. You should call them, because as we say in US, squeaky wheel gets the oil. Other people r calling, get on the clinics radar too! You are so loved, Matt and your mom are anxious also, talk to them! Much love and prayers coming your way🙏🙏❤️❤️✝️✝️ call the clinic 👍👍

[@bagscomeandbagsgo2343]

"Squeaky wheel gets the GREASE"

[@shinebrighter3802]

So glad you can come and share your thoughts with us ❤

[@donnaconroy9144]

I'll say it again, Dear Tiffany you're not on this journey alone and you're loved around the world ❤ Please speak to your primary MD regarding antianxiety med also research if there's a cancer support group nearby. Much love from Florida

[@dawnclarke1298]

Tiffany, please don't hold your tears back. You are scared and anxious. You have gone through so much, so it is only normal that you are going to feel this way. You can do this! You are a fighter! and you will get through this! The waiting is always the worst part, and nighttime is always when the anxiety sets it. You have got this! With all of our love and support ❤

[@PennyJackson123]

I am here for your personality. You are such a warm and sweet person who just cares and cares and cares sooooo much about the people around you ❤You are so relatable and so charismatic. I’m not here for the cancer, I’m here for you Tiffany😍🫶🏽 Isn’t it incredibly how you are able to lift people up all across the world, despite that stupid cancer-monster trying to get in your way. We are all rooting for you and we believe in you🫂 You can do this sweetheart!

[@PartialSilence1]

Sending much love from Israel. I know it's easier said than done, but please try to not be too hard on yourself and don't apologise for you being you! Honestly, you are such a kind, caring, loving, gentle human being and the thousands upon thousands of us are rooting for you all the way. Much love 💛🧡❤😘

[@denisewestrick8416]

Tiffany … there is nothing wrong with letting the doctors know, if possible, you would like your surgery before December. There is nothing wrong with asking. Remember to remind them that you missed Christmas last year. It’s ALWAYS ok to ask. ❤️❤️❤️

[@mandyhill3211]

I found through my cancer journey that it was all about living through and surviving the next deadline. The waiting was the worst. Staying busy was so helpful. Writing daily in my journal was therapeutic and became important, It allowed me to release all my fears on paper. It was freeing and somewhat cleansing -- like taking a long hot shower. Tiffany,... Do things that bring you JOY. Happiness is fleeting but JOY endures. JOY is lasting!

[@janesmith510]

i am sorry you have to go through this emotionally , physiologically and physically. You are such a kind giving and humble person . May you be healed and your right everyone out there dealing with cancer too.

[@carolmckenzie113]

I want to give you some hope. I am an ovarian cancer survivor, stage 2. 21 years for me. I helped my mom fight stage 4 ovarian for 18.5 years. Her prognosis was to live 1 month! She lived a long time, way way over expectations. She had strength to overcome. You have that strength too! You have support, love, good medical care. Medicine has progressed way beyond when mom was treated. I was petrified when I was diagnosed. But you got to go deep and fight like everything. Prayer to me was my key to keep going on, caring for her...and facing my own diagnosis. You have been through a tough surgery and recovery...and have adapted so well to change. You need to be commended for all that you have been through. You are a warrior! God bless you and your family. I am keeping you in my prayers.

[@carolinaherera8138]

such a lucky mom! my friend was die with ovarian cancer stage 3-4, probably an agressive one. love from Romania!

[@lorraineearle5967]

Tiffany, it's OK to be scared. Move through your feelings, you're only human. Still sending positive energy for a quick reply on a surgery date. Hold on! 💙💙💙

[@DebbieDykesembroidery]

You can't carry this alone. It's better to say your feelings and not keep them inside. Please don't feel bad. Matt and your Mom are strong.. Lean on them!!!! Talk to them when you need to. I think you will feel some better. Just remember you are a beautiful beautiful lady and it's ok not to feel like you can't do this... Oh but you can!!! Praying so hard for you and yes we believe in you..

[@carolemouallem2558]

The waiting fills me with anxiety too. Sometimes talking it through helps. Sending you hugs, healing thoughts and prayers! We got this Tiffany. We are here for you💙💙💙

[@aubnwa01]

When I was dealing with the stress in the aftermath of a uterine cancer diagnosis, hysterectomy, job stresses & caring for an elderly parent on top of the usual things, I started walking in the evening after dinner & the dishes were done. I walked 2 miles every night (I had a dog at that time & she enjoyed it a lot) in usually about 30 minutes, so I walked at fast pace. It was my "me time" & I so looked forward to just walking in solitude & getting my stress of the day worked out. I'm glad to hear you're taking walks, it really does help both mentally & physically.

[@cassandrasutton7111]

Tiffany if you dont feel comfortable talking to the people around you because you're worried it would be too heavy for them (which im sure it would be fine anyway) please please please journal or talk to a therapist if you can to get those thoughts out, it's so important

[@oddnuts5764]

Have a good cry Tiff, it's important to release the emotion you are bottling up. Sending you lots of love.

[@stludlow3610]

Hi Tiffany. I am sorry that you are having to experience these feelings. I understand your feelings. I have stage 4 metastatic breast cancer spread to the bone. Just know others feel what you are feeling. Thank you for sharing. I have been in treatment with stage 4 for 9 years. I love your Mom.

[@hemidancer64]

Tiffany, I’m so sorry you’re feeling so anxious, and it’s completely understandable. You have this mountain in front of you and you want to start climbing. I totally get it. All of your feelings are completely valid. Please try to remember that we’re still all here for you, and you’ve STILL got this! 😊❤️

[@missiris1234]

Well said🙏❤️🙏

[@barbarastyles4539]

Hi Tiffany, you are in my thoughts and I pray for you daily. I pray that you get your operation date soon so you won’t be so stressed out waiting. You’ve got this.💙💙

[@mariamkhalil62154]

You can get through this love! Stay strong❤️ so much love!!

[@garsu1229]

NEVER FEEL BAD This is you Tiffany please include us on all that you feel..

[@loriscott5701]

I can so relate to your anxiety while waiting. I was approved for a double lung transplant on 9/11/23 but had 1 more appointment to go before they would activate me. They sent the referral and I didn't hear anything until last Friday. I went for my appointment on Tuesday and now I am waiting again to hear. I call or email once a week because I don't want to bug them but my anxiety is through the roof. I am worried because there is so much sickness going around and one bad flu or cold could kill me. I will be praying that you hear something soon and that your surgery will be soon and all the cancer will be gone from your body. So sorry you have to go through this again.

[@stephaniewilson5284]

I feel for you truly be kind to yourself....random acts of a splurge on your favorite coffee or food a hot sexy bath with a bath bomb and bubbles and a really good book.

[@kellykennedy1165]

They made me wait 4 months for my cancer surgery… waiting is the absolute worst! I agree with you keep busy as much as possible! Tv on in the background or radio. Silence can be deafening ! So much love to you❤️ You got this baby girl!!❤️

[@Sunshine-zi4nq]

That is crazy, cancer can spread a lot in 4 months!

[@vickilynch2751]

Sweet Tiffany, I hope by now you have heard from the Dr’s and you have a surgery date. I completely understand how your emotions would alter from day to day. I think about you like a special friend and I’m praying for you 🙏with love Vicki from Australia 💚💛💚

[@michelleowens671]

You’re in my prayers sweetheart, I can only imagine how hard it must be waiting and wondering…. We got this 💙💙💙

[@maggiemoo0328]

Hi Tiffany. I was wondering if a talk with a Macmillan nurse would be helpful for you? They have a helpline and are truly wonderful. You’ve got this 💙

[@heathercrocombe2977]

I agree - Macmillan were a great help to me during my cancer journey x

[@davidtrautman7280]

It always seems like you have so much fun spending time with your sister. It’s a real pick me up for you. So many people are praying & sending good thoughts your way.

[@jmhwink3202]

Tiffany, find a good counselor someone you can physically see and talk to , who will listen and not question. They are not family and will not carry the emotional burden but will help you unburden your fears in a safe place. 💙💙💙

[@Tara-oy5ni]

My heart goes out to you. You've been through so much. I'm glad you have such wonderful, loving people by your side. Stay strong, Tiffany. I know it must be so hard to be strong for so long. Know that there are so many people you’ve never met who care for you. ❤️

[@cathyoddie5885]

May God Remove Every cancer cell from your body Tiffany 🙏 Prayers for Complete Healing and a Full Recovery 🙏 Godspeed 🙏❤

[@daisyrose2425]

Waiting is the worst. It keeps a person left wondering. Love you lots, Tiffany. 💙🙏💙

[@glennamiles3566]

Dear Tiffany, you and your loved ones are surely being tested at this time. I am so glad that you are surrounded by love and positivity as you fight this fight. You got this.

[@anniem1898]

Tiffany, please know that your family thinks the same things you are thinking, but of course they are not going to share it with you and make things worse. My dear, I am currently in treatment for triple negative breast cancer for the 2nd time (first time was in 2018), and things are not looking great for my long-term prognosis, so I completely empathize with the ongoing anxiety of the unknown. Sometimes it drives me nearly mad. My greatest concern is for my husband and son because I know the stress they are going through and how completely useless and powerless they feel. They would never bring those fears up to me though, because what would that help? They are afraid of losing me as much as I am afraid of losing them. They understand my beloved Tiffany, even if they don't share those fears. I so hope you get through to your doctors soon, as I agree, the waiting is always torturous, especially when they say they will call and they don't. AAAARRRRGGGGHHHH! Thinking of you with love and hope and strength!

[@janschierholz4135]

Dear sweet Tiffany, I have a daughter who is close to your age and I have been watching your videos for a year now. I have come to care so much about you. I see a very wise, thoughtful, loving person who is doing her very best to remain positive and faithful throughout this difficult year. I have prayed for your complete healing and I will continue to ask our Lord to shower you with blessings and heal you through and through. I watch with much admiration as you try so hard to remain so positive and as you try not to burden Amma and Matt. What a kind, loving soul you are and so very brave too. I know your family is so very proud of the person that you are. Tonight it struck me that your voice and your choice of words puts me in mind of Cinderella. You talk just like a princess!! Your voice and tone is always so sweet and caring. I know right now you are so caught up with worry about what the doctor will say about surgery, which I understand, but I wanted you to see from another mother's perspective what a beautiful, special person you are. Your family is so blessed to have you in their lives and all of us in your Tiffany Thinks family are blessed as well. I truly believe that everything is going to turn out just fine for you and the surgery will be completely successful. Much love Tiffany!

[@theknight3093]

Such a beautiful and sweet girl💛 Rooting and praying for you🙂

[@joanmckee3906]

Chin up Tiffany - you will get through this, it's horrible not knowing (I'm in same boat). It's good to cry. We're all rooting for you. 💕

[@jodysmaggus1862]

Wishing you the best Joan

[@sheribayens4898]

May God continue to bless you, your darling Matt, your beautiful mom, and your entire friends and family community. My powerful novena and my daily prayers for all of you will never stop. Tiffany, you are such a beautiful soul, inside and out. You are so easy to love! Your kind heart, your sweet personality, your loving disposition...more people should be just like you, and the world would be a more lovely place. I love you, Tiffany, and when you're feeling down, feeling unwell, feeling anxious, or feeling overwhelmed, just keep in mind that millions of people are praying for you, this girl from Louisville, Kentucky included! God bless you, Tiffany. We Got This!❤️😀❤️👍❤️

[@57msdeb]

Anyone in the same situation would feel as you do, Tiffany. I wish the drs there hurried to handle things, but they don’t seem to. I would be on the phone asking for anxiety medication for sure. Praying for you, as always.

[@Familylawgroup]

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[@Linkelve]

Hello, I was wondering why they have referred you to a different hospital?Can’t they do your surgery in Royal Marsden?Wouldn’t it be quicker and better to keep getting treated in the same hospital?Praying for you to get full remission after surgery.

[@kimtankersley7743]

You have inspired me. I am having my leg amputated in a few weeks. We can do this! You have been thru diff. And a traumatic surgery and you did it! You got this. ❤

[@57msdeb]

Prayers and best wishes to you!

[@kimlast66]

Blessings and Love Best of luck to you love ❤😊

[@MegaCj65]

Keep the faith! Tiffany, you have an army of supporters around you! xoxo❤❤❤

[@denisesmith9240]

This is precisely the reason when I tell someone I’m going to do something I do it no matter what or how I feel. Doctors, dentists, the plumber NEVER respond as planned-it wasn’t like this when I was growing up. Don’t they know the anxiety they create. Don’t they care? What has gone wrong with folks. I rarely feel like doing what I planned but I get off my butt and do it because it impacts others. The entire world needs to do better at doing the right thing-poor little Tiff has to be so upset and a mere call even to say we don’t k Wi at this time would make all the difference. Tiff, here in the US it’s awful to get ANY service when you need it-I called a plumber 3 weeks ago to offer him something for Free and he still hasn’t called back. Granted you aren’t waiting on the plumber but why don’t folks care enough. Yes I’m ranting because I wish I could jump on a plane and go to England and get you fixed. You so deserve it! Gads this is so hard on you and we all feel it and want you healthy and spreading happiness and kindness.

[@detectivefiction3701]

I completely agree with you about long response times and poor service. However, I don't think you should infantilize Tiffany by calling her "poor little Tiff"--especially since you are talking about people needing to behave more maturely and take more responsibility.

[@Ybearl58]

Thinking of you. Try to focus on “LOVING” yourself and everything and one today. You Are a Very Strong Woman. 💕🙏🏼

[@LessonsOfWhatNotToDo]

I have some fairy lights hanging in my room that create a really lovely feeling, so when I’m awake and in pain, it just helps me feel better inside.