TikTok's "Relationship Tests" Are Making Gen-Z Lonely

"Hill Test" "Orange Peel Theory" "The Ketchup Test" "The Beckham Test" are saying real words anymore, or are we just throwing sh*t at the wall and hoping it sticks?
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[@bradleyharris774]

The only relationship I subscribe to is the "Waitstaff Test.". If the person you're dating is blatantly rude and nasty to the waiters/waitresses at a restaurant for no reason, that is usually a red flag.

[@terir.7217]

Oh 1000%, that casual behaviour makes my skin crawl

[@timothyloayza6789]

Damn straight and next to kids or animals given poor treatment will enrage and disgust me!

[@deadinside8781]

I’m a retail worker. The amount of times the women are just BATSHIT CRAZY and the man just stands there. I’m sorry (I’m saying that because I’m nice overall, I just don’t mean it in regards to these people) but you’re being judged. You married that? Where is your honor, your pride? On a different note, that on top already knowing no one cares about you and the by-stander practice (customers being abusive and no one says anything, or someone is holding up the line but you take it out on the employees) just tears away your faith in humanity. Tears, because you had it, you truly, genuinely care about people and they can’t even show the most minor bit of humanity. We don’t want please or thank you, just do nothing. So yeah. Waitstaff test is absolutely pivotal.

[@WeirdSnakeGal]

Because sadly a lot of men (not all of them but an overwhelming majority) care about her looks more than who she is and they're fine overlooking a crappy personality as long as she's hot. Some women do it too but from my own observations it's is not a 1:1 ratio.

[@timothyloayza6789]

Yup especially if they treat animals and kids like crap or callously

[@monse6224]

at this point we can call this self-sabotage

[@Itsjustesh]

Yep!

[@axolotlbox]

real

[@amandapanda5087]

Absolutely

[@karimwebo8546]

So real

[@kayleighdriessen]

Yes

[@Gore-Labs]

The ketchup test is absolutely insane- like- no sane person is going to clean up after you after you deliberately make the mess. If you do that and your partner refuses, I’d say that’s a success because your partner is sane and has boundaries.

[@courtneylust]

i agree that is so entitled it made me so angry seeing that

[@Solar.Ring.]

Its almost like telling ur mum to clean up the mess u made 😭😭

[@jennym81]

It just sounds like how kids are and how parents have to clean after them. What are they trying to say exactly?🤨

[@Gore-Labs]

@@jennym81 The difference is one is a relationship where someone *chose* to bring a life into the world and is therefore responsible for that human being until they can do things themselves. Another is a relationship where both parties are equal and are fully functional asults… hopefully.

[@Koozomec]

It's like they look for validation for their bad choice/behaviour.

[@Anne_loves4055]

8:42 I just know this "theory" would turn into an outrage if a man did it. If a man made a mess intentionally and told his girlfriend to clean it up, he'd be called a misogynist and he'd be bullied off the platform. But since its a woman doing it, its apparently completely fine and funny. No man or woman should be expected to clean up after their partners.

[@user-zm7dj3kt8d]

I can try and verify this.

[@--org--]

Relationship tests are a red flag for me

[@amandapanda5087]

I agree, and I'm arospec

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Haylo's farts

[@braylin5003]

?​@@p-__

[@TheFreckledFoxWCUE]

Im ur 100th like! :D

[@VerySaltyPoolWater.]

@@amandapanda5087what’s arospec if you don’t mind me asking?

[@StingingNettle47]

As a gen-z I am appalled by the lengths people are going to to make sure their relationship is tiktok approved, like??? How about we have happiness theory, where it's just "Does your partner make you happy? Yes? Congrats!" and then everyone calms tf down

[@lilacroberto]

Exactly people are so stupid these days!

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Haylo's farts

[@BlackFinter]

Underrated comment.

[@ville__]

MAKE BETTER CONTENT THAN THIS. I'm a 30+ year old media creator with aspergers syndrome who is a jack of all trades with a passion for fighting against cyberbullying. I've been doing these kinds of things for over 10 years and I've picked up a whole set of different skills along the way

[@ville__]

Cp is unironically more entertaining than this video 🤣🔥 (not club penguin).

[@thehuntress5405]

Bro wtf is up with the ketchup. Purposely makes a mess like a toddler and gets upset when their partner dosnt wanna clean it

[@cwcpants140]

They failed the girlfriend test. 😂

[@blueeyedscorpio7]

🎉😂😂😂😂

[@Razumutaz]

I love how these people are TESTING their partners and don't realize how horrible and how much of a red flag these are

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Haylo's farts

[@ville__]

MAKE BETTER CONTENT THAN THIS. I'm a 30+ year old media creator with aspergers syndrome who is a jack of all trades with a passion for fighting against cyberbullying. I've been doing these kinds of things for over 10 years and I've picked up a whole set of different skills along the way

[@lamour-md2ph]

Lol get some help 😊​@@ville__

[@mica4977]

Indeed, no one in their life has said "I fell in love with school more thanks to the pop quizzes!"

[@hrpdrp97]

Ya know, sometimes i like to give things like this the bennicit of the doubt and assume the guys are either in on it too, or that the girls are only doing it for the trends and making up with their bf after every silly test. Ive seen some who do these tests and the guy fails but they still uplode videos together and do more tests with the same guy, wich makes it seem like they just dont act the same when the camera is off and that they actually have a decent relationship. But idk, some people are just insane.

[@not_that_idiot]

SINCE WHEN ARE TESTS A THING FOR LOVE?!😭PEOPLE ARE CRAZZZYYY

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Haylo's farts

[@msruag]

@@p-__ help what

[@EngelxClaire_supremacy]

You need God ​@@p-__

[@lindsayandkittyslayed]

@@msruagjust ignore it their a bot made by an insane person

[@tinaunderwood7766]

Rite. If someone would carry me up the hill I’d be worried they’d be too clingy. Ya know. lol

[@softlygaloshes]

The bird test kind of reminded me of this self help book called The Relationship Cure where they did studies on couples to see if they were right that close, happy relationships are based on sharing deep personal stories and information with each other. What they actually found was that couples that reported deeper happiness were not constantly talking about very deep things with each other, although it would happen. Basically what they were doing that was working comes down to this thing called an emotional bid. An emotional bid is essentially a big or small attempt to engage with your partner. It could be something as simple as wanting to tell them about your day and how they respond to that, or it could be more serious like getting help from when you have an injury, or it could be asking for a hug, basically anything that is an attempt to interact with your partner. When one partner is attempting an emotional bid, the other partner has a few different choices. They could turn towards that emotional bid which is to respond very positively and enthusiastically with it. They could turn away from that emotional bid which looks more like a non-committal response are very low energy response. Or they can turn against the emotional bid where they get angry or upset or punish you in some way for the attempt. Couples that reported deeper happiness long-term and day-to-day showed that they were turning towards their partners emotional bids and vice versa more often than not. An example could be pointing something out that excited you like a bird, or it could be requiring physical help when you actually need it, or it could be "hey look at this meme" or something. But the issue is that it's not a test with a pass fail that tells you whether or not a partner secretly hates you or actually loves you. The book basically talks about learning to recognize when your partner is attempting to make an emotional bid and making more of an effort to turn towards their emotional bids to show that they matter and that you care. These TikTok tests are basically emotional bids in a way, but they are roleplaying it in a disingenuous way. It's tainted. Especially when you see that they're taking the tests so literally and specifically that even when their partner is turning towards this faux emotional bid like offering to cut up an orange for them or offering to get them a fruit cup instead or whatever, that isn't good enough for them. The thing about learning about emotional bids is that it isn't supposed to be a new way to test your partner. It would be something that you bring up with your partner and discuss and make an effort together to turn towards each other's emotional bids. Because some people just don't realize in the moment that being attentive towards your partners emotional bids is important because they don't even know what that is or that they're doing something that might cause sadness or resentment over time. Seeing how your partner responds to your emotional bids is important, but don't use it as another test to manipulate your partner into performing a certain way. Discuss emotional bids together and create genuine happiness together. Not tests. If after discussing emotional bids with each other, you find that they are still turning away or against, talk with them! Happy relationships build on each other and you work out how best to show each other you care. If through discussion, you don't that they don't care, they lash out, etc, then that is useful information about your relationship. Anyway I really enjoyed that book. I found it because of an assignment I had for a sociology class, where we had to pick a self-help book that was written by actual educated experts in the field that it was discussing, and was based on real research. We had a lot of requirements to make sure that we weren't picking just some random celebrity self-help book. If anyone finds this concept interesting, I would highly recommend reading the book itself rather than just my summary of it.

[@deweyr_fisher]

the “toward, against, away” thing is also used in psychology to describe people’s behavior around other people, which I think is really interesting! Toward is seeking out attention and validation from people, against is being manipulative, standoffish, and/or starting fights, and away is isolating oneself and being hesitant to let others in

[@MaisZuuuuut]

Thank you for this very interesting comment ! I've been married for 5 years (together for 15) and you actually helped me understand better my partner and even myself.

[@456puff]

Thanks for this comment. Very insightful and a much more intelligent way of saying what I think my fiancé and I have.

[@_koraki]

Some women are coming to a harrowing realization that their male partners are, shocker, actual people and not just servants to them. Yes it’s good to be loving and spoil your so, but it’s not something you can demand lol

[@kittypipkin]

As someone in a long term relationship, these tests just seem like an “easy out” because they’re too afraid to break up…

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Haylo's farts

[@kittypipkin]

@@p-__ I’m sure they are

[@ville__]

MAKE BETTER CONTENT THAN THIS. I'm a 30+ year old media creator with aspergers syndrome who is a jack of all trades with a passion for fighting against cyberbullying. I've been doing these kinds of things for over 10 years and I've picked up a whole set of different skills along the way

[@kittypipkin]

@@ville__ I don’t understand what you’re trying to say

[@LordMorningstarMagne]

@@kittypipkin they are both just random bots that like spamming the comment section it seems

[@andijames9967]

Plot twist: all these years of men saying "babe go make me a sandwich" were just men doing the orange theory all along

[@ippanpedrozo1162]

no, you cant point out the double standard of women! fr tho, if they can be mad about you refusing to clean their mess or peel their orange, men are allowed to be mad about not being made sandwiches.

[@250cupsofjunk]

The ketchup test is like low-key psychotic... especially since they do it RIGHT IN FRONT OF THEM!

[@jupiitersringzq]

EXACTLY

[@carlospomares3225]

With a gitty smile on their face too!

[@toecutterjones]

Being alone does not equal lonely, society needs to figure that out.

[@alexharrington8000]

Social isolation has noted adverse health effects, such as increased risk for cardiovascular disease, depression and anxiety disorders. The human brain is evolved with a strong need for communal support. This hyper fixation on individualism in modern western society has gotten to the point of straight up delusion. Not only in this way but I’ll stop there.

[@toecutterjones]

@@alexharrington8000 true but there are exceptions to every rule and some people do in fact thrive on solitude.

[@admiralalyssa]

You were right Mom, it was always that darn phone 😔

[@greenfacere210]

LOL

[@ville__]

MAKE BETTER CONTENT THAN THIS. I'm a 30+ year old media creator with aspergers syndrome who is a jack of all trades with a passion for fighting against cyberbullying. I've been doing these kinds of things for over 10 years and I've picked up a whole set of different skills along the way

[@Lucas-mk1gi]

I think it's more social media than the phone itself :(

[@thErianxOscar]

@@Lucas-mk1giyeah ig if social media wasn’t THAT toxic then some bad habits and things wouldn’t exist (which is good)

[@starsiegeRoks]

​I don't think so, social media existed before smartphones did, well the first generation anyways, and it was nowhere near as toxic. The smartphone enabled us to be always online. Back in the day you had to GO TO THE COMPUTER to access social media, which limited your exposure time and forced you into real world situations without it. Doomscrolling, modern algorithms, and all this stupid stuff we see is a product of post-smartphone social media design. So in a way, without smartphones social media would've evolved differently and probably wouldn't have been as prevalent. So maybe it is the darn phone after all, and modern social media is the symptom. @Lucas-mk1gi

[@davidnissim589]

I’m Gen Z and I’ve never understood why people feel the need to “test” their partners. If your partner makes you feel happy and loves you, then they love you. There’s no secret motive underneath.

[@timothyloayza6789]

I know right what do they need to signal to ones brain to put 2 & 2 together

[@cocobutter14]

Agreed

[@KawaiiGirl2001]

I’m a Gen Z Woman and yeah…. It’s weird.

[@spicynoodle7419]

Bro this is not about generations. All women shittest their men. They're simply honest about it now

[@yeen.7209]

something i appreciate about my own boyfriend, other than making me the happiest i've ever been in my life, is that he's not afraid of calling me out if i'm being an idiot now this seldom happens, if ever, but god is it nice to not have a vacuum chamber within a relationship

[@Zelphraeya]

Women saying, "I really want an orange right now" in a request form reminds me of my children. If they say they want something, I will naturally help them to get it and peel it. So, basically these women are reverting back to children under 6 years old in order to prove if their significant other loves them enough. Ffs. 😂 Side note: Women worked hard not to be treated like children, so these women are reverting back to that as well without even realizing it. That's disturbing.

[@mrs.rodriguez123]

As someone who has been married for almost 8 years, this is some of the most ignorant and childish junk I've heard. No one should be testing their significant other to validate their relationship. If this is real and not just faked for clout, these people are NOT ready for any type of relationship. I can't believe these are adults.

[@blueeyedscorpio7]

"Adults" 😂😂

[@Laure__Line]

I am going to get married in a few months and have exactly the same reaction. This is exactly how NOT to act in a relationship.

[@jupiitersringzq]

These are not adults 😭

[@jupiitersringzq]

​@@Laure__Line I wish you both a long and happy life together!

[@crowmoee]

what does carrying someone up a hill have to do with a healthy relationship… 😭 i’m so tired of this generation

[@kreggie891]

Well, you never know when we might fall back into the 1790s again and your horse ran off and you sprained an ankle. Then you need your man to come wondering around the fields to find you and then carry you home. 😂

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Haylo's farts

[@deadinside8781]

I have a theory that doesn’t pertain to this trend, but it’s more of general thing, even if it can apply. I think the financial insecurity as well as not having sources, more importantly safe sources, of love, care and affection, acceptance that’s going on (parents not being great or quitting after you’re 18 and then the battle of the sexes on top) is causing both genders to want that monkey brain, safety and security mutually provided that Neanderthals or cave people perhaps needed to survive. It’s just a theory and I never claimed to be a professional of any kind.

[@karinasilva-xw3ld]

At this point they need to only date firefighters or emergency workers and deal with being constantly ignored by them they are too busy to carry them up a hill😂😂

[@magdalenac4014]

Totally agree. They all need meds.

[@m4tta]

my boyfriend couldn’t carry me up a hill, hell he can’t carry me at all except for on his back, but we’re celebrating our 5 year anniversary soon and i can get myself up a hill

[@ragingchaosgod]

I should hope my partner wouldn't expect me to carry them up a hill because I have a messed up spine.

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Haylo's farts

[@livvyyyyyyyyyyy]

I feel like most people can’t carry another fully grown human up a hill. That takes a lot of strength. The average Joe can’t do that, that’s a lot of work!

[@_https.Tuhkaanimates_]

With my Ex I could carry him quite easily but that because he has an illness that makes him thinner and well alot lighter - Would I carry him up a hill? Maybe if he was injured but like - No not for the fun really

[@ville__]

MAKE BETTER CONTENT THAN THIS. I'm a 30+ year old media creator with aspergers syndrome who is a jack of all trades with a passion for fighting against cyberbullying. I've been doing these kinds of things for over 10 years and I've picked up a whole set of different skills along the way

[@RainyBasil9295]

If someone is this insecure about their relationship then they shouldn't be in one until they learn to trust the person they are supposed to trust the MOST outside of family

[@foggyfrogy]

The orange peel test was supposed to find out if your boyfriend annoyed by you asking for a small inconvenience. Instead of course in tiktok fashion the starting using it to judge their boyfriend by annoying them to hell 😭

[@moradfambam3205]

if you REALLY love someone, you shouldnt have to test them.

[@notemma_plays6756]

FR

[@TisPopRock]

If someone,intentionally or not, poured ketchup on the counter (especially that amount),they are cleaning it up. This is just entitlement to the max!

[@evanstark5000]

As a member of gen z (regrettably), I've grown disgusted with so-called "dating" and, therefore, have stopped. Dating is no longer dating. It's just hooking up and it's a complete waste of time. Plus, most relationships (from what I've seen) are incredibly fake now. Heck, I have come to hate Valentines Day more than I ever have because of what it's come to represent.

[@EmmieHunny]

I will say the one and only orange peel video I encountered actually showed problems in the relationship. The girl gave the reasoning that she had just gotten her nails done and didn’t want to ruin them. The guy started acting like peeling an orange is a chore akin to doing the laundry or cleaning the kitchen and was like “but I just did my own laundry three days ago” AS IF HE DID IT AS A PERSONAL FAVOR TO HER? Then it ended with him telling her she’s not special and trying to make her feel bad about herself. There were so many red flags. He was so disrespectful and treating his girlfriend like a maid instead of a partner ($100 says he’s always treated his mother as a maid as well). In this one and only case, to see the verbal abuse and manipulation, I think the orange peel test is okay. But the examples you showed, where the guy just says no, I agree, does not mean anything about the relationship.

[@tvgirl_supremacy]

"it's a survival test!! if we were ever in the situation where you need to carry me up a hill we would need that!!" girl focus on not getting in that situation in the first place..

[@local_rogue_murder_droneheheh]

Exactly 😭

[@Chill-mm4pn]

💯 I'm a muscular guy and my wife's a beautiful plus sized girl, she wouldn't want me trying to pick her up! Only time I fireman carried someone on my back was when I was trying to join the military and we were doing combat fitness. Why are people making tests for relationships? I'm a millennial y'all, I don't get it.

[@tvgirl_supremacy]

@@Chill-mm4pn I don't get it either and I'm gen alpha..

[@jennym81]

And we're not in the old days anymore💀

[@shanouboubou]

Damn it's refreshing to hear someone say relationships are not for them so confidently ✨

[@courtneylust]

totally agree!🩷

[@KimberlyArrington-dd3wm]

Same and I am 40 years old Lol 😂

[@Terri_MacKay]

My daughter is 30, and has never been in a relationship because this is the garbage she doesn't want to have to deal with. Every story she tells about her friends' relationships are like this...the partners "testing" each other, playing games with each other, manipulating each other...and they've been like this in all their relationships since their teens.

[@goatsfluffy8254]

This would be my favorite channel if she didn’t SCREAM everything at the highest possible pitch.

[@iheartbloxkitti]

fr

[@gAm3r_GuRl984]

I still like her content, even if she screams. I can understand how you feel

[@amg9163]

@goatsfluffy8254 I generally cannot stand high pitched screaming, but something about this commentator's delivery just cracks me up, so it's not irritating to me.

[@456puff]

I love how much she yells. I tend to get overly passionate and yell too, so it's like "hey, someone else is doing that too!"

[@DefiniteIyHuman]

Nah she's just loud. Honestly it's refreshing to watch her channel since she's extremely passionate and a change of view in a positive way.

[@RockStock6]

The orange peel theory is based off of the bird theory (which actually does have psychological backing to it) isn't a pass/fail application. Instead, it's meant to see if the couple expresses toxic behavior in the form of predator/prey behaviour, which both can show it.

[@TamTam9-15]

The bird test is the only test I will say should carry some weight

[@allison_mara_]

@@TamTam9-15 Agreed! But it's all in the thought, not simply just if they pass or fail. Relationships, not just romantic ones, are NOT that black and white. What has come to be our generation today? 💀

[@shockwave2008]

The best tip for a relationship to be healthy is to trust each other and to communicate with each other, as well as treating each other with respect and dignity. TikTok is a bad guide to such stuff. A heretic cannot claim to be a holy man, yes?

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Haylo's farts

[@shockwave2008]

@@p-__ Very specific.

[@kirrb-dot-exe]

Thank you Shockwave for that killer line at the end

[@JasonNewsted420]

Thing with heretics is they really think they're holy men

[@Dug252]

Blame the constant comparison contests of social media. NOTHING is good enough because of the the idea that there’s alllllways something better around the corner.

[@Metallicarule1991]

Can ya say.. social engineering

[@BlackFinter]

That hill thing wouldn't work for me cos I'm all in for short kings and I'M the one who CARRIES HIM

[@itz_silly_smile4603]

12:19 Lmao I tried the "bird test" on my friend. Texted him "Ayo, just saw a birdie :)" and he said "Nice :D" ... we both love birds :3

[@singlepringle2000]

I never really care what people do in their relationships is none of my concern, but I can't imagine myself randomly taking pictures of my partner, let alone filming them. Y'know there is this thing called ASKING? It's not hard and it takes 2.5 seconds.

[@-Moonlight-1]

i know right? it would annoy me so much if someone were to film me without asking me

[@magicdawn1973]

I like to film/photograph my partner without asking, because he gets all cute and flustered about it, but the difference is that we already had a discussion about it and I only do it cause I know he doesn't mind. There's also a difference between recording memories for yourself and your partner, and recording a tiktok of them for internet points. These hoes are crazy

[@kristapskrumins5676]

I'm glad I don't use tiktok or any other social media similar to it.

[@forest2727]

Other media were fine until they tried to copy tiktoks. Instagram was faulty for causing body issues to young people but that was all about it. Now even KZbin with it's shorts is a bad influence. These people need to find a hobby or get a job

[@Jade.051]

Tiktok has good stuff, specially the fandom stuff, most outside of it is just trash

[@ville__]

MAKE BETTER CONTENT THAN THIS. I'm a 30+ year old media creator with aspergers syndrome who is a jack of all trades with a passion for fighting against cyberbullying. I've been doing these kinds of things for over 10 years and I've picked up a whole set of different skills along the way

[@musicalexisvid]

I couldn’t be with someone who needed to “test” me and I especially couldn’t be with someone who needs validation from social media. I love your voice of reason approach to these topics.

[@jaimeerindy4573]

the ketchup one is a whole new level of crazy seriously

[@ishathakor]

if someone did a relationship test on me i would immediately break up with them. it's a red flag to me. you're deciding whether i love you or not based on some stupid test someone on tiktok came up with...

[@Kingofthenet2]

True

[@adrianavanhoofrodriguez576]

People who have to test their partner regularly to prove their partner loves them, come off as incredibly insecure for me

[@facebookaphobia1523]

Any relationship test is an immediate red flag

[@noob_chan417]

I hate seeing people happy together. It makes me feel so depressed and lonely. But at the same time I can’t mentally deal with love.. then again I want it so badly.”

[@Unknown00432]

Real

[@jodoodlyboi2963]

The way they "test" their partner to see if they "love them" make me go "Ok but do YOU love THEM?" With these tests they sure don't act like it... These tests are straight-up manipulative and controlling, and girlie, that ain't cute. The worst part of it all is that I can with 100% confidence say that these women have a double standard, where if their partner did these tests on them, they'd call them an asshole for it...

[@Hezkun]

Right??? It's so gross to look at like why do they have to run laps like a fucking dog

[@Cloverkitty]

Call them an asshole. Shame them on EVERY outlet they can get their poop-scooping nails on. Hell, some of them seem like the potential crazies that would call authorities over some fake shit just to get back at their SO for not abiding every little thing they ask. Crazy runs deep.

[@kayleighdriessen]

What happend to "allowing for relationship to flow naturally" so that maybe or maybe not a simple acquaintanceship might lead to a closer relationship, these people are control-freaks with some major red flags to think these relationship-tests are somehow nessecary! I'm also not in a romantic relationship and never plan to be in one, this world's human-society is already overpopulated and sick in the head about romantic/sexual love as it is and it needs to stop.

[@larrywoolfolk8224]

The only good thing social media has done was allow for a digital footprint as well as just seeing what to lookout for

[@Lilli._.10]

3:01 i choked bc i didn’t expect this 😭😭💀💀

[@KellyLoom1s]

I think the feeling that you need to test your relationship is a good indicator it’s going to fail, regardless of your partners’ response. Edit: I see you said this same thing at the end.

[@Thebestfroggi]

Gen z always talks about red flags when they are the red flag

[@LordPatroclus]

Getting through this video is legitimately so hard because all the Tiktok clips are making me scream internally 💀

[@jadedoggie121]

i wanna point out that the hill test is also ableist because some people are physically incapable of carrying another person. The ketchup test makes me so mad. That's a red flag to me, if you're going to willingly make a mess and then expect someone else to clean it up? gtfo. my ex was like that and he believed that me expecting him to clean up his own messes was "toxic and juvenile"

[@deweyr_fisher]

yeah that had me thinking lol…my dad has joint problems, multiple chronic illnesses, and autoimmune diseases so i don’t think he would want to carry my mom up a hill lol. For what it’s worth my mom once demonstrated to me and my astonished siblings that she could in fact carry my dad on her back. Mom strength is something else.

[@MixedGoku]

Whether or not a man could pass the hill test depends on how heavy his girl is not on survival

[@cosmichild1]

And whether or not the dude works out.. some ppl just don't go to the gym, not a crime yk Also, what's with ppl and using the word "survival"? 😭 We aren't cavemen anymore there's nothing to "survive".

[@Lucas-mk1gi]

​@@cosmichild1 I think he's talking about the hipothetical situation, a sedentary man and a bit overweight could carry his 100lb girlfriend if that's needed for survival. But as you said, that's irrelevant to real life unless you're so adventurous that you are frequently traversing mountains without any equipment and training...

[@jeanninek7266]

This is the stupidest shit ever. 🤦‍♀️ I despise eating corn on the cob so my husband takes it off the cob for me. 😅 I should start a corn on the cob theory 🙄

[@deweyr_fisher]

do it! you could earn some pocket change from your 15 minutes of TikTok fame! jokes aside though that is really sweet of him

[@MayaLove777]

Just buy canned corn

[@amethyst1062]

That tastes worse

[@Shoot4AlarmFire]

I am not on Tik-Tok, so I never know these trends, but I do follow someone on YT who has a Tik-Tok and mentioned the orange peel trend. So I went to look at their version, and it was silly and cute. Didn't think much of it, but I can see how this would be toxic, especially the demanding ones. Your rant about not wanting to be in a relationship made me laugh! I am aromantic, so I feel that!

[@QuitoMosquitoMus]

Imagine doing the bird test and your man tells you “I’m blind."

[@ilondeliest6085]

thess tests sound like something people would do in medieval times in order to prove themselves to be worthy of marriage, like lifting a girl sitting in a basket in order to prove that you're physically strong or carving love spoons to show craftsman's skills. cool and stuff but like it's 21 century let's just idk use our brains and communicate with each other and not just dance mating dances??

[@joeschmoe3815]

And now gentlemen, a "test" for these TikTok women: "4 hours without your smartphone and social media in any way, shape or form"

[@ippanpedrozo1162]

a "test" for tiktok women, ask your woman for a sandwich. just re-engineer the orange peel theory but about sandwiches. they'll lose their shit

[@sam-wtf]

as someone's whos been in a high school relationship for 2+ years, it is ASTONISHING how bad people my age are at finding love because THEY DO IT TO THEMSELVES. true love is really amazing and im blessed to have found someone who has the same values as me for dating, bc ppl out here are CRAZY

[@babyvanderwoodsen]

These are the people in relationships and yet I'm single?? Mkay.. I see

[@jorge9142011]

Tiktok should been ban long ago. The amount of dead beat content is insane. Yeah no wonder the current and new gen is gonna be lonely forever. Amount of BS is just wow... so glad im single.

[@the_hearthfire]

I know it’s not the focus of the video, but it’s kind of comforting to hear you have similar thoughts as me - not caring to date or anything. Everyone around me always questions me and tries to push me to date and find someone to marry. All my friends are either married/dating or planning their whole life around their nonexistent partner. I’m happy single as I am, doing what I want and enjoying life with my friends and family. I have zero desire for that kind of relationship. Maybe that will change one day, but I for sure don’t need a partner to live a fulfilled life. My married brother cannot understand the concept of “not wanting to have a significant other” He always though every person wants that. He’s been trying to set me up with one of my college friends against my will :/ Sorry for my little sidetracked rant, I needed to get this off my chest :)

[@Nora-eu1qm]

Have you tried looking into being aromantic, asexual or aroace?? I myself am aroace and i really relate to what you say.

[@VideosForYou90]

I feel the same and it's really nice seeing other people being similar to me! :)

[@Nora-eu1qm]

@@VideosForYou90 Maybe you fall under the aromantic, asexual or aroace umbrella!! I Am aroace and i felt like there was something wrong with me and then i found out i was aroace and it actually helped me and i dont fell so alone anymore

[@x_x753]

i think these people also need to relearn definitions of a few words. such as “theory” “pov” and “trauma” i fucking hate tiktok

[@bubblexx11]

11:04 my ex used to love when i got excited over mediocre things like a cute dog or a pretty flower but that didn't stop them from cheating on me 💀💀

[@AbbyNormL]

A partner or potential partner playing stupid relationship tests from TikTok is grounds for me to immediately part ways with that person.

[@kurtmatteson4914]

Your avatar makes that comment much scarier than if it were the default.

[@jemjokester3660]

it's cool you don't like romance, are you aromantic? Either way, totally agree that you don't need to have romantic experiences to know what's healthy or not in a relationship. Some things r obvious lol.

[@amandapanda5087]

I'm also wondering if she's aro. I consider myself to be some kind of aromantic, so I'm curious lol

[@SStupendous]

Is it ever possible to just not have an interest in having relationships at this point and tim I know I:m not all that just because I concur

[@Sweet_Dee]

⁠​⁠@@SStupendousyes, that's totally possible. It basically comes down to whether you're in a phase of life where you're not currently interested in dating (circumstantial), or if a romantic relationship is something you don't-and likely won't-ever be interested in(characteristic of yourself). Both are good and valid!

[@randomlyswatching9481]

I don't have any interest. Millenial however not gen z. I guess I am around ace

[@TheAtomicSpoon]

I like to use the phrase "I don't have to be a pilot to see a helicopter in a tree and know someone screwed up".

[@voomneshka]

11:00 I didn't realize bird test was a tiktok trend. It isn't about simply pointing something out, but rather displaying appreciation of said something and inviting your partner to appreciate it with you. For example, not just "hey, look, there's a bird", but "oh, that bird is so cute, isn't it?". Regardless of how you view it, leave it to people on tiktok to completely miss the point, I suppose.

[@Cheesus-Sliced]

Yea just like with the orange, so many just say they want an orange or feel like an orange. Drop a little hint, don't actually ask for anything. Better to just ask for what you want, and see if they're happy to get messy because you're feeling lazy or asked.

[@carpediem4091]

When I was pregnant I saw a Raffaelo ad on tv (it's something I love and I had been pushing not buying it for a while) and I commented something like "ahhh" to it or wtv. My husband got up and I thought he went to the bathroom but he got dressed and went outside telling me that he would come right back and didn't tell me were he was going. I was left confused because that was not like him at all. Circa 20 minutes later he came home with an entire package of Raffaelos just for me and told me that he didn't tell me were he was going because I would've tried to convince him not to go. So, while I'd say that my husband is pretty great overall, if I behaved like those women he probably wouldn't do what I would ask of him either. Specially the ketchup one. It's so entitled and meanspirited. Doing that to the person you supposedly love seems pretty childish and immature. If my husband did it to me I wouldn't like it either. Relationships are a two way street. Everyone wants to be respected and loved but I don't see the respect or love towards the men in these videos.

[@slavatron1548]

i love my bf so much. when we first started dating i complained about my cramps hurting and this man popped up with "if i buy u berries will it make u feel better" the only inclination he had to me liking berries was ordering berry pancakes once. another time we were cooking together. i was in the middle of making dessert and said "this would taste good with icecream", he disappeared for 5 mins, came back dressed up and asked which flavour he should get from the store. then at the store rang me and kept naming all the flavours. me and my bf discussed these once and we both agreed only ppl in unhappy relationships have to do this to prove they're loved, and we both agreed its kinda insane to do that to ur partner.

[@victorydrawsmanga4539]

I am Gen-Z and I always say this, again and again: Nothing good comes from Tiktok, and here we have proof of that once more.

[@maggie6152]

I have like, a handful of amazing things that have come from tiktok, but it's a drop in comparison to the ocean of negative, awful garbage tikrok spreads.

[@xochbr]

Well , the only times my husband would do a complete useless trip to get me something I am craving is when I am on bed really sick and hadn’t eaten anything and that particular thing is the only thing that sounds appealing to me …sometimes he even help me sit up and help me eat, before handling me my meds / something to drink, might not be the most romantic thing ever , but he’s really helpful whenever he does that, illnesses, surgeries, etc , I always make sure to say “ thank you “ , and most importantly, he knows I have and will do the same for him. Not romantic, just , real love and care . ❤

[@heartofthewild680]

As much as I would love to be carried around, it’s not something I’m specifically looking for in a partner, because most adults aren’t strong enough to carry other adults the way I want to be carried

[@SW-zb6bf]

CRIKEY! You started so loud! I couldn't lower the volume in time 🤯

[@Bishook]

the true test: if someone pulls this shit on you it means you need to RUN LIKE THE WIND

[@Ztarsz3]

i need. absolutely need to have a full conversation with haley one on one (or in a group discussion with others) because i cannot verbally describe how real she is to me. most valid opinions ive ever heard

[@ArcadiasPlanet]

9:50 he’s about to put her in a asylum 😂 😂😂😂

[@storiesthatneverwere800]

I love the man at 3:14, somehow I always agree on everything he says in the shorts that come up in my fyp 😅

[@madnessarcade7447]

1:59 I assume the hill thing is metaphorical still weird regardless Girls want their men to be Luisa from encanto The guys gonna be singing surface pressure to their homies cuz they’re girls be workin them too damn much 😂 I feel like we as a collective society missed the point of that movie

[@gAm3r_GuRl984]

Meanwhile the girls are like Isabela because they are constantly being pressured to be perfect in EVERY. SINGLE. WAY. All because of TikTok’s (toxic) beauty standards that don’t even matter. Both the men and women have it hard. There is no win-win sadly :(

[@gAm3r_GuRl984]

I feel like the girls are like Isabela who are pressured to be perfect by TikTok’s impossible beauty standards

[@user-bi8ko7kc6h]

Discrimination to disable, tall women, short men, weaker men, heavy women etc for the hill test😅 my dad peels oranges for us for decades but doesn’t stop him mentally abusing my mum.

[@puipoka]

I feel really bad for your household..

[@Themadisraeli]

The bird thing is a distortion of a study that showed that couples that responded to each other's bids for attention, such as pointing out a bird, were generally more stable and content relationships. It has nothing to do with looking at a bird one time, it's just responding with interest to your partner.

[@minmizouki8877]

I don't really understand the other tests and all much, but the orange peel theory, that's taken too literally by some tiktokers and not left as what it was originally meant to show. Similar case with the bird test honestly. Orange peel theory was just supposed to show your partner's consideration to do something for you, which you can do, but you really don't like doing it and hence, you ask your partner to do it for you. It's not just "peeling an orange" per se, it could be any minute daily task, whether any it be any chore or something else. And this "theory" isn't really limited to guys, it's for women too. For example, I don't like cleaning the bathroom up after me and my partner bathe together, so he does it for me instead, voluntarily. I just asked him for that once, and now it's a regular routine. In his case, he doesn't like doing the dishes, so I do them for him instead. He doesn't have to ask me each time, neither do I need to, we both just explained it to each other once randomly, and now it's a daily thing. That's what the orange peel theory is to show, that your partner is considerate enough to help you out with any minute and simple task(hence why the example included "peeling an orange"), without you having to ask them for it. And about the entitlement thing, it's just the love language "acts of service" Come on. You don't demand them to do it(like most of those TikTok girls did honestly), you can just ask them, and not always have to say "please" for it. They do something for you, you do something for them back. It's that simple. For the bird test, it's just to see if your partner gets as excited as you, at any thing, even if it's pretty minute, like seeing the birds. Why? Because they like how you get excited about it and just wish to match your energy. And it's mostly natural and subconscious imo. For example, once, I found it pretty cute when I once was able to buy a very small and cute box of juice, so much so that I sent a picture of it to my partner saying how it was so "cute". He replied with something similar to "Aww, just like you are!". That is the thing. He tried to match my energy, even if he originally didn't find the exact object cute. In my case, he finds anime amazing, so whenever he talks about it, I keenly listen, even if I know I'm not much interested, it's just the vision of him getting excited over that one particular story plot which automatically makes ME interested. It's just a test to show how much you both can match each other's energy, despite not having the exact same interests. Now that is my take on those tests lol, sorry for the longass 'essay' I just wrote-

[@chasehedges6775]

I'm a 2001 Gen Z kid and I plan on being single/celibate. Not interested in a relationship

[@amandapanda5087]

Same, relationships aren't for me. I get cold feet every time I get close to someone romantically. I'm happy on my own

[@HarisCountrys]

It's nice to see more aros in the comment section.

[@revan5293]

Most people aren’t like this. Have faith

[@chadsmith7519]

As a happily married man with a child on the way. Marriage and love is work. Not everything is going to be perfect. But you work through it and act like a team. Best and most fulfilling part of my life.

[@Noisemaker50]

a personal relationship rule i have for myself after a couple of really bad relationships went off the rails is "never issue an ultimatum" i.e., if you're ever at the point in a relationship where either party is even *considering* the possibility of telling your partner "do X or i'm going to break up with you", then you should just break up, regardless of what X is. Because no matter what X is, if you're offering those two dichotomous choices of "follow my command" or "this relationship is over", then that means one of two things: either you've thought carefully about the risk of losing your relationship and decided that that's something you're willing to risk(i.e. that the end of the relationship is an acceptable outcome for you), or you're a disingenuous person who lacks the conviction of their own words. If it's the former, then that reveals that you're already wanting out of the relationship and you're in denial about it. And if it's the latter, then whoever's issuing the ultimatum is not yet mature enough to be in an adult relationship in the first place.

[@Andreaccl09]

Watching you ranting about any topic is so interesting

[@alexoceanmeow]

9:00 this is unironically the kind of shit my ex-husband did to me for three years except he didn't film it and post it for clout. Do you know what this is, even without filming it? Emotional abuse.

[@PojisRants]

"I DEFY YOU HEART MAN!"

[@Todd5747]

We didn't need a test like this. Instead after five or so years i just got tired of doing things that she then "did better" after asking me to do them and being unhappy with the results. That or i'm in the middle of something when asked to do something, i say let me finish this, get to a safe spot in this game, etc. And two minutes later i'm on my way to do it, and she's finished doing it because she couldn't wait that long.

[@lgnoramaLama]

On the one hand it's like these Girls want a puppet without a mind to control like "look at this and that, do this and that, be this and that, go there and where without questioning it whenever I ask or not even ask for it" On the other hand it's like the bare minimum of care for your partner to be happy with them about whatever, to peel or slice them a fruit from time to time or just basic interactions with each other, regarding everyones interests of course. And if my Girlfriend was doing TikToks I would personally be very annoyed to be pulled into that without even being asked and would refuse to do anything with the phone shoved into my face or on demand like this.

[@GraveyardShift-tl6ri]

these are like the modern day love name calculator flash games from back in the day

[@tomasvoldrich]

As soon as i see a phone , i am not doing anything....

[@_YonaChan]

As a almost 22 yrs old married for a year women, let me tell you I seen people with ick lists that have more then 600 things and people thinking every relationship is same dynamics and every men is cheater while every women is a possibly going to leave for better and its the most VILE thing ever like can you just focus basics like being happy and staying loyal and loving and respecting eachother?? It's really not that hard to communicate your issues....Doing all these mental gymnastics are just....a pure waste of time....

[@brennatato]

The fact that these people believe in such things like “the 3 month rule” or “the honeymoon phase”, along with these tests, makes me sad. I have been with my partner for two years and I never once thought I needed to do these tests on them. Whatever happened to just loving you partner and accepting their flaws and being with them? No wonder why most people in my generation are lonely.

[@rootmire]

Love does not exist anymore because of our generations😭

[@BlazingKhioneus]

2:18 If i end a first date with anyone and they say "i wanna do a little test to see if youre the one" i'm just walked away

[@uhhhhu8533]

6:36 his ...what is priceless 😭😭😭😭

[@madnessarcade7447]

9:43 I’m petty as fuck I would have opened the ketchup and made a bigger mess and said have fun 😂😂

[@EmmyDood]

HOLYYYYY I LOVEEEEEE WATCHING YOUR VIDEOS-! 💕

[@p-__]

My farts are better than Haylo's farts

[@lemonmeat]

@@p-__ please bring mercy upon my soul please i cant take this anymore

[@EmmyDood]

@@p-__i’m scared-

[@wildkat1916]

Seeing all these people doing “tests” on their partners, like, it’s giving “I’m insecure and need validation from social media even if my partner is the sweetest human being on earth because I can’t think for myself the internet knows all HAIL TIKTOK”

[@likeabun]

I like to peel oranges it's kinda fun. But I start them by biting into it to open it at first cause my nails are short. But if somebody can't actually ask and say PLEASE, I'm not gonna do anything for them.

[@chaosanimation2741]

0:05 love your confidence