TikTokers Lying About SA - AJ Clementine Vs Belle Bambi

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[@Valurah]

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[@nonii8234]

as a straight person book that session the girlies must know 😂😂

[@nonii8234]

AND you should create what makes you happy! i’m all for dating coach videos they are so funny

[@natalieputnam9811]

Video constructive criticism: I was still getting very confused with who was who like not the names but who’s name went with who’s face lol maybe introduce them more and show pictures of one of them at a time

[@zellie9]

Lying about sexual assault is incredibly damaging. It doesn’t just hurt the person who is wrongly accused, it can tear apart their entire life, robbing them of their freedom, reputation, and trust from others. They may lose their career, friends, and relationships, all because of a lie. These false accusations also harm real survivors. When people lie, it makes it harder for true victims to be believed, leaving them feeling abandoned and silenced. A lie about something this serious sends a message that people’s lives don’t matter. That’s why, if someone lies about sexual assault, they should face severe consequences, not just a slap on the wrist.

[@ジハ-u5k]

a guy at my school had this happen to ihm, he resigned and was said to be severely depressed and betrayed. the girl was eventually kicked off her position though she acted like nothing happened

[@Am1raxxAn1ya]

Exactly. Lying about sa is just going to push the narrative that women lie about serious issues

[@aunnahughes9209]

False allegations make up around 2% of all allegations. It’s so incredibly rare because rape is so common, but because if that tiny amount most people refuse to believe anyone who comes forward now. It’s heartbreaking for real victims because they should always be believed

[@zellie9]

​@@ジハ-u5kNo one could blame him. I too would have gone into a depressive state. What she did will leave a lasting mark on his mind. I'm really sorry your friend went through this, especially since she showed no regret. It's shocking how someone like her can just walk away from something so hurtful feeling no remorse. Let them rot in jail, is what i feel.

[@Bala_Niranna]

The problem with litigating false accusations though is that mostly likely it would lead to more actual victims being punished for speaking out than people genuinely lying. SA is incredibly hard to prove since most cases don't leave any evidence. It would only work if it were applied in a strictly legal context, ie people who pursue false SA charges in court. And even then it'd be very easy for abusers with power and money to counter claim against victims saying they're lying. If it were applied broader to general public speech then it would suddenly become incredibly dangerous for victims to speak up unless they have bulletproof evidence of it. I was SA'd as a kid, I've chosen not to speak out beyond some close friends about it for my own sake, but if I did decide to call him out it'd be my word against his. I imagine that's the case with 99% of victims. It's just impossible to litigate such a thing without causing massive harm to victims as well

[@thegodofredpandas4505]

"the transtasic four" is one of the best trans puns ive ever heard omfg

[@grey.themusiccat]

YES IM WHEEZING

[@kavicorben1777]

The way my ass died hearing it 😂

[@ghxstbunnii777]

real i'm not even trans (under the trans/nb umbrella tho) and i was pissing myself laughing it's the best one i've heard but another funny one i heard was "trance gender" that was used on one of @welcome2bishu's fake genres videos about a year or two back also 39:18 with "transfixed" was a smooth one too lol idk if it was intentional or not but i assume it is

[@grey.themusiccat]

@@ghxstbunnii777 same

[@icanswearinfrench]

I dont like AJ but i dont think she can be classified as “having a new boyfriend” every few months because she and ryan were together for 5 years. She does strike me as never wanting to be single and making her relationships her personality though

[@mywingsareyours]

LOL I scrolled down to say the same thing

[@hayleys556]

Yeah that shocked me because her videos showed up in my fyp all the time and it was always the same guy

[@Andbit365]

She’s desperate

[@R4780Y]

She's with a dating coach so people aren't exactly very supportive since a dating coach will know exactly what to say to people and she got with him when she would constantly post about her ex

[@nothanksplease]

they were together 5 years so idk why it would be weird if she wants to be single...

[@raccoon_eggs]

i have been WAITING for someone to cover this cause i randomly get both of their videos on my fyp and have been so lost

[@hehelikemichaeljackson]

i had AJ’s video come up on my tiktok fyp but i’m impatient so i didn’t watch past the first sentence. but this showing up on my youtube has me intrigued

[@zoodef]

seriously, same!! it's like once a month, my fyp wants to update me on them

[@meydana538]

ive been following these two's friendship since forever it feels so crazy to see what people evolve into

[@LilyLovecraft]

Fostering your own friendships instead of following theirs will bring you so much more genuine happiness.

[@ghoultooth]

⁠​⁠@@LilyLovecraftIt’s a bit of a leap to assume they aren’t doing both. You can follow someone else’s friendship and life while also working on your own.

[@spiderfart420]

​@@LilyLovecraft let's be real, all of us in this comment section are brain rotting one way or another. Doesn't mean we can't still have friends in real life

[@lunamorningstar5488]

@@spiderfart420i think this is a miss use of the word brain rotting, you are invested in something isn’t the same as brain rotting, brain rot is literally obsessed with something to the point you can’t function and can’t talk about anything else that isn’t it, brain rot is a type of social media addiction. But yes, we can invested in something and still have a life outside of that thing.

[@meydana538]

@@LilyLovecraftdon't worry i wasn't invested in it all that much, i just knew that they were two trans women making content together and that made me happy :) no need to assume anything about my friendships offline

[@Beerambling]

This situation was crazy for me to see since I followed AJ before her voice surgery and it was so sweet to see her grow but she is just another example of how you really don't know someone just because they post a lot.

[@peach_boba8272]

Same. I loved her content bc most of what I got was about her journey as a Trans Woman and I can relate to many parts of that. It's sad to see what kind of a person she really is :(

[@shushihion1926]

aw i love ur pfp

[@windigo991]

Lying about something as serious as sexual assault is honestly embarrassing 😬

[@sillyxoxo]

i hope it keeps her up at night

[@janie7195]

PSA- you can be in a fully committed long term relationship, a multi decade long marriage even, and can still SA one another. Being in a relationship doesn’t mean automatic full time consent any time of the day or night. Especially when one person is drunk enough to be vulnerable and easy to take advantage of, hence creating a power imbalance

[@jm.2932]

@janie7195 1. grace said it was consensual. she admits to furthering foreplay the whole time. bambi never took advantage of anyone, all parties were consenting. 2. AJ actually got ryan drunk and attempted to pass him around at a party to other men. one guy took the bait and bambi said they went upstairs and she assumes an assault happened. ryan could barely stand.

[@itsmikki44]

@@jm.2932 she said it was consensual but she also said she was really drunk. you can't consent when you're drunk, that's where the taking advantage comes into play because they're in a vulnerable state

[@jm.2932]

@itsmikki44 actually, they were both drunk. she also said she contributed to the foreplay and was heavily flirting. you absolutely CAN consent when you're drunk because I've done it. millions of people have done it and it isn't SA. the fact of the matter is that REGRET IS NOT SEXUAL ASSAULT. grace, ryan and AJ LIED ABOUT BAMBI ASSAULTING THEM. Enjoy supporting bullies and people who lie about rape. it's a bad look, but it really shows us who you are :D

[@jm.2932]

@itsmikki44 1. you absolutely can consent when you're drunk, a million people have done so and will continue to do so. we are adults and we have the agency to consent when we drink. grace was not black out drunk. she consented and contributed to the foreplay and flirting. she consented. 2. AJ lied about everything. there WAS no sexual assault. there WAS no transphobic situation where bambi is a bathroom prowler. aj lied. and you fell for it. aj also bullied grace and said "one less tranny in the world" in regards to grace disappearing from their friendgroup. 3. enjoy being stupid

[@HeatherWinfree-o6e]

​@itsmikki44 I agree that being intoxicated can effect one's ability to consent BUT if there is an ongoing sexual relationship and there was never a "no" in any verbal or physical form, the other person is actively participating and ENCOURAGING the encounter that feels like a gray area. My husband is not assaulting me if I'm actively consenting and participating when I'm black out drunk JUST BECAUSE I'm drunk. That's silly to say.

[@mikaylavienna4866]

It's SICKENING how many celebrities and/or influencers lie about SA. Like is it honestly just for engagement? 💀

[@sarge6283]

People say "alledgely" so they can't be sued for defamation.

[@LavenderTea-lr3hc]

i dont know if that actually works that way though

[@Radisgrek]

​@@LavenderTea-lr3hcIt does, defamation is notoriously hard to prove in a court of law and saying "allegedly" is a legal loophole to deny actually making false claims about someone if they turn out to be untrue. That's why journalists/media use it when discussing criminal investigations.

[@refinnej5302]

​​@@Radisgrekno, it isn't a get out of jail free card. If the user is not genuine in their use, they can still be held liable. You have to prove that you had reason to believe the allegations are true. You can't just make shit up and say AlLegEdLy to cover yourself.

[@tiftyme]

I have seen bloggers say allegedly and still are being sued. One even lost her case. So I’m not sure that’s working anymore.

[@fallenwarlock2418]

I stopped following Grace after she did some xenophobic remarks reviewing Monster High dolls and it’s wild to hear about her again, specially in this context

[@AlfieMurph]

What is xenophobic?

[@fallenwarlock2418]

@ Discrimination against immigrants or, in this case, specifically latinos (some people prefer to use the term racism when talking about the discrimination faced by latinos as a whole, but in brazil we collectively agree that being latino doesn’t necessarily means that you’re a person of color, since there are plenty of white latinos, so xenophobic seems more fitting)

[@AlfieMurph]

​@fallenwarlock2418 ah ok 👍

[@Soraaim]

@@AlfieMurph According to Merriam-Webster's dictionary, xenophobia is the fear and hatred of strangers or foreigners or of anything that is strange or foreign. So it's not just immigrants :)!

[@sardonikai]

she what 😦

[@bellaboo20]

I really like the effect that you do where you smile at the screen but the audio from the next clip plays over it. I love that. You do it in all your videos and I find myself paying extra attention to see when you do it ❤ I just discovered you a couple of days ago and I really appreciate your commentary. Intelligent and well thought through and your opinions are on point also! Glad to be here

[@bagandbroad]

I didn’t notice that before, and now I can’t stop looking for it

[@tellyourWiFiloveher]

First time here. I noticed that and thought It was cool, too

[@Chxlliii]

Bro, I hate when trans people are involved in such serious controversies because this is what becomes relevant, resulting in society generalizing trans communities and putting them through more harrasing and bullying.

[@savvy76]

The trans community has been taking hit after hit after hit after hit after hit after hit this year fr. Its so disgusting that these people are the face of us trans girlies who are NORMAL PEOPLE and not creeps/abusers/SAers/etc

[@lyle_the_lemon_boy]

this is his 3rd video about trans women too which is. weird.

[@-Tanger_ine-]

@@lyle_the_lemon_boyTbf there’s been weirdly a lot of drama around women who just happen to be trans. Probably bc ppl are more critical on them than cis women and men

[@morbidseven]

@@lyle_the_lemon_boy youre reaching. he's really respectful to trans people when he talks about them. its just because these happen to be trending topics

[@voidsnail]

@@-Tanger_ine- Started after the Nashville shooting and hasn't calmed down since. It's not like bad people occur more or less frequently in specific groups, it's just a very blatant bias in what gets reported.

[@lilw5653]

If someone’s very drunk it’s never ok for someone sober to get on top of them to make out, no matter their relationship

[@TheElf_Online]

Someone CAN consent before hand for their partner to make a move when they are intoxicated before hand. It’s a form of Consensual Non-Consent. However that being said it’s a very specific situation and relationship between people, but you (general, not you specifically) shouldn’t assume that’s whats happening automatically. Always better safe than sorry.

[@gwen878]

@@TheElf_Onlineokay bro 😂

[@DumpsterFairy97]

​@TheElf_Online idk even if i am okay with my partner touching me in any context me being blacked out and him being absolutely sober is still icky. Especially if it's something you may have not agreed to like oral or Sodomy usually but would agree to normal s^x. People who want to sleep with someone THAT fucked up while sober have motives. A good person would just want you to go to bed and make sure you're okay. Not be focused on getting it in.

[@Radisgrek]

Agreed, but in this instance we don't actually know if Bambi was also very drunk or sober

[@paigemosher8697]

​@@Radisgrek Or even if the scenario ever happened at all, since it sounds fabricated as hell.

[@crispeggies]

"i can't wait until i get my visa so i don't have to worry about her stealing my content ever again" baby you're on the internet. the world wide web.

[@MiniMeags]

But remember Ryan FORCED her to move across the country 😂

[@marielitalinda]

Didn’t agree with every take in this video, but I am glad we’re calling out dating coaches. Everything that Jacob Lucas says is so redundant. He’s a man who preys on women who are unsatisfied in their lives but has no real credentials to be selling advice nor does he even cite his sources for those stupid videos. Women would be better off taking their time and money and putting it towards seeing a **licensed** professional or furthering their education so that they don’t fall for this man or any man’s poor behavior.

[@VibeJem]

AJ blocked me on her tiktok after following her for YEARS for speaking up on how it wasn't ok for her to accept sponsors between drama and ignoring comments, and taking down apologies after people give her backlash. so insane

[@MiniMeags]

She blocked me too on both tt and ig rofl

[@arthur-oy2ki]

Yeah.... sorry bro but i disagree about her saying the drunk stories. Theyre incredibly necessary considering you can't consent when under the influence. It doesnt matter if you have a certain relationship with somebody, you dont touch them unless they tell you to.

[@LavenderTea-lr3hc]

that makes me really curious cuz like, what if you're both equally drunk and you have sex? does it then depend on surrounding circumstances if it was consensual or not?

[@Jillberto]

​@@LavenderTea-lr3hc I would say so. I mean, if two people are in a realitionship and both are drunk, I would assume they know if their partner wants to get touched or not. It also probably depends on how drunk both or one of them are. If one is tipsy and the other one is completly sh*t faced and cant do anything it would be kinda wrong aswell

[@arthur-oy2ki]

@@LavenderTea-lr3hc i think it depends on the person, and if you've decided to disclose that kind of thing beforehand. Not everyone is willing to do stuff drunk, and others find it completely okay. I say if it's a partner and partner speaking beforehand and they agree it's okay, then that's completely fine! But I don't think two random drunk people at a bar are in the right mind to decide if they could make out, you know?

[@Feverm00n]

Pretty sure you absolutely can consent while drunk, but not incapacitated.

[@bereniceabigail1083]

Independently of this drama and whatever unfolded. Reminder: When you're drunk you can't consent no matter what kind of relationship you have with the person.

[@aimfortheneck2491]

exactly what i was thinking ‼️‼️

[@R4780Y]

I knew a guy and his girlfriend was really drunk and they went back home after a night out and slept together. Might've been okay for both of them and she was bragging about it the next day, but to everyone else it sounds so absolutely vile. There's a difference between someone being plastered and so drunk that they're just going along with everything and doing it in the moment, and a couple sleeping with eachother after drinking. People do it all the time but it DEFINITELY depends on the amount of alcohol consumed. If it's a couple who are fine with it, both of them being absolutely shit faced drunk still feels wrong because neither are properly with it in the moment

[@KissyAdair]

What if both people are drunk?

[@vampra]

@@R4780Yl

[@gwendolyn2442]

@@KissyAdairif both are drunk, it’s fine so long as you’re both at the same level and both consent, but the consent is void if one is sober and one is plastered. That tends to be the rule of thumb, anyway.

[@Queerlyness]

Lying about sa is such a horrific thing. The amount of times I was told ‘yeah, but it’s your word against theirs’ which is completely fair in legal battles, but feels so disheartening to hear. Thankfully, a majority of people I know believed me, but at the same time it just hurts. This person hurt me, and to hear that some people aren’t going to care because of a tiny chance I could have been lying. People lying more makes it appear more likely I and others did lie.

[@AKAM30]

No matter the relationship, concent is an ongoing thing... you can say yes to start then say no at anytime... no means no....even if it has happened before. Stay safe friends Edit to add- Jim in my comments is uncomfortable with this psa because it may be taken as blaming the person that qas lied about. That is not my intention. Just here to let young people know, if you are beginning a hook up you can say no and stop at anytime. This is not me taking anyone's side. Thanks

[@Lawak57]

True but if Grace made no indication of not wanting it, and even actively encouraged it in the moment, then how can Bambi know Grace isn't feeling it? We don't really know is Bamb was sober either, I find it hard to believe that they're just hanging out and one of them is hammered and the other fully sober, it seems really convenient (esp. In the light of the other allegations being a lie)

[@jm.2932]

grace herself said it was 100% consensual. the only reason she called it SA was because AJ admitted to planting the seed in her head that bambi SA'd them. there is video proof of grace saying the encounter was 100% consensual. she was flirting with bambi, there was NO indication it wasn't mutual.

[@AKAM30]

This was my psa, not me taking anyone's side. Couldn't tell you who is who, honestly. I believe I wrote this after the remark about maybe the one person thinking it was cool because they fooled around I'm the past or something

[@jm.2932]

@AKAM30 Yeah, but by only giving a PSA to consent, you're not addressing how harmful it is to lie about sexual assault and using sexual assault to victimize yourself. it seems blamey on bambi if im honest

[@AKAM30]

@jm.2932 again... my comment was after the video creator mentioned the person maybe assuming they could hook up because it happened before.. that was why I commented. I'm sorry you feel I'm blaming anyone. I stay firm on my psa.

[@leanayoshina6884]

I was sa’ed as a kid, and i also was there in the room under the bed as my oldest sister was taped (replace the T with an R). I hate people who lie about SA with such a pain in my heart. I can't even begin to detail how this has affected me, it is NOT a fun or quirky or “interesting lore” thing, IT SUCKS AND HAUNTS ME EVERY DAY

[@iloveleebit]

I'm so sorry love :(( I hope you and your sister are doing much better now 💕 my love to you both

[@heyitsella117]

I'm so sorry

[@whims6278]

🫂

[@FavoriteKen]

You deserve sm better 🫂

[@GothicUndone]

If someone is so drunk that they cannot drink a cup of tea without spilling it or dropping it. Then you cannot consent. Fact of the matter is, someone who is ok with being physical with someone who is completely obliterated, is not ok in the head. Flirting or not. Doesn’t matter if you flirt with someone, and then get inebriated, if u cannot talk without slurring your words, really doesn’t matter who has flirted or who if they were flirty before. Sounds like this video is at times making excuses for the claims of SA. Whether we have a person who is lying about SA (which is despicable), or a person who is taking advantage of an inebriated person coz they flirted with them before. Find the stance here questionable… Oh and this alpha beta nonsense was based on wolf packs only, not human beings. And further researchers proved that it also applies to female wolves as well as male wolves. Ridiculous nonsense, the whole use of it for the past few years is fckin embarrassing and demonstrates mental immaturity.

[@jm.2932]

both aj and grace said it was consensual and the only reason they called it SA was because they regretted it. kissing someone consensually is NOWHERE NEAR AS BAD AS LYING ABOUT SEXUAL ASSAULT AS REVENGE. aj lied about ryan cheating and got ryan assaulted when he was drunk. she's trash.

[@liliensacayanan7249]

yes thank you the take in this video abt that situation was so weird

[@yourfavouritehydra]

Imma have to agree with the cringelord about body count. "When's the last time you were tested?" would be more insightful and beneficial if you're planning to be intimate.

[@yourfavouritehydra]

And don't forget: YOU CANNOT CONSENT IF YOU ARE UNDER THE INFLUENCE!

[@marielitalinda]

That was the point. He was being sarcastic in saying “really?” Because it’s obvious that asking in that way, using body count, is a red flag. That’s very different from asking about being tested.

[@jayofthedeadd]

I had been following AJ and Bambi for years and have been waiting for someone to cover this. Everything about this was so WEIRD and watching it unfold in real time was crazy. I actually have a screen recording of Bambi's very first reel vaguely addressing AJs accusations over a year ago. She deleted it right after uploading it, so I was like "Shit, let me save this just in case nobody else has!" She basically said that she's coming out as pansexual because she was forced to due to false SA accusations from a female friend. She started crying in the video and explained that she wanted to come out on her own terms but had that taken away from her. I found it really odd that she framed serious accusations as a coming out video, so I believed AJ at the time -- albeit reluctantly -- because literally everyone in the situation felt very suspicious. I recently unfollowed AJ because I was sick of her annoying boyfriend posts LMAO but now I'm glad I did. The weirdest part of everything that I never see anyone talk about is the fact that Bambi is technically Grace's step sister because Grace's father adopted her a couple years ago. I don't know if it happened before or after their relationship, but either way, WTF?? Everyone involved seems to be insane for different reasons. Regardless, false accusations are the most insane and damaging.

[@mywingsareyours]

Yeah all of these ppl are unhinged lmao so it's hard to really know what's real honestly

[@maisieharris5864]

yes thank you! i didnt know bambi had deleted the first video and I was starting to gaslight myself into thinking that it wasn't real

[@jayofthedeadd]

@maisieharris5864 It was gone so fast I was surprised that anyone else saw it! It had less than 20 comments at the time. Some people were confused like me because we had no idea she even had allegations, but other people knew it was AJ

[@yianna147]

woawww

[@erstwil]

Danny and Louis post in same day? Hell yeah great day to have a sick day

[@kozumekenma5960]

REAL

[@erstwil]

@ their content style is different enough for me to watch both of them and still be invested and enjoy it

[@frog_gal]

RIGHTTTT we getting treated like royalty today

[@notti2309]

wait danny who? I figured gonzalez but i cant see a new post

[@erstwil]

@@notti2309 I meant dankyjabo

[@MashaRistova]

This whole lot seems so phony and toxic. I feel so much second hand embarrassment for people like this. TikTok is such brainrot. For the love of god people, stop making these people “influencers.” Stop letting “influencers” influence you. P.S: I wanted to thank you for your nuanced takes - it is SO refreshing!! I can’t believe how young you are because you are wise beyond your years!

[@lenniegray3086]

I just don't understand why somebody would lie about being sexually assaulted. And for what? To be petty? That's a fucking slap in the face to people for whom it took a long time and a lot of courage to say they were assaulted only for people to not believe them. A grown ass adult lying about it for the sake of stirring the pot is WILD to me.

[@Feverm00n]

For online engagement.

[@Beccalb818]

I’ve gotten the response videos but didnt know the rest and didn’t wanna piece it together. Thank you for doing it for me! 😂

[@theswissmiss69]

ONLY YES MEANS YES. Let's not tell someone they should've tried harder to refuse advances... weird.

[@CupcakeMaker23]

THANK YOU for covering this I’ve been trying to find the whole story on TikTok and I don’t have the patience to piece it all together 😭

[@theroundestfrog7913]

8:05 You sound really dismissive, Saying that "you were doing this beforehand" is misleading because previous consent doesn't mean consent in the future. I know its messy and you can have your opinion ofc but She did said that she was avoiding THE THING with Bambi, that she was drunk. Its not black and white because she did admit to flirting so its debatable how Bambi could know that she was doing smth wrong, just your wording kinda gives a messed up message.

[@Tytrxshcxnoffical]

I mean aj she deleted everything on her acct when she was called out she's it sounds like a lie so I don't blame him tbh and usually when victims come out they aren't smiling on cam also the text is scratched out and u cannot see the contact lie there's alot😂

[@theroundestfrog7913]

@@Tytrxshcxnoffical Yeah seems like Aj fumbled hard with all of her lies and shady behavior, Im not defending her. What I really got weirded out was @Dankyjabo words that I've quoted, It just sound so dismissive and wrong.

[@Tytrxshcxnoffical]

@@theroundestfrog7913 ik but being dismissive of her was kinda the point since she was lying and he knew that before filming I'm sure he didn't mean to come off this way

[@poison4303]

Agreed, I had to turn off the video after hearing that. Yikes

[@koolkayn]

Pointing out that the situation would have been more severe had they not made out in the past is not equivalent to stating that previous consent implies future consent

[@dangerouslyours]

why do people lie about SA?It's horrendous to go through it.

[@Hazel-p9e]

Thanks for the shout out! (45:14) Have a good one mate!

[@shychiori]

dankyjabo upload!!!! recovering from surgery at the moment and this will help me relax for sure 💯

[@Human-lg8hb]

8:52 Uhm, I flirt with my friends jokingly, but I definitely don’t want to kiss them! I thought that was obvious!

[@xiomaradeekman7352]

His point is that it had been consensual when sober and wasn’t made clear to the other party when the first lost interest and no longer fully consented If one party no longer consents but does not make that clear and the other party does not realize that then the fault lies with nobody and everybody at the same time because the person should have felt safe enough to say no and the other person should have asked if it was still ok But at the same time even if you don’t feel safe you should still say no and start fighting if the other person doesn’t listen All of which is very easy to say and theorize over but very hard to actually do most times Now if consent and boundaries are given before the consumption of any substance it should all be ok and end well But if one party is sober and another is heavily intoxicated nothing sexual should ever take place because the intoxicated party could be too intoxicated to consent properly In my opinion there are instances in which it is ok like I mentioned before consent given while sober and respected regardless But in most cases I definitely say that a drunk yes is a sober no

[@Chewtubehuskyhouse]

0:54 omg 😂😂 I hope you’re ok but also I dislocated three ribs trying to shut a blender bottle so I feel your pain 😂😂

[@d.b2370]

Tbh your "jokes" are quite insensitive when you are talking about SA. It is not funny , you are not funny.

[@hieronymuth]

how hard is it for popular tiktokers to not just start saying odd shit and forcing everyone to listen

[@ticcitoby1936]

Just got done watching louis mcclungs video danky did you plan this buddy 🤭

[@Dankyjabo]

Scallywag beat me to it lol

[@adore.DJPON3]

CREEPYPASTA

[@zr4yne]

​@@adore.DJPON3 CREEPYPASTA

[@idrownkids]

dude i just want to say that i found your channel a few days ago and it hast already become one of my favourite commentary yt channels. ur sense of humor and unapologetic rage about stupid people is amazing, keep doing what ur doing mate!!

[@HeadacheBomb]

I always look forward to when you post, you have such a relaxing format of telling drama. Keep up the good work man, I hope you get to 100K before your birthday!!! And happy early birthday incase I forget!!

[@chaoticcupoftea2462]

Dankyboo losing his mind over his audience being gay is now my favorite thing ever, official vocal stim

[@fridaysketches9686]

Need the timestamp for this

[@plastictree7635]

I thought that part was so funny 😭

[@hal_jordan2814]

I don't live in America or use tiktok but still looking forward to watch your videos! Keep it up

[@lgfuad4lyf]

“it was all consensual and I was flirting, I was very very drunk” what?? how is that SA

[@jacindak3939]

omg i've been waiting for a video on them as someone who's been following them both for years 😭

[@justin_jordan]

DANKYNATORS Rise 📣

[@mr.skeletonhands]

I have never liked AJs vibe so this makes sense

[@jmarlened]

Hearing a grown woman refer to someone as "my ex best friend" so many times is CRAZY

[@_politefrog_8892]

Why?

[@HowdyOaks]

@@_politefrog_8892 bc it's a ridiculous thing to call someone. It's incredibly childish

[@guestonly1451]

@@HowdyOaksbecause it’s true???? She IS her ex best friend

[@lunamorningstar5488]

@@HowdyOaksex is just something you use to describe someone you used to be someone close to you, like ex wife, ex boyfriend, ex coworker. Calling someone an ex best friend isn’t childish

[@buriedintransylvania]

what is she supposed to say? 😭

[@jazzicalgate]

OMG FINALLY SOMEONE IS COVERING THIS

[@teethtown8159]

tw: sa i was sexually assaulted by my friend's friend, i questioned it over and over again because I didn't say no on the occasion, but before that, i repeatedly told them that I didn't want them to touch me and then they'd just do more, so i was scared they'd do more if i told them to stop. this person is autistic, which makes me think "maybe they just missed the queues" but then again, i told them to stop. i straight up told them to stop, repeatedly. it was on them, not me. (i am also on the spectrum, btw, and I don't go around gr0p!ng people that i call my friends) now, my point is, there is a huge difference between missing queues and being malicious. it can be hard to tell the difference at times, but if you're going to speak out about something specifically saying it was malicious, you need to make sure that it really was. sa is really serious, spreading misinformation about it is damaging. there's other stuff that is effed up, but i felt the need to yap about this part

[@wtfamiwatching3650]

Your situation is different than these ppl. Also this is not the place to be trauma dumping

[@carlyb7870]

@@wtfamiwatching3650this is the exact place to be trauma dumping 😂

[@UwuWeasly]

Like shut up bro the person is talking about a traumtic expirience and you say this isnt the place to trauma dump like shut the fuck up bro​@@wtfamiwatching3650

[@bloom.11.25]

Hugs and wish u the best🫂

[@paigemosher8697]

​@wtfamiwatching3650 Yes it is. This is not the place to be dismissive about real people's struggles. Have some human decency, worm.

[@Mystic_Paths]

Unfortunately, some TikTokers and influencers have lied about sensitive topics for various reasons, often to gain attention, sympathy, or even followers

[@pricelessprebolus]

I would love videos about dating coaches. They're so weird. I truly don't think most of them can even get dates.

[@SofiaThe23rd]

Oh my, I generally let a whole night pass before watching your new uploads since your vids are my go-to when I am getting ready in the morning but I’ve been dying to know more about this one particular mess so yeah, I am way too curious to wait until tomorrow 😍 let’s go !

[@corgi_draws]

Hey, just a quick reminder, you can not, no matter the level of intoxication you are at within the moment, if you were flirting or not prior/during you CANNOT CONSENT. A quote from a university of tulsa article states, "Consent means a person has given voluntary permission to participate in a particular activity. Consensual sexual activity means that everyone involved has actively agreed to what they are doing, without being forced, coerced, or under the influence of alcohol and/or drugs. Without this active, verbal agreement, any sexual activity is considered sexual assault.". Also, I think the reason they do not state each other names and say allegedly for legal reasons which is very common within commentary/ and other categories of videos to avoid going to court for Defamation especially the claims are big or if the creator/company has more power. (Sorry if this sounds scattered brain or has errors)

[@corgi_draws]

Another quote from the University of tulsa "A person cannot give consent if they are under the influence of alcohol or drugs. This includes someone who is passed out. Engaging in sexual activities, including having sex, with a person who is heavily intoxicated is a violation of the TU Sexual Violence Policy and is illegal under Oklahoma law." And "Remember, if you are unsure whether someone is sober enough to consent, it is best to “play it safe” and not engage in any sexual activity. It is your responsibility as the person initiating the sexual act to obtain consent, even if you are also drunk or under the influence of drugs. This means that you can and will be held responsible for any acts of sexual violence that may occur."

[@corgi_draws]

Trust me I don't like Bambi or Aj at all but I wanted to make this statement perfectly clear.

[@meghanmcconnell6990]

Honestly pls do the dating coach video I would love that

[@probablylurking]

CONSENT. just because they’ve made out previously doesn’t mean she doesn’t need to ask for consent in future situations what?

[@Tytrxshcxnoffical]

Girlie she's lying 😂

[@probablylurking]

@@Tytrxshcxnoffical my point still stands? it was a general statement

[@Tytrxshcxnoffical]

@@probablylurking I thought you were talking specifically not my fault your off topic

[@probablylurking]

@@Tytrxshcxnoffical it’s very much on topic, most literally regarding the topic of discussion.. he said how he felt about the matter, I said how I felt. I’m not going to argue with you. Thank you have a good day

[@avqu1la]

Yeah that made me go 😬😬😬 a consent is a clear YES IN THAT MOMENT.

[@Am1raxxAn1ya]

I never get how people can lie about such stuff. Its crazy how people evolve. Its so sad seeing greed/envy/or something about fame change a person and its morals. Poetic poetry of the day Sisters before misters

[@el2837]

I usually like watching your videos, but I did have a few critiques about this one. I found the SA/essay joke pretty just unfunny all round. It felt somehwat distasteful and just wasn't funny to warrant even saying. It also rubbed me the wrong way what was said around 8:30 in the video. No matter how many times an event has occured, it doesnt just automatically denote consent, especially if inebriated. It came across as dissmissive.

[@hayleyhodgdon6148]

the joke is about how we as a society are so concerned with censorship and trigger warnings that we end up doing a disservice to the problems. sexual assault should not be reduced to “SA” because it reduces the severity of the crime by separating empathy. his joke is a very pointed call out of how sad it is nobody can take anything seriously and maturely. your feelings are valid, but people need to be able to have a clear dialogue about rape and sexual assault without needing to censor every last fucking word. if the word rape being read on a phone screen triggers a victim, there is a lot more wrong than the typed out letters r a p e. this is all coming from a victim of childhood sexual sodomy. words have power. taking away the value of words diminishes what people go through. if someone is triggered by real words typed on a screen describing situations, that is THEIR problem, and needs to be addressed. thanks for my listening to my ted talk

[@el2837]

@hayleyhodgdon6148 I appreciate your reply. I feel we are on the same page as I agree about the point that words have power and we should be able to say the full terms and call things what they are to give them agency. Perhaps it was a bit of sensitivity from my end given the seriousness I felt towards the situation that it came across to me as a joke about sexual assault in general.

[@plastictree7635]

@@hayleyhodgdon6148the reason people censor it is that on tik tok it can be taken down or shadow banned..And then it just evolved to be used in regular language at times

[@graceconnelly4629]

Bro *please* do the individual coaching session I would kill to see that🤣

[@MiniMeags]

100% omg

[@0rchid6lues]

i used to really enjoy aj’s content, it’s sad to see this is what’s happened

[@mylovelymelodii1]

how does bro explain it so easily (anyways happy early birthday!!)

[@raema5220]

Some really bad jokes and takes from you in this video. The whole video feels too light-hearted for what people are being accused of.

[@hayleyhodgdon6148]

literally everyone is lying, this situation is almost a joke. have the same energy for the lady lying about being raped online, not the random british kid

[@anais148]

Right??? Agreed

[@felixhenson9926]

Okay, so like. I've rly got some concerns about some of your takes in this video. Don't get me wrong, these women sound unhinged and petty but some of your comments and thinking here is a little concerning. Okay, so first, whether one can 'convincingly' transition well without being well off; this has a a kernel of truth to it but also lots of ppl haven't had any surgery, some ppl transition hormonally young, some ppl just naturally had a good bone structure or body type, some ppl crowdfunded their surgery then went back to poverty. It's not the dead certain observation it's presented as here. I'm more concerned about your thoughts on Bambi (I think? I'm not familiar w these Tiktokers sorry) making out with AJ while drunk. Firstly someone that drunk can't consent, idc if they try to initiate your job is to turn them down til they sober up. I say this as someone who was SA'd while very drunk. Secondly, i RLY didn't like the way you said 'and you started making out with her first' as some kind of reason it wasn't that bad or something? Consent can be revoked at any time, that's it, that's all there is to it. I initiated w the girl who SA'd me too, but i then revoked my consent and the fact i initiated does not make it any less of a sexual assault. So like. Yeah i dunno about these women specifically or rly either just that incident but i do know these things. (also I'm pretty certain all the 'allegedly' and 'apparently' is an obvious attempt to avoid a libel lawsuit rather than evidence of someone ACTUALLY being uncertain or unsure. I dunno that feels WAY too specific to me.)

[@Roach_2010]

Thank you for bringing these up. The way he phrased things really bothered me, idk if it's just me being weird or not but the whole "transitioning convincingly" sounded odd..same with his whole take on consent. Again, I really don't know if it's just me being sensitive or not but it made me extremely uncomfortable as transgender dude that's been sexually assaulted. Sorry for the rant.

[@a.r.mproductions5616]

I can relate to you bro. I’ve had people who just hate me because they think I’m ignoring them when I’m just the dumbest person on the planet.

[@ilikekcatsx]

preach

[@yanderehypnolights]

Just because someone flirts doesn't mean they want to kiss you or even do more with you. I get people wanna be dismissive since AJ is lying, but we have to be careful how dismissive we are because it then can bleed into actual cases of sexual assault being dismissed because the victim was flirty. I am a survivor of it as well and have been abused in such a way at multiple times in my life, and some by my boyfriends. So I just want people to be careful about this subject and remember consent can be rescinded at any point. To keep going when someone says no, even after it has started is assault.

[@jamieepic666]

Random but in the states, certain states ( including the one I live in) have a law saying you CANNOT withdrawal consent once things have started. Which is mad scary and people are trying to change it.

[@KendlickLama]

If someone should get 100k subscribers it should be you, and I'm sure you will reach 1M in under 4 years! Your content is so thorough and exceeds the ever increasing "slop content", which is far too common on KZbin these days - I really appreciate that you don't just cover a topic enough to come to the holy 8 minute mark

[@akarigetsenergy4729]

Wow I followed AJ on insta for such a long time not knowing any of her background or any of the shady stuff… I just thought she was a beautiful girl and felt so bad for her when I saw the posts about her breakup but now… wow. This is a real reminder to myself to never believe the shit I see online

[@selenagomez2504]

tiktokers and trying not to overshare all their interpersonal drama and go scorched earth challenge (IMPOSSIBLE)

[@cyb3rno0b15]

I’m Australian and we do not claim these messy little children hahaha

[@ForeignManinaForeignLand]

Bro soon hit 100K 🎉🎉

[@22yearoldteenager]

writing an essay about your friend? bad joke. you should be taking this more serious imo

[@kdiebeucijdwhwu]

Yeah that was a weird moment. Im only 15 minutes into the vid but already a few moments that are making me go 😬

[@Roach_2010]

This really isn't the video to be joking around in, especially with some of his other takes..it comes off as really dismissive to the whole topic of sexual assault

[@saintie3x3]

Yeah that joke was awful

[@hayleyhodgdon6148]

the joke is about how we as a society are so concerned with censorship and trigger warnings that we end up doing a disservice to the problems. sexual assault should not be reduced to “SA” because it reduces the severity of the crime by separating empathy. his joke is a very pointed call out of how sad it is nobody can take anything seriously and maturely. your feelings are valid, but people need to be able to have a clear dialogue about rape and sexual assault without needing to censor every last fucking word. if the word rape being read on a phone screen triggers a victim, there is a lot more wrong than the typed out letters r a p e. this is all coming from a victim of childhood sexual sodomy. words have power. taking away the value of words diminishes what people go through. if someone is triggered by real words typed on a screen describing situations, that is THEIR problem, and needs to be addressed. thanks for my listening to my ted talk

[@necrobrat]

@@hayleyhodgdon6148people do that because different social media platforms censor words like that

[@yianna147]

never in my life did I expect to spend an hour of my life watching this

[@RenAldrich]

i love how this came out the same day as Louis Mclungs video hahahaha

[@maariaxelson1538]

I LOVE how long ur videos are 🙏 u really spoil us

[@Only-autumn-forever]

Thank you for covering this-I was so lost 😭😭 Also you should totally do a collab with Louis Mcclung! You’ve referenced him a couple times and you guys are both great!!

[@forgottenmachine806]

Just want to say something about the assumptions you made about passing for MTF. Everyone has different face shapes and body types and hair lines which attribute to how well they pass without medical assistance. I have a fairly neutral face so all I have to do is change my hair and I can pass as whatever gender I want. Plus make up and filters can carry a lot online

[@motherjuno7817]

also transitioning young! hunter schafer and kim petras come to mind as great examples of cis passing trans women who never had cosmetic surgery, they look like that because they went through male puberty and developed like a cis girl would.

[@wellgoslowlyontumblr]

the way i used to love ajs content too

[@imbratman]

PLEASE UR HAIR IN PIGTAILS PLEASE PLEASE 🙏🙏

[@Hippo_Krippo12345]

your litwerly so silly 😂 such a silly goober

[@sleepycasp3r]

RIBBON BOWS TIED AROUND THEM TOO‼️

[@SchlamaFTW]

Weird fetish freaks in here too, not just the videos he posts 🙄

[@imbratman]

@@sleepycasp3r YES PLS

[@imbratman]

@@Hippo_Krippo12345 r u real or fake

[@anominousperson1485]

Legit just waking up to this video, this is gonna feel like a fever dream.

[@maisieharris5864]

i think bambi had said somewhere that the bleeping was to cover her ass legally bc if the names were obscured maybe it was ambiguous to outsiders so it wont be slander or something. so instead of "allegedly" she just bleeped it

[@nicetry7409]

holy hell didn’t ever expect this out of them or to see a video on them, though maybe i should’ve because i always felt some ring was off

[@cryptidcanis]

yeeeah dude you really shouldve edited out the joke about s/a . super weird behavior !

[@mywingsareyours]

In the beginning i dont think grace was trying to say bambi should be cancelled for the drunk thing, shes just explaining the event that made her decide to no longer be her friend/feel uncomfortable about her character. Also i think things like this can be mentioned publicly as long as it's not done as like a cancel piece, esp when you had a very public friendship that ended and now ppl want to know why (as long as its something you feel comfy sharing.) Also AJ was in a relationship for 5 years and has 1 bf since then lol. Ryan was the guy she dated for 5+ years, the new guy she is with is a fucking dating coach lmao. Not to defend her at all, just the "always has a new bf" isnt a true claim. Also AJ isnt american so i wouldnt consider her a "typical LA creator." I dont like any of these girls but unfortunately they keep cropping up lol. Tbh I don't think some of bambi's "proof" really shows much in some cases, like the proof of her saying negative stuff about Grace. Grace already said that at one point both of them were being toxic and shit talking each other due to Bambi's influence, so just showing one of them talking shit doesn't really prove much except that they were in fact doing the toxic shit grace said lol

[@KingOfGaymes]

Danky: I love knowing that my audience are free and brave Me, an American: we are-?

[@Pixieroses]

We are now, thanks to Trump winning!

[@S3renity..]

Very off topic but the scream at the end jump scared me so bad because I was doing something else on a tab I did not expect that

[@roseallan6027]

Haven't even started the video yet but I vaguely remember seeing drama between these two creators in the middle about end quarantine but I didn't know the extent of the allegations made so this video definitely caught my eye

[@chrycanth]

i fw ur videos its genuinely the thing i look forward to watching whenever i get notified thank u dankyjabo

[@Godsteem]

Lying about SA is absolutely disgusting I was a victim of SA and IM SO CONFUSED ON WHY ANYONE WOULD LIE ABOUT THAT?! ITS NOT FUN?!?

[@FirePixieInTheDark]

Subscribed because I also struggle with the casual use of the big C! lol + Happy birthday fellow November born!

[@tina8493]

I stopped following the two of them for different reasons a ways back and man, I'm glad I missed this nightmare

[@Swamp_Queen]

I don't know what ends up happening later on as I'm only 9 minutes in, but so far you're using very dangerous language. You have to consent to romantic actions every single time they happen, not just once. Being in a romantic relationship with someone isn't consent for these actions, so having a flirty relationship with your best friend DEFINITELY isn't consent for these actions. I could agree to kiss you every single day for 100000 days, but if on the 100001 day you kiss me without my permission, that's assault. Implied consent is not consent. However, we do need to empower women to say no. We need to make it safer for them to do so. It is oftentimes dangerous for them to say no, it is looked down upon or they are treated as difficult. Communication is extremely important, and nobody can read your mind. Don't think what the other girl did is "cancel worthy " but it is definitely worth a larger conversation.

[@greyskittles5656]

Commenting for that one on one :)

[@mywingsareyours]

Also i will say, my parents got married 8 weeks after MEETING (not engaged, married) and theyre still happily married 38+ years later LOL

[@helixxia9320]

howww

[@elanahouston9917]

So a few things :) 1st love the longer form content! 2nd shout out to cal does life lol love both you guys💕 3rd it's 2:30 in the morning here and I hope you get that 100k subs before your birthday!

[@sweetvanillapudding]

1:10:09 this dude is honestly the most relatable and hilarious person ever, pls dont randomly go missing in Cambodia 🙏

[@CylindricalMadness]

Can we just appreciate this goof i love bro [happy] (i almost wrote down something that my teacher can send me into an asylum for by accident cuz i was writing homework with 100% volume in my headphones)

[@parisgreen6737]

…..”transitiong from male to female this convincingly isn’t easy so they obviously had surgery” i’m so tired of this narrative all trans women don’t get surgery. evie and grace naturally look like that because they transitioned young so they developed like bio women. and that comment is just disgusting and weird to be honest.

[@flvtt3r.shy11]

They probably said the had surgery

[@crazyturkturk1733]

not sure about all of them but ik AJ got surgery bc it showed up on my feed. regardless, his point may be wrong on this front, and he should have done research, but given the fact that a majority of trans people are unable to get hormone therapy that young (due to financial, political, and personal reasons) i wouldn’t call this claim disgusting; on average it’s right. Should he have done more research? yes. does it come from a place of hate towards trans people? no, so i wouldn’t hold it against him.

[@lanistinks]

they have literally all had so much surgery stop coping lol

[@LavenderTea-lr3hc]

it's not a stretch to claim that if they have a lot of money they more than likely had surgeries along with their transitions, cuz these types of influencer people don't tend to be shy about cosmetic surgeries. hell i'm willing to bet at least one of them got a nose job, those are pretty common

[@parisgreen6737]

@@LavenderTea-lr3hc what i’m saying is he’s saying for a trans woman to be “this convincing” she has to have surgery. that’s fucked and no…no they don’t jayde mcfarlane, stellahub, veyondra mitchell, emily tressa. all trans popular on instagram or tiktok and have not had surgery surgery done they just pass.