Tiny House Life: No Such Thing as Perfect!

Hey guys,
The other day I watched a great video by Stace of the KZbin channel Casa Duro that really got me thinking.
In it she talks about how so much of the content around tiny houses is tied to a romantic notion of being off grid, homesteading, living on a piece of land far away from regular society. And, how many of the people who are interested in or living tiny aren’t living that way and don’t have any interest in that.
These idealized images can make us feel like we’re not doing tiny living ‘right’ which is really sad. The fact is that we come to this lifestyle for many different reasons. Some by necessity and some by choice.
When I talk about living intentionally, I mean intentionally for YOU. Which will be different that for ME. So, while living an intentional, tiny house life isn’t always easy, or glamours (spoiler alert, it’s’ not), it is perfect for me at this time of my life. It allows me to be 85% happy in life like I talked about in a previous vide. And, you know what? That’s pretty damn good!
Watch Stace’s video, and check out her channel here: • Expectations vs REALIT... , she’s pretty awesome ☺️.
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My tiny house builder: Teacup Tiny Homes in Lethbridge, Alberta, Canada

[@charletteprzybylski3417]

Thank you for sharing this family history. Gratitude for your sharing!

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

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[@janetphelps6879]

Dad's from that generation worked hard and saved so we would have a better life. 😢 Yours would be proud of you!

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thank you, I hope so 🥹.

[@belieftransformation]

Beautiful sharing; thanks! My parents were from large families who worked very hard as well. They saved & paid for all the land they owned so us kids could have a better life. My dad had left home at 14 years because his family was barely surviving in the dust bowl of Saskatchewan. His parents ere immigrants from Germany in the early 1900’s. They taught us responsibility, love & the golden rule of doing unto others, as you would have them do unto you. Blessings to all 🤗💜🇨🇦

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thank you for sharing your family history. Very similar to mine and so many of us who come from immigrant backgrounds 😊❤️.

[@luckychicav7981]

I believe also as an emigrant brought by my parents, that our past is the main driver for how we live our lives. But most importantly, the message you just stated, save for a happy and comfortable future, but live for today.👍🏼☺️💗

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

☺️❤️

[@anniecochrane3359]

Thank you for your very special and useful communication. Lessons learned, with heart. I have recently come to realise how my 'search' for the piece of land and off grid tiny home living have been getting in the way of living in the now, and enjoying my life day by day, hour by hour. Moving towards my tiny home vision, needn't prevent present enjoyment and happiness. So your words have fallen on very receptive ground here. Thank you Adelina

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

You're welcome ☺️

[@lisaleigh3573]

I couldn't agree more with your message today,,my dad never got to retire either,,he got diagnosed with cancer at 62 years old and died 4 months later . He never got to spend his retirement fishing or enjoying his days. He was a truck driver and spent his entire adult life working to to retire.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

So sad. 🥺❤️

[@familym6788]

Great video. So much here to think about. I love the care you take with your words. Thank you for sharing your family story. It reminds me of parts of mine. My dad worked so hard. Worried. Did so much so we would have more than he did. His retirement dream was a little boat and fishing and time with my mom. He enjoyed his retirement for less than a year. I, too, learned you can't wait to live your life. Yes, plan. Yes, save. But don't wait to live. Live on purpose. Live with intention. Thank you so much for sharing. Listening to you honor your dad and your family story gave me the gift to take a moment to honor mine.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

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[@missylearned9821]

That was an all around wonderful commentary on both family and balancing how to live your best moments now while preparing and saving for the future.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

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[@dinajanke356]

So much of your story resonates with me! I moved to the USA over 20 years ago to have a better life and help my family in the Azores. I am from the Azores just like your parents. You made me really pause and think. Thank you for this reality check.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

That's wonderful. Thank you. ☺️

[@paulagamache982]

Great video! Thank you for sharing your family story. Your reasons are the reasons I want to get a tiny house to be be able to retire early and spend more time with my granddaughter, Adelina and travel! ❤

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Is that her name! 😁❤️

[@paulagamache982]

@@myBIGtinyhouselife yes!

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

😁❤️❤️❤️

[@mariapafflackduck3170]

This latest video compelled me to post. No, you are not 1 of those that you are talking about. You are a refreshing, informative, educational, encouraging oasis. Your openness, your frankness about everyday imperfections (aka real life) has been so helpful to me coming to grips with my life situation & making it better just where I am, as I am, with what I have. Sure, I have hopes n plans, but I don't have to drive towards anybody else's promotion of their ideas of perfection. It is funny that you were hitting a lot of my above thoughts as I was typing this out.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thank you Maria ❤️.

[@marium1866]

"Save for the future, but live for today." Beautiful message and talk about intentionality and balance. Thank you so much for sharing. Really impactful message. 💙💙

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

You're welcome ☺️

[@TikiTackPrincess]

Wow, Adelina, what a moving and eloquent video you made. So many truly important truths you shared. I had to write them all down in my journal. I live in a comfy condo and am as thrilled to be there as you are to be in your tiny home. I never dreamed I could afford to buy a home and an opportunity came years ago to buy a condo and it is truly my happy place. Thank you so much for sharing from your heart and being so for real. I love hearing you tell stories about your family. You are a real treasure to us, your followers. ❤😊Sue

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Awwww, thank you Sue ❤️🙏🏼.

[@bjanurse]

First of all wanted to thank you for sharing these videos with us. I am new to your channel but enjoy every single video of yours. I am myself located in Calgary and moving to the island in 3-4 months from now. Secondly thank you so much for sharing your story about your past/parents/hard work and the lesson you have learned from all that. It was very touching. I rewinded and watch that section of the video twice since I have similar past who is closely related to what you have shared. Thank you for being you and allowing us to no only get to know you more but learn from your experiences. You are amazing beautiful soul.❤❤

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thank you for your kind words. I appreciate it very much 😊🙏🏼.

[@2sphynxboys]

I wouldn't say you're saying any one way to live tiny, is the best way. I think you give a very thoughtful example of "your" way to live a simpler, more sustainable life. There's thousands of videos now of "sustaiable tiny living" and just like picking the toppings from a salad bar, the video's should be used as a "guide" for the aspects of tiny living one may want to apply to their own experience. I will say, I truly believe if there were more tiny home "communities", many more people would probably choose tiny. Because I feel people do embrace community and may feel that they'd be giving that up going tiny. Have you seen any videos from "Incredible Tiny Homes"? They're in Tennessee. They are doing some wonderful things with developing tiny home communities. As always, enjoyed your video. Can't wait to see the new parking spot in full detail.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thank you. Yes, I watch them as well 😊.

[@krissy2321]

Thank you for sharing💛

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

You're welcome ☺️

[@mrcdplsrl]

Misnomer: live today but save for the future. Well, in order to save (and enjoy, and hopefully live long enough) you have to work your tail off. With inflation in the states and it steadily increasing, so many are just trying to survive and hopefully sock away a little for the future. It’s a double edged sword. Work more so you can have more at retirement or be able to do it comfortably but all the while missing the here and now. So do you miss seeing the forest for the trees? 🤷🏻‍♀️ Food for thought and definitely not disputing what you said.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

😊

[@mavahuth5044]

One reason I like watching you is, your down to earth ideas. I like to watch two other channels. One is just fun to watch. The other one, you can learn things. Like how to build a fire. It's nice to have variety. I'm sure the idea of you trying to do something nice for your mom. Was very comforting to her. I'm not sure if you celebrate mother's day up there. But I hope your kids tell you how lucky they to have you.❤

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks😊. Yes we do.

[@carolw2068]

Beautiful scenery and thank you for sharing you parents story. God Bless.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thank you ☺️

[@kimmetcalfe6408]

God Bless you and your family❤️🙏 what we wouldn’t do for our families 🫶🌹 thank you for sharing. Be safe. Your story is heartwarming 💕💕

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks Kim 🙏🏼😊.

[@KellerHouse2180]

picked up the Big Tiny book from the local library no buying it lol. started reading you are making a difference with your sharing.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks. I hope you enjoy it.

[@beverlysyferd379]

Thank you. Bless you.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

You're welcome ☺️

[@patrycjas.9725]

Dear Adelina. I rarely make any comments on YT. But I really want to thank you for your channel. I admire path you choose and how you are sharing it with us. You are wise, beautiful and extraordinary person. Todays story was for me especially moving, because I know something about hard work, about taking care for parents and trying to be grateful even during hard times. All the best for you from Poland! ❤

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Hello! Thank you for watching and for the comment. I appreciate it. ❤️ 🇨🇦 ❤️ 🇵🇱

[@beaming_life_travels215]

Thanks for sharing your story, and I loved the story about your Mum and the cup of tea 🍵- how special ❤ . I also love your perspective on life and living, I am so glad I have found your channel.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thank you 😊. I'm glad you did as well.

[@Donna-vs2iq]

This. I watched it twice for my personal journey. What a kind story you shared. I needed this. Thank you, Meegwech.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

You're welcome ☺️

[@sandralnwebster3204]

Adelina you are so right;if we are happy with the lifestyle we have,then that is all we need! Why should we aspire to what others think is ideal when our own dream is different than what they want ?!! Being happy comes from within and not from an existence designated by anyone else! You have achieved a remark- able life for yourself which has been thrown a curve ball but you are still happy and content in your pursuit to just live how you desire! You learned how to face adversity and still go on from your wonderful parents! Thanks for the interesting story of yourparents-you must remember them fondly❤. Cheers Sandy

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks Sandy. I am very grateful for the sacrifices they made for us kids. ❤️

[@ConnieDelawski]

Hi. Beautiful story. Thanks for sharing. Your parents were just wonderful.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Yes they were ❤️.

[@shirleyannburdock4510]

As always, I really appreciate your insight.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks ☺️

[@craftycat6859]

Thank you for sharing your story. Beautiful legacy of life lessons your parents left you❣️

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thank you 😊.

[@sandiparker7395]

Thank you for sharing your story. It was a timely reminder for me.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

😊

[@MaggieStuart-mq1cg]

Thank you so much for sharing your story. What a wonderful daughter you were!

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

☺️

[@dsstewbaby9]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

😊

[@aledelmar2557]

Who defines what is right or wrong? You!

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

👍🏼❤️

[@Maxthedog14]

I agree that it’s mostly a choice to live tiny. I love my 200 square foot home. I wanted to live in a home that was comfortable and paid off. And when the time comes, my girls won’t be burdened with my stuff. Love your videos, looking forward to seeing your new spot.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks 😊!

[@TNbear0126]

It takes a lot for this gruff ol’ bear to get “something in his eye” (or to ask if “anybody’s cutting onions”). Starting at the 19:00 mark, hearing/watching you talk about your dad, and rushing home to kiss your mom before she went to work, did it. From where I sit, and with all due respect/decorum, you appear to be as beautiful on the inside as the outside. 😢You were a little angel to them. So much love shown. 🥹 that never fades/goes away. ❤️😊

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

That's such a kind thing to say. Thank you ☺️.

[@TNbear0126]

@@myBIGtinyhouselife you are most welcome.

[@jemma50]

Love this video, Adelina! Such wisdom you shared. ♥ For myself, I have wanted a tiny house for several years and have watched many, many videos about them. Yours has been the most informative in helping me to realize that it's not so much a tiny house on wheels that I want, but a small space to live. I am 72 years old and have no desire to do all the research you have done, deal with building companies, etc. I just want a smaller space to live (300-400 sq. ft.) The reason I wanted a tiny house is because they are usually so well-designed for maximizing storage, much more so than small apartments in buildings. I love how every inch in a tiny house is designed with storage in mind. I currently live in an apartment that is about 750 sq. ft. and it's just too big for me. But, with the way the rental market has skyrocketed, an apt. that is half the size is at least twice as much in rent. So, I will do my best to continue appreciating my home, while focusing on finding a way to downsize without upsizing my rent! 😊 Thank you so much for sharing your views and thoughts. I hope the prep for your move is going well. ♥♥♥

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Hi Jemma, thanks for your comment. Good luck on your journey 😊.

[@jemma50]

@@myBIGtinyhouselife Thanks, Adelina! ♥

[@barbarawest1205]

Adelina, what a wonderful, beautiful message. I am struggling a bit to declutter my home, a task I started about a year before my older sister died. I then went into a kind of tailspin, followed by the isolation and restrictions of COVID. Somehow my stuff multiplied during those years! I have more yarn than I will ever be able to knit/crochet, more stationery supplies than I will be able to use, and more needlework patterns than I will ever be able to stitch! Fortunately, I should be able to find a home for my excess collections of craft supplies, etc.; we have an artist's thrift shop in town that will accept most, if not all, that I decide to pass along. And I should be able to honour the promise I made my niece not to leave her with another place that will be a burden to clear out, with a bonus of actually having the space to comfortably do the things I enjoy in the meantime!

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Good for you. It can feel overwhelming at first but what a relief once it's done! 😊

[@barbarawest1205]

@@myBIGtinyhouselife ❤

[@conniefeltman4561]

Thank you for sharing! I really enjoyed hearing about your parents! We never know what tomorrow brings … yesterday is gone and tomorrow is not promised … all we have is today … and I added … maybe not all of today! 😁 Loved your vlog today! Going to watch the other one you mentioned and led to yours! Thanks for all you do … your sharing is priceless! Many Many Blessings! 🌈🙏🏻🙏🏻❤️🇺🇸🇺🇸🇺🇸

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks so much Connie. ❤️

[@LifeinLancashire]

Life is definitely a roller coaster. My father had his first stroke when he was 42. He got back to work, but had a number of subsequent strokes which eventually by the time I was 18, he needed 24/7 care. Mum gave up working and became his carer, with my younger brother and myself helping her. My older sister was married and lived away. Unfortunately, mum then had a heart attack, and dad went into hospital for a short stay whilst mum was recovering, but sadly he had another stroke and passed away.....he was 53. My sister died young from cancer, I've had 2 primary cancers and my brother has also had cancer. Both my brother & myself have lived for today for years. My daughter who is now 40, was told 10 years ago that she's in the high risk group for developing cancer, so I told her to live life to the full whilst she can, because as you say, we don't know what is round the corner. Her living life is to travel because that's what she and her family love to do. Obviously, I'm hoping that she doesn't ever develop cancer. I have known people who have retired, then sadly developed dementia. There is more to life than bed and work.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

I'm so sorry for your losses. Yes, life is a rollercoaster and there are no guarantees. ❤️

[@Laura-cs6mn]

What beautiful, incredible parents you have. Isn't that a blessing. What a hard, trying time that must have been for you both. The way you took care to your Dad....and your Mom....oh just touched my heart! The loving way you prepared a welcome home every night, even as a young girl, so that when she came home to a quiet sleeping household, she would know and feel she was loved and honored. Just an absolutely beautiful sweet thing for you to do as a young girl. And you were still young and in school.....wow. You are an amazing and inspiring person. So glad you are living the life that brings you joy.....and that is one that They always wanted for you. Love that. We ride on the energies laid out by those previous souls around us. Thank you for sharing such a moving, and beautiful personal story.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

That's a beautiful way to put it ☺️❤️

[@Swim136]

@@myBIGtinyhouselifeI still upset with Neighbor started all these problems for you. You were not bothering them. Your Home was neat an I can tell you were good neighbor. No you do not give off the atitude u worry about.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks. Oh well 🤷🏻‍♀️ it's done now.

[@tanial694]

Thank you for sharing your story Adelina. 💝

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

😊

[@ManWander]

just know: i was very touched by your story - i applaud the work you do (creating uplifting videos)

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks Jay 😊

[@tinalsanchez4837]

We bought a larger home 7 years ago and I regret it. I wish I stayed semi-tiny home, to live responsibly, and I’m also going to honest…easier to keep clean 😆…

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

I totally understand. While I love a clean home I hate housekeeping so a small space is so nice ☺️.

[@paulakelly563]

Give thanks for our wonderful parents , I was listening , “ I cared for my dad through cancer as an adult I rushed home from work not school 😊”. I do the tea with the saucer on top for my mother today, I think it does keep it warm 😀. We are often landed into circumstances unprepared , I agree with everything you mentioned , our health mental and physical is number one , but not a guarantee , 🦋

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Your dad was and your mom is very lucky to have you ❤️.

[@lorib-g1908]

❤

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

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[@sue9252]

Lovely family story Adelina and it does kinda hit home with me as well. Thanks for sharing. ☺️🐈❤️

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

You're welcome ☺️

[@dreamofskye7400]

This must have been a difficult video for you to make. Everyone of us who grew up in hardship understands. I’m so glad you are living your imperfect dream life now. It is so comforting to know that there are good people like you in the world. Mostly the nasties are making all the noise. My hart goes out to each and everyone here who are facing adversity and are struggling. 🌺💜

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thank you so much ❤️.

[@chasingthemoonrv]

I love your food for thought videos. How very sad that your Dad’s dream was never realized, but I’m sure he’d be happy to know you’re realizing your own.❤

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks 🥹.

[@PropheticCoachTheresa]

Love this! ❤

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks 😊

[@valeriebelmonte9556]

Love this video really touched my heart ❤️ I can relate to you we’re around the same age and your parents story is so similar to my grandparents who migrated to the US from Italy. You’re right about not put everything off until retirement tomorrow isn’t promised

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thank you Valerie 😊❤️

[@LiveFree123]

You shared this so well, Adelina. I’ve always enjoyed your videos and I like how you have encouraged us, me specifically, to live an intentional life. You’ve never made me feel “less than”. I live in a small condo that I absolutely love. I recently paid off my mortgage which I worked hard to do so. The definition of FREEDOM to me is being able to live intentionally within my means. Thank you for being beautiful you!❤

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Congratulations!!! That's huge. Being mortgage is such freedom! 😊

[@martykong3592]

:) WOW! THANKS SO MUCH for sharing and insights into what our parents went through for us to be here for sure.... they had such a different environment to survive, let alone provide for the family.... ALL the BEST and Cheers! :)

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks Marty 😊

[@__lynzee41141]

Thank you for sharing 💕 such a special story and important advice! Save for the future but enjoy today…

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

❤️

[@diannecorbett5347]

Beautiful, thought provoking thank you! I also watch Stacey @ Casa Duro who, like you, always shares the grit of the matter. Great conversation today!🥰

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks! 😁

[@nancysantamaria3924]

Interesting perspective. I have asked you about solar panels in the past. I’m sorry if my question made you feel ‘not there yet’. My thinking was that it would be something you were interested in. I personally think that you should live in and do whatever makes you happy. Happy packing ❤🥰🙏😻

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

I want solar eventually but I don't think I want anything mounted on the house itself.

[@lbrown6859]

Thanks for sharing Adelina. You obviously had very determined parents. I feel that you learned some very important and valuable lessons from them both. Although your pops didn't get to live out his plan, he obviously worked very hard to support and take care of those he loved. I feel like from what you expressed, that you were able to experience what true love looked like, right in front of you. Very selfless. You can't put a price tag on that. Worth more than gold. I am glad that even though life was tough at times for you, you still hang in there and you have a beautiful heart. Once again, ty for sharing. You never know who will see this and it may be just the thing that causes their lives to turn around. Take care Adelina 🥰

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks 😊.

[@lbrown6859]

👍

[@sandrarandall6574]

Lovely video!

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks 😊.

[@louiseevans6121]

Thank you for sharing your story. It is bittersweet, so very hard for your parents but I know they found satisfaction and even happiness in providing a better future for you and your siblings. So so sad that dad wasn’t able to enjoy a retirement after such a hard life. It really gives us insight into what drives you too. I think about this topic all the time: missing out on happiness now because I’m pushing plans and dreams off into the future.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

I thank you. I think many of us do that 😊❤️.

[@SuperRiverQueen]

Thank you for sharing! May the Lord continue to bless you in your endeavors and give you the desires of your heart! You bless us each time so I know you will be rewarded! Have a lovely day and hope you have an easier time with this move! Love and hugs❣️

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks so much! I wish the same for you 😊.

[@moyaking8961]

Thank you so much for this video. I loved hearing about you and your family. As I've mentioned in the past I do have a house that is rented and that I now share with my daughter and grandchildren. However it really doesn't feel like my home anymore so me having my caravan is my absolute favourite place to be at this point in time. I'm fortunate that I don't need to work as my ex husband provides for me. However I am returning back to full time teaching so that I can buy land and have s cabin/cottage put on it. I spen a lot of time at my caravan but because I do a lot of crafting it's really not big enough, plus the site that it's on doesn't have any security and my caravan got broken into with lots of my things getting stolen. Otherwise I'd live on the site. 💕

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

I'm sorry to hear about the break in 😟

[@Ladythyme]

You always come across as being very open and honest--good and bad. I think the difference between the choice of our parents to change their lives for the benefit of their children was somewhat what different than ours choosing to change in order to have a simpler life and so we are not just going through the motions to survive on that treadmill but actually engaged in our steering our future….even if it means sacrificing in order to live it more fully..on our own terms… so sacrificing or know they gave us the opportunity to choose…..Matthew Allen from VanLifePlus is a Prime example of that intentional evolution…even if it was expedited by unexpected life events. My mom passed in her sleep when I was 17…out of the clear blue sky… not sick at all…blood clot in her heart…Shocked by it all… I learned very young how precious each person was in one’s life and each day a chance to make a difference. I love these videos that get us thinking. 😍 wishing you easy transition with your move. 🤞🏻😊

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Hi. I love Matt's channel and am a subscriber of his too. I'm sorry to hear about your mom. Such a difficult thing to happen at such a young age. 🥺❤️

[@Ladythyme]

@@myBIGtinyhouselife …thanks it’s been a lot of missed milestones and years…but what can one do but live for her. It was because of you I found Matthew’s channel …you mentioned him in one of your videos, I think, when you started working on yours. Been subscribed ever since 😀 Thanks btw😉 Have a great week!

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

You too 😊

[@marirose19]

Oh, Adelina!😢Great vid; I’m sobbing hearing about your Dad’s hard work, his saving money for the future, sending it back to family as well, and never getting a chance to live out his dream. I do believe in parallel lives; I also like to think of our loved ones who’ve transitioned living their dreams in another dimension. I see him in a well-maintained & warm motor home pulling a boat & fishing along the way. I’ve subbed to Stacy’s channel. There are many different definitions of what it means to live off grid, & too many think their definition is the supreme & only one. SMH. Totally agree w/you: save for the future, but live, hopefully, your best life now and/or work towards it. Eleanor Roosevelt said, “The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.” A bumper sticker I taped to a kitchen cabinet for years in a long ago apartment said, “Think big thoughts but savor small things.” I just loved that bumper sticker. It was a constant affirmation for me during the years I had it before it fell apart over time. Still is an affirmation for me. TFS the story of your Dad & also your Mom. What an amazing job you did taking care & loving them through so much. You’re such a wonderful human being, Adelina. I hold you close in my heart & always think of you, wishing you & your loved ones all the best. Love, -Marirose NH USA 💙🥰🌀

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thank you so much Marirose ❤️❤️❤️

[@marirose19]

@@myBIGtinyhouselife As always, you’re very welcome. Thank you for sharing your wisdom & family history. Oh my. Really feeling it in the feels, as they say. Do “they” still say that? Rhetorical question.💛🌀🌟

[@debbyjo123]

❤️What a story. ❤️Thank you for sharing this with us. I have so much I’d like to say, but I think I just want to ponder your words. I am working as fast as I can to declutter all my stuff after my parents passed away so my adult kids won’t have to. So many decisions to make, but hearing your words gave me even more motivation to move along faster in my journey to minimalism. Intentional… that’s how I’m trying to declutter everything. I really appreciate your videos. Thank you.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

I'm so glad you found some value in it. Good for you! That's a lot of work but once it's done there's such freedom ☺️❤️.

[@MaryB.333]

Wise information in your video! Thank you for the reminders! ❤😊 Hope your move goes smoothly!

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks 😊.

[@nycspa]

Hello Adelina, First, thank you for sharing that very personal and special story about your mom and dad. This is only the second time that I ever commented on a video and the first time was a few months ago to another one of your vids. Watching this today of all days felt very synchronistic. Referring to walking the fine line between living today and not waiting until "when I retire,when the kids are out of school, when etc" and at the same time putting strategies in place to accomplish your visions and intentions to use your resources, both internal and external to manifest what you wish.Yesterday, I bought tickets for a trip this summer. A trip I've wanted to take for years. I also want to buy a tiny house and I am saving and in the process of gathering information on how to make that happen. I debated with myself a couple of months but when I made the purchase I felt really good. The conclusion I have come to is that I have to take care of me today because tomorrow isn't guaranteed to any of us. However, you can never lose sight that tomorrow and the day after and the day after that may indeed come and you want to be prepared and in the best position to live your best life when they do. As for people having a fixed idea of what living tiny "should" look like, there is the error. I've always thought part of the whole point of going tiny is to break free from the mental box of "shoulds". We, the people who like and want to live tiny can't forget that the images of someone else's life in a tiny home isn't a blue print but at most an inspiration. If we're rigid about our idea of tiny living how can we expect our officials to open their minds and be flexible and start to accept and allow people to live how they want to live(wiithin reason)? Sorry for the length. Thank you for sharing the way you do.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks for sharing your insights 😊❤️.

[@annettegreen6689]

Your story reminded me of my Dad ❤ Thanks for sharing xxx

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

You're welcome ☺️

[@DazzleDust32]

Hi Adelina and Sophie! Thank you for sharing the story of your parents. It was particularly poignant for me as my Dad died last week. Thankfully, he was able to live a full life up until last summer. I'm sorry for what happened to your Dad and that he never got to live out his dreams. All the best from England and a hug for Sophie. x

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

I'm so sorry for your loss. No matter how long you have them it sucks having to say goodbye ❤️❤️❤️🥺

[@soniao.5482]

Thank you for sharing your story. I have a question for you if you don't mind me asking, if you didn't purchase the tiny home, would you have been able to move where you are now?

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

I always planned on being on the island. Before I discovered tiny homes I was looking at small condos.

[@soniao.5482]

@@myBIGtinyhouselife very nice, so glad you are where you want to be.

[@CuzmicTarot]

Thank You, For sharing with Us Adelina. ❤ This Is such welcoming content as usual. We look forward To more.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks 😊

[@gailcraig4495]

Yes... this! I need to get intentional about my life... for me.... in my tiny apartment. I purposefully didn't go bigger because of your purposeful living.... a great example to me! Thank you for your much- needed encouragement & honesty! All best to you. 😊

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks 😊

[@maryfitzpatrick8383]

So sorry you're Dad got sick. Your mother was a very special lady, as are you. (And your Dad was a good man.) I love your posts. This one was probably the best yet. Great words of wisdom. Wishing you every good wish in your new location. Best to you and yours. Mary Behan Ireland (I changed my name after my divorce last year but haven't figured out how to change it on youtube.)

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Hello Mary, thanks so much. I appreciate you watching 😊

[@Elissa-Ellen]

It is not a one size fits all! You do you!! Like you said, living an intentional life!! ❤

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Exactly 😁.

[@catherinewilson1079]

Always try to enjoy the present moment! I hope that you take Vitamin D Adelina!

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

😊

[@susananderson1071]

I had similar experience with my parents but differently. I was the one to take Dad to Dr. appointments, drive Mom to and from the hospital. Dad had very serious heart disease but did the same as yours with putting the dream off. His last job was at the school, so he had summers off, so they did travel in their motor home, pulling his boat or motorcycle behind. But through the years, they didn't spend money on anything that was not on their home, food, occasional haircuts, gas. I have no idea how much they saved. Money was not talked about in our house. Somehow, he knew he was going to die soon because he made me promise I would take care of Mom when the time came. Mom and I did not get along at that time due to her undiagnosed personality disorder and verbal abuse. But I promised him. They abruptly decided they were selling their home, which was a duplex (with me paying half the mortgage, utilities) and buying land where i could raise my miniature horses. I told them I had no problem, my daughter and I moving, but I already had a perfect place for my minies. But they put the house up for sale, bought land, and a modular home and insisted I move with them. There was an intersection from the.first.day we passed it and every time told us to be extra careful because it was going to be a bad intersection. On Christmas Eve morning, he and Mom were taking food to my uncle, stopped to collect the mail in town, and in that intersection, they were broadside. It was 3 miles from home. A two lane road with very few cars on it. The impact killed Dad instantly and nearly Mom as well. I took care of Mom as a sole caregiver plus working a full-time and part-time job to keep us afloat for the next 12 ish years. Mom was finally as having a personality disorder, depression and alzheimers the latter taking her. So I fully support notputting hopes and dreams. Live for today, but plan like crazy and take time to do things on your bucket list no matter how silly or costly, do them. Before Mom passed, my doctor's and social security doctors deemed me fully, permanently disabled. I can not do things off my bucket list. But now I'm so grateful for a roof over my head, running water, leaves on trees, blooms on plants, my service dog, a bed...... I'm disabled but I have found a renewed pleasure. Many are taken for granted. I've lived my life as I needed to and do not regret it.. Live the life you have, be grateful, there's always people worse off than you.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Wow! That is such a difficult story. I'm glad that you have peace of mind and gratitude. Take care ❤️❤️.

[@JohnsDeb]

Thank you for sharing your family with us. Yes, I want to live intentionally for me, in a tiny paid off home at retirement. It may not be close to my daughters in VA because of restrictions of zoning for Tiny Homes. They (my daughters)think I should live close to one of them as I get older. But in reality it’s not affordable for me in their areas. I love your wisdom, discussions that you have❤ Have A Great Week!

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks Debbie.

[@gloriabass9945]

I've been watching her channel a couple years now and her IG post are amazing she's very knowledgeable.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Yes she is ☺️.

[@cindygaudet1390]

Same as rv full timing… many romanticize it. Oh the desire you spoke land, garden and a self sufficient hermit… lol that’s me. And that can be in a subdivision with large enough yard to garden. Totally understand what you are saying. No such thing as perfect no matter where or why or how.. we downsized to 970 sq feet and we will probably be in it till an apartment.. omg boy you have hit my dad and my husband’s dreams…

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

❤️☺️

[@CasaDuroTinyHome]

Adelina, I love this video so much! I'm honored to have been the catalyst to inspire you to talk about this subject. Thank you for sharing your experience with your father and how that has impacted your perspective on life and pursuing your dreams. My mother is living with Parkinson's which is progressively getting worse. It is a hard thing to see the changes, but she has been living her best life since I "fled the nest" and her perspective changed on what her life could be now that motherhood (and her entire identity really) took on a different form. She lives everyday to the fullest and pursues her passions, traveling and volunteering, and it is beautiful to see that. Thank you again for making this video, I'm getting a bunch of your lovely viewers making their way over to my channel 🙏

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Your mom is an inspiration. AND a reminder to us all that physical limitations don't mean giving up. She's lucky to have you as her filha ❤️.

[@cindypack5151]

Can’t find her…..

[@daviduribe3111]

@CasaDuroTinyHome

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

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[@barbarawest1205]

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[@2bczar4u]

What I did not like about the 'so called' TH movement was by those who were using it to promote their Air BnBs under the guise of living the TH life. I never thought that you promoted anything unrealistic. It just made me feel that there was hope that I didn't need to be under the burden of continual work just so I could have a nice home. Not big, just nice.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Thanks. I'm glad 😊

[@TNbear0126]

The stuff you talked about at the start, that’s so present in all movements/groups. The guitar community especially. You’re not a real [fill in the blank] if you don’t have this model guitar, this year amp, this reverb tank, this cable, these picks, etc. It’s all so tiresome and shallow. I have a very low opinion of “gatekeepers”, the unsolicited variety, in any group/pursuit, who I often see as posers and surface-only, or into/obsessing on the physical trappings of a movement/hobby. That’s why the acronym STFU was invented, for those types. No patience for that crowd, putting so much stock in them”rules” and “have to” actions/behavior. 🎶Wasn’t born to folloooowww…🎶 😊

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

😁😁😁

[@laurawinger4339]

I LOVE deep thoughts from Adelina! I really appreciate you sharing this story of your family. I'm definitely a bigger saver-for-the-future than I am living for now. I just did a phone call with my bank about a more structured budget but I'm curious--if you're willing to share--if you budget a certain percentage to save (retirement/regular savings/other goals) or if that number fluctuates.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

I save a percentage of my pay to get the maximum match from my company. Otherwise my focus is paying off my house build loan. Once that's done then I'll put all the cash towards retirement savings. I already have retirement accounts bTW.

[@CindyCaVANas]

🙋‍♀️😊

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

😊

[@Metoo1111]

Common sense should dictate that’s it’s all your choice and what you want

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

True ☺️.

[@mavahuth5044]

Yes but some people will talk into doing what they want you to do. Or what they think you should do.

[@myBIGtinyhouselife]

Also true 😊.

[@theroadhome_Liz_Summers]

@@mavahuth5044 If you give others power, i.e. the ability to "talk you into doing what they want you to do" ... is that on them or on you? I have several issues with the video premise as well as with your comment ... and I wish we could all sit together and discuss as it is challenging to express my thoughts without seeming unkind. I do not mean to be unkind at all!! BUT, my personal perspective is that we are each responsible for our own decisions and also for developing our personal strengths. To me, that means that I make my own choices and accept the consequences of those choices. What others think about my choices ... yes, I listen but ultimately I think about who I am and what I want in my life. So what @Darling.... said 😊❤

[@mavahuth5044]

@@theroadhome_Liz_Summers You are right,it is not a topic that is easily talked about. But since I don't know where you live. We will try are best. Some people are very smooth talkers. You can think about what they said and decide what to do. Sometimes you learn by doing. And yes you have to deal with the final decision. Sometimes you just do the best you can.

[@sidneyshack]

Thank you for your story. But the reality is that you do not live in a tiny house. You live in a tiny trailer and all that goes with that. Rarely allowed on private land, unless miles from civilization, and therefore mostly confined to trailer parks. as you just found out. There is nothing wrong with this. Minimalizing is a good thing and you'll more than likely have the most beautiful trailer in the park. I first became aware of tiny houses wandering in London mews, some 70 years ago, where coach houses on laneways were converted into tiny houses. This is something that is getting very slowly approved in Canada where laneways exist . When I came to Canada -from the Netherlands- I dreamed of houseboat living to find out what you have found out. It is an expensive lifestyle that does not allow much freedom of movement. Sorry, but we can't all agree : That would be boring.

[@CuzmicTarot]

Thank You, For sharing with Us Adelina. ❤ This Is such welcoming content as usual. We look forward To more.