Tips to never FALL for a love bomb from a narcissist again

[@johnmaurer2035]

True Love stories never have endings.

[@gracebe235]

@johnmaurer2035……They do when your spouse of 31 years dies too young.

[@johnmaurer2035]

@@gracebe235 Pretty sure they are still out there. Just on a higher frequency, that we cannot see. Much like radio, or TV signals.

[@gracebe235]

@@johnmaurer2035……I know what you’re saying…but they are still very hard to find. Because once they are found, they are snapped up quick! I met my true love when I was 15….he was 19….we married a year later. The good ones, the ones that like to laugh, have fun, make others happy, are responsible, etc., are snapped up young. Then, if you lose them to death, it’s pretty darn tough to find someone who shares the same values anymore. I keep running into abusive narcissists now. Not sure if it’s the times we live in, or what?! Must be the times we live in….as many of my relatives have also turned butthole on me too. They’re psychopaths….and yes, they have done criminal things. I don’t have anything to do with them anymore. Strange times indeed.

[@oneofthegoodonesok]

I absolutely hate the "i miss you" after no date and just a few texts. No thanks. That is them being desperate.

[@WitchettyMan]

Going on the first dates thinking you will never see the person again, golden info.

[@oneofthegoodonesok]

That's if they ask you on a real date and realize that sex shouldn't even be on their agenda thinking that's what a relationship is based on.

[@classicheraldgameplays5364]

​@@oneofthegoodonesok I have sex on my mind,i don't know why sex is demonized? Why are you dating? To end up in a relationship and being physical is normal and a part of relationship take your time before having sex if you want.Only sex is not on my mind i am a 27 year old virgin so you can tell by this that i am not a horny pervert but it happens naturally. I don't go into relationships expecting to have sex with person but sex is on my mind.

[@oneofthegoodonesok]

​@@classicheraldgameplays5364because some people base their relationship on just sex and no communication lol. Where is the rest of it? Whinging at 3am worthwhile because of the dude being horny? If she says no for a valid reason, listen to her and don't jump to conclusions

[@WitchettyMan]

@@oneofthegoodonesok I've had sex in the first date a time or two in my life. But what I got is that it shouldn't be the end-all of the date. If it happens, great! But go with the expectation that you'll never see the person again and there will be no disappointment.

[@oneofthegoodonesok]

​@Whatthafuck1994 exactly. Unfortunately people get all loved up and have 0 boundaries 😂 Super funny when you've worked with a few like that. Seriously, I refuse tinder as these people are all over that and some people think flings are trendy. If that's the case, don't blame anyone for pregnancy because it only takes 1 time with 2 people 😂😂 obviously some people think it's a woman's problem. Don't get me wrong, there's dodgy girls out there too. Unfortunately some people are too uneducated in that regards.

[@johnmaurer2035]

There’s good Men out there, it’s just that we’re ugly.

[@EdelweisSusie]

OMG - my chin is literally on the floor right now! I am such an open person that whilst I don't divulge too much in the early stages of dating, I did tell my ex (Narcissist) about my messy childhood/upbringing, parent with MS etc and now I see how he mirrored various things TO THE LETTER - he must literally have been making mental notes!!!! How on earth could I have been so naive? I guess I was just (a) flattered by the love-bombing and (b) too sympathetic on hearing he had similar experiences. Older and wiser. Thanks so much, Danielle.

[@oneofthegoodonesok]

Sometimes some people cannot handle honesty. Lesson learned. You'd be glad you're put of that. I have Psoriasis and Psoriatic arthritis and one thing that people should know about autoimmune diseases is that if they cause us stress for no reason, they should be held accountable because nobody wants stress in their lives, especially for healths sake. My ex owned a computer business and it's still on Google, and he did not bother chasing anyone up to be paid lol. Dumb move right there. I copped it all by landlords even when they're being paid rent lol. Pretty sad state some people really. Just glad to see at least somewhat of a happy ending and that's getting out of that type of relationship

[@richyrich4672]

Thank you Danielle

[@jacquelinegrace3]

… man!!.. on my second listen- it’s like a MAJOR mind shift 😮!!! This is gold!!! 🏆

[@carparthero]

this video was basically a harvard education in what to watch out for when there's unscrupulous people trying to weasel their way into your life either the 1st time or, trying to get back in again. danielle did a fantastic job covering all the bases and angles of what could possibly happen in a love-bombing situation. there's nothing good about narcissistic people - and it's key to be guardedly optimistic about people, with polite yet firm boundaries when you get tested. cheers 🍻 from southern ontario, canada 🇨🇦

[@oneofthegoodonesok]

I have to agree with you. She has some really informative videos on her channel which by the looks of it, has helped a lot of people. It really makes you wonder how many people even understand how love works, especially if you're in a relationship with someone or not. So many people want things today rather than be patient in love. It takes time and nobody should force anyone to be in a relationship if it feels one sided especially with the communication aspect of it

[@carparthero]

@lisasmeaton6239 danielle is fantastic. 💙 only gripe i would have is i wish she was more interactive with comments on YT. she has been doing some 30 minute live chats lately which is a great way for her and folks to build some rapport. other than that, imo she has the best format. -brings up a topic, explains it for a bit, gives practical examples and solutions of how to deal with the situations at hand, in a 3 minute format. -she has a nice use of deadpan humor too. 😆 i watch a few other channels. (dr. les carter, dr. ramani, jess stanley, danish bashir) all mentioned folks are good sources. but danielle's 3 minute format works best, esp if i'm at work and am on coffee/lunch breaks. all the best, steven

[@oneofthegoodonesok]

​@carparthero absolutely! A sense of humour is a must! I follow some of the others and I absolutely agree with you. It really pays to be able to laugh and enjoy life rather than worry about what narcissistic people say. No point sitting at home feeling sorry for one's self because that gets you nowhere. All the best to you too Steve! 🙂

[@anneyoung2310]

Should I feel slighted if I have dated several narcissists (not realizing they were narcissists), yet never been love bombed? My kids say my standards are v. high, so maybe my "love bombing" standards were too high for the narcissist, or perhaps, love bombing to me is action. The narc. is usually not about that.

[@desertweasel6965]

Look, I will say this. My mother and father knew each other for 3 months before they got married and they have been.married 55 years. This was back in the 6os so it was probably a lot different then.

[@Angelface11]

Yeah some things were but also you just can't go on one circumstance or plenty of people who did that and aren't happy so just basing it on one couple isn't wise

[@drumdad54sdl47]

With a narc, be prepared to have the gifts they've given you held over your head after any disagreements.. "After all I've done for you??" What you thought was a loving generous gesture was actually transactional. You now OWE them & are indebted.

[@olzzon]

I have a few Channels to help me through this experience that are very helpful but no one nails everything down in a short amount of time per clip as you . Everything you say is so incredibly scary on point in every way in the traumatic experience that is narccisism . Wish i had known all this before these last 4 years that ruined my life . Thank you for your work keep enlighten people so the hopefully won't have to go through this , nothing in life is harder to come back from than this . Keep up your great Content in this horrible topic to help survivours and others to not fall in this black hole .

[@johnmaurer2035]

Think I’m gonna die alone, surrounded by 30 Cats.

[@Den-pf5wz]

Ditto or a few dogs. Cats will eat a dead body .

[@desertweasel6965]

You cant tell that to a man, because he is hypnotized by that thing yall have down there.

[@oneofthegoodonesok]

Especially when they think they're superhuman in bed yet have absolutely no idea on even that! They go straight to whatever because they're horny. They whinge if you just want to sleep after a loooooong day.

[@izawaniek2568]

True. Thank you for great advice.

[@jacquelinegrace3]

Love this advice!!! Wish I’d known all of these when I was 25!!!! Danielle, it might be time to write a small dating book!! 💍The Rules III💝 😉

[@karma3184]

👍🙏🏼🇮🇳 thank you for exposing the truth n facts.

[@sac967]

Thank you for sharing this!

[@KNOBY72]

She is on point

[@ΕλένηΣαμακλή]

why it's hurt so so much when the narc is a parent ? So scared to trust again

[@flyingsaucer1268]

I’m excited….

[@alecstuart5266]

Narc cap mgmt sent a pro..

[@Angelface11]

Don't share your life story not for a long time. Yep they will mirror it and they will take it over as if it happened to them because women are very compassionate a lot and a sucker for a little sad puppy so be careful out there I know a lot of us just are open and like to be truthful but you just can't be. It's not about not being truthful it's just about not sharing and having wisdom being wise as a serpent gentle as a dove You just can't share everything even though you want to. Not until you see who somebody is way later on

[@robking9857]

Danielle, firstly I'd like to say thank you. I am recovering from a divorce with a Narc. I did not know the meaning of the word until I began healing following the divorce, and man what an education this has been. I have listened, read, and watched everything I can on the topic, even saw a therapist for a short while and a hypnotherapist still. What I learn from you is succinct and to the point. It is also real-world applicable advice and that is what sets you apart. This particular video is not only informative but strategic. I have found that women I have dated since the divorce have been narcissists and I have been able to scent them out immediately. What you and others who give back following your experience or as a therapist is so worthy of praise. As a result, I can look back and see a string of narcissists in my history from family to business partners to girlfriends to both wives and they cover the spectrum, mostly covert narcissists though. I realized that I was attracting these women, so I sought out to find help in healing my past traumas. I made the mistake over the years of dismissing my own trauma as being less traumatic than what others endured. I belittled myself for being traumatized. I learned that my trauma is no less impactful that the worst thing you can imagine happening to someone else. My worst trauma is no different than theirs. Again, thank you for giving or giving back as I do not know your story, but you are compelled for whatever reason and many of us appreciate your efforts. Namaste.