Tired of the perfume game - perfume addiction. Dark side of having a perfume channel.

Bit of a rant - long chatty discussion about perfume addiction & consumerism, and how I'm over it.
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[@thesimplechiclife]

HEY GUYS so sorry about that - there was an uploading error the first time and the voice glitched out halfway through. Hopefully this one is better 💕 Calling myself out for my toxic perfume behavior!

[@lindamayer4697]

Don't apologize! I'm just grateful you tried again. I appreciate your commentary on this so much. I have a similar problem.

[@almatoledo1608]

I must admit: I have discovered years later why some parfums were believed to be very special, i.e. Narcotic Venus. Took me years to have an epiphany.

[@almatoledo1608]

My justification for perfume purchases: I can always gift it to my family. See? Insane!

[@lauren5681]

You inspire me to only keep what I need and enjoy and not to just continuously consume with no purpose. Love your channel and honesty

[@lovedaycarey-lewis2778]

Almost everything is huge on youtube ... " huge perfume haul, huge clothing haul, huge makeup haul, huge book haul " .. and then is another huge ... huge declutter .

[@ceciliaexp]

💯

[@2023lvj]

Where are the huge beewbs? 🤨

[@almatoledo1608]

Verónica, another lady on this platform, told me -when I commented I was punished due to perfume over-spending (self-chastisement), she said: It is Self-Care... not punishment when you choose not to succumb to spending on that which is not necessary.

[@shimmering2light]

After a while it becomes more about chasing that high or thrill you get from finding a new Holy Grail or one that is a LOVE.

[@poisonedchalice]

Yes!

[@princesslopez4335]

Absolutely currently going through a huge declutter and only keeping 5-7 fragrances I really need 1-2 bottles per occasion, work/ date night/ summer ect!

[@2023lvj]

Happy is in the doing. Everywhere.

[@KillingKathy]

“How did it become so hard to love what we have?” Thanks for this ❤ this video meant a lot

[@edithobrien7118]

It is an ongoing chase for perfection ...

[@daisylavenderlove]

That's how I feel. Almost as if I'm on the hunt for my scent soul-mate. Like what is my perfect signature scent? It's too expensive to keep looking lol. I was happier when I just took a whiff in a store, liked it, & rocked one til it ran out.

[@lindamayer4697]

I personally would really like to see your declutter. I like hearing your thoughts, you call it rambling, but it helps me process my own stuff.

[@thesimplechiclife]

thank you 😊 💕

[@azrak3268]

I completely understand and support you because I feel the same! When I reduced my perfume collection to a 5, I felt so much happier and I noticed I’m not feeding my perfume addiction anymore. It felt so good that I even went so far that I decided to keep only 2 perfumes. And those are Xerjoff Accento Overdose for special occasions and Narciso Rodriguez Pure Musc for every day. I’m happy I can finally say I have a signature scent and I like the idea that my boyfriend can recognize me by my perfume 😄

[@ethelolaotse8920]

My philosophy with any purchase, especially fragrances and other pricey items is, "If i don't leave the store and think about it for several nights and days, i am not going back for it."

[@JMigUK]

Totally agree and sympathise, back in January I realised that I had acquired what I wanted and decided to enjoy what I have and be happy/confortable with it, and I’ve never looked back. Good luck with your journey 🙏🏻

[@littlepreciousthings7]

I did the same a month ago.

[@TheSantaMaria1]

Love this video and appreciate how transparent and vulnerable you were with us. Very valid points to ponder within the fragrance community for sure.

[@nancyweisenberger]

I have a very healthy perfume collection. Around 75 bottles. I LOVE my perfumes and I love trying new ones. I couldn’t imagine not tying and buying new perfumes. BUT, if I want a new perfume, I have to let one go. I’m strict with that rule.

[@sweetsimpleslowlife2709]

The fragrance community is usually very kind and friendly, but you are not the first video creator who mentions mean comments. Personally, I couldn’t care less about other people’s opinions on what I say and do, however I’m not on KZbin being judged. Mila Leblanc is literally the only person in this community who is unapologetic and extremely blunt in her rants and chats, and it’s refreshing to listen to her albeit somewhat abrasive or even shockingly entertaining sometimes 😂

[@simplynoelia]

I completely get what you're saying because I have a small perfume channel in Argentina, and I am a teacher/ scent/ beauty lover who wants to share her thoughts on perfumes, but sometimes I feel the same way. I feel anxiety about my growing collection, or sometimes I feel trapped trying to get the newest launch or trend. It's exhausting Thanks for sharing your thoughts

[@lindamayer4697]

I personally love your collection update videos, nice and long and chatty, with your coffee cup and just describing amd sniffing your perfumes and updating us on how you feel about each one now. ❤❤❤

[@JaclynneM]

You are speaking to my soul. My collection has grown so much and there are so many that I like but don’t love. I have felt all the feelings you are feeling. Thanks for being so inspirational 🩷

[@chaimschaims2898]

Smell is literally a component that can influence your feeling. So if you suddenly don't like a scent anymore, that's not surprising. Suppose you like a scent and you go shopping and put on this scent, suddenly you get into a fight with a customer in the store. Then your subconscious can create an aversion to this smell.

[@annac6457]

True. People associate scents with events, people, feelings... And the outcome is not always positive. Also, wanting everyone in the room to smell you is not okay IMHO. Many people don't like strong fragrances.

[@fleurfred00]

Thank you for your honest thoughts. I love perfume as well and I feel that pressure even though I don't make videos about it. Social medias in general have become a consuming black hole. We have to find the right balance, otherwise you get loss in this.

[@BohoGuru]

I feel the same way. Your first perfume declutter videos from a while back inspired me to cut my collection back. I had around 300 perfumes. I’m down to 115 and still feel I have too much 😬😭

[@goodfay]

You do. We do

[@user-ce5ez4up4x]

I agree, I love fragrance collection videos by people who don’t have a huge collection. I get bored watching “fragrance channels.” Especially the ones who come across as trying to sell me something.

[@goodfay]

Truth.

[@TressesOfAlexis]

Thank you for your transparency! Love that you shared that it’s natural for your interests to change over time. Great video.

[@almatoledo1608]

I am floored! I started to work on a perfume hoping I would love it and sometimes I convince myself that I do! Right now I am waiting to "need" Amouage Guidance and La Perla Possibilities, as well as Ouverture by Sospiro. I have not purchased full bottles yet, just sampling decant but I actually started to have this same conversation with self about wanting to compel myself to like!!

[@thesimplechiclife]

I always try to talk myself into liking something as well that is overhyped. It's a bad habit that I really need to break!

[@dear_totheheart]

I desire authenticity and sincerity, I think this approach is more intentional and special and holds meaning I applaud and am so grateful for your breakthrough and future path!

[@vatrinataylor7034]

I enjoyed this video, and it’s how I’m feeling now. It’s so refreshing to hear someone else in this world feels the same way!!!!❤

[@angelpaschall4378]

After I found my scent profile, buying more or experimenting just didn't work. The same regarding my makeup. I know what works and I'm happy.

[@mediocrebankai3114]

Same! Learning to live with this conclusion is hard but Im slowly letting things go that don’t serve me. Trying hard not to want to want things!

[@cozyvibes1200]

Wow...just yesterday I watched a similar video on another perfume channel...I totally understand and agree at this point. I buy perfumes only if I really like them and your honest opinion really helps with the decision. Be true to yourself and enjoy your life! Best wishes!

[@Angel-yf2yz]

Personally I love watching declutter videos to see how we change our perspectives about certain perfumes but I don’t like watching hauls 😂 is that weird? I also love project use-it-up contents to finish certain body sprays, lotions, and perfumes.

[@paula24659]

Same, i am so overwhelmed by hauls and i stopped watching them, but there is something relaxing and satysfying about declutter videos. 😅

[@yessibee5236]

I would really enjoy your declutter. Do what brings you joy, I’ll still be here watching 😊

[@lindamacrae342]

You go girl! I've watch your channel from your humble beginnings. Personally I love love you going back to you!@❤❤

[@sharonhurlburt3715]

I like the declutters too as it gives a valuable perspective...but thanks for all videos...

[@Rasberryswirl-vd6no]

On a different note; I got that rice toner you had in your last skin care video and I LOVE IT !!!!❤

[@fizaa7120]

That’s a very wise decision. I started watching your videos because you have reasonable perfume collection . To be honest I have stopped watching your channel when you stared buying niche perfumes. Very happy for your new decision. I like your organising videos and when you share your thoughts on different topics. Good luck

[@user-ub2md5lo3u]

Great information & tips I will try this 💯👍 Thank you 🥰❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ Your honesty and genuine heart!!! Shines!!!!💯

[@fvnaticbychoice]

I agree 100%. got into fragrance in 2020 as well and I feel so overstimulated by it all. by the time I have the money for one popular scent, another one drops and ohhh it’s niche 😫 it’s like im always trying to keep up when it should be fun 😢

[@daisylavenderlove]

Yes! & these things are so expensive!

[@curioclassicperfumeguide]

We all know you are always honest with your reviews. Thank again for the upload!

[@alepou200]

There are a few perfume channels that I find “healthy” they don’t post every other day and the perfumes are perfumes they love from their personal collections. You said a few times that you are not a “perfume reviewer” but you are here and you post and you influence people wether you like it or not, like you got influenced to buy the same perfume 3 times and decluttered it 3 times. Also find the longevity/silage very objective as well as some people will say this perfume lasts long and another person will say it doesn’t.

[@nataliawibawati3063]

True,I never watched anything gifted or PR...the "reviewers" is getting those perfumes for free,even getting paid. And they Absolutely trying to sell it to us.And here we are blind bought those perfumes and ended didn't like. I mean new bottles every 2 or 3 days is not normal, it's absolutely gifted to them/free bottles

[@reginamartinez6547]

This video hit home. I have always loved a good fragrance but used to have about 8 scents I owned and rotated based on season. I recently wanted a new summer scent. This led me down a rabbit hole, and now my collection has tripled in size. I have been thinking to myself, when does it end. I know I don’t want to have so many fragrances that they will go bad before I can finish them.

[@iniudonkang8712]

I really needed to hear dis. U have made so much sense. I'm going to save dis video. Thank u so much. And yeah I watched Hayley's video on dis same topic. I appreciated it so much. Dis truly is an addiction n like other addictions, is not healthy in any way shape or form, to me at least.

[@roxw7221]

I capped at 50 bottles. I have about 30 travel size or decants under 5 ml. Been doing more 5 ml decants if I really want to try something. I don’t declutter. I use up what I love.

[@missfabidia]

Do you mou mean 30 travel sizes and 20 full bottles ?

[@layercakearts]

Yay! Good for you, your voice will help others think about this too. Especially important if people are going into debt trying to keep up.

[@tigranes.]

it takes guts to speak out about this true strength is found in this. Less is better you feel light. Things you own end up possessing your mind.

[@MsArlet08]

got into fragrance for the very same reason - I agree at a certain point watching so many decluttering vids makes me feel like it’s far less intentional than it could be . No shade to collectors if that’s what you like , but happy to see you’re heading in this direction :)

[@carolepigeon]

Totally agree with you!…but I’m always on the hunt to find “the ONE!!!”…

[@jenniferpagola4790]

Thank you for your honesty. I think you are a very special person and I have grown to love spending time watching your videos and listening to your calming voice. If you decide that making videos about health or whatever is important to you, I will continue to support you and enjoy your videos. The most important thing is that you do what feels right for you. Wishing you all the best!

[@thesimplechiclife]

Thank you so much ❤

[@milena3630]

Please make that declutter video for us. We love you❤

[@AlliBaba1234]

Excellent, well-thought-out points that resonated a lot with me, thank you for this video! PS, you inspired me to NOT go on Amazon to buy a perfume tray, but to instead use one that I already had. It’s not the most beautiful or amazing, but it is doing a great job.

[@Dearest_Kenyetta]

I agree with this video and everything you have said 100%. You are speaking so much TRUTH!

[@iheartsamantha]

i love your voice it’s so soothing 🩷

[@renee8383]

I'm looking forward to watching your channel, perfume is nice but I know you have so much more interesting things to offer 💕

[@mellyo7262]

Really appreciate this video ❤

[@lellushkaasmr6232]

This video is a true gem, a pink diamond, in the perfumer youtube world. 🙏🏼🧡

[@jamiejazz8194]

I used to wear a uniform to work, and I miss that. No time spent deciding what to wear, etc. I loved the consistency and simplicity.

[@ItsReginaRamos]

CONSTANT OUTFLUX! So many greats discontinued ugh

[@nadadm7599]

Thank you so much for this video!!

[@jennyf251]

Ilythia, I will keep watching your channel no matter what videos you make! I just love your vibes & calm energy. I also enjoy minimalism & lifestyle videos, which is why I followed you to begin with. I’ll always be a subscriber, don’t mind the haters 🤍

[@karenblau1801]

I appreciate your honesty in this video.

[@brvndxxxn]

I love the clean girl aesthetic too. I was recent watching Juli Fox on Emily’s podcast and she said clean girl is out it’s all about dirty girl lol. Thank god I usually lean towards vintage classics that usually have animalistic traits. Wear what you want whenever you want, don’t let just anyone influence you. Do what you want. Go with your nose and instinct. Clinique Aromatics Elixir is my signature and I’m a 27 he/she/they. It smells like a bright sunshine hardworking morning to me

[@HiddenTreasure09]

Loved this! Excellent video! TFS 💕💯🎯

[@v-3555]

I actually like your decluttters :( but i respect if you dont want to upload it

[@ClaudiaB6472]

This is very honest, intelligent, meaningful and wise.

[@odilia1479]

Same here, I like to wacht someone small perfume collectie or perfume dent/ emptie’s

[@vanellasky7376]

Great video thank you for your honesty

[@shelley_gr8fulgirl]

New subscriber here😊Loved this video and I am one who lives ab 2 hours from stores, so I blind buy a lot. I am very disciplined to return any I do not like; however I’m wondering where “decants” can be found. I have often thought, I have several fragrances that I love but wi t ever be able to wear and would love to share w/others via decant so I’m interested to know more about it! Thank you💕

[@reneecrotty6910]

I feel this too!!!! Sometimes I look at my collection and wish I could just own 3 or 5 And yes!! It's the hunt for the PERFECT scent!!! Its so overwhelming when I look at all the scents!!! I feel negative

[@dianaford003]

Wow, I could’ve made this topic myself (except I don’t have a channel 😅). Totally support this, and I’m looking forward to decluttering as well…perfumes, clothes, furniture….everything!

[@Michellep2023]

Love your transparency. You are right about perfume reviews because everyone loved Flower Bomb and I hated it

[@TracyD2]

I’m glad I received a sample first because it is horrible.

[@Marta13391]

Uauuu,me encanto tu video .Haz en tu canal lo que te hace feliz. La gente auténtica es muy rara estos dias asi que porfavor sigue fiel a tus pensamientos y corazón. 😊

[@ceciliaexp]

Estoy de acuerdo. ✨

[@felipecampos9734]

Today I find it much more interesting to have one smell people know me for as well

[@kizzaevelyn2416]

Well said!

[@jocelynel-fab5214]

Thank you for sharing.

[@carolinapaes8562]

Your words have reached this Brazilian woman who was exactly thinking about this. Thank you! I really, really want to find a fragrance that my son, husband, loved ones and colleagues will remember me by.

[@Rene411]

I totally get it. Do you.

[@stacyb6461]

Yes, I don’t like the decision fatigue. My collection is down to 11 in 1 tray and it’s amazing here. I still want to get it down to about to get 6 -8 with 3 being things people recognize me for

[@sidselalbertsen898]

❤ understand where that comes from 100❤

[@davinarussom2039]

I Soooooo needed to hear this!!! Thank you💕💕

[@christinaschramm-n.3156]

I agree with everything you say. 👍 Btw Einstein wore always a identical mansuit 8:08

[@hotelcartelradio]

Subscribed. Just for the good sense and practical logic İ heard.

[@ADRIANSAVED4U1217]

THIS was such a good share!! In my personal opinion it was also necessary ❤️

[@ingrid1001]

I have to watch it later. But I expected this would happen and I was feeling the same today

[@curioclassicperfumeguide]

wow, Great Video. Thanks

[@ADRIANSAVED4U1217]

Sad to admit.. Many days i literally do "any mini miny moe," bcz i can't decide / too many to choose from.

[@dieselboy77]

I used to have 120 perfumes but I am now down to 97 ..I plan to go down to 5-6 perfumes per season .I used to wear different ones every day but I missed having a signature where people actually remember me from the fragrance I wear . So now I wear same fragrance when I go out

[@patrickbennett439]

I have about 100 colognes that I cant part with and thats after decluttering and trying to minimalize. I just cant.. 😩

[@michelleodom548]

You are making alot if sense.

[@peroperoc]

So agree

[@debbietaylor9241]

I agree! Love this video. I’ve discovered that my favourite note is Rose, so my collection is rose centred. And I don’t buy the obvious niche rose fragrances which are very expensive where I live. I like to hunt for discontinued rose fragrances or difficult to find fragrances…now that’s a fun game. I normally find perfumes I love and they’re not expensive. Dramatically cuts down on my purchasing and I have more fun when I find the ‘unicorn’ fragrance!

[@dre_nusha]

Soo good!!! Thank you for your honesty!!! I agree 💯%💖

[@jenestes2099]

I search on the daily for a fragrance I’m honestly a little over the chase to be honest don’t get me wrong I love fragrance but I feel like for the past 3 years I still haven’t found my holy grail at this point I feel like I’ve spent more money then any joy that I’ve brought to my life if that makes any sense.. I have so many I don’t wear that I’d love to sell to a loving home

[@christinaschramm-n.3156]

19:49 😄 no, you don’t have to love ysl libre ❤️

[@clausm2203]

Great video

[@Tangentbordsblues]

Ordered around 10 highend (some super highend) fragrances this past month, im so in debt.. Oh well i will do better

[@mariajesusmorales6121]

💌

[@candice446]

But decants if you must have them.

[@Tangentbordsblues]

Le labo, Parfums-Dusita de marly, fragrance du bois 🤮🤮🤮

[@fizaa7120]

Still looking forward to seeing declutter video and normal perfume collection.

[@prodigalson1]

Buy perfume body oil. Its cheaper. ✌️

[@apartirdelos50s32]

❤👏

[@slayerofsatan1049]

I agree with everything you said. ❤

[@2023lvj]

PERFUME GAME 😂😂😂😂

[@johndickson2138]

If only the narrative was a bit more minimal