Lessons from our exes... | Episode 116

[@FAITH_CASSY]

My ex taught me that no matter how good of a women you are you’ll never be good enough for a guy who isn’t ready to be a man

[@edinahkendi9871]

Thisssssss Or no matter how much you've worked on yourself doesn't guarantee that a good man will date you or you won't be in another toxic relationship

[@dianavihenda3019]

Thisssss is deep 😢

[@lzgaks7825]

Sizzzzz. Very Corrrect We need to put this on a billboard. We all need to have this encrypted in our minds pre rship .

[@catherinenaserian8830]

So true

[@linetmutheu]

I met my husband on Bumble last year May. We got married in October, and I moved to the Netherlands this year Feb. I had my list of 19 non negotiable things that i wanted my future husbandto have. We celebrate 1 year Anniversary next week, all I can say is truly God CAN, AND WILL answer your prayers. Be very specific and don't be afraid to ask for the very best. He created all of us and knows the perfect person for you. My husband is everything I ever dreamt and more, from a life partner . I now just live in total gratitude everyday.

[@WambuiBobo-yl8bm]

Waoh Would love to try bumble one day

[@gladysnyambura5240]

This awesome siz . Have learnt to be very specific and not afraid to ask for the very best.

[@Mrs.naturalez]

Amen

[@vvvvvvw915]

MY non-negotiables °Not violent and No anger issues °Emotionally intelligent and Available °Have A belief system[fear of God] °Compatibility °Financial responsibility °Caring and intentional with me and our relationship °Good conversationalist °Good hygiene practices °Can commit and be loyal °Not Selfish °Sense of family [healead or healing any parternal issues or sibling issues he has] °Sexually responsible °Make sure he actually likes and values me °Stability

[@Rebeccamwas13]

My ex taught me that ,,never find love in a lonely place,it will have u settling for anything.. Know urself,love urself n be happy with where u are that man is adding to what u already have

[@joycemburu8041]

This!!! I'm in that space where I'm so lonely and I try to stay away from guys lest I fall out of desperation.

[@cirutom]

A friend of mine once said 'usiende soko na njaa' 😂 it hit home so bad😅 coz I always wanted to get married so I always looked at the goal instead of the relationship

[@ichooseviolence2532]

​@@cirutomso what do you mean? We cheat first or

[@rachealwambui3413]

I learnt from my ex that sometimes a man will need you when he's in a certain phase of his life and when he's done with the phase so is he with you.

[@mugambisharon3744]

😢

[@salomeshiran1660]

Alaa😭 like a rebound kinda thing?

[@edithkanja8002]

Saaad

[@ichooseviolence2532]

Women do this a lot too

[@theshenanigans545]

Lesson from my ex: STAY MILES AWAY FROM BROKE/STINGY MEN. THEY WILL BE STINGY EVEN TO THEIR KID

[@edinahkendi9871]

Gurllll😂😂😂you screamt to the understanding gfs

[@trizarabuku]

When Jo said, 'Heal your dad wounds otherwise you'll keep dating your dad over and over again' Felt it to my core, yho😅

[@Lily_muthengi]

Yoooh, i felt that deep

[@RotchellMiller]

When Lydia said “In my own personal growth I’m going to align more accurately to people who speak to my soul” 😭

[@wambuigachoki7645]

What my recent ex has taught me is ,you can be doing so well but one day they might wake up one day and not choose to be with you anymore,so love yourself a little more and move from that space asap

[@bettykubai927]

What I learnt: Compatibility is not a You problem. They might be cute but you really have different core values and it is okay to move on to the next. 2. You can be the nicest person and have all the qualities, but you can not force a man to reciprocate, or choose you. Songa kama injili. Love the episode. Why are these partnerships sleeping on you. Advertise even cooking oil and we will engage with the content😅😅 #TMI to the world for sure

[@graciakinyanjui6937]

exactly wel said

[@SafariByHal]

Ata Royco… do a cooking podcast or a mukabang 😂😂😂 havé ketchup we will get that ketchup we love TMI

[@allthingsengineering2121]

I have seen alot of growth on Murugis emotional experience ..she has become alot kinder and gives more grace to love.absolutely incredible

[@traceytina357]

Watching this after a devastating heartbreak. Definitely what I needed to hear. A lesson I learnt from my ex is that you just have to be yourself. You don't have to change, you don't have to fall off from the things you like to accommodate a love that won't accept you. In tears, but holding on strong sistas!!!❤

[@snyderarusa9148]

You will be okay babygirl... Just grieve until it's all good,,, trust that you are going to be okay

[@mercykiaritha350]

Ughh going through it too ! We'll be fine

[@traceytina357]

@@mercykiaritha350 yeap !!

[@chidoshayanowako8776]

Me too. He just ghosted me. No explanation whatsover

[@zwad3423]

It's going to be okay, stay strong

[@nyatichiomwenga2536]

Lyd's reaction to Murugi's ex beating up the sister😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@olivengaruiya7222]

congratulations on the win, I decided to hear you guys after seeing the award. I wondered what you guys talk about and decided to listen. After listening 3 podcast am here wishing you guys existed when I was at my 20s. You guys are big sisters for younger girls out here. My new fav podcast.

[@MagrethAkilah]

People have started asking me......why do you always smile like that on Wednesdays 😂😂😂😂 common it's my favorite day in the week 😂😂😂❤❤❤

[@LivingWithFareed]

Am going to throw my two cents and the conversation for men as much as you said that we are the chosers you still have to be chosen back in terms of whether the woman your interested in will actually have you. So just as much women are chosen but they also have the power to chose the guy back so both have power in terms of whether a relationship happens

[@edinahkendi9871]

Interesting to hear A solid king betweener

[@yvonnemwangi2404]

Ever since Lyd said that watching Ads earns you guys money...I never skip any ad...I love seeing you guys win❤

[@EvakarenMuriithi]

Thats it's okay to still love them and let them go anyway. Not all endings have to be ugly.☺️☺️

[@ibrahimbintbisola5549]

Of course

[@carolinemuchira6907]

I move on peacefully but got nothing to love honestly

[@JackieKimathi]

Heavy in this

[@LookUpEverytime]

I have learned the foundation of a relationship usually determines the trajectory of that relationship. I recently broke form this lady who I found she was sharing nudes with another guy. I talked to her and forgave her only for her to feel guilty the next day. Also I have learnt that the best quality you should look for in a partner is a person who can be remorseful for their mistakes. Get someone who is kind. Let the sex be in sync and finally, a good communicator (Someone you can hold a conversation without being defensive).

[@maureenwambui2992]

Lydia!!! Ding! Ding! Ding! I'm with you on the LISTENING!!😮‍💨😮‍💨 I'm listening a lot more in this season❤❤❤❤❤

[@shammahnzaana214]

And congratulations on the pulse award 😭💕🤭

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you 🥹🫶🏽

[@abigaelrotich9688]

When yall said that ppl dont need money to treat you well. . .so i learnt that lesson from my last ex. He spent a grand total of sh 150 on me in the whole 5 months that we were together. He was a resident gynacologist in a big regional hospital. I still feel my gut wrench when i remember how much i tolerated just to be with a doctor. I still havent forgiven myself😅

[@Mercyree344]

Wuehh😂😂😭😭😭😭😭. Am triggered oh Lord

[@ingridnatalie3545]

Grand total 😆😆

[@Silentcheerlady]

I'm learning to forgive myself too!!!! A pilot strung me along and all our dates were in my parking lot ati because he liked my estate. Ghaiiiiii. Once I asked if we could go on a proper date (he had said he loves me mara kadhaaaaa) he said sure and we never did!!

[@perismkala4275]

150 shillings 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤦 for 5 months

[@ichooseviolence2532]

It seems you were poor yourself that's why you looking into men's pockets

[@anyangolovenah7703]

I really enjoyed the conversation. I hope we all find love in the right place.

[@ValaxyRealities]

One of my ex's taught me that true love exists and the other taught me the importance of self love.

[@feinussayid2938]

My ex taught me I’m the problem 😂 you know how u think people need fixing Alafu u sit back and reflect and realise that’s how it’s suppose to be it’s only your reality is messed coz of your traumas 😂 I walked around with the victim mentality but I’m the problem. I have anger issues. I am avoidant. I give the silent treatment. I believe it’s my way or the high way. Basically I’m fucked up🙈 but Atleast I know now and is willing to work on them in shaa Allah

[@edinahkendi9871]

The accountability tho👏 I wanna be you...being responsible for our actions

[@Nass_612]

Me and you both😂

[@rachealwambui3413]

yes. I've been trying to heal my daddy issues and a toxic childhood. In as much as I think my ex hurt me , I also acknowledge I played a major role in our relationship ending. I'm willing to work on my victim mentality, anger issues and trust issues. I want to be better for myself and also for my next man/relationship

[@feinussayid2938]

@@rachealwambui3413go gurl 🎉🎉🎉🎉👏🏼💗

[@GambaWithJ]

Commitment manifests when the other person's verbal words and actions are married

[@joyceyugi9266]

CONGRATULATIONS ON THE PULSE AWARDS 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤❤❤❤💯💯💯. Very well deserved

[@mercywambui4498]

❤❤

[@lzgaks7825]

What i learnt from my ex . Being told he need time to put his "house" in order so that he can commit to you fully is just a brutal way of keeping you there 😂😂😂😂. The truth is his other rship has picked up and thriving .

[@catherinecheptirim5476]

Complacency: That is the truth. This makes you brew so much toxicity in a relationship.

[@hadassahwanjira]

i have listened to every episode, thank you for recognising us. WE LOVE YOU!

[@sophiekabiru8361]

and this episode is after the plus award ....and we did it 🎉🎉🎉🎉 ...am so proud that I voted 😊😊😊😊 congratulations again my people ❤❤❤

[@catemashamemoments2590]

Peaceful love exist where you can be yourself 100%, good men exist supportive and secure breed

[@gretelbexmulekye84]

The most important thing I have learnt from TMI is that it can get better. And it does. Thank you.

[@Perfectly_Abby]

You Ladies are Phenomenal. Your content is Top tier relatable, thank you for the work you put in ❤❤

[@shammahnzaana214]

Welcome back Lyd 🥰

[@hopemor1720]

Please tell me why I've been waiting since morning for TMI😂😂😂😂, and it was uploaded and I watched it an hour later?😢😢😢 Ugh... Let me tell you Sally Mae, my favorite day of the week ❤❤❤❤❤❤ TMI TMI TMI TMI🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉

[@juliecacy_dishes9833]

😂😂😂Sally Mae

[@Jadena589]

This is definitely the best episode of TMI i have watched,,but i refuse to believe it's the best, because the best is yet to come!! Greaatt topiiicc. I have learned alloottt fr

[@gracenjeri1917]

Wednesdays are for TMI!!❤

[@bernicefenton]

y'all are doing the lord's work at making the dating pool tolerable

[@marieesther9362]

Definitely the best podcast have ever come across

[@itslovelytee2252]

Not it’s a mass order going to every office across Nairobi 💀🤣🤣🤣

[@paulinewambui1538]

So much wisdom from these ladies.. every episode i learn something knowledge, TMI is therapy to me

[@mercykiaritha350]

The way these two women school me 😢 this topic was right on the money.

[@eldabettanabucha9130]

Just learnt about you during the pulse award, and im so glad to be among the new subscribers ❤❤❤ this was enlightening

[@hamelynmotika2506]

Now I'm subscribed to Tmi with all my accounts. Someone show me where VIP followers sit, please. Anyway, I love your show guys, you keep it real on so many levels. Zile kidogo I might not agree with, I let slide.

[@enabennett3129]

Everytime I listen to your episodes I’m reminded that I should start therapy😂

[@Mercyree344]

Yoh sis. Me toooo😂🥺🥺. I’m triggered

[@dorothykanana2623]

not 'Lady Danbury me' Lydia😂😂

[@marciajames9434]

You all scored A's on this one; when Lydia talk about familiarity and unable to recognize the red flags as a result was like several LIGHT BULBs went on....stay sweet ladies

[@mahorotatianah8186]

Not me tapping the like button even before I dig into the topic. Coz am 💯 sure it's a bomb. We learn to relearn those people whom we used to know 😂😂

[@tmipodcastke]

😂😂😂😂

[@mahorotatianah8186]

@@tmipodcastke anyways the lessons come only after we’ve left. So not settling for less(less care,love,empathy,less MONEY!!)will forever be my standing point.

[@QueenB376]

My ex taught me to put myself first regardless of the situation (AKA being selfish).

[@letstalkkenya2]

Lydia's wisdom...❤❤❤

[@wanjiru_m]

Now I'm in love with Lydia's first boyfriend..... I genuinely hope he is happy 😊😅

[@estherkavindu]

I agree with that dating app situation. I like selecting what I want. Not waiting for someone to choose me

[@albertinaallan5751]

Its definitely tmiiiiiiiii🎉🎉❤❤

[@GloryWawirak]

Eeeeiii....y'all invested in SHOUTING in this episode😂

[@EstherMuthamba]

Finalllyyy...its Wednesday😂❤❤my favourite day of the week because of you two😅

[@GambaWithJ]

Love can absolutely be peaceful

[@ivonna7916]

Ati tulisema we are commenting after watching🥲....... I will tho, in the meeantiimee🤣

[@wendywairimu2060]

It's the daddy wounds for meeeeee!!!

[@janetokumu4904]

Weh,this r/ship field has a loooot to learn and unlearn

[@graciellahnjeri3368]

You girls really make me happy. I just love you. ❤❤❤❤

[@elizabethwairimu9050]

I extend a huge amount of grace to where people are placed,,,, I love this girl❤

[@rachealmburu11]

Heeeh....my ladies, I have other core values but height is definitely one of them. I'm like 5'6 and I have an ex who was waaay shorter than I. He had both good and bad sides but the one that I didn't like the most was the attention seeking. He kept looking for that recognition in a crowd. Sorry to say but short man syndrome is a thing. Especially for men. They tend to over compensate for their height.

[@mirriammaina6860]

My ex taught me that a man is who he is, not who I believe he is.

[@genylachieng9856]

I'm that person who has listened/watched every single episode. I LOVE YOU GUYS keep going hard🎉❤

[@bevstella]

Not me liking the video even before the intro, you guys😍

[@janechukwu6682]

Why do y’all keep saying ‘Jane’ ? 😂 I love TMI! ❤ No cap!!!

[@aumalucy1094]

Lydia's first reason is 💯

[@janeritahbabirye1881]

Girls winning 🎉🎉🎉 Hi Lyd, Jen's already subscribed 2 years ago😅

[@thisiswanjikusworld]

I learnt that love is being yourself in the relationship.

[@nyamburakimani3726]

I have watched all episodes apart from 2 that was to triggering .you add value......I have learnt ,I have enjoyed and that's why

[@beloncekamz2821]

Karibu nyumbani Lyd☺️. It's Definitely TMIIII 🎶keep it 💯. If only i could subscribe again every episode, I would😎. Quality stuff✨. #WCW ❤❤

[@paprika7930]

@57:25 When Lyd said "Take my mic, take my mic" 😪😩

[@lilianakeyo3976]

Murugi being real ❤

[@stacykaykenya343]

Am that person who has watched all episodes of tmi and I go back to rewatch

[@nyatukantenga2629]

Not Murugi saying she experienced her ex beating up his sister 😂😂😂😂😂😂. I'm sorry but imenimaliza. I don't know why i found it so funny 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂.

[@ChristineAbel-b3m]

😂😂😂

[@ichooseviolence2532]

Murugi is a bed to bed midfielder

[@Tessthebaddie]

Wildebeests were just migrating then boom 😂😂😂😂

[@katheywangui6813]

We love it here and we love you both 🤗

[@carletteharriet9684]

My ex taught me no matter the acrobatics you do in bed if you aint the one he wants you aint, and no matter how beautiful you are you cannot compete when the woman he wants. Cheers to lessons❤️❤️❤️

[@rebeccawambugu4035]

You can be the one he wants and he will still cheat 😂😂😂😂 lack of sexual discipline is a thiiiiiing🥲

[@StellaNyambura-qi2hb]

Was just waiting 😍I love Wednesdays😍

[@tmipodcastke]

We love Wednesdays 😍😍

[@Phenomenon_jojo]

I've started laughing and sijaanza kuwatch😅😅😅

[@evalynekinanu2727]

So you stay invested in gaaarbaage,gaaarbage😂😂 I love Lyd💯

[@cyndigomboya4230]

Always enjoying the show, good job girls ❤❤

[@tmipodcastke]

Thank you 😘

[@mercymurundie8071]

Maybe its a mass order?! 🤣🤣 Why does Murugi throw bombshell and continue as if no bomb was launched 😂😂

[@annamariakemigabo9875]

Thank you guys for this show. For sharing. So grateful for this show. Coz I have learnt a lot on this episode.🤗👏👏

[@annenganga1265]

Jo you’re a real G 😂😂😂

[@unapologeticallymega9936]

Notification gang🎉🎉🎉love you gals❤

[@tmipodcastke]

We see yah 😍

[@MeloXtie]

What a conversation, great❤

[@ShilawNdunu-pj5rw]

I love u guys # big sisters for life

[@preemuthoni5373]

It's definitely TMI❤

[@kmusyokaruth3658]

About online dating and dating apps... I'll first oops,!! Actually Lydia and murugi can do the bad and the angly about it. I know some people have met through dating online which is incredible but ...whats the percentage i guess less than 10% that lead to meaningful connections. Having conversations online is great but once you meet them is a flip 🙃 an opposite of the conversations. After several times trying to figure out online dating this is what I learnt.(ever been on bumble for sometime).Better date someone youve met one on one. Anyone can be anything online and on keyboard...untill you meet the toxic unhealed humans coming to seek self-gratification on online apps.. A crazy world in this dating streets....

[@faithawino]

Oh Lydia 😅😅😅😅 ati "me nilianza tu kuitwa Mamaa" 🤦‍♀️🤣

[@kmusyokaruth3658]

😂😂😂 aky lets ask about the relationship status two months in atleast. I once dated a man i previous knew. After 3 months i asked about our relationship..😢😢 weuh let me tell you maina. Am single 😅😭 kumbe i was dating myself with hopes

[@vivjerop]

What I've been waiting for 😍😅

[@zwad3423]

Insightful conversation, I love it

[@phoebewasike5397]

Am always eager to learn from this podcast. You ladies are amazing and helping us alot

[@kemuntonyamwange]

very educative. i am awed

[@susanwaweru8093]

The last guy I dated tried so much trying to change my dressing code and at some point I found myself giving out them outfitse.....until I was like dude go date that person you're trying to make me be I just wasn't his rib😊😊

[@ichooseviolence2532]

Seems like you wore ratchet clothes exposing yourself so much that's why he had to step in???

[@rosemarychege4992]

This was so educative and amazing❤

[@ShilawNdunu-pj5rw]

Everytime I listen I feel alot wise and so much better and so intentional about my feeling and thing I do and that that mh feeling are validated