To the Christian girl that didn’t wait until marriage…

[@immimartyn358]

I love this. I am still healing from pre marital sex and am ashamed and worried about telling my future spouse about body count etc but i know I have to trust in the Lord’s plan for me and the future. I have been abstinent for over 2 years now so praying that my future husband will understand and accept my mistakes 😩

[@immimartyn358]

If Jesus has forgiven me then i can’t let the enemy steal that. It’s really hard to accept that we have been forgiven

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

Exactly!!! There many men and women in this day and age who have had the same experience. You’re not alone there ♥️ a good man will not shame you and will walk through healing with you and lead you more towards Jesus’ grace. If you encounter someone who can’t cope with the past then I’m betting he isn’t the guy for you!

[@gabrielidusogie9189]

@@immimartyn358don’t feel ashamed. While there are many guys who are virgins I assure those same virgins have no doubt consumed pornography and that is just as damaging. Ultimately we are all new creatures in Christ and that is all that should matter

[@alyssajoe2387]

Same I feel so disgusted with myself. It’s been over a year since I lost my virginity and I absolutely hate myself and what I’ve done. I feel like I completely embarrassed God

[@havenhinton3775]

I want to tell you that I find this very encouraging. This is the exact video that I needed to see today. I had started feeling a lot of guilt and shame because of things I have done. It's embarrassing because I love the Lord so much that it's embarrassing to know I did that. I'm glad to know that I'm not the only Christian that struggles to wait.

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

You are absolutely not alone. Sorry I’m just now replying!! I’m glad it spoke to you. I wish i had someone tell me these same things back then. We are all human and encounter sin- try to let the past go and so you don’t hold yourself back while the Lord is working on sanctifying you ♥️

[@brookemoloney5488]

I appreciate this video so much. I didn’t wait and while I’m definitely with my forever person, I really wish I did. It’s hard because you feel like a failure and I feel a lot of shame and guilt still from time to time. It’s so nice to hear other people talking about it too and knowing that I’m not alone.

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

You are absolutely not alone. I’m happy it helped…I’ve been there and it took me a long time to kick that shame to the curb. I hope you’re able to heal quicker than i did 🤍

[@r.walker7986]

had you waited, you probably would not have met the person.

[@marcelaamaya6954]

I feel like here is the other side of Christian dating KZbin. I always feel so bad watching all of those KZbin couples that tell about their success. And here I just felt so understood and loved! 💖 Thank you so much 🙏

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

This makes me so happy to read!! I felt the same way and really wanted to let other girls know they aren’t alone 🤗

[@cherylwilliams4805]

Thank you for listening to the Lord and making this. I needed it, because story is bad.

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

I’m so glad it helped you. I hope you can find healing and step into the freedom and grace we have offered to us ♥️

[@christycreech]

Your daughter is adorable 🥰

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

Thank you so much!

[@paytonbendure7316]

I love this! I can relate to this situation but through how I waited until marriage but sex was almost deemed bad in my Christian upbringing. I really commend your patience and willingness to talk to your children and how you go about premarital sex/safe sex. This is the way I believe it should be done. It’s open, and honest, and realistic.

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

I’m so sorry that you were taught that. It can be so damaging to grow up in “purity culture”! Figuring it all out can be tricky enough without being told that something is bad when it’s actually beautiful. I know there’s no perfect way to go about it, but I’ll sure try my best 🙌🏻

[@thatexcalifornian6124]

Thank you for this video. This is not spoken about a lot. Plus many in the church can’t be trusted with this kind of information. It also doesn’t help that those who were teaching me to wait until marriage didn’t wait themselves. It was often projection on their part and there’s no conversation about when you mess up. Especially if you didn’t get pregnant or an STD.

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

I wish the church was more equipt to handle it from true grace vs the self projections you mentioned. I will say it likely varies from church to church but i can certainly imagine one in which that would not be wise, because i went to one very briefly long ago where that would have been the case. If possible I’d seek out another church if your present one is not teaching grace/forgiveness as it should. Kind of defeats the point of fellowship if vulnerability is taken out of the equation! I wish more realized that- you hit it on the nose!

[@thatexcalifornian6124]

@@Blessingsbeautyandbravery it keeps people from coming forward if you’re just going to use it against them or lie to them saying they won’t have a good godly spouse if they mess up.

[@kphoria1009]

thank you for mentioning the sexual abuse part, so many women and girls i know feel gross or shameful because of things they couldn’t control

[@martinella00]

I really needed this video. Me and my boyfriend are still at the being phisical part, but I feel like we constantly move the boundry so much, that I don't know can I call myself a virgin anymore. As I am coming back to God I start to realise how big of a mistake we are making, and I feel so ashamed and I don't know how to even confess that and is it possible to get rid of this sin from my soul and make it to heaven. I think I need some help with that and your video is really helpful. Love from middle Europe 💕

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

Jesus died for you too ♥️ your sin isn’t the exception! If you guys aren’t open to marriage soon, I’d set some really clear boundaries. Maybe talk with someone elder in your life (that you REALLY trust) and see if they can help you establish boundaries/help you avoid putting yourself into circumstances that cause temptation. It’s so hard because i remember not wanting to have my options limited. A large part of me wanted to keep on sinning, and so i did even though i felt so much shame. But that was an opportunity to really test how my relationship could hold up to walking in obedience to God and we really failed in that department then. I do feel like that was a reflection of a lot of missteps that happened down the road after marriage as well in all sorts of scenarios. And back to the marriage thing- us Christian ladies like to say we want a partner who loves Jesus more than they love us, but many of us still choose men that don’t. That makes me think we should be focusing on loving Jesus more than we love the men in our life- what he has in store will be so much better than what feels good in the temporary ♥️ establishing obedience to God before marriage would be such a huge support for you throughout your life. I love my husband dearly and even though we’ve made errors by not seeking God’s will first and foremost, he’s used our mistakes to show us grace and redemption, not shame. He loves you so much and his arms are open to you. There are no dark places in you than he can’t see, he sees them and he still loves you. Again, i really encourage you to seek out someone in person to help you walk through this. It’s a battle and you need warriors fighting alongside you as you strive to overcome your temptations. You’re not alone and your soul is not lost!

[@martinella00]

@@Blessingsbeautyandbravery thank you for such a long and comprehensive answer♥️ I didin't expect that you're even gonna see it tbh😅 Thank you from the bottom of my heart ✝️♥️

[@vanessamapel]

I love your plant life in the back. And darling this video is very necessary and I’ve condemned myself and hidden away from God so much because of pre marital intercourse. I hated myself so much and I wish I’d seen this video back then. Congratulations on the baby by the way.

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

I hope your heart is healed up ♥️ thank you so much for the love and congratulations!

[@jenniferegwu4326]

I really appreciate this video♥️ I really went through the same. I’m so glad that God’s word and His forgiveness is true

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

Amen to that ♥️

[@AngelinaJackson-f4x]

Yes I love this video, I go to church and everything and I’ve already done it with the spouse I am with still we plan to get married and we stopped doing it until then. I’ve always felt sooo guilty being intimate with my partner without being married.😢

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

It’s hard to cope with once it’s happened when that’s a conviction for you, but remember shame is not from God and He will make a way for you to keep that door closed if you have to wait for marriage a bit longer. if you’ve asked forgiveness try to let it go, there’s so much healing in His grace! He loves you regardless of the sins you’ve committed and you’re not less of a Christian because of this. Everyone encounters sin, and it sounds like you’re taking steps to prevent it ♥️

[@AngelinaJackson-f4x]

@ thank you so much for you’re support, it’s so hard when we’ve done it because then you just feel like what’s the point of waiting. But me and my boyfriend are planning to get married in 2 months sometime after his birthday not because of the intimacy but because we plan to be together have a family of our own and be good in gods eyes.

[@ordinaryharmony]

Im glad i found this video, im in quite the dilemma ive been with my partner for 6 years, still a virgin we're planning to get married now but i feel ready now and don't feel guilty about thinking I'm ready to before we get married, needless to say im very confused.😢

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

I have had friends that were together for many years before they got married and they had those same feelings. They said they felt married and didn’t feel like a piece of paper would change things, and they even lived together. They did get married and they did notice a difference in their relationship. Being comfortable with someone and feeling ready for sex doesn’t change the fact that you two aren’t “one” yet ♥️ I do think it’s great that you’re comfortable and ready if you’re getting married soon though. After six years if you let go of what you’ve worked hard to achieve (because girl, it is HARD), you’ll likely be disappointed after you get married. It’s not something to carry shame over after asking for forgiveness, but since you’re in the thick of temptation and striving to keep pure till marriage I’d fight tooth and nail to meet those goals. Something that I’m wondering though- are you waiting till marriage because you want to honor Jesus or is it more of a religious necessity for you? I think that would be the biggest issue here even past the chance of premarital sex. Is your heart aligned with God’s heart or are you more so following a list of rules that don’t seem to hold much weight in your heart? This is all said and asked with no judgment. I totally get it and i struggle with my walk in my own ways, regularly. Making God’s desires a priority in my life has been a long term struggle for me, and it’s because I’m a selfish creature by nature when it seems like what I’m doing isn’t hurting anyone if that makes sense. I was going to say even the premarital sex thing- it can seem like it just affects me, myself, and I, but actually it’ll impact your significant other as well. Even if he is feeling similarly to you (which wouldn’t surprise me because waiting can be a lot harder for men), you can use this as an opportunity to help keep *his* purity intent for the sake of his relationship with God and himself. If it’s a goal he once wanted to meet, but waiting you are helping keep that a treasure and i think that’s beautiful. I wish you both the best of luck and a Beautiful wedding day!!!

[@ordinaryharmony]

​@@BlessingsbeautyandbraveryThank you so much for replying, it turned out it was a moment of weakness, I went back and prayed and I'm encouraged again to keep fighting for purity for me it's a personal decision I made a while ago to strengthen my relationship with God and we've decided to wait since we're so close to getting married anyways😊. Thank you for this video and God bless your home

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

I’m so happy to hear that ♥️ it’s not easy at all and i commend you for staying strong!

[@ordinaryharmony]

Thank you so much 😊❤️❤️❤️

[@gabrielidusogie9189]

I’m a guy and I wish I waited. I messed up and I feel terrible

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

Grace is for you too, my friend. It’s not easy to recover from shame but remember that shame is a feeling often inflicted on us by ourselves or the enemy. It has more to do with making our sin our identity and it’s a total lie! Jesus died for our sins and his promise to make us white as snow is true. While we should seek ways to avoid future temptations, we can be glad in knowing his sacrifice and love was well more than enough to cover our failings. Give yourself some space to heal- regret takes time to recover, but take him with you every step of the way through it! You’ll be a better you than even before this mistake the more you seek him out. I’ll say a prayer for your healing!! Best wishes!

[@gracehasbeengiven2588]

You're so beautiful! God bless you and your family 🤗

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

You are too kind ♥️ thank you.

[@MarkisCouch_1WhatJustHappened]

Great video! Thanks

[@dylandisalvo303]

I don’t know if anyone will see this, but how do you go about continuing your relationship with your girlfriend who you’ve had sex with but you know she’s the girl you want to marry. We have a long distance relationship and are also 20 so marriage isn’t an option right now, but i know it’s coming one day. If we keep doing what we’re doing, will our marriage be cursed?

[@ivetteb8364]

God bless your family, greet from orlando 🌴🌴

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

Hello!! Thank you for watching ♥️

[@joycelynmiller2970]

@@Blessingsbeautyandbravery I'm 22 what age were you when you .get married

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

I was 18 years old

[@joycelynmiller2970]

@@Blessingsbeautyandbravery wow ok

[@MysteriousPerson1447]

You could name your next baby and call her Genevieve if it is a girl because it is a beautiful name meaning God's blessing in French and it would suit the name of your baby or Christian if it is a boy because it means follower of Christ and it would also suit. What do you think.

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

They are beautiful names 🤗

[@MysteriousPerson1447]

@@Blessingsbeautyandbravery would you name your baby one of those names

[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

We actually have other names picked out that we are very fond of if we had other babies 🤗

[@MysteriousPerson1447]

@@Blessingsbeautyandbravery Apparently if you name your baby and call her Genevieve if it is a girl or Christian if it is a boy your baby will be more happy by 15%

[@karljacobs8471]

That is actually a true fact

[@cheryllarkin1746]

❤❤❤ amen

[@MKEDITSXXX]

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[@Blessingsbeautyandbravery]

Praying about whether that’s in the cards for me 🤗 my goals/mentality has changed a lot and i haven’t figured out how that with translate into continuing YT just yet.

[@Prismarashop]

Guilt and shame is not of God.