How To Turn Around ANY Rejection

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Everyone gets rejected... though it does happen a lot more if your game sucks. But the ability to turn around a rejection on a consistent basis can have a huge impact on your results... especially with the very hottest girls who tend to reject guys very frequently. It's an "advanced" skill, but it's not actually that complicated. Here is how I do it on a regular basis.

[@saleemrasul1]

“She Didn’t reject you, she reject the opener. She doesn’t know you”. Well said. Understanding this instills confidence when approaching.

[@eror151]

Todd: Tree dog T-shirt Building with a pizza under the seaboard and the fish's pyjamas Girl: *Pants drop* 4:50

[@dayanguru]

It's like a wizard's spell or a cheatcode in a videogame ))

[@PeterPanTheRealDeal]

I feel like logical words have almost nothing to do with it Onetime I said blahblah in a nonchalant playfully challenging sexy way to this one girl at campus as i swagged past her and she said it back to me while laughing hornily Another occasion with a different chick (my girlfriend) we had blahblah convos like twice. eachtime afterwards she was deeper in fuck me mode Men = logical / thought Women = emotional / feelings Be higherstatus (read the book Higher Status by Jason Capital) and have amazing vibes. That's the simple recipe to bake a pussy cake You're welcome

[@karlsarap911]

That would get a girl interested because it's just so totally random :D

[@m.s.g1890]

HandsomeSexGod “laughing hornily” Please do video on your channel showing us a horny laugh lol

[@webbie1891]

I look at rejection as a motivation. A lot of guys sees rejection as a bad thing. Men needs to realize that women are opportunist. They're always looking for the best possible outcome to best suit them, that's why 99.99% of women date multiple guys and so men always needs to date multiple women so that way, you're not putting all your attention on one person.

[@mfThump]

Channel Energy you being too cool for school isn't gonna stop your dream girl from seeing other guys.

[@hugo3796]

A genius makes a complicated topic (game, intergender dynamics & interactions) simple. This is exactly what Todd is doing here

[@scowlistic]

Todd is a certified verbal mechanic.

[@ToddVDating]

By popular demand. This is one of the most fun and satisfying skills in game, and it will help you sleep with those hot girls who give you the blasé... but the fundamentals of having good overall game are still far more important overall, so try to focus your energy on your GOOD sets rather than heavily on turning your bad ones around. It's better and easier to just do a good job from the start and have nothing to correct.

[@lifestyleplustv]

That's the man talking!

[@kristaline_sa9163]

Please... give us more student infields ... because they are very helpful...

[@Martin-xv]

What happened to your Backup Channel?

[@ToddVDating]

@@Martin-xv I've seen this comment several places lately. I wasn't aware anything had happened. In any case, I had nothing to do with the backup channels... I believe they were started by fans who had saved my videos offline. Have some videos vanished, or the whole channel? Thanks

[@EternalMaster-]

In other words, don't give up!

[@hurricaneh123]

I don't get rejected she just has bad taste 😉

[@CommandoMaster]

At least she gave u a BJ.

[@adamgorz9679]

@The Foxt He may be biased against pick up but he's right. Go up to anybody and tell them you're a pua and you'll see the disdain and contempt in there eyes. Even if pua worked which it doesn't its a sad pathetic existence think of all the STDs you'd contact in a year of doing pua.

[@xGARIDx]

Good complain to not approch

[@mperstl13]

this is such a ignorant loser-approach to game. so whenever you fail and do miserable in game, you just blame her "bad taste" and completely disallow yourself to reflect on what you just did. truth is, if you get rejected, better for her, because she doesnt date someone with a losers mentality.

[@GishStyle]

Definitely gotta be one of your best, most useful videos, fantastic. A lot of practical advice and a bit of mind frame adjustment. Only thing I would consider adding is actually skimming through a list of different emotions you can pull on your first opener, along with one example for each. Would make it easier for beginners to understand what you mean. Anyway, love it! Thank you.

[@mrcv1999]

make a video of how to hit on girls that you already know.

[@kamicb1997]

he already has a video on that on this channel :) or on AskToddV channel

[@CommandoMaster]

Friend zoned.

[@strategicthinker8899]

Exactly the same as a cold approach.

[@erictheawesomest]

Why not try on someone who doesn’t matter to you, get confidence and then move on girls you know?

[@Loo8814]

The lawn mower metaphor was spot on, thanks for the video and keep up with the good work Todd!

[@mtlicq]

except that with the lawn mower, you pull the same cord the same way a few times until the engine runs, but if one opener is dud, do not try the same more than once, try something different

[@m.s.g1890]

Not quite that easy: she may not just be rejecting your opener, she might not find you at all attractive.

[@JA-wd9yx]

Best advice I’ve had, ever. Great view of opening. Thank you Todd.

[@naturallaw1045]

Todd V ... you are easily the top 5 baddest ass dudes I've never met. Your ability to swiftly and pithily pick logic out from any circumstance and turn it into actionable insight is unfathomably immense. I'm quite impressed. I hope one day to meet you.

[@stealth797]

The lawn mower analogy is perfect for opening/hooking a set.

[@mtlicq]

except that with the lawn mower, you pull the same cord the same way a few times until the engine runs, but if one opener is dud, don't try the same more than once, try something different

[@rogerbalmaceda7762]

Can someone recap the lawnmower technique once more..missed that

[@BD90..]

Worst rejection I had was "errr no thanks" 🙈😂

[@thatnikkakris2339]

Tuff

[@fredrickadhinga1609]

Earth is hard😂😂

[@accountpolitics4454]

Go bald and say i didnt say you can say yes 😂

[@Hermanjoshi]

I had 'not interested'

[@SerratedSoul9]

Oof

[@harleyzheng]

Dude wtf... what youre describing at 1:55 legit happened to me yesterday. I sat down next to this girl on the train and during the train ride the train stopped for no reason. I took my earbuds out and she took her headphone off one of her ears a split second after... kinda like how a friend would do if they were expecting you to say something. I said to her "did you hear any announcements", she replied with a pretty unenthusiastic"They said they're waiting for a signal". That was it. I didn't say anything else and just sat there watching netflix on my ipad until it was my stop. Feels bad man, I dont want to make excuses for myself, but maybe I would have done better if the carriage wasn't full of people and dead silent. I told myself I was gonna ask for her instagram one stop before I got off, just to practice putting myself out there. Bitched out of that one as well... I still have a lot of work to do.

[@mfThump]

Harl0 283 it's great that you did an approach at the end of the day, hopefully you learn from that and get further next time :)

[@alexbophy7274]

Shit dude i done this aswell i was pissed after haha fuck it though man

[@trajan74]

A hot girl let you sit next to her? Lucky fuck. Girls would rather stand than sit next to me. When I'm looking for a seat they put their purse in the seat or, if they dont have one, just get up and leave. I had one cute girl get up and stand by the door the whole way. When I got off I walked by her and said "all yours."

[@trajan74]

The moral of my story is two fold: It could be worse. And: Be a little more appreciative of the opportunity. If she let's you be in her presence in a confined space for any period of time, you're halfway already. Next time, pick her up for all of us who are rejected before we even open your mouths.

[@hexadecimal5236]

@@trajan74 Where do you think the rejection is coming from? Poor clothing choice? Body language? Bad genetics? Anything can be overcome. Maybe you're just in the wrong country.

[@shahanhasnaen2815]

Thank goodness you're still around to guide us lost souls, Todd...Hope to learn from you in person someday!

[@lifestyleplustv]

the worst feeling is to be rejected. But to turn it around and hold your integrity intact you just have to walk away. Nice Video Todd

[@emmanueleriserison8150]

thats true, but sometimes it is hard when you are really into her

[@lifestyleplustv]

@@emmanueleriserison8150 You need to be aware of the signs you wont be rejected. Sometimes you dont have to be naive

[@abrahamnorbert9217]

rejection is nasty

[@abrahamnorbert9217]

@@lifestyleplustv sure

[@GoogleAccount-po1gl]

Or learn to not let rejection affect you. Everytime you get rejected, use that moment as an excersise to find a way to mentally not let it bother you. Luckily for me, feeling rejected my whole life, has made completely immune to rejection. It hasn't bothered me one bit....yet. I also don't expect the girls to like me, so rejection doesnt dissapoint me.

[@abhinavtembulkar4464]

man, your words are gold. keep doing this great work!

[@robcarley7506]

Great video as always Todd. Iall keep my fingers crossed

[@izak-jn3vi]

Just subscribed to your channel. i have watched few of your clips. You have got GEMS mate.

[@mwebusreviews5501]

Hey Todd, you know what the best lawnmower is? A push-pull.

[@TheWorldsnotenough]

I see what ya did there

[@josephsanchez8246]

I really liked this about trying different approaches. often times I think I'm really quick to say something, and I could get a positive reaction, but I'm quick to just move on instead of digging deeper. thanks!

[@karjii]

YOU ARE ABSOLUTE BEAST TODD AND I KNOW THAT YOU KNOW THAT YOU ARE AWESOME LOVE YOU!!! Wow that was emotional but yee todd rules

[@geniuszulu6941]

Thanks Todd simplicity. Great work

[@toddyseboko7340]

Your videos come up on my feed at such a convenient time😭💯 literally just failed a shit test now I'm sorta dealing with a rejection. But ayy Great stuff Todd!!!👌🐺

[@justagenosfan]

Awesome vid Todd, honestly. Btw, when you mentioned switching the ways of talking, how many are there? Like jokes, trust & cocky things. Not the ones in pants.

[@RantTherapist]

Clear, efficient, value-packed & no bullshit dating advice. Is this real life?

[@johnjim3741]

Thank you Todd, you've helped me more than other coaches

[@bahaatamer1245]

1. Instigate: a reaction is better than none 2. Do not do what didn't work before 3. Understand what works, and what didn't.

[@holleringsmith3837]

"We've all kind of been there" That is literally me with every conversation I've ever attempted with women.

[@rashneelwalla380]

😂😂😂we all in the same boat bruh ❤️❤️❤️

[@pcman95407]

I have had lots of rejection work out in my favor. Because I get a sense of relief more times. I find the hard part of asking a girl out is if I’m going to regret it. The more you get rejected the better. Think about it you see girls with jerks that hit them and they have no courage to leave the situation and it started from before they got together. I can see why it’s hard for women to make a decision. A lot of times I feel better that I’m single. I’m also finding more women wanting less commitment maybe we have finally turned the corner in getting what we want as me. Just a thought

[@kennethdiasnogueira6105]

Gosh how many videos have I watched on dealing with rejection. I just have to let somebody like me who doesn't know they are like me, know this. If you have ADHD, Bi-Polar, or both then you have something called RS. Rejection sensitivity. Basically what this means is that you take rejection a lot harder than everybody else in the world and even when people in general haven't rejected you it still feels like they have. basically it also feels very personal whether you know it is or isn't. and this was a huge problem for me in pickup when I would get rejection. one after the other instead of feeling better and it not being scary it got worse and I fell into depression. but that's because I have ADHD and Bi-Polar and RS. I now have been diagnosed and am taking medication for this. I have never felt better and my game/pick up has gotten better as a result. I again am typing this for anyone who may be like me and doesn't know it yet. I encourage everybody to go to a psychiatrist and figure out what you have. (be careful though some depending on what you say will tell you that you are a trans person and need hormone therapy which has caused a lot of problems for people in recent years. i would advise going to a religious one. not because of their religion but they are less likely to advise hormone therapy and give you the medication you need. at least that's what I have seen in my experience and I'm thankful for switching psychiatrists and am still a man (very happy as a man) to this day.) it seems everybody has some mental health issue and could benefit from medication. anyways this video has helped me only now that I am medicated and functioning like a normal person. but for anybody ls this is here for you.

[@tomiksvk]

Great video as always! What a shame we lost Todds Backup Channel. Could you restore it? - I found there couple of best motivational speeches. Thanks.

[@Martin-xv]

What happened?

[@tiredalex]

so true man... i remember the nihilism video

[@iGhostr]

What happened to it?

[@tomiksvk]

@@Martin-xv youtube says its blocked because of copyright infringement

[@user-pf5xq3lq8i]

Please replicate videos on other platforms. KZbin is destroying itself.

[@EldanSai]

Really great video, thank you so much

[@DmitryHimself]

Todd is black magic.

[@ramiroelganame3610]

Todd es claramente un exponente de la comunidad de la seducción. Sus videos son tecnicos y van justo a lo que se necesita. Son maestros como el los que me motivan seguir con mi canal y con videos que ayudan a las personas! Gracias Todd!!

[@williewill1237]

🤔

[@Aliens-Are-Our-Friends2027]

Laughing after every 'rejection of your approach method and congruency' is my best bet. Thanks Todd

[@NXIETYofficial]

Hey Tod, do we get some kind of weekly 1 on 1 or any kind of personal mentoring when we sign up for your course?

[@drakelundberg462]

Awesome vid, one question though... how the hell do you guys find instrumentals for the latest/dopest songs all the time?

[@erstaples1]

Women are lawn mowers. Ok, got it! Seriously though, Todd makes some great points here and in other vids. Glad I found his channel in this modern age of mostly neutered pick-up coaching.

[@stamanking3244]

Valuable!Thanks Todd!

[@obtsfan]

Hey Todd, love your videos. Thanks for the great content. Also, I have a question: I’ve been seeing some decent success on Tinder, thanks to your videos on text game. A few times I’ve had great conversations with women via text, asked them out on dates, they say yes, and we start planning the logistics of the date, and during that process, out of nowhere, they suddenly stop responding. There’s no hint that it’s coming. They seem completely receptive and excited about the date, and then suddenly I get ghosted. Pinging value to them occasionally has yet to resurrect these conversations. What’s going on here?

[@fabioquaranta4996]

Give a time frame “Let’s meet on Saturday; next week i will be out forma work trip”; she will have to take you or loose you

[@rustyshaklford5642]

Lol you get the engine started then you can mow the lawn 😂😂😂 shit was pretty funny n ice analogy

[@abdelziuad2973]

Right off the bat This guy is the real deal

[@edub8803]

so true. i thought i was rejected so many times. most times it was really just lack of follow thru...

[@dolfohimself]

Mocking Tyler/RSD free association idea there 😂. I personally think free association is not a fucked up concept as long as you make things relevant to her at some point

[@dzllz]

Awesome video Todd!! Your vocabulary is impressive, had to look up "instigate" again.

[@nuts4785]

I’ve been meaning to ask: for those of us who have bought The System, would it be considered illegal or copyright to share its contents to those who haven’t? I’ve learned a lot of useful things in here that I’d like to share on my own channel to explain communication in a lot of ways. Not sure whether piracy is based off of the contents or just the copies of the system itself

[@alejmc]

Game analogy: “You make the engine start then you mow the lawn” gets my like

[@Enceladus369]

I have a similar Problem, when Iam texting. In the real life I have no problem with Woman, but in Chat Most of the Interactions Just die. Has he made a video about something like that?

[@Andy_Arkadata]

Hey dude I was watching old vids of you from back in the day

[@UpNorthWay]

Suppose to use premium or midgrade gas for a small engine. Mine starts first pull.

[@anotakugonezen3173]

Question: Todd, I had my first approach, everything I thought I knew flew out the window and my heart could not handle the situation to use any flirting instead I kept it logical pleas tell me some techniques to overcome this. Ps: there was other people there, male friends, female friends etc I also did not want to be embarrassed.

[@edenjaycollins6055]

try talking to woman with out trying to hit on them, like just having normal conversations about weather, or the news, or intrests to help get over that initial fear and soon you'll realise that there was nothing to really be scared of and that woman are just people and its no different to talking to a guy

[@mattb1100]

You can't turn around ANY rejection. Nobody clicks with absolutely everyone.

[@jakovbegovic9644]

Hey man i saw that the todd backup channel is down. Will you revive it or is it done for? Btw live your vids and good luck in the battle against rsd.

[@ToddVDating]

I commented about this above. I have nothing to do with the backup channel or it being taken down, but I gave what little information I do have about the situation.

[@Denny966]

So, anyone got some examples of good openers?

[@budsyremo]

Todd , can you do a video on emotional reactions, like what can we do to get that ? Or bring it on a conversation.

[@Magnetizer]

As long as you have clarity of intent and no ego into it, you should be fine. Don't forget that sometimes some girls are just not your audience.

[@Magnetizer]

@SoliDeoGloria 07 Not every girl will like you

[@arigilos8552]

You have some good analogies

[@dexdalador]

Is this topic covered in the System? (engaging conversation etc..)

[@HP-vc4fr]

Is this system only applies if I am approaching new girls or can I even apply to a friend who might be attracted to me? If yes, what kindof premise do I need to set as an opener?

[@curious09]

0:31 Dope cole intro 🔥

[@Clayton2100]

Hooefully u can do a video on the fundamentals

[@itselliott2766]

Todd what do you think of the SHOGUN method?

[@dr.feelgood.m]

- If you pick the RIGHT girl, then ANY opener works, they usually sub-consciously send signals to the mate they like, you just need to be able to read the signals and the body-language from the women around you.

[@bryant1996123]

I can see signs of initial interest almost instantly. But as soon as I start speaking everything goes downhill. Todd, what do you think I should focus on just to have the right energy and right verbal game? At least to feel like she wants me to stay in the conversation because she isn't bored. Any advice is truly appreciate it.

[@edenjaycollins6055]

Find something you're both interested in and avoid small talk, ask her what she likes, or some polarizing current events which can initiate plenty of discussion. It helps a lot if you do this in a social situation like a bar, or a social gathering, or some sort of hobby club, the sort of places people go to talk. trying to talk to someone just in general in public generally isn't good girls mostly just want to get on with their day and can't interesting in deep conversation while doing errands

[@John_Conner222]

4:53 As soon as Todd said that it was so weird. I'm a straight guy but I became instantly attracted to him for at least a few seconds.

[@justagenosfan]

Black magic ritual

[@williewill1237]

🤔

[@SamraiCast]

Fuckin same

[@Aliens-Are-Our-Friends2027]

FRED Method Bruh.. focus, relevance to her, emotion, logical decision

[@sumtingwong4557]

Hey todd, can you do an analysis of think like a man movie. The scene where the "player" picks up the chick in the bar after Keven hart gets rejected.

[@Justin-gg6hw]

The middle child beat 🔥

[@JordanGordon-Naish]

Todd I really need some advice. I was just walking down the road and had a 10/10 ignoring her friend that was talking to her and gave me the most serious fuck me eyes. She didn't waver at all despite me looking away for a second when I looked back she was still looking deeply into my eyes with raw sexual animal like tension. We past and I didn't know what to do to open and I am feeling frustrated that I was internally overwhelmed despite not showing it. Any advice on how to deal with this situation if it happens again?

[@iGhostr]

Where is Todd Backup channel?

[@SuperSymbiote1]

Deleted

[@fitgesund1304]

very good todd

[@luiscespinoza7497]

Wow... amazing content...

[@kevinkim3206]

lol Hahaha, I love your shot at "A Million Dollar Mouth Piece." So true, by the way.

[@LeonardoDiVaio]

Todd the Big Boss Love you

[@williewill1237]

🤔

[@bahaatamer1245]

You ever randomly start texting someone online, and they force you to slam the brakes hard? - I tried randomly texting a 10, but this one is giving me quite a hard time!

[@danielsuelzle4364]

Lawnmower metaphor; if it doesn't go on the 1st try, choke it

[@kifacorea]

Good stuff

[@eminem252525]

Todd "ValueBOMB" legend

[@drugscoke1962]

Thank you for the vid i just realised my openers sucked

[@kunalmehta7992]

What is the song in intro

[@fredrikwall8494]

Todd John Antony said it take 1-2 hours of correct training to become advanced. Is this true and that it is a myth that it takes Long to get Good at this?

[@1091Floyd21]

Wouldn't the use of a disqualifying opener be too early to use immediately after a failed opener. I thought disqualifiers only worked after you've gained a certain amount of attraction.

[@FranzVonGaart]

I just wanted to comment on a Todd video to mention that RSD is "moving on" to a self-help and away from pick-up. I knew this was going to happen since a year ago because Todd is now cornering the market and they cannot compete

[@timtrocke]

The lawn mower metaphor is genius

[@EmmanueliAdzoh]

This is a crazy shot

[@ghosho_gibraan]

There's a girl I like but she said she has a bf, but she talk to me for like 4 hrs and sometimes the whole night. What does it mean ? I'm confused.

[@R1chJP]

You really did a great job turning around that rejection on those 3 girls talking to each other on the park bench pal!

[@MS-pe2vt]

also, what makes it wrong is that he wont accept a "No"

[@adamgorz9679]

The nerve of that guy. Just imagine if it one of those girls had discovered a lump on her breast and was looking for support from her friends or if it was the 1yr anniversary of her older brother dying in Iraq and she was meeting up with friends to remember him. My point is that he had no idea of why they were there talking. And he's just there trying to add another notch to his lay count. Pua's are such losers.

[@nathancad]

am I missing something? Where is that in the video?

[@appleexposed4404]

@@adamgorz9679 You sound like a loser idealizing a feminine situation. SMH.

[@KingBowserVlog]

@@nathancad nah, just a couple of penguinz0 fan boys talking about a vid that's like 5 years old. Never mind the fact penguinz0 is one of the slimiest creeps you'll ever see

[@igson1933]

Todd i know you did video on were to meet girls, but it was mostly clubs. I would like some suggestions away from club because in my country when you meet girl in a club it's only sex, and that's it

[@ogiebaltazar9893]

Nice example of the lawnmower Todd hehe...

[@omarhass9761]

If you start talking about her , and what hobbies she has then it starts going one with the conversation ,one topic leads to the next works with me

[@RxSwolldier]

Game is like a lawn mower, it takes a couple pulls to warm up. - Todd V

[@RebelwoaCause]

Todd I like ya, but did you just knock Jason Capital? I learned so much value from that dude. He’s a master. Can’t hate.

[@labbey9918]

Great video but the problem I have is getting rid of a girl I'm not feeling anynore

[@kimstockdale632]

3:30 "i'm actually from Colorado and that gets a..." What does Todd say after that??

[@Watchpeoplesurvive]

And there's a stereotype of being very cold

[@peterweee6518]

Thank you dude😎😎

[@rb-jf4fd]

Max inthe natural has a full video infield opening rambling 4 min haha

[@whatupmitch]

Rock on todd!