How can I stop being self-centred in my relationship

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Tomi Toluhi

Күн бұрын

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@Zephyr-wk2tt Жыл бұрын

I just lost my friend because I was so self centered. I never realized I was self centered.. thank you for this video.

@koi13 Жыл бұрын

❤

@sudhirasabharwal8435 Жыл бұрын

Giving Attention is a brilliant idea. An extremely self centred person ignores others and thinks of own problems always. As a result remains worried and anxious always. Countless thanks for the advice.

@6nero 2 жыл бұрын

I’ve used this same principal with ft was and workout discipline. It’s really about keep your present mind on the goal.

@lysaace6190 4 жыл бұрын

You are so full of practical wisdom... thank you for this video.

@politereminder6284 2 жыл бұрын

Sometimes the healthiest and best thing is to become what others may call "selfish" in your relationships. Or rather, as one person I love calls it, you have to be SELF -FULL.

@daveyjones9506 11 ай бұрын

Thank you for thus video.

@deepakdhakal3733 2 жыл бұрын

Great idea

@lil-spookyg2331 4 жыл бұрын

What if you give them all the attention and they still feel like you’re still self centered when you want time for your self

@Rynynryn 3 жыл бұрын

Boundaries

@aurora_boketto7746 2 жыл бұрын

My boyfriend is like that. The problem is that you can give them attention without learning what they need to hear. Your focus shouldn't be attention it should be what you say. That's what really matters. Then they can learn to be more understanding. It's also important to communicate that to them that they need to be more understanding. Also Update? How is your relationship now?

@e-business786 2 жыл бұрын

@@aurora_boketto7746 Hi I really liked your comment and think that what you said is true I’ve noticed in my relationship with my girlfriend I am very selfish and that if I make the whole situation about me that I’ll show up better for her but I only end up feeling more selfish you’re comment brings me some comfort though and I really appreciate it I hope you and your boyfriend are doing well

@sanokohei7239 2 жыл бұрын

@canonyos 2 жыл бұрын

Dump immediately that is a huge red flag

@sjinzaar Жыл бұрын

May I ask some comments on my situation? My friend says I am selfish as I want all his attention when he is not working or has free time. I get that. He works odd hours, until late at night, and doesn't have lots of free time and when he does, he has to prepare food, do chores, laundry, talk to family, etc. and rest. Rarely would he ask to spend time with me, or do something with me. When he does meet up with me, it would be "pity time" - sitting with him at his work for an hour before he gets off. Those times his attention would be divided between me and work. I only get to see him if I "bribe" him with a dinner, a fun activity or something like that, but rarely from his side. I know that he would make plans days ahead with other friends to meet up, and have fun. Today, I asked if we could hang out tomorrow (his free day), he said he wants to be alone (although I know he has other plans with other friends) and I am selfish, rude and very mean to ask him to give up his free time for my neediness. He does spend a lot of time talking to me on social media (texts) but I crave personal attention, and according to him, he spends most of his time chatting to me, keeping me happy. We are from different cultures, and age groups (I'm older). I concede that I am selfish as I want his attention and affection, and I hate it when he spends time with others. Recently I heard that he is considering going out with someone else (a lover) and that made me very sad that I am not priority in his life. I feel like my thoughts and emotions are ONLY empathy for his life, BUT now I am thinking that I am selfish as these empathy thoughts are only there to elicit compassion from him. Mmmmmm Maybe I need a wake-up call. I am venting...

@jaye.9 4 ай бұрын

It sounds like you both need to discuss boundaries and expectations that you both have around your friendship, and the frequency of your communication with one another. Things will be a lot clearer if you both speak to how you feel and communicate your expectations. That way both you and your friend can both decide if either of you are able to emotionally manage the expectations and boundaries you both have! Best of luck to you

@gabif7 3 жыл бұрын

You are really helpful!

@VHS_REVIVE 3 жыл бұрын

Helpful!. Thank a million

@MissMaww 11 ай бұрын

Thanks for this

@myetha9665 4 жыл бұрын

Thank you !

@rohitkumargupta1143 4 жыл бұрын

Thanks a lot 🙏🙏😇

@jaanvibhatia5198 2 жыл бұрын

Thank you so much for the video, it really helped!!

@happyandblessed5640 2 жыл бұрын

Thanks for this. So helpful.

@Monsoonlover158 3 ай бұрын

Thank you god

@Snowangel_iyadoll Жыл бұрын

Thank you so much!!❤

@Triple_eightss 10 ай бұрын

Thank you

@jaye.9 4 ай бұрын

Would anyone have advice for me? I’m a guy currently separated due to my own selfishness in my marriage. I’m trying to change my self serving behavior (because I really don’t want to be selfish like this anymore). I’ve lost many friends because of it, lost a lot of love and blessings in my life, and hurt some really amazing people (my spouse included). I want to change and make the living situation more bearable for my ex, it’s just been hard because of the distrust. Any advice is appreciated.

@AngelsofAnarchy Жыл бұрын

i hate myself bro i feel so fucked up and that’s the reason why i am self centered but i don’t wanna tell him that bc it’sj making it abt myself idk what to do i hate myself so much

@zoejaspers4503 Жыл бұрын

Anything honest like this is good to tell them. What I do is I write it all down and make it logical for myself before I tell my partner. I know it’s really hard to give others what they need when you feel horrible yourself, but it’s okay to ask for help always!